How do I instigate an maintain a long term serious relationship with a girl?
Q. Hello There's this girl that I have been talking to for about 2 months already. She is wonderful and also a sweetheart, so you're wondering what's the problem here. The thing is that I have never been in a serious relationship before. I have o...
A. 16 October 2011: If am honest with you, I feel that you are over thinking the situation which is making you panicky and confused. Just follow your gut instinct. Yes you might be new to all of this and you are unsure but that doesn't mean that you would not make a ... (read in full...)
My ex told me he's been chaste since our breakup. Do I have a right to be fuming, now I've found out that he has been having a connection with a girl? He lied to me.
Q. This is another question to the previous one I asked, my ex says he wants to keep in touch but doesn't...! Further update and new problem! He has made much more of an effort to be in touch, we were getting along fine as friends, this last week w...
A. 16 October 2011: Well then don't try and pretend. Just be honest with him, tell him what you saw on facebook and tell him that he has hurt you by lying to you. He may have felt awkward telling you he was with someone because you are an ex, but off course nobody ... (read in full...)
Girls around 18 how do you feel about thick black eyebrows? Should I trim them?
Q. hey guys this question is mainly towards the girls around my age. I just came back from holiday and I've got a really good confidence boost just from relaxing. I have dark hair and big thick black eyebrows because I am black irish I sometime...
A. 16 October 2011: If you are confident with yourself and you feel that you want to leave your eye brows the way they are well then do that. Girls should not be vain enough to judge you on them and if they are well then they are not worth it. If you personally want to ... (read in full...)
Will he stand me up?
Q. I'm met a guy at my cousins birthday party and while there he told my cousin that he liked me and my cousin told me. I really like this guy and we got talking and arranged to meet up, my cousin said he's a really nice guy and that we should ...
A. 15 October 2011: I honestly really cant answer that. Think back on your texts was there anything you said that would have made you seem like you where coming on to strong. Remember always to take things slow and keep a guy guessing. Just give him some time and don't ... (read in full...)
I was innocent! A girl accused me of rape so her boyfriend wouldn't think she cheated! Its ruined my life!
Q. A girl I had a fling with cried rape on me and even though I was proved innocent it's ruined my life. It seems no one 100% believes me and still questions what happened. A couple of months ago I was out with a few mates in a club and got chatting to ...
A. 15 October 2011: Wow that girl needs a good slap, coming from a person that was raped, she should be the one that is locked up! She obviously was that twisted and in love with her boyfriend that she cried rape because there was no other way out, little did she think ... (read in full...)
She texted me and I didn't give her my number. Does that mean she likes me?
Q. A girl I work with and who I have a big crush on texted me some things about work that aren't really that important. She could've easily told me them the next day. The thing is, we never swapped numbers so she must've got it from someone else. Is ...
A. 15 October 2011: Yes it does sound like she is trying to get your attention. Why not ask her out for a coffee and see where it goes!... (read in full...)
Parents won't accept my current b/f but I've found a new guy they would. I don't know what to do!
Q. Hello. Okay, so I usually am never confused when it comes to dating. But this time im stuck! Ive been dating my boyfriend for a year now. Im muslim and he is not. My family will never accept him if he ever wants to marry me. Im his first love. We ...
A. 15 October 2011: If I am honest with you there is obviously something lacking in your current relationship, because if there wasn't you would never have cheated. There is obviously a deep reason why you cheated. Am sure you feel love for him but if it was deep ... (read in full...)
Couldn't get it up.....
Q. So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we ...
A. 15 October 2011: He has probably cut contact now because he just does not no what to do. Give it maybe 5 or 6 days if you still haven't heard from him send him a text and make sure you tell him you really want to see him. That should raise his confidence a bit.... (read in full...)
Is my ex jealous about my new man?
