Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 2 February 2011: I think you just need to accept that he doesnt want to have any contact and move on. If you keep trying to contact him then you are taking things to far and he will think that you are being clingy and needy when a relationship is over that often ... (read in full...)
Is he still faking or is he desperate? Or do you think I've surmised his real reasons?
Q. Well, I'm 15 and gay, and probably full of overused cliché, but I was with a guy for 9ish months, then he broke it with me. Obviously I was distraught, considering he was the first person I'd had feelings for, first person I'd ever been with, and a ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi well i could almost safetly say that he is completely gay and always will be he is showing all of the classic teenage signs. First of can i say well done to you for coming out to all of your friends that takes real courage and strength to show ... (read in full...)
Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 19 January 2011: Ok so i dont think the letter is a bad idea realistically but is he living with his current girlfriend? Because you dont want to risk the fact of her getting her hands on his mail and then world war three breaking out, if he lives on his own then ... (read in full...)
Would it be strange to expect it to just start up in the summer where it left off?
Q. I have always had this tiny crush on this boy 2 years ahead of me. This has been for at least 4 or 5 years - he was my friend's brother's friend. It never really meant anything to me, I just always admired him. As we all got older, our social ...
A. 18 January 2011: Well yes its not just going to start up again in the summer as you will both have changed as people within those months. However i would suggest that you both keep in contact. Keep some level of commnication between the two of you until the summer ... (read in full...)
What is the easiest way to talk to him without going directly to him?
Q. I want to know what the way and how to start talking with a boy that just live behind my house instead of going directly suggest any other way of talking with him. I haven't talk with that boy ever before and i really want to talk because i love ...
A. 18 January 2011: Your asking the impossible here, you are looking for an easy way out and am afraid there is none. If you want to get to know him more then you need to TALK to him. There is no other way about it nobody has any magical powers to just be able to get ... (read in full...)
Am I falling for him? Is it too soon?
Q. i have been in a new relationship for 4 days now, i have been in so much pain with fallin in love because of my past, but when im around my bf i just dont care about anything else and when he holds me and kisses me he doesnt want to let go and nor ...
A. 18 January 2011: No it doesnt mean that you are falling for him it just means that you enjoy his company and if you are in a relationship with him then you should want to be around him.
Ok so you have been hurt in the past therefore am guessing its not even jus... (read in full...)
Mom, it's all about her!
Q. Hi guys again! Ive been struggling a little with something and I just wanted to get some more brainpower at work on this, maybe you lovely aunts can help me out again. I’ve come to realize I really don’t much like my mother. She’s manipulative and...
A. 18 January 2011: Yes it is ok to feel like this ok so i guess you just need to accept that your mother can be a bit of an attention seeker. No it doesnt mean that there is anything wrong with you because you are feeling like this and you will always love your mother ... (read in full...)
What shall I do when my wife spends the last night here with her male "friend"?
Q. My wife is going to another country tomorrow for a couple of months. Normally we don't spend much time together because of her job. I stronglly expected we will have a good romantic night today. I told her we will go for dinner tonight, she agreed ...
A. 18 January 2011: It sounds to me like your wife has no respect for you, she barely ever sees you and when she does have the oppertunity to see you she is out with someone else and doesnt even give you a second thought. Oh come on you can do better than this. I know ... (read in full...)
She wouldn't remove this ex from her facebook!
Q. my fiance has had a threesome about 10 years ago, the guys is still on her facebook, i feel terrible to look at his pics, when i asked her to remove him, she said that it would not solve the problem, all i wanted to hear is yes, right now this is ...
A. 18 January 2011: She was right it wont solve the problem, your problem has to do with her actually having a three some and nothing to do with the guy being on her facebook page. Are you really going to risk losing this girl because of something she done 10 years ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cut us up because he messed about and that's put me in harm's way?????
Q. I'm really hoping I get a lot of answers cause I need all I can get. My boyfriend bailed out last weekend. He wouldn't tell me what caused him to break us off. He wasn't mean sbout, if anything looked like he was in a dar place. He just keeping ...
