Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 9 October 2011: Ok you have tried now and he doesn't seem to be that bothered about meeting up with you am afraid. Don't contact him again, give him the chance to contact you now, and if he doesn't well am afraid you need to accept that he isn't interested and move ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 9 October 2011: You are right at the end of the day you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who still has feelings for his ex and it is stressing you out and causing you to be insecure and having trust issues. You are right there are plenty of other ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 8 October 2011: Next time you meet up with him talk to him, flirt with him and ask him how he feels about you. ... (read in full...)
Why is LDR boyfriend embarrassed to sex text me now? He wasn't before!
Q. Sex Text question? I have been with my LD BF for just over 6 months- we meet up every month or so and have a great time together. A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that sex was no longer the most important thing to him and that just being with me ...
A. 8 October 2011: Maybe in his past he has been dirty with other but hasn't loved them and now he is struggling to associate love with sex.... (read in full...)
Should I bother trying to be her friend?
Q. My friend and I had an argument over a lie I told her and had a huge fight! She quit talking to me. I tried talking to her but she was so angry she cussed at me and told her to not speak to her ever again. Then over the course of a few weeks (once a ...
A. 7 October 2011: I completely agree with Caring guy here, he has said everything exactly how I would have said it, at the end of the day you have broke her trust and yes you have tried to make it up to her, but I think what you need to do now is to leave her alone, ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he may fall for her fake charm! Do you think he likes me?
Q. Heyya :) As most girls my age, I have boy I like at school. We started talking and I have started walking home with him. As we walked home for the first time, he was always talking to me and to hardly any of his friends. He made sure that he was w...
A. 7 October 2011: I completely agree with what has already been said. If you like him then go for it. There are big signals here that he is in to you, and just because he is friends with this girl doesn't mean that he is interested in anything more than her. If she ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to text? Or should I text him?
Q. Should I text him? So, I met this guy, and I really like him. Apparently we've known each other since we were kids (which I don't remember.) and I've seen him lately, but I've never actually talked to him until 2 weeks ago. So, he and I really s...
A. 7 October 2011: I think you should go ahead and text him, show him you are interested and leave it up to him. It might be a case he is unsure how you feel about him therefore he has decided to give up. You have had a crush on him for a long time so it would be a ... (read in full...)
Does she fancy me or is it just a phase?
Q. ok so im freely bisexual and have slept with as many women as i have men. One of my best (female and straight) friends lives with her partner and has been with him a year. Recently, we have been out on the town a few times and iv got quite drunk. ...
A. 7 October 2011: You need to talk to her when you are both sober and ask her straight out if she likes you as more than a friend. A lot of people are curious but you need to talk to her and see how she is feeling and what she wants because it would not be fair on ... (read in full...)
My jealousy is getting in the way of the relationship
Q. hey dearcupid.. im a very jealous person , and i see my boyfriend almost everyday. When my boyfriend and i are apart, and hes with his friends , i seem to always get an attitude because of me being jealous , and i try not to show it , but he still...
A. 7 October 2011: I agree with Ghostchild, it is important when you are in a relationship to spend time apart and with friends. He said you where being spiteful, but you should both be free to do separate things as well as being together. Jealousy is a horrible thing ... (read in full...)
I am Jealous of my boyfriend's sister! Am I out of my mind?
Q. I am 17 and I have been with my boyfriend (20) for over a year. His sister is my age and she has hated me ever since we started dating. His sister and I used to go in the same school (now I'm not going to school because I can't afford it, my fath...
A. 7 October 2011: You need to tell him how you feel. The both of you have some serious issues between the both of you, and as much as you want him there for you, I guess he feels that he needs to be there for his sister. I understand that you are going through a ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with moving away from my boyfriend?
Q. So I am moving away from my boyfriend permanently and he ignores me a lot and gets mad easily. I understand that he is upset about it, but he will not communicate how he feels. I ask him how he feels about the situation and he says that he loves me ...