Q. After my ex bf rejected me weeks later I met this wonderful man and we had amazing sex iam falling for him he's a friend also so since my ex didn't want me and cheated on me I've moved on my ex wants to be friends so since he wants to be friends I ...
A. 15 October 2011: He is just saying that to you, because he is annoyed that you have found happiness and you are not depressed over him breaking your heart. He said he wanted to be friends, but a friend wouldn't say something like that to you. If I where you I would ... (read in full...)
How many times do you go out and week and how much do you drink?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have a question please, especially for people living in the UK that are late thirties/early forties...how many times do you go out each week in the evening and would this usually involve drinking on each of those occasions? If so, ...
A. 15 October 2011: Off course every one's opinion on this matter is going to be completely different as society now has so many different personalities and so many different kinds of people. One person could go out once a week another once a month ect ect. Everyone is ... (read in full...)
Am I being over sensitive when my boyfriend has not time to text or call me?
Q. Hi, Can anyone help please. I met a guy on a dating line and he lives a long way from me (2and a half hours drive away). He has been phoning constantly and texting and we have met up a couple of times. He calls me at all times of the day, ...
A. 15 October 2011: Well everything seems to be going well between the both of you, which is great. You are both getting on with each other well and you have plenty of contact. Ok so he never contacted you when he said he would but if he was busy well then he was busy. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to show your true affection to your partner?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for four months now.We met on facebook and he stays in another country different from mine.Things have been so good between us lately until now,he started actining strangely,sometimes he doesent even say good ...
A. 15 October 2011: No it is not wrong to be affectionate to your partner. But I guess it just depends on how he feels about you and what your relationship is like. Talk to him and ask him. You have been with him for 4 months now, but you say he stays in another ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from thinking he's cheating on me? He's not!
Q. No matter how hard I try and how much I've been through with my boyfriend with him trying to reassure me and show that he loves me, I still find it hard to accept. After we went through a ton of issues because of my distrust in him (with no gro...
A. 14 October 2011: He is not being as loving towards you any more because you are probably driving him crazy with your insecurities. I could almost guarantee now that no matter how much he loves you and no matter how much he tries, if you keep behaving the way that ... (read in full...)
How can I find out how she feels without being too forward?
Q. Im in love with this girl... Shes the most amazing person i know. Only i dont know how to tell her how i feel... We used to like each other as kids. We used to call each other girlfriend and boyfriend, and we used to kiss. This went on for years, ...
A. 14 October 2011: From your post it says you live in Ireland. Same as myself. I know that it is legal to date your cousin. But do you really believe that your family would be ok with it? Because it could cause a huge family fall out. Are you close to your parents or ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to open up about his past?
Q. Ok, so here's the dealio: Me and my boyfriend (It's kinda long distance) is a foster kid. When I met him, he lived five miles away, but a while ago, he got placed in a new home, and he ended up being 10 miles away. Now he's just told me he has t...
A. 14 October 2011: I understand that you love him and off course you would want to help him and try and understand his situation more. But am afraid you cannot make him talk about his childhood unless he really wants to. As long as you explain to him that you are ... (read in full...)
His family don't know I exist!
Q. I've been seeing my bf for 15 months, we met online and he only lives a ten minute drive from me. We had chemistry and clicked early on and i've been very happy with him, also he's happy with me. But, his family dont know i exist! He lives...
A. 14 October 2011: I really honestly think there is something suspicious going on here. Yes maybe you have saw photos of his family but that doesn't mean he is not hiding something, and it would be huge alarm bells for me after 15 months if I had never been around to ... (read in full...)
Do you think I was being manipulative?
Q. I'm moving to another city for nine months next November. I have talked about this to my boyfriend about a month ago. We are going to stay together while I'm away. I feel like we haven't spent quality time together lately because he has a lot of h...
A. 14 October 2011: I don't think that it was you trying to manipulate him. But as much as I understand that you want to spend as much time with him as you can before you go, he still has the right to socialise with his friends. If he drops his friends now and spends ... (read in full...)
