B/f just vanishes on me and then has reasons, but I hate it!
Q. hey.. i don't know if its a really big problem but its all i think about all day, so here goes. i have been in a relationship for 4 years and 5 months now. and right now i'm only 19. i have been with the same guy since i started dating. i really ...
A. 14 July 2011: I am afraid there is nothing that you can do to make him change. You have spoke to him and told him what you expect of him. He hasn't changed his ways therefore it doesn't look like he is going to change any time soon.
I guess you just need to ... (read in full...)
How to make sex less painful for her?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been really intmate, it will be our first time together or for either one of us. We usually get in the mood and I go beyond to get her aroused and she does but our problem is that it hurts her a lot which we know is normal ...
A. 13 July 2011: I'm afraid that what she is feeling is perfectly normal, the first time will be painful for her to start off with but it may get easier for her as it goes on. Just make sure that before you enter her that you have her extremely aroused spend time ... (read in full...)
Would you date a girl with a moustache?
Q. Hi guys. I just want to know what u guys think of girls that have moustaches and if you can date one. Because i have a friend, a girl that has a moustache which makes her so self conscious and insecure about herself. Also what are the best ways to ...
A. 13 July 2011: If she is really self concious about it well then it doesn't matter if a guy is interested in her or not she will always have a problem with her. If she has dark hair she can try bleaching it to see if it makes much of a difference and if not she ... (read in full...)
Is he a player or is he genuine?
Q. We always chat. Like, whenever he comes online, he'd message me immediately (even when he just woke up). We'd talk for four hours or more. We talk about random things and we even have our own private jokes! However, whenever the conversation tak...
A. 10 July 2011: Why not just ask him. You don't flirt therefore it is hard to tell if he thinks of you as more than a friend. You should tell your friends to keep out of it, I know they are only looking out for you, but you are entitled to make your own decisions. ... (read in full...)
What's with the mixed signals?
Q. well I work with this girl and just recently started talking to her and so i finaly asked for her number and she gave it to me, from there we would txt back and fourth sometimes and she would usually always answer in a decent amount of time. So one ...
A. 10 July 2011: It sounds to me like this girl is interested in you and she is just waiting on you to make a move. You say she hasn't asked you to hang out with her since well maybe she thinks you are not interested. Its time for you to make the next move now and ... (read in full...)
How do I start to slim down?
Q. Hi I know this isn't a relationship question but I'm desperate for some help. Its about my weight, I can't afford to join weightwatchers or slimmersworld etc or the gym for that matter because I've just lost my job. The thing is 2 years ago me and m...
A. 10 July 2011: Well you need to keep it up, dieting for a week and going to the gym is not going to make a difference at all. You need to keep up a routine and in time you will notice changes. OK so you don't have the money to go to diet classes or to the gym ... (read in full...)
He said he loved me, wanted a family...now he says he does not want anything serious, what gives?
Q. Hi everyone, I decided to come on here and write my feeling/thoughts because I needed someone to talk to and perhaps some encouraging words to get me through my heartbreak. My story: I've been seeing a guy for almost 2 years now. I knew...
A. 10 July 2011: OK fair enough if it was a few months, but two years and still no commitment, he must be dumb if he cannot understand why you would bring this subject up. Have you both talked about what the terms are between you both and if you can both see other ... (read in full...)
I am confused by all of his actions, can anyone help me??
Q. So... this guy i'm dating. He's perfect.. in theory... but then he does stuff that confuse me big time. He wants to go out with me but he wants to go home 10 p.m... (and why? i don't know since school is off for the summer and he doesn't have a ...
A. 10 July 2011: It sounds to me like this friend of his liked you and know he feels bad because of what happened. It sounds like he is hiding you from his friends and he doesn't want to be seen out in public with you because he probably hasn't told his friends that ... (read in full...)
GF never lets what I do wrong go. What can I do?
Q. i need help with my gf its hard because she is constantly reminded of out bad past even after 2 years of beign together she still doesn't trust me she thinks i'll go behind her back and talk to some other girl when i wont at all!!!!!!! waht can i do ...
