Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 1 October 2011: No need to thank me its my pleasure. Well it sounds to me like you are the person that is going to be doing all the sacrifices. It sounds like he is trying to black mail you in to moving by saying that you where just leading him on. He is moving ... (read in full...)
Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 1 October 2011: It really is hard to say if he is being serious or not. Off course you have the right to be upset. I know you also made a mistake but still he wrote it up that he loved another woman so off course this is going to hurt you. I think you and he need ... (read in full...)
My childhood crush just added me on FB! Should I strike up a chat?
Q. It was like, "OMG, is this true?..'' or "maybe I'm dreaming or somethng".. etc.. I opened my FB account and saw a single friend request.. I used to think who it might be, and guessed that maybe it was just someone from my old school whom I do...
A. 30 September 2011: You need to calm down and stop over thinking it. Be glad that he done it but if he doesn't try and talk to you you will be disappointed so just look at it as what it is an old friend adding you on facebook and if you really want to reconnect with ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't my periods be normal by now?
Q. Ok so I'm almost 14, I first got my period right before I turned 9 so my periods should be normal by now right.?. Well it has been a month or 2 sicen I hav gotten my period I still get the PMS symtomps but I dont get my period and and I am NOT ...
A. 30 September 2011: Lots of young girls have irregular periods it is not all that uncommon. But if you are worrying about it all the time well then that also makes your period late. Also if you are stressed out about something or your body is run down it can also cause ... (read in full...)
Should we even try to have a relationship with all the things going on?
Q. In September 2010 my best friend told me about a guy she had met through her boyfriend who is in the army and stationed in Texas. She lives in Iowa and I live in South Carolina. She told him about me and vice versa. We got each others phone numbers ...
A. 30 September 2011: Well you don't really explain why he said that he loved the other woman and who she was. Did he explain himself? Was he in love with this other woman? I guess you need to think long and hard about it and ask yourself if you are wanting to be in a ... (read in full...)
Mother getting on my nerves about my boyfriend!
Q. so my mother is starting to get on my nerves about my boyfriend. i know thats hes not cheating on me , and she keeps on erking me telling me she hopes we brake up. she thinks im changing when i know for sure im not. if she keeps on with her bull i ...
A. 30 September 2011: You are her little girl and she is trying to protect you. You are starting to grow up now in to a young lady and this can be hard for parents to deal with. Believe me you will understand when you get older. Try and be the responsible one. Sit down ... (read in full...)
A strange guy? Or does he like me?
Q. I just started my junior year of highschool about a month ago (I've been at the same school since my freshman year) and there's a new guy in the same year as me. He's only in my chemistry class and we've never actually talked or even made direct...
A. 30 September 2011: Maybe he has a crush on you who knows it is really hard to tell because this is the first time he has showing any interaction with you. Maybe he was just fooling around to have a laugh. But yes it does sound like he was trying to get your attention. ... (read in full...)
We broke up after 1 month but I still miss him!
Q. Me and my ex have known each other for about 3 years now , we have always flirted and kissed , but we decided to take things serious 3 months ago , and ended up braking up in one month. i was devastated. what hurts the most is that i still see him ...
A. 30 September 2011: Well my best advice to you for the moment is to not get in to another relationship because you will end up hurting this new guy without meaning to. You need some time to get over this guy even though you where only with him officially a month you ... (read in full...)
I know I screwed it up, but is there any hope?
Q. I met this girl 9 months ago, and we had class together several times a day, everyday for that entire semester. I started to develop infatuation for her around midterm, but never had the chance to express myself due to exams and other stuffs. So, ...
A. 30 September 2011: It doesn't really mean that you have screwed things up at all. If you feel that she might like you as well then you need to try now before you regret it again later on. Instead of just going up to her and confessing your feelings for her you should ... (read in full...)
I want to be more than friends, but how?
Q. I'm currently talk to a girl and we've known each other for almost 2 months. We talk a lot and we hang out a lot. We always hang out and I'm starting to like her and I feel like she is feeling the same way but I'm not sure. We would always talk and ...