I fall for men too quickly, how do I stop this?
Q. How do you stop getting too emotionally involved too quickly? I have been dating a very nice man for a couple of weeks, and I am conscious that I am probably falling for him too quickly. I think he is great, his personality, his sense of humour...
A. 14 October 2011: This is all to do with your own issues and your own low self esteem. At the end of the day it is a proven fact that if a woman falls quickly and comes on to a man to strongly they are going to run a mile because they end up feeling trapped. You need ... (read in full...)
Couldn't get it up.....
Q. So there's this guy i've been hanging out with at uni. We're both 18, and he seems like a genuine lovely guy. Anyway the other night we were both out at a party with separate groups, but ended up hanging together, kissing etc. I should point out we ...
A. 14 October 2011: Am pretty sure it has nothing to do with you and it has everything to do with him plucking up the courage to see you again. Am glad you didn't make a big deal out of it but I bet he was still really embarressed and feels quite ashamed. When this ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of his very attractive best friend! What can I do?
Q. I am in a very sticky situation. My bf and I have been happily together for 10 months and were friends for about 5 years prior. Things have pretty much gone off without a hitch, except for his very attractive, charismatic best friend. She is beaut...
A. 14 October 2011: This is to do with your self confidence not him. Yes she might be pretty and attractive and you are wanting him to reassure you that she is not, but deep down you know that she is. OK so he won't reassure you that you look better than her, but not ... (read in full...)
Husband is pulling away from me!
Q. Hi I have been married for a few months and I feel like my husband is pulling away from me. He used to ask me if I wanted to go places with him and now he just gets up and goes without saying anything. I am going to admit our relationship went ...
A. 13 October 2011: You got married after two months? Wow that was very fast and no where near enough time for you to be totally sure the two of you are compatible. Off course cracks are going to start appearing now. I wouldn't blame this on you being insecure it is ... (read in full...)
College teacher taking it to far???
Q. *** of note:this is college not highschool. Thanks I'm currently taking a horticulture class and our teacher is pretty cool.Jokes around a lot and sometimes in the most ADD of ways.Class got out for lunch, and he, myself,two of my friends came alo...
A. 13 October 2011: To be honest I wouldn't read to much in to it. But however if it is annoying you well then talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
Why would he want to help me if he does not love me?
Q. My boyfriend said it wont work anymore because i do not respect him. But i never saw it like that and i thought i was being open about me feelings. Like when something happens or when he says something to upset me when i confront him about it he ...
A. 13 October 2011: What makes you say that he does not love you? He never said that did he? He obvious does love you but he just cannot be with you any more. The relationship is just not working the way it should for him at the moment so he wants to be just friends.... (read in full...)
Our relationship was amazing and now.... I need help knowing what to do next!
Q. Dear Cupid I’ve been in a relationship for just over seven months and it’s been amazing up until recently. Before I ask my question, here’s a bit of background that I hope will help… My ‘girlfriend’? and I met and it was very much love at fir...
A. 13 October 2011: Honestly the best thing for you to do in this situation is to give her time alone with no contact. I no you are scared about it and you fear she will move on, but I don't think that is the case. I believe she loves you as well and doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Is my post-orgasm refractory period unusually long?
Q. When I have sex, I typically have no physical interest in sex again for at least half a day. And if I do try to have sex at that time, arousal is difficult unless my wife is wearing something particularly arousing. Also, the orgasm takes more time ...
A. 13 October 2011: Actually this is quite a common problem amongst men. So no it is not unusual at all. Off course all males are different and perform differently. But your answer is no it is not uncommon. Believe it or not having sex every second or third day is a ... (read in full...)
Why does it make me feel lonelier?
Q. I'm a teenage boy and like most teenage boys, I masturbate. For fun, for relaxing, for stress relief. Recently I noticed that for some reason, I feel a bit lonelier than when I started. Basically, I long for that type of connection with someone ...