A. 7 October 2011: I take it your boyfriend doesn't handle emotional stuff very well, instead of being emotional and showing you he cares he is pushing you away and trying to pretend that it is not a big deal and that you are over reacting. I guess there is not a lot ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 7 October 2011: I apologise I picked you up completely wrong therefore I am sorry. Well I guess that changes things slightly. I guess it is a good thing that he is being honest with you about how he feels, but off course it is going to make you feel like you are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and best pal, can't chose between them!
Q. i was in love with my best friend. A problem occured and a misunderstanding occured because he doubted me of cheating him over my another friend. I was so heart broken and went to my bestpal for advice. My bestpal advised me to breakup with my ...
A. 7 October 2011: Either way that you look at this situation somebody is going to get hurt. Before you carry on with this relationship you really need to chose between these two men. If you have feelings for both of them well then the only way around this is to cut ... (read in full...)
Arousal makes me need to go to the bathroom!
Q. Apologies in advance for the slightly graphic nature of this question, but I've noticed something rather puzzling about my body! From time to time I'll feel really aroused out of the blue, then a few moments later I'll realise I need to use the ...
A. 7 October 2011: There can be a link between the two of them. As things down there are quite close to each other, you might be feeling aroused due to the fact that you need to go to the toilet. I don't see it as a huge problem and you shouldn't let it worry or ... (read in full...)
Why is LDR boyfriend embarrassed to sex text me now? He wasn't before!
Q. Sex Text question? I have been with my LD BF for just over 6 months- we meet up every month or so and have a great time together. A few weeks ago he mentioned to me that sex was no longer the most important thing to him and that just being with me ...
A. 7 October 2011: Just because he is more serious with you now doesn't mean he should just change his personality completely. I would be quite concerned about this now especially because it is a long distance relationship. For him to say he is embarressed after doing ... (read in full...)
How to stop being jealous of husband's female friend?
Q. This is a short question: How do I get passed being angry and jealous of my husband having a picture of his female friend in her underware? How do I forgive him when he assures me she didn't give him the picture, and it was supposed to be f...
A. 7 October 2011: sometimes it is hard to trust someone when they have a naked photo of another female, this is unacceptable. If she never gave him the photo what was his explanation on how he ended up with this photo? I guess you just need to ask yourself can you ... (read in full...)
Should I continue talking to this guy that's still in love with his ex girlfriend?
Q. So this guy I've been friends with since about last November/December, but only basically online friends. We met on Twitter and just talked online as friends, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. But he expressed interest in me, saying he ...
A. 7 October 2011: I think the healthy thing is to find someone new. You say you are falling for him, but have you even met him in person? It is impossible to feel chemistry between two people if you have never even been in the same room as each other. I think it ... (read in full...)
Always the friend, Never the girl. How can I change this??
Q. Since moving out on my own nearly 2 years ago I've become friends with a lot of guys. It starts off as just hanging out, and then when it seems like either I or they start to have more feelings they find another girl. In a recent friendship, I had ...
A. 7 October 2011: It is not about hiding the fact that you are interested. You just need to be more up front. Society think that it is up to the guy to make the first move but in my opinion that is just sexist. Therefore take charge of your own life and stop letting ... (read in full...)
He loved me. Is he over me now? Would it be OK to tell him why I could not respond? And ask for a new chance?
Q. About 3 months ago, I met this really great guy. I'm not just saying this either, he was very genuine and sensitive. The problem was that I had recently gotten out of a 4 year relationship (7 months prior) and still had my "guard" up. I never really ...
A. 7 October 2011: He fell for you very quickly, 5 weeks is quite a short period for somebody to tell you that they love you, maybe he just falls for girls very fast and thinks he is in love. Who knows. But it may have genuinely hurt him that you couldn't say it back ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my teacher that she is like a second mother to me?
Q. first of all, i have an english teacher and i love her very much as a second mother but she doesn't know that. and i really want to tell her that i love her as a second mother but i don't know how she is going to react if i told her that. so, what ...
A. 7 October 2011: I think that you need to try and let this go, even though I am sure she would be very flattered by how you feel it would be putting her in an awkward position. Her job is to teach you and guide you in to your future and that is all. After school you ... (read in full...)
