Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 27 October 2011: It sounds like he is taking things slowly and getting to know you slowly. If you keep contacting him and there is no reply you are going to push him away. Four dates is still way to early to be expecting anything from him or talking about anything ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I'm going in circles...
Q. My boyfriend want's me to spend the nite all the time now that's great but I can't and everytime I tell him why he thinks i'm lying. It's always the same fight why don't you spend the nite more or hang out. I work all kinds of strange hours and I'm ...
A. 13 October 2011: Well you are just going to need to stand up to him and tell him you are fed up. If he is still not willing to make an effort well then maybe you should question just how much you mean to him.... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't even seem to care that I exist
Q. I met this guy about a month ago that I thought was sweet and nice. We began talking and hanging out every single night since the first night we met. He would tell me all these pretty things and I believed him. I knew that he seemed like a player ...
A. 12 October 2011: He will always be special to you because he is the first boy that you kissed. But if his reason for breaking up with you is because you wouldn't have sex with him, well then you are better of without him. He is shallow. If he cared about you and had ... (read in full...)
Does he like me... Do you think he'll say yes?
Q. Alright so there is this guy that I really like and I have known him for over two years. Recently we have gotten really close. Closer than we have ever been. Slowly I started to like him and I've been wondering if he feels the same. My friend a...
A. 12 October 2011: It is really hard to tell. It is obvious that he thinks of you as a close friend. He was obviously taken back when you told him that you had feelings for him. He probably didn't know what to say or how to respond. Just give him a few days to let it ... (read in full...)
Is this evidence of palpable emotions?
Q. when a man and a woman who know each other for many yrs and rarely talk, when the have a nervous conversation, could this be evidence of palpable emotions? the man would ask the woman "how are you?" the woman would say "i am ok under the ...
A. 12 October 2011: Talk to him and get to know him more. If you like him well then tell him straight out and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I didnt cheat on him but he wont listen! I feel like I've blown it for good, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, I have been reading through post but one seem to match my sitation so I'll try and explain So, I've known this (guy now my ex) for about 4 years but we only really started dating in April. Everything was strange because he'd take ag...
A. 12 October 2011: I think that you should have been straight with your ex from the moment that you met back up with him and told him that you where seeing somebody else. It is always best to be straight with someone and tell them what is going on. You should have ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to the guy I met online? I think he is talking to other women as well as me.
Q. Hello everyone, I used an online dating site for the first time. I met a man that I was interested in meeting. We have been emailing each other once a day for 1 week. He keeps pointing out how much we have in common and how great I seem. H...
A. 12 October 2011: That's the thing with dating websites, people use them to see what options they have so off course he is probably writing to lots of other woman to see if he can find anybody interesting. He has obviously confused you with another woman that he is ... (read in full...)
I know I don't have much of a chance but is there anything I can do to win her over?
Q. I am deeply in love with her for past 2 years,i proposed her many times like a jerk that was a mistake i made, now not in contact with her for 3 months,she's least interested in talking to me and she finds me irritating,i am still in love with her, ...
A. 12 October 2011: You know deep down in your heart that you don't have a chance. Now you just need to accept that and erase her from your mind. You irritate her and she is just not interested. You calling her and sending her messages is just going to make her more ... (read in full...)
Is 9 months too little time to start a family in our circumstances?
Q. Hi All, I dont really have a "problem" so to speak but more a situation that I need advice on, I hope some of you can help! :) I have been with a lovely girl now for 9 months, and we had an amazing 5 or 6 month start to our relationship tha...
A. 12 October 2011: Well at the end of the day the two most important opinions in this story is yours and your girlfriends. 9 months is quite a short time, but at the end of the day all couples go through bad patches where they have arguments. But as long as you got ... (read in full...)
How to keep independence once you have had a child?
Q. Hi. I have just found out I am pregnant. My bf and I have been together for 2 years and we have just bought a house together so the timing is good. I’m 38 and he is 37 and it’s our first child. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship and ...
A. 12 October 2011: It will be stressful being first time parents and also you will be more tired with a new born in the house, so obviously your relationship will become affected to some sort of degree. It doesn't mean that the child has to define you both as people ... (read in full...)
