Date Function 101 for a college senior
Q. Hey guys, I am a senior in college but have never been on a date function. I have the opportunity to attend one this this weekend. There is this girl that I really like but we have never talked. She is in a different major but we have close mutua...
A. 4 October 2011: The best way to ask her to this event is to ask her yourself. It sounds very child like to ask her through mutual friends. That is something that you do when you are in your early teen years. Just pluck up the courage to go up and say hello to her ... (read in full...)
She refused to go out with me.Says not yet. what is she afraid of, or is she afraid at all?
Q. Ok, earlier I said, "I am jealous of my friend going out with my other friend", so to get her out of my head I looked for another girl and said, "how do I get my friend to like me". She said no when I asked her out, so now I went back to the girl...
A. 4 October 2011: She has only gotten out of a relationship, am sure she doesn't want to jump from one guy to another, give her some time to come to terms with her other relationship being over. Give her some time.... (read in full...)
Is this guy just a time waster?
Q. About 1 year ago I met this guy at work and we briefly worked together for a few months. During that time, it was clear (or so I thought) that we were interested in each other, but nothing ever developed further. We would speak at work and ...
A. 4 October 2011: I think you are reading way to much in to this. At the end of the day you where work colleagues and you had a friendship going, but there is nothing in your post that makes me feel like he has led you on in to thinking he has romantic feelings for ... (read in full...)
Why do guys act interested, then ignore you?
Q. I met this guy while I was at a club on Friday. It was his friend who was chatting to me more during the night and he was just more into the music (it wasn't like a trashy club we were all there to see a big DJ) so I had to make the effort to speak ...
A. 4 October 2011: There could be a number of reasons for his behaviour, maybe he is sitting at home asking himself the same question. Wondering why you haven't contacted him as well. You see it works both ways. So if you are interested then drop him a message. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I wish I could just erase my ex from my life!
Q. My ex and i split up nearly 4 years ago, we have a 7 year old son together so we still have contact. My ex and i have both moved on and have our own lives and he has since been married but even though he has moved on he still likes to play me and i...
A. 4 October 2011: I understand how you feel. I guess he does know how it makes you feel and what buttons to press. But it sounds to me like he does genuinely feel comfortable talking to you as a friend. I think you mean more to him in life than he likes to show but ... (read in full...)
I want to get out of this situation but don't know where to turn!
Q. I feel like such a failure.i'm 27 years old,dont have a job and live with my grandparents.i have either quit jobs or been fired from them due to lack of confidence.my dad has been married 3 times and had my two half brothers in his first marriage ...
A. 4 October 2011: If you want to get out of this situation and you feel like you don't belong with your family well then it is time that you need to stand on your own feet. You say you don't get on with your grand mother but at least she has taking you in to her home ... (read in full...)
Friends? Should I treat my best friend the way she treated me?
Q. Hey everyone... I have a quick question. So my best friend ( x ) and I were both single. She met a Guy and we both was happy about it. Because who wants to be alone all the time? So when she was dating him, like very happy. She would pick him o...
A. 4 October 2011: Well really it is totally up to you on what you want to do. Although I don't agree with X's behaviour. It is so easy for a person when they get a boyfriend to ditch there friends and spend all there time with there boyfriend because they feel they ... (read in full...)
Nude Pictures. I just did a mistake. Do you guys think my friends would understand me and forgive me?
Q. hi will i ever find a boyfriend? i did something a year ago its almost two years. i went to a chatting site and i have friends who are gay,bi, etc. and straight a lot. and i was so bored a few days before i took pics with my pc nude. i know i shou...
A. 4 October 2011: Everybody makes mistakes. But you are letting this get out of control and it is having huge effects on your life and your health. What you done is your business and nobody else's and you need to try and let it go. You don't need to tell your friends ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to like him if she used to?
Q. I think I might like this guy. He's really sweet and cute and funny, but the problem is that one of my good friends used to like him. It was two years ago, before I met her, and she got over it because he wasn't allowed to date in high school. Would ...
A. 4 October 2011: It is not wrong of you to like him. You cant help how you feel about him and she never dated this guy so technically you are not treading on her toes. But if she is a good friend well then I think you should be honest with her and tell her how you ... (read in full...)
Should I meet with him after breaking up with him?
Q. Broke up with on and off again guy. He has a past as a player and I am done with him coz he flirted with other girls only a day after we were having a mini break. I called him to say I think we need time apart, not talking, or texting at all f...
A. 4 October 2011: Once there is romantic feelings involved I will be honest it is very hard to get back to the just friends stage. Even after some time apart. You need to be a strong person in order for this to happen. Because once a friendship is established most of ... (read in full...)
