I can't get over my ex fling/best friend even though I'm in a committed relationship!
Q. Basically, I had this guy friend for over a year who was engaged to a girl he didn't love (he stayed with her because they had a baby together). I went through two other relationships while I was friends with him, the second of which began online ...
A. 22 January 2011: It sounds to me like you are missing him as a friend more than an actual potentiol partner. This is quite normal because am sure you cared for him deeply so it is going to hurt and upset you that he is no longer part of your life. His girlfriend ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my married man friend
Q. I been seeing this marry man for about almost 5 yrs now we never had sex we just share our feeling with each other I just don't understand why every time we are together he always say u will always be mines like I was talking to his co worker at his ...
A. 22 January 2011: He is getting jelous over you talking to other men because he wants you to himself. However you need to remember that this man is married so although he wants you to himself he will never be yours because it is his wife who he spends his life with, ... (read in full...)
Big crush, like very much, or love, or lust? How do I tell which feelings are love?
Q. Hey, so I need some advice. How do you know love when you, well, know it? I know it's silly since I'm only 13. Yeah, I've gone through a few crushes, like, 'oh that new kid is hot', yada yada. In 3 grade, I even 'dated' a guy.. For one recess. B...
A. 22 January 2011: Ok you are still very young and probably just entering the stage of your life were you want to start dating. Try not and worry so much about love itself. Instead live your life to the fullest. You obviously care about this boy very deeply so instead ... (read in full...)
Why was I just cut out of her facebook account for no reason at all?
Q. I know some people think friend request stuff on facebook is silly but I had one incident which has surprised me and hurt me. A few years back I worked with a lady who I socilised with, looked after her daughters on occasions, was caring when her...
A. 22 January 2011: Am afraid nobody can answer that question exept for her. There could be many reasons why she declined you. It sounds to me like after she accepted you she went on to block you and that is why her account would have dissapeared. Try not to dwell on ... (read in full...)
I was just trying to be nice... why did she mistake that for a romantic interest in her?
Q. Why do girls think if you do nice things for them, that you like them or want to date them? Honestly this question never been so true for me right now. I dated a girl for a year and we broke up 18 months ago, she knew I loved her deeply. I was hu...
A. 22 January 2011: Well look at it from her point of view she knew that you were hurt when you both broke up and then she hits a hard patch and gets dumped and then there you are taking her out and flirting with her, what else would you expect her to think? She ... (read in full...)
When do I stop caring about my ex boyfriend?
Q. It's a little bit of a story. Thanks for bearing with me. So...it's been a little over 6 months, or half a year, since my ex boyfriend dumped me. A little info on what we were: he was my first boyfriend and first everything. First kiss, first hand...
A. 22 January 2011: Ok yes time is a great healer but in that time you need to try and move on if you keep checking his Facebook page time is not going to make any difference because you are still looking him up and you need to break this habit in order to move on. If ... (read in full...)
I feel like a horrible person! What do I do?
Q. so i know i ask questions about my love life alot, but its complicated. especially now. he used to be such a sweetheart, always caring and making me feel so special and loved and he always used to do stuff with me like go hiking, or swimming...
A. 22 January 2011: Yes he might say he loves you very much, but they are only words anybody can say those words. Its a persons actions that show if they really love you or not, and all his actions are showing is that he is using you when he wants something then he ... (read in full...)
Is he overwhelmed and just needs time to himself?
Q. I have been dating a man for 4 1/2 years. Over the past year we have become disconnected due to his work schedule (over 50 hours a week), going to school to get his MBA, and National Guard. We also live approximately 1 hour from each other. He ...
A. 21 January 2011: Over 50 hours a week would be stressful to anyone and i think he probably just needs some space and some 'me time'. Although i understand that this is leaving you feeling hurt i think the best thing to do is to not contact him until he is finished ... (read in full...)
I'm like a ticking time bomb ready to explode!
Q. I'm having a problem with getting VERY annoyed over dumb little problems and causing a fight, its as though I can't let things "slide" and like I am a ticking time bomb waiting to explode and its really taking a toll on my relationship, what's ...
A. 21 January 2011: It sounds to me like you might have a bit of an anger problem. Maybe you could go and look in to any anger management courses that are available in your area, also there are some good websites that you could visit to help you deal with anger ... (read in full...)
We hardly ever speak face to face
Q. im having bad problems with my bf and i seriously dont know what to do about it a)he hardly ever speak face to face we only speak on MSN or i have to always say the first sentance. b)he gets disctracted by other girls. i seriously dunno what to ...
A. 21 January 2011: Well you need to ask yourself what are you getting out of this relationship? What is so good about it that you fear for it to be over? He is not making the effort to meet up with you face to face which to me sounds like he cant be bothered with you ... (read in full...)