A. 18 January 2011: Well if my boyfriend done this to me and messaged me saying this then i would automatically assume that he means he has been with another girl or multiple girls. He finished with you as he has messed you around by not being faithful and not being ... (read in full...)
Do I just completely remove myself from her life?
Q. Hey there...so this is a follow up to this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/parents-slip-us-up-when-they-smelled-weed.html I suggest reading that to get the full story. I felt it was alright to make a new Question as it i...
A. 18 January 2011: No dont give her a valentines card and id advice against the note. You tried to tell her how you felt but she didnt want to hear it therefore she is not going to want to read the note either. She probably knows already how you feel about her and she ... (read in full...)
Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 17 January 2011: Well he is the one that started seeing someone therefore i dont understand why you should be the one that has to restore the faith. I guess all you can do is to tell him that you went out dating other guys because you were trying to move on from him ... (read in full...)
My husband won't slow down during sex and it hurts!
Q. I try to tell my husband to slow down but he does not listen but I thinkit is hurting because on jan10 and I was having sex and I was in pain that same day so I think that's why so I don't know what to do anymore ...
A. 16 January 2011: Tell him how much he is hurting you. Maybe you could go on top so that you can control the speed and the depth. I wouldnt go as far as saying he is raping you though that is going to far he is possibly just getting carried away with himself. But you ... (read in full...)
Is a 10 year age gap ok?
Q. I'm 26 next month on the 28th of Febuary, and their is a guy I like, he is 10 years older than me, he's 35. Is that age difference okay - someone who is 10 years older than myself? I know people say that age is just a number, and it all depends ...
A. 16 January 2011: I agree here, if you get on well with him then there is nothing stopping you. Who cares what other people have to think. If you are scared that you will be refused drink then just carry your passport with you just in case of that situation. But yes ... (read in full...)
The pain of mistrust
Q. I really love my girlfriend and i don't play games or double date, in fact i hate it. There is hardly a thing about me that my girlfriend does not know. Every day of our life, i always tell her how special she is to me and how much i TRULY LOVE her. ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok your girlfriend has difficulties with trust issues. Remember that no matter what you do or say these issues are hers and not yours. You say you have done nothing wrong but no matter how much you try and convince her of the truth she is not going ... (read in full...)
Should I stay at home and deal with my family's blackmailing or move out?
Q. So, its been a while since my sister revealed my intimate relationship with my 1st cousin to my mom. Ever since I have been forbidden to see him or have any type of contact with him. Although I know I can get in to much trouble and get him i ...
A. 16 January 2011: Well i guess your family are never going to accept that you are wanting to have a relationship with your first cousin. This is illegal in many places and also if you were both to have children there is a high risk of birth defects therefore you need ... (read in full...)
Should I call him back... or should I wait for him?
Q. Yesterday him and i were supposed to hang out..i have been kind of busy and have not been able to see him i told him the day before yesterday that we would hang yesterday and to not make any other plans but me cuz i wanted alone time with him. he ...
A. 16 January 2011: Well you dont say why you became in a bad mood and yelling at him, did he refuse to comeover when you felt the need to yell? I guess the both of you just need to sit down and talk to each other about how you feel. Communication is the best thing in ... (read in full...)
Should we get separated? We do argue quite a bit.
Q. My wife and I have been in marriage for 7 years. We have 2 kids. We both love each other. For the past 2 years we don't have much time to spend together because of her job. She run her own business. She come home late, around 1:00am everyday. I work ...
A. 16 January 2011: The both of you love each other and the stresses of work are coming in between the both of you. I dont think you should get seperated you just both need to work hard on making the relationship work. I think you both need to sit down some night and ... (read in full...)
Did he think I was a cheap woman?
Q. Hello guys, plz i need a sincere advice, i met a wonderful man when we were having a business meeting, and we started texting right after the meeting and decided to meet the next evening before i leave town since we don't live in the same town! i ...
