Why is he withdrawing?
Q. I had been dating this guy for just about 2 years. I guess back in February his company was bought out by another. They cut his pay in half, cut his hours. he started getting very withdrawn. About three weeks ago he decided that his depression wasnt ...
A. 9 November 2010: Its just his nature to look after his family its his beliefs therefore you just need to accept that he thinks like this and thank him and make sure he doesnt feel like he is being taken for granted.... (read in full...)
Was he letting me down gently???
Q. Hey, I had a one night stand, the next morning there was no awkwardness he wanted sex again but I decided against it, but told him I was up for meting up again just for sex(I did like him but didnt want to appear too keen!). He was very affec...
A. 3 November 2010: Yeah just put it down to experience we need things like that to happen to lead us to our right man :-)... (read in full...)
I felt used! Did I do the right thing in breaking off contact?
Q. This week I told a female friend (I am male) I thought we should stop talking for at least a while. Now I feel a deep hollowness as well as guilt for breaking off contact with someone who has relied upon me. Let me give you a little backstory, and ...
A. 1 November 2010: Well it doesnt really make her untrustworthy he is the one that is married not her therefore he is the one that is cheating on his wife she is just the other woman, however i dont think she was ever in to you romantically or even cared about you she ... (read in full...)
He should treat the mother of his child with respect!
Q. hi,i have a girl whos three.I still have to have something to do with my ex,the father of my daughter.I get on with him ok now for our daughters sack but toke a while as he hurt me emotionally.Now he picks and choices when hes going to treat me ...
A. 1 November 2010: He should treat you with respect some people can just be cruel, tell him you are not going to tolerate his behaviour anymore, tell him if he carrys on treating you like this then there will need to be a third person taking in to this so that he can ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man!
Q. Hello. I am a Christian. My boyfriend (a Muslim) and I have been dating for some months now. We are so crazy in love with each other. At first, everything was just perfect. He gave me no reason of doubting on him and at some points I really ...
A. 1 November 2010: Oh you poor girl this is horrible thing to go through but am afraid you need to make a choice here, you can marry this man but share him with his wife and son or you can get out now while you can and meet someone were you will be the only women in ... (read in full...)
I hit my wife after she kicked me, but my son saw the whole thing. How can I make this right?
Q. we have been married for four years, mostly good times, but when we fight it gets ugly, and yesterday for the first time ever i slapped her after she kicked me during a very heated fight. the worst part about it is that this all took place in front ...
A. 1 November 2010: I guess you need to learn from your mistakes, this should never have taking place in front of a three year old as this will effect him big time he may now fear all men. You need to work hard in making him trust you again, when you talk to him speak ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing her again tomorrow, how do I show her I like her?
Q. guys i need some urgent tips , today i met this beautiful girl , shes so pretty though , we met in a shooting , i was playin the main support and shes is the main character ( shes a professional model ) , anyway i was all the time around her since i ...
A. 1 November 2010: Ok dont go in and tell her how you feel as this is quite sudden and you will probably scare her off, just smile at her and when you see her go up to her and ask her how she is and try and get to no her a bit more maybe ask her would she like to go ... (read in full...)
Why do guys come back to relationships after it is already too late?
Q. I recently had a guy (ex-fiance) come back after 3 f'ing years telling me what a loser he was for letting me go, that the whole break up was his fault and I was the girl of his dreams.. begging me to marry him, he totally had to let go of all his ...
A. 1 November 2010: I dont think any girl will truely understand a guy. Not all guys are like this though so dont lose hope that all of the male population is like this because they arent, i think with this guy it was just a case that he was not ready to settle down ... (read in full...)
Do I want to be with my boyfriend, or his best friend?
Q. i know i like my bf's best mate, it all started like this me and my bf live together and we have being going throught a rough patch. i dont think he appreciates me enough i do everything for him, we have been together for 2 years now this all sta...
A. 1 November 2010: Only you can tell how you truely feel, taking the friend out of the equasion for a moment take a look at your relationship and ask yourself are you happy with your boyfriend, you say you are going through a rough patch but do you love him? With some ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her that her boyfriend slept with me?
Q. I'm in fairly tricky situation at the moment. For the past year and a half me and this guy had a serious thing going on. Anywho, we broke things off, and he got himself a girlfriend, whilst I stayed single. A few months after, he randomly co...
A. 1 November 2010: I think it is probably best that you dont say anything as she will probably just think you are some ex of his that wants him back and will think you are just stirring things so that they break up and he will be even more smug about it then when she ... (read in full...)