Feeling like I'm going in circles...
Q. My boyfriend want's me to spend the nite all the time now that's great but I can't and everytime I tell him why he thinks i'm lying. It's always the same fight why don't you spend the nite more or hang out. I work all kinds of strange hours and I'm ...
A. 12 October 2011: Talk to him that's the only thing that you can do, explain to him that even though he is a big part of your life and that you love him you still have other responsibilities that you cannot just abandon. He is expecting you to do all the work while ... (read in full...)
G/f won't take a break because she says she might like the time apart!
Q. Been dating same girl for 4.5 years now. We dont live together and dont have children. Over last 2 years we have grown apart. Today we had a long talk and we both agreed we need time apart from each other. We decided a month of no contact would be...
A. 12 October 2011: You both had the right idea. You just need to take the lead now and tell her that the one month rule is going ahead. You need to take charge. Tell her it is what is needed to see if you both should be together or not, if she feels like that after ... (read in full...)
How do I get past my negative connections with sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for about 2 years but we had what can only be described as a painful and traumatic break up. In the time we were apart (little over a year) we had no contact besides hearing snippets of information about each other ...
A. 12 October 2011: Have you thought about making an appointment with your doctor to talk about your low sex drive and problems? Maybe you could get referred to a specialist who deals with these sort of cases so that they can help you professionally.
I know that it ... (read in full...)
Is my body giving me signs of my relationship problems that I should take into account?
Q. Hey Agony Aunts.. I don't know if i would categorize this as a relationship question but let me ask anyway. I have been stressed out of late and i have noticed a few subtle changes in me that i am worried about. My boyfriend of five years has a...
A. 12 October 2011: Obviously your relationship is worrying you at the moment because of all the arguing so it is going to stress you out, dreaming about him cheating is just your body trying to deal with the problems you have at the moment, it doesn't mean that he is ... (read in full...)
My feelings for my female boss are affecting my work! Help!
Q. Hi, I have a workplace issue. I'm pretty goshdarn smitten with my female manager. I'm not so sure if it's 'I want to date you feelings' so much as a sort of daughter-mother type yearning. Either way, it is making my work environment very stressfu...
A. 12 October 2011: It sounds like your feelings are running very deep no matter what type of feelings they are. You need to get it sorted because it will effect your work in the long run. How is your relationship with your mother? Could these feelings stem from ... (read in full...)
Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person?
Q. Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking ...
A. 12 October 2011: Your mother is saying that to you, because she probably worries about you and doesn't want you to grow up to fast, you are still her little girl, she wants you to be safe and not end up doing something silly and ending up a pregnant teenager. She is ... (read in full...)
Is this teacher sending signals?
Q. Hi I need some advice I'm 19 years old and I think that my 31 year old science teacher might like me here are some things he does He always gives me nicknames and calls me by my surname 2. If I’m sat at my table he always walks down in between th...
A. 11 October 2011: To be honest there is nothing from your post that makes me think that he likes you as anything more than a student. He may like you as a student and has a joke and a laugh with you but that is about all it is. I think you are looking at little ... (read in full...)
Why did he stop talking to me?
Q. so.. there is this guy i like .....i only have him for one class he used to say hi but not anymore he acts like i don't exist.......i never did anything mean and i didn't disrespect him at all why did he stop talking to me?.....and he has a ...
A. 11 October 2011: Have you tried talking to him? Maybe you haven't done anything wrong, there could be many reasons why he has stopped saying hello. He has a girlfriend though so he is off limits therefore I think it is best if you move on and look for someone else. ... (read in full...)
Does she like me or was I just a fling?
Q. I have been seeing this girl for the last month or two, we had been talking online for a while and decided to hang out one day since we both live fairly close to each other. I thought we hit it off, we've been on a lot of dates together, having...
A. 11 October 2011: To me it sounds like she thought you where staying over, I understand that you told her but wires have been crossed somewhere, am guessing having sex with you was a big deal to her and then once you got up and left she felt used and vulnerable. That ... (read in full...)
Can I date my ex-girlfriend's best friend?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me ten months back for no reason and I was fine with it since I don't believe in dragging along people against their will. Now I have realized my mistake that I shouldn't have fallen for her and now get the feeling that her...
