My fiance is convinced I cheated on him even thought I didn't because I lied to him
Q. I'm having an issue with my fiancee and was looking for a bit of help... We've been together for almost a year, but a lot of time has been spent apart while I take care of legal issues in the state from which I moved. Over the course of that t...
A. 14 January 2011: I guess that lying to him has made him think that there is more to it and i guess anyone would think the same. Am guessing that you have learned your lesson now and always be honest with your fiance its the basis to a good relationship.
Right... (read in full...)
He got married! Is it wrong to still care about him?
Q. Years ago I meet this man that I was afraid to approach, over the years I never forgot him and he has never forgot me. When I finally got the courage to tell him how I felt and I always wanted him I found out he was a newlywed. But since that day ...
A. 14 January 2011: Its not wrong to care about him no but he is only just got married and this is a dangerous path that you are going down. You need to remove him from your life. I know that it would be painfully hard for you but it needs to be done before you end up ... (read in full...)
What is too friendly?
Q. What is too friendly Will try to be as comprehensive as possible. Please keep an open mind My best friend told me she had feelings for me and over a period of months, it developed into love. She told her husband she loved someone else and w...
A. 14 January 2011: I understand that she shouldnt still be acting as a wife to her ex husband but its up to her to change she needs to make up her mind and decide what she should do or not. I understand that it is difficult for you. But if she is not willing to let go ... (read in full...)
My brother doesn't support my choice of a wife, he wants me to marry his wife's sister!
Q. Hello everybody, i'm 28 yrs old in love with my GF For 5yrs, she is the one i'm planning to marry very soon. My major problem is that, my elder brother who took care of my studies when i was in d university is not in d support to marry her. Now i'm ...
A. 12 January 2011: Just explain to your brother that you love your girlfriend and that she is going to be the one you will marry tell him that your sure his wifes sister is a lovely woman but that she is not the woman you love and if he is a caring brother he will ... (read in full...)
When poverty comes to a man's life, why does the woman slip away through the window?
Q. when poverty comes to a man life why do woman slip away though the window. Y? ...
A. 12 January 2011: Not all women do that, if a woman truely loved you she would stick by you through the hard times as well, you just need to find the right girl and not someone who is just with you for money, but some one who loves you no matter how rich or poor you ... (read in full...)
What is too friendly?
Q. What is too friendly Will try to be as comprehensive as possible. Please keep an open mind My best friend told me she had feelings for me and over a period of months, it developed into love. She told her husband she loved someone else and w...
A. 12 January 2011: I guess its up to you if you can deal with this, everyone is different some people wouldnt see this as a problems others will.
Ok i guess you need to accept that she shared a history with this man they share children therefore they are always g... (read in full...)
I hate him and so do our teenagers! I'm only staying because of the toddlers.
Q. My husband and I have been together 17 years and had 4 children. We have 2 teenagers and 2 toddlers. Our first 15 years together were great years. The last 2 years have been pure missery. My husband did a complete 180 and is a totally different ...
A. 12 January 2011: Ok well you are saying that you are staying with him because of your two babies, you dont want to upset them, but believe me young children pick up on tension around the house no matter how hard you try to cover it up and in the long run this is ... (read in full...)
Whether to stay or go? My heart says one thing, my head another.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and half years on and off and now on for one year and one month. I can't tell whether I am staying with him because it is comfortable or it is because I want to. I feel like as I am writing this I was to be with ...
A. 12 January 2011: Nobody can really tell you what to do here but yourself. You need to think with your head and ask yourself is it a good relationship, does he treat you well and respect you and make you feel special about yourself.
If you think that you are depr... (read in full...)
Did she cheat? With son in mind which option will be better for my new family?
Q. Ok this question is going to be lengthy but its important that i get the details out.Please give me your thoughts. A year and a half ago I started seeing my gf.(Jul 31) Right at the end of our summers, I was going into my junior year of college,...
A. 12 January 2011: I think you need to forget about it. She may have she may not have, but if you trust her now and you feel secure then just let it go. There is no point worrying about something that may have happened at the beginning of the relationship. Just forget ... (read in full...)
What will happen if she stays or get married to him?
Q. She is 20 this year and is in a relationship with her bf for 5 years already. They have broke up but then patched back many times. Her bf is very possessive, slapped her before 2 yrs back, emotionally abusive at times and she has cried a lot in this ...
A. 12 January 2011: Nobody can tell what will happen in the future. Only she can make the desicion on if she wants to get married, she knows what he is like therefore it is her choice on who she marries. If you are worried about her then sit down with her and talk to ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to be celibate, but I found a used condom in the dirty laundry!
