My gut is telling me he's still hung up on her!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating this guy for about a year. We have our ups and downs like everyone else, but there's one thing I can't seem to get over: his ex. I'm generally not the type to be insecure and unsure of myself, however, there's...
A. 11 December 2010: Well dont judge him or accuse him of anything, just start of by telling him you dont want an arguement that you just want to tell him how you feel. Explain to him that if he wants to talk to his ex as a friend then that is fine but he needs to be ... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me he's still hung up on her!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating this guy for about a year. We have our ups and downs like everyone else, but there's one thing I can't seem to get over: his ex. I'm generally not the type to be insecure and unsure of myself, however, there's...
A. 10 December 2010: Well when a guy says he hates his ex then is caught texting her then yes it could mean that he is not over her. But you have both been together for a year now so you should know him and trust him enough to decide if you feel he is worth it or not.
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I cannot tell if I am over my ex or not!
Q. I dont think im over my ex....its not a good feeling ): we went out for not even a month but i liked him so much. i cared so much about him that he was so hard to get over. he only broke up with me because i had "problems" that he didnt want to deal ...
A. 10 December 2010: Hi well i dont think that you are in love with him and want to be his girlfriend, i think you are just jelous. It is completely normal to feel like this, he is your ex and she is your best friend so of course it will be awkward for you, and when you ... (read in full...)
I'm terrible at asking anyone out! Help!
Q. I'm kind of wondering if anyone could give some advice on getting a date. I am a lesbian (have been all my life) and I know there are a few girls around school who would be willing to date another girl. The problem is I'm terrible at asking someone ...
A. 10 December 2010: Ok well first of you need to relax and not put as much pressure on yourself, see it as you are asking a girl would she like to go to a movie or for a bite to eat dont over analyse it, just make it as simple as can be. At least then if they say no to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching nude pictures!!!
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 1 year and 5 months. its a ldr.recently i visited my bf.we had lots of fun and even sex. but during sex his p***s was not so erect.i don't know whats the reason behind it. after i came back i checked my bf's ...
A. 10 December 2010: The pictures arent the reason why he wasnt completely erect, there could be plenty of reasons for this including, he may have been nervous about having sex with you, this can happen quite a lot of men so dont blame yourself or assume that he doesnt ... (read in full...)
I sense it is not over between us but what do I do now?
Q. So the issue with us is commitment. We know each other for a long time. We used to be friends until things gradually started to change. After months of flirting and dating without a label (no sex but some kissing always him pursuing me, trying to be ...
A. 10 December 2010: Well the thing is if he wants your body that badly then he will take as much time as he has to persue it, none of the less maybe he does genuinely have feelings for you but he just wasnt ready for a commitment at the time.
Maybe you should c... (read in full...)
I said yes when he asked me out but now I am questioning my decision....
Q. There's this second year guy,i have a crush on him and he admitted that he likes me and immediately asked me to go out with him...I,also immediately said yes,i don't know if it was because i like him that i don't ever want to hurt him or because ...
A. 9 December 2010: Nobody expects you to love him, he has only just asked you out, it takes commitment and a lot of time to truely fall in love. But you have a crush on this guy so thats a good start, dont worry about your decision, instead get to know this guy and ... (read in full...)
I sense it is not over between us but what do I do now?
Q. So the issue with us is commitment. We know each other for a long time. We used to be friends until things gradually started to change. After months of flirting and dating without a label (no sex but some kissing always him pursuing me, trying to be ...
A. 9 December 2010: Well i think it needs to be up to him to make the first move here not you, it is clear he wants you sexually and nothing else, and he is acting like a sulking child who cant get his own way. Be careful with this type of bloke because he may start ... (read in full...)
If he is genuinely interested in me, then why doesn't he ever call me?
Q. I met this guy online and have been talking to him for about 4 months now. We've gone on 1 date a few days ago, and it went pretty well: met up for a casual dinner. Then he pleaded with me to come back to my place which I agreed, and we made out ...