A. 11 October 2011: To be honest if she really is your ex's best friend well then she will turn you down straight away without even thinking about it, that is if she is a good friend. I can understand you are doing it for your own reasons and not to annoy your ex. But ... (read in full...)
Is my hatred towards my half sister a bit over the top? How can I change this?
Q. I'm female, and my sister and I really don't get along. I don't know if it's because the fact she has a different father than me own, (I'm an only kid to my father.) My dad treats me differntly, which most men would to their own children. But even...
A. 11 October 2011: Yes it is a bit over the top. OK so she made your mother cry four years ago, but at the end of the day she was a teenager and most mothers get upset over there teenagers at some point in there life, this is life and it is up to your mother to be ... (read in full...)
Confused about my massage therapist's behaviour....
Q. Hello, My ex crush is a massage therapy, nd I was there last week.He was then very nice nd calm, nd I felt that he wanted to talk more to me, but we talked little because I was nervous. He looked all the time into my eyes even when I looked into his...
A. 11 October 2011: I cannot tell you if he has feelings for you or not without knowing this man personally. He is a professional massage therapist therefore I am sure he knows the correct way to talk and the correct behaviour to have and maybe you have mistaking this ... (read in full...)
He hurt me by taking another girl out, but now he is being sweet again...what should I do?
Q. I am 18.I have a big confusion that is bothering me, My ex and I know each other for 4 years.We've loved each other in spite of n number of break ups we have had [I think he loves me] Um, two weeks back we were trying to sort things in between us ...
A. 11 October 2011: Do you trust him? If you don't trust him well then there is no point trying to make this relationship work, as trust is an essential key. As for hanging out with this other girl, well he didn't lie about it and had told you the truth about where he ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my lover to be happy to continue the affair without sex?
Q. Hi,im a married woman,two years from now i met a cute guy who is also married.We are physically attracted to each other but till now i refused to have sex with him.He says he will wait till i'm ready,we are very close emotionally we share everything ...
A. 11 October 2011: If there is nothing sexual happening between the both of you and you are both married then how can you call it a relationship? It is more like a friendship and it is safer that way. Do you really want to hurt your husband and his wife by having a ... (read in full...)
Am I pushing him too hard to have relationship with me?
Q. hello guys.. i need your advices / help.. so here is my situation : I met this guy online this Sept 26th. 2011..he is a US NAVY but he is in Japan for 3 years,but going back to USA this december.. we always chat everyday, we text during his duty.. ...
A. 11 October 2011: 26th of September? That was only two weeks ago! Yes you are moving way to fast. This guy is in the navy and off course he is probably seeking company but if I am honest with you I don't see it ever being more than company for him while he is away. I ... (read in full...)
I've forgotten how to flirt?!
Q. Hello everyone, here`s a situation: I am 20 years old, have been in a relationship last two years and now we decide to split up. I met a new guy who is absolutely gorgeous, smart, funny etc. But I feel like I have kinda lost my ability to flirt. I...
A. 11 October 2011: It is all new and exciting for you, I get that. Are you sure you are ready to date though? You say you feel numb, are you over your ex enough to move on to the next guy? If you are and you like him well then just be yourself with him, if you are ... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend and I remained best friends until he found someone else
Q. I'll try to keep this simple, since it's a complicated situation to begin with. I'm 24 years old. I was in a serious relationship with my ex for 4 years, we shared our lives together, he even lived at my house for a year. All though we fought a lot, ...
A. 9 October 2011: Ah honey this will never work, a friendship between you both is just not possible, not when he is involved with someone else now. You need to cut ties with him now before you keep hurting yourself more and more. At the end of the day you couldn't ... (read in full...)
Can I ask him if he's still a virgin?
Q. Hey, Okay so there's this guy who I dated than we broke up because he still 'loved' his ex. We stayed friends, which eventually turned to something more than friends... This 'thing' continued for over a year, he asked me to be his girlfrie...
A. 9 October 2011: You are right to not want to go down on him if he has been with lots of other girls, because you would risk your health then because you could catch an STI in the back of your throat or mouth. Well yes it is Ok for you to ask him if he is still a ... (read in full...)