Q. What am I to think or do? This is Long but detailed so that I can get the best response. I thank you in advance for reading my post/question. :-) I have been seeing a man since May 2010. Since I have met his family and our children get alon...
A. 11 January 2011: Hmm yes it does sound to me like he may be having sex with other woman. Im sorry but thats what it sounds like, he is being secretive and he doesnt want you going to his work place or calling him, this shows alarm bells straight away. He has you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be engaged anymore.
Q. Im 23 and have been with my partner for nearly six years. I care for him and deep down love him. We have a daughter together, shes nearly 3. We had a difficult time two years ago when he started having panick attacks. I supported him througho...
A. 11 January 2011: If your heart is not in the relationship then it is best to leave. Off course you are going to care for him and you probably always will as you both share a child but if you dont feel the attraction or spark there and your love is fading then you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be a father figure for this other girl's child!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for five years and weve hit some rough spots every now and then. 2 years into our relationship he cheated on me with this girl he worked with. we ended up working through it and stayed together and since then he has ...
A. 11 January 2011: I think you need to talk to this other girl and ask her a few things. It sounds to me like he has some sort of connection with this other girl. You were good enough to forgive him when he cheated on you but now he is taking it to far. You need to be ... (read in full...)
I never imagined my affair would leave his wife!
Q. I met this man whilst he was away for 5 months on work and we were instantly drawn to each other without really speaking. When we did talk it turned out he was married with kids, although my moral stance as always been very strong on this sort of ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well is there anyway you could move closer to him and try and make things work? As it would be harder for him to move to you as he has two children to think about. Maybe look in to renting an apartment closer to him and finding work in the area and ... (read in full...)
My crush is moving on up in the world!
Q. Dear cupid. i dont no what to do. the guy who have the biggest crush is leaving school for collage about 2 months. im heartbroken because ive been crushing on him for about two years and now hes going and i cant move on everything i do reminds ...
A. 11 January 2011: Tell him how you feel you have nothing to lose if he does turn you down well at least you no you tried and you wont need to see him everyday after he leaves so you can move on from him. Or else he might feel the same for you. The only way to find ... (read in full...)
I love this guy but he doesn't want to be in a relationship
Q. Hi i was wondering if you could help me at all. Bascially, i was in a relationship with my ex partner we lived together for 5 years and then he finished things as he thought he was too tied down i was literally all over the place and it reallt cr...
A. 11 January 2011: Stop having sex with him, he is using you as a booty call therefore you are never going to get him back, you say he loves you but none of what you wrote says that, he left you with out a care in the world as it was obvious he just did not want to be ... (read in full...)
Every time we get close, I brush him off!
Q. Hii cupids. Im having a bit of man trouble, although hes done nothing but be great.. I met him a long time ago, about 4 years ago, we were both really young and shy, although we switched names and msn addresses we didnt really get much further. ...
A. 11 January 2011: Ok so yes you do like him and you think that he is a great guy. Was your last sexual partner the person you loved? If so and you got hurt this could be holding you back. Just look in to your past and try and think on anything that could be holding ... (read in full...)
Why is he still lying even though we are now separated?
Q. My husband and I have been separated 4 months, he cheated 4 years ago and I have a had a bad time with it, just when I was getting better from all the disagreements with this affair, he tells me he is unhappy that I will never forgive him....so he ...
A. 11 January 2011: Do you have evidence that he has cheated with this woman? Could it be possible that they are only friends and she wants more therefore she is sending these letters so that she could break up your marriage? If you really wanted to get it sorted then ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to change in the bedroom? We've tried before but he goes back to his old ways!
Q. me and my husband have been together for a yr and for months and only been married for a month and weve been having sex the same way the whole time weve been together, and he doesnt like to do anything and when we do have sex. it doesnt feel good ...
A. 11 January 2011: Just tell him straight out that you want to spice things up and do new stuff in the bedroom, tell him that you want to try different things and experiment. If he tries going back to his old ways show him new ways.... (read in full...)
I have no idea what to make of his behaviour
Q. A guy friend of mine, who i used to have a casual thing with about a year ago, has been acting really "odd" i guess you could call it. He has a girlfriend now, who he's been with about a year or so. Anyway, when he got with her i was devastated, i ...
A. 11 January 2011: This guy sounds dangerous and you should just remove him out of your life because he is playing with your emotions, dont be fooled in to believing he has feelings for you, because he has his chance like he said but he didnt want you. It sounds to me ... (read in full...)
I need to know if he wants a child with me?
Q. I have been with my guy for going on 2 years. He has a 7 year old son. When we first met I told him I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to be married or have children. But within 3 months I knew that I wanted to be a mom one day. Knowing that he does ...