A. 9 December 2010: Well the thing with talking to guys over the internet is they can say anything they like and you cant see them face to face to see if they are telling the truth, its so easy to type lies.
When you say you both made out, did this involve having s... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex, however, she wants to be friends
Q. Hey guys, To explain the extent of my problem I'd have to go back into my relationship to the Summer. My girlfriend and I had been dating for half a year at that point (I realize thats not very long). She had just moved into her first apartment,...
A. 7 December 2010: No you were'nt in the wrong you done the right thing here just remember that honesty is always the best way to go. You need to leave it with her now, the ball is in her court, dont contact her until she contacts you, no matter how hard it is, you ... (read in full...)
HE seems happy now that he's moved on... but I'm not!
Q. My ex who I believe likes guys and girls but is in love with his best friend has a new pic up of himself with his best friend or some girl taking a picture of him.. Theres a reflection of a girl in the picture.. It hurts to see him moved on or with ...
A. 7 December 2010: Well he is only 20 years old, he has only came out of his teenage lives and most guys at this stage are just not ready for a commitment, he has spelled out to you that he is to young and cant give you what he needs so am afraid all you can do here ... (read in full...)
How soon does it take to get used to wearing a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had full sex for the 1st time last night. I wore a condom.We both wondered beforehand if we'd feel the condom.My g/f said she couldn't and actually sighed a bit with pleasure so I was really pleased. The only thing af...
A. 4 December 2010: Well first off good for you'se that you are using protection thats the main thing. Ok so yeah condoms can look messy and but you shouldnt feel embarresed. You should be comfortable around your girlfriend about these things. After a few times of ... (read in full...)
Lately it feels like my boyfriend doesn't want to spend time with me.
Q. Lately it feels like my boyfriend doesn't want to spend time with me. i haven't seen him in a while and we had made plans and he says hes going out instead of being with me. when we haven't seen each other in awhile. am i tripping or is there ...
A. 4 December 2010: All you can do here am afraid is talk to him and ask him what the story is. Tell him you feel like he is being distant with you and ask him if there is something wrong. Maybe he just needs some space but you need to ask him. Nobody can tell you what ... (read in full...)
He's still far too close to the ex!
Q. I need help. I been having a relationship with my best friend for almost 11 months. We started out as best then later started having feelings for each other. For several months we had a great relationship but then I found out that he still talks to ...
A. 4 December 2010: Ok well it sounds to me like he still loves his ex girlfriend. You need to talk to him about this, if they are only friends then thats fair enough but you need to talk to him and ask him who he wants? Tell him that it is not fair on you to be left ... (read in full...)
She said she can't live with me any more... help!!!
Q. My GF and I recently moved in together in Oct. IM 28 and she is 24. Basically the relationship has moved fast we have only been together for 7 months. We love each and each others company. I thought it would be best to wait at least until spring ...
A. 4 December 2010: Well she is right you do need to trust her, you cant go through her private things, its obvious you have trust issues and the relationship is not going to work if you cant trust her completely. Ok so she has a male friend, its not her fault that he ... (read in full...)
HE seems happy now that he's moved on... but I'm not!
Q. My ex who I believe likes guys and girls but is in love with his best friend has a new pic up of himself with his best friend or some girl taking a picture of him.. Theres a reflection of a girl in the picture.. It hurts to see him moved on or with ...
A. 4 December 2010: Am afraid that there is a reason that he finished the relationship and there is not a lot you can do here to get him back. The more you try the more you will push him away. He ended things so it needs to be up to him if he wants to fix things.
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Should I get involved or should I let her make her own mistake?
Q. Hi, I'd like to ask a question about my friend, let's call her Fiona; she has an on/off boyfriend, lets call him Shrek; and everytime I've spoken to her in the last three weeks or so; she's upset about ...
A. 4 December 2010: Dont get involved in other peoples relationships as you will probably just lose your friend over it. I understand that you are worried but she is entitled to make her own choices, as a friend to her all you can do is be there fore her and dont ... (read in full...)
Crushing on my teaching assistant, how do I let her know?