I need to move on and never look back from this LDR
Q. I am breaking up my 4 yrs long distance relationship who's still married but he say he's separated but i never heard from him filing for divorce or steps that will make us closer to diff stage of our relationship. I loved him so much and I always ...
A. 4 October 2011: Well you have only just came out of this relationship so it is way to soon to be thinking about dating someone else. You need to give yourself some time to heal. But by doing this you need to have a healthy social life as well. You need to do things ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like she's interested?
Q. Met a girl about a month back. Only seen her twice but a couple of nights ago she and I had a 2 hour conversation from 12-2 about Facebook, studies, interests, TV shows and animals. Would you girls have that kind of conversation with someone ...
A. 4 October 2011: It is still early days so just spend some time getting to know her and drop signs that you like her. Watch her body language when you are with her and keep eye contact and smile lots. If it seems she is enjoying your company well then go ahead and ... (read in full...)
Playing hard to get?
Q. Girls if you meet a guy and he's showing some signs of interest in you would you play hard to get just so he can chase you?...
A. 4 October 2011: Some girls would yes. Try and read her body language as usually this gives off more about how she is really feeling. Or else just talk to her and tell her straight out how you feel and ask her on a date.... (read in full...)
Can you be friends with your ex?
Q. Are there signs that your ex might want to give you another chance. I dont think mine is like the typical ex. but then again i dont know. she messaged me today so we talked a little bit but she kept asking me questions. and I got annoyed and said is ...
A. 4 October 2011: You can't be friends with her, not until you are over her. It never works trying to be friends so soon after breaking up, when there is still feelings involved it is impossible because it will only hurt more. If you want her back well then you need ... (read in full...)
Seeing his old messages brought up my insecurities
Q. Well this morning my boyfriend left me alone in his flat as he went to work. I wanted to watch tv online so I turned it on but before decided to check my fb. As he never usually is logged in I didn't expect it when he was. I then began looking ...
A. 4 October 2011: This has nothing to do with your boyfriend at all. It is your own self belief. You need to have more self confidence and believe that you are enough for him. You shouldn't have went through his facebook in the first place, and now that you have saw ... (read in full...)
I understand not being in the mood, but for 8 months??
Q. I feel that I've become unattractive to my girlfriend. We've been going out for two-years. At the start of our relationship, we were all over each other all the time. We would have sex basically everyday, sometimes two or three times (or more) ...
A. 4 October 2011: 8 months is a really long time. Intamicy is a big part of a relationship. I understand that you love and care for her but you really need to get to the bottom of what is wrong with her. Maybe she has just lost her sex drive. Is she in a stressful ... (read in full...)
He says he is over his love who died 8 years ago but I don't trust him!
Q. Hi.. whoever is reading this I do hope I can get some good advice or some kind of understanding as to why I feel the way I'm feeling at the moment! I met a wonderful Man back in July 11 -still together.He has not had any sort of relationship in the ...
A. 4 October 2011: Ok so I understand how you are feeling. But you are right she will always hold a part of him. He will think about her from time to time, because she was a part of his past. But sadly she passed away and am sure this was very hard for him to deal ... (read in full...)
How to be in solitude and heal from heartbreak
Q. So I've learned now that I am not worth that much to my husband and in a great deal of pain. I'm very depressed and lonely. I am not ready to leave this relationship at this time. I don't want another man in my life and I don't want to make friends. ...
A. 4 October 2011: It sounds to me like you are going in to some sort of depression. I understand that every body needs some alone time. It is very important. But it is also important to have people in our lives and to have an active social life. You say you don't ... (read in full...)
Sex starved, thinking about the porn business?
Q. Let me tell you my story. First of all, I'm a nice guy, fairly good looking, clean-cut, just turned 32, and I stand a shade under 5'6. My friends and co-workers tell me all the time that I'm handsome with a nice body. Secondly, I'm thinking abo...
A. 4 October 2011: Well if you have the confidence in yourself and you love your body why not give it a try. But remember they are looking for someone who is experienced in sex and is very confident while having sex and knows what he is doing. You make it sound like ... (read in full...)
His antidepressant medication is ruining our sex life
Q. Hi there My boyfriend suffered from depression for a few months and was subsequently put on sertraline. While he was on it we had an active sex life, however he had difficulty maintaining an erection and achieving orgasm. He also was unable to sl...
A. 3 October 2011: I understand why you feel the way that you do. You don't specify what age he is. But I really think he needs to go to a doctor about this problem. It will probably take a while for his body to come back to normal. Tell him he really needs to think ... (read in full...)
What's a good idea for his birthday?
Q. My boyfriend's birthday is next month and I'm at a loss when it comes to his gift. We've been together for a year and a half, and on his last birthday, I got him a bottle of cologne, a dress shirt, a nice sweater, a pilsner glass w/his favorite MLB ...