A. 30 September 2011: Ah the joys of young love. You need to just tell her how you feel. I know that it is hard and you will be nervous but by the sounds of things she likes you as well. It sounds like you are both getting on really well therefore that is a great basis ... (read in full...)
Troublesome fantasies
Q. I am 30 and feel really embarassed recently because i have these fantasies of sleeping with my sister(cousin). This makes me extremely worried when i face her and i am almost scared of talking to her. In the past i had expressed good feelings i had ...
A. 30 September 2011: Your dreams and fantasies are personal to you and nobody needs to know about the dreams you are having except for you. So please don't be feeling guilty or bad. She is a relative though therefore I think you need to try and ignore these dreams as ... (read in full...)
Why do I have all of this jealousy and insecurity?
Q. Hi. I am currently in a relationship with this really awesome guy. We are really happy and its been almost 4 months that we have been together.( both of us divorced with two kids each ) I don't know how to handle how I feel. I feel jealous whenever ...
A. 30 September 2011: You feel like this basically because you have no self confidence or self belief. You need to believe that you are sexy and good looking. At the end of the day there is always going to be someone we look at and say ah well they are hotter than me or ... (read in full...)
I'm in love and walking around on eggshells
Q. I really need some help here. I'm in love with the most amazing girl in the world but, I feel like I am walking on eggshells. It feels like I have to think before I even do anything, because the most random things, like falling asleep on skype and ...
A. 30 September 2011: Am afraid there is nothing you can do here. She is the one that has the problem not you, and I know that you want to help her but she needs to help herself. Talk to her and tell her the relationship cannot go on like this, you are suffering in the ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mom to let me visit my estranged grandparents?
Q. So hey all aunts and uncles So.. I'm visiting my estranged grandma and grandpa, see I haven't seen them in 17-18 years...I'm 19 years old Like I'm nervous, I'm going to a town called flint its in Michigan. I vist them next week.. I'm so sc...
A. 30 September 2011: The best way to deal with your mother is to open up to her and be honest with her. Tell her how you are feeling. How much you want to see them, you are an adult now so you are free to visit them if you like. Tell her you understand that she is just ... (read in full...)
Irregular periods have me worried!
Q. hey friends. . I havnt had my period this sep. . I did have it twice last month. .earlier and month end. . Its irregular periods but why is it happening when i havent had sex since june? Please help. Any help would be appreciated. .thanx....
A. 30 September 2011: Have you always suffered from irregular periods? There could be a number of reasons for this, if you are stressed or your environment has changed this can cause your periods to be irregular. Also if you have taking the morning after pill. If it is ... (read in full...)
Is my ex still keen on me or am I losing my head?
Q. Hey guys , my ex broke up with me about a month ago due to still having feelings for his ex of 7 years ...we have remained great mates, I still really like him and he wants to be with me but can't be 100 percent for me cos of those feelings .. The ...
A. 30 September 2011: Yes am sure he is still keen and that he still likes you very much, you have been special to him and am sure he feels that. But his heart belongs to someone else and if she was to get back with him am sure he would jump at the chance. Not because ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my ex and I regret it, but think it's to late
Q. My ex and I been broken up for about 2 months already. We broke up once and it lasted for 4 months and we both liked other people, but in the end, she came back because I didn't contact her at all and we ended up going back out. We went out for 3 ...
A. 30 September 2011: It is really hard for me to say if there is hope for the both of you or not, it really depends on how she is feeling and what she wants. At the end of the day yes she had sex with another guy and yes off course it is going to hurt you, but you need ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is close friends with my ex boyfriend..
Q. So here's the story. I dated this guy for a year, let's call him Mike, and when we broke up we pretty much stopped talking at all. Mike started dating one of my friends, and I started dating one of his friends shortly after (let's call him Tom). (...
A. 30 September 2011: I guess you just need to live with this, you knew they were friends before you got involved with Tom so there is little you can do about this now. I guess you just need to try and get him to keep the two relationships apart. Tell him you are ... (read in full...)
