My foots out the door and I'm ready for a divorce.
Q. I've now been married for a year and 2 months. People always say the first years the hardest when we spent half that year not living together... three months last year i went to my parents for that time.. caeuse we were somewhat rocky.. and i needed ...
A. 19 February 2011: Well hunny it sounds to me like you have made up your mind, therefore I think you should go ahead with the divorcee. If he is making you feel small and is not meeting you in the middle then he is not worth the pain. It sounds to me like he doesnt ... (read in full...)
He denied being interested, but his actions seem to say something else; what does it mean?!
Q. I've been getting mixed vibes from this guy for the last 6 (give or take) months. From the extremes of playfighting with me and teaching me to play cod for 6hrs, to completely ignoring me as if I were invisible. His own sister came up to me an...
A. 19 February 2011: Ok well it is obvious that he does like you, but he is fighting his feelings for some reason. You say you told his sister that you liked him but he reported back to her saying he wasnt interested. Well it could be possible he doesnt want to ask you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend taking advantage of me being jealous!
Q. i am 13 and my bf is 14. im a very jealous person but my bf seems to be taking advantage of this, one day he came out of lesson telling me how big this other girls breasts are and her bra size. he has done this to me with many girls on many dif...
A. 19 February 2011: Hunny am afraid to tell you if he is going to act like this you are better of without him. He knows how you feel and yet he carries on hurting you intentionally. Usually I would say talk to him and tell him how you feel but he already knows ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel hurt by her moving on so fast?
Q. After our on and off relationship got rocky (once again) for the first time in our 2 years together i broke up with her. (she admitted shes been out of love with me for a while, I still feel/felt very much in love and didnt see the point if she wasn...
A. 19 February 2011: Stop giving her money. She is not worth it, she chose him therefore if she is in trouble then let him pay her way. Its not up to you now sweetie dont let her take you for a fool.... (read in full...)
He kissed my best friend! How do I trust him again?
Q. Hi everyone, okay so here is my story/question. On New years Eve I was hanging out with my "best friend" and my boyfriend and my boyfriend's best friend. We were all drinking and having a good time. I went in the other room to do something, and came ...
A. 19 February 2011: Yeah I understand that, but maybe she didnt want to hurt you, he was the one that done it so he should have been the one to come forward and tell you he made a mistake. Just be careful thats all am saying there might be some day you will need your ... (read in full...)
What shall I do with her?
Q. Recently I fancied a very female friend of mine. We used to talk a lot and once time I discovered that she was upset due to another guy, who was not asking her out but they both like each other. I went up to her and listen to all those things that ...
A. 18 February 2011: It sounds to me like she is not a very nice girl at al. She let you down, betrayed your confidence and told you things that she knew would hurt you, its almost like she likes seeing you suffer or maybe she is enjoying the attention of someone else ... (read in full...)
There must be something I can do...???
Q. dear cupid the guy i liked has ruined his life. hes missing to much school he never got into collage he leaving to do nothing he drinks to much smokes to much does drugs why i have the crush on his because the boy behind all of that is the ...
A. 18 February 2011: Darling am so sorry that you are watching someone you like ruin there life but there is nothing you can do sweetie to help him, if he is only the same age as you and he is smoking, drinking and doing drugs well then he is not going to listen to you. ... (read in full...)
I have a huge dilemma going on in my life at the moment
Q. Hi, I have a huge dilemma going on in my life at the moment: I am in love with one of my male friends (and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way) but I'm not sure whether or not I should initiate an intimate relationship with him. You see, I'm in ...
A. 18 February 2011: I think you need to stop worrying about the future and concentrate on the present. I mean your not even in a relationship with this man and before anything can happen you are worrying about when or if it goes wrong and you are both living together. ... (read in full...)
This guy is interested me, but I still like another guy, its fustrating!
Q. Hey to everyone who reads and replies to this. To make everything short, I have liked this one guy for about 6 months but nothing has come of it at all, just sex one time and im coming to terms he was a waste of breath. About 4-5 months ago I was 'd...
