The man I loved made a complete volte-face after marriage and my life is hell with him. What do I do?
Q. I kindly need your opinion regarding my marriage situation.I have been married for 5 years with the man I loved with all my heart.We've been together for 11 years prior to marriage(since high school).We couldn't marry and live together because of ...
A. 25 September 2011: You never done anything wrong. Once you guys were legally married he stopped trying so hard because he knew then that he had you. He has probably just gotten lazier and lazier and now is treating you very bad. He is not good for you. He doesn't care ... (read in full...)
Where do I find the courage? Should I message him? What should I say?
Q. OK, I really like this guy and ive liked him for ages. i mean years. i havent spoken to him much at all, well, maybe a couple of conversations a few months back. several months ago, i added him on facebook, but i still cant find the courage to talk ...
A. 25 September 2011: The courage has to come from within you. You are lacking confidence in yourself so you need to start building that up. You say he hangs around with pretty girls. You need to believe that you are pretty as well. Plus beauty comes from deep inside now ... (read in full...)
How do I interest her? Should I cut my loses or just be blunt and tell her I want to date her?
Q. There is this girl who I have been interested in dating for a while. We go to school together and we are pretty close. The only problem is she had a boyfriend for the longest time. Now she is finally single again. I never have been great at dating/ ...
A. 23 September 2011: OK well it sounds to me like she just wanted to meet for dinner as friends and that is all. I guess she didn't read anything in to it other than her just being friendly. I think the best thing that you can do is try and flirt lightly with her, drop ... (read in full...)
Afraid of my boyfriend finding out about my awful past tomorrow night.
Q. I need someone to reply, it's urgent. REALLY urgent. Ok, so I have been with my bf for about a year. We broke up last April but we still had contact. I was really depressed and did some very nasty stuff which I now regret badly because I was tr...
A. 23 September 2011: This is a decision that you need to make on your own now am afraid. Yes it was a silly thing for you to do but at least now you know that it was wrong and you have learned from your mistake. We all make mistakes in life it makes us who we are. Its ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend superior sports knowledge gets me jealous, what should I do to get rid of this tendency ?
Q. I am a sports freak, I play field hockey and soccer and great fan of other sports. I always wanted to have girlfriend having same passion for sports. To my good luck, I got one early 2010 and immediately we hit off well. She was a field hock...
A. 23 September 2011: What causes the jealousy? Is it because she has better knowledge than you when it comes to certain areas of sport? I guess the is just you feeling like sport has always been your passion and now that someone has came along with better knowledge you ... (read in full...)
Husband has cancer but cheated on me when I was asleep nxt door with his kids
Q. well hello everyone i dont know were to start and i have never postd before i just dont know what to do, im a mother of 5 ages 11 ,7,3,2 and 8month old baby me and my husband have been togeather 16 years and we have had our problems alot actually ...
A. 23 September 2011: I am sorry to hear that your husband has cancer really I am, but this does not give him a get out of jail free card. He has done the crime and now he needs to pay. Having cancer does not give him an excuse to abuse you and cheat on you. You need to ... (read in full...)
is it right for coaches to deny his players the freedom to love?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend who is in my country's national under-21 football team. She's 19, the captain of the team, and is the only out lesbian in her team. According to her, several of her team mates are closeted lesbians but they are afraid ...
A. 23 September 2011: Off course it is not right of him to judge who she sees and who she doesn't. Am not sure what his problem is but this is completely unfair. She shouldn't allow him to treat her like this. She says she fought the battle and lost but at the end of the ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her my cousin about my unconditional feeling for her? Will she understand?
Q. How and When can I confess my feeling towards my cousin? She is my third cousin to be exact... but i think the word "cousin" have corrupted it all. Here's a detail background on how we've met. In 2004, around the beginning of the fourth ...
A. 23 September 2011: You just need someone to tell you to do it, I understand that. Everyone needs a little push now and then, completely normal. So go ahead just do it!... (read in full...)
I don't want to break him and his stupid little girlfriend - I mean girlfriend- up, but I kind of want to be with him!
Q. So, I have a friend named after a car. Yeah, that's my way of telling you his name. We've been friends since..mmmm..maybe 7th, 8th grade. We weren't really close 6th grade. I've had girlfriends and boyfriends along these few years, I'm in 11...
A. 22 September 2011: You are way to confused at the moment to be with him. You need to sort out your head before you tell him how you are feeling. You don't even know how you are feeling at the moment yourself without having to involve your best friend.
There... (read in full...)
How to get to know about my ex-girlfriend's and her family's well being in face of Dengue Fever outbreak in major city of our country?