How can I support him? Could he be lying to cope with his parents' divorce?
Q. Hi, I have this very good guy friend. He is a really good guy, very sweet and usually an honest person. About two weeks ago he texted me he wasn't going to be in school. I asked why, and he said family issues. I told him I hope eveythings ok and h...
A. 29 September 2011: Its hard to tell what is going on with this guy, but whatever it is it sounds like he is struggling to cope with things. Off course it is possible he lied but I guess nobody knows really what is going on except for him. Try and be there for him as a ... (read in full...)
Feeling lost after we've stopped talking completely!
Q. okay, so the query continues from here, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-dilemma-of-my-long-running-relationship.html i'm now trying to forget her. its been more than a week since we've communicated. but its becoming really hard now...
A. 29 September 2011: You are heart broken. Simple as, most people go through this sometime in there life. But to me reading over your other post it sound's like the break up was a little bit immature and childish. So you mention some girl she goes in a childish sulk and ... (read in full...)
My work colleagues rarely bother asking me to go out with them as a group. How do I get accepted by this group? Should I ask if I can join in?
Q. Hi, I really hope its okay just this once to ask a different type of relationship question!! My work 'mates' never ask me to go anywhere with them, and I was wondering should I start asking them to come out with me instead? Ive worked t...
A. 29 September 2011: Yes I think you should go for it. Maybe none off them have even thought about asking you to join them. So why not ask them on a night out and hopefully things will change. ... (read in full...)
How normal, or how often, is it likely a person could get depressed by what their loved one says?
Q. How normal or often is it to get depressed by what your loved one says? sometimes I feel like I was in a better place before I talk to my boyfriend. He's very politically centered, and I just don't like politics. everything has to be poli...
A. 29 September 2011: If am honest I know that you said you don't want to break up with him, but to me it sounds like you both have little in common. You are two very different people and I guess you can't change his personality or his way of thinking. So you need to be ... (read in full...)
I cant understand him! Does he see me as just a friend?
Q. One day, I asked my crush(He is an exchange student, and he also asked me out for the pub and having dinner with his friends) out for a lunch . He said it was okay and decided where we ate lunch. However, next day, he said on email he couldn't hang ...
A. 29 September 2011: The only way that you are going to find out how he feels about you is to ask him. Tell him that you like him and ask him how he feels about you. Its the only way that you are ever going to know. ... (read in full...)
He talks about his ex too much and he said he still loves her! What should I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend. I love him very much, but he Talks a lot about his ex. I'm really over it and he told me he still loves her, it's really upsetting me and idk what to do. :( help me please...
A. 29 September 2011: Hmm if he still loves his ex well then am really not sure what he is doing with you. It sounds to me like you are just the rebound girl. If I were you I would get out of this relationship now before you get hurt more in the long run. He has told you ... (read in full...)
He deleted some girls off Facebook when I said I don't like them, but then a few months later they are back! What can I do?
Q. MY Bf live in US and i live in greece so we just talk and chat everyday,before i told him that i hate those bit*** on his facebook friendlist and he removed them,later because of studying i deactived my facebook profile and then after 2 or 3 month ...
A. 29 September 2011: Well first off what is it about these girls that you didn't like in the first place? What was it that they done to make you feel threatened and that you wanted them to be removed from his friend list? Do you trust your boyfriend?
To me it sounds l... (read in full...)
Am I just over analyzing things and should I keep on, or is this one a lost cause already?
Q. Hey Guys, So I'm back again with a new question... Okay, so I knew of a girl beforehand never spoken to her before though and after a night out, she sent me a friend request on fbook, so I accepted as I think she's a good looking girl and wo...
A. 29 September 2011: It doesn't sound like it is a lost cause to me. It has just happened that the both off you haven't been able to make arrangements that suit the both of you as of yet. Don't give up on her yet. Just keep showing her that you are interested and see ... (read in full...)
Mother in law interference....