Q. I'm crushing on a graduate student...who also happens to be my TA. She's almost 4 years older than me (I'm 20), and is very beautiful in and out. She knows me by name and all and we tend to have a lot of one-on-one discussions, so we already have a ...
A. 4 December 2010: Well you know yourself that you cant have a relationship with her while you are enrolled in the course. However there is no harm getting to know her more. Keep things cool, just talk to her when you see her and try and get to know her more as a ... (read in full...)
Is there any truth behind eating certain foods to give you more chance of having a girl or boy?
Q. Im sure this is an old wives tale, but you never know. Everyone here always gives good advice so i figured its worth a shot :) Hubby and i are going to try for our first baby soon (have just stopped the pill and letting my body go back to normal ...
A. 4 December 2010: Hi am afraid there is no truth in it at all, whatever sex your baby is, its do to with the sperm and the egg fertilising nothing to do with your diet or anything else. So am afraid there is nothing that can be done here but to leave it up to fate. ... (read in full...)
Having it out with my son's taxi driver!
Q. I had to have it out with my son's taxi driver today after he didn't do his job properly but I ended up loosing the battle of making my point. Just before he was about to drive off he told me that my son had said from the back of the car that I l...
A. 4 December 2010: It sounds to me like it was just a normal comment. If you think anymore from it then just come out and ask the man what he meant!!... (read in full...)
I've missed my window of opportunity, how do I get him back now?
Q. dear friend I need some advice. things ended with a guy i truly adore last tuesday. I think the problem was down to my ex. my ex shouted at me a while ago telling me he loved me but not in a nice way. my love found out about it and thought i wa...
A. 4 December 2010: Well first off he needs to work on his trust issues before the relationship can be good. He was cheated on in the past therefore he has lost trust in women, its not his fault but he does need to get help for those issues or he will never be able to ... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex, however, she wants to be friends
Q. Hey guys, To explain the extent of my problem I'd have to go back into my relationship to the Summer. My girlfriend and I had been dating for half a year at that point (I realize thats not very long). She had just moved into her first apartment,...
A. 4 December 2010: Well if you are still in love with her, friendship is just not going to work here, because it will prolong your pain as you will always want more than a friendship. Sit down with her and tell her you still love her and ask her what she wants, tell ... (read in full...)
She used to text me nonstop, not so much anymore!
Q. Why wont she text me back dang? Ya she goes with her family but she can text everyone else. It drives me nuts ill talk to her for a little bit then out of nowhere shell just quit texting me. Ill say babe babe and shell say hold on then three hours ...
A. 3 December 2010: Talk to her about it then and ask her whats wrong with her, she will hopefully be truthful with you and you can work on it from there.... (read in full...)
I want to trust her seen as we have come so far already, but I am finding it so hard....
Q. Hi, I know that when in a relationship partners should learn to trust each other. Me and my wife had a serious arguement last night. I know that i should respect my wifes privacy by not looking through her phone, I didnt want to see her messages...
A. 3 December 2010: I think you need to just explain to her that you cant trust her if she is going to lie to you, and give her a chance to earn the trust back. ask her to work hard and not to lie to you, ask her to be honest with you even if it means that you might ... (read in full...)
He talks to me every day and yet doesn't seem to want to date
Q. So, I met this guy about 2 months ago. Since the day we've met we been talking every day. I really like him so far and he seems to like me aswell. We only hungout once, we went to the movies and he paid although i didn't want him to, he insisted. ...
A. 2 December 2010: Maybe he is trying to let you down gently? Its hard to tell, what you need to do is stop asking him to hang out and dont text him or call him. If he contacts you then yea text him back or answer the phone but dont you start off the contact, time ... (read in full...)
How should I approach her? Is she even interested?
Q. Hi, I have a relationship question. For almost a month, I shared a house with guys and ladies. I happened to notice another girl, she's very beautiful in my opinion. She came down in the living room and in front of the mirror, she started combing ...
A. 2 December 2010: 1. Yes well it sounds like she might like you, but you need to get to know each other more before knowing if anything can happen in the future.
