I'm married but my 1st love has come back into my life, and I don't know what to do
Q. My life has recently been turned upside down and I'm not sure what to do. I made the mistake of sending the love of my life a message on facebook that I thought was completely innocent. His profile said he was in a relationship and I was just ...
A. 3 January 2011: First off if you are in an unhappy marriage get out of it dont keep it up if you dont see a happy future in it. Also dont go and meet your old flame unless you are single because cheating in a marriage is just not fair and plain cruel. If you feel ... (read in full...)
Virgin woman married to a man with erectile dysfunction
Q. I am a 35 year-old virgin. My 40 year-old husband has an erectile dysfunction which is preventing us from consummating our marriage. We've been married since one year, and are together since 4 years. We love each other, and are able to enjoy ...
A. 3 January 2011: No it should be nothing to do with your virginity at the end of the day you are tighter down below therefore this should only add to the pleasure not take away from it, therefore his problems have nothing to do with you. It sounds to me like he can ... (read in full...)
How do I get over her losing her virginity while we were broken up?
Q. I've had a relationship with this girl for over a year. We took a break and got back together. I found out when we weren't dating she slept with someone and she was a virgin when we broke up. I'm hurt and it's been months now and I can't get over it ...
A. 3 January 2011: If you cannot see your life without her then tell yourself if you keep this jelousy up you will end up losing her as you will drive her away. Am sorry but you need to accept that you both were broken up so she never actually done anything wrong. I ... (read in full...)
Second time sex hurt even worse that first time sex! What will happen on my third try?
Q. ok so i'm 17 and sex for the first time about 2 months ago. kind of towards the end of november beginning of december and it hurt like hell. Tonight i had sex again with the same guy, it was my 2nd time and it hurt WAYYYYYY worse than my first time. ...
A. 3 January 2011: Ok so it does hurt losing your virginity. My guess is that after the first time you remembered the pain and therefore your body clammed up which can make trying to have sex more painful. It can be uncomfortable for a few times but you need to make ... (read in full...)
Husband puts his parents first... please help!
Q. Hello. I really hope somebody can help me. My marriage is in trouble and I have no one to talk to. I have been married for almost four years, but together with my husband for 10 years. We have a six month old daughter. The problem is that I've alw...
A. 3 January 2011: You need to sit down with your husband and tell him everything you have just wrote down. You need to be open and honest with him and tell him how you feel. Its obvious all of these stresses have been building up for a long time and you are ready to ... (read in full...)
Is dating my non-blood related third cousin okay? And how to handle being nervous around girls?
Q. recently for new yrs i had a party at a relatives house. i was chilling w/ my friend and i told him to flirt w/ this gorgeous girl i saw. he does. he says its my turn because he was unsuccesfull. i said no cuz shes my 3rd cuz`. later me and her are ...
A. 3 January 2011: I think that you should both go for it, you are not blood related therefore there is nothing wrong with dating this girl, it sounds like you have both made a connection so dont put it to waste go for it and see what happens you are not doing ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about her crush on another girl?
Q. my girlfriend says she has a crush on another girl is this okay? or should i be worried?...
A. 3 January 2011: You need to talk to her about it i'm afraid. There is no real proof here that you should be worried and plenty of people have crushes on other people even if they are in a happy relationship. Its ok to look but not touch is how the old saying goes. ... (read in full...)
Why does he not want kids with me? He has a 5 year old daughter already!
Q. Ok, so I have been dating this guy for almost a year now. He is 24 and i am 19. He has a 5 year old daughter in which i have learned to love. I used to be jealous of their relationship but im learning not to be. His ex girlfriend is not in the ...
A. 3 January 2011: Ok first of lets deal with the issue of his ex. I understand that it would be hard for you i really do but i guess you just need to understand that he will always be linked with his ex due to his daughter and they will always share the fact that ... (read in full...)
Are we moving too quickly?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four months now and I know for a fact that we are perfect for each other. We understand eachother because of the tough ish that him and I have gone through before meeting each other. I have never ever ...
A. 3 January 2011: I understand that you are both very much in love but yes you are thinking way to far ahead, four months is not long enough to start talking about marriage. If you both feel like you are ready to move in with each other then go for it and try it out ... (read in full...)
Things went bad a long time ago, so why do I still keep talking to him?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up about four months ago. We were together two and half years, a good year and a half was spent together while he was incarcerated. I waited for him but, after a year I fell out of love with him and cheated on him. But, I ...
A. 3 January 2011: You obviously somewere deep down dont want it to be over or else you wouldnt be hanging on to him. There is not much anyone on here can tell you as you already no what you should do. Just follow whatever you feel is best. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
I love her but don't want to be one of her sex slaves
Q. Hi everyone, In short I know a girl who I care for and think I love, the problem is she is beautiful and younger and does not want to settle for any one man. She has a string of open relationships where she is sexually intimate with a few people. ...