A. 18 February 2011: Date this guy it might be good for you. You need to accept that the other guy is not interested in you, it was only a one night stand for him and however hard it is you need to tell yourself he does not want you and you need to move on. Dating this ... (read in full...)
Help me get my self esteem back...
Q. I have a problem that's been irritating me. I never feel I'm beautiful. My friends keep telling me that I'm pretty and even a lot of guys have been interested in me and said I'm attractive but I've never felt that way. I know it's lack of ...
A. 18 February 2011: So many young girls have no self esteem or confidence and it can be very hard to gain these things in our world today, expecially since we are surrounded by air brushed photos of girls that seem perfect and we feel like we are not. But i dont think ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of dreaded stretch marks???
Q. hi everyone okay lets get to the point I'm 11 stone 11lbs Im not particularly fat i don't look 'massive' i just look a bit Podgey but!.. i am covered in stretch marks i have them from the top of my thighs to just underneath the back of my calves i ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well your still a teenager and you are still growing, and a rapid growth spurt or weight gain is not always the only reason for stretch marks. Believe it or not your doctor was right you are at the age where it is perfectly normal for stretch marks. ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by different types of porn?
Q. Hey guys, basically i am concerned about my mental health as recently i have been thinking about all the porn i have viewed in my lifetime im 19 and started watching it when i was 13, basically i have gone through a variety of it some of which is ...
A. 18 February 2011: Sweetie there is nothing wrong with you, so please do not worry. All young guys and sometimes girls as well like to watch variety and go through stages of experimenting. All of the above types of porn you have mentioned are all pretty normal phases ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man...
Q. I'm a daycare teacher and currently having an affair with one of my parents. I know it's horrible but I'm enjoying every second of it. Every morning he drops his child off we chat but don't flirt to not make it obvious. But we know deep down we want ...
A. 18 February 2011: Honest answer? Yes you should feel guilty. This man is married and has children therefore you should feel bad that you are probably going to wreck a family home. You work with children and worst of all you work with his child, looking at that child ... (read in full...)
Facebook agony
Q. Hey, I want yor opinions if you think I'm being crazy. I met this guy on Facebook. In fact we grew up in the same place and we got chatting. We met up and i really liked him says he is crazy about me etc. Floating around in a dream world all ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well no you are not crazy everyone reacts differently. But you need to remember that men are always going to look, its second nature to them. But also it is only early days for you both so if you were to bring this up now he might sense that you are ... (read in full...)
How often do girls check out guys packages?
Q. How often do girls check out guys packages? I know guys are always looking at cleavage and bootys, but I want to know how often chicks check out a mans package. I sometimes feel chicks are checking out me package as I walk by....
A. 18 February 2011: Actually in my opinion not very often. Cleavage and bootys are very clear and visible to see through clothes but as for a mans package well it can be quite hard to tell under clothes unless he has an erection and yes that will grab peoples attention ... (read in full...)
Big trust issues...
Q. ok, don't know where to start and don't normally do this but here goes.... I am having a bit of trouble in the love life department :) I am going out with my boyfriend for the past 4 years and we have had our fair share off ups and downs.. ...
A. 18 February 2011: Hunny you are really insecure and you have no self confidence. Even if things werent to work out with you and your boyfriend you would carry the exact same things in to the next relationship. Im sure him cheating at the start didnt help but after 4 ... (read in full...)
My annoying best friend
Q. My best girl friend who says I am hers too never hugs me or shows affection she does though with other guys who aren't apparently her best friend. I am 14 by the way, she has liked me a lot of times and we have a long friendship history but why ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well it is possible she doesnt show you affection as she might not feel comfortable doing this. She may not want to over step the best friend boundry. She currently has a boyfriend therefore she may feel like she shouldnt be showing you affection or ... (read in full...)
