Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 5 November 2010: Yes that is a healthy start to go out with other friends and take your mind of her, you never no who you might meet on a night out, so keep your options open.... (read in full...)
What am I going to do? I've been in madly madly love with him for five years!!!?
Q. I'm in my twenties and I've been friends with him for over twelve years- and we are closer than close... we do sleepovers, hang out with our friends, travel together and we even lived together briefly for over six months when I didn't have a place. ...
A. 5 November 2010: Good luck and keep us updated on how you get on your doing the best thing :-)... (read in full...)
Does every relationship go through a little rough patch?
Q. Does every relationship go through a little rough patch? Things were going great till like a couple days ago now things are just on the verge of being okay. We have been in a relationship for almost a year but have been friends for two years. I just ...
A. 4 November 2010: Yes most relationships do hit a rocky patch, its how we deal with them that gets us through it, you said you are unsure how he feels well then ask him honesty is the best thing in a relationship and you need to tell him how you feel, the only way ... (read in full...)
I don't want to mess up my first ever date!
Q. Hello, this is going to sound sad but i've been asked out to go to the cinema with this guy from college. I know him, but we only speak online so it's kind of awkward. I'm 16 and it's like my first ever date if thats what this is. I'm seriously ...
A. 4 November 2010: Try not to stress, you are going to get nervous it is only natural to be nervous before a date, and it doesnt get easier with time either so you just need to pluck up the courage to make a time and dont back out of it, if he is'nt shy this is half ... (read in full...)
I just want to be with him! Is there any advice?
Q. Hi there, Theres this guy I've been working with. He said to me that he really likes me but because he has a boyfriend and we work together, nothing will happen between us and we would just be friends. I absalutley love this guy. Everyt...
A. 4 November 2010: Ok well it sounds like this man likes you as well its just he doesnt want to be caught up in a relationship with a work collegue, also he is in a relationship so try and not to kiss him again until he has finished his relationship because this is ... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. Alfredo has been one of my very good friends for a long time. But as you know female-male friendships are a lil hard keep. Eventually it happened, we had a lil too much to drink and we had sex... then it happened again.. and again.. We became s...
A. 4 November 2010: Yes i think you should stop darling because it just doesnt work, its quite hard to try and have sex continously without starting to have feelings develop within you sex is quite an intimate act and this is why these feelings start to develop.
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What am I going to do? I've been in madly madly love with him for five years!!!?
Q. I'm in my twenties and I've been friends with him for over twelve years- and we are closer than close... we do sleepovers, hang out with our friends, travel together and we even lived together briefly for over six months when I didn't have a place. ...
A. 4 November 2010: Ah yeah its one of those tricky situations where you just dont no what to do, but you have pretty much answered your question at the end of it, but you just dont want to do it. I think he would be flattered that you like him so i dont see why it ... (read in full...)
How to get back to love making?
Q. I've tried everything wearing sexy clothes,sexy talk,cooking dinners, even getting out the tub naked in front of him, still we haven't had sex in months. I talk to him about what he wants me to do but still I get no where. Everything else in our ...
A. 4 November 2010: You need to just sit down with him and demand to know why he wont have sex with you dont let him leave until he is honest with you as to why he has stopped having sex with you, its not likely for a man in his 20s not to have a high sex drive so you ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason for her change of attitude?
Q. I'm slightly confused at the moment, i've known this women for 2 years now,the first time we met we hit it of well, not to sound corny but we sensed something in eachothers eyes, she flirted with me by always looking deeply into my eyes, always ...
A. 4 November 2010: Well she probably just gave up on waiting for you to ask her out, she was probably longing for so long for you to ask her and i would say because you havent made a move she feels you are not interested so she has probably moved on, only you can ... (read in full...)
What is going one with my best guy friend and I?
Q. He and I have been best friends for about 4 years. At the beginning of our relationship as friends he had a crush on me but I didn't see him like ( he liked me for about 6 months I believe but then he got over that and dated a friend of mine) that ...