A. 3 January 2011: To be honest I dont think it is a good idea to get in to an open relationship with someone you have feelings for because you will only end up getting hurt. Plenty of people see it like its better getting some attention off her than none at all but ... (read in full...)
Does the passionate kissing mean he is trying to sleep with me asap and that he's only seeing me for that? Or do guys usually act that way??
Q. Hello all! I am 23 years old and I recently started talking more to a college classmate who is 22. We never really talked, but now that we're in holidays we've been frequenting the same parties and people and we have gotten to talk more. I...
A. 2 January 2011: It doesnt sound to me like he is just after sex with you. To me it seems like he really likes you, and plenty of people kiss passionately without trying to have sex. He hasnt tried to have sex therefore that is a good sign. However if you dont feel ... (read in full...)
Does the passionate kissing mean he is trying to sleep with me asap and that he's only seeing me for that? Or do guys usually act that way??
Q. Hello all! I am 23 years old and I recently started talking more to a college classmate who is 22. We never really talked, but now that we're in holidays we've been frequenting the same parties and people and we have gotten to talk more. I...
A. 2 January 2011: It doesnt sound to me like he is just after sex with you. To me it seems like he really likes you, and plenty of people kiss passionately without trying to have sex. He hasnt tried to have sex therefore that is a good sign. However if you dont feel ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be good enough for him?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for nearly 2 years now.. and I love him with all of my heart.. he is everything I have ever wanted in a guy. He is the first guy to ever actually seem to care about me and love me.. unlike my ...
A. 2 January 2011: I understand that you want to show him lots of love and attention but you need to ask yourself is he doing the same for you? He has very low self asteem and he needs to work on his weight issues himself no matter how many times you tell him that he ... (read in full...)
Do nice girls really finish last?
Q. What do guys think of nice girls?? I was just in an emotionally abusive relationship and ppl told me that it was not worth it to be nice all the time? Do men find playing hard to get and bitches attractive?? I mean I believe in being honest and ...
A. 1 January 2011: Dont change who you are for anyone, all men are different and have different types of girls they go for, but no matter what people say to you, honesty is the best policy.
However sometimes you cant to to kind and nice or some people will just wal... (read in full...)
Does the crying means he does love me?
Q. My boyfriend of six months, never once saw him cry, Told me how much he loves me and tears rolled down his face. He said I'm the only good thing in his life and he would take a bullet for me. I'm only 15 and he's 16. Is it possible he really loves ...
A. 1 January 2011: First off why do you not believe him in the first place? If he is telling you something you should believe him unless you have a reason not to. It sounds to me like this guy is genuine so just enjoy his company and dont overthink to much. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend what I said to his friend when we weren't together?
Q. me and my boyfriend have confessed everything that we should of done , weve probabley had the worst christmas and new year ever, but i want to move on from it. The only thing is, id said to one of his mates chris that I liked him. Me and my ...
A. 1 January 2011: You were single when you said it there for he doesnt really need to be told unless you feel that it would be best to tell him. Its completely up to yourself, but my advice would be just to forget about it.... (read in full...)
If she really liked me why didnt she break up with him?
Q. here's how it goes i made friends with the girl im sitting next to in class. She has a boyfriend btw. She was really nice to me and i started liking her. We texted a lot everyday and we got to know each other. Eventually we were very close and w...
A. 1 January 2011: Am afraid to say that yes it was a mistake. Am sure she likes you as a person but at the end of the day she had a boyfriend and you shouldnt have got intimate with her unless she was single so am afraid it is a lesson to be learned.
She probably... (read in full...)
I don't see why she doesn't feel for me the way she used to!
Q. my girlfriend and I had a talk the other night and she said that she doesn't feel the same way she used to for me. I don't know what to do. I don't see why she doesn't feel for me the way she used to. I mean things used to be great between us, and ...
A. 1 January 2011: You need to listen to her. She is telling you that she feels things are getting to serious for her so cool things off a little bit. Give her some space.
Sometimes feelings change towards people even if we dont want them to. We change as we grow ... (read in full...)
I think I love my cousin! Is it legal?
Q. i don't know what this is! i feel so warm and fuzzy when I'm around him. Every time he's around it's like I'm happy. I couldn't help but think, am I in love with my cousin? Is that even illegal? He's just so darn cute and I can't but think I am. ...
A. 26 December 2010: Am afraid that yes if he is your first cousin then it is illegal to have a sexual relationship with your cousin, plus if you were to date and you ended up pregnant then there is a higher risk that there would be something mentally or physically ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with man I dated from 9 years ago again?
