Guys, do you freak out like this?
Q. I know this is a huge generalized question, but how long does it really take a guy to decide what he's doing in a relationship? We've been exclusive for a year. There are things we understand about each other that neither of us thought anyone could. ...
A. 3 November 2011: You have both been together for a year now, which is long enough to start asking him where does he see the relationship going and if he is serious about it. Don't start asking him about marriage or children or it will freak him out but you deserve ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex about the rebound relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of two and half years and I took a small break, not because we didn't love eachother but because of the long distance between us. AFter we broke up, I had a rebound relationship that lasted about 4 weeks. I broke it off rather quicly ...
A. 3 November 2011: I think you should. It is always best to be open and honest when you are giving a relationship a second go. At the end of the day you never done anything wrong you where both split up and for all you know he may have been with others as well. Just ... (read in full...)
I can't let go of my unrequited love and it is killing me..
Q. I have been in love with a close female friend for four years. I have tried to date other women but there has never been a spark and they pale in comparison with my friend. I have tried minimising contact but it makes no odds. I want to move on ...
A. 3 November 2011: Am afraid the only way that you are going to get over her is to cut all contact from her completely. I know that it is difficult and even more so when you share the same group of friends, but it is either that or else you are just going to keep ... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my cross-dressing partner?
Q. I did write a post on here nearly 2 years ago about my partner who had told me that wearing female clothing is something that he has wanted to do from a young age. Anyway i have really been struggling with this finding It so hard to deal with. It ...
A. 3 November 2011: He is who he is and he is never going to change that. I can completely understand why you would be worried. He is very confused at the moment, so off course you are going to be worried that somewhere down the line he will decide he wants to be a ... (read in full...)
I said I loved him, he responded with I like you, I'm confused?
Q. ok me and mt bf have been goin out for almost a year now he takes care of me he is nice kind genleman gives me wat i want all the time but oneday i asked him how he felt about me. i doubt since he was giving money and paying for my phone bills and ...
A. 3 November 2011: You should never use someone, it is completely heartless and can leave that person very hurt, upset, confused, angry and most importantly broken. If you feel like you do not love him any more, and he cannot bring himself to say that he loves you ... (read in full...)
I feel burdened by my friends problems, help?
Q. Hi, I know it might seem a bit ironic me asking this question, but i'll ask anyway :P Basically, some of my friends are going through some rough times, mostly with girls and stuff like that. Things haven't been working out for them, so obvious...
A. 3 November 2011: Off course you don't as a friend you should be there for them for advice, which is great but if it is constant well then it is not fair on you and it does bring your mood down. I guess you just need to either be straight with them and say look you ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you freak out like this?
Q. I know this is a huge generalized question, but how long does it really take a guy to decide what he's doing in a relationship? We've been exclusive for a year. There are things we understand about each other that neither of us thought anyone could. ...
A. 3 November 2011: I guess he is scared to admit his commitment and love to you. Maybe he is scared of getting hurt, or maybe he is just scared that you are moving to fast together. Yes you need to talk to him about this. Just be straight to the point with him and ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my partner for my education?
Q. I have been with this girl for more than a year now, we met via post secondary and I am deeply in love with her. I feel like I want her to be my wife in the future. She has aspirations for med school which she is most likely getting in come next ...
A. 3 November 2011: I feel that it is worth it, yes you will be sad to leave her but at the end of the day you are setting up your future. If you both sit down and come up with some plan where you can both make it work long distance. There is web cam, messaging, email, ... (read in full...)
I already have trust issues and now my younger boyfriend wants a threesome!
Q. I have been in a livein relationship for 15mths now. I ham 43 my boyfriend is 28. He now wants a 3sum, him, me and another girl. At first I wanted to please him but have since told him that I was worried about the following 1 I couldn't ...
A. 3 November 2011: You are that desperate for him to stay that you are willing to let him have sex with another woman, it is time to start setting some ground rules. Tell him that you do not want a three some because you are not interested, tell him you don't want to ... (read in full...)