He lies about all the girls on myspace
Q. Well heres the problemm..ive been withh my boyfriendd for two months now, and well its not so great but we tend to fix the problems...he knows im a jealous girlfriend but ge doesnt really care..he lies to me about the girls on his myspace and ...
A. 21 January 2011: Well it sounds to me like your boyfriend is looking for attention from other girls if he is gong around randomly adding them on my space. He is lying to you and honesty is always important in a relationship. Therefore you need to decide either to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to make all the 1st moves!
Q. My boyfriend is in 9th grade and im in 11th. i have kissed many guys and have a good amount of experience. He is very shy and we have only been going out for a week and he wont even hold my hand. I care a lot about him and want to hold his hand ...
A. 21 January 2011: Well you say he is shy therefore maybe he doesnt have much experience and he doesnt know what to do, maybe he is feeling the same way as you and he doesnt want to make the first moves either in case he does something that you dont want him to do. I ... (read in full...)
LDR-how can we work things out when he doesn't want to communicate?
Q. I am very confused and Idk what to do! My long distance bf and I have been dating for about eight months now and we plan on meeting this summer. He lives in Denmark and I live in Canada. Anyways when we first met everything was great, sparks were ...
A. 21 January 2011: Well if you both still talk to each other on msn everyday then i guess in a way you are still communicating every day. Could it be possible that he is a little bit shy and that is why he doesnt like using skype? Many people dont like talking in to ... (read in full...)
Should I send him a message telling him that I am turned off?
Q. So the guy I am seeing stills goes on pof every night. Approx a week ago I told him I would like for him not to go on pof, and of course he said he wasn't looking for anyone, just checks mail and has friends, and actually said his cousin was on it ...
A. 20 January 2011: It sounds to me like you are right he is deffo trying to keep his options open. Dont ignore him though just be honest with him and tell him how you feel. He needs to set his priorities straight if he want to keep you. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
In love with my boyfriend, but I still feel drawn to my ex!
Q. I have this problem and it’s more of an emotional problem. My boyfriend and I have been happily dating for almost a year. During that time, my ex has been talking to me a lot and begging for me back because he hasn’t given up on me. He doesn’t do ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok its normal to still care about your ex but he still loves you and it is hard for him. So i think the best thing you can do is to sacrifice talking to him its for his own good, its kinder to him than to keep in contact with him even though you ... (read in full...)
We're just friends, but why can't he just be honest, admit it and tell me the truth?
Q. Just wondering? We know each other for 10 years. Boyfriend for 6 years and best friend 4 years. We're not couple anymore, however we spend the same among of time together, do the same things, he tells me love u and miss u everyday. Basicall...
A. 20 January 2011: He feels that he has done wrong by you therefore he is being a coward and not telling you the truth. It sounds to me like he still loves you and wants to be with you therefore he is denying that he dated these girls in case you end the friendship ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a much younger woman... should I ask her out?
Q. I have a huge crush on a girl who is much younger than me (10+ years). We met at college where I am much older than most of the other students, but I have had no problem with making friends among them. I also can tell that at some point she liked ...
A. 20 January 2011: Well im guessing she doesnt mind the age gap concidering she already went out on a date with you. Therefore go for it as long as you are both adults there is no reason why you shouldnt. You have so much to gain and nothing to lose. Just tell her how ... (read in full...)
I feel like a horrible person! What do I do?
Q. so i know i ask questions about my love life alot, but its complicated. especially now. he used to be such a sweetheart, always caring and making me feel so special and loved and he always used to do stuff with me like go hiking, or swimming...
A. 20 January 2011: Well hunny its clear your boyfriend doesnt appreciate you at all. He choses his friends over you and cant be bothered spending quality time with you. It sounds to me like he just wants you so that he has someone to have sex with without having to do ... (read in full...)
He doesn't love me enough to get back with me but gets jealous of other guys
Q. me and my boyfriend have been apart for four months now. he was my first love, and we were inseparable. after a couple of weeks of 'not being the same' he finished me. is it normal to still be in love with him ? also he keeps telling me he still ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok first of yes it is ok to still love him, he was your first love therefore it will take a while to get over him. Now on to him he doesnt want to be with you anymore but he is a guy and is selfish therefore he doesnt want you to be with anyone else ... (read in full...)
I don't want him...doesn't he get it?
Q. My ex boyfriend who just continues to stalk me. He left me about two years ago to be with his baby's mother at the time (found out later on that the baby was was not his)he treated be really, really bad..he was verbally, mentally, emotionally and ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok first of yes get all of your family members to block him from facebook. Thats a good start. If he calls to your parents again get them to tell him that you do not want his letters that you are happy and to leave you alone. Try and gather as much ... (read in full...)