Q. I recently bumped into a man i dated 9 years ago,we never ended it we just drifted apart and pursued other lives,the attraction was still there and he asked if he could see me again and i said no as im not ready to be with another man due to past ...
A. 26 December 2010: Well its kind of hard to answer when you are not disclosing the facts that is telling your head not to go there.
It's obvious this man wants you back in his life and you want him. But it's always good to go in to these things with a clear head. I ... (read in full...)
What are signs that a guy wants to commit?
Q. Does my guy friend know that I want more than a friendship now? What are signs he will commit to me being his girlfriend...
A. 26 December 2010: You ask does your friend know that you want more, but how can anyone on here possibly know the answer to that unless they know you and him personally.
There are no set signs that he wants you to be his girlfriend except for if he tells you. Why... (read in full...)
He treats me differently. Does he like me more then a friend?
Q. Hey all. Simple question. I have known this man for 3 years and for about 2 and a half of those years we rarely saw each other but chatted amicably when we did. Nowadays we are closer than before, we are not dating each other, but we have foun...
A. 15 December 2010: Well for starters he definetaly feels very comfortable around you from what you just wrote, therefore this is a good sign that he likes you more than a friend.
You say he is not the affectionate type therefore he may not want to come out and ask ... (read in full...)
I have heard silences quite this loud!
Q. Theres this boy ive crushing on about a year now, and hes leavin for collage soon. We sit next to each other in all the classes were in togther we always talk in maths cause my best friend is on the other side so i can freely talk to him without ...
A. 15 December 2010: You just need to get the confidence to talk to him, nobody can do this but you. When you are alone with him just strike up conversation with him like you would do if your friend was beside you. Talk to him get to know him more, find out his ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games? Or is it just me?
Q. I need some straight up advice. I'm 19 and I met this guy, hes 22, (I think age sometimes makes a difference) In the beginning of November, and we exchanged numbers. For the first week we texted and talked non stop and we would be on the phone until ...
A. 15 December 2010: Well i always say be open and honest to someone if you want answers, therefore this is what you should do. Ask him what exactly does he want with you. Just get straight to the point.
To me it does sound like he is interested in you, but he wants... (read in full...)
Drunk and possibly cheated, this is so out of character for me! Should I come clean?
Q. I have been with my partner for two and a half years and we are amazing together!many peole comment on what a close and genuine couple we are! we are so happy! But a couple of months ago he left the pub early and i stayed out with his friends....
A. 15 December 2010: Hi am afraid that i dont think it will go away. You love your boyfriend very much and you have done something stupid through to much alcohol and the guilt will always be with you, it will make you miserable.
Am afraid the best thing to do here is ... (read in full...)
Why do I never get it right?
Q. I was dating a girl recently and I thought it was going well but then she made excuses to avoid me and as a result we broke up. I'm 23 and I have dated 3 other women. The first broke up and got back together with her ex, the second was not looking ...
A. 15 December 2010: You need to understand that every woman is different and wants different things from a guy, you cant make yourself change in to something a girl wants instead just be yourself and act the way you want to if she doesnt like it then she is not the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has stopped replying to my texts!
Q. My boyfriend stop replying my text since like 2 days ago. I dont know why he stop replying me. We didnt quarrel when we last text each other. I didnt say anything to piss him off. I have texted him yesterday and today asking why hasnt he reply. I ...
A. 15 December 2010: Well if he is not replying to your texts then why dont you give him a call, if he doesnt answer then leave it at that and dont contact him again, let him contact you.... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to accept him?
Q. I like this guy but my parnets don't agree with me . I had a 9 mouth old baby he treats him good n me too. What can I do so my parnets can accpet him so I can be his girlfriend...
A. 15 December 2010: Sit down and talk to your parents and ask them what it is they dont like about him, let them explain to you what exactly is wrong with him and why they dont want to be with you. You dont state what the reasons are in your question so therefore it is ... (read in full...)
Does my cousin like me? I need to know for sure!
Q. Hello to all. i have posted a question here. it was to know whether my cousin is interested in me. i have got 2 answers which tell me 50 % he likes you and 50 % he likes you but like a cousin. so i have still some doubt which i want your advice...
A. 15 December 2010: I agree i think he was just being a gentleman towards you, however yes the part about massaging your leg would raise suspition, but i think you need to get those thoughts out of your head and look to date other guys, as dating your cousin would be ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend serious about me?
Q. Okay before I ask my question ill give you background information and I would really like advice from male readers but I'm happy with whatever I can get. I have been dating this guy for about 7 months. He told me from the beginning that is very ...
