Do I just completely remove myself from her life?
Q. Hey there...so this is a follow up to this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/parents-slip-us-up-when-they-smelled-weed.html I suggest reading that to get the full story. I felt it was alright to make a new Question as it i...
A. 18 January 2011: No dont give her a valentines card and id advice against the note. You tried to tell her how you felt but she didnt want to hear it therefore she is not going to want to read the note either. She probably knows already how you feel about her and she ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with the fact that she has no time for me!
Q. I'm at the end of my rope here, I've been togheter with my gf for about 6,5 months, and during that time I've seen her once a week, sometimes twice a week, but never for more then 3-6 hours at a time. She made it clear that she wants to study h...
A. 16 January 2011: Well i understand that you are scared to talk to her about these kind of things in case it puts the relationship in danger but you cant bottle things up because yes eventually you will explode and everything will come flooding out. You need to be ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 16 January 2011: Off course it is going to feel right and natural with him sweetie because he is your ex and you are comfortable with him and i bet you just imagined that you were both still together and that it felt like you both were still a couple and everything ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and am pregnant with his baby, but I miss sex with this other man!
Q. hi to all, i am in a relationship and am currently 4 months pregnant for my boyfriend, i cheated on my boyfriend with this guy before getting pregnant and i broke it off, he than came back and wanted us to continue but i told him i couldn't because ...
A. 15 January 2011: Sweetie dont go down this path. You are risking everything with your boyfriend you will end up losing him and hurting him really badly. If you love your boyfriend then stop seeing this other guy and concentrate on your relationship and the baby that ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 15 January 2011: I think you made a mistake by sleeping with him, if this guy doesnt trust you then there is no way he will get back with you and it will only make you feel worse by having sex with him believe me. It wont be a pretty path to go down you will end up ... (read in full...)
How to change a man's mind about relationship?
Q. I have couple of posts related to this problem and heres upto date info :) Please help meee!! I met this guy in late Sept 2010, we were getting along so great for a month. After a month of dating him, I knew that I really like him and i'm ready to...
A. 15 January 2011: Am afraid you cant change his mind sweetie he has made it clear he only wants something casual. If am perfectly honest by the sounds of it you like him way more than that so i think it would be best if you stayed clear from him because you will only ... (read in full...)
I'm a shell without my twin!
Q. I'm hoping some of you here have twins so you know what I mean when I say the bond between twins is indescribable, like that of soulmates, a secret club, epic... I have a fraternal twin brother (I'm female, we're 24) who I know will always be the ...
A. 15 January 2011: I think that you need to make the choice that you would be most happy with. I can understand that you have a great connection with your twin and you always will. But at the same time you need to live your life independently aswell. Of course he will ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him if he likes me?
Q. we broke up a while ago and we were really close when we were going out. anyway we broke up because we couldnt spend time together and it was really messing us up because i didnt have texting he did and our relationship was based on face to face ...
A. 15 January 2011: Well my guess is that yes he still likes you if he didnt he wouldnt be staring at you so much. Yes i think you should talk to him and show him that you still care for him. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
Was I in denial about my true feelings for him that were just being masked my my silly infatuations with other guys at the time?
Q. Ok,so a little less than two years ago, me and this guy dated. But, I broke it off, because it just "wasn't working out". Honestly though, it really wasn't working on my end. My feelings for him just weren't as strong as I had believed them to be. ...
A. 15 January 2011: Your very welcome. Well he really did like you and they way he kept moving his eyes shows that he was nervous yes but i doubt this was because he hadnt spoke to you in a long time my guess is that he still likes you. I think you need to tell him how ... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 15 January 2011: If you feel that by doing this it will give you closure then by all means go ahead and do that. As you said you have nothing to lose and if you think that by doing that then you can put her behind you and move on then carry on.... (read in full...)
He just says he doesn't mean to hurt me and doesn't know why he does it, but thats not enough for me. Should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, about 8 months ago I found out that my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been txting dirty messages to at least 3 girls, one of which I know. I found this out just after we had purchased a house together, so decided to forgive him and try and move on. He ...
A. 15 January 2011: No you are not over reacting what so ever. Everything he is doing is wrong ok yes guys do watch porn that is accepted but to go on to live websites, sign up to dating websites looking for fun and texting other girls is just way out of line. He is ... (read in full...)
Complicated break up, I still want to be with her!
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, were both 19. we had a rocky relationship, we had fun and commitment, after she lied to me (not cheating), we did fight a lot. The last time i saw her (5 days after break up) she told me she doesn't love me ...
A. 15 January 2011: She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see ... (read in full...)
Complicated break up, I still want to be with her!
