Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 27 October 2011: It sounds like he is taking things slowly and getting to know you slowly. If you keep contacting him and there is no reply you are going to push him away. Four dates is still way to early to be expecting anything from him or talking about anything ... (read in full...)
Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person?
Q. Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking ...
A. 12 October 2011: Your mother is saying that to you, because she probably worries about you and doesn't want you to grow up to fast, you are still her little girl, she wants you to be safe and not end up doing something silly and ending up a pregnant teenager. She is ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: You are being very negative and if this is how you start of when you date someone new then it wont work, if you keep telling yourself it is not working well then it is not going to. Seriously why stress about it so much, just live life the happiest ... (read in full...)
He said I can't get pregnant because he didn't cum
Q. My boyfriend broke the hymn in my vagina and didnt wer a condom after he broke it he put on a condom he said You cant get pregnant as he didnt come is that true?...
A. 9 October 2011: Well usually the guy does need to ejaculate in order for you to become pregnant, but saying that, when guys are having sex they produce pre sperm before they ejaculate and that can sometimes cause a risk of pregnancy. Also not using a condom wont ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: Yes even then, just because he doesn't contact you every day doesn't mean he has lost interest. It is only early days so there shouldn't be the need for you to be reassured so soon. You need to take a step back or else you will end up getting hurt ... (read in full...)
I want to continue my affair, but he dumped me!
Q. Hi all. Am here for an advice.! Pls don't judge me I hv been throu a lot in my life. Am a married women 36 with 2 kids I had an affair with an Indian married man 45 has 1 kid. He gave me my self confidant again after years of depression. And now ...
A. 9 October 2011: To be honest with you it is hard to go from being involved with someone romantically to try and be friends. I know that it hurts at the moment, but it will only hurt more trying to be friends with him because your feelings will still be there for ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 9 October 2011: Ok you have tried now and he doesn't seem to be that bothered about meeting up with you am afraid. Don't contact him again, give him the chance to contact you now, and if he doesn't well am afraid you need to accept that he isn't interested and move ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what my cousin will say when she finds out I did things with a boy!
Q. right well i done stuff with a boy the other day while my cousin was on holiday, me and my cousin are both 15 but she is older she is very protective of me and goes mental when she finds out i've done stuff as she has never done anything, she comes ...
A. 9 October 2011: It has gone around the school? Whatever happened between you and that boy it should have stayed private. You are at the age where reputation is very important and things like that can damage it so in future make sure you can trust whoever you are ... (read in full...)
My crush isn't showing any interest, should I just leave him alone?
Q. After you've known your crush for a month and after you've been talking to him and trying to get know him And yet he still doesn't really show any interest Would it be best to just leave him alone Or just tell him how you feel so that he'll know?...
A. 9 October 2011: I agree with caringguy, teenage guys can be so blind when it comes to girls, someone could be giving them really strong signals that they are interested and they just don't pick them up so it is best in these situations to just be straight and ... (read in full...)
First it's all good. Then he stops replying. Then stupid excuses. what does his confusing behaviour mean?
Q. Why would a guy who seemed really into you, told you he liked you a lot, text you all the time, suddenly not reply to your text message? Secondly after a couple of weeks you text him again, but this time he replies, with a stupid excuse as to why...
A. 9 October 2011: He might be a bit of a player who gets bored easily, it is really hard to tell, or else he may have been genuine about his reason for not texting back. I know he has told you that he likes you, but I think the best thing for you to do now is not to ... (read in full...)
Why is it so easy for guys to act heartless after a break-up? I was upset because he was hiding things from me
Q. So me and my bf of 5 months have recently broke up a week ago and im about to go insane! I don't know what to do anymore, he was always there for me and my son, hes done more for my son then my sons father! he would come over every night.. ever...
A. 9 October 2011: Am sure he is not finding it easy either. Some men like to pretend that they don't care, considering you broke up with him am sure this is why he is doing it, not to hurt you but to just make you feel like he is not hurting. I can see that you ... (read in full...)
He's jealous. I feel scared if we break up he's not going to care about anything. And he's not warmed to my children. But wants his own. Problems ahead?
Q. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He's a really nice guy he's a lot older than me by like 8 yrs or so. Sometimes we disagree with so many things as he's a really jealous guy!! Recently my family had been talking to me about him ch...
A. 9 October 2011: This is a very big issue. You being a mother I don't doubt that you want the best for your children and that they have priority. But at the end of the day if he is talking like this already this will be a huge problem later on down the line if you ... (read in full...)
He's jealous. I feel scared if we break up he's not going to care about anything. And he's not warmed to my children. But wants his own. Problems ahead?
Q. Ok so I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He's a really nice guy he's a lot older than me by like 8 yrs or so. Sometimes we disagree with so many things as he's a really jealous guy!! Recently my family had been talking to me about him ch...