A. 13 October 2011: Yes it is normal for you to masturbate to relief many of life's problems, and off course having a physical relationship with someone is a big part of life. You are reaching puberty and off course your hormones are all over the place so it is ... (read in full...)
How can I change my insecurity issuses so I don't drive him away once again?
Q. My bf of almost three years and I just got back after being broken up for about six months. In the past I became insecure because I felt him becoming distant and then he would lie and hide certain things from me and then as I felt him pulling away I ...
A. 13 October 2011: You seem to be putting all the blame on yourself about your insecurities and trust issues. But he broke up with you so that is going to make you insecure, he hid things from you and lied to you, so off course the trust is going to be gone for him. ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I'm going in circles...
Q. My boyfriend want's me to spend the nite all the time now that's great but I can't and everytime I tell him why he thinks i'm lying. It's always the same fight why don't you spend the nite more or hang out. I work all kinds of strange hours and I'm ...
A. 13 October 2011: Well you are just going to need to stand up to him and tell him you are fed up. If he is still not willing to make an effort well then maybe you should question just how much you mean to him.... (read in full...)
I'm finding it difficult and a slow process to make new friends! Help!
Q. So i've just started collage,and i thought that it would be amazing because i don't get on well with everyone,and i thought i'd meet a lot of new friends.I used to get along with everyone,but people have let me down a lot and i cant seem to forgive ...
A. 12 October 2011: You are saying that you cannot find others that are like you and like the same things that you do. But friendship is contriversal and it shouldn't matter if they like the same things that you do, you can still find some close friends who you don't ... (read in full...)
Is his Ex trying to talk her way back into his life? If I confront him, he'll know I snooped.
Q. Please help :/ A little back story: I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and we have known each other and been friends for 12 years. He broke up with his gf of 1 year about 2 months before we progressed into a relationship and made things o...
A. 12 October 2011: Ok yes you where wrong to go snooping but you have done that now and you can't go back. It is horrible to find something that would put doubts in your mind, but I guess you only have two options now, you either put it to the back of your mind and ... (read in full...)
Will my husband soon feel we are ready to have children?
Q. my husband and i have been married for about a year and been together for little over a year now.i'm 22 and he's 30. we both want kids at some point but had said we aren't ready. i'm on the pill, but i am starting to feel ready for us to be ...
A. 12 October 2011: You can't make him feel ready for children am afraid. You might feel like you are ready but if he feels different well you can't change that. Both of you need to want it in order for it to happen or there may end up be resentment on your husbands ... (read in full...)
Don't want mum to know I'm on the pill - how can I fake a period?
Q. This sounds like a stupid question, but there is a reason behind it. I'm 16, so please don't lecture me on legality. Myself and my boyfriend are planning on taking our relationship 'to the next level' soon, and decided to take some precautions- nei...
A. 12 October 2011: I am not going to lecture you. You are doing the responsible thing by going on the pill if you are planning on having a sexual relationship. So good for you. Where the progesterone pill is concerned it doesn't necessarily mean that you won't have a ... (read in full...)
Dating disasters.....
Q. I'm in my early 30s. Never been married have no kids etc A couple failed relationships early in life abs believe me I'm glad they fell through looking back now. But I worry that I'll never find a good long term realtionship or have a family of my ow...
A. 12 October 2011: There is no magic wand that you can wave in order for things to work out for you am afraid. It sounds like you have confidence so if am honest am not sure what the problem is at all. I guess maybe you are just looking for a man in all the wrong ... (read in full...)
We live with an older friend of my husband's and while she has been very helpful to us, she refers to him as her husband!
Q. i really need help please. my husband and i have been married for almost a year now. we have been living with a friend of his who is older and is like a mom to him since we can't afford a place of our own yet and she helps us out with finances. ...