A. 16 January 2011: Nobody can answer this am afraid except for him. Everyone thinks differently and develops different opinions of people therefore nobody on here can tell you what he thinks.
However if you want my opinion he is still in contact with you which is... (read in full...)
The saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder is true, but this absence is killing me. I can't stand that I'm not with her anymore,
Q. I'll try to make this as short as possible with as least amount of details as I can because if I wrote out all my feelings about this girl I'd probably run out of space. I know it's really difficult to express how you feel about a girl over the ...
A. 16 January 2011: Your not going to like my advice but you need to move on. You say you dont want to but if you dont you are just keeping yourself miserable and you know that deep down.
The best way to move on is to cut all contact dont message her call her or m... (read in full...)
I sent him a note but he won't know it's from me because I forgot to sign it!
Q. I wrote a not to a guy I really like, but i dont know him at all we only talked a couple of times. Well on the note I asked him if he wanted to go to winter ball with me, and had my friend deliever it she explained to him it wasnt from her but here ...
A. 16 January 2011: I think you need to work on your confidence. Although a note is not a bad idea there will still be a time where you will need to talk to him face to face. I think you should start slowely. First learn to love yourself. Do things that make you feel ... (read in full...)
I have asked him to have no contact with her but it continues
Q. I've been in a relationship for 2 and a half years with a man with alot of history with women. He is a very sweet talker and women love him. He met a woman 8 months after we were together at a ski resort where he works. There was no sex involved ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok so yes it sounds like your man might be a bit of a womaiser therefore i understand why you feel worried. She sounds like she is falling for him in a sense whether it be romantically or just a friendship she does want him in her life.
Ok so... (read in full...)
I can't cope with the fact that she has no time for me!
Q. I'm at the end of my rope here, I've been togheter with my gf for about 6,5 months, and during that time I've seen her once a week, sometimes twice a week, but never for more then 3-6 hours at a time. She made it clear that she wants to study h...
A. 16 January 2011: Well i understand that you are scared to talk to her about these kind of things in case it puts the relationship in danger but you cant bottle things up because yes eventually you will explode and everything will come flooding out. You need to be ... (read in full...)
Help! Am I doing the right thing by not saying anything?
Q. here we go, my gf left me just before christmas, she decided to go out with her flat mate, he had always liked her a year before she met me and she had had several bf during that time, he was her only friend and he started seeing another girl at his ...
A. 16 January 2011: Well yes i think you are doing the right thing by not contacting her, i dont think its an excuse to go out with him because she doesnt want to lose him as a friend it sounds like she is confused and she doesnt know who she wants. I think the best ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to find a healthy sexual relationship with an attractive female?
Q. I have not had sex in well over 4 years now. I'm only 25 years old and really feel terrible about this and angry that my love life has turned out to be so non-existent. I haven't even dated somebody more than a few weeks during any of that time ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok first off you need to work on your shyness because this is probable preventing you from talking to girls and getting to know them. So you need to work on getting more self confidence. You obviously have a weak self image so you need to improve on ... (read in full...)
I like him MORE than a friend... how do I tell him?
Q. Well I think I like this guy who is my friend and he knows I like him and I want to talk to him about it but I dont know what to say or how he will react? And I dont know if he likes me like that or not so I dont know what to do. Please help"...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok so i know that it can be really scary to approach the subject that you like one of your friends to his face. You say he already knows but believe me he probably wont believe it until he hears it from you first. So you really need to get the ... (read in full...)
Dating etiquette...???
Q. Can someone advise me about dating etiquette and so on? I have been on three "dates" with a man that I really like but I am not sure if this is just the normal way that things go as I have not dated for a long time. We are colleagues, and each time ...
A. 16 January 2011: It sounds to me like yes he really is interested in you. Without a doubt i would say that he has great time for you and really wants to spend time with you so thats all good.
Now if you were feeling a little unwell it may have come across like you... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 16 January 2011: Off course it is going to feel right and natural with him sweetie because he is your ex and you are comfortable with him and i bet you just imagined that you were both still together and that it felt like you both were still a couple and everything ... (read in full...)