A. 9 October 2011: This is a very big issue. You being a mother I don't doubt that you want the best for your children and that they have priority. But at the end of the day if he is talking like this already this will be a huge problem later on down the line if you ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my girlfriend and I didn't tell her, but I want her back!
Q. About a 2 months ago I cheated on my girlfriend. I then broke up with her but didn't tell her why. We had been together for about a year and a half. I can't stop thinking about two things: 1. How much I love this girl and want her to be my wife 2. ...
A. 9 October 2011: If am honest with you, for your own sake I think you need to tell her. I am not telling you this to further punish you but at the end of the day it will help you. If you get back together and you don't tell her the guilt will always be there on your ... (read in full...)
Would he ever want to commit? How do I bring it up?
Q. Hello. Just wanted to get some opinions of my situation. ( especially the men ) I have been dating a guy now for 5 months. Both of us have been married before with kids ( on both sides ) I know he is the one for me. When we met, after about 2 ...
A. 9 October 2011: If am honest with you I think it is way to early in the relationship to be talking to him about a marriage, even if it is further down the relationship. He has been hurt and off course he is going to need time to recover from his first marriage same ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed of getting erection while hugging my date. Opinions needed!
Q. Something very embarrassing happened to me and I would like female readers' opinions: There's this girl at work with whom we've been flirting for a few months now. Finally she initiated to go for a friendly coffee where we had a really nice and...
A. 9 October 2011: This is a hard one to judge if am honest. Maybe she was not interested in you in a sexual way maybe she saw you more like a friend. There is obviously some reason why she turned you down, but am not sure it is just based on you getting an erection ... (read in full...)
What should I wear for my first time?
Q. right then, I suppose this is a question mostly for the guys, but I think some girls' opinions would help too; basically, my boyfriend and I are planning to have sex for the first time, I'm a virgin and he's not. I trust him implicitly (which i...
A. 9 October 2011: Ok so lets start with your first question and that is what to expect on the night, well everybody's first time is different off course. I am not going to lie it will be a little uncomfortable to start off with, but as long as he goes gentle and uses ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: Wow you really need to slow down here girl before you push him away before anything serious can start. You need to look at it for what it is, it was two dates and by the sounds of it you are both getting on well and enjoying it, which is great. But ... (read in full...)
So what's up with this guy? And how do I handle his actions? He has a girlfriend, so why is he doing this?
Q. So i am working for this theater department. and i had showed up for rehearsals on night and skipped the next day because i wasn't needed. This guy had asked my dad ( who's in the play for the theater i am working for )"wheres your daughter at ? " ...
A. 9 October 2011: Well this fellow worker said to you that he is seeing someone else, but it might not be serious, he might just be dating someone and keeping his options open who knows. The only way that you are going to find out is to talk to him and find out if he ... (read in full...)
I am missing my husband very much and want to sort things out, but he just won't deal with me
Q. I have been married for nearly two years and things are not going very well with my husband. We live in separate houses which does not help matters but recently we row all the time. We have had a lot of issues in our marriage - he has children from ...
A. 9 October 2011: The least he owes you is to meet up with you and talk things through. I agree with blonde30s it does sound like he has decided that the marriage is over. Off course this is going to be horrible to accept. But he needs to talk things out with you so ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 9 October 2011: You are right at the end of the day you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who still has feelings for his ex and it is stressing you out and causing you to be insecure and having trust issues. You are right there are plenty of other ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is just a flirt and playing me?
Q. Yesterday I went to the movies with my friends Julia, Jay, Jack, Cassie, and Jose. Julia, Jay, Jack and Cassie know that I like Jose, as in more than a friend. And they think he likes me too so theyre trying to set me up with him. Jack told me to ...
A. 9 October 2011: You kissed his friend as well, so either he feels that you are all just friends having a laugh or else he was testing you to see if you would kiss his friend and you did kiss his friend. He says he doesn't feel that way towards you so if I were you ... (read in full...)
Dating is new for me and I'm having trouble getting in touch with my feelings
Q. ok so theres this guy who likes me and has made it clear that he likes me however i have never been in this situation before and am having trouble knowing how i feel i kinda feel numb and not sure if i have feelings for him back, i like spending ...
A. 9 October 2011: I agree with blonde30s. All you need to do is to take things slowly and get to know him more. Don't be scared to tell him that you are unsure of your feelings for him at the moment, but you want to get to know him more to see if there is anything ... (read in full...)
How can I move forward in our relationship when I can't stop thinking about her? I want her back
Q. So here is my story. I will cut some stuff out but it will be a long one. My ex and I started dated for about 5 months. It had been a while since I had been with anyone and she had not been with anyone seriously since her divorce about a year ago...