A. 4 November 2010: I think it is clear here that he just wants to be friends with you and am afraid you just have to accept this. He is giving clear signals to you that he only wants to be friends so for your own sake dont be hugging in to him and trying to hold his ... (read in full...)
I know he is busy but I am fed up of being the only one putting in any effort into this relationship!
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and been dating a guy who's 35 for over a year now, though its a distance relationship. We still get to see each other as often as possible, he sends me ticket and I fly over to him. We are so much in love, and he treats me so nicely when ...
A. 4 November 2010: Ok well threatning him like that was the wrong thing to do and was quite childish if you are going to threaten to leave him for another man then you are just going to push him away and he will end up leaving you, i think what you need to do here is ... (read in full...)
Torn between the ex I love who I have 2 children with, and the woman who loves me and is pregnant with my child....
Q. I was in a 4 year relationship with who i thought was the one... Im a recovering addict and upon finding this relationship i became co dependent in it, the addict history is important because i stopped going to meetings, which means i stopped being ...
A. 4 November 2010: Ok you got yourself in to a bit of a mess by getting this girl pregnant when you dont love her, but am sorry i think you need to break things off with her, you have already cheated with your ex dont go down this path any longer, think of your ... (read in full...)
How come I feel like something’s wrong and he’s being really distant?
Q. Right now I’m in a 3 month relationship and everything is working out for the most part. He just got his license and is looking for a job. I have had both things for a while and started new job. Anyways our relationship started out great, we texed ...
A. 4 November 2010: Ok well three months is not that long really for a relationship and if he doesnt contact you for a day or 2 then you shouldnt over react and wonder what is wrong, the honey moon period is probably over for him now were you have to text and phone ... (read in full...)
Is this just my negativity from being cheated on in the past? Is this a normal rate relationships go at? Or is he playing me?
Q. Hi All I am 29 and have been seeing a 20 year old man for 3 months. The problem is when we are together he is so lovely, and tells me how much he likes me and I am amazing etc. However, although he texts me every day the relationship just ...
A. 4 November 2010: Hi well if am honest with you it does sound like you have been left insecure and paranoid from your ex partner cheating on you, this tends to happen that when we do get in to another relationship you feel like what is he doing and who are these ... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me but he talks to so many other girls. Is he just a player?
Q. Hi there.. I think I just need a little bit of help with this one. Hope I don't tire you all out while reading this. I met a guy in our accounting class about two months ago, and he took the effort to come up to one of my girlfriends sugg...
A. 4 November 2010: From your update, it does sound like he likes you yes which is great but yet again its the whole commitment issue he is not wanting to commit to you which is obvious, he sounds like a great guy though and he also is taking things slow with you which ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance to get my relationship back?
Q. After 3 years and 7 months my fiancee broke up with me. Honestly I have never been so miserable. We fought a lot but i know i can change, and I really want her back. Is there any hope for us to renew our relationship? If there is how could I do it?...
A. 4 November 2010: Well have you concidered going to anger management classes? This may be the only option here for you to get the help you need. Then you can tell her that you are getting the help that you need, she loves you but she doesnt love the person you become ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so awkward during sex?
Q. Why is my boyfriend so awkward sexually?? Let me give you a few examples: 1. His idea of dirty talking is girly moaning followed by phrases like "ooh you do it so good" and "f*** my d*** good baby" these aren't exactly the things a girl wants to ...
A. 3 November 2010: Well i wasnt going to say dump him in any case because that would be quite insensitive as he actually hasnt done anything wrong. So here goes:
1. You took his virginity so he probably thinks that the way he is talking is dirty to you and you like... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 3 November 2010: Hi well to be honest i think it wouldnt be fair on you to wait around as you are only going to get more and more hurt its obvious that this woman needs to clear her head at the moment and to do that she shouldnt get in to a serious relationship, ... (read in full...)
He is confused and misses his ex-wife. Should I keep trying for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 2 months. He got divorced about 3 months before that. We moved kind of fast and we knew that, but things seemed to be going great. Then his ex-wife started calling him and telling him how much she ...