Is he playing me around, or actually interested?
Q. Hey everyone, thanks to everyone who helps me out on this. Im sorry it may be long, im gunna try make it quick and have all the vital details in aswell. Ok i am having a super hard time trying to analyse this guys intentions. I met a guy on fa...
A. 3 November 2011: You are wasting your time totally here. I know this is not what you want to hear, but he is wanting to live the uni life, go out meet different girls and hook up with them, he is enjoying not having any responsibilities and am sure he doesn't think ... (read in full...)
Is boyfriend avoiding seeing me because he was up to no good?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and we usually see each other 3-4 times a week. I last saw him 10 days ago when we made plans for the following weekend. That Friday he went out on the town with the boys for a leaving do from work. I was ...
A. 3 November 2011: No you are not worrying yourself over nothing, at the end of the day he has a history of lying to you, so off course it is going to make you wonder why he is avoiding you now. If I were you I would say to him that you heard from someone that he got ... (read in full...)
How to play the player ?
Q. how do you play a player at his own game ..?but when u like the guy and trying not to show feelings ..when ur just pure (friends with benifits lol ). guys n women hu have or are players please to answer thanks...
A. 3 November 2011: Ask yourself do you really want to have him as a sex friend and nothing more? If you have feelings for him well then take my advice you are going to get hurt a lot of you keep this up. If it is what you want well then have sex with him, let him use ... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: This is cheating, no matter what way you look at it, she went behind your back and made out with another person, I understand you have spoke about fantasies and if you where there and you both discussed it well then it would have been OK but what ... (read in full...)
After he walked out, I joined a dating site and when he found out, he dumped me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend (ex now) had an argument,and as normal he walked out. The day after I joined a dating site. Only a day I know, but we was not together. He has found out and now dumped me. Its the longest we have ever broke up. He says he does ...
A. 2 November 2011: Well it was only a day so it was very soon to be joining a dating site. This has made him think that you didn't care a lot about him because you went straight on to a web site looking for someone else, so now he does not want you back, am afraid you ... (read in full...)
I like her immensely, but she turned down a friend with "I'm not ready to date anyone." Should I try anyway?
Q. Hey guys,I'm kinda in a bind any advice would be great as I can't talk to friends about this. So there's this girl,I like her immensely,I think about her several different times every day,I txt her good morning and goodnight most every day. We ha...
A. 2 November 2011: I think you should just be honest to yourself and to her, tell her you have feelings for her, at the end of the day the worst she can do is say no to you, and if that happens well then just accept it and ask her can you still be friends, am sure she ... (read in full...)
This girl keeps posting weird and random comments on his facebook wall.
Q. so there's this girl on my new boyfriends (he is also way at school in a different state at the moment) facebook she keeps posting weird and random comments for example " hey,do you still love me ?" and " hey boo , i miss you i hope we can hang when ...
A. 2 November 2011: Well you say yourself that this is a new relationship, so maybe I wouldn't start asking him questions yet or you might come across as clingy and he might get fed up quite quickly, as long as he is not replying to her with anything indecent and there ... (read in full...)
Every time I need to talk to my boyfriend about an issue regarding our relationship he gets defensive and concludes that I have my period.
Q. It seems that every time I need to talk to my boyfriend about an issue regarding our relationship he gets defensive and concludes that I have my period. I now feel that should I have something I want to discuss with him on a serious note, that he ...
A. 2 November 2011: Has he always been like this or is it just recent? It sounds to me like he doesn't like to talk about his feelings and he tries to cover up problems instead of working them out, maybe he just cannot be bothered listening to your problems or else he ... (read in full...)
Am I better off going solo, or should I keep my eyes open?
Q. I've been doing some thinking and I'm really wondering if I am better off alone. This has nothing to do with the fact that I'm just a teenager or that I am too pessimistic. I do want to have a girlfriend, and all that stuff though; I'm just ...
