Been with my girlfriend for 5 years but lately I'm feeling very unappreciated...what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I lately feel very unappreciated in our relationship, and don't feel as though that is fair. She says she appreciates me, but I tell her that unless I feel it, it doesn't count. Recently, we r...
A. 27 September 2011: You say she is a nice person and I guess she is just trying to please everyone. It doesn't sound like she intentionally tries to hurt you, but she is who she is and I guess if it is not working for you then you need to tell her. At this stage I ... (read in full...)
My sex drive is suddenly really high and I don't want him to feel inadequate!
Q. So I have a question.. mine n my fiancees love life is great I think... We make love at least once a day but sometimes two or three times... Is it normal for me to be horny all the time to the point where I want to masterbate? I've never been Likw ...
A. 27 September 2011: I guess you have just reached your sexual peak and you are just going through a stage where your sex drive is high. Try not to let it get you down, instead make the most of it and enjoy it. If you have the need to masturbate well then do it, there ... (read in full...)
We are living together but I think its time to break up
Q. Hi I've been together with my boyfriend for four years we own a house together and we are trying to sell it we were hoping it would help our relationship as the money stress would not be there but I feel like it won't change anything. I feel bored ...
A. 27 September 2011: You just be straight with him and tell him you want to finish things. Tell him the reasons why and explain to him why you feel it is not working. Just be honest with him.... (read in full...)
So her friend told me "she fancies you," now what?
Q. every morning on my way to work i pass the local secodnry school wich i went to when i was younger , and every morning i go past two girls one of them is very attractive (she must be either 15 or 16, and im 18) every morning i go past them, only ...
A. 27 September 2011: I think that you should just go with the flow. Say hello when you are passing and smile and she how she responds to this. But just remember that if anything where to happen between you it would be illegal for you to have a sexual relationship with ... (read in full...)
No orgasm from penetrative sex, is this wrong/different?
Q. okay ..i have a problem with sexual pleasure i think something is wrong or different with me!i don't get an orgasm from real sex...i get it only when i stimulate it from outside i mean without putting anything inside,i never masturbated by inserting ...
A. 27 September 2011: No you are not the only one. It is very common for women not to reach orgasm through sexual intercourse. It doesn't mean that sex cant be pleasurable it just means that some more added foreplay is necessary. Don't look at it as a bad thing just look ... (read in full...)
My married ex is desperate to meet me for 10 minutes, do I give in?
Q. Hi everyone I've been reading articles but none seem to match my situation. Recently I have been seeing a ex who is married (I am also married) we fell out and I ended our affair and went no contact. I didn't think I mattered to him or that ...
A. 27 September 2011: Where does your husband stand in all of this? To be honest with you, after having an affair with this man well it is not possible to try and stay platonic friends with him now. You have a big life changing decision to make. If you are both meant to ... (read in full...)
Why does he turn his phone off at 7? Is he cheating?
Q. Im with this guy that always has his phone off about 700 at first i thought it was because of his spilt shift. Wen he finish work he comes over for hour or so and say need 2 sleep of hav 2 pick up the kid for ex I did believe him at first but not ...
A. 27 September 2011: Yeah I agree, I think that you are the person he is cheating with. It sounds like he already has a life and you are the other woman am afraid. ... (read in full...)
I don't like it that my boyfriend lies!
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend's lies. At the beginning of our relationship I would tell openly about anything which would bother me. But he would get angry or upset at mentioning some topics and now I don't mention them, but still issues come ...
A. 27 September 2011: Talk to him about it, tell him that if he cannot be honest with you no matter how small the lie is then the relationship is over. Tell him you value honesty and that you are serious about it. One more lie and it is over. ... (read in full...)
I wanna know if he likes me...
Q. i wanna know if he likes me. the first time we met he never touched me the second and third something happened in bed. every day we are texting showing that he cares but he never mentioned he likes me,or that he misses me. does he like me or just a ...