Feelings for uncle, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Recently I've developed this sort of crush on my divorced uncle and I don't know why. Honestly I have had a thing for him for a while but I always put it back to the back of my mind and forget about it. Plus I've had other boyfriends in the past. ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok first off dont beat yourself up over this there is nothing wrong with you and just remember that. It sounds to me like he is playing a big part in your life as he is living with you'se at the moment. It could be possible that you are mixing up ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to stay sexually attracted to the same girl
Q. I can't seem to stay sexually attracted to the same girl. I can love the person but after few weeks or months I just cant have sex with her... all of my past girlfriends where gorgeously looking But really after some time I get into a battle w...
A. 16 January 2011: Well i think your best bet would be to go and see a therapist. Because it might actually be that you are addicted to sleeping with different woman. I think the best option for you is to talk to someone professional and tell them everything. Its ... (read in full...)
Should I hold on and give it some time or should I let go and move on with life?
Q. My wife wants a divorce after 8 years of marriage. We have drifted apart blaming each other for our failures in the marriage. She claims that our love has died. We have a daughter that is 7 years old. 3 years a go I had file for divorce do to the ...
A. 16 January 2011: Hi well first off if she has told you that she doesnt love you anymore this should be a clear sign that you need to move on. However it does concern me that this all came after she had a secret meeting with her ex. Maybe she was left feeling ... (read in full...)
How to talk dirty on IM?
Q. My guy and I can't be together at the moment (long distance relationship) and we IM a lot to keep in touch. Lately he wants to start talking a little dirty with me. I like this and want to go along with it, but the thing is, I am a virgin with no ...
A. 16 January 2011: Well i guess everybody is different and different people want to hear different things. You dont need to be experienced to talk dirty. It just takes time to get used to it and also remember you are only typing the words therefore there is nothing to ... (read in full...)
If I tell him I miss him do you think it will scare him off?
Q. For several months now, I've been in this sort of involvement with someone. Nothing official, and I want to take things steady due to past experiences of rushing into things. I feel positive about this relationship and I am sure that he likes me. T...
A. 15 January 2011: Well it sounds like the both of you are getting on great and he has showed that he wants to spend time with you therefore i dont see it as a bad idea in saying i miss you. Its a nice thing for somebody to hear and therefore i think you should just ... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me now when things were going so right?
Q. Me and my crush go to college and are on the same course. we were in the same classes at school so we've known each other for years. thing is i think i'm in love with him, i mean i have had crushes before but i've never felt this strongly about a ...
A. 15 January 2011: Ok well it does sound like at the start he did really like you as well but obviously something changed for him to start acting this way. Maybe it was a case that he thought you werent interested therefore he gave up flirting with you and moved on. I ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm gambling my happiness here...
Q. I have a boyfriend who kissed another girl and stayed over at her house behind my back. they had just kissed and he told me the next day.He said he had liked her for over a year before falling in love with me. He doesnt want to be with her but think ...
A. 15 January 2011: Well at least he was honest and open with you thats a start and it shows that he will tell you the truth which is a great start. Now it is totally up to yourself here. If you feel that you can trust him not to cheat again and that the relationship ... (read in full...)
How long should I give her to have "her break?"
Q. So i have been dating this girl for almost a year we have talked about marriage having kids, then she finds out some bad medical news then tell me she needs a break, some time alone. she still calls me 3 times a day, still have sex talk for hours on ...
A. 15 January 2011: I think the best thing you can do is just wait for her to bring it up. Am sure it is driving you crazy not knowing where you stand but she did say she needed space therefore i think you should just wait it out and see when she mentions it to you. ... (read in full...)
What am I missing? Why can't I move past this?
Q. I posted a question a while back about a guy i broke up with because of the way he talked to me and never really had time for me and how i am brokenhearted and afraid to move on with my life because i feel that I gave him my heart and opened up to ...