Q. There is Dengue fever outbreak in a major city of our country and so many people got infected and killed by this deadly fever so far. My ex-girlfriend lives in the same city who dumped me 8 months ago saying that I was not financial stable...
A. 22 September 2011: I know how you feel, it must be hard wondering if they are OK and not being able to contact her and her family. But if she is ignoring your emails then I guess she just doesn't want any contact from you. It could be possible that she just doesn't ... (read in full...)
Lost my virginity and worried about the amount of bleeding
Q. Hey well i was wondering some thing, before i have used "toys" and i bleed after it some times and some times i dont but when i do its usually not very much. But tonight i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and after awhile i noteced blood ...
A. 22 September 2011: It is completely normal so please don't worry. It is nothing serious. While you where using your toys they probably didn't go as deep as your boyfriend did during intercourse. It should settle after having sex a few times. Just relax.... (read in full...)
Who do I pick? Ducky, Arby or Dorky??
Q. Help me pleased I don't know what to do! Okay so I have a few diferent guys asking me out and I got no Idea who to pick. 1 guy is my ex BF (call him Ducky) Him and I were dating for like a week then I had to break up with him cuz of drama in my l...
A. 22 September 2011: Only you can choose who you want to be with am afraid. Just follow your heart. At the moment you are extremely confused so the best thing that you can do is not date anyone at the moment just take some time to yourself and see which one of these men ... (read in full...)
G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all
Q. My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do ...
A. 22 September 2011: I guess the only thing that you can do is tell her how you feel. Of course it is going to be hard on you knowing that she is going to watch a movie alone with her ex boyfriend, talk to her and ask her how she would feel if it was you asking your ex ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her my cousin about my unconditional feeling for her? Will she understand?
Q. How and When can I confess my feeling towards my cousin? She is my third cousin to be exact... but i think the word "cousin" have corrupted it all. Here's a detail background on how we've met. In 2004, around the beginning of the fourth ...
A. 21 September 2011: You just need to get on with it and do it. The longer you leave it the more you will worry about it and make yourself miserable. Really you don't have all that much to lose. It sounds to me like she does like you as well and she is probably just ... (read in full...)
Is this my fault or is she taking her anger out on me?
Q. i posted on here last week and am looking for some new follow up answers. the girl i've been dating for the past two months had her grandfather get sick and put in the hospital. they were incredibly close, and she immediately shut me out and ...
A. 7 September 2011: Her emotions are all over the place at the moment. I guess she knew that her grandpa was not doing so good and she spent all of her time thinking about him and not realising how it was effecting you. Yes she shut you out but with you asking her ... (read in full...)
Should I try to forget her unless she initiates contact?
Q. Lets not kid anyone here, I think I am in love with my married female colleague, and have been for some time. It started out as just an attraction (both ways) but I never really gave her too much thought. She one day started initiating conversation ...
A. 15 July 2011: Your very welcome :-)... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: I know that you like him sweetie but at the end of the day he is not respecting you because he keeps trying, and believe me some people can be easily talked around and then regret it later. It sounds like you already regret what you have done with ... (read in full...)
What if I break up with my boyfriend and regret it and I'm not happy with the other guy? Or what if I don't and I end up completely happy? How do I decide?
Q. So, I have been dating my boyfriend for over two and a half years. We broke up after about 6 months because we were both in different places, but got back together afterwards. Since then, things have been great and our relationship turned around so ...
A. 14 July 2011: Sometimes we cannot help who we fall for. I understand that you are confused and you don't know what you want. It is your decision to make am afraid and nobody else can make it for you. It sounds like you are a little insecure and you are scared of ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that someone hacked my phone?
Q. Okay this isn't about relationships but someone please give me a semi explanation for this!! So my friend and I were texting and all of the sudden she Gets a text from me that's says "boobity boo" over and over again like 5 pages of it...so she asks ...
A. 14 July 2011: Contact your phone provider and see if they can look in to it for you. Yes it is possible that someone could have hacked in to your Iphone. Get your friend to double check that it is your number again and that it wasn't a mix up on her phone. Then ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in my friend's brother. What do I do?
Q. Long story short, I have no way of being able to spend time with the guy I'm into, let's call him Cole, unless I start spending a lot of time with my friend who is his brother, let's call him Ethan. But I don't want Ethan to feel shafted when I ...
A. 14 July 2011: Don't use Ethan to get closer to Cole. That is called using someone and you will only leave him hurt. You say you are open to hooking up with the both of them. That is a bad path to go down, would you really want to come in between two brothers and ... (read in full...)
