Looking for love, don't know about the rest ...
Q. Hello all. I have a pressing question but don't know quite how to word it, so I guess I'll just shoot from the hip. I'm still a virgin. I would like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, but, I don't know about sex. I keep vac...
A. 8 February 2011: Ok first off, you are wrong I was badly bullied when I was younger over the colour of my hair and because I was born in a different country. I know what it is like to be called awful names, I also know what it is like to be excluded and physically ... (read in full...)
Do I Listen To My Heart Or Listen To My Head Yet Again??? Please Help!!!
Q. So I've liked this guy since September. We have loads in common and I fell for him hard. I backed off for awhile, because he was in a long distance relationship but in the beginning of January they finally broke up. I was going to make my move on ...
A. 4 February 2011: Dont make a move on him as such because this will back fire and you will be known as the girl that came in between a relationship and believe me you dont want that hanging over you do you?
But i think it is best that you do tell him how you feel... (read in full...)
Do I watch her bewith someone other than me?
Q. My bestfreind that was in an abusive marriege with a man,so then she turns to wemon,and she said she was gay,we meet while we are both broken hearted,and i get to know her,and we become bestfreinds,we have slept together,on more than one ...
A. 4 February 2011: I think that the best thing you can do is to move out and find a place yourself, as if you stay it is only going to hurt you more. You fell for her but she has only ever saw you as a friend, and am guessing she had sex with you in the past as she ... (read in full...)
I think my man is cheating since he sleeps on the couch!
Q. okay my man has always been good to me he works nights lately on his off days he leaves in the afternoon and does not return to late at night so i been saying hes cheating now he is mad in sleeps on couch when he comes in every time i wana talk he ...
A. 4 February 2011: This to me sounds like a very unhappy marriage. I think you might be right and he is cheating, as only a guilty man would act in the way that he is doing. If he wasnt guilty he would be talking to you and proving to you that he is not cheating, but ... (read in full...)
Looking for love, don't know about the rest ...
Q. Hello all. I have a pressing question but don't know quite how to word it, so I guess I'll just shoot from the hip. I'm still a virgin. I would like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, but, I don't know about sex. I keep vac...
A. 4 February 2011: Ok well we all have flaws and we all have parts of our bodies that we do not like, nobody is perfect and i bet if you asked even the most confident person do they like every part of there body i could bet you that they dont. There is always going to ... (read in full...)
We've always cheated on our partners with each other, should we end contact?
Q. ive been having sex with my exboyfriend off and on for the last 8 yrs(dated in hs) we always seem to reconnect. we've always cheated on our partners with each other. should we end contact? he has a gf now and a one yr old...but he claims he doesnt ...
A. 3 February 2011: You need to talk to him and ask him who he wants. Dont be the other woman anymore, you dont need me to tell you that cheating is wrong and that people get hurt out of it. Therefore you need to ask him if he wants to be with you or his current ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to feel resentment toward his child, I need help to handle this situation!
Q. Ok - Here is the situation... I have known my husband since I was 15, we made out one night at a bar when I was 19 and I never heard from him again until I was 25. I was a super mess, my Fiance at the time had cheated on me and sent me the pictures ...
A. 3 February 2011: You need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel you cannot live like this, because even though you love this child one day you will just snap and say something to her that you will regret. Thats what happens when you let resentment build ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say when he's back and forth, yet as his friend, I feel like I've got to say something.
Q. A friend who's getting divorced told me that his wife (who he does not have any kids with) will still come around because "that's just what we do." (they've been married less than 10 years, but been off and on for over 20 years. Is it weird fo...
A. 3 February 2011: Well they were married for a long time therefore am sure that yes he does still love her and that he might have just been angry at his ex wife for wanting a divorce and that is why he said he wont be her friend after this.
Its hard on anybody ... (read in full...)
My married lover had a stroke, but we still want to be together. How can we make this possible?
Q. Hi, I've been married for quite a few years, but I have always known I married on the rebound from my first marriage, which also was never right. The reason for this is that there was always someone else that I loved, but I never explored it as I ...