A. 2 November 2011: There is nothing wrong with being single at your age there is plenty of time when you are older to go looking for love, not a lot of people find there true love until they are adults. Yes am sure there are flings and puppy love, but very rarely deep ... (read in full...)
How do I apologize for not going to the party?
Q. I want to apologise to this girl i know, but i'm not sure what to say to her. She invited me to her grandad's birthday pary a few months ago her grandad is my sister in law's dad, and this girl is my sister in law's niece ).I said i would go at ...
A. 2 November 2011: It is a bit late now months down the line to apologise to her for not going to a party so your best bet is to just let it go and not worry about it, it is in the past you cannot change it now. If you would like to keep in contact with this girl well ... (read in full...)
The last thing I want to be is needy and moany!
Q. So I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 6 months now, and everything's going great. I'm 27, he's 39. Here's my problem- I can't stop wanting reassurance from him... My last boyfriend- who I was absolutely, 100% crazy in love wi...
A. 2 November 2011: Your last relationship has left you damaged and broken now. It is something that you need to sort out before you ruin this new relationship. While am sure the last 6 months have been good it is still early days and if you are insecure well then you ... (read in full...)
After giving me a gorgeous ring, we had some difficult times and he has never mentioned marriage again!
Q. hello. I am a single mother of two who has had a boyfriend of five years. At the beginning he proposed to me with a georgous ring. We then went through some bad times with him strongly wanting me to abort our baby saying wrong time. I went through ...
A. 2 November 2011: The only thing that you can do, and that's talk to him. Communication is key here to start solving your problems. Yes he gave you a lovely big ring and made you lots of promises for the future, but you say that was at the start, so maybe he bit of ... (read in full...)
She is no longer the wife or mother she used to be and the whole family are feeling neglected, how do we talk to her about this?
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My wife of 19 years is no longer the woman I married. We have three children 11, 13, and 19. In the last few years she has taken in pets and recently has taken on 8 more added to the 15 she already has. She spends ...
A. 2 November 2011: Your children are exactly that children, you need to be the one to take responsibility and try and get through to her, so sit her down and tell her how you are feeling, don't take no for an answer. Tell her how this is effecting her children. It ... (read in full...)
Does not texting mean lack of caring?
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for only 3 months, but it's a really meaningful relationship. I have an excellent judge of character and I now he isn't playing games with me. So I've voiced to him a couple times the importance to me of letting me ...
A. 2 November 2011: 3 months is quite a short time no matter how serious it has gotten. Yes just because he doesn't text morning and night to reassure you that he is missing you doesn't mean that he doesn't have feelings for you, am sure that they are genuine. But just ... (read in full...)
Should I assume that he has moved on and doesn't feel the same way about me?
Q. I am currently friends with a guy from work, and over the last 3 months it has escalated to something more. We've had a few sleep overs and gone out on dates, but never really established that the relationship was any more than two people enjoying ...
A. 2 November 2011: If he is a way on holiday well then maybe he just has no time to message you or to check in on you, don't just assume that he is with another woman and that is why he has not contacted you. Some people when they go on holiday they just want a break ... (read in full...)
How to approach this girl?
Q. where i work is a supermarket, and i often go over there for lunch. For quite some time now i have been seeing this gorgeous girl over there, sometimes walking with her mate, sometimes on her own. We always make eye contact with each other, but the ...
A. 2 November 2011: I agree you just need to up your confidence and talk to her it is the only way to go about it. Smile say hello ask her how she is, ask her what her name is, is she from the area ect. If you see her all the time well then you have the opportunity to ... (read in full...)
Talking with a strange guy, he seems to be interested but ignorant at the same time
Q. The thing is that i met a guy through social network website , then he added me on Facebook , i liked his pictures , he looks amazing like my dream man , i gave him my number and he texted me , i asked him to meet up but he said it is too early ...