2. I think you should leave it up to her, contact the landlord and ask him to pass on your details ... (read in full...)
Why does he back off when things start getting interesting?
Q. Hi guys. This may be long but please bear with me! It started when i stayed at college for a week (im on an animal care course so we have to do a week at college to look after animals) in this week i was put to work with this boy, and this was when ...
A. 2 December 2010: Ok well you mention that he is shy, and no matter how much a girl flirts with a guy he s blind to it. My opinion would be that he likes you but he doesnt no what to do about it as he is scared of rejection. So why dont you just take the bullet and ... (read in full...)
We've had so many ups and downs I don't even know if it's worth saving anymore!
Q. I am 22 years old now. I dated my boyfriend when we were both 19 years old and he was away in the army. We didn't have a great relationship then (mainly long distance), but I was stupid and very immature..as he was too. I ended up dating ...
A. 2 December 2010: It is possible to move on, at the end of the day he wasnt with you therefore he done nothing wrong, ok so this girl wasnt his type but she was probably his rebound and we all make mistakes. If you keep bringing this up then you will end up pushing ... (read in full...)
How can I get her back if we never have time for us?
Q. Hello i am an 18 year old guy and the girl i like is 17. We have known each other for 3 years and became instant friends when we first met. The next year we started dating because things got romantic and we ended up dating for a year. Things w...
A. 2 December 2010: Ok first off you need to get to the bottom of the issue on why she cheated on you...you need to ask her even if it is through texts. She obviously felt there was something missing in your relationship and that is why she cheated and you need to find ... (read in full...)
I'm hoping this class clown is gay.
Q. Theres this boy at school who would thought to be the last person to be gay but i think he is and i want him so bad, i don't know why im attracted to him. He is one of the thuggish type, so people wouldn't think of gay on him but he looks at me ...
A. 2 December 2010: Well its hard to tell from not knowing the guy, there are plenty of gay guys out there that refuse to accept it or try and cover it up. And there are also guys out there who are gay but dont follow the usual sterotype. So just because of his image ... (read in full...)
She used to text me nonstop, not so much anymore!
Q. Why wont she text me back dang? Ya she goes with her family but she can text everyone else. It drives me nuts ill talk to her for a little bit then out of nowhere shell just quit texting me. Ill say babe babe and shell say hold on then three hours ...
A. 2 December 2010: I guess the relationship should be at the stage now that you both dont feel the need to text each other so often, shes at this stage but obviously you are not, you need to get out and live your life do things on a day to day basis and leave your ... (read in full...)
Questions about fooling around.....
Q. [Mod Note: 2 questions from the same poster merged into one] Question 1: hey when me and my boyfriend are messing around and he puts his hand down my pants, i dont know whether i should put him down his? and i dont know whens the right time too, and...
A. 2 December 2010: Q1. Just do what you feel comfortable doing, if you dont feel comfortable touching him then dont, but if you do want to and you are just nervous then ask him what he would like you to do and let him guide you.
Q2. It may be hurting you because ... (read in full...)
I want to trust her seen as we have come so far already, but I am finding it so hard....
Q. Hi, I know that when in a relationship partners should learn to trust each other. Me and my wife had a serious arguement last night. I know that i should respect my wifes privacy by not looking through her phone, I didnt want to see her messages...
A. 2 December 2010: Ok well im sure she just was used to calling him honey and that is why she done it. At the end of the day its just a pet name we put on people, and he used to be a big part of her life therefore she is probably still friends with him as she may ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to move on when its clear the relationship will not work with his baby mama?
Q. my boyfriend has recently had a baby with his ex, he is now seven months old. we got together eight months ago and i new about the birth coming along. he had broken up with me a while ago and begun going out with his ex only to realise once aga...
A. 2 December 2010: He is just sensitive and feels he is doing something wrong, he obviously still cares alot for the mother of his child and you need to question is he still in love with her, because it sounds to me like he is. sit down and talk to him ask him does he ... (read in full...)
I cannot trust anything he does!