A. 3 November 2010: Well to start off with i think that you should just give him the space that he has asked for, i believe that he was getting on well with you and starting to develop feelings for you, but he wasnt long divorced at the time therefore everything with ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend thinking about getting back together?
Q. My Ex-boyfriend is constantly where he knows I'm going to go and moves either into the rooms I'm in or closer to where I am standing with whoever. Is that a sign that he is rethinking about if he wants to stay broken-up?...
A. 3 November 2010: Well it doesnt mean that he wants to get back with you it could be just that he still wants to have that hold over you, for example he doesnt want you but he doesnt want anybody else to have you either, this can be quite common behaviour in a man ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, his ex and me?
Q. My bf and i have been together for nearly 2 years, we're really close and love each other very much, we both say how we really couldnt see ours lives without each other. thats great. the thing is there are things which keep coming up and upset me. ...
A. 3 November 2010: Im sorry hun but it sounds like your boyfriend is not the man you think he is, he is being secretive which is a big sign that he can not be trusted or maybe i am wrong and he just doesnt want to hurt you therefore he is covering things up however if ... (read in full...)
Why am I not supposed to know?
Q. My husband won't tell me what he did in bed with his ex wife of 20 years. What is he hiding? Is this an open relationship? I'm pissed!...
A. 3 November 2010: Somethings are private especially a physical relationship between two married people, if you and your husband split up now and he got with someone else would you not be thankful that he never talked about your private life to anyone else, you should ... (read in full...)
Difference between a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm?
Q. Hi. I'm confused about the diff between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm. When I reach orgasm by clitoral stimulation how is that diff to vaginal because what I feel is in my vagina?! Any help very appreciated!...
A. 3 November 2010: Ok there is not much difference to be honest, some people will argue that the feeling from an orgasm from the g spot is far more intense but others disagree and some dont even like the feeling. So every woman is different hun.... (read in full...)
Penis enlargement medications?
Q. I know there are many adverts on the internet for penis enlargement schemes and medications but I would be grateful to know if any of the readers has tried any of these and found it effective and true to its advertisement? thanks. ...
A. 3 November 2010: I would advise strongly against buying any of these things off the internet, as its just products that is ripping you off, they dont work, they only thing that can be done is plastic surgery, that is it, the things on the internet are just frauds ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance to get my relationship back?
Q. After 3 years and 7 months my fiancee broke up with me. Honestly I have never been so miserable. We fought a lot but i know i can change, and I really want her back. Is there any hope for us to renew our relationship? If there is how could I do it?...
A. 3 November 2010: Well you said the both of you argued a lot but that you no you can change, but she needs to be willing to work on the relationship as well. It takes work from both sides. Its funny how people say they will change as soon as they lose someone they ... (read in full...)
Will this get in the way when I have sex?
Q. Hello. when i am on an errection and go to pull back the forskin, i can only pull it back a little bit, only enough to see the top of the penis, i am nervoius that this will get in the way when i have sex?...
A. 3 November 2010: No it wont get in the way it is totally normal that the skin only goes back so far do dont be worrying.... (read in full...)
Was he letting me down gently???
Q. Hey, I had a one night stand, the next morning there was no awkwardness he wanted sex again but I decided against it, but told him I was up for meting up again just for sex(I did like him but didnt want to appear too keen!). He was very affec...
A. 3 November 2010: Yeah just put it down to experience we need things like that to happen to lead us to our right man :-)... (read in full...)
Guy is always confused about who he likes?
Q. Over the summer this boy (Lucas), who used to like my friend, added me on facebook. He asked me to hang out with him and he was really nice so I agreed. He started to like me, and I liked him, but then I went to Europe for a few weeks and stopped ...
A. 1 November 2010: Well it could be possible that because he has come from a broken home he has some issues with commitment and he just doesnt want to be in a relationship at the moment, am afraid if that is the case then there is nothing that you can do to change ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm still in a relationship!