A. 3 February 2011: Well you should have thought in this before you started having an affair. At the end of the day his wife is his partner there fore she is his next in kin and if he is finding it difficult to talk then not mant people are going to listen to you if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I broke up, and he got involved with my sister. We're back together, but they are still talking!
Q. Hi, I'm sorry if this goes on for a bit, I just don't really know where to start. I was seeing this guy for 9 months and we were forever splitting up and getting back together. We had a massive row and spilt up. He was forever telling me he wanted ...
A. 3 February 2011: Ok well if am going to be truthful then you are going to get hurt again with out a doubt. He doesnt love you or care about you he is using you to get to your sister who he likes. Dont let him use you, be the bigger person and walk away if you dont ... (read in full...)
I want him, but I'm his best friend. I don't know what to do!
Q. Sooo.. I have this "really good friend", let's call him Josh. Josh and I talk all day everyday, starts with a good morning and ends with sweet dreams. We talk about everything, our beliefs, how our day is going, family problems, pretty much anything ...
A. 3 February 2011: You need to talk to him about how you feel before it drives you crazy completely. Ok so it does sound like he likes you as well but that he is a bit scared of doing anything about it because you are only 17 and not legally an adult yet. You need to ... (read in full...)
I want to move onto the next stage with my boyfriend, how should I let him know?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I love him so much and I know he's someone I'll be with for a very long time. He does everything for me and I really would be lost without him. However, lately I feel that I want to go onto the next...
A. 3 February 2011: Its time for change, there is a complete break down in your relationship at the moment, and it is only going to cause the both of you to drift apart even more if things dont change. So now is the time to get started.
You need to tell your boyfrien... (read in full...)
Looking for love, don't know about the rest ...
Q. Hello all. I have a pressing question but don't know quite how to word it, so I guess I'll just shoot from the hip. I'm still a virgin. I would like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, but, I don't know about sex. I keep vac...
A. 3 February 2011: I think what you need to do at the moment is to stop worrying about sex and concentrate on yourself a bit more. It is obvious that you have no confidence and this is what is worrying you about having sex and being naked with someone else. The movies ... (read in full...)
Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 2 February 2011: I think you just need to accept that he doesnt want to have any contact and move on. If you keep trying to contact him then you are taking things to far and he will think that you are being clingy and needy when a relationship is over that often ... (read in full...)
I want to have a better relationship with my parents
Q. Hello, last August me and my mum had a really big argument and I moved in with my dad. I won't go into all the details of the argument but I will briefly describe it. I didn't have a job and got her a cheap box of chocolates for her anniversary. I ...
A. 30 January 2011: Yes it sounds like you may have depression therefore I would advice going to your doctor and maybe putting your name forward to speak to a therapist, because you hold a lot of anger and hurt in your heart and you need to talk to someone who will ... (read in full...)
Night of drinking and harsh words have really strained my relationship with friends. What should I do?
Q. Want to try and keep this as short as I can, so will gloss over some of the details. A few months ago my boyfriend came out for drinks for a friend's engagement and at the end of the evening he was chatting to one of her friends and she said som...
A. 30 January 2011: Ok all you need to do is let this go. Although racist remarks should never be tollerated ever I think what is anoying you most is the fact that your best friend doesnt believe you, it sounds to me like this is the part that is getting to you. But ... (read in full...)
We don't have enough time for each other and he blames me!
Q. My partner is madly in love with me and he knows i love him but when things r busy at home we dont get time togather then he blames me for this and goes funny on me even he day befor was home day .g dont even have do any thing to set him like this. ...
A. 30 January 2011: He needs to grow up and stop acting so selfishly. It sounds like he wants all of your attention to himself and he is extremely clingy. You need to explain to him that you love him but that you also have four children that you love and that needs to ... (read in full...)
Currently involved with a great girl, constantly plagued by the thought of my ex..
Q. Hey everyone, I am currently 20 years young and Id really like some advice with my dilemma. Basically to cut to the chase, I think about my ex girlfriend an awful lot lately although I have been with someone for over a year now. To shed some light ...