A. 9 July 2011: Two years is a long time to be holding on to something that happened in the past. Am guessing whatever it was that you done wrong it was something to do with another girl and now your girlfriend has lost trust in you, am I right?
You need to ... (read in full...)
How can l show him am attracted to him without telling him?
Q. l am a lady aged 26. I am attracted to a guy l work with. How can l show him am attracted to him without telling him?...
A. 9 July 2011: Make plenty of eye contact and make sure you smile at him every time he catch's your eye. Always be friendly and try and flirt gently with him and laugh at anything funny he says. Flick your hair and turn your legs towards him when talking to him. ... (read in full...)
Why did she kiss me?
Q. Me and my ex [both 18] go out clubbing together a lot because we have the same friends. Last night we were out and were both quite tipsy, and I bought her a drink. She said 'thank you, sexy' and quickly made out with me, not too ferociously, ...
A. 9 July 2011: I agree with 'youwish' on this one. You both went out with each other and you share those memories together. She had a few to drink and she probably just acted on past feelings. Don't try and look in to it to much. Maybe she was all over the other ... (read in full...)
I want my husband to be a friend, but we're like roomates
Q. Hi, I am very much frustrated from my life after marriage cause I am very fun loving girl, i am well qualified and so married with this type of guy but he is very unromantic and calm. he is not showing interest in anything, he is caring for me b...
A. 9 July 2011: You said that you spoke to him but it's obvious he never took you serious. You need to ask him does he still love you and want to be with you. Maybe you could get a babysitter once a week and go out somewhere. Do something fun together. Get the ... (read in full...)
Anytime my crush is around, I freeze up and can't talk!
Q. Hello, I have an important question. I met this guy (I knew who he was beforehand though) at church and immediately developed a crush on him. This guy is perfect, and I mean it. He has the best taste in music, books, and is a real man of God. My p...
A. 9 July 2011: That is just your nerves because you have a crush on him, believe me that is completely normal. You just need to gain some confidence and try to practice what you would say to him. I know it might sound silly but believe me it can help if you are ... (read in full...)
Should I contact him or wait for him to contact me?
Q. Hi everyone. I need help and would like your opinion on this question. If a guy really cares about you and seeing you, will he call you/send you an email right away after not seeing you anymore? For example, since school has ended and he sa...
A. 9 July 2011: Well you said you are both seeing each other. Are you not meeting up over the summer at all. I guess really this one is up to yourself. If you want to contact him then go for it. Maybe drop him an email and see how he is. You are sitting wondering ... (read in full...)
I want to be closer with my friends, but I still always feel anxious and not myself around them! What can I do?
Q. I guess what I'm trying to look for are people who I can just go have a chat with when I'm vulnerable and not have to worry if they are judging me. I just want to be understood, and sometimes I feel so alone when I'm with these people. I don't ...
A. 9 July 2011: Could it maybe possible that you just have trust issues with people in general? That sounds like it might be the case. You say they are loyal friends have they ever done anything that would make you feel like you cannot trust them. OK I understand ... (read in full...)
I'm really not sure why her feelings keep changing, and I think she's not sure either... any advice??
Q. there is this girl I met, we became really really good friends, and as time passed i fell in love with her, I told her that and she said that she wants to stay friends. I agreed and after a while we had to seperate, it's been 3 years now and we keep ...
A. 9 July 2011: It sounds to me like she is very confused and is just not sure what she wants. Could it be possible that she has feelings for another guy and she just doesn't know who she wants? My guess is that it was awkward because you where so used to talking ... (read in full...)
Are there any tips to help improve our situation? My GF and I have attitude issues.
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend always makes me so mad. She makes fun of me by calling me names like: freak and dork - all because i don't like harry potter? It gets annoying. I try not to but i always give her an attitude about that. Also she's always m...