A. 13 December 2010: Well we are all different when it comes to relationships and some people fall a lot harder than other people and fall in love really quickly. Yes it is possible that he does love you, but just remember that this is the relationship second time ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this problem with my friend and her boyfriend and my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 13. My best friend is dating this guy. He tends to get a little "handsy" at times....She asked me if she should break up with him, and i said she should. But here's the problem, my boyfriend is friends with her boyfriend and often defends ...
A. 13 December 2010: Ok well you dont need to break up with your boyfriend over this, i think you need to keep your relationship and your friendship seperate here. Dont diss your friends boyfriend to yours as he is his friend and its not fair so just dont mention him ... (read in full...)
We're both so shy, how do I get him to open up?
Q. so i am talking to this guy our moms hooked us up we live four hours away from each other we have been talking for a month now i have went up to see him twice the only thing is we dont talk much in person we are both really kinda shy. he is really ...
A. 13 December 2010: Ok so you are both shy people which is really awkward when you have only met each other twice. It is easy to talk over the internet as it is only typing but face to face is so much harder, the only way this will get better is for the both of you to ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex say hello? Was that all he wanted to say?
Q. I'm not sure what's going on with my ex. He sent me a message on the instant messenger on facebook saying hello, and i said hello back and asked how he was, and he said he was ok, and told me that he got this message that i sent him a while ago, but ...
A. 13 December 2010: If am honest it sounds like he was just acknowleding you and letting you know that he got your message. I wouldnt read to much in to it, because to me it sounds like he never really had much else to say. However how you deal with it from here is ... (read in full...)
I never meant to hurt her, she left but I want her back!
Q. dear cupid. I will be as honest as possible . I met a girl online. We started chatting everyday. Soon afterwards, we exchanged numbers and we immediately began making voice calls. We decided to hook up for coffee . The first time I lay my eyes ont...
A. 13 December 2010: You need to give her space and let her come to you. She is angry at the moment and its clear that she doesnt want to talk to you at the moment therefore take a step back and dont contact her give her a chance to breath and think things through.
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Is it just me, or is there something wrong with this relationship?
Q. I don't know whats happened today but it has been awful. We were just meant to be buying decorations for the tree but somehow we ended up angry with each other again. When we got home he sat on the laptop while I was decorating the tree. The ba...
A. 13 December 2010: It sounds to me like you both got in to a bit of a rut and now you are both arguing a lot and you are both suffering because of it. You mention you have had a lot of problems and without knowing what they are i cant give much advice on your back ... (read in full...)
I need help negotiating all the problems with my girlfriend and my friends!
Q. If you've read my other quetions, you should know exactly what's going on. I've found lately that my best friend has become a bit angry with me abiut my girlfriend, who he liked, but I didn't know. He doesn't say anything to me openly, but I think ...
A. 13 December 2010: The other way around young fella. I know that we should not let others push us around, but violence is wrong and is not the answer to your problems. Is a fight really worth losing your girlfriend over? you need to act mature about this and be the ... (read in full...)
Surely you wouldn't carry on sleeping with an ex if you didn't still love them?
Q. Ok here goes..... ready to be confused..... I was with a guy for just over 6 years, he ended the relationship just over a year ago as he said he didnt love me anymore, But a year on where still doing things a normal couple would do, we go to the...
A. 13 December 2010: Lots and lots of men carry on sleeping with there ex's and they dont love them. If his reason for breaking up with you was that he was not in love with you then i would take this as the truth. Ok so he is still spending time with you and doing ... (read in full...)
Do you give up something good for the chance of something else?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend Michael for almost four years. Our relationship started off on a bad note; he had been my best friend for two years, but I had been dating another man the entire time. When my ex and I broke up, Michael was ther...
A. 13 December 2010: Well you ask can you give up something good for the chance of something else? But im not sure that your current relationship is good. Ok so yes i agree that it sounds like the both of you get on great and that you are happy in each others company ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out without ruining our friendship?
Q. Okay so there is this girl who I have liked for over a year now, but we did not start hanging out until October this year. We talked in class (I'm in high school) but I never had the courage to ask her out. This year I started talking to her again ...
A. 13 December 2010: Ok well this mike guy has knowing her for quite a long time, and if he is a good friend of yours and is trust worthy then yes i think it would be a good idea to tell him how you feel and ask him for your advise.
See what he has to say and what adv... (read in full...)
Help! Do my guy friends like me as more than a friend?
Q. So I have some guy friends I hang out with. For privacy, I'll call them Boy A, Boy B, and Boy C. Boy A: He's pretty much said straight out that he likes me, but I don't like him more than a friend. How do I tell him that? Boy B: I sort of lik...
A. 13 December 2010: Boy A: Just be straight with him, explain to him that you care deeply about him as a friend and that you will always love him as a friend, if he says he wants more, then tell him you wouldnt want to ruin your friendship by going out with him.
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