A. 11 January 2011: I guess you will never really know what he will do. I guess you need to act independantly here and ask yourself what you really want in life would you rather stay with this man and live a happy life or go on your own and find someone else who wants ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being clingy and needy?
Q. How should you treat a boyfriend/girlfriend?! Do you treat them like a very close friend? A best friend? Something completely different?! I'm having some problems beeing too clingy and dependent on my boyfriend and I would like to stop but I'm...
A. 11 January 2011: Ok being to clingy and dependant on someone will lead to them finishing with you if you are not careful.
The best way to treat a boyfriend is like you would treat a friend. Its ok to tell them you love them and be romantic but outside of the rela... (read in full...)
Sex in this gay relationship has gone south!
Q. So I'm 2 months into this realtionship and things where good at first but now the sex part seems to be going south ( on his part) it starte with him not being able to stay hard during intercorse and now he can't seem to stay hard for anything now. ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well there could be many reasons for lack of an erection and usually the last one would be that he has lost interest so try not to worry and think that its to do with you as am sure its not.
I bet he doesnt even know why it is happening and he i... (read in full...)
She is driving me insane! And NOT in a good way! :S
Q. Alright, Where to begin... I've just been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months now, but after the first month everything changed... You see I'm currently unemployed and unable to drive due to the drought of money so i cant afford my car ...
A. 11 January 2011: Ok well first off two and a half months is not an awful long time for two people to be madly in love with each other, you say you doubt her, who was the first to say those 3 words, because if it was you then maybe she just felt the need to say them ... (read in full...)
New to dating, what should I do about my cheating boyfriend?
Q. I woke up the other morning to my boyfriend of 7 months alarm on his phone which is normal. I reached over to turn it off. I don't know how commom it is but sometimes when things are kindda fishy I get really bothered. And it just so happened that I ...
A. 11 January 2011: Well he has broke your trust by sending this text to this girl, some men are just stupid and theres words speak louder than there actions however it was obviously in his mind to cheat, maybe he wouldnt have maybe he would have who knows but it is up ... (read in full...)
Could this be a yeast infection or is it an STI/STD Title
Q. ok so.... saturday 8th january i had unprotected sex with a guy while i was drunk. It's the first time i've gone back to a guys house after meeting them that night. and ive only slept with 4 people. The thing is i now have an itching / slightly...
A. 10 January 2011: It does sound like it is thrush you have, its quite common after sex, but you did have unprotected sex and many STI's dont have any symptoms therefore you should go to your local sex clinic and get tested. Its better to be safe than sorry.... (read in full...)
Am I simply wasting my time with him?
Q. hi ok ive been having this online relationship with a guy 4 a while now hes nice and sweet and we talk about alot of things. Ok now here is the strange part he is 24 and still a virgin he has never had a relationship before he says that he is ...
A. 10 January 2011: I agree here as well, you have never met this man in person therefore he could be anybody and feeding you lies. He may have slept with 20 other girls but he may be smart and think if he tells some young girl that he is a virgin and wants to wait for ... (read in full...)
Am I being too clingy or is there a problem?
Q. Here we go... I am having a communication problem with my boyfriend of a year and a few months, and I don't know if it is me being clingy and needing to talk or its something else. Our normal week consists of him driving a hour and a half to...
A. 10 January 2011: It sounds to me like you have became dependant on your boyfriend and this is never good in a relationship you need to be independant as well as being part of a relationship. You both spent a lot of the week together so just enjoy that time together ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I have secretly been together for several years!
Q. My cousin and I have been secretly together for seven yrs off and on,I tried to stop several times,but I can't Im in love with him and, he knows it. When i try to leave him alone he becomes so angry and mean,it makes me cry! I dream about it when I ...
A. 10 January 2011: Do some research in to the laws where you are from as if it is illegal you may both end up locked up. Even if it is legal there is still the fact that you come from a religious family and they probably wont understand therefore you will be living a ... (read in full...)
I'm best friends with a man who's wife is an adulteress!
Q. My best male friend’s wife has been cheating on him for years. I have not said anything because I don't want to get in the middle of it with them. I have remained friends with his wife up until she accused me of messing around with her husband just ...
A. 10 January 2011: I understand that you dont want to be the one to tell him the truth about his wife but now you are caught in the middle anyway because she has involved you. I dont think you should tell her husband as she may twist your words and make it look like ... (read in full...)
What do I do? He doesn't believe or trust me!
Q. Me and my baby been together for a minute now I so n love wit him he thinks I'm having an affair wit someone else but he don't trust or believe anything I say I'm been honest to him I never would cheat on him cause I wouldn't want him to cheat on me ...
A. 10 January 2011: There is a possibilty of two reasons why he is being like this. Either he has cheated on you and now he is taking it out on you and thinking that you are going to do the same to him or else he is a very in secure person and no matter what you say to ... (read in full...)