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, were both 19. we had a rocky relationship, we had fun and commitment, after she lied to me (not cheating), we did fight a lot. The last time i saw her (5 days after break up) she told me she doesn't love me ...
A. 15 January 2011: She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see ... (read in full...)
Complicated break up, I still want to be with her!
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, were both 19. we had a rocky relationship, we had fun and commitment, after she lied to me (not cheating), we did fight a lot. The last time i saw her (5 days after break up) she told me she doesn't love me ...
A. 15 January 2011: She has made it clear to you that somewere along the line she fell out of love with you, this can happen to people and we have no control over it. At least she was honest with you and told you this. Dont look in to that day and look for clues to see ... (read in full...)
How do I make a relationship work with someone who is in the Marines?
Q. How do I make my relationship work if I am in a relationship with someone who is in the Marines? How do I deal with understanding their responsibilities?...
A. 15 January 2011: Well first off get yourself well educated on the matter. Research well in to the marines and see what the responibilties will be of your boyfriends. Also tell him how you feel and your concerns for him.
As for the distance is there is any. If ... (read in full...)
I want to be straight
Q. I'm in love with a woman I can't be with because she is straight. I have accepted this and I'm trying to move on. Over the last week I have been checking dating sites and stuff, but it's no good I'm just not attracted to lesbian women, often they ...
A. 15 January 2011: Honey am afraid you cant just make yourself straight, that would be like you trying to be somebody that you are not and you should never change who you are.
Ok there is a stero type that women who are lesbians are butch or masculine but not all ... (read in full...)
What do you think she wants?
Q. She even tells me she doesn't know. But maybe you guys can give me an idea? She broke up with me a couple months ago because she decided she needed space, couldn't deal with the distance (we're long-distance), and wasn't ready for a commitment. I ...
A. 15 January 2011: Well if am honest with you it sounds to me like she doesnt want to be with you, maybe she does love you but her friends and her parents are putting pressure on her and she is confused. Do you both get to meet up face to face much? For a relationship ... (read in full...)
He's planning life without me and I can't even go outside!
Q. Hi:) Hope you can help:) I'm a 28yr single parent who has just broken up with my partner of 2yrs. I have 1 child he has 2. He is 37. We met a week afer my brother had died. He took is own life at 21. When I met this guy he had just left a 13yr ...
A. 15 January 2011: Nobody wants to move on sweetie but you dont have a choice here, he has clearly told you he doesnt want to be with you therefore you need to accept that and move on with your life. I know that it is hard and that you really dont want to but you have ... (read in full...)
I've become a jealous freak!
Q. I'm in a relationship of over a year, which has been one of the best things that have happened to me. He's my lover, my best friend, my partner. Together we have a blast- whether we're stuck at home making dinner, or out floating down a river in a ...
A. 14 January 2011: Instead of becoming jelous over these things you should look at it from a different angle. You should be glad that there are other girls interested in your man and be thankful that you got him and they didnt. As long as you trust him that is all ... (read in full...)
I love two guys and I can't chose which one I love more.
Q. I've been dateing the same guy for 10 months and I still realy care abut him and he still really cares about me. We've been through tough times and we have always bounced back he is sweet careing funny (and really cute) but we have complete ...
A. 14 January 2011: If you dont trust yourself not to cheat on your boyfriend with your friend then its best that the both of you are broken up because it shouldnt be like that. When you are in a loving relationship you shouldnt cheat on a person because if you really ... (read in full...)
A matter of our relationship ending or not?!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for a year now and we've been having a lot of problems as of recently. Ok well to back track to last year while at work I made a friend (a guy) anyways a day before i told my boyfriend that we were going ...
A. 14 January 2011: You need to trust him or there is no relationship there. Am sorry but you cant tell him he has to delete her number and not talk to her again this is not your decision to make and you have no right in saying this to him. You need to just tell him ... (read in full...)
I'm I crazy for liking another cousin???
Q. I'm I crazy?? I have just barely gotten over my second cousin. With whom I did not have a relationship with but liked him for a long time. The feelings were mutual for a time, but some things happened and I stopped visiting the family. This is a ...
A. 14 January 2011: No your not crazy but i think you might be confusing the closeness you have with family as some sort of feelings for the person. He is your first cousin and it would cause so much trouble in the family if you went down that path.
I think you need... (read in full...)
How do I recover from this falling out with a good friend?
Q. I had an awful fight with a friend a couple months ago. Her and her boyfriend came over to collect stuff they were owed. Initially it was over money that I owed her ($15). It's true, I had not paid them back for something, but it was something ...
A. 14 January 2011: She obviously had these feeling built up inside of her for a long time and she probably said things that she might regret. However if the both of you have made up then you should be thankful that the friendship has been saved many people fall out ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with the fact that she has no time for me!