A. 9 October 2011: Realistically couples are going to have arguments it is just a part of life and she kind of over reacted a bit if am honest. Ok she has the right to be annoyed and angry for a day or two but really if you both where to break up after each argument ... (read in full...)
Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person?
Q. Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking ...
A. 9 October 2011: No it does not make you a bad person, and you should not be ashamed off yourself what so ever. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing well then it is your choice, but am glad you haven't had sex yet, not that it would make you a bad ... (read in full...)
Will I ever trust him?
Q. Just over two years ago, I embarked on what was then an affair with my current boyfriend. We knew each other from work and he had always been flirty with me, he had given me his number a few months before and after discovering he had a wife I backed ...
A. 9 October 2011: You are definitely feeling like this because of how you both met. Off course this is going to put doubt in any girls mind. It is completely normal. As for suggestions on what to do, I really don't have any am afraid, I guess that's the hard part you ... (read in full...)
I want to continue my affair, but he dumped me!
Q. Hi all. Am here for an advice.! Pls don't judge me I hv been throu a lot in my life. Am a married women 36 with 2 kids I had an affair with an Indian married man 45 has 1 kid. He gave me my self confidant again after years of depression. And now ...
A. 9 October 2011: If am honest with you I think he is just using this as an excuse to end things with you. He has had his fun now and I think he wants to start being serious about his life and make things work with his wife. Am afraid there is not a lot you can do ... (read in full...)
I want to continue my affair, but he dumped me!
Q. Hi all. Am here for an advice.! Pls don't judge me I hv been throu a lot in my life. Am a married women 36 with 2 kids I had an affair with an Indian married man 45 has 1 kid. He gave me my self confidant again after years of depression. And now ...
A. 9 October 2011: If am honest with you I think he is just using this as an excuse to end things with you. He has had his fun now and I think he wants to start being serious about his life and make things work with his wife. Am afraid there is not a lot you can do ... (read in full...)
Will my husband change after 10 years?
Q. hi we have married since 10yrs, my husband is not romantic he never said I love you,I don't no when will he change...
A. 8 October 2011: Am afraid to say that he is not going to change. He is the person that he is and he obviously just doesn't have it in him to be romantic towards you. You need to talk to him about this and ask him could he be more romantic towards you. You need to ... (read in full...)
My LDR went cold after I asked to get back together with him.
Q. I've tried to break up and stop communicating with my 4 yrs long distance relationship.. but lately its so hard for me to realized that were over and I tried to win him back by saying stuff like we could work things out and he said "yes,let's try ...
A. 8 October 2011: well I cant tell you if he still loves you the same way. You need to ask yourself why you kept breaking up with him, obviously you have your reasons for doing this, you need to explain to him why you done this. Are the issues resolved? Because if ... (read in full...)
I haven't found a girl I want to date!
Q. How do I find love? I'm still single. I haven't found the right women yet. I'm very nice, confident, not a push over, very smart, cool, a good kid and a sweet heart. I don't know why a girl doesn't like me back yet. I've been waiting for the right ...
A. 8 October 2011: Have you even tried to get a girlfriend? You just need to be yourself and if you like someone make it clear to them, be honest with them and tell them that you like them. You need to have the confidence to speak your mind when it comes to asking a ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 8 October 2011: Next time you meet up with him talk to him, flirt with him and ask him how he feels about you. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex I'm coming home for a visit?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. Well she broke up with me. She wants to be my friend I said no I wont. She texts me all the time and 99%of the time I dont respond. I want to get back together with her but she said no.(at the beginning of ...
A. 8 October 2011: I really don't understand men at all, you done the wrong here, she is crying out to you to prove to her that you are sorry, so you should be telling her now exactly how you feel. Tell her you still love her as well and you want her back, if you ... (read in full...)
Why is LDR boyfriend embarrassed to sex text me now? He wasn't before!
Q. Sex Text question? I have been with my LD BF for just over 6 months- we meet up every month or so and have a great time together. A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that sex was no longer the most important thing to him and that just being with me ...
A. 8 October 2011: Maybe in his past he has been dirty with other but hasn't loved them and now he is struggling to associate love with sex.... (read in full...)
How do I become less anxious and gain confidence?
Q. how do i gain some confidence and get over anxiety? every think i do has its own worrys even pathetic stupid things, for example, im at the hairdressers tomorow and all ican think about is what to say and what to wear. i cant stand the way i look my ...
A. 7 October 2011: The ironic thing is most girls would kill for a bigger bottom and my guess is that there are plenty of guys that admire your bum! It sounds like you have womanly curves and most men prefer this look to having nothing to grab on to, believe me. Off ... (read in full...)
I'm an adult, but still have teenage skin. What do I do?
Q. My skin's just like your typical teenage skin.. Break outs here and there and black heads. But my break outs seem to be getting worse and I can't stop picking at them! I'm going to try and break that habit, but what are some things I could use and ...
