Is he worth obsessing over for two years??
Q. so..currently i am living abroad for a 1 year school internship, and yesterday i was talking to this guy who i have had a crush on for 2 years now, and he asked me an akward question. i had just posted a new photo of mine on f.b and he said he ...
A. 27 October 2011: Only he can answer that, I understand that you are shy so you don't want to ask him out, but if he has asked you out for a drink then take him up on his offer and see what happens. It sounds like he makes you laugh and it is obvious you like him so ... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 17 October 2011: To be honest you need to be both attracted to someone but also they need to have a good personality as well. But if I where asked what one is more important well then it would be personality for me because I would want someone who is down to earth ... (read in full...)
How to tell him I am falling in love?
Q. what is the best way to tell a guy im falling in love with him??????...
A. 17 October 2011: If you could give some more information well then it might be better so that I can give a more accurate answer. But my opinion is just to be open and honest and tell him to his face that you love him. ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend almost cheated on me but he won't give me any details
Q. bare with me, im a little p'd off right now.. ok, so im currently in a long distance relationship. its only for about 6 months or so until he comes back.. im pretty sure he cheated on me, but only came half way clean, because i went off on him,...
A. 17 October 2011: If he is serious about you well then he should just be honest with you. At least he told you half a story, it is something I guess instead of completely ignoring it. I can see why you would make the assumption that you did. It does seem a very big ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has fallen out of love with me because of all the arguments!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been getting into arguments every single day. and yesterday he had told me that he fell less in love with me because of all the arguments , im still deeply in love , what can or should i do? brake up and let everything go or ...
A. 17 October 2011: In order to fix the relationship you both need to sit down and talk to each other. Figure out between you both what is causing all of the arguments and try and sort out the issues so that there is less arguments with you both. If you cannot stop ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family don't know my real address but know I have lied, I'm worried they will turn up at my house and insult me and my family!
Q. Dear cupid, i am 20 years old girl in a relationship with a guy from last 2.5 years. Due to some personal problems, i didnt tell him my current address but later on, i confronted. Now, the problem is, he knows my current address but his family s...
A. 17 October 2011: You need to get this sorted. Go and visit your boyfriends home talk to his mother face to face and explain to her why you gave her the wrong details. Tell her that your father is not very well and he does not need to worry or stress about you and ... (read in full...)
My husband can't stand the thought of my ex--how should I deal with him?
Q. I we have been married for six months. i have a child and my husband has non. My husband gets moody and sulky about my daughter's dad. last night, my daughter who lives in a diferent town, was in my town and i saw him when i was with my husband. ...
A. 17 October 2011: No you have not done anything wrong and there is nothing you can change in order for him to stop sulking. He is behaving like this because he is jealous of your ex and you sharing a child together and probably feels left out. You just need to stand ... (read in full...)
Pubic hair, rashes and embarassing moles!
Q. [Mod Note: 3 questions merged into one] Quite a personal question... but here we go, pubic hair is so annoying. I do my bikini line and trim, but it still feels like there is too much. How can you trim "neatly"? Sometimes I feel like being complete...
A. 17 October 2011: Ok regarding the first question about your public hair, really every girl is different and likes different looks. So why don't you play around with a few different ideas and see which one suits you. Shaving your bikini line can sometimes cause a ... (read in full...)
Why did he say he wanted to keep in touch whilst travelling and then not call me? Am I not a good enough girlfriend?
Q. I have been separated with my boyfriend for almost 5 months because he has to go back to his country to continue his study. He studied here for 10 months, and we used to be sharemates then we fell in love each other, aNd we went through our ...
A. 17 October 2011: I am afraid your brother was right. He doesn't love you the way that you loved him. Yes am pretty sure that he cared about you, but I think you might have got to clingy for him to deal with. It sounds like after he came back from his two week trip ... (read in full...)
She used to be a dancer, but I proposed anyway
Q. Recently, my girlfriend told me that she used to be Striptease Dancer gour years back. She remained in that professional for one year before dumped it once she fell in love with me. We are together since July 2008. Even before she told me, two ...