A. 3 October 2011: I understand that you set the bar quite high and you feel like you need to top that. But that really shouldn't be the case at all. Whatever you can afford should be enough. Am sure when it comes to gifts he won't mind if you don't get him as much as ... (read in full...)
I met him on a trip, but after we got home he became distant. What happened?
Q. I met a guy while working in Alaska this summer. He'd been there for about 6 months and I was scheduled to be there for two. It was a really great opportunity for me to get out of my home town and away from all these people that I didn't like and ...
A. 3 October 2011: You have no proof that his best friend done anything to him so try and take that out of your mind. It sounds to me like yes he may very well be a nice guy and you both had a wonderful time in Alaska. But it sounds like once he got back home you ... (read in full...)
I want someone who will find me sexy and I don't think my boyfriend finds me sexy!
Q. ok so this is confusing. Been with my partner 3 years. It's on and off long distance, which has been hard but we've always worked out ok. Well I'm having an have been having doubts and I don't know if its my insecurity or what. Well I have this ...
A. 3 October 2011: You need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. You need to be straight with him. It sounds like you are a very insecure person and you question everything he says and does and always find a hidden meaning behind it weather it ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about losing my boyfriend to a guy!
Q. Hi My boyfriend of 6 years and i have had a really rough time lately and the other night we had an amazing night where we completely opened up 2 each other n told each other everything (i know after 6 years we should already know everything right...
A. 3 October 2011: Wow you speak about this so matter of factly. It seems you are handling all of this very well. If it were me it would take a while for it to sink in. He says he is not gay or bi sexual but he must be or else he wouldn't be doing these things. He is ... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me for so long and I can't get images out of my head of her cheating!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and I has been together for one year and 3 months. In the beginning of our relationship (2 weeks in) she went to a place where people partying their ass off (a place for girls to get laid with many guys without being judged). À ...
A. 3 October 2011: Well it sounds to me like you don't look at breaking up as an option. Therefore I guess when it comes to the images you will need to just try and forget about it. I know that it is hard and it will take some time. When you find yourself thinking ... (read in full...)
I like her but only see her 2-3 times a year
Q. I dont know what to do, im a 17yo guy, theres this girl that i have known for like my whole life. we only see eachother like 2 or 3 times a year because she moved to a differant state. Ive always liked her alot.... She is also my best friend's ...
A. 3 October 2011: Its entirely up to you, but personally I find the best option is always to do these things face to face. But if you don't get to see her for a long time well then tell her on FB.... (read in full...)
It seems he has feelings for me but he doesn't want to be with anyone
Q. I still have feelings for the guy i used to be seeing and it hurts because,although it looks like he still has feelings for me,it seems like he only wants to be on friendly terms and doesnt want to be with anyone.how do i get through this ?....
A. 3 October 2011: That's a tough one. Have you spoke to him honestly about this and told him how you feel? I guess you have. Try being open and honest and just see why he doesn't want to be with anyone there must be some reason. Maybe you can get to the bottom of it. ... (read in full...)
A friend wasent enough. now I cant even have that
Q. ok i have a problem i am 15 years old and i have a male friend who is 16 coming 17 he used to have really deep feelings for me and a few months ago i was developing some too. i asked him for some time and in that time another girl at a club we go to ...
A. 3 October 2011: I guess there is not a lot you can do about how you feel. But he is with this other girl and if he felt really strongly about you well then he would break up with her for you. I guess you just need to accept that he has a girlfriend now and that you ... (read in full...)
Anyone have any slightly romantic ideas?
Q. Hello! This is going to be short and sweet. Basically, I was going out with a guy, and now I'm not. But we have always sort of been together. He still loves me, and I think I love him too. when we ended it was quite bad, and now he's going away ...
A. 3 October 2011: I guess personal things are always the best here. Maybe do up a photo album for him, or a memory book. He is leaving so it would be nice to have something with him from home. Maybe you could do a collage of all his family and friends. Something that ... (read in full...)
I still really like my ex ..even though I broke up with him
Q. Okay so ive liked this guy(lets jus call him ryan) for a long time but then he asked my friend out. he has a friend(whos a boy called mark) who we used to hang around with too but he was really quite and when ryan broke up with my friend thats when ...
A. 3 October 2011: well if you like him it is time to tell him how you feel. Tell him you are sorry for breaking up with him and that you regret it because you still like him. I guess what happens after that is up to him.... (read in full...)
I'm scared of rejection and stuck!
Q. Okay so this year(my senior year) has been terrible..I feel depressed for no reason!! Like nothing is wrong in my life..well except that Im too scared to talk to the guy I want because Im scared of rejection..but besides that everything is fine! But ...