My mother is a hoarder!
Q. My mother is a compulsive hoarder. I'm the exact opposite and like to keep everything neat and tidy, but every single room of the house is overtaken with her useless shit. Living in a house full of clutter for most of my life and getting hurt while ...
A. 1 November 2010: Yes i agree you should do that as its clear she is in self denial and if you cant get her motivated then this might just be the scare that she needs to put her act in order, go for it and good luck.... (read in full...)
Please help me get over him!
Q. I like this boy even though he's in a relationship. I've only met him once but I completly fell for him. I was looking on his wAll on facebook and he's saying "best girlfriend ever" "couldn't ask for a better gf" "I love my girlfriend" then people ...
A. 1 November 2010: Ok hun you might think that you love him but you have only met him the once and he is in a relationship so there is no point acting on your crush. At your age you will get many crushes it makes us who we are and then as we grow up we learn how to ... (read in full...)
His busy life is getting to me, what should I do for the best?
Q. Well hello there. :) I'm here just like half the other people here. Advice on a relationship. Here's my story; My boyfriend and I have been together for a little amount of time. Not the longest relationship on the record but it's a decent one. We're ...
A. 1 November 2010: Hi well you arent needy its understandable that you want more time with him, especially when the relationship is new you usually want to spend every mintue together. You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel though, tell him that you know his ... (read in full...)
My mother is a hoarder!
Q. My mother is a compulsive hoarder. I'm the exact opposite and like to keep everything neat and tidy, but every single room of the house is overtaken with her useless shit. Living in a house full of clutter for most of my life and getting hurt while ...
A. 1 November 2010: You say you are miserable so sort it out, you or your mother cant go on like this its unhealthy and no way to live. It sounds like your mother may also be depressed and you both have just givin up. You need to both get motivated and have a clear ... (read in full...)
Help! It's complex and I'm in hell!
Q. So me and Lisa have known each other for 8 years, as my landlady who I used to board with (Linda) is her mum’s best friend. I went out with Lisa’s older sister around 6yrs ago, and it lasted for around 18mths. Anyway, the break up wasn’t good, and ...
A. 1 November 2010: This is a really hard situation for you to be in i feel sorry for you, ok i think her mum was right to a point she saw how you were with her other daughter and the nasty break up therefore she is just looking out for her other daughter as she doesnt ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is flirting with his ex girlfriend... what do I do here?
Q. hi this is my first time using this and it's probably because I want to hear other people's opinion on this and might help me. okay so here it goes. I've caught him (boyfriend) before during valentines day, he gave his ex girlfriend the same cake ...
A. 1 November 2010: Off course it will be hard darling these things always are hard to do, but you deserve to be so much happier and treated better than how he is treating you, find the strengh within you because he is just using you and the longer you leave it the ... (read in full...)
Am I right for getting upset about him smoking pot? Or am I just being controlling and he can do what he wants because he is his own person?
Q. my boyfriend and i are incredibly close... he is one of the most important people in my life, and he means everything to me, but last night i went to a halloween party with him. it was us, and some people that we work with. when we first got to the ...
A. 1 November 2010: Well he is right that he is his own person and he makes his own choices but you are also right to be mad at him as you are looking out for his best interests at the end of the day, lots of people are against smoking pot and good on you for being ... (read in full...)
How do I stop getting ahead of myself? We have only been together 3 months but I cant help think about the future!
Q. Hey, I'd love some advice on how to rein myself in. I have a new bf of 3 months. I'd been single for 9 months after splitting with a guy I was with for 8 years. I never expected to meet anyone, and he is lovely, kind, handsome, caring...
A. 1 November 2010: You cant help how you feel and its not rare for people to think about the future and what it will be like, its obvious he is falling for you as well so you shouldnt have to worry. Nobody knows what the future will hold but try and just enjoy the ... (read in full...)
Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 1 November 2010: Yes i no were you are coming from the temptation will always be there for you to email him so if you want to move on and have a fresh start then block his email for your own sake.... (read in full...)
Was it right to invite him to the party?
Q. So tomorrow I'm meeting this guy I've been talking to for a month, we text daily, talk on the phone daily, usually before bed, and we seem to get along well. I haven't met him in person yet, (tomorrow we are meeting) but so far we get along great! ...
A. 1 November 2010: Sometimes we just cant help how we feel you need to tell him now though so that he knows just say to him you had a great time with him and he is a great bloke but that you would rather just be friends at the moment, ensure him that it is nothing to ... (read in full...)