A. 9 July 2011: It sounds to me like you both need to grow up a bit if you are wanting to be in a relationship. A relationship needs commitment and sacrifice. It is wrong of her to call you silly names because you don't like harry potter this is childish behaviour, ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my dad's health and his problem with food. Please help me. I'm really worried that I will end up losing him
Q. I am really quite concerned about my dad...he is 50. I am 25. He has always eaten alot for the past ten years or so but has recently gotten worse. He eats no fruit or veg (except peas very ocassionally) and lives off a diet of coffee,cake,choc, ...
A. 9 July 2011: I am really sorry that you are left worried about your father. But he needs to do something about it for himself you or anybody else cannot help him. He needs to want to eat healthy and live a healthy lifestyle. If you have already tried talking to ... (read in full...)
Moving on. Is two montha long enough to wait before I start dating again?
Q. I have just broke up from my girldfriend of 1 year, but to be honest the last 2 months I may as well have been single. The first few months went well, but then I started to get very judegmental about her past, and I was nasty to her about it and aske...
A. 9 July 2011: Everyone is different and it takes people different times to move on. Whenever you feel ready and you want to move on well then there is nothing stopping you. I must say though going out looking for someone the same day as breaking up with your ... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get?
Q. back in feb i started to like this guy who i was working with. sad thing is i moved away after i started liking him him and i stayed in touch and we started heavy flirting thru text messages almost everyday. Iv grown to really like this guy over...
A. 9 July 2011: Am sure he does like you to a certain point and yes he is making it clear that he is attracted to you on a sexual level, but it needs to be more than this. He likes this other girl he has told you that straight but I think you are wanting to pretend ... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me like this, I'm carrying his baby !
Q. I have a big problem im 7 months pregnant from a guy who is now disrespecting me, hes very abusive emotionally and physically. He calls me names the after day he told me he made out in a park with a girl he met on blackberry messager group. he keeps ...
A. 8 July 2011: He sounds like a very horrible immature man, and you can do so much better than this waste of space. I know it is hard at the moment. But you will get benefits for being a single mother and still talk to citizens advice about what he is intitled to ... (read in full...)
Will I end up lonely ? Should I lower my standards ?
Q. I think I am the most complicated person ever! I'm 25 but have been though more in my life them most people twice my age. Thing is I'm terribly lonely but I have huge issues that stop me finding anyone. I'm a lesbian, I'm more feminine then most ...
A. 8 July 2011: Believe me there is nothing wrong with you. You are being true to yourself this does not make you shallow at all. In fact the complete opposite. So you are attracted to older woman there is nothing wrong with that at all. Whoever you are attracted ... (read in full...)
I want to look experienced even though I'm not, help !!
Q. Hey so I've got a difficult situation to deal with. I really like a guy, and he really wants to have sex. I'm a virgin, but he thinks I'm not. I think I'm comfortable with vaginal sex, but he has somewhat of an obsession with getting head. I've ...
A. 8 July 2011: You should never lie to someone and tell them you are not a virgin if you are. Honey your first time is meant to be very special, you need to tell him that you are a virgin. He won't think any less of you because of it. Also is it just sex he want's ... (read in full...)
Asked her to come out and she said maybe, ask her again or let it be?
Q. So I asked my coworker last weekend if she wants to come out with me this weekend to this bar that I'm going to. We are friends but I suspect she may like me a bit (I like her too). She said she would come but she may have a previous engagement she ...
A. 7 July 2011: You only live once so just drop her a text and ask her is she free to come. It won't seem to clingy at all. ... (read in full...)
Ten years together. But he cheated for 2 years. Is this guy worth fighting for?
Q. I dated a guy for 10 years and in the last 2 years he was seeing another women behind my back, to which he got caught. He lied about seeing her and still does. He has not contacted me since the split, which is a month. Is he worth fighting for?...
A. 7 July 2011: You shouldn't even have to ask this question you should know the answer to it yourself. No he is not worth fighting for at all. Yes ten years is a long time but two years of that he spent lying and cheating to you, and he still has the nerve to keep ... (read in full...)