A. 2 November 2011: Cut off the contact and move on. He is playing you big time, when he wants some attention he looks to you for it, but he is not willing to do the same for you. He is making excuses not to meet up with you, which is a big red flag alert that the ... (read in full...)
Does he love me or not?
Q. so this guy i knew since my teenage proposes me. All though i had feelings for him, i just kept asking him if he really meant it or if he is just playing games with my feelings. He assured me that he had feelings for me and he knew that i love him ...
A. 2 November 2011: You say he was depressed and my guess is that he felt he wanted to be with you because he knew that you had feelings for him and he was so down in himself that he didn't think anybody else would be interested in him, so he decided that he would ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that your guy asks you if he really loves you? or is he cheating??
Q. Is it normal that your guy asks you if he really loves you? or is he cheating?? I mean he was like I love you.. I said I love you to .. he said is it true? TELL ME THE TRUTH.....
A. 2 November 2011: Yeah I agree, he sounds a little insecure in the relationship and is asking you for reassurance that you love him like you say that you do. You both need to communicate more, and you need to trust him in order for the relationship to work long term.... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should back off or try to pursue this?
Q. I'm 19 and in my first year of college musical theatre. This is my first time on my own and I feel like everything is going too fast. guy I like is 22 third year. There is the guy who is gay and well I don't know how I should read this. First...
A. 2 November 2011: You are the person who you are and you should never change it for anybody. Tell him how you feel. Be open and honest with him and see where it gets you. Don't get down on yourself because you don't like going out and getting drunk or high, religion ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to text my ex since he stopped contacting me?
Q. I was seeing my ex recently and things were going well. Now all of a sudden he has stopped talking to me and messaging me. It is okay to message him pulling him up on the situation. Because I really don't think I did anything wrong....
A. 2 November 2011: Am ex is an EX for a reason. The relationship obviously didn't work out for whatever reasons. He got back in contact with you again which is great but my guess is that he stopped again because he needs more time or else he is just not interested in ... (read in full...)
I love her but she just wanted the physical stuff with me!
Q. I have been in love with a woman for over two years. She was my best friend and we spent most of our free time together. There was an amazing chemistry between us and we eventually started kissing, then dating. Her family loved me and told me that ...
A. 2 November 2011: I guess there really not a lot that you can do here. It is her loss not yours. Off course it is going to hurt and it is going to be hard to get over her, but you just need to accept that she does not want the same things as you. Who knows if she ... (read in full...)
We both had sex with others, so how do we go on from here?
Q. So during this summer I met this girl who just seems right for me and that the fates had lined us up multiple times to be together. Anywho we have a romantic stint while studying abroad for 3 months. We traveled for a week after our program and she ...
A. 2 November 2011: She doesn't sound immature to me at all. You say you don't know if you can forgive her, but you are getting down to small details that shouldn't even matter, at the end of the day you say you are wanting commitment, but then you tell this romance ... (read in full...)
I can't see myself being someone's girlfriend!
Q. I can't see myself being someone's girlfriend, even when I'm in a relationship. I'm confident about my looks, the problem is something internally makes me feel "it's not me to be in a relationship." I very much like the idea of relationships though. ...
A. 2 November 2011: It may just be simply that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship and if that is the case really there is no harm in that at all. If you are happy with your life as it is well then don't rush in to trying to commit to someone. It is ... (read in full...)
He's acting distant. please advise me on what to do and don't do in order for him to make our plans of reuniting come true?
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years just left a month ago for a job abroad.. i don't have complaints against him while he was still here with me because most of the time we get along so well. i always tell him that i am so happy having him..before he left, we h...
A. 2 November 2011: You need to communicate with him, when he told you he was having second thoughts well you never even tried to fight for him, this is probably telling him that you can't want it all that much or else you would be demanding answers and trying to work ... (read in full...)
My emotions consume me
Q. I'm so volatile in this relationship. I worry about where we are and where we're going and fearing an end that may not even come. I cry all the time both when I'm upset or misunderstood something and when I'm full of joy at the thought of ...