Is she just concerned or is she feeling something for me?
Q. A few weeks back I was visiting my very close friend for the day before she left to go abroad for a year. (we are friends in uni). At one point I was very attracted to her, but she didn't reciprocate, or I blew my chances on what may or may not h...
A. 1 November 2010: I understand where you are coming from, obviously her friendship is important to you but this is also a great basis for a relationship if she likes you as well, so i think you need to tell her how you feel.... (read in full...)
Why is he withdrawing?
Q. I had been dating this guy for just about 2 years. I guess back in February his company was bought out by another. They cut his pay in half, cut his hours. he started getting very withdrawn. About three weeks ago he decided that his depression wasnt ...
A. 1 November 2010: Its good that you are giving him space and it sounds like you are on the right track with things has he thought about maybe visiting a doctor? As it sounds like he is depressed and he may need some medical care. Just keep showing him that you care ... (read in full...)
Like others, married wanting someone else.
Q. I've been married for 4 years to a great guy. He is 14 years older than me. We only dated for about 6 months before we got married, but I thought he was the one despite our age difference. He has older kids that do not live with us. Being a step ...
A. 1 November 2010: Ok so i wasnt judging you as i told you, nobody was to know he cheated on you as we can only go by what you wrote. So he has cheated on you twice which of course is going to hurt you and mess up your mind but it still doesnt make what you are doing ... (read in full...)
How do I talk with my mom after her stomping out of my house?
Q. there has always been tension between my mom and my husband because he is 2 yrs older than her. she hates him 4 that which in turn makes him dislike her too. last night after dark as soon as our dinner was done my parents made an unannouced visit. ...
A. 1 November 2010: I disagree here he was not rude at the end of the day they werent expected. Sorry i picked you up wrong i thought there was only 2 years between you and him. But still in that case age shouldnt matter if you are both happy. Every marriage has rocky ... (read in full...)
How do I get to her without coming over too strong?
Q. I've known a girl for some time and we do seem to share some chemistry. Now, I am great around her at parties with her friends and I have managed to befriend all her friends (to a level where most of them count me among their good friend). I tease ...
A. 30 October 2010: am afraid the only way to get to her is to tell her how you feel. Or else give her a few more hints by asking her out just the both of you and see were it goes from there, she is probably just waiting for you to ask her out.... (read in full...)
I took photos of his girlfriend's underwear and now he's found them! What do I do?
Q. i was cheated my friend who was done some good things for me but now i m feeling guilty one and half year ago i was leaving with my friend and sharing a flat in building. his girl frnd was my girl frnd's sister and so we were as group (girls w...
A. 30 October 2010: this was such a wrong thing to do and your friend is probably not going to forgive you also his girlfriend will probably never want to see you again, just concentrate now on making new friends and building a new home for yourself, learn from your ... (read in full...)
Was he letting me down gently???
Q. Hey, I had a one night stand, the next morning there was no awkwardness he wanted sex again but I decided against it, but told him I was up for meting up again just for sex(I did like him but didnt want to appear too keen!). He was very affec...
A. 30 October 2010: He could be telling you the truth to be honest it sounds like he is, maybe he is involved with someone else and got carried away with you and just wanted to be honest with you, the harsh reality out there is that even men that have girlfriends will ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do because I really like her and I think she really likes me. Any ideas???
Q. Yesterday me and four others went to fright night two girls and four boys in total. Basically it's twelve hours in Thorpe park. Okay so let's call the people; Emma Shannon Daniel Will and Aaron. So basically Emma and Daniel have known each other . ...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok yes it sounds like she does like you but it also sounds like she is trying to be a good friend to daniel with what he is going through at the moment and i no that you understand this which is very mature of you but she needs to tell daniel how ... (read in full...)
How do I talk with my mom after her stomping out of my house?
Q. there has always been tension between my mom and my husband because he is 2 yrs older than her. she hates him 4 that which in turn makes him dislike her too. last night after dark as soon as our dinner was done my parents made an unannouced visit. ...
A. 30 October 2010: Sounds like your mum is quite over dramatic here, your husband was only being polite in telling them this however your mum obviously took it as an insult. You need to have proper words with her.
When you see her tell her you need to have a seriou... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he totally ignores me.
Q. I really like this guy but he totally ignores me. we used to talk and be good friends but then he just left this friendship and started doing the same to other girls. i dont think anything like what happened to me happened to them but i want him to ...