A. 17 October 2011: Off course you have made the right choice. What is in the past should be left there. Maybe she regrets being a strip tease dancer in the past but obviously there is a reason she wanted to do this, more likely it was because she needed the money. ... (read in full...)
How important is it to physically fancy someone?
Q. I'm seeing this guy although i do not have strong feelings towards him either way this is confusing. i dont think im physically attracted to him im not shallow but just not sure hes my type we get on really well and all that but... how importan...
A. 16 October 2011: I agree physical attraction is important if you are wanting more than friendship with this guy. As serenity 80 says just give it some time and see how you feel, it is still early days and sometimes people do grow on us once you get to know each ... (read in full...)
I want a casual relationship, but he's all serious...
Q. So this guy Fahey and I have been going out for almost a month. He asked me out the second time we hung out and I think I would've said no or something, but he kind of asked it in an awkward way so I said okay..? And he's a great boyfriend and ...
A. 16 October 2011: Be straight with him and tell him you are sorry but you are just not interested in being in a relationship at the moment. But if he doesn't want to be friends afterwards you need to respect that. He is going to be hurt and upset as he has deep ... (read in full...)
My husband is more interested in sex than me
Q. i m 55 years old women. My husband is 48 years old and he want intercourse daily but i feel pain and dislike. very day he watches movies on internet and want me become sexy women, oral sex, and "pussy lick".... but i dont like all this. Please help...
A. 16 October 2011: Just tell him straight that you are just not interested in that kind of stuff. I understand that intercourse is a part of a relationship therefore why don't you both meet in the middle somewhere so that he gets satisfied as well. Every day is ... (read in full...)
Do we really have a connection?
Q. I might be really stupid and this might sound like a stupid question... but basically, I'm in love with this guy, I barely know him and we haven't talked for years. When we did talk, I think he used to like me, although we weren't close friends or ...
A. 16 October 2011: If you feel that there is a connection well then go on your own feelings and just talk to him. Nothing will ever come from it if you don't make an effort and you will also be left asking yourself what if. Just talk to him and GET to know him more ... (read in full...)
What is the likelihood that I could have gotten HIV from him?
Q. I recently fooled around with a 20 year old guy that I met at the bar and I'm worried if I may have gotten HIV from him. We didn't have sex but he did finger me, so if he had precum on his hand (he did not ejaculate) that he used to finger me, could ...
A. 16 October 2011: Yes it is likely that an STI can be passed from bodily fluids. This is something that you should have thought about before this happened. You seem to be very paranoid about catching HIV even though you don't know that he has HIV. Just put it to the ... (read in full...)
I think I was wrong about him, what do you think??
Q. Why is this guy behaving like that? should I be offended? So I've been getting to know this guy. He loves himself and you can tell is all about him cos I ask a lot of questions trying to get him and he never asks me anything about me. He ...
A. 16 October 2011: He doesn't think you are a slut, he is just trying his luck to see if you will send him one. That's all he is trying to do so do not take it personal. However be honest with him, tell him you are not comfortable taking nude pictures of yourself and ... (read in full...)
Is he worth obsessing over for two years??
Q. so..currently i am living abroad for a 1 year school internship, and yesterday i was talking to this guy who i have had a crush on for 2 years now, and he asked me an akward question. i had just posted a new photo of mine on f.b and he said he ...
A. 16 October 2011: Do you feel like he is immature? Don't let this friend influence you, you are old enough to make your own decisions and act on your own feelings and thoughts. If you feel he is immature and not worth it then cut all ties. But obviously you have saw ... (read in full...)
We both had sex for the first time last night but he lost his erection!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months today. And last night, we both gave each other our virginities. I am very tight though, it was our second attempt, But I finally had relaxed and found a position to get it in. I was in so much p...