He is still active on a dating site and winking at women...what should I do?
Q. Well....He is still on the On-Line Dating site and is now Active! And by the way.... thanks to all who answered my question last week about my Fiance being on the ON-Line Dating site(At that time he was not active and I actually didn't say anything ...
A. 6 July 2011: Talk to him about it and tell him that you know he is active on the websites. Off course his first question will be how do you know am active unless you are on it as well. So be prepared for these type of questions and just be honest with him. He is ... (read in full...)
My partner is a virgin....what if I try and he doesn't want to do it?
Q. So i've been dating this guy for a couple of months. I am 23 and he is 21. But he's a virgin. I knew it even before we started dating, but i didn't think it was important. I'm not a very sexual person but still, eventually i'm gonna want to do it...
A. 6 July 2011: I guess he doesn't feel comfortable talking about it because he is not sure what to say. Nerves probably play a huge part in this as well. Don't just spring it on him out of the blue. Try having more romantic nights in. I am guessing that you both ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting just to pass the day at work?
Q. Hello, I wanted to know your opinions.I´m student and I got a summer job during summer. I started to work in one german company whose seat is connected to the seat of another company(german company, too) so we have some common space). Every day I me...
A. 6 July 2011: It's really hard to tell. You both haven't even had a conversation yet so it is way to early to try and make sense of his behaviour. It could be possible that the girl in the photo is his sister. But yet I know a lot of married men that don't wear ... (read in full...)
He cares about me as a friend, but I want him to love me...
Q. they iz a guy i luv but the guy doesnt love me wat must i do and we are close friends...
A. 6 July 2011: Am afraid there is nothing that you can do sweetie. You cannot make this guy love you know matter how much you try. You just need to accept that he does not love you back and move on with your life. I know that it is hard but am afraid that you have ... (read in full...)
I discovered that my ex has been cyber stalking me, should I tell him I know??
Q. Hi all! A few months back I allowed my now ex boyfriend to do a little work on my computer knowing I had nothing to hide from him and he could access all areas no restrictions. But the next day I logged on and something just told me that thin...
A. 6 July 2011: Well I guess it is your choice if you want to confront him about it or not. Was it him that broke up with you? This is quite disturbing behaviour and I guess he just wanted to see if you where moving on with your life and if you where with anybody ... (read in full...)
My virgin husband is making me get an std test before he will marry me...
Q. My fiance is making me get an STD test before he marries me. He is a virgin and I'm not. I have been with 2 guys before him. He told me he just wants to be sure I am clean before he marries me because he does not want to catch an std. He is ...
A. 6 July 2011: I am sorry to say but I agree with your husband here completely. He is right. He obviously cares about his health and also your health. I think it is good to get yourself tested for STI's every now and then. They are quite common now and if left ... (read in full...)
Parents, do you think a 19 year old female should have a curfew??
Q. Several months ago my family "adopted" a 19 year old girl who was in need of some help and guidance to get her life back on track and graduate high school. Things are going really well, except for one thing. We dissagree on what time she should ...
A. 6 July 2011: Hi well am not a parent but I wanted to add my input anyway if you don't mind. As a young woman myself I think what this girl is doing is really disrespectful. OK yes she is 19 therefore she is legally an adult but she is under your care and ... (read in full...)
Does 'Screwdriver Guy' like me or is he just being neighbourly?
Q. My question is about a really lovely guy whom I'm not sure likes me. I recently moved into a block of flats and one morning, walking out the main entrance, I morning, walking out the main entrance, I turned to notice a very attractive guy walking ...
A. 6 July 2011: I think you might be coming on a bit to strong and he can sense that. He probably noticed that you where nervous and flustered around him and he probably doesn't know how to handle it. It probably wouldn't have been a bad idea to ask him in for a ... (read in full...)
Lack of friends or companionship is affecting my art!
Q. I'm a freelance comic book artist. I graduated college seveal months ago and had to move back in with my mom and aunt. They live next to highschool so there is no o e around here my age and all my friends have either moved away, working, or they're ...