A. 30 October 2010: I think you need to pull this guy to one side and ask him why he has stopped talking to you, tell him you want to know what you done wrong as you thought you were both friends and now he is being distant tell him you want the truth. Only he can tell ... (read in full...)
He's too good for me but I'm really beginning to fall!
Q. He's too good for me but I'm really beginning to fall! Here's the deal I've just finished my first year in uni and met this guy. I'd rate myself as average looking and of average intelligence. But his guy he just came from Korea last year, looks ...
A. 30 October 2010: Well i think you should go for it you have nothing to lose, dont be to full on with him and tell him how you feel as this might scare him a little instead the next time you talk to him why dont you ask him would he like to hang out some evening with ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he has stayed when he has no love in his heart for me.
Q. Hi I am in the strangest relationship i have ever been in. This man is married but please no telling me i am a home wrecker because that is not the case here, I have been in this relationship for many years this man doesn't love me but he knows i ...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok well if he was so committed to his wife then he wouldnt be having sex with you, yes it does sound like he cares for you but he doesnt love you he just sees you as a friend who has benefits (ie sex) do you really want to be the other woman?
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Could this guy have liked me?
Q. Could this guy have liked me? I went to a pub last night, and he looked at me a few times. When my friend, who was sat next to me was talking, he leaned sideways to look at me a couple of times (he was sat on another table and my friend was ...
A. 30 October 2010: It sounds like you are worrying way to much about this, if you see him again then why dont you approach him and start a conversation. Simple.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is flirting with his ex girlfriend... what do I do here?
Q. hi this is my first time using this and it's probably because I want to hear other people's opinion on this and might help me. okay so here it goes. I've caught him (boyfriend) before during valentines day, he gave his ex girlfriend the same cake ...
A. 30 October 2010: I think you should get out of this relationship and find someone that will treat you with respect it sounds like your boyfriend wants to get back with his ex and if i were you i would finish with him first before this happens. Its totally ... (read in full...)
I've never been friends with a girl...
Q. i am 17 years old, i have never been freinds with girls. nor have i ever had a girl freind. there is this girl in my class whos number i have. i talk to her via sms and msn. other than this, i do not talk to her in school. i feel shy approaching ...
A. 30 October 2010: Well the next time that you are talking to her via text or the internet take a huge leap and ask her would she like to hang out with you some day after school, just take your time and get to know her dont rush in to anything and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
Is my logic here correct?
Q. Recently I has a conversation with the man I've been involved with for quite some time. The topic was as to why he disappears for extended periods of time for no apparent reason. The end result was him telling me that when things got too emotiona...
A. 30 October 2010: Hmm it sounds like that could be right yes, but its obvious that he is scared of commitment and that is why he does these disappearing acts as it sounds like he doesnt know how to handle his own feelings. but he also sounds a little selfish by ... (read in full...)
I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant...!
Q. I have a question about sex, I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant and i know how my body works and i keep track of my cycle and all, but recently me and my bf of 2 years had sex without a condom for the ...
A. 30 October 2010: hi well you say you are hearing stories from girls hardly doing anything and getting pregnant? Well you need to have intercourse to get pregnant you cant get pregnant any other way as when the sperm is released it only has seconds to live in the ... (read in full...)
Best friend's wife took him away from me
Q. Life a bitch sometimes hi I've known my best friend for 8 years I've always been there for him for better or worse I'm not gay by the way I have a girlfriend lol but I'm just trying to make a point when I said for better or worse. We were so close ...
A. 30 October 2010: Hi well i guess you just have to accept that people move on usually when people get married there first priorety is there wife, they are building a life and a future together and you need to understand that he sees her as his life partner. In saying ... (read in full...)
I never thought I'd be in this situation caring when he's got a girlfriend!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice... I just recently divorced my husband of 2 years. Because of that and some other reasons I moved to another city to start my life all over. This is a city where I've had lived before and have some friends. The thi...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok first off you cant kiss him again he is someone elses man and its really not fair on his girlfriend. You need to ask him what he wants but no physical contact until he has finished with his girlfriend explain to him that you dont want to be the ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her, or should I let her go?
Q. I had a great long-distance friend, someone I always hoped I'd be more than friends with though that never worked out. We knew each other over 2 years. I've always been private but with her.....I just felt a comfort I've NEVER felt with anyone...
A. 30 October 2010: Well then tell her that if you can deal with just being friends with her and it wont hurt you more then tell her you miss her as a friend.... (read in full...)