How do I not ruin this relationship, due to my insecurities over failed past relationships?
Q. I have had a really bad relationship in the past that was emotionally abusive and resulted in me being very insecure. He cheated on me repeatedly, lied about even basic things and put me down constantly, when he kicked me out I was left pretty d...
A. 7 October 2011: Off course it is not his fault but also it isn't your fault either. You had a relationship with a bad apple and now that takes time to heal. Off course you are going to be left insecure and paranoid and with everything else going on in your life it ... (read in full...)
How do I get through to him? He doesn't want these two people at our wedding, Because he thinks they dislike him and his son.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and plan to get married. We just had a huge argument because he feels that one of my friends and one of my family members do not like him and his son (from previous relationship). He thinks this...
A. 7 October 2011: To be honest I don't think that you are going to get through to him. They don't like him for whatever reason and he has taking this very badly and therefore he feels they shouldn't be at his wedding, but at the end of the day its your wedding as ... (read in full...)
My fiance is inexperienced in so many ways. Should we grow old together and learn together? Or should I call it off?
Q. Would you be worried if your fiance was inexperienced? Inexperienced with life, relationships, and sex. Would it be enough to call it off, even if everything else compatibility wise was perfect? Any input would be greatly appreciated. ...
A. 6 October 2011: These are questions that only you can answer I am afraid. If you are having doubts about the relationship well then you need to listen to yourself. But my personal opinion would be that experience is not everything. As long as he treats you well and ... (read in full...)
Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations?
Q. Why do I find myself obsessing over the things I say and do in social situations? It has really become a hindrance to me, almost uncontrollable; every time I think back on something 'stupid' I've said or done (which is quite a long list, and the ...
A. 6 October 2011: There is nothing wrong with you and am sure you can relate to people, what the problem here is, is that you have no confidence or belief in yourself at all. You think about the small things and it makes you panic about what you have said and you ... (read in full...)
Why do I have trouble completing sex in a committed relationship yet can reliably cum during flings and one night stands?
Q. Hi, I'm a bit confused here, I'm 20 years old, and have only had 2 SERIOUS relationships, the previous lasting 4 years, and one currently. In between, and before the relationships I've had several flings / one night stands, etc. I've noticed I...
A. 6 October 2011: It does sound like it is a psychological issue. It is probably because when you are having a one night stand you don't have deep feelings for the girl and you can just let yourself go without caring about it. But being in a serious relationship ... (read in full...)
Did I somehow drive him away? What's he about? Cuddle one day. Then ignore me?
Q. Recently a new guy started working where I work. After hanging out a few times we exchanged numbers, and soon after we were hanging out all the time. He'd even text me a few times a day just to talk. For about 2 weeks he'd always want me to come...
A. 6 October 2011: You say he is only out of a relationship and my guess is that he needs some time alone. He made it clear to you straight away that he just wanted to be friends and you made that clear to him as well. My guesses are that he may have started liking ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my cousin's cousin. Should I try to pursue him or just move on?
Q. Hello, I have never done this sort of thing before but I have run out of options and advice from friends. I fell in love with my cousin's cousin and need some advice from a stranger. So here's my story. I have known him since I can remember...
A. 6 October 2011: Honestly darling I think that you need to just move on from him and accept that he is not wanting anything at the moment. If he changes his mind well then he knows where to find you. It is very unfair off him to flirt with you after everything that ... (read in full...)
He's completely avoiding me because he thinks he is the character in my book!
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I am an engineering student and also a writer, living in Germany and I am bisexual. I had a very close straight friend who knows that I am bisexual and because of my false action, he is now avoiding from me. Last week I se...
A. 5 October 2011: If you cannot get in contact with him by calling him well then just send him a message and tell him that the book is completely fictional. Explain everything to him and then I guess all you can do from there is hope for the best. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is He Worth It?
Q. Okay soo I'm a junior and im 17 and theres this guy and hes 17 and turning 18 soon.. he's a senior.. and he has a girlfriend but shes a sophomore.. and they've been going out for a little over a year and ive been talking to him for about 6-7 months ...