A. 27 September 2011: Your question really is a bit vague. From what you said nobody can really tell you if he likes you or not. It sounds like you have only met him a few times so try and have patience and just enjoy getting to know him. If you are worried well then ... (read in full...)
Do I want too much in this relationship?
Q. I'm currently dating a lovely guy. I'm not sure if I can really use the word "dating" because even though he wants us to be exclusive and tells me he loves me, he refers to me as a friend to everyone he introduces me to. On Facebook, he was fine ...
A. 27 September 2011: You say you met him at the end of the summer, so realistically you both haven't been dating for a long time. It is possible that he is just not ready to make it official yet and is still enjoying getting to know you. Talk to him about it and tell ... (read in full...)
We are living together but I think its time to break up
Q. Hi I've been together with my boyfriend for four years we own a house together and we are trying to sell it we were hoping it would help our relationship as the money stress would not be there but I feel like it won't change anything. I feel bored ...
A. 27 September 2011: The best thing in a relationship is communication. So it is time to be brave and tell him how you are feeling. That is the key to sorting out problems and with a few simple changes things may change for the better. You are feeling bored in the ... (read in full...)
Should I intervene on behalf of my boyfriend who just tossed in a good job? Is he ready for a new challenging job?
Q. My boyfriend has been unemployed for over a year. I feel partially responsible for his situation because he moved with me so that I could start a job, and the new area does not offer many jobs in his field. In the past year, I have seen his ment...
A. 27 September 2011: No don't contact the manager yourself. It needs to come from him. He is at a very low point in his life and he needs to get confidence in himself again. Maybe going to a career guidance counsellor would benefit him well. Or even visiting a therapist ... (read in full...)
Why do people expect their significant others to stop seeing the mother/father of their child even though they are together?
Q. Hi, I have seen alot of questions on this site an also on TV and once with my aunt. Why do people expect their bf/gf/husband/wife/fiance to stop seeing the mother/father of their child because they're together? For example, lets say a girl and a bo...
A. 27 September 2011: Yes off course he has the right to see his child and this right should never be taking away from a child's father as it is not fair on him or the child. I guess when a new partner comes along they get jealous because they know there girlfriend and ... (read in full...)
Love triangles. I keep trying to do the 'right' thing but it keeps hurting more and more. What can I do?
Q. First it's important to know that I have never had this occur before, never thought it even slightly possible, and hope it never happens again. I'm 35 and 3 years ago I moved workplaces. I was assigned a mentor, B, who was great in showing me the ...
A. 27 September 2011: I really don't understand how you could forgive A for what he done to you. Your best friend? Wow if that was me I would have kicked him straight out the door. As for your mutual friends, they are not much friends if they think you are over reacting. ... (read in full...)
Usually I like being submissive. So how can I step up the face, to be more active, like he wantrs?
Q. So here goes, my partner of 18 months says he wants me to take on more of an active role in the bedroom eg initiating sex more often and suggesting things I want him to do. The trouble is, I don't know how. Everytime I think about saying or doin...
A. 27 September 2011: Don't do anything that you are not comfortable with. You say the things that you have thought of seem silly to you, but I bet he would love them, they just seem silly to you because you have no confidence in yourself. Why not dress up in something ... (read in full...)
How much is too much patience? He tells me to "please wait and be patient" but my patience has limits
Q. So I met this guy two years ago but he was with someone else, so we lost touch, but then one day a year ago we started talking again. And I found out he was single. We started talking practically everyday and every night and things seemed to go very...
A. 27 September 2011: There is only so much time a person can wait for and a year is a long time. You need to give him an ultimatum either he wants to be with you properly or he doesn't. Tell him you are not going to wait around for him forever and he needs to make an ... (read in full...)
She does not know why. What can we do for her to feel better and possibly restore her love for me?
Q. I need help it's with my gf. we have been currently been together for 2 years and 2 months recently she has told me she has had a very bad feeling and she is losing her love for me. I don't know why she is like this, and she doesn't have a clue ...
A. 27 September 2011: Start things fresh again. You need to make the relationship feel new and exciting again. Go out on dates. Surprise her with romantic gestures. Make sure you both spend quality time together and do things that you both enjoy. Try and get the fun back ... (read in full...)