So do LDRs ever work out?
Q. do long distance relationships ever work out? ive been seeing a this girl for a little over 2 years and we are in love. the thing is that she got an opportunity to go work in europe for 2 years and she decided to take it. We both want her to stay ...
A. 10 January 2011: I agree. Yes it will involve some hard work on both sides but it can be done if you both make time and effort for each other and as long as you both trust each other then you can make it through it. I know two years seems a long time but am sure you ... (read in full...)
Struggling to find increase my libido and sex drive....I am only 26!!!!
Q. I will be celebrating my 2 year anniversary in 2 months. I have had a major decrease in my libido....my sex drive comes and goes and it is extremely hard for me to get 'wet' easily. A few years ago I began doing laser hair removal in my bikini are...
A. 10 January 2011: Yes it is a strong possibilty that the reason lies with in the time you got burnt. It may be a phycological thing or else you may have cause some nerve damaging to that area. If you feel this might be the case maybe you should visit your local ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend just a dude being a dude?
Q. my boyfriend is on a forum that talks about just BS stuff, the weather - girls - porn - sex pretty much anything but he's always saying things to people in a sexual way, for example a guy on there posted something that his gf sent him and he put a ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well this is entirely up to you if you are comfortable with this kind of behaviour then fair enough but if you are not then you need to tell him what you found and ask him why he feels the need to comment on strangers photos. But yes he probably is ... (read in full...)
She says there's nothing between us, but I still feel it!
Q. I met a girl roughly a year+ ago, shes best friends with my best friends girlfriend. We were always around each other at outings. I instantly fell for her, I followed by always trying to ask her out, to try to get to know her more but she would ...
A. 10 January 2011: It sounds to me like this woman thinks you are a womaniser and she is scared of getting to close to you in case she gets her. Obviously someone has told her you are not the commitment type and to be careful of you.
Be honest with her tell her... (read in full...)
Do woman know when a guy likes them in a romantic way?
Q. My question today is pretty straightfoward: Many girls I have met tell me that, "Women know when a man likes them in a romantic way." I have asked, "Really? How do they know?" "We just know," is the simple reply. Is this true? If this is...
A. 10 January 2011: Well it really depends on the guy himself some men are really forward and make it obvious that they like you but then again some men are quite shy and they dont no how to flirt or show that they are interested and this is where the confusion lies.... (read in full...)
He said he'd text me but he hasn't. Does that mean he didn't like me?
Q. I want the honest truth (even if it hurts) My friend had a friend who she wanted to hook up with someone, she had showed him a picture of me and he was interested. He added me on facebook and we began talking, and then texting. We had to wait abou...
A. 10 January 2011: Ok it doesnt mean for sure that he doesnt like you it could be just the fact that sometimes guys get carried away with other things and forget that they have made a promise to text someone. Why dont you give him a text and ask him how he is and see ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 2 years has become distant. I don't know why?
Q. I have been going out with my bf for the past 2years and in the past four weeks he has become distant with me doesnt kiss me or hold me he just isnt as affectionate with me as he once was am really starting to feel like he is loosing intrest in me ...
A. 10 January 2011: Sometimes relationships hit a patch were affection gets lost and the other half is left wondering what they have done wrong when it could be just a phase and he has got lazy.
The only person that can answer your question here is your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Why am I not allowed to have male friends when husband has all the female friends he wants?
Q. I am sorry this is so very long. I am so confused. Background.... I love my husband (he's 39 btw) of 6 years and for the last 7+ years we have been in the swinger lifestyle. (we were swingers before we were married) he is my third ...
A. 10 January 2011: I guess he is insecure and scared that you will fall in love and leave him. I honestly dont understand why married people have sex with other people anyway. Marriage should be between two people and nobody else. It is starting to show the strain now ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to put my life on hold and wait for him?
Q. I am divorced and have been for about 5 years and have met some real losers but about 2 years ago a wonderful guy came into my life, we met through some mutual family friends that have known both of us since we were children, we just clicked and ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well if when you got with him two years ago and he was already seperated from his wife then two years is a long time to figure out what he wants. Its obvious he is scared of commiting himself to you it may be the fact that his marriage didnt work ... (read in full...)
Considering anal sex for the first time....Unsure of what to do?
Q. I have been considered anal sex with my husband. I always said I would NEVER EVER do it! However, I have recently gone through a situation that I actually recently posted about, where I became very close with my brother in law (bil) and he int...
A. 10 January 2011: Ok well if it is something you would like to try then go for it, just remember that it can be stopped at anytime if you dont like it and dont be afraid to tell your husband that you want to stop.
Just ask your husband to go slow and enter in to yo... (read in full...)
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