A. 5 October 2011: No please stay away from him, and please do not kiss him again let alone even think about having sex with him. He has a girlfriend. He has already cheated on her by kissing you, who knows who else he is chatting up. He is a cheat do you really want ... (read in full...)
I lost my best friend, now my new best friend is ignoring me for her boyfriend.
Q. (Fake names already inserted) Hello! This question isnt about sex, or love, its about friendship. Ever since 6th grade (im in highschool now) Ive had 1 best frined, Michaela. When i was a freeshman, our relationship fell apart. She wasnt who she us...
A. 5 October 2011: Ah the joys of high school! Believe me everything that you have just described is a lot more normal and common than you would think. Thank your lucky blessings that you have a boyfriend who am sure you can talk to. It sounds like you are beginning ... (read in full...)
He tells me to be straight forward. Should tell him that it bugs me that we are not communicating effectively?
Q. Hello everyone I'm so sad. I have a best friend we've known each other for 1 1/2 years and we meet at work. we would always go out everywhere talk about everything 24/7 none stop. Little by little I stopped talking to him as much. Months days passed ...
A. 5 October 2011: It can turn out ok yes. It can be good because you are both friends so you know each other already. Yes talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. He might not have noticed the break down in communication or maybe he has just been very busy. But ... (read in full...)
She said she couldn't do long distance and now I am so broken up
Q. Hello Dear Cupid, here I am again. I will use incorrect phrases here (when I say GF i mean exGF, I am just getting the point across better) My girlfriend and I had been dating in a lang-distance-relationship for 1 year 5 months, we had spend the...
A. 5 October 2011: It is completely normal to feel the way that you are feeling, you are heartbroken and you just never saw this coming as you thought you relationship was steady and on good terms. It is hard to accept I understand that and off course you are going to ... (read in full...)
My fiance is going to be a topless waiter. I don't like it!
Q. My partners is going to do a new job as a topless waiter I was fine with this untill I saw the pouch! He wears n the way tips r to b put in the pouch n the bell is rang at the bak. Were getting married in 7 wks n I think this is unacceptable am I ...
A. 5 October 2011: Well everybody has different views on what is acceptable and what is not in a relationship, and maybe to you this is just not acceptable. It doesn't mean you are wrong or right it just means this is your personal opinion and you are entitled to it. ... (read in full...)
Falling in love with a classmate! How do I get him to notice me?
Q. Hi. I have a problem that I don't know how to approach. First I should tell you that I think I've started falling for this guy in my class. He on the other hand doesn't seem to have any interest in me whatsoever. I think about him all the time, I'...
A. 5 October 2011: You need to make him feel special. show him that he is important to you. Flirt with him, make him laugh. When you are talking to him lean in closely and stare in to his eyes. Play with your hair and just try and go out of your way to talk to him and ... (read in full...)
Ex is becoming really friendly again. Am I reading too much into it?
Q. I think this is more of a venting kind of thing to express my thoughts, but advice is also great. Sorry this is very long, but if you have the time to read it and comment that would be great =) So I asked a question awhile ago about this break...
A. 5 October 2011: I honestly think that you need to tell her how you are feeling. Communication is key here and she deserves to know the truth so that she knows her options. It does sound like the both of you have gotten very close again, but it is hard to tell what ... (read in full...)
I'm very attached to him, but I find him boring!
Q. Help. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. Well first off, I love him, i'm very attached to him, I think about him all the time. And when he's gone I miss him so much. At the same time though, i'm bored with him, the sex is good, but t...
A. 4 October 2011: You cannot just stay with someone because they don't watch porn or find other girls attractive. If you are insecure well then that is obviously why you feel attached to him, and that is unhealthy. Seriously you cannot stay with him just for these ... (read in full...)
I gave him $9000 dollars. Could that be the only reason he stays? He still hasn't paid it back.
Q. My and my bf of 1.5 years had a fight a week back which was not my fault. But anyway i apologiazed and we made up. But the thing is he used to call me/msg me at least once a day. For the past few days he is not calling, even if he does just talk...