I like someone I've never spoken to
Q. Hi I am 14 quite young I know for relationships but I know of a girl who likes me but I am not attracted to her and there is another girl who I have never spoken to but i am definitely falling for her I even had a romantic dream about her please ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well if you do not like this girl that likes you then you need to be honest with her, just tell her straight that you are flattered but that you do not like her in that way as you like someone else.
After you have done that then pluck up your cou... (read in full...)
What is the best time/day to call a guy in this situation?
Q. I met this guy in a bar/club and we really hit it off. He added me to facebook but hasn't replied to my text a. I think the reason he isn't calling is cos he still thinks I'm in a relationship (forgot to update facebook). I know he'll be busy du...
A. 18 February 2011: If I were you I would try and not come across as being really clingy as you may scare him off a little bit. Update your facebook to being single then maybe give him time to write back to you. If you keep contacting him you may send the message that ... (read in full...)
I sent her a Valentine's card and she hasn't replied?
Q. Long story short, met a girl in Uni during the first week in a club. Flirted a LOT, danced to the point we were practically f*kin on the dancefloor. We were SO comfortable with each other it was unbelievable. I told her i liked her when we were bot...
A. 18 February 2011: Well am sorry but if you told her last year how you felt and she wasnt interested then it is likely that this girl really does just see you as a friend and she might just be naturally a flirty person. Therefore I think the best thing you can do is ... (read in full...)
Has he filled my head with false hopes?
Q. Recently a man i am desperately in love with has moved to the other side of the world for two years. Before going he came to visit me at college and told me (when drunk... :/?) that he loves me and i'll be his one day. now he's gone and all i ca...
A. 18 February 2011: Well if he was drunk then hunny its really hard to tell if he meant it. If he loved you then i think he would have left contact details for you to be able to keep in touch with him. Am guessing he never as if he had you could ask him if he meant it. ... (read in full...)
Lost my girlfriend to a Turkish guy!
Q. I am from the Philippines, and had a girlfriend for the past 1.5 years. Our relationship has been very good. Last July 2010, she left for one middle eastern country to work in one top-notch hotel. Her contract was suppose to be for 2 years. ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well am sure you would agree that not 100% of philippine men are exactly the same in there morals and the same should be said about turkish men, they are not all the same therefore nobody on this can answer your questions really. He may love her and ... (read in full...)
My husband never wants intimacy.
Q. My husband never wants intimacy. It started a few years ago, and I wanted to leave, but it is a 20 more year marriage, with children. It's not easy to throw it away, especially we have lots of problems too with children too. So it is not too happy ...
A. 18 February 2011: You need to talk to him, tell him exactly how you feel and tell him you are willing to listen to his problems and help him work them out but explain to him that if things dont change then you are going to file for divorce and give it six months for ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband, not for this other man, but to get out of a miserable marriage.
Q. I have been married for 8 years to a sweet and sensitive man. As with any relationship, we have had our ups and downs. We have a 5 month old son and I love my boy more than anything and he comes first in my decision. About 4 years ago we started h...
A. 18 February 2011: The only advice I can give you is to get out of the marriage. Tell him you are unhappy and you do not love him and that you want a divorcee. It is your only option if you are unhappy. But please stop seeing this other man until you are single again. ... (read in full...)
He kissed my best friend! How do I trust him again?
Q. Hi everyone, okay so here is my story/question. On New years Eve I was hanging out with my "best friend" and my boyfriend and my boyfriend's best friend. We were all drinking and having a good time. I went in the other room to do something, and came ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well first off you say that he kissed your best friend? If he was the one that kissed her then why does she get dropped? I know that you are in love with him and that is fair enough but am sure if she was your best friend then she should deserve a ... (read in full...)
She said she loves me as a brother!!! What gives???
Q. Hi, I had girlfriend, we started off on a very fast pace wanting to do everything in the shortest possible time. I thought that she was the girl i needed until i realised that she did not care for me like i cared for her cause she could not text nor ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well if she said it like that then she obviously loves you but not in the way you hope. She may love you as a friend but nothing more. Therefore i think the best thing you can do is take time out and ask yourself could you handle being just friends ... (read in full...)