Q. I'm at the end of my rope here, I've been togheter with my gf for about 6,5 months, and during that time I've seen her once a week, sometimes twice a week, but never for more then 3-6 hours at a time. She made it clear that she wants to study h...
A. 14 January 2011: Well i guess hun that you need to answer this one yourself. If you feel that you arent getting anything from this relationship then you are best to cut your ties now and look for a girl that is not as busy as your current girlfriend. It looks like ... (read in full...)
He slept with his ex while we were becoming an item! What now?
Q. HAY GUYS! Bit of a problemo, found out the other day that my current boyfriend cheated while we were seeing eachother. Apparently to him it's not cheating because we were not 'official' yet, however while we were seeing eachother we said we were com...
A. 14 January 2011: Although cheating is wrong if you were only seeing each other and it was only early days then he was probably just confused. However i agree that he should have told you the truth. How long have you both been in a relationship for now? I guess that ... (read in full...)
He slept with his ex while we were becoming an item! What now?
Q. HAY GUYS! Bit of a problemo, found out the other day that my current boyfriend cheated while we were seeing eachother. Apparently to him it's not cheating because we were not 'official' yet, however while we were seeing eachother we said we were com...
A. 14 January 2011: Although cheating is wrong if you were only seeing each other and it was only early days then he was probably just confused. However i agree that he should have told you the truth. How long have you both been in a relationship for now? I guess that ... (read in full...)
I've found out my mother is having a divorce, What should I do?
Q. Hi, Ive haad suspicions for a while now that my mother is having an affair with her co-worker. I have read texts of a sexual nature between them and one where the two were talking about divorcing their spouses and living their lives together. My ...
A. 14 January 2011: My heart goes out to you losing your sister at such a young age and now the stress of this you must be under so much stress. I guess sometimes when parents lose a child the grieving can come in between them and drive them apart am guessing it may ... (read in full...)
I said no and now he won't even go near that area. Did I scare him off?
Q. Hello, Im a teenage girl and i have a boyfriend who i have been with for quite a while... One time earlier on in our relationship he tried to finger me and i wasn't ready, i told him 'not today' and he backed off and didn't mention a word. ...
A. 14 January 2011: Ok first off am sure you never scared him he is just respecting you when you said you were not ready and this is great. But if you feel you are ready then just tell him. You mention you dont want to tell him because you will be embarressed. If this ... (read in full...)
My ex said "don't be a stranger" what does that mean?
Q. Hi My ex girlfriend ended our relationship after a couple of years - Im sure it was for someone else - sure enough a few days later she was. Since then every 3 months or so she would contact me by email and be all hi how are you - but would just ...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess you where a big part of her life for a few years and she would like to keep in contact with you as a friend. Am sure she doesnt mean to string you along am sure she just wants to contact you every now and then to see how your life is going. ... (read in full...)
If they've lost interest then why don't they just say so?
Q. About a year ago I met someone online. We seemed to hit it off immediately and, after a few months, I travelled at a fair amount of expense to meet up (it's relatively long distance). However, since then contact from this person has become ...
A. 14 January 2011: Some people just take the cowardly way out and instead of being open and honest with someone they back of and slowely begin to ignore them in hope that they will go away.
Your best bet here is to stop all contact with her and cut your losses. ... (read in full...)
I don't want a gay boyfriend!
Q. My mind keeps thinking back to this and I would like to know some people views on what happened. My boyfriend was drunk, I put a blindfold on him and went down to give him a blow job. Usually he is quiet but he was making a lot of noise, moving ar...
A. 14 January 2011: No i wouldnt say you have anything to worry about in this department. There is a little bit of skin between the penis and the anus that when it is rubbed it can really stimulate a guy. So when you touched this before he obviously got stimulated and ... (read in full...)
He is happy living alone but I am not
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just under 2 years and really love each other and most of the times things are good. We are both 31 and I have been engaged before but never married and he has never lived with a woman before. Last...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess your guy is getting a little commitment phobia. He is terrified of settling down in case something goes wrong. He is scared to have any ties with anyone. Dont take this personal though am sure he loves you very much but he is just scared.
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I always said I'd leave a cheater, but now that its happening to me I'm torn!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for about two years now and we have been living together for about one year. We share a lap top and I came across her facebook page the other day where she had forgotten to log out. I have never gone through her ...
A. 14 January 2011: Yes she is very upset, but its not over her love for you she is upset because she was found out and she knows she has hurt you. Im not going to tell you what to do here, but hey if you never found them messages on her facebook she would still be ... (read in full...)
What can make me desire sex again?