Is he thinking about her and does he like her?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 1/2yrs. We have on n off fought about his brother's girlfriend and it just doesn't seem like I can really talk about it with him. He says he doesn't feel anything for her but in my view I think he does. It ...
A. 20 January 2011: I think you are reading in to the situation a little bit to much. She is his brothers girlfriend therefore it sounds to me like he just wants to show that he likes her and that he is happy she is with his brother. He is probably just making an ... (read in full...)
How can I turn this back into a "chase"?
Q. How can I turn this back into a "chase"? Lately my boyfriend has gotten a little bit too into the routine of things. He's a party animal, he loves to go out and socialize with other people, he's not a big fan of 1-on-1 time, however he doesn...
A. 20 January 2011: Well its quite hard to fix putting the chase back in to the relationship if you are both living together. The chase is at the start of the relationship but you two have been going out now for 2 years and are living together therefore he needs to ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and we got back together. Still not sure if I can trust him.
Q. My boyfriend has cheated me in the past, we broke up and now we are back together after about 3 months. Im really really happy with him.. But there are times i just cannot trust himm.. and i get upset about it. :/ i dont know what to do??...
A. 20 January 2011: Am afraid there is little you can do to get your trust back, he broke it and its hard to get it back. but he needs to be the one to earn it back. Tell him how you feel and ask him to reassure you. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and haven't had many boyfriends. I really want one!
Q. i havent had very many boyfreind at my age i really want one! im 13 and at my age going out with people is usually because of your looks and i hate my hair! im ok with make up but i cant get my hair straight through the day i cant afford a really ...
A. 20 January 2011: Am sure you are not going to get a boyfriend just because of your hair. But if it makes you feel better about yourself then ok i can understand your point. If you look at the industry today a lot more people are stepping away from the straight look ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my ex wife, who who has joint custody of my 13 year old son, moving to another state.
Q. I'm worried about my ex wife, who has joint custody of my 13 y.o. son, moving to another state. She has started to date, and admitted one guy she is somewhat serious with was out of state. I hate the thought of my visits with my son changing. I ...
A. 20 January 2011: Did you originally go to court over joint custody of your son. By law you are intitled to see your son as much as she is unless there is some reason why not. Therefore talk to her about your worries and ask her does she plan on moving. Tell her how ... (read in full...)
Is there a middle ground where I can be the pleasant girl he fell in love with but make sure he knows he needs to get on top of things if he wants to keep me?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. For the first year, we rarely ever fought, and when we did it was nothing too serious. For the last six months things have been a lot more rocky (though we've had our ups as well). I...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok well if you distance yourself from him thinking that he will get his act up you are wrong. He will take it as a sign that you are losing interest with him. You need to be open and honest with him and tell him how you feel, tell him what you want ... (read in full...)
She says I am too quiet compared to her ex!
Q. i've been in this relationship for almost two years now and most things we do argue about is me being quiet in the relationship..she said am too quiet compared with her ex.,.am fed up of the whole stuff.. I have my own ex, but being with her is s...
A. 20 January 2011: First off you shouldnt be comparing a person to an ex. You or her this needs to stop. Be straight with her and tell her it is not fair of her to compare you to her old partner. You are a different person and she needs to either accept who you are or ... (read in full...)
How will I know if he's serious?
Q. Hi! okay here I go--- For the past 6 months I met a man online, we've lasted for 2 months,and after that unreasonably he stop connecting me, well I understand it so well that maybe he found another woman, I am openminded lady and can ...
A. 20 January 2011: Hi ok well first off just remember that having an online relationship sometimes is not always honest. He could be anybody and the interent makes it so much easier for people to pretend to be somebody they are not. Have you spoke to him via webcam so ... (read in full...)
Why would he now act distant after showing interest?
Q. I'm a bit confused...recently met this guy offline and we met once, had one excellent connection and have been writing and texting daily..We live about 200 miles apart. He came on very strong and showed great interest, we also have such a ment...
A. 20 January 2011: Be yourself, always be yourself no matter what, never change yourself for anybody as some day you might just lose who you really are.
Ok so he became distant which does sound quite strange as to me it sounds like he was really in to you. But many... (read in full...)
2 gay crushes, who to choose?
Q. I'm sixteen years old and I'm homosexual. I've never had any kind of relationship, it's harder because I have a very specific taste on guys. Currently, I have two crushes and I was never that positive about my chances. There's this one year younger ...
A. 20 January 2011: I think you should just follow what your head is telling you to do.
Ok crush number 1. Is he gay? You need to find that out, ok yes there is a female that sounds like she fancies him therefore you need to be sure that he is gay first off because ... (read in full...)
Why is she ignoring me... is she taking me for a fool?