I have a lump, is it an infection?
Q. I am a 20year old lady. Last weekend my boyfriend and I had sex that was kind of rough, although we do that lots of times. I have since noticed a small lump (hard) on my vagina lip and i happen to have more discharge than normal. It seems like am ...
A. 27 September 2011: Try not to be scared. It does sound like it might be an ingrown hair and it should be healed in no time. Try not to worry about it, you are doing the right thing by going to the doctor.... (read in full...)
Why do I only want to date my friends?
Q. Hey everyone I'm a gay guy and I guess I find it hard to get close to other gay people and I’ve had my fair share of disastrous dates! Anyway I’ve come to realise that the only people I seem truly attracted to are people that I am friends with tho...
A. 26 September 2011: I don't think that there is anything wrong with your views. At the end of the day you are just wanting to get to know someone properly before you get with them and this is completely acceptable. If that is the only way you are going to be ... (read in full...)
BFF? Emotional affair? Possessive? Has this ever happened to you?
Q. How can i know if i'm in a emotionnal affair with my male bff (i've known him for one year)? I adore my boyfriend but i like the attention i get from my bff he listens to me and notices me more than my bf it seems. I'm addicted to it I think like a ...
A. 26 September 2011: I think this is just a plain case of jealousy here. Its ok to feel like this though I wouldn't worry about it to much, as you said yourself it is your boyfriend you want to be with not your best friend so don't look to much in to it. Yes I guess ... (read in full...)
We haven't met in person but I don't want to mess with what we have!
Q. The other day when I said I was alone, she texted me back saying that Im not alone, cus I have her. She says that she enjoys talking to me every day. I am really looking forward to the day we meet in person, but I dont want to mess with whats so ...
A. 26 September 2011: The worst thing about talking to someone over the internet or through the phone is that you can build up a relationship without actually meeting the person but then you could both meet and the spark is just not there. It is always a tricky one. But ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel so in love with my b/f and at other times I wonder why I'm with him...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. I love him very much but seem to dislike him at the same time. For a long time now, I keep getting into fights with him for no reason (my fault) and keep breaking up with him. The thing is, I've always ...
A. 26 September 2011: Usually I find when someone has feelings that they want to break up with someone well then there is usually good reason behind it and it means that there is something lacking in the relationship. You say your social life has went down hill and I ... (read in full...)
I think I'm falling for my one and only friend! Should I carry on flirting and get my hopes up?
Q. Well i know you probably hear things like this all the time so, ill try and keep it short as possible and thanks for taking the time to read it!. Basically long story short i think i might be starting to really fall for my one and only friend. ...
A. 26 September 2011: To me yes it does sound like it is flirting. But he may not have the courage to ask you out either or to admit to you if he has feelings for you or not. So really it is up to yourself what you want to do here. If you want to be with him then tell ... (read in full...)
How do I get this sex addict some help?
Q. A member of my immediate family is gay. None of us have a problem with this, however his behaviour over the last 16 years is causing me to question whether he is a possible sex addict. He has never had a meaningful relationship in his life. He has...
A. 26 September 2011: Am afraid I don't have much advice for you. It does sound like it could be an addiction and like most other addictions the sufferer needs to be the one to admit that they need help. Try talking to him again and tell him your worries and concerns. ... (read in full...)
My baby's father cheated and had a baby with her!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i got pregnat in may 2010 and while i was pregnat he had cheated on me most of my pregnacy but after my son was born i wanted my family together so i for gave him. i found out the girl he was cheating on ...
A. 26 September 2011: It sounds like you have forgiving your boyfriend and you are taking all the blame out on this girl. At the end of the day she is not the one that done wrong here. He is. He is the one that was in the relationship and betrayed your trust, not her. ... (read in full...)
Desperate--I think I've just pushed our relationship too far
Q. It's been one year since our first date. He has been faithful to me, but I've often wondered if we were a relationship of convenience for loneliness and companionship. I haven't felt that I was his precious girlfriend consistently. I'm afraid I ...