A. 16 October 2011: I agree here, it is not his fault or your fault. My guess was that it was because he was anxious because he thought that you where going to be caught by your mother. So you both need to move on from it and not make it in to a big deal because it is ... (read in full...)
What can I do to look older so girls won't think a school boy is asking them out?
Q. hiy guys so i'm 18 but i really don't look it people always are shocked when i tell them i'm 18. i don't have much a problem when people say this but when it comes to girls i feel like they think its a young kid sort of just looking for them...
A. 16 October 2011: You can't change who you are. You need to become more confident in yourself and accept who you are. Confidence is a big thing. Yes you might look young but you cannot change this and believe me in a couple of years time you will be glad that you ... (read in full...)
My man is in a low mood and acting differently. I don't know what to do about it
Q. hi im hoping you can help me. about 3 months ago i met this man and things have been great, he,s everything i ever wanted and more. he left his wife 10 months ago and i am divorced and apart from my ex husband 8 years. we moved in together last ...
A. 16 October 2011: He has told you that sometimes he gets like this. To me it sounds like he goes through bouts of depression. You have only known this man for three short months that is not a lot of time to really know this man well enough and everything in his life ... (read in full...)
My Sister In Law obsession? But harmless? pls Help!
Q. I never thought it would come to this point where i need to just unload it all on paper or typing so to speak. I am 26 i am single, and i've known her since i was a kid, about 8-9 years old, Now i will type it all as it has unfolded and thi...
A. 16 October 2011: No no no and no. This is not a good idea at all. Believe me. She is your SISTER IN LAW she is the mother of your NIECES or NEPHEWS. You need to get this woman out of your head sexually before you tear up a family. You say it is harmless to you to ... (read in full...)
I took the emergency 72 hour pill 4 weeks ago and I'm still bleeding?
Q. I took the emergency 72 hour pill almost 4 weeks ago now and ive been bleeding ever since. Can someone tell me why and when will it stop? Ive started taking the mini pill and also had tablets prescribed by my doctor to stop the bleeding but they...
A. 16 October 2011: You took the morning after pill but then you also went on the mini pill so this is going to take your body a while to get used to all off this change. After your holiday if you are still bleeding go back to your doctor for a check up. But am afraid ... (read in full...)
I don't want this guy to think I'm one of the easy girls
Q. He took my pin and number at a party like 6 months ago, and we talk on BBM. He called me once breifly. I find him attractive, and my feelings vary. Sometimes he puts ne off because he's so blunt and I find it rude at times. And other times he's ...
A. 16 October 2011: He is young and he is not wanting a relationship or looking for love. He is looking for some fun without the responsibilities and that is what sums that up. If you are hoping to have anything serious with this guy well then it is just not going to ... (read in full...)
Am I secretly attracted to my Teacher?
Q. Okay so the other night i had a really weird dream about my teacher. I had a dream i had a crush on him and that i started making out with him. The weird part was after i woke up i felt kind of turned on? I know that's gross. And i Never ever dream ...
A. 16 October 2011: No I don't think you are secretly attracted to him. Our dreams can be really strange and disturbing sometimes and relate to nothing in our life at all. But in your dream you where making out with him, therefore sub counciously you would have been ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my best friend like to spend time with me?
Q. Hello all! I Have a quick question ... My best friend lives about 10 mins away, she has a car and I don't @ the moment. Not until January, ( almost done saving up) I'm so happy I can sing And dance all day. But when I say lets go hang out or have...
A. 16 October 2011: Could it be possible that maybe she doesn't have the money for fuel for her car? Is there anything you can both do together that doesn't involve driving at the moment? I think you need to talk to her about this because it is obviously getting you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stressed out, has pushed me away and I feel so rejected
Q. Hey, Just wondering if I can have some advice please? I really don't know what to do. This past weekend my boyfriend has totally pushed me away, he is stressed with work and is off on a big business trip to London this week, which I know he is nervo...
A. 16 October 2011: I agree with worldywise. He seems very focused on this trip and it is important to him. He probably doesn't mean to push you a side but he is just using all his thoughts on this big weekend away. Pressure off work can sometimes get a lot and it is ... (read in full...)