A. 7 October 2011: It is not only teenagers that get spots plenty of young ladies and men suffer from this as well. If it is really bad maybe you could go to your doctor and ask him for some medicated cream. Also make sure that you are drinking at least 2 litres of ... (read in full...)
Our six-year love has faded. Should we break up?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. Problem is all we seem to do lately is argue. I feel he doesn't appreciate me. Uve told him this n hes promised hell change but he stil hasnt. Im not as happy as I was before and just wonderimg w...
A. 7 October 2011: Six years is a long time to be together to just give up on the relationship. I understand that you have told him how you have felt but he probably hasn't taking you completely serious. Sit him down and tell him that you are seriously considering ... (read in full...)
Would an older guy be interested in someone mature or innocent?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and I usually like older guys, like who are in their mid to late twenties. This is a step up for me as before I used to like my middle aged teachers. I don't know if it's because I grew up without a father or what, but I tend to act very ...
A. 7 October 2011: The simple answer to your question is to be just yourself, if you are interested in a guy then you should always be yourself and try and not pretend to be anything or anybody else, because the true you will always come out in the end. Plus a guy in ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex I'm coming home for a visit?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. Well she broke up with me. She wants to be my friend I said no I wont. She texts me all the time and 99%of the time I dont respond. I want to get back together with her but she said no.(at the beginning of ...
A. 7 October 2011: I have answered one of your previous posts before regarding this situation. At the end of the day it is clear that she still loves you and off course she misses you, but you broke her trust and she needs time to see if she can trust you again. I ... (read in full...)
What should I do now that my crush knows?
Q. the person i fancie found out about it what should i do?...
A. 7 October 2011: I know this is quite scary and you are not sure what to do now, but this is your chance now to see if anything can happen between the both of you, so make conversation with him, smile lots and show him that you are interested in him. If he asks just ... (read in full...)
My ex always tries to befriend my new boyfriends!
Q. My ex is so annoying he doesnt like it when i go out with somone else even tho the relationship has been over for nearly 2 years now. Whenever i get a new boyfriend he acts as if he is their best mate and never likes me to talk to them or be near ...
A. 7 October 2011: He obviously doesn't know how to let ex's go and he tries to get in between there new relationships. It really is unfair of him and he needs to grow up instead of trying to ruin your love life. Try and talk to him maturely and tell him how he is ... (read in full...)
If I'm 17, is it OK to be in love with a 26-year-old man?
Q. im a 17 year old woman in love with a 26 year old man and he is in love with me we both live in indiana is this legle we need advice cause my parents told us both that if we continue our relationhip that they would have him arrested please help...
A. 7 October 2011: The legal age in Indiana to have a sexual relationship is 16 therefore you are technically old enough to have a relationship with this man and there is nothing that your parents can do about it. They are only saying this to you to frighting you as ... (read in full...)
Older student has feelings for tutor, should I not pursue it?
Q. A few months ago I wrote for advice on this issue and the general concensus was that the man seemed interested but that I should wait and just remain friendly. Basically, I need some reassurance about what is going on as I am finding it very ...
A. 7 October 2011: I agree with the previous post, it is clear that all of this is effecting you in a big way. It is always complicated when it is a tutor and student no matter what the age is. He still cannot be seen dating a student and it would be very bad for his ... (read in full...)
Should I bother trying to be her friend?
Q. My friend and I had an argument over a lie I told her and had a huge fight! She quit talking to me. I tried talking to her but she was so angry she cussed at me and told her to not speak to her ever again. Then over the course of a few weeks (once a ...
A. 7 October 2011: I completely agree with Caring guy here, he has said everything exactly how I would have said it, at the end of the day you have broke her trust and yes you have tried to make it up to her, but I think what you need to do now is to leave her alone, ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 7 October 2011: I think you should go ahead and text him, show him you are interested and leave it up to him. It might be a case he is unsure how you feel about him therefore he has decided to give up. You have had a crush on him for a long time so it would be a ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 7 October 2011: I apologise I picked you up completely wrong therefore I am sorry. Well I guess that changes things slightly. I guess it is a good thing that he is being honest with you about how he feels, but off course it is going to make you feel like you are ... (read in full...)
Why is LDR boyfriend embarrassed to sex text me now? He wasn't before!
Q. Sex Text question? I have been with my LD BF for just over 6 months- we meet up every month or so and have a great time together. A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that sex was no longer the most important thing to him and that just being with me ...
A. 7 October 2011: Just because he is more serious with you now doesn't mean he should just change his personality completely. I would be quite concerned about this now especially because it is a long distance relationship. For him to say he is embarressed after doing ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 7 October 2011: I think the healthy thing is to find someone new. You say you are falling for him, but have you even met him in person? It is impossible to feel chemistry between two people if you have never even been in the same room as each other. I think it ... (read in full...)
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