Ex is avoiding me... why do men act scary?
Q. Ex is avoiding me... why do men act scary? Well my ex is currently married with kids and recently I expressed to him that I did have feelings a little only b/c he kept contacting me whenever he signs online. (Occasionally so I started to catch fe...
A. 18 February 2011: Yea I think it would be a bad idea to meet up with this ex. As it will create a whole drama for you. Old feelings will come rushing back to you and you may not be able to control them. The way he has been talking about the past shows he still ... (read in full...)
She wants to ask out another guy and doesn't know how friends will react.
Q. My friend b was totally in love with her bf a, but she kept thinking he was avoiding her... she finally go so sick of it and asked him what the matter was... he told her that he wasn't used to dating only one girl that he wanted to see other ppl to. ...
A. 18 February 2011: Well I think she should talk to her friend C and ask her how she feels about it. As she may still be hurting and it wouldnt be nice if a friendship was destroyed over a boy. Therefore she should tell C how she feels and ask for her opinion and if ... (read in full...)
Could a girl would have sex with another guy she is familiar with in an attempt to forget a man she loves?
Q. I really need some feedback, seriously. I'm 39, male, just divorced. My ex and I created a company some 13 years ago, right after we started our relationship. She is lovely and smart and loves me very much in the past 12 years. We got marrie...
A. 18 February 2011: Yes i do believe that a girl would have sex with someone to try and get over someone she loves. It is called rebound and it is really common. If am honest I dont know what you should do now, I think the best thing for you is to take sometime on your ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel hurt by her moving on so fast?
Q. After our on and off relationship got rocky (once again) for the first time in our 2 years together i broke up with her. (she admitted shes been out of love with me for a while, I still feel/felt very much in love and didnt see the point if she wasn...
A. 17 February 2011: No it is not wrong for you to be hurt or upset over this, it is completely normal to feel like this. But you must remember that everyone deals with relationship break ups differently, she could have possibly been with him on the rebound as she may ... (read in full...)
Looking for the best for my daughter but things aren't going the way they should.
Q. Hi Readers, I have a serious problem here that I feel I just can't cope with any longer. My daughter is at Boarding School at present. She won a Scholarship at an Agricultural College worth normally $18,300 per year. My daughter was not happy at...
A. 17 February 2011: Personally I think at the end of the day she is your daughter therefore the decision is yours on what you feel is the best for her. I think that yes you should email her back and say that you are sorry to hear this but that if she wants to leave ... (read in full...)
Breakup on the horizon? Partner won't communicate - or move out
Q. So after almost four years together I am now trying to figure out if I want to be with her. I am in a same sex relationship (female) and it's gotten to the point where I am becoming very depressed and upset with the way things are going. She doesn...
A. 17 February 2011: You cant force someone to try in a relationship, they need to do that themselves hunny and she is just not willing to work on it. You answered your own question. I think its time you both need a break. I can understand that you might not have the ... (read in full...)
I have to chose, both of them will be hurt
Q. Im so confused. I met this great guy and there was instantly a connection. Things went really fast and we are already living together. But he is so hot and cold. Sometimes he is the sweetest man on the planet other times its just like we are nothing ...
A. 17 February 2011: Ok well I know someone is going to get hurt but you need to chose one of them and nobody can do this for you only yourself. I know it must be a really hard choice but life is full on tough decisions. Ok I think the best thing you can do is take some ... (read in full...)
Still living with my ex, now I've had a dream about him, what does it mean?
Q. I had this dream last night that I was lying in bed. I woke up from my bed and went into my home office and opened the door leading into the backyard. I noticed that the deck was gone and it looked like someone was starting to build a bridge ...