A. 30 January 2011: Ok well we cannot help about what we dream about, its our subcouncious trying to tell us something. It sounds to me like you never truely got over your ex. You obviously loved her and she obviously hurt you a lot by cheating on you and treating you ... (read in full...)
I'm not feeling validated in this relationship and she can't fully commit!
Q. Alright, this is going to be slightly long, but bear with me for a moment. I started dating this girl when I was 19. I've always had a lot of trust issues, so opening up to people wasn't something I was good at. For about 6 months things were goin...
A. 30 January 2011: I cant really give you an answer here on how to make her love you, because that is what it boils down to at the end of the day. She was cruel to start of with by tricking you in to getting her pregnant, it sounds to me like she is a dangerous girl ... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her, or am I making a mistake?
Q. I've known and have been sleeping with my girlfriend for 2 years besides a several month period where she changed her number and took me out of her life. Here's the deal and I am trying to get to the bottom of this and it isn't easy...we have h...
A. 30 January 2011: Yeah I think you are making a mistake and I really dont think it is a good idea to purpose to this lady. To me it sounds like she is not giving you anything from this relationship she is taking and recieving but she is not giving and it takes two ... (read in full...)
Should I take a risk and talk to my ex, or wait to see what happens when I visit his sister?
Q. It's been 4 months since my ex and I broke up....the same week we broke up he slept with someone, but didn't tell me... I figured it out! We didnt talk for a month then he got in contact, admitting what he had done and saying how he regretted ...
A. 30 January 2011: Ok well first off you say he slept with someone the same week you both broke up? Ok i can see why you would feel hurt that he would sleep with someone so soon but at the end of the day you were both broken up and it was just a rebound for him. He ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for the relationship that might not happen or just go for it and see how far it could go?
Q. Im single and so he is. It's always been more than just friends, we 'sext' all the time. He wants us to have sex but doesn't like talking about a relationship. He's not a virgin but i am. Should i wait for the relationship that might not happen or ...
A. 30 January 2011: Wait for the relationship. It is clear that all he wants is to have sex with you, and if you think by having sex with him will make him want a relationship with you you'll be very wrong, he will soon give up once he gets what he wants and you will ... (read in full...)
I thought I was independent but I'm so lost without my boyfriend
Q. Normally, I'm independent. I love going to the mall by myself cause I can do what I want,go into stores that I want to go into, try on as many clothing as I feel like it and have lunch where I want to go to and go home when I feel like it. However, ...
A. 29 January 2011: Your welcome. Yes you have went through your other relationship being hurt and cheated on therefore this has made you insecure and you want to control every aspect of his life and be with him all the time to make sure he is not with other woman. But ... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend's friend!
Q. Is it wrong to hate a friend of your boyfriend?? Me and this girl have quarreled 4 years now but she is a friend of my boyfriend and she's telling him bs lies. Am I supposed to be her friend no matter how much i hate her??...
A. 29 January 2011: Your very welcome hun.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps saying we'll have alone time and then invites his friends along!
Q. I love my boyfriend with all my heart ...but lately we've been fighing so much and its makes me unhappy...he always asks me to go round his to watch a movie and he says its just gonna be me and him.. but then he tells me his mates are coming to and ...
A. 29 January 2011: Yeah i agree it doesnt sound like you are moaning to him at all, in fact you are feeling unhappy at the way things are but you love him that much you are trying to find a way to blame yourself.
You just need to be strong enough and stand up to hi... (read in full...)
I had sex with my mother's friend. I'm worried she will find out!
Q. Hi. So I'm a bit a stuck with a situation and I don't know how to get out! My parents are both in their mid 40s, I'm 18, and I have a 4 week old daughter. I've been through shit (I guess it's relevant to say), and my parents have recently been ...
A. 27 January 2011: No I think you are just panicking. Ok yes you probably will give of vibes even though you dont want to he will be the same. But just dont try to hard. You said it wasnt awkward and it wasnt a mistake therefore just be yourself and act how you would ... (read in full...)