Q. It's been a month since he left. He comes by once or twice a week. And talks to me every other day if don't contact him first. He says he still loves me and doesn't want to disappear from my life. He insists on paying the electric bill even though ...
A. 1 November 2010: Its hard to tell what this man wants i dont even think he knows himself what he wants, he is still supporting you but he doesnt want to be in a relationship, its obvious he still cares for you but you need to get things straight with him or else you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has never had an orgasm! How can I help her?
Q. Hi. My partner says she has nver had an orgasm, and I would like to know if this could be possible... She has Cerebral Palsy. She has gone through quite a lot of stress. How is it best to relax before sex and is is best to try oral sex and s...
A. 1 November 2010: The best way to help her achieve this would not be through intercourse but stimulating her clitoris should get her going, but if she has never even had an orgasm on her own by trying out different things by her self then i would advice she spoke to ... (read in full...)
Has he met someone else or just busy with his studies?
Q. hey, I am 22 years and an indian. I've been in a relationship with a guy from almost 8 months but we've been friends for about a year. we plan on getting married after 3 years. we are both are still studyin(pg). he has been acting strange lately, ...
A. 1 November 2010: Sorry but nobody but him can tell you the answer to why he is being distant towards you and not showing you any physical attention. Sit down with him and be honest with him tell him you feel like he is very distant towards you and ask him why he has ... (read in full...)
I felt used! Did I do the right thing in breaking off contact?
Q. This week I told a female friend (I am male) I thought we should stop talking for at least a while. Now I feel a deep hollowness as well as guilt for breaking off contact with someone who has relied upon me. Let me give you a little backstory, and ...
A. 1 November 2010: Well it doesnt really make her untrustworthy he is the one that is married not her therefore he is the one that is cheating on his wife she is just the other woman, however i dont think she was ever in to you romantically or even cared about you she ... (read in full...)
I just want my ex's attention back
Q. i dont know when to stop wanting this. Me and my ex broke up due to issues with me and me bettering myself we both still love each other. But i pushed him to his limit i know i have to give him time to hisself. But what should my limits be we dont ...
A. 1 November 2010: Well i think to begin with you need to put some distance between you and your ex so that he can clear his head and so that you can get the help that you need, this means no talking for a while, contact him and tell him you are seeking help and you ... (read in full...)
My mother knows my crush's family, I have asked so many times to go with her to meet him but she ignores me!
Q. Please help me! I'll tell you what happened to me. Before one year, I suddenly had a big crush on an old childhood friend. The crush was becoming huger and huger, but at summer he changed school and now we couldn't talk. The whole summer, I had de...
A. 1 November 2010: Sit down with your mum and tell her that you miss your friend very much and it really upset you when he left your school and you really miss him, plead with her to contact his family and ask if he would like to meet up with you. Im afraid that its ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my feelings for my teacher? And why am I attracted to a girl when I am straight?
Q. Ok, I'm going to be vague about this, as I don't want to much revealed but here goes. I'm a straight girl, and I'm in love with one of my teachers... Who is also a girl. She's a young teacher, I think about 25. She's been at our school for a f...
A. 1 November 2010: Yes it probably is to do with common interests you probably look up to her and like the person that she is and that is how your feelings have developed, i no this is going to sound harsh but it is probably going to be healthier for you in the long ... (read in full...)
Will my prayers work so we can be together? And does he even like me if he has not shown any interest in 10 years?
Q. dear readers, im madly in love with this guy for the past 10 years. we used to speak to each other as kids when i was as young as 9 yrs old, but we stopped now as we grew up. The thing is i have been praying continuously for the past so many yea...
A. 1 November 2010: No praying isnt going to help you here am afraid, you need to be honest with him and ask him out on a date this is the only way you will know if he is interested in you or not, so go for it ask him out and see how things go just take it from there.... (read in full...)
First time sex anxiety!
Q. how to overcome anxiety in first sexual intercourse?...
A. 1 November 2010: Dont rush in to anything if you dont feel ready then dont do it until you feel comfortable, we all worry about our first time as it is a big step in life but just get your man to take things slowly and work up to it, it may be a little uncomfortable ... (read in full...)