Q. Hello, sorry this might be long but i need help!! i am in a relationship with my lesbian girlfriend and we are very happy together. My best friend is also a lesbian and is in a relationship with lets call her lisa, well when i first met lisa about 2 ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok Lisa admitted that she developed strong feelings for you and that is why she lost contact, now you also told her you wanted her therefore im guessing she is ignoring you because she wants to make things work in her relationship and doesnt want ... (read in full...)
Should I date my friend from high school?
Q. My good friend from high school and I had a "moment" the other day and I am wondering if it is wise to date my friend from high school? We have both graduated college, by the way. ...
A. 20 January 2011: I dont see why it would be a problem in fact its a great basis for a relationship. The both of you were friends therefore you knew each other and i think you should go for it. Just be prepared that the both of you may have changed over the years but ... (read in full...)
AmI just over -reacting or is something wrong here?
Q. I am interested in this guy....he was a very close friend of mine. A few months ago ; when both of us were a bit tipsy , we kissed. Then a week later, we met again and we just couldn't keep our hands off each other. We stay in different cities...
A. 20 January 2011: Your not over reacting if he is wanting a relationship with you then he needs to be prepared to make some time for you so that it can work out. However if he is very busy and you both live in different cities then yes i can see why this would be a ... (read in full...)
I just want to be happy together and not feel alone and sad all the time
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and just had a baby 7 weeks ago. We have had some times apart since our relationship started andI spent most of the pregnancy alone. He moved out days before I found out I was pregnant and decided ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok you need to kick him in to action and show him that his behaviour is unacceptable. Some evening after the children go to bed sit down with him and tell him to put down the x box control and have a talk with you. Tell him how you feel and be clear ... (read in full...)
How to win him over?
Q. Hey everyone,im a 21 year old gay guy and i am madly in love with a guy who goes to work with me.Well i am no hottie,well i have kinda pretty eyes and long legs but i am not very hot.But this guy who im talking about is like the sexiest man in this ...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok first off just because he hasnt dated any girls since he has worked there doesnt mean that he is gay. He may very well have been dating but didnt tell anyone at work as he may be the sort of person that keeps his social life private.
So do... (read in full...)
Is my friend out of order or am I too sensitive?
Q. I’ve been having some issues with my boyfriend of nearly four years and so has my friend.. I tell her most things but recently she doesn’t tell me much at all. She goes on like her relationship is so perfect now. He cheated on her, she forgave...
A. 20 January 2011: Ok yes it sounds to me like she is being a little bit bitchy. There could be many reasons for this though, maybe something happened between the both of you and its upset her but you are completely clueless to you. Maybe she is just angry at you for ... (read in full...)
We were good friends, and now she is ignoring me! What is going on?
Q. i like a girl who is my classmate i actually have crush on her and she also knows it and at one time we were good friends and now it hapenns is she is ignoring me?...
A. 20 January 2011: Talk to her and find out what is going on. Be honest and up front with her tell her how you feel about her and ask her how she feels about this and if she likes you as well. You need to take the bullet and just confront her. Goodluck.... (read in full...)
She's always on my mind and driving me crazy
Q. I got together with this girl early last year. I wasn’t to fussed about having a relationship at the time because I was happy how I was but she was a nice girl so I met up with her a few times and we ended up having a relationship. I could tell this ...
A. 20 January 2011: As the saying goes you dont know what you have until it is gone. Its very sad how this situation worked out as you never realised what she meant to you until you let her go. I guess now you have to suffer the consequences of that. You both tried ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and I don't feel beautiful to him. Should I persist trying to make it work?
Q. My boyfriend who I have been on and off for 4 years with, recently got back together with me. He wanted back in. However, I'm finding it hard to be with him because of my own insecurities. He hates make up but I have some acne scars that I'm really ...
A. 20 January 2011: Well we all have our own insecurities i guess and if it makes you feel better to wear make up and put on some nail polish then you should do that. However it sounds to me like this man is not healthy for you. I dont doubt that he loves you as am ... (read in full...)
Was he just trying to make conversation or did it mean something?
Q. I was at college waiting to see student services and this guy came up and sat next to me. After a minute he asked what number I was, so I told him and went back just waiting, to be called out. Later on he and his friends were talking and I heard hi...
A. 20 January 2011: erm well its really hard to tell if he was trying to talk to you or else he was just being helpful. If you see this guy around much and you like the look of him then next time you see him why not strike a conversation up with him and see what ... (read in full...)
Is he still faking or is he desperate? Or do you think I've surmised his real reasons?
Q. Well, I'm 15 and gay, and probably full of overused cliché, but I was with a guy for 9ish months, then he broke it with me. Obviously I was distraught, considering he was the first person I'd had feelings for, first person I'd ever been with, and a ...
A. 19 January 2011: Hi well i could almost safetly say that he is completely gay and always will be he is showing all of the classic teenage signs. First of can i say well done to you for coming out to all of your friends that takes real courage and strength to show ... (read in full...)
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