Is my boyfriend psycho or something?
Q. Me and my bf were together for 3 years and 7 months. I am 26 and he is 24. We have been through some wild periods (arguing a lot, broke up several times, got back together). He is a bit difficult to talk to and solve problems, since he does not ...
A. 6 November 2011: I don't think that he is psycho. My guess is that it is just a pass time for him. He doesn't like talking about serious things and this is his way of letting himself go and pretending to be someone that he is not. He is just venting over the ... (read in full...)
My step mum makes no effort with me now her and my Dad have their own family!
Q. My parents have been divorced for 16 years after my dad had an affair with my step mum, and I'm 20. Over these 16 years, they got married and had my half sister (6) and since she was born I feel that my step mum is not trying to maintain a relat...
A. 6 November 2011: Off course you have the right to feel the way that you do. It must be very upsetting to feel pushed out of there family life, it is your dad at the end of the day. Obviously your step mum has no interest in being a step mum to you. Be thankful that ... (read in full...)
Deep down my friend is as cold as stone, what should I do?
Q. I have a friend who is very outgoing, confident, and self-promoting. She is very loud and sure of herself. At first, everyone wants to be friends with her, because she is so bubbly and witty. She knows all the inside jokes and references that I know ...
A. 6 November 2011: My guess is a huge part of this is jealousy, you long to get the attention that she receives and you resent her for this, now listen this is not a bad thing it is completely normal to feel like that. But if she is really loud then I can understand ... (read in full...)
Do I save my own skin and pull away from her? Or keep going, and hope for her to like me, eventually, and vica versa?
Q. Basically one of my mates and I have started getting very close over the last few months to the point that we are cuddle bitches one could say : The issue is that as the one in this situation, i dont mind and sort of enjoy the female attention i am...
A. 6 November 2011: Ok so you are male then? Well in that case I guess it changes things, your best bet is if you like this girl and see her as a potential girlfriend well then talk to her and ask her how she feels, tell her you like her and be open and honest. ... (read in full...)
I want to be supportive but have an equal say in this stressful situation
Q. Me and My boyfriend have been together a little over 8 months now and have been living together for 2 months. I am 28 years old and he is 35. Basically shortly into our relationship he gets a call from this one night stand(which I will never ...
A. 6 November 2011: It is really sad and horrible to hear this, and women like this should never be allowed to have children, it is cruel to the child. I don't doubt that you would make a fantastic step mum, and fair play to you for stepping up to the mark and standing ... (read in full...)
Do women have a problem with scars? Should I get mine surgically cleaned up?
Q. Prefer women to answer this: Im near the end of my 8 week cutting cycle and my long term goal of revealing my abs is achieved. However i have lower abdomen scars from belly fat and have opted to have possible surgery to remove them. Sexually, ...
A. 5 November 2011: I think a girl would need to actually be very shallow if she has a problem with a few scars on you. At the end of the day they are a part of you and you shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone. My guess is most girls wouldn't even take much ... (read in full...)
Is it me? Can someone please tell me whats going on? Because I'm scared of falling for him deeper if he's going to hurt me.
Q. I have this friend, I've liked him for a while. I'm a close friend of his, I'm always there for him. Lately he's been depressed because he crashed his car, has no girl friend, failing some college classes and doesn't really like what he's studyi...
A. 5 November 2011: You need to talk to him about his behaviour and tell him that it is confusing you. He see's you as a friend well that was his story anyway when you told him how you feel, he is either trying to hold back or else he is using you to feel close to ... (read in full...)
How can I know whether he likes me or not...
Q. Dear all...How u all are fine. Well there is this guy working in a supermarket. whenever i enter the supermarket that guy will always look at me and will come and greet me. Today when i entered the shop....he was talking to a girl and when he saw me ...
A. 5 November 2011: The best that you can do is just smile and be friendly to him. If you like him and you want to get to know him better well then start talking to him and ask him about himself. Smile and be slightly flirty and he will soon get the picture.... (read in full...)
I think I have got into a sexual rut. And I am at a loss,so what can I do about this?
Q. I think i'm in a sexual rut. And I think this has been going on for a long time. Alright well basically a few days ago, I was masturbating, and had sexual lesbian thoughts. This has happened before, and it freaks me out. Mainly because the thou...
A. 5 November 2011: Please don't worry about this. There are plenty of people out there while when they are masturbating start thinking about things that actually disgust them any other time. It is perfectly normal what you are thinking and believe me it does not mean ... (read in full...)