I'm single and I'm obsessing over a married woman. I want to get closer to her. Is this an emotional affair?
Q. A young woman recently transferred to my place of work. She's from another country, and extremely beautiful. I'm a single male in my mid-20s who works on the opposite side of the building. After her first or second week we just hit it off, started ...
A. 16 October 2011: To be honest with you by the sounds of it, she has bonded with you at work yes, but do you have any contact with each other outside of work? It sounds to me like you might be over thinking this, it is clear you are starting to fall for her, but am ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend that I've lost our baby?
Q. I was 8 weeks pregnant until 2 days ago I lost the baby. Inside I feel so sad and desperately lonely. This is because I dont know how to tell my boyfriend I have lost our baby. I am in a LDR with my bf whos in the military. We have been togeth...
A. 16 October 2011: I am very sorry that you are going through something this awful all by yourself. I understand how hard it is going to be for you to call him and tell him, but yes I agree you need to tell him soon before news gets around. But the only person that ... (read in full...)
B/f took my virginity and now I don't hear from him. Was sex all he wanted?
Q. I,ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four months now and last weekend we had sex for the first time! Wel it was my first time as i was a virgin. Since then he hasn't really texted me much except for wedensday night where he asked me away for the ...
A. 16 October 2011: If he was just wanting sex from you I really doubt that he would have dated you for four months just to wait for a quickie and then go again. Am sure there is some other explanation over it. It could be a million reasons but only he knows the ... (read in full...)
Any tips please on how to get him back? I love him and want him back. he's been depressed.
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me 6 months ago and I am still not over it. We still talk now but online and I miss him like you wouldnt believe. He dumped me because he had became depressed as he had no idea what he was doing with his life an...
A. 16 October 2011: I understand that you love him and you want to be with him, but if he is just not wanting the same thing as you well then there is absolutely nothing you can do to make him change his mind. He obviously went through a rough stage six months ago and ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend neglecting me so I got a fake profile and had sex chat with a guy!
Q. okay my boyfriend and i have a great relationship otherwise..its a long distance one..however i always had one basic problem..i dont like the way he talks to his female friends..as well as mine(when i introduce mine to him) he treats women with ...
A. 16 October 2011: Yes what you did do was wrong. Two years is a long time to be apart and I am not sure if your relationship will last if I am honest. Obviously he is busy and he just doesn't have much time. I know that this can be hard on your side because you don't ... (read in full...)
Is it selfish, to want to spend time with her??
Q. I am 23 and have been with my girlfriend who is 21 for 5months now with one break up during that time. i have graduated college and she is in her senior year and goes to school which is two hours away from me. we fell in love over the summer where ...
A. 16 October 2011: It is not selfish, but at the moment you are both just at two different stages of your life. You are wanting to settle down and she is wanting the hectic social life with her friends. Nobody is right or wrong here. She wants to meet up with her ... (read in full...)
Why? He Suddenly changed his attitude, from being positive that things will turn out well to being negative about our chances
Q. I been in 3 yrs long distant relationship with this guy. He wasn't doing well in my country and left to go back to his own country. I visited him two times. we live half the planet away. it took 18 hrs to fly to him. We even plan to apply for work...
A. 16 October 2011: He probably is being honest with you, he saw that it would be hard for you to leave your family behind and all that you have ever known and just move to a new country where you don't know anyone. Therefore he is probably just trying to protect you ... (read in full...)
He is just too big, but I love him, how can I please him?
Q. I won’t be shy, I’ve been around the block more than a few times and never have I come across anything like this. I met this totally great guy last year. He was friendly and we got talking. We’ve been dating for the last 9 months or so now. But when...
A. 16 October 2011: Have you tried using plenty of lubrication when you are trying to penetrate him. You both need to be open and honest with each other about what is good for you both and what is not, so tell him how you are feeling and communicate with each other. ... (read in full...)