Should I try and get him back or not? He said he wasnt in love with me....
Q. so Me and this guy were just supposed to be a hook-up but then it turned into much more, i fell head over heels and he said he did too. but now he dumped me and im completely lost. He sent me a text that said " im sorry i do love you but im not in ...
A. 14 July 2011: Try and lose contact with him as much as you can. I'm afraid you cannot make someone love you no matter how much you try, if you keep trying to get back with him you are going to just get hurt even more. It is hard to deal with a break up but just ... (read in full...)
Do you think that he actually likes me as something more?
Q. hi everyone so this is my problem i moved house and met a man that lives 5 minutes from me, we started having sex and thats it which he's cool with but im not. he's a very jealous person, like yesterday a family member was coming to pick me up from ...
A. 14 July 2011: I agree, ask him what the deal is. If you are not OK with just having him as a sex partner well then don't do it. Tell him that you are not happy with it. Him keeping an eye on you is just him feeling like he doesn't want you sleeping with other ... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: You see he is reaching that age where he probably wants to start experimenting with the idea of sex. Is he still a virgin as well. Well if you don't think he will be a danger to you, then sit down with him and talk to him and tell him that what he ... (read in full...)
Does an ultrasound carry the father's name?
Q. I want to know something about baby ultrasounds. When a copy of the ultrasound is printed, does it carry the name of the baby's father on it? ...
A. 14 July 2011: I don't think it will, but it might be different there in South Africa. Why not talk to a member of staff at the hospital and ask them. Am sure they would be happy to answer any of your questions about it.... (read in full...)
Long distance worry: she ended it but we still talk a lot.
Q. So I met this girl last summer on a cruise, she is from Tennessee and I am from Pennsylvania, we talked for a while afterwords but we both eventually got in relationships with other people, until about this past May when by coincidence we both ...
A. 14 July 2011: It is hard to tell why she ended it, but I do understand her point of view, it is very hard to have a LDR. You sometimes just need that closeness and intimacy in relationships and it is really hard when that person is not there when you need ... (read in full...)
I'm not out yet, how do I ask a guy on a date?
Q. Ive liked men since i was 13 (now16) and i now have a really bad crush! I cant stop thinking about him! I just need some advice on how to go about asking him on a date( im still in the closet)....
A. 14 July 2011: Before going on a date with someone would it not make you happier if you came out of the closet? Yes it might shock some people but if they love you they will accept you for who you are and it will take a huge weight of your shoulders and you can be ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend wasn't interested in sex this time. I don't know what to do!
Q. Im really confused about my boyfriend. We have been in a LDR FOR 6 months. I had not seen him since february until he came and stayed with me on tuesday. I was expecting it to be amazing but Im really disappointed. We had sex, and the first time was ...
A. 14 July 2011: Maybe it was just simply that he was really tired and just wanted to enjoy spending time with you relaxing. The only thing that you can do here is talk to him and tell him your worries. Explain to him how it has made you feel and see what he has to ... (read in full...)
How can I come up with a nickname for my boyfriend?
Q. There isn't anything wrong with me and my boyfriend; the reason I am writing to you is because i want to come up with a nickname that my boyfriend will be ok with I don't know what is a good nickname for him we have been together for about 9 months...
A. 14 July 2011: Talk to him about it and see what he thinks about the idea. Don't ask complete strangers for suggestions use something personal that relates to you and him and something that will be a memory for you both and something personal for you both to ... (read in full...)
Ex Call Out of the Blue.
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for near 6 months now. We were together nearly a year. Two/three weeks after the break up she gets herself another bf, who she is still with. The only time we've really spoken was a drunken argument about 2...
A. 14 July 2011: It is quite strange why she would just call out of the blue for no reason. Maybe she wants to be friends with you or maybe try and sort out the past so that you can both be on good terms. If it is really bothering you maybe send her a text message ... (read in full...)
Relationship going nowhere, need advice on how to break up with this girl
Q. After seeing this girl for about a couple months now, I have decided that things simply aren't going to work. Despite dropping hints, she still has no direction, drive or make any real effort to land a real job. Given that we are at the same age, ...
A. 14 July 2011: You have made your choice now so get it done with soon. Don't leave her hanging on any more. The best way to break up with someone is just to be honest with them. So just tell her the truth. I agree with you it is better to cut all contact and not ... (read in full...)
Dating a guy with a child: Good or bad idea?
Q. I've recently met a guy and we hit it off, so have planned a few dates over the next few weeks. We have been texting daily and getting to know each other better, and today he told me that he has a son. Now I have never dated anyone with a ch...