Q. I am menopausal and i havne't desired sex for a long time, is there somethig i can do to help make me feel or desire sex. I do things to make my husband happy but, i feel in adequate. ...
A. 14 January 2011: Try not to beat yourself up over this most women lose there sex drive while going through the menopause. Visit a local health shop there are magnets available that you attach to your underwear through the day that help with many side effects from ... (read in full...)
How do you know that the person you love is your soul mate?
Q. I know this is gonna sound stupid but it something that has been Worrying me for sometime now,I,ve been dating different gys in my Life but seem not to have an answer.I want 2 knw that how Do u tell that the person u in love with is your soul m...
A. 14 January 2011: You can never be sure if he is your soul mate or not, many people change and simply fall out of love with each other even if everything is perfect and they are both blissfully happen. Therefore you should just concentrate on being in a happy ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 14 January 2011: You need to be straight out with him, if this scares him off then its obvious he doesnt want to commit to you, therefore you need to accept that and move on. ... (read in full...)
Was I in denial about my true feelings for him that were just being masked my my silly infatuations with other guys at the time?
Q. Ok,so a little less than two years ago, me and this guy dated. But, I broke it off, because it just "wasn't working out". Honestly though, it really wasn't working on my end. My feelings for him just weren't as strong as I had believed them to be. ...
A. 14 January 2011: Sometimes we dont realise we have feelings for someone until we lose them from our lives. But you need to make sure that your feelings are clear. Are you missing the friendship or do you want more with him?
If you are starting to feel like you... (read in full...)
Do I just completely remove myself from her life?
Q. Hey there...so this is a follow up to this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/parents-slip-us-up-when-they-smelled-weed.html I suggest reading that to get the full story. I felt it was alright to make a new Question as it i...
A. 14 January 2011: Well she has made it clear that she needs space at the moment for whatever reasons. Therefore you really need to respect her wishes and not contact her, let her have time to think about what she wants and let her contact you. To me she has made up ... (read in full...)
I'm in love relationship with my mother 3rd cousin and if we get marry will she get a chance to have birth defect.?
Q. Ok, here the things is, this women is my mom 3rd cousin (her father side) and her mother is my 3rd or 4th cousin (i don't really sure but something like that). So in blood relatives we can call each other "uncle" and "aunt". I should call her 'aun...
A. 14 January 2011: You are both far out cousins therefore it is ok to marry her you are not in a direct blood relative line. She is a far out cousin therefore there should not be strong chances of birth defects. So therefore just be happy and enjoy your relationship ... (read in full...)
Help! I am suffocating him!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now, and recently he told me that I have been sort of "suffocating" him in away, he says that when he first got with me he thought that he was going to be the "Annoying" "giving too much attention" to me ...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess this is just a personality clash if nothing else. It doesnt come across like you are being clingy or needy it just seems that you are quite an affectionate person which is great but he obviously is just not as affectionate as you when it ... (read in full...)
How do I make him feel that he wants to see me?
Q. Hello, Basically me and my ex broke up a few months ago. Since then a little drama has happened causing tension between us. Over the Christmas holidays he text me a little and shared with me some problems he had been having. Last night when we wa...
A. 14 January 2011: All you can do is be open and honest with him. Ok yes he did want to meet up with you but it sounds like he is really confused at the minute and you need to let him have time to make his mind up. I think thats what he needs most at the moment.
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Every time I like a guy he always likes my best friend
Q. This has been happening ever since grade 2 and I'm sick of it. Every time i like a guy he ends up liking another girl or my best friend. Only once has a guy liked me. and this time the guy i liked ended up being in LOVE with my bestbest friend he ...
A. 14 January 2011: Am sure you are not ugly and dont ever believe that you are. I guess you are just looking in the wrong places or else these guys are just not for you. Some day a guy will come along that likes you and none of you friends. You just need to wait for ... (read in full...)
Husband focuses all his attention on the baby now!
Q. Hi my husband and i have been married for three years we love each other very much we have a 7 months baby girl we were soo happy to have this baby , After giving birth i feel like my husband has changed. He is so happy about the baby that makes ...
A. 14 January 2011: Some times when children come along a lot of the attention are on them and it can be hard for a mother or a father to accept it. But i guess you should just be thankful that he is being a good father to your daughter and that daughter is something ... (read in full...)
My fiance is convinced I cheated on him even thought I didn't because I lied to him
Q. I'm having an issue with my fiancee and was looking for a bit of help... We've been together for almost a year, but a lot of time has been spent apart while I take care of legal issues in the state from which I moved. Over the course of that t...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess that lying to him has made him think that there is more to it and i guess anyone would think the same. Am guessing that you have learned your lesson now and always be honest with your fiance its the basis to a good relationship.
Right... (read in full...)
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