I feel blank about everything including my relationship!
Q. (sorry in advance if this is post is incoherent) One day, I woke up feeling neutral/blank about my SO. This scared me, because things had been going great between us and I had no reason to feel this way. Just the day before, we spent the entire...
A. 16 October 2011: It could be a mix off all these reasons. But you gave up so much in your life for this girl. You give up on friends family work and now it almost looks like you are giving up on this as well because you have focused all of your life on this girl. ... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex regret his actions?
Q. My ex dumped me out of the blue by text, after a year. He was rude and it was full of insults. I was a good girlfriend and never cheated. He turned everyone against me. How do I make him regret it? Do people like this ever do?...
A. 16 October 2011: Am afraid there is nothing in this world that you can do to make him regret it. It is quite strange why after a year he would just do this out of the blue. Did he give you any reason for ending the relationship? Or for being rude and insulting to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend going away for six months and I'm pushing him away when he hasn't even left yet
Q. Im in bits. my boyfriend goes away next month to south africa for a placement and i cant even imagine being without him. we got together 6 months ago and he is leaving at the worst ever time ever...the run up to christmas. I feel like i keep pushing ...
A. 16 October 2011: I understand that this is a difficult time, off course you are going to miss him, it will be hard, but it is not forever and you can both still keep in contact am sure via the internet. Plus sometimes distance can make a relationship stronger.
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After we had sex he wrote me off, now I'm going to see him again. How do I act?
Q. So, my best guy friend introduced me to his cousin we txted for a couple of days, we then met had sex and in the morning he kissed me goodbye and disappeared. I texted him thinking he might txt me back but he never did.... We then saw eachother ...
A. 16 October 2011: To me it sounds like he might just be interested in getting sex and that is all. Maybe I have picked it up wrong, but at the end of the day if he liked you and was serious about you then he would be making more of an effort to keep in contact with ... (read in full...)
I want to get better at socializing and get a girlfriend
Q. I'm 25, and I have Asperger's syndrome, and I'm enjoying life now. Compared to high school and my teenage years, it seems better (and that was almost a decade ago). However, I want to get better at socialising; although I can do so in work (I ha...
A. 16 October 2011: If I am honest with you, it sounds to me like even though you have Asperger's you are not letting it stop you, which is good for you. Off course it is going to be harder for you to socialise with this condition but not impossible as you have proven. ... (read in full...)
He seemed pretty disappointed. Even though he got real close. Does this happen often? How do I give him support over this?
Q. Ok, so today me and my boyfriend got to third base. It was clear what his intentions were after a while, and I didn't really mind, I guess.... Only problem is, I couldn't...You know...and he seemed pretty dissapointed, even though he got me real ...
A. 16 October 2011: Ok after reading the update well then my answer is no good to you at all. Well you know what a lot of girls don't orgasm through penetration. Believe it or not. I guess you just need to be honest with him and tell him it has nothing to do with him ... (read in full...)
He seemed pretty disappointed. Even though he got real close. Does this happen often? How do I give him support over this?
Q. Ok, so today me and my boyfriend got to third base. It was clear what his intentions were after a while, and I didn't really mind, I guess.... Only problem is, I couldn't...You know...and he seemed pretty dissapointed, even though he got me real ...
A. 16 October 2011: I'll tell you exactly what it is. You are just not ready to move to that next step. Your body or your mind is just not ready. These things take time believe me and you should never feel rushed in to it or be made feel guilty. You should only ever do ... (read in full...)
How do I instigate an maintain a long term serious relationship with a girl?
Q. Hello There's this girl that I have been talking to for about 2 months already. She is wonderful and also a sweetheart, so you're wondering what's the problem here. The thing is that I have never been in a serious relationship before. I have o...
A. 16 October 2011: If am honest with you, I feel that you are over thinking the situation which is making you panicky and confused. Just follow your gut instinct. Yes you might be new to all of this and you are unsure but that doesn't mean that you would not make a ... (read in full...)
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