A. 1 November 2011: You need to go and visit your doctor, I can understand why you don't want to go back on to anti depressants. But go and visit your doctor who can maybe refer you to a therapist or a counsellor to talk about all your feelings and thoughts, it is ... (read in full...)
I've been in great relationship for years, since I was 14. Why do I feel like I'm missing out?
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 2 years with my boyfriend, i love him more then anything in the world, but i enjoy people flirting with me. I don't really do it back, and if i do it's only little comments every known and then, nothing heavy. ...
A. 1 November 2011: No there is nothing wrong with the way that you feel, at the end of the day everybody loves receiving attention so when these guys flirt with you off course it is going to make you feel good. There is no harm in innocent flirting as long as it ... (read in full...)
I've tried moving on but no-one compares to my ex! What should I do?
Q. Well I really love this guy (now my ex) we dated for over a year. Its been months nd hes still all I think about, hes all I need! I cry sometimes when I catch myself thinking of him and how hes not mine! I would give anything to be his again. I ...
A. 1 November 2011: The only thing that you can do is move on, he says to you now wait a few years, but if you were to actually wait for him my guess is nothing would come from it, because he would have moved on with his life and you would still be stuck in a rut. You ... (read in full...)
Unofficial with one girl who wont have sex yet, and an offer on the table for sex with an old friend....should I go through with it?
Q. We've gone on a few dates and everything is sailing smoothly except one thing: She is just NOT ready to have sex. To me, it feels like she is chopping off my balls and making me her eunuch. I want to love her and show her a great passionate pleas...
A. 1 November 2011: Personally I don't think it is the smartest of ideas. At the end of the day yes I agree sex is a big part of a relationship, but you should be showing this girl respect by proven to her that you can wait until she is ready without going looking for ... (read in full...)
We ended because he didnt have time for a relationship, and now he is with someone already! To make things worse she is really simple looking whereas I am so much more attractive!
Q. So starting in April of my first year of college, this guy started talking to me, and we really hit it off and he was really into me. We both live in different states, so it was kind of bad timing, since we were both going back home for the summer ...
A. 1 November 2011: The only way that you are going to get answers is to talk to him about it and ask him what the deal is. Talking about your comments on how she looks, well looks aren't everything, a girl needs to have a great personality to hold on to a guy and ... (read in full...)
Any advice on moving abroad to study?
Q. I was just wondering if anyone has had the experience of moving abroad too study away from family. I'm asking this because my relationship with my family has never been a good one and has got worse these past few years since coming out to my...
A. 1 November 2011: If your heart is set on going abroad well then my advice is to study hard and go for it. It may not be for everyone, but travelling is a great experience while you are still young and you get to meet new people from a different upbringing as ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 1 November 2011: You are trying to fool yourself, nobody else! It is up to you off course what you feel is acceptable. But no matter how hard you try to 'groom' him you are never going to change him and you are never going to make him love you back to the point ... (read in full...)
Having trouble having sex with gf! Please help!!
Q. hello 1) when my gf and I decided to have sex for the first time I couldn't enter my penis into her vagina. It was slipping a lot so we couldn't had sex and I also tried doggy style but failed ? whats wrong 2)while i was trying to have sex w...
A. 30 October 2011: Nothing wrong what so ever, the first time is never perfect, practice and you will soon get it right. Maybe she was tight and therefore it would have been hard for you to enter. Make sure you use lubrication and lots of it and make sure there is ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 30 October 2011: It is clear he is a cheat, you have all of the evidence right in front of you. The Physics are just telling you what you want to hear and trying to make you believe something that you know deep down is not true. Follow your gut, you know deep down ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 29 October 2011: He doesn't love or care about you, he is planning on cheating with you and has no guilt at all. It's not even like it is a mistake because he knows exactly what he is doing. He is paying to bring her over to him, it sounds to me as if he likes her ... (read in full...)
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