I have this nasty habit of making fun of girlfriend's class. People, please help me get rid of this nasty habit?
Q. I am deeply in love with this gorgeous girl and we have been in a relationship for ten years. I was born in a rich family and hardly made myself sweat for anything I wanted my life whereas she’s middle class but with decent education background ...
A. 9 October 2011: Just because you have both different up bringing's and backgrounds does not mean you should joke around with her about these kind of things, I can see that you probably don't mean any harm but in her eyes it is you saying that you are better than ... (read in full...)
Ex - Teacher Trouble
Q. Hi, so in my last year of high school, a new science teacher joined the school and obviously i thought about him as much as any other teacher. Which was almost never. He never taught me, only the lower sets. And he hardly ever talked. Howeve...
A. 9 October 2011: No it is not illegal to date him as long as you are no longer a student at that school. You have left school now and you are a young adult so you are free to do as you like. But it still might be frowned upon by some people, but just follow your own ... (read in full...)
I would try and find a j ob if we could move in together...
Q. I am married but want to leave my wife and leave home. I have met a woman who lives many miles from me. We would love to live together but she does not earn enough for us to live. I am unemployed at the moment but would try and find a job if we ...
A. 9 October 2011: You need to move out of the marital home as soon as possible. It is neither fair on you or your wife if you continue to live there, you need to put separation between the two of you, especially so you can both come to terms with the marriage being ... (read in full...)
Is he trying to suggest we go on a date?
Q. One day, a guy friend emailed me and said, "how are you?" Then I responded to this and said, " oh,how are you? I'm fine!" He then said he would go to the city and also said that the city is known for a dating spot.. Why did he say this to me? Please ...
A. 9 October 2011: Ok so maybe he is hinting at you that he would like to take you out, but am not so sure. Maybe he was just making conversation and didn't know what else to say to you. Did he ask you to go to the city with him? If he did well then yes I would say ... (read in full...)
I slept with him after the first date, he hasn't contact me yet, and now I'm obsessed
Q. I feel I am obsessed with a guy I slept with on a first date. I have never felt such incredible connection before, it wasn't just physical, it was emotional and spiritual too, really cannot explain it - it was crazy! I keep looking him up online ...
A. 9 October 2011: You never done anything wrong, he is probably very good at playing people and putting on the charm when he wants something, he has not contacted since so to me this says in his eyes it was a one night stand, but he is probably very good at making a ... (read in full...)
Does he just want to cuddle to avoid sleeping alone?
Q. I've been having feelings for this guy who just got out of a very long relationship about a month or two ago. We've only been hanging out the past few weeks, but I can't tell whether he has any feelings for me as well. I've been very patient with ...
A. 9 October 2011: The thing is though, when guys are around there friends they talk about the way they are with girls blah blah blah, most of the time it is lies. It really is hard to tell. I can't tell you the reason why he hasn't tried to engage in a sexual ... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated! G/f and I can't go to each other's houses anymore and the sex has stopped!
Q. I need help me and my girlfriend of 2 years have been having sex for about 1 year and it completely stopped because she is not invited to my house anymore because my dad got mad at me just for tryin to get him give my gf a ride home now she can't ...
A. 9 October 2011: No the lack of sex doesn't need to drive you both apart. At the end of the day if you want to be in a mature relationship and you want to have time on your own well then look in to renting out a place of your own. At the end of the day I don't blame ... (read in full...)
Does he just want to cuddle to avoid sleeping alone?
Q. I've been having feelings for this guy who just got out of a very long relationship about a month or two ago. We've only been hanging out the past few weeks, but I can't tell whether he has any feelings for me as well. I've been very patient with ...
A. 9 October 2011: He has just came out of a long term relationship and he is going to need some time to recover from that and get over his ex. It does sound like he likes you as a friend, but if am honest the cuddling sounds as if it is pure innocent. He is probably ... (read in full...)
She cheated but I love her to death....how can we make our relationship stronger?