Has the society I live in changed? Is it different elsewhere? Who can tell me the negative things about using illicit drugs?
Q. are drugs normal? like, is it a part of life? is it not regarded as bad? or wrong anymore? if it ever was, i was brought up to think that the usual, dont do drugs thing, but i know my uncle blood relative is on them (anphetamine, speed) and he wa...
A. 5 November 2011: No it is not considered as the normal thing to do and they are still bad for you. I have to agree that there are a lot more people using drugs that you would never expect. But they are still wrong and they are still addictive and killing people. ... (read in full...)
From day one I have loved him. But? Love him but don't trust him....what should I do????
Q. I need advice. I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. And we have gotten pretty serious. He has told his family about me and other people but he doesnt tell any of his female friends we are together. And when they ask who he is dati...
A. 5 November 2011: It is a red flag warning that he tells other females that you are his sister or his friend!! There is something worrying about that, have you spoke to him about it and ask him why he feels the need to do that?
Just remember that you have only bee... (read in full...)
Do I save my own skin and pull away from her? Or keep going, and hope for her to like me, eventually, and vica versa?
Q. Basically one of my mates and I have started getting very close over the last few months to the point that we are cuddle bitches one could say : The issue is that as the one in this situation, i dont mind and sort of enjoy the female attention i am...
A. 5 November 2011: Are you both lesbians? This is the first major question, because you don't specify if you are or not. It does sound to me like she looks to you as a close female friend but something tells me this is all that she is interested in. Has she ever told ... (read in full...)
What do I do? The medication I'm taking makes me feel like a zombie
Q. I've been on Citalopram for a year and switched over to Setraline as i had a panic attack once and citalopram was making me too tired to do anything other than sleep. Been on sert for a week. I joined up rowing and archery. My strength and enduranc...
A. 5 November 2011: Go and speak to your doctor about how you are feeling, be completely open and honest about everything you are feeling and discuss with them what the best path for you would be to go. There are lots of different set up's out there that deal with ... (read in full...)
Our first exclusive date. Any tips please?
Q. ModNote: You are 17. It may help if the you posted a follow up on the age of your boyfriend, as the Aunts and Uncles may appreciate that information My boyfriend and I are going on our first exclusive date (just the two of us, we usually go with a g...
A. 5 November 2011: Just remember that you should never do anything that you are not comfortable with. It is normal to get nervous on a first date, completely natural believe me. But when it comes to making out only do what you feel comfortable with, if you begin to ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with him? I want to. But he says things that make me afraid to break up with him. Help, please?
Q. Can anyone help me? I tried breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years and 4 months, but he just reeled me back in like the other 5 or more times. Now, we're just 'friends' until I feel that we should be together but I don't know if I want to be with...
A. 5 November 2011: What he is doing is cruel, he is using emotional black mail to keep you because he doesn't want to lose you, but this is wrong. Off course you would be scared in case he hurt himself. But this is not your responsibility and it is more than likely ... (read in full...)
Should I cut communication? Why would he be talking to me more often all of a sudden, saying that he misses me and loves me? He has a Girlfriend
Q. I'm in this really complicated situation with a long term friend of mine. Me and this guy have been very close friends and at one point things escalated. We got involved with each other even though he had a girlfriend. We have been involved for a ...
A. 5 November 2011: Obviously he has heard that you are coming back in to town again, so he is contacting you more and telling you these things because he wants to get with you again without the commitment. He has a girlfriend who he has no intentions of breaking up ... (read in full...)
Should I just be single? Because I'm going either way whether he like it or not.
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I been together for a year and a half I'm 18 freshman at a community college. My friend (a boy) goes to ^^^^ State. and I want to go up and visit and experience that college life and party. He's mad I guess that I'm taki...
A. 5 November 2011: He is just jealous at the minute because he doesn't want to see you going up and staying with another guy, but at the end of the day if the relationship is going to work there needs to be trust, and it is obvious that he does not trust you. You have ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship with my ex's cousin (whom I don't love), just to get back at my ex for dumping me
Q. 8 months back, my girlfriend dumped because she thought I had no future by doing small time job and it hurt me quiet badly but I didn’t say a word and quietly planned revenge on her. We spent 6 years together ! So for the last 4 months, I am i...
A. 5 November 2011: You say you where badly hurt by this and I believe you, but now you are going to hurt someone else this way. You are hurting her innocent cousin in this and to be honest you should be ashamed of yourself. This girl has never done anything wrong on ... (read in full...)