Q. Hi. My mother in law is so controlling. She wants to tell me how to give her money, when to phone her and how many times. She practically wants to run every facet of my life. How i am raising my children. Apparently i am staying with two of her ...
A. 29 September 2011: You need to sit down and talk to your husband and tell him how this is making you feel. He thinks it is normal because he has growing up with this woman's behaviour therefore it is all he has ever been used to. It is time for you to start putting ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that she is still friends on Facebook with her ex, and she hasn't changed her relationship status?
Q. My girlfriend and the man she used to love before are now facebook friends. does this have anything to do with our relationship? her relationship status is single while mine is in a relationship...
A. 29 September 2011: Regarding her ex boyfriend, well maybe they have gotten to the stage now where they can be mature and be friends. They were once together and part of each others lives and maybe they just want to remain in contact as friends why not ask her in a non ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting this way when I mention a friend?
Q. So I'm sleeping with a guy that at first was only once week a week and now it has turned into 3-5 days a week. He has told me he wants nothing serious, but lately he has been wanting to meet my family, me to meet his friends, and do things like go ...
A. 28 September 2011: Yes it does sound like his feelings have changed for you, talk to him and ask him if he wants to make things official. Off course only if you like him as well. Hope everything works out.... (read in full...)
Have I just forgotten what is fair? I feel like we are not married even though we have been for 3 years!
Q. Forgotten what normal is... My second Husband and I have been married for three years together for four we have a two year old son between us and each have two other children from previous marriages. Our relationship has been utter turmoil, w...
A. 28 September 2011: I have to agree, you sound miserably and you have married a selfish man that doesn't seem to care about you, my question is why did you ever marry him? He doesn't sound good for you or your children. You have showing yourself that you can make it on ... (read in full...)
Was I just a 'work girlfriend'?
Q. Was I just the 'work girlfriend?' A new guy starting working at my office 5 months ago and I was assigned to work closely with him. We hit it off straight away but while I was professional but friendly because it was work and I didn't know him ...
A. 28 September 2011: I agree it just sounds to me like he sees you as a friend and nothing more. Yes he likes you as a person and enjoys a bit of harmless flirting with you in the office but I think that's all it is. Yes it may have seemed to you like he was interested ... (read in full...)
Should I have said something or should I have let it be?
Q. Hi Just would like an opinion on weather i over reacted or not to this, my boyfriend and i always say goodnite every nite. well tonite he was rather early and i just commented to him your early tonite it's not even dark yet then i said nite to him.w...
A. 28 September 2011: I agree just let it go. Life is to short to be worrying about silly little events like this. Don't let it get to you he was probably just tired just like 'tasteofindia' said. Just let it go and don't even think about it.... (read in full...)
What are the tell tale signs that two people are romantically involved?
Q. What are the tell tale signs that two people are romantically involved particularly are having sex. I think two of my close friends [male and female] are doing the nasty.... yet both of them are married to other people. I dont know if its all in my ...
A. 28 September 2011: No matter what there body language says it is impossible to be able to read from it if they are having sex or not. There could be any reason why they are behaving the way that they are. I think the best thing for you to do is just to ignore it and ... (read in full...)
What do I do? Would it be bad if I did have sex with him next time?
Q. I met this guy online and we've been talking for a month now. We had finally met last week, and have hung out two nights since. The first night we met, he took me to dinner and we hung out at his house after. We were cuddling on the couch watchi...
A. 28 September 2011: This is your decision to make not his. The red flag warning for me was that you say he got angry. It sounds to me like he is pressuring you in to staying the night which to me doesn't sound very decent on his part. You need to talk to him properly ... (read in full...)
18 years old and never been admired by a guy. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am 18 years old and no boy has ever liked me.No one has ever approached me.No admirers, no suitors, no boyfriend. EVER. I don't think I am that ugly. I'm tall for my age and race and am not too fat nor too thin. I like wearing appropriate clothes ...