A. 12 October 2011: He might look at her as a mother figure, but in her eyes she looks at him as something else. She refers to him as her husband, yes off course this is going to hurt and annoy you, even though you trust your boyfriend off course you don't want to have ... (read in full...)
As soon as I speak to a guy they think I'm in love with them and avoid me! How can I stop this from happening?
Q. Hello all, I'm just sourcing for advice on this. I'm quite a reserved(not necessarily shy) person but learning to speak out and engage. I don't have many friends so I thought I should work on that. The thing is, i noticed that while girls are ...
A. 12 October 2011: How do you know that they think you are in love with them? Do they tell you that themselves or is it just your opinion? I really don't understand what you could be saying in order for a guy to think that. Maybe it is because you are coming across as ... (read in full...)
How do I start talking to the younger girl I like?
Q. How to start talking with this girl, shes 14 and damn beautiful i am a highschool student shes always with her freinds i know i can win her over if she becomes my friend but dont have the daring to talk to her have never talked with her till date ...
A. 12 October 2011: Am afraid your only option is to man up and talk to her, either that or you will never get to know her. I know that you are feeling a little shy when it comes to this girl. But just take small steps. Smile at her and say hello, ask her how she is ... (read in full...)
Is it better to continue with this and see where it goes, or is this something I should stay away from?
Q. I have found an amazing gal, she has been out of a relationship for one year. Her relationship was controling and abusive. We have only know each other for a couple of weeks, and i know it is short, but she tells me she does not want anything ...
A. 12 October 2011: I don't think it is a smart thing to continue with if you are wanting something serious. It looks like she is just looking for fun out of life at the moment and to enjoy herself and do lots of different things and meet lots of new people. But to me ... (read in full...)
I asked the guy I'm seeing what we were and he said he didn't know!
Q. I,m dating a guy but he doesn't want a relationship. But I don't understand it. He meets up with me when he can, we kiss, cuddle, trust each other, go on dates and we get on really well! I don't understand it to some people we're already in a ...
A. 12 October 2011: You need to figure out what you want from him, if you are happy about just being someone to hang out with well then keep going the way you are going, but if you are wanting something more well then you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I need her to be happy.
Q. I met this girl when I was 16 (young, I know) and well we were friends for a year, then after realizing our feelings as more than friends we dated for 2 years. She left me in a complicated process for another guy whom she had liked before she met ...
A. 12 October 2011: However hard it is you need to get her out of your life. Off course it would be nice to have her at least as a friend in your life, but that is not going to work, it wont work because you love her more than a friend and that just spells disaster. ... (read in full...)
I asked the guy I'm seeing what we were and he said he didn't know!
Q. I,m dating a guy but he doesn't want a relationship. But I don't understand it. He meets up with me when he can, we kiss, cuddle, trust each other, go on dates and we get on really well! I don't understand it to some people we're already in a ...
A. 12 October 2011: He doesn't want the commitment that a relationship brings. If he is not in a relationship well then he is free to do as he likes and with who he likes. You don't mention how long you have both been dating each other, has it been a long time? If it ... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't even seem to care that I exist
Q. I met this guy about a month ago that I thought was sweet and nice. We began talking and hanging out every single night since the first night we met. He would tell me all these pretty things and I believed him. I knew that he seemed like a player ...
A. 12 October 2011: He will always be special to you because he is the first boy that you kissed. But if his reason for breaking up with you is because you wouldn't have sex with him, well then you are better of without him. He is shallow. If he cared about you and had ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I'm going in circles...
Q. My boyfriend want's me to spend the nite all the time now that's great but I can't and everytime I tell him why he thinks i'm lying. It's always the same fight why don't you spend the nite more or hang out. I work all kinds of strange hours and I'm ...
A. 12 October 2011: Talk to him that's the only thing that you can do, explain to him that even though he is a big part of your life and that you love him you still have other responsibilities that you cannot just abandon. He is expecting you to do all the work while ... (read in full...)
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