Q. Heya.. Im 20 years old and currently in a relatioship of 7 months. When my partner and i met it was realy nly for casual sex ( ano it sounds harsh) but one thing lead to another and we fell for each other. I found out just before we started to date ...
A. 2 December 2010: Ok first off you need to get your own issues sorted, because it sounds like you are very insecure and you are getting help for that which is good. But hun you cant go through his emails and texts, even if he is writing to other girls he is entitled ... (read in full...)
I think I might be a lesbian and in love with my best friend!
Q. I think I'm in love with my best friend! What do I do? When I was at one of my friends parties we were playing the usial spin the bottle, 5 minutes in heaven, that sort of games. But with a difference, we decided that gay was OK to make it more i...
A. 2 December 2010: Well first off you are only young and at your age most of us go through phases of being attracted to the same sex, it doesnt mean that you are a lesbian you are just wanting to experiment which can be completely normal so dont try and label yourself ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my teacher. What should I do?
Q. Im 18 this year and Im in love with my teacher. It's not just a crush as you may say, Im crying when I ask this question. What should I do? Im in a bad mood everyday and I dont feel like eating anymore. I know that it's very stupid but you see, I ...
A. 2 December 2010: Its quite normal to develop feelings for a teacher but you need to understand that even if he did like you, he cant do anything about it as he would ruin his career and never be able to teach again. So first off you need to tell yourself that ... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to talk to a girl and ask her to dance?
Q. hello friends I am 15 i am not in a relationship uptil now,i just want someone to love me,noone loves me,I want someone to hug me when I am sad,wipe my tears when I cry,noone does,it....it just hurts very badly, soo my question is I study in a boy...
A. 2 December 2010: Well you dont tell a girl straight away that you really like her because this will put her off, you need to build up a friendship with a girl first, and be a friend to her for a while, get to know each other and then you can ask her out or tell her ... (read in full...)
I think there might be something going on between my husband and his ex
Q. Hi I have posted before and had great help from members I need advice again. My Husband treated me terribly over the last two and a half years we have been together there has been lies, being tight with money not bothering with my kids getting ...
A. 2 December 2010: If am honest with you which i will be then i honestly dont see much point in this relationship. At the end of the day there has to be trust, and its obvious that he has left you insecure and you just dont trust him. It does sound like he makes up ... (read in full...)
How do I prepare myself to let him go?
Q. I have been dating this man for about 7 months now, it is not a serious relationship and we have been honest with each other from the start about what to expect from this. He has always maintained that he really likes me, loves spending time wi...
A. 2 December 2010: Well if am honest with you, we can never properly prepare ourselves for a situation like this, therefore there is not a lot of advice i can give you am afraid. All i will say is just keep am open mind about it, dont say to yourself that it will be ... (read in full...)
Has oral sex caused stretching?
Q. I am a mature woman who needs advice. My husband has erectile dysfunction, can only get full penetration if he takes viagra. He cannot orgasm with penetration and normally finishes himself off. He is okay with oral sex and takes great enjoyment with ...
A. 2 December 2010: Hi no oral sex should not be causing the stretching unless he is being unbelievably rough which would be hurting you, the inner lips coming out over the outer lips is quite a normal thing to happen as we get older so i wouldnt worry about it.... (read in full...)
How do I get noticed by Mr Right?
Q. What do guys want in a dating,marriage relationship? How do I get noticed by mr. right?...
A. 2 December 2010: All you can do is be yourself, work on your self confidence so that you are happy and confident about yourself, walk with your head held high and smile at people. If you come across as a happy and easy going person then men wont feel intimidated to ... (read in full...)
How do I get the courage to talk to a girl and ask her to dance?
Q. hello friends I am 15 i am not in a relationship uptil now,i just want someone to love me,noone loves me,I want someone to hug me when I am sad,wipe my tears when I cry,noone does,it....it just hurts very badly, soo my question is I study in a boy...
A. 2 December 2010: Well first of you need to concentrate on being happy on your own first, because if you dont you will come across as being clingy and needy, you need to enjoy yourself at the moment, hang out with friends, do hobbies that you like and make yourself ... (read in full...)
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