Q. I have a question and that is if my and my gf stopped having sex like going cold turkey would that cause problems in our relationship. So far it has I've been extremely frustrated not being able to have sex with her and she likes or should I say ...
A. 9 October 2011: Ok well you have made up your mind therefore I am not going to tell you to leave her, your relationship, your choice. But getting down to it, why have you both not had sex in a month? If you are trying to work things out well then this is a key part ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: You are being very negative and if this is how you start of when you date someone new then it wont work, if you keep telling yourself it is not working well then it is not going to. Seriously why stress about it so much, just live life the happiest ... (read in full...)
Is this guy waiting for his ex to become single?
Q. Following situation: 1 guy 2 girls One of the girls is his ex and he was madly in love with the other one 2 years ago so he is pretty good friends (probably she is one of his best friends)with the ex (although she has a bf!) they write often on...
A. 9 October 2011: It sounds like his heart belongs to his ex girlfriend and he is just fooling about because she has a boyfriend already. He is probably to proud to tell his ex girlfriend how he feels about her because he is scared of rejection. If she becomes single ... (read in full...)
My parents don't know that my female friend is my girlfriend
Q. I need some advice on this situation so please can someone help me and sorry for the long story but i need to get all the details in here. My gf and i both 19 , lesbian couple have been together for 3 years a 4 months. We left home on Dec 2010...
A. 9 October 2011: I understand why you felt the need to run away in the first place, but at the end of the day you are who you are and don't ever change that. If you are happy with your girlfriend well then don't let anything change that. Yes it sounds like your ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can use to keep my hair from looking brassy while I grow it out?
Q. Please please please don't reject my question, I've looked everywhere and can't find any help or answers and I need help! My question isn't about sex, love or relationships this time, its about hair. But I've asked personal health questions on ...
A. 9 October 2011: Go to your hair dresser and ask her to strip the dye out of your hair. Then I guess if there are still brassy tones you will just need to find a hair dye that match's your natural colour and use that until it grows out.... (read in full...)
I love my bf so much but seeing his ex's name tattooed on his arm makes me wonder...does he still love her?
Q. Well me and my boyfriend been 2gether almost a year now.. And I really love him! He makes me happy and I couldnt picture me with anybody else but him. Well b4 me nd him got 2gether he had a baby by his ex, he even has her name tattoed on his arm! I ...
A. 9 October 2011: Just because he has her name tattooed on his arm doesn't mean that he still loves it. Obviously he loved her at one point in his life and he ws stupid enough to tattoo her name on his arm. He has to live with that decision now weather he is over her ... (read in full...)
He said I can't get pregnant because he didn't cum
Q. My boyfriend broke the hymn in my vagina and didnt wer a condom after he broke it he put on a condom he said You cant get pregnant as he didnt come is that true?...
A. 9 October 2011: Well usually the guy does need to ejaculate in order for you to become pregnant, but saying that, when guys are having sex they produce pre sperm before they ejaculate and that can sometimes cause a risk of pregnancy. Also not using a condom wont ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: Yes even then, just because he doesn't contact you every day doesn't mean he has lost interest. It is only early days so there shouldn't be the need for you to be reassured so soon. You need to take a step back or else you will end up getting hurt ... (read in full...)
Early on in dating, is 26 hours without contact a cause to worry?
Q. I hvae just started dating a new man. We have been on two (what I think) have been amazingly wonderful dates, and there is great chemistry and a connection already. It is obvious he is attracted to me - he isn't making any attempt to hide the f...
A. 9 October 2011: Wow you really need to slow down here girl before you push him away before anything serious can start. You need to look at it for what it is, it was two dates and by the sounds of it you are both getting on well and enjoying it, which is great. But ... (read in full...)
Does having sexual experiences as a teenager make you a bad person?
Q. Hi, I have been experimenting with my sexuality recently, and I'm worried that by doing these things it makes me a bad person/is inappropriate for a teenager to do. The stigma surrounding sex and girls really bothers me, guys can go around hooking ...
A. 9 October 2011: No it does not make you a bad person, and you should not be ashamed off yourself what so ever. As long as you are comfortable with what you are doing well then it is your choice, but am glad you haven't had sex yet, not that it would make you a bad ... (read in full...)
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