A. 3 October 2011: First off well done for getting off the drugs and alcohol. That is a great achievement so you should be very proud of yourself. It sounds to me like you may be suffering from clinical depression. It is quite common for teenagers. Maybe you should ... (read in full...)
I need to know how to get to know this girl.
Q. I'm a junior in high school, and theres this girl in my chemistry class that i think is really attractive, but we've never said one word to each other. I'm not sure if she will like me because she seems like the smart reserved type and I'm sort of a ...
A. 3 October 2011: Am sorry to say that if you want to get to know her well then you are going to have to get talking to her. There is no easy way around it. You say you are not the type of person to just strike up a conversation but if you really like her well you ... (read in full...)
I like her but only see her 2-3 times a year
Q. I dont know what to do, im a 17yo guy, theres this girl that i have known for like my whole life. we only see eachother like 2 or 3 times a year because she moved to a differant state. Ive always liked her alot.... She is also my best friend's ...
A. 3 October 2011: Wow this is a really hard one. I understand your feelings for her really I do, but you see her so little that I really don't think it could work out for you both. Maybe you could start by telling her how you feel and see how she responds. Long ... (read in full...)
He's mean and jealous towards me. I want to salvage the relationship. What can I do?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles I've been having problems with my bf recently and we've barely been together for 2 months! He is constantly paranoid that I'd cheat on him with other guys and insecure even though the only guy I hang out with is a really good ...
A. 3 October 2011: It sounds to me like you are both insecure and clingy and this combination will never work long term. You both need to let each other breath and have a social life outside of the relationship as well. Him joking about cheating is completely ... (read in full...)
Helppppp! How can I get him to trust me again?
Q. i did wrong, i admit. currently in a relationship, my bf doesnt want his family to know ANYTHING about me and him. so obviously i cant mention it to anyone related to him. recently, his eldest brother (who lives in ghana) who has 3 younger brot...
A. 3 October 2011: He seems to be making a huge deal out of his family finding out, does this not bother you? What are his reasons for not telling his family anyway? If it was me I would feel like there is a reason he is wanting to keep it a secret and I would want to ... (read in full...)
I want to lose my virginity to him, but I hold back at the last second!
Q. I want to lose my virginity to my LDR boyfriend. I'm physically and emotionally prepared to go through with it; I find myself daydreaming way too much about having sex with him... I'm completely sure he's the one I want my first time to be with. And ...
A. 3 October 2011: I know that you think you are ready but this is your bodies way of telling you that now is not the time. I think the best thing for you to do is to keep on being intimate in other ways until your body relaxes more. Yes you are going to be nervous ... (read in full...)
Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 1 October 2011: No need to thank me its my pleasure. Well it sounds to me like you are the person that is going to be doing all the sacrifices. It sounds like he is trying to black mail you in to moving by saying that you where just leading him on. He is moving ... (read in full...)
Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 1 October 2011: It really is hard to say if he is being serious or not. Off course you have the right to be upset. I know you also made a mistake but still he wrote it up that he loved another woman so off course this is going to hurt you. I think you and he need ... (read in full...)
Should I work in another city than my wife? Will distance bring us closer? I don't want to go!
Q. Before I come to my problem let me take you to its history. I was 11 and fell in love with 9 years old girl who happened to be orphan living in orphanage in front of our old house in our hometown. We would meet in the park and played there...
A. 30 September 2011: It could work yes but it will be very hard work for the both of you. It sounds to me like she cares more for your family than she does you, but I guess it is her family as well which is fair enough. It sounds like you have a very complicated family ... (read in full...)
I work hard, while he borrows money from me and then takes days off from work to watch sports!
Q. My partner pays maintenance for 1 child + ex. He’s a salesman so income varies. I just had to lend him money to replace his stolen phone because he couldn’t afford to, and then he also needed extra money to tide him over until his commissions were ...
A. 30 September 2011: It does sound like you are under a lot of pressure with your job and you are taking this stress out on him as well because he gets to have free time when he likes. However you have every right to feel the way you do when you need to give him money ... (read in full...)
My childhood crush just added me on FB! Should I strike up a chat?
Q. It was like, "OMG, is this true?..'' or "maybe I'm dreaming or somethng".. etc.. I opened my FB account and saw a single friend request.. I used to think who it might be, and guessed that maybe it was just someone from my old school whom I do...
A. 30 September 2011: You need to calm down and stop over thinking it. Be glad that he done it but if he doesn't try and talk to you you will be disappointed so just look at it as what it is an old friend adding you on facebook and if you really want to reconnect with ... (read in full...)
Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 30 September 2011: Well you don't really explain why he said that he loved the other woman and who she was. Did he explain himself? Was he in love with this other woman? I guess you need to think long and hard about it and ask yourself if you are wanting to be in a ... (read in full...)
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