A. 26 September 2011: At the end of the day it is always best to say what is on your mind. Communication is a key point in any relationship. Therefore it is healthy to talk about how you are feeling. I guess he feels like you over analyse everything. Which it does sound ... (read in full...)
We didn't get along for 10 years and now we're sleeping together?
Q. I know this guy for about 10 year we never got along until about 4 month ago and now we are sleeping 2gether why has it happend ...
A. 26 September 2011: Really nobody is going to be able to answer that question except for the both of you. Maybe you just never had the opportunity to get to know each other properly. Or else it could just be all about the sex and not you or him as a person. Talk to him ... (read in full...)
I have a lump, is it an infection?
Q. I am a 20year old lady. Last weekend my boyfriend and I had sex that was kind of rough, although we do that lots of times. I have since noticed a small lump (hard) on my vagina lip and i happen to have more discharge than normal. It seems like am ...
A. 26 September 2011: It could be that it is an ingrowing hair from shaving. Did you use a condom each time you had sex? If not it could also be a STI. Therefore I think the best thing for you to do is to go to see your doctor to get an answer. At least then it will put ... (read in full...)
I know this girl so can I ask her out directly?
Q. Hi, I have never asked a girl out on a date. Here is my current situation, There is this girl that goes to the same college and works at the same place as I do. She is very nice and sweet. I don't know what she thinks about me but I know f...
A. 26 September 2011: The best way is just to ask her directly. At least then you will know where you stand. I know that it can be quite scary as you have never asked a girl out before. But just keep it cool and play it casual. The next time you are talking to her ask ... (read in full...)
Did I screw things up in asking her out?
Q. Hey everyone. there is this girl in my class that i really like. but since we just started uni. we dont know eachother, i sat next to her this afternoon and i began talking to her, i guess it was stupid though coz the first thing i said was hey how ...
A. 26 September 2011: No it sounds to me like you haven't screwed anything up. She probably does just have plans with a friend tonight and therefore she couldn't meet you. She has offered to meet you in two days which is a good sign in my eyes. Therefore just keep ... (read in full...)
Why don't tampons fit me right now after boyfriend fingered me?
Q. I've used tampons before and they worked fine. My boyfriend fingered me for the fisrt time about 2 months ago. Ever since then my tampon won't go in! I'm using the same type of tampon. I slide the aplicator in but the cotton part comes right back ...
A. 26 September 2011: Did you enjoy it when your boyfriend fingered you or did you find the experience quite uncomfortable? I think it might be a case that you are all tensed up and that is why it won't go in right. Try relaxing before you insert it and see if it helps. ... (read in full...)
I wish my b/f could have sex and kiss like my ex!
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 years now. He's not a great kisser and the sex is pretty bad - he doesn't last. I have talked to him about the sex and kissing, even guided him through how I like it. But he slips back into the his bad kissing the ...
A. 26 September 2011: Try and experiment more. Try new moves and maybe come up with new and exciting ideas to spice up your sex life. Comparing him to an ex is never good because it will only make you feel worse about it. I know that a physical side of a relationship is ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex hang out with another guy if she likes me still?
Q. My ex-girlfriend of three and a half years, broke up with me and we've been broken up for a month now. She loves me, and told me she will always care about me, and she'd love to get back with me in the future. But right now she also has feeling ...
A. 26 September 2011: Talk to her about it and ask her what she wants. It may just be possible that she likes this other guy as a friend and nothing more. Or maybe she is confused and doesn't know who she wants to be with and that is why she is taking a break from the ... (read in full...)
What does this mean in male language?
Q. I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean ...
A. 26 September 2011: Follow everybody's advice and don't contact him at all. If he wants to he will contact you, and if he doesn't well then just think of it as his loss and move on. I know the truth can be painful sometimes but I guess in life we just need to accept ... (read in full...)
Is it irrational of me to be jealous of my husband getting drunk with another girl?