A. 4 October 2011: You are a brave lady for giving away 9k. That is a lot of money, especially when you know he has a reputation of getting bored with women after a while. I hope you signed some sort of paper work to ensure that you get it back. For your sake I hope ... (read in full...)
How do I make these feelings stop?
Q. I think I'm in love with someone who's with another woman. Neither one of us are married. We've been close friends for months, now. I've dated off and on, and he's been with his girlfriend for a couple of years. He calls me his BFF. He confide...
A. 4 October 2011: Hmm this is a difficult one. It is very hard to maintain a friendship when one person gets feelings towards the other. I guess the best thing that you can do is to take a step back from him. I know you probably don't want to do this because he is ... (read in full...)
Will all the men I meet be damaged goods?
Q. Is 43 too old to find a partner capable of a mature but fun and equal relationship? Does it help that I look younger, even though I don't want a younger partner? I am recently out of a relationship that lasted almost two decades and can see where ...
A. 4 October 2011: Why are you in such a rush anyway. You are not to old no, but you have just came out of a very very long relationship. So take some time to yourself. Enjoy life, treat yourself do things that make you happy and give you more confidence. No not every ... (read in full...)
I've lost hope over my Ex. But she's still confusing me by still contacting me. How can I move on?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me because I screwed up. But she contacts me everyday. texts me or calls me. I dont answer. She broke up with me! Is this even normal? I thought when you break up with someone you dont talk to them and let the heal...
A. 4 October 2011: Hmm this is a tricky one. I guess she deep down knows that the relationship is not working for her, therefore she broke up with you, but off course she is still going to contact you, you where a big part of her life and it is hard just to cut ... (read in full...)
How do I get closer to the girl I love?
Q. ok im a 17 yrs old boy and i love a girl who is my neighbour.i dont know her name nor have i ever talked to her.for her education she lives at anither town and is back for her vacations so she is here right now and i dont know what to do......should ...
A. 4 October 2011: How do you know you love this girl if you have never even spoke to her? If you want to get to know her, then why not ask her out for a coffee or to join you at a movie. You will never get her attention unless you try and get to know her and there is ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like vomiting at the thought of my ex and bumping into her?
Q. A week ago, I brought someone I just met and am really into to this cafe that I used to go to with my ex whom I'm no longer talking to or in contact with. The thing is, I hadn't thought of my ex before I brought my date there but when I got there, I ...
A. 4 October 2011: I guess because you have a lot of shared memories with your ex that you don't want her to see you with another girl at these places. It is normal there is nothing wrong with you so try and not worry. I guess because you have no contact with her now ... (read in full...)
My ex is sending mixed messages, he tickles me then says he can't love me again!
Q. Why would he be so mean to me..did I do anything wrong:(? My ex bf and I broke up 6months ago, but he's been coming back to me off and on giving me mix messages and leading me on. I went to see him the other day, but he invited his fr...
A. 4 October 2011: You cannot blame him for not walking you to the bus stop, he offered and you refused. Therefore if you really wanted him to walk you to the bus stop you should have smiled and said yes. But you didn't so you cannot blame him for this.
As for him ... (read in full...)
Stuck between my ex and two other guys. How do I proceed from here?
Q. hey, right this might be abit confussing so sorry in advance. before i met my ex i signed up to this dating site, i admit i didnt want nothing from it just one of the girls was on about it so i thought id give it ago. through this site i met ...
A. 4 October 2011: You need to do what makes you happy. Lets start with your ex. I understand that you are still not fully over him but you are getting better which is progress and he was unfaithful to you therefore am sure that is enough for you never to take him ... (read in full...)
Date Function 101 for a college senior
Q. Hey guys, I am a senior in college but have never been on a date function. I have the opportunity to attend one this this weekend. There is this girl that I really like but we have never talked. She is in a different major but we have close mutua...
A. 4 October 2011: The best way to ask her to this event is to ask her yourself. It sounds very child like to ask her through mutual friends. That is something that you do when you are in your early teen years. Just pluck up the courage to go up and say hello to her ... (read in full...)
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