A. 6 July 2011: I guess your art has been suffering recently because you are feeling down and depressed about your situation at the moment. You need to try and get out of the house. It is not healthy spending all of your free time stuck in side and only going out ... (read in full...)
I have issues over trust due to past cheating partners!
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. Having slight issues. I have picked up trust issues over the years due to partners cheating. I have gotten much better at trusting people but im finding it hard at the moment since i met this new guy. He has said it had ...
A. 6 July 2011: I guess your trust issues have re-appeared because he was talking to you before he was officially broken up with his last girlfriend. They are not long finished so am guessing you may be worried that you are a rebound or that he is a cheat. I guess ... (read in full...)
Post-divorce friendship or 'no contact'?
Q. My exH and I have known each other for 20 years of which 18 we were married. We had a very close relationship and considered each other best friends. Money, material things, and flaunt have always been very important to him as it gives him power. ...
A. 6 July 2011: If am honest with you I think the best thing that you can do is to cut all contact with him. It sounds like he is very confused and doesn't know what he wants. It sounds like he wants to keep the both of you in the pipeline as he cannot chose ... (read in full...)
It's like I'm a toy and she's the child playing with the toy! Break up or not?
Q. So my girlfriend and i have been going out out or about 4 months. When we first started going out, she would act like i was a god (talking about how perfect i was, etc.) We would text each other everyday and spend a lot of time together. after ...
A. 6 July 2011: Well you are both in a relationship and if one of you is stressed or upset about something well then you should be leaning on each other. It is not a good sign her saying that you will only make it worse for her. She is holding back from you for ... (read in full...)
I honestly don't have a clue where I stand with him!
Q. I honestly don't have a clue where I stand with him, he speaks to me so often and we have such a good bond. We have so much in common and the conversation flows but then things go wrong. I really like this guy and when we were hanging out he said he ...
A. 6 July 2011: I think the both of you are on two different wavelengths here. He said he liked you but did you say it back? You haven't asked him straight out what he wants and if he likes you in a romantic way. He is probably very lost and confused because you ... (read in full...)
How would a man behave if he were conflicted with choosing between his new life, new woman and his old life, wife & kids?
Q. How would a man behave if he were conflicted with choosing between his new life, new woman and his old life/wife and kids? I would really appreciate hearing from actual men how they would handle this sort of decision. Additionally, I am nothing ...
A. 6 July 2011: I know am not a man but I would like to comment anyway. I guess something has happened in your relationship that is making you question if he wants to get back with his ex or not. He split up from his ex therefore unless there is real doubt about ... (read in full...)
Anyone have ideas for simple gifts for my deployed military man?
Q. I have a man who is in Afg. I want to send him packages, more so I want them to be simple but I want there to be small trinkets that pack a big punch. Anyone have any ideas of where I could start with that? I dont want all of it to be lovey ...
A. 6 July 2011: Well am guessing you want to add a personal touch to it as well and show him that you care about him and miss him. Hand made things are a good thing to start with they are cheap and it shows you that you put in the effort for him as well. So maybe ... (read in full...)
Help me out of the 'friend zone'!
Q. The guy I like I have known for around eight years, our parents are best friends and I have practically grown up with him. I have really strong feelings for him but i'm worried that he only thinks of me as a friend, help me get out of the friend ...
A. 6 July 2011: Without having to ask him on a date,just suggest that the both of you meet up more often. You don't need to tell him your feelings or make it official. The next time you see him ask him would he be up for hanging out with you more often. Do you have ... (read in full...)
Should I play hard to get?
Q. back in feb i started to like this guy who i was working with. sad thing is i moved away after i started liking him him and i stayed in touch and we started heavy flirting thru text messages almost everyday. Iv grown to really like this guy over...
A. 5 July 2011: Ah what a horrible situation to be in. If I am honest with you, I will give this guy credit because he realised that he was wrong by flirting heavily with you when he knew he liked someone else and he admitted that he was wrong and was truthful to ... (read in full...)
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