I want to be supportive but have an equal say in this stressful situation
Q. Me and My boyfriend have been together a little over 8 months now and have been living together for 2 months. I am 28 years old and he is 35. Basically shortly into our relationship he gets a call from this one night stand(which I will never ...
A. 5 November 2011: Off course you have the right to voice your opinion, but am afraid it doesn't really stand up as you have no blood connection. This is a terrible situation to be in and no wonder you are so stressed. I am glad that your boyfriend is taking ... (read in full...)
Quick and easy steps to get a boy to notice me?
Q. Okay ive never had a boyfriend and i want one might say im rushing but i dont care i see couples walking and i feel left out i would like to know some ways to get a boy to notice me quick and easy steps and some boys i dont talk to what can i say to ...
A. 5 November 2011: Never be anybody but yourself. There is nothing you can do to make a boy like you. But striking up a friendship is always the best way. If there is anyone you like well then just smile and make small talk with them, get to know them by asking them ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to feel with what I am involved with right now?
Q. Ok here's a bit about me I've recently turned 21 and i am studying social work, however recently my mother has become severly ill due to rheumtoid arthuritus so i care for her and my brother a majority of the time. When growing up my father...
A. 5 November 2011: You have had quite a difficult start to life. but believe me you can turn it around, you just need to be a strong person and show your dad and this other man that you are stronger than that. I am sorry that your dad was so cruel to you. It is awful. ... (read in full...)
A 24 year old dating a 17 year old?
Q. I have a question about a 24 year old dating a 17 year old. I'm 24 and 7 months, and I do have a crush on a 17 year old highschooler. I'm wondering is it ok to get to know her and become close friends? I know I can't have sex, but would casual ...
A. 5 November 2011: There is nothing wrong with dating someone who is younger than you, as long as you respect that it is illegal to be intimate with her well then that's fine. But be prepared for some back lash as not everyone would agree with a guy at your age going ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I don't feel the same as I did toward her
Q. Funny thing...i always thought relationship were easy to read...and now however i am very confused... I've been with this girl for some time now...18 months...there was a spark at the begging...or mutual understanding...something that lead us to ...
A. 5 November 2011: It is only natural to feel upset even if it was you that wanted it to end, it is still a sad experience just give yourself some time to grieve for the relationship. You will feel better in time trust me. Just remember that you where not 100% happy ... (read in full...)
I feel I am projecting a fake image. Are my solutions going to fix this issue or is more needed to not project ''fake"?
Q. Am I a horrible, fake person? I actually am starting to hate myself. This guy came back to mine last night and i realised I had hair extensions in, false eyelashes on, contacts in and dark makeup on!! It was projecting a complete false image, that i ...
A. 5 November 2011: There are plenty of girls out there who use all the things that you have listed. It doesn't mean they are fake it is just it makes them feel good about themselves and that is why they use it. Lots of girls like to dress up and do there make up to ... (read in full...)
Does my casual 26 year old occasional sex buddy need to know? I'm getting divorced. The 26 year old didn't want me to get pregnant, but now I am.
Q. I am 33 almost 34 with 3 children and getting divorced. I have been casually seeing a guy I met on the internet for the past 3-4 months, he's 26. We both work a lot so only meet up every few weeks and text in between. It's not a relation...
A. 5 November 2011: No matter what religion someone is everyone feels differently about abortion, really it is a matter of personal opinion. I guess you need to ask yourself what do YOU want. Do you want this child or do you want to abort him/her? You need to think ... (read in full...)
You'll have to trust me on this. I feel I'm ugly. Can I have some reassurance and support please?
Q. So, my problem is that I'm ugly. No, I'm not one of those plain but actually pretty girls that complain about their looks. I was born with a disorder, and while I won't go into a bunch of complicated details, I look really different, and ugly...
A. 5 November 2011: I really feel for you. People can be so cruel without actually realise the damage that they are doing to that person they are laughing at. At the end of the day nobody in this world is ugly, it is such a horrible word. Everyone is unique and special ... (read in full...)
Does he really love me at all even with him behaving this detached way? Can he love if he's so detached?
Q. I'm in a relationship with this guy for about 8 months now. The first few months he was very detached and when I spoke to him about it, he made more of an effort to open up. It was going well, and then a couple weeks ago he tried to break up with...
A. 5 November 2011: It sounds to me like he is confused and he is unsure about what he wants. Him suggesting that you break up tells me that he is not happy in the relationship. I think he needs some time to himself. He is not communicating with you very well, and my ... (read in full...)