Q. Does this mean anything? Over the weekend my husband was playing an online game with his friends on xbox live. It was a drinking game, and I was able to hear their conversation through the t.v. It was him, his male friend, and two girls. One ...
A. 26 September 2011: If you trust your husband then this shouldn't be a problem. At the end of the day it is you he is with and not her and it is quite harmless getting drunk with friends over the internet. I guess he feels like he hasn't done anything wrong, which ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husbands family
Q. I have been married for 4 years to a very kind and loving man but I do not get on with his family. His family take the mickey out of me and call me posh and snigger about me behind my back. We come from very different social backgrounds and they go ...
A. 26 September 2011: I guess due to both of your different upbringings this is causing trouble. My guess is that this is just the way that they are and the find it funny and that is why your husband is not taking it serious because it is there personality. Everyone is ... (read in full...)
She stops me from confronting individuals that want to date her?
Q. We have related with my girlfriend for a year now at campus. now that i finished my program she alone there, she tells me about people who are asking her for love and that she turns them down. However, she stops me from reacting to those ...
A. 26 September 2011: She probably just doesn't like confrontation. She is being open and honest with you but am sure she doesn't want a big deal made out of it and that is why she is telling you not to react to it. At the end of the day these guys don't know about you ... (read in full...)
She doesn t want me paying for her lunch...what should I do now
Q. hi, I have known this girl for just over a month and plucked up the courage to ask her out. I asked her if she would like to go for lunch sometime this week. Initially she said, yes, that sounds like a good idea. But then she hesitated and said that ...
A. 26 September 2011: It may be a brush off or else she may just genuinely not want you buying her things. Yes try and come up with some ideas where you don't need money. Why not organise a picnic for you both? Ask her and see what happens. If she makes another excuse ... (read in full...)
Why does she flirt so much?
Q. Why does one of my best friends flirt with loads of boys? There is one boy who she goes out with, but she says she doesnt like him, his friend likes me but whenever he isnt around she flirts with him. The other day we had been round at a friends ...
A. 26 September 2011: Some people just have a naturally flirty personality. She probably doesn't even realise she is doing it, she probably just thinks that she is being friendly. If it is bothering you and you really like this guy well then talk to her and tell her how ... (read in full...)
Can I get my ex back?
Q. i'm mad at my ex 3 weeks ago and when he said hey to me, i ignored him. then no contact. even if we met, he avoided me. about 2 weeks ago,i called and told him we could still be friends, we don't have to avoid each other. but like 5 days later, i ...
A. 26 September 2011: No let him come to you. If you keep trying you are going to come across as desperate and needy and you will only keep hurting yourself. If he is interested he will come to you. If he doesn't you need to accept that it is over and move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I have feelings for a 20 year old man
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and there is this guy that i like but hes 20 and he knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like him i can't stop thinking about him. He always listens to my problems and try's to protect me. He ...
A. 26 September 2011: You are only getting in to your teenage years, where as he is a bit past adult hood. You are both at completely different stages in your life and I don't think it would be healthy to date this guy. People would talk about it and judge you both, Even ... (read in full...)
What does this mean in male language?
Q. I am/was seeeing this guy for about 3 weeks and then he sends me a text last friday saying "youre really full on, i think we should cool it for a bit. im not ready for this sort of thing. sorry x" What does this mean in male language? Does it mean ...
A. 25 September 2011: It sounds to me like everything was just happening to fast for him. It could be possible that it was a rebound. Because he has made it clear that he is not ready for anything serious. Don't take this personally he is just not ready for a ... (read in full...)
Can I get my ex back?
Q. i'm mad at my ex 3 weeks ago and when he said hey to me, i ignored him. then no contact. even if we met, he avoided me. about 2 weeks ago,i called and told him we could still be friends, we don't have to avoid each other. but like 5 days later, i ...
A. 25 September 2011: It sounds to me like he has made up his mind and that the relationship is over. For your sake I think you need to accept this and concentrate on moving forward with your life. I know that it is hard especially when you want him back but you need to ... (read in full...)
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