A. 14 July 2011: I think you are way ahead of yourself here, you hardly know this guy and you are already away ahead thinking about things like this and even though you say you don't want to judge that is what you are doing. Any questions that you have well then ask ... (read in full...)
What should I talk to my crush about? And when should I tell him I'm gay?
Q. Hello :), This is kind of two questions but I could really use your help...so I'm a gay teenager, still in highschool and still in the closet. There is this really cute guy that I started talking to a few days ago and I know almost NOTHING about hi...
A. 14 July 2011: There is no specific set of questions to ask someone to keep the conversation going. It sounds like you are both shy but just ask what comes to mind. That is half the fun of getting to know someone, sometimes there may be awkward moments but that is ... (read in full...)
Why would he want to know if I'm a virgin or not?
Q. So my ex boyfriend who now has a new girlfriend asked me today if I was a virgin when I answered yes he seemed surprised which offended me... Why would he want to know if I'm a virgin or not?...
A. 14 July 2011: I guess he is just curious that is all. Don't read to much in to it. He is probably just being nosey. Nothing to worry about. ... (read in full...)
Should I try to forget her unless she initiates contact?
Q. Lets not kid anyone here, I think I am in love with my married female colleague, and have been for some time. It started out as just an attraction (both ways) but I never really gave her too much thought. She one day started initiating conversation ...
A. 14 July 2011: If am honest I think you should try and forget about her. I know how hard that will be, but there is no concrete proof here that she ever thought of you as more than a friend and work and now she has moved department she has made new friends and ... (read in full...)
I love him but feel responsibility to my husband
Q. The two of us are matured and understand our responsibilities towards our families. Yet, he badly feels he loves me and wants to have romantic relations. For me, i understand,it is wrong. But i really feel good the way he speaks about boosting me ...
A. 14 July 2011: If you would chose your husband over this man well then no it is not true love. I think you get a thrill out of it because it is new and exciting and it is dangerous. Therefore this makes you feel alive and good about yourself. But it is a very ... (read in full...)
His friend told me he is texting another girl....how can I bring this up without getting him angry?
Q. I have been with my bf for a year and a half. With him its been more bad than good because every week I find out something new he lied about, but won't ever admit to... Recently I've had a gut feeling he's been talking to a girl more than usual... ...
A. 14 July 2011: Get rid of him. He doesn't care about you they way that he should. He is secretive, he lies, he is prepared to meet up with another girl behind your back, and he walks away from you when he sees you crying. You are just going to keep hurting ... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: What he is doing is very wrong and his behaviour is very dangerous. You need to be very careful here. You have made it clear to him that you are not ready and that's great news because you are still way to young to be having sex. If he cared about ... (read in full...)
Everytime I'm with him my heart races and I have butterflys...what is it?
Q. Well i decided to go back out with my ex and we'd been going out for 3 months last year but ended it cause we both thouight we didnt see enought of each other. i had been out with a few other guys since that but every time id see his name pop up id ...
A. 14 July 2011: Obviously he meant more to you than you realised to begin with and now you have a major crush on him. Don't worry about it there is nothing wrong with you, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Just enjoy spending time with him and enjoy ... (read in full...)
What would be safe times to go walking on my own?
Q. I know this isn't exactly a relationship question and probably comes across as pretty stupid but I'd really appreciate some advice on it as everyone I know doesn't have the experience to answer. In a couple of months I'll be going to university in...
A. 14 July 2011: There is not a law that means you cannot carry pepper spray in the UK. So you can carry that if it makes you feel better. You are also allowed to carry deodorant there is no law against that either and nothing or nobody can say any different. Also ... (read in full...)
Wife not satisfied unless we are in the missionary postion
Q. hi am mrd for 2 years .my wife never gets satisfied until we both have missionary sex with her on top of me she can never be satisfied under me am worried please help .and by her telling me am satisfied does it mean she had an orgasm she ...
A. 14 July 2011: It is normal for a woman to feel like she needs to pee after sex and also once she orgasms it naturally makes someone feel sleepy. So don't worry yourself because everything is completely normal in that department and nothing to be concerned ... (read in full...)
B/f just vanishes on me and then has reasons, but I hate it!
Q. hey.. i don't know if its a really big problem but its all i think about all day, so here goes. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and 5 months now. and right now i'm only 19. i have been with the same guy since i started dating. i really ...
A. 14 July 2011: I am afraid there is nothing that you can do to make him change. You have spoke to him and told him what you expect of him. He hasn't changed his ways therefore it doesn't look like he is going to change any time soon.
I guess you just need to ... (read in full...)
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