Help with gf's violent ex partner
Q. Please help, my “GF” has come out of a very violent relationship of 8 years after a particularly bad beating from her ex-partner (the bruises were awful) she decided to leave him me and her have been getting on well for a long time as friends she ...
A. 27 January 2011: It sounds to me like you are the rebound therefore just be careful that you arent the one that is end up hurt over this. I think this woman looks to you as more of a friend than a boyfriend. But she had just came out of a very long relationship and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps saying we'll have alone time and then invites his friends along!
Q. I love my boyfriend with all my heart ...but lately we've been fighing so much and its makes me unhappy...he always asks me to go round his to watch a movie and he says its just gonna be me and him.. but then he tells me his mates are coming to and ...
A. 27 January 2011: All you need to do is stand up to him. If he cries then let him but you need to show him that you are not going to take this sort of behaviour from him. Currently you are giving in to easily and its showing him that he can behave this way and get ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's last sexual encounter before me is making me very uncomfortable
Q. I recently discovered that my girlfriend had sex with one of her best friends' brother in law a month or so before we met(we've been dating for several months... making the encounter not even a year old). She's an honest sort, so I believe her ...
A. 27 January 2011: I guess you just need to accept that this happened before she was even with you therefore you have no right to not want them to interact with each other now. It is normal that you feel slightly threatend that she has a friend that she was once with ... (read in full...)
I feel that I suck in bed!
Q. I feel that I suck in bed. The main problem is that I don't last very long during sex, the average is usually under 2 minutes. This also occurs when I masterbate. When I was younger I could last much longer, about 10-15 mins usually, but not now. I ...
A. 27 January 2011: First off if you ejaculate then this is you having an orgasm. Im guessing those both times were just more intense for you than all the other times. I guess the only problem here is that you cant last that long. So there are a few things you can try ... (read in full...)
Should I give her time or just give up?
Q. Me and my gf broke up last night. We r on great terms. No one cheated not a lot of fighting, we just had some differences in our lives and she is confused. She wants me but doesn't know if I'm what she needs anymore because I didn't go to church or ...
A. 27 January 2011: Give her some time to her self so that she can sort out her head. But when she is ready to talk maybe you could work harder on the relationship by supporting her any time she is going through a tough time, its always good to show little gestures ... (read in full...)
I hate my boyfriend's friend!
Q. Is it wrong to hate a friend of your boyfriend?? Me and this girl have quarreled 4 years now but she is a friend of my boyfriend and she's telling him bs lies. Am I supposed to be her friend no matter how much i hate her??...
A. 27 January 2011: No you are not meant to like her just because she is your boyfriends friend. But you also need to accept that she is his friend therefore dont say anything bad about her to him or be rude or mean to her. However if she is telling lies about you then ... (read in full...)
Am I ready to get over him, and could he still like me??
Q. So about 3 weeks ago, I realized that this PAST summer I screwed everything up for me and this guy I like a lot(still). I know its WAY to late to fix anyhing, but ever since I found out I screwed it all up, it seems harder for me to get over him. I ...
A. 27 January 2011: Well you dont mention what you done to him to screw things up and you also dont mention how close you really were during the summer. However im guessing you done something that has really annoyed or hurt this guy therefore he is going to ignore you ... (read in full...)
I want him back, but don't want to wait around forever
Q. Ok, my ex broke up with me because he said we had been "arguing too much". Which is kinda true, but when we discussed our relationship the other day, we both agreed that we are both at fault for the arguments, we aren't pinning the blame on one of ...
A. 27 January 2011: Well im guessing he was doubting his feelings for you and that is why he originally broke up with you but you got so upset that he changed his mind because he obviously didnt want to hurt you, but then the arguement brought it all back to him about ... (read in full...)
Rinky dink relationships but no serious relationships at 23!
Q. Hi, I'm 23 years old and I never had a serious relationship before. I've been in rinky dink relationships, but nothing long term. There's not really a reason for it, just bad luck, bad timing and me focusing on other things (Like work and going to ...