A. 28 September 2011: No there is nothing that you are doing wrong. But you struggle to start a conversation with guys therefore you don't seem to have the confidence around men and they can sense this and therefore that is probably why the don't approach you. You need ... (read in full...)
Friends or more?
Q. Hello, I am in a bit of an awkward dillema at the moment, and i am grateful for anyone who has the patience and is lenient enough to read this thoroughly. I am currently studying at university alongside this guy (who i shall name D for confiden...
A. 28 September 2011: It is really your decision to make. To me it sounds like you are over thinking his behaviour and you are breaking everything down to mean something and it might just be the case that this is just his personality. To me it sounds like you might like ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from my ex
Q. Me and my ex was together for 8 years until 4 weeks ago when we finished. We had our ups and downs but we had a good life and had worked hard for everything that we have got. My ex said I became to clingy and made her feel unloved, unwanted and ...
A. 28 September 2011: To be honest I don't think she knows what she wants. I think she is confused at the moment and she keeps changing her mind. It really is not healthy to be living with your ex. This is going to cause lots of trouble for the both of you. You need to ... (read in full...)
Feeling angry all the time because I don't trust my boyfriend and these other people are getting in the way of our relationship...what should I do?
Q. Okay, firstly this is my question; I don't know what to do. In the very begining of my relatonship with my BF, if im being honest he wasnt the best and even he will say that now too. He never wanted to text a lot or see each other and he put th...
A. 28 September 2011: Your boyfriend just doesn't want to be lovey dovey in front of his flat mare. A lot of people are like this. At the end of the day he probably just doesn't want to be affectionate unless you are both alone which can be normal for young guys. As for ... (read in full...)
I'm not emotionally or financially ready to move in with him, what should I say to him?
Q. have been with my boyfriend for just over 8 months, he told me he loved me after 8 weeks (we had been family friends for years and very close friends for about 2 even when at different universities) Recently he moved out so for the past 2 and a...
A. 28 September 2011: If he raises the subject again just be straight with him and tell him what you have said on here. He may be a little disappointed to begin with but am sure he will come to terms with it. Also maybe you could meet half way down the middle and stay ... (read in full...)
I think about this celebrity 24/7
Q. I'm in love with "Penny "Character of TV Show "The Big Bang Theory". Will I be ever able to find life-partner like her in my real life? She is on my mind 24/7 , what should I do? You guys' take on this would be appreciated ! Thank you! ...
A. 27 September 2011: I agree. It is only a crush. She is just a character nothing else. You are probably feeling lonely and therefore you are creating a fantasy. Start going out and meeting girls and getting to know them.... (read in full...)
How should a childless step dad who earns less than his wife be involved in family finances
Q. My new husband who earns less than me never contributes anything more than a share for himself only, even when he has extra cash. I have two children and two dependants and earn alot more than him. He has no interest to find out even how much i pay ...
A. 27 September 2011: Have you spoke to him about how you feel? This really is a subject that the both of you should be communicating. I guess he feels because they are not his children then they are not his responsibility. Every man is different when it comes to these ... (read in full...)
Everybody loves my husband except me!
Q. Hi Cupids. My husband of 16 years is perfect by everybody else's standards. He is well liked by my family and friends, a good husband, a good father and best friend. I know that logically he is a good choice for me. He has stood by me during goo...
A. 27 September 2011: If you don't love your husband any more well then it is time to let him go. Don't beat yourself up about it, at the end of the day if you have fallen out of love with him there is nothing that you can do to help how you feel, so don't feel guilty. ... (read in full...)
Been with my girlfriend for 5 years but lately I'm feeling very unappreciated...what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I lately feel very unappreciated in our relationship, and don't feel as though that is fair. She says she appreciates me, but I tell her that unless I feel it, it doesn't count. Recently, we r...
A. 27 September 2011: You say she is a nice person and I guess she is just trying to please everyone. It doesn't sound like she intentionally tries to hurt you, but she is who she is and I guess if it is not working for you then you need to tell her. At this stage I ... (read in full...)
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