I felt used! Did I do the right thing in breaking off contact?
Q. This week I told a female friend (I am male) I thought we should stop talking for at least a while. Now I feel a deep hollowness as well as guilt for breaking off contact with someone who has relied upon me. Let me give you a little backstory, and ...
A. 30 October 2010: The others are right you are a grown man you should stay well clear of her she has treated you like a bank that is all, if you took her out for a meal and asked her to pay half believe me you would see another side to her that you wouldnt like, all ... (read in full...)
I lost weight and now my husband thinks I'm cheating?
Q. I been with my husband for almost nine years we have 2 wonderful sons. A couple of months ago i got hurt at work so i was at home doing nothing which i started gaining weight. My husband never told me oh ur fat. Evevery thing was going fine. Well i ...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok yes your husband is over reacting here, i think now that you have lost some weight you are more confident for it which is great but it has probably made your husbands self asteem hit rock bottom and he is probably scared that now you have lost ... (read in full...)
Is she just concerned or is she feeling something for me?
Q. A few weeks back I was visiting my very close friend for the day before she left to go abroad for a year. (we are friends in uni). At one point I was very attracted to her, but she didn't reciprocate, or I blew my chances on what may or may not h...
A. 30 October 2010: Its hard to tell if she looked shocked then she obviously wasnt expecting it but this doesnt mean she has feelings for you as such, if she seemed a little disapointed or off with you then yea she probably does like you. But if you are not attracted ... (read in full...)
I don't even know for sure if he fancies me...
Q. Hey...am 18 years old and theres this guy, he doesnt work at my workplace permanently, but he just comes in like 3 times a week for just a little while. I dont know very much about him, but i am attracted to him. We had small general conversation ...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok its a bit to soon to tell him how you feel as this might scare him away especially when you dont really no each other that well at the moment, but what i would suggest is the next time he is in ask him would he like to have lunch with you on your ... (read in full...)
Like others, married wanting someone else.
Q. I've been married for 4 years to a great guy. He is 14 years older than me. We only dated for about 6 months before we got married, but I thought he was the one despite our age difference. He has older kids that do not live with us. Being a step ...
A. 30 October 2010: Ok you both havent had sex but what you are both doing is still cheating on your partners. You are hurting? What about your poor husband am sorry but he deserves better than this and therefore you need to let him go.
Dont get me wrong i totally ... (read in full...)
Was it right to invite him to the party?
Q. So tomorrow I'm meeting this guy I've been talking to for a month, we text daily, talk on the phone daily, usually before bed, and we seem to get along well. I haven't met him in person yet, (tomorrow we are meeting) but so far we get along great! ...
A. 29 October 2010: Ok well just remember here that it is perfectly ok for you to do both you are not in a relationship with anyone there fore you are not doing anything wrong sometimes it is good to keep our options open so dont be worrying.
However make sure thi... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to her, or should I let her go?
Q. I had a great long-distance friend, someone I always hoped I'd be more than friends with though that never worked out. We knew each other over 2 years. I've always been private but with her.....I just felt a comfort I've NEVER felt with anyone...
A. 28 October 2010: No i dont think that you should she told you she would contact you so leave it at that as if you contact her she may get angry with you and tell you she asked you to wait until she contacted you.
If am honest with you it sounds like this women go... (read in full...)
Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 27 October 2010: Well its good that he is recovering and has gotten the help that he needs but it still doesnt excuse his behaviour. Never the less maybe he just has a lot on his mind but let him come to you.... (read in full...)
Shock horror: ex boyfriend reappears, disappears.
Q. I have a question which, unfortunately, has quite a long backstory--thanks in advance for reading! I have just recently returned to the UK after being in the US for a year (I am an American citizen and moved home to be with my parents). A bit...
A. 26 October 2010: It sounds like he is just confused and doesnt no what he wants he went to all of the bother to get your email so i find it very strange that he just went back to ignoring you. Dont just wait around for him you deserve better than that i understand ... (read in full...)
Why is he withdrawing?
Q. I had been dating this guy for just about 2 years. I guess back in February his company was bought out by another. They cut his pay in half, cut his hours. he started getting very withdrawn. About three weeks ago he decided that his depression wasnt ...
A. 26 October 2010: Ok am not sure what your question is here, your boyfriend obviously became depressed after his hours got cut and he probably felt less of a man as he could support you or the children he sounds quite old fashioned and feels its his place to bring in ... (read in full...)
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