What if I cannot stop my attraction to my sister in law?
Q. hi, Im back again with these SIL thing. I got your answers to the question however I dont think it done me much justice. Im still having these feeling in fact I woke up thinking about her. What if i cant stop it? I know im married and so is she with ...
A. 1 November 2010: No stop yourself right there, dont cheat on your wife just dont do it, especially not with a member of the family you will hurt a lot of people. Please dont do it dont be a cheat its not fair on your wife or your son do you want him growing up ... (read in full...)
How can I get over a break-up when there wasn't one?
Q. I feel so pathetic for writing this but I'd really appreciate the advice. My boyfriend of four years just left me. Told me three days ago that he was coming over the next day to break up with me. Well, he never showed up, and I kept trying to call ...
A. 1 November 2010: Ok yes he took the cowardly way out, he doesnt deserve you as a girlfriend if this is how he is going to treat you. Dont contact him what so ever, let him come to you, and when he does dont take him back tell him it is over for good. Its never easy ... (read in full...)
How can I just forget the fact that her male-friend likes her?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are celebrating our anniversary, and I make it noted to everyone. Write it in my facebook status and im proud of her and i for coming this far. She drops the "so my friend told me he likes me" bomb and i dont know how to deal ...
A. 1 November 2010: No your right dont tell her who she can and cannot speak to as you will just push her away from you, you just need to trust her. He is her friend therefore she probably doesnt want to hurt him. Maybe advise her though to put a little bit of distance ... (read in full...)
Is the only way to move on to forget about your ex completely?
Q. I miss my ex a lot. I miss his smiles, his hugs, his stories, his everything. I know he has moved on. I know he would be happier with someone else. He has told me many times what he doesn't like about me. I wish I could be the person he wants to be ...
A. 1 November 2010: Im afraid it is yes, the only cure for this is time. Dont contact him and put photos and memories in to a box and put them away. I no it is hard nobody finds it easy but just give it time and also have close ones around you to be able to talk and ... (read in full...)
He should treat the mother of his child with respect!
Q. hi,i have a girl whos three.I still have to have something to do with my ex,the father of my daughter.I get on with him ok now for our daughters sack but toke a while as he hurt me emotionally.Now he picks and choices when hes going to treat me ...
A. 1 November 2010: He should treat you with respect some people can just be cruel, tell him you are not going to tolerate his behaviour anymore, tell him if he carrys on treating you like this then there will need to be a third person taking in to this so that he can ... (read in full...)
Was he letting me down gently???
Q. Hey, I had a one night stand, the next morning there was no awkwardness he wanted sex again but I decided against it, but told him I was up for meting up again just for sex(I did like him but didnt want to appear too keen!). He was very affec...
A. 30 October 2010: He could be telling you the truth to be honest it sounds like he is, maybe he is involved with someone else and got carried away with you and just wanted to be honest with you, the harsh reality out there is that even men that have girlfriends will ... (read in full...)
I felt used! Did I do the right thing in breaking off contact?
Q. This week I told a female friend (I am male) I thought we should stop talking for at least a while. Now I feel a deep hollowness as well as guilt for breaking off contact with someone who has relied upon me. Let me give you a little backstory, and ...
A. 30 October 2010: The others are right you are a grown man you should stay well clear of her she has treated you like a bank that is all, if you took her out for a meal and asked her to pay half believe me you would see another side to her that you wouldnt like, all ... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me but he talks to so many other girls. Is he just a player?
Q. Hi there.. I think I just need a little bit of help with this one. Hope I don't tire you all out while reading this. I met a guy in our accounting class about two months ago, and he took the effort to come up to one of my girlfriends sugg...
A. 28 October 2010: Hi ok well it sounds like this guy was really genuine and he didnt seem like he wanted in to your pants as he never tried and never got sulky but yet again he might just be very good at coming across as the genuine type it is really hard to tell. ... (read in full...)
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