A. 17 February 2011: Well its never healthy to live in the same house as an ex. They are an ex for a reason and if you keep living with him you will never be able to let go of the relationship. That is why you had this dream. Because it sounds like you may be happy that ... (read in full...)
I cant seem to get over him......
Q. i'm 13, soon 14. i broke up with my boyfriend in november (we only lasted a month but liked each other a lot) and now its february. we didnt break up cause of relationship problems or anything, its cause something else not really important. we kept ...
A. 17 February 2011: Well what are the reasons that he stopped talking to you? This might be making you more uneasy than the actual fact that the relationship is over. Im guessing you really miss his friendship more than anything else. I guess you should really tell him ... (read in full...)
I hate myself so much for falling for him
Q. I really need some help as im quite desperate. To cut a story short, I started liking a guy about 6 months ago and ever since its got even more and more deeper and stronger. I barely saw him and he never made the effort to speak to me if he did. On...
A. 14 February 2011: First of you are not being silly at all, so dont put yourself down, when you fall for someone and things dont work out it hurts alot and no matter what age you are the pain is not different.
You need to open up to someone who is close to you, one... (read in full...)
I don't know how to bring up having the implant to my mum
Q. My boyfriend and I have planned to have sex within the next month or so. But we desided that we weren't going to do it untill I had got the implant, but I need to talk to my Mom about talking me to get a implant in the first place.. but I don't know ...
A. 14 February 2011: Ok well if you are not wanting to talk to your mother about it then you can go to the GP on your own in the UK and discuss it with them, they might be a bit reluctant to give it to you, but you can go and ask in confidence what your options are.... (read in full...)
How can I forgive him for all the hurt he has caused me?
Q. Well, I posted a question yesterday, but I didn't give many details, so I shall give them now. Three and a half years ago, my boyfriend and I started dating. We were both 17 then and we had been each others firsts. We've always been happy toget...
A. 14 February 2011: It takes time to forgive someone, what he has done to you now will make you paranoid for a while until you can learn how to trust him again. He needs to know exactly how he has made you feel, dont try and cover it up. Also dont let him think he is ... (read in full...)
My friend loves me too much?!
Q. Last night I was going out for a walk but my friend didn't want me to go she ran over to me and she hugged me and she was crying. I think she was scared for me to go out at night . So I had to stay home but I go for a walk every night I can't stay ...
A. 13 February 2011: Ok well you need to sit down with her and talk to her about it. Try and get her to open up to you as it sounds like she is in a vunerable and frightened place at the moment. She needs someone to talk to therefore try and get her to open up to you. ... (read in full...)
14 and still waiting to have a boyfriend
Q. Hello, I have a bit of a problem. It may seem insignificant compared with many of the other questions on this site, but I really would like to have a boyfriend. Ever since pre-school, when I had a 'crush' on several boys in my class, I have dreamed ...
A. 13 February 2011: Ok well first of there is nothing wrong with you so dont worry. Most 14 year olds havent had a boyfriend and yet its at the age where the really want one. So dont panic there is nothing wrong with you.
You say you are shy and i bet most guys you... (read in full...)
We lied about how we met to our parents!
Q. i'll be meeting my boyfriends parents in April. and my mom wants to get to know his parents before letting me go. but the problem is that we lied about how we met to our parents. what do i do to make this work? thanks ...
A. 13 February 2011: Well if you could explain a little bit more on what you lied about that would help. Im guessing that the right thing you can both do is be truthful to your parents. Yes the might be disappointed at first that you lied to them but they will soon be ... (read in full...)
My friend loves me too much?!
Q. Last night I was going out for a walk but my friend didn't want me to go she ran over to me and she hugged me and she was crying. I think she was scared for me to go out at night . So I had to stay home but I go for a walk every night I can't stay ...
A. 9 February 2011: Was it just the both of you on your own? Maybe she didnt like the idea of being left on her own. You need to sit down with her and ask her what her reason was, its the only way you will get to the bottom of it. Goodluck... (read in full...)
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