A. 27 January 2011: well yes it can be normal to want a baby even though you are not in a long term relationship there is nothing wrong with this. But believe me its so much better waiting until you are in a serious relaitonship and its what both of you want, and i ... (read in full...)
I thought I was independent but I'm so lost without my boyfriend
Q. Normally, I'm independent. I love going to the mall by myself cause I can do what I want,go into stores that I want to go into, try on as many clothing as I feel like it and have lunch where I want to go to and go home when I feel like it. However, ...
A. 27 January 2011: No there is nothing wrong with you so dont panic im guessing you are at the stage of the relationship were you are still learning to trust him as a person and get to know him on a deeper level. It doesnt mean you are crazy.
See right there yo... (read in full...)
This situation with him is getting old, what should I do?
Q. I‘ve known this guy for about five or six years now, and we belong to the same group of friends. We only ever meet when this group meets, but then its ok, we do talk and everything is pretty normal. If we meet alone (which is almost never) its just ...
A. 27 January 2011: You need to make up your mind and do it quick because its really not fair on this man, its like you are leading him on even though you dont mean to thats exactly what you are doing.
Just because he is quiet and shy doesnt mean that you are goin... (read in full...)
Will we be happy in a long distance relationship? Or do we have to break up?
Q. am 17 and he is 21.. we have been together for the last 2 years and 6 months... but recently he has gone out on career grounds and he will return only in october.. and i am clearing my 12 grade in march so by june even i'll be out of town by june ...
A. 27 January 2011: The best thing to do here is to talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and see how he feels. Ask him what he sees in the future. Because it does sound like it would be very hard to keep this sort of relationship alive without the contact.
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How can we stop fighting and get back to how we used to be?
Q. My partner and i have been together for 2 and half years. things were great at the start but as life gose on a few problems come with it. Laterly all we seem to be doing is fighting. We have spoke many times about whats going on and end the end we ...
A. 27 January 2011: Ok well all couples argue from time to time, it is completely normal so dont stress about that. I guess you need to both sit and think about what subjects make you both argue the most and try and solve these issues by talking to each other openly ... (read in full...)
Bisexual and proud!
Q. Im bisexual and proud! i like girls and boys, i cant understand why people are a afraid to admit it, you are what you are and you shouldnt hide away from that. there is nothing to be ashamed of, i've had sexual experiences with girls and boys its ...
A. 25 January 2011: You should all be proud i guess people just hide who they are because they fear that people are going to judge them. There are a lot of homophobic people out there, which is sad and i guess people are just scared that they are going to lose friends ... (read in full...)
Husband needs the aid of porn to have sex with me
Q. Why when my husband and I have sex we always have to have porn on. When it is not on and we are kissing sometimes he gets on hard, but most of the time he is soft until we have porn on every night. We were apart for almost 2yrs and he said this...
A. 22 January 2011: Ok well it sounds to me like it is more to do with habit on your husbands part more so than anything else. This is the way he has learned to turn himself on and its more about trying to break that habit now. I dont doubt that he loves you or even ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex fling/best friend even though I'm in a committed relationship!
Q. Basically, I had this guy friend for over a year who was engaged to a girl he didn't love (he stayed with her because they had a baby together). I went through two other relationships while I was friends with him, the second of which began online ...
A. 22 January 2011: It sounds to me like you are missing him as a friend more than an actual potentiol partner. This is quite normal because am sure you cared for him deeply so it is going to hurt and upset you that he is no longer part of your life. His girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 19 January 2011: Ok so i dont think the letter is a bad idea realistically but is he living with his current girlfriend? Because you dont want to risk the fact of her getting her hands on his mail and then world war three breaking out, if he lives on his own then ... (read in full...)
Restoring the faith?
Q. Hi everyone, I am new here and i'm hoping you can help me. About 8 months ago my bf and i broke up and he started seeing someone else. Over time i tried moving on, and started dating guys, but it never really worked out as i still had feelings for...
A. 17 January 2011: Well he is the one that started seeing someone therefore i dont understand why you should be the one that has to restore the faith. I guess all you can do is to tell him that you went out dating other guys because you were trying to move on from him ... (read in full...)
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