A. 15 January 2011: Never compare yourself with another woman it will rip your self esteem to shreds and you are putting yourself down. Ill tell you straight out what she has, she has two children with him and 20 years off being together. It is nothing about you as a ... (read in full...)
Female advice needed, what is love?
Q. I want to know what love is. I have female friends and I basically want to marry the girl at the first couple time we talk. But then, I realize... I was not falling in love with any of them. I was just being a male that want to have sex. I real...
A. 15 January 2011: No i dont recommend just dating one of your friends for the sake of it, she may end up getting hurt and you wouldnt be true to yourself. I guess a guy is attracted to a girl by her looks thats a knowing fact and off course you need to be attracted ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he will block his ex, I'm struggling to believe him.
Q. Hello, I really need some help. Ive been wif my bf for about 8 months now and we were doing great. We really do love each other more than anything and I have no doubts but the other day his x gf told him she wants him back n bla bla bla. I just ...
A. 15 January 2011: I understand why it would upset you that his ex girlfriend wants him back off course you are going to be a little bit paranoid and scared. But it sounds to me like it is you he wants to be with you and he has been with you for 8 months this shows ... (read in full...)
Is this my fault or his?
Q. So I I've Been talking to this guy on and off for over a year now.. We fight all the time about nothing. We never really hung out before so we decided to a few days ago. To me things went great. We joked around and had a great time and we kissed for ...
A. 15 January 2011: To be honest i wouldnt put the blame on you or him. Its just one of these things, maybe a clash of personalities. The one thing that was done that was wrong was your friend texting him. This should never have happened because a relationship is ... (read in full...)
I want to let him know I like him, but with his mother being recently deceased it's bad timing!
Q. I am in love with this man. I know I am, but I don't think at this present moment it is the best time to tell him. Just recently his mother died. I don't think I should be telling him that I do because there is a bit of an age gap and at the mome...
A. 15 January 2011: You are both adults in which case you should never let something like age stop you in expressing how you feel. I understand that you are concerned as his mother has just passed away but if am honest i think most men would be flattered to be told ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and am pregnant with his baby, but I miss sex with this other man!
Q. hi to all, i am in a relationship and am currently 4 months pregnant for my boyfriend, i cheated on my boyfriend with this guy before getting pregnant and i broke it off, he than came back and wanted us to continue but i told him i couldn't because ...
A. 15 January 2011: Sweetie dont go down this path. You are risking everything with your boyfriend you will end up losing him and hurting him really badly. If you love your boyfriend then stop seeing this other guy and concentrate on your relationship and the baby that ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 15 January 2011: I think you made a mistake by sleeping with him, if this guy doesnt trust you then there is no way he will get back with you and it will only make you feel worse by having sex with him believe me. It wont be a pretty path to go down you will end up ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with the fact that she has no time for me!
Q. I'm at the end of my rope here, I've been togheter with my gf for about 6,5 months, and during that time I've seen her once a week, sometimes twice a week, but never for more then 3-6 hours at a time. She made it clear that she wants to study h...
A. 14 January 2011: Well i guess hun that you need to answer this one yourself. If you feel that you arent getting anything from this relationship then you are best to cut your ties now and look for a girl that is not as busy as your current girlfriend. It looks like ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 14 January 2011: You need to be straight out with him, if this scares him off then its obvious he doesnt want to commit to you, therefore you need to accept that and move on. ... (read in full...)
Do I just completely remove myself from her life?
Q. Hey there...so this is a follow up to this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/parents-slip-us-up-when-they-smelled-weed.html I suggest reading that to get the full story. I felt it was alright to make a new Question as it i...
A. 14 January 2011: Well she has made it clear that she needs space at the moment for whatever reasons. Therefore you really need to respect her wishes and not contact her, let her have time to think about what she wants and let her contact you. To me she has made up ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 14 January 2011: All you can do is be open and honest with him. Ok yes he did want to meet up with you but it sounds like he is really confused at the minute and you need to let him have time to make his mind up. I think thats what he needs most at the moment.
... (read in full...)
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