How can I help my gay friend? He's returned to his lover under duress and my friend is so sad about ti.
Q. I need some advice on how to help my friend. My best friend X is a gay guy and well he hasn't exactly told his family he is gay. And for the past 3 years he has been in this relationship with this guy(lets call him Y). From where i stand it has...
A. 5 November 2011: He needs to be true to himself and admit to himself who he really is. It is really hard for a gay person to come out to there family but it needs to be done at some stage. I guess he is just not ready now and he fears that it will get out so he is ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I don't feel the same as I did toward her
Q. Funny thing...i always thought relationship were easy to read...and now however i am very confused... I've been with this girl for some time now...18 months...there was a spark at the begging...or mutual understanding...something that lead us to ...
A. 4 November 2011: Sometimes our feelings change, we cannot help how we feel. You need to take a break away from your girlfriend to decide how you feel. Just be open and honest with her, I know you don't want to hurt her, but it is always better to be honest in a ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my freeloading siblings?
Q. When I was in college, I worked my ass off just to get that degree and the only person who had shown support was my mom. My 6 siblings were too busy with their lives of which I can't blame them too. Fast forward, I now work overseas and cur...
A. 4 November 2011: You need to start putting yourself first now and stop letting them all walk over you. Because that is what they are doing just walking all over you and not caring about your future. It is time you took control of the situation and learned to say no. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my study partner in the sack?
Q. Here is the situation there is this girl, she is my classmate and she lives not far at my place, she asked me to study with her for exams just like we did last semester, but the thing is I'm attracted to her, and I told her couple of times how I ...
A. 4 November 2011: Give up now. She has a boyfriend you need to respect that. She looks to you as a study partner and nothing else. If you keep at this girl you will just drive her away. She is in a committed relationship, you need to accept that. She is not willing ... (read in full...)
Did I handle the conversation badly?
Q. Hello, I really need an external opinion about this situation and if i handle it badly. I met this guy one month ago and i really like him. We went to a party and we finished in bed. But i left leaving him surprised. I knew he was asking ...
A. 4 November 2011: No you are right, if he is interested in you well then he will contact you, and if he doesn't then he can't be that bothered. He probably wants to leave it a while before contacting you, so I guess now it is just a waiting game.... (read in full...)
Trying to live up to my mom?
Q. Hi agony aunts! Well lately I'm concerned that I'll never live up to my mom. When she was a teenager she was really pretty and skinny and quite the ticket. Ok i am not lying when i say this but this guy who liked her went to the mental hospital ...
A. 4 November 2011: You do realise you are not your mother and you never will be, yes you may look like her in certain ways, but even if you where as thin as she was, what is it that you are looking to achieve? Rest assure that she did not turn some guy gay, that guy ... (read in full...)
I'd like to be the one to start the spark for a change. How can I do this?
Q. I have a good bisexual friend (and by friend I mean we see each other almost every day at university, we go out to movies, concerts, parties, we talk about what's going on in our lives and in general we like hanging out together) with whom I've ...
A. 3 November 2011: Simple the next time he is lying beside you just start of by slowly stroking his leg or his arm or even his face, as for kissing well nobody got anywhere in this world without trying so just go for it, you have nothing to lose, yes you may be shy ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to girls?
Q. So Im in high school and I am pretty good with the ladies but idk, I seem to have become really shy since middle school to highschool and most of the girls I know went to a different school so I have been hanging out with guys for like two weeks ...
A. 3 November 2011: You just need to gain confidence, you find it ok to talk to the guys, so it should not be any different with the girls. Just be yourself, be friendly with them, ask them questions so that they feel you are genuinely interested in them as a person. A ... (read in full...)
Finding it very hard to feel content with my boyfriend and our life at present
Q. Dear Cupid, How can I find peace and be content? I love my boyfriend very much, and he is a great boyfriend. He is kind, joyous, generous, thoughtful, and considerate. He is respectful and has a wonderful sense of humor. I know he is faithful. He ...
A. 3 November 2011: He knows what it is like to come out of a bitter marriage so am guessing he has his barriers up at the moment. It sounds like he treats you well and cares deeply for you, and am pretty sure that if you fell of the end of the earth he would be hurt ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a bruise on that part of your body without it leaving a mark?
Q. I have a question about a mysterious bruise incident. Fact: She told me had a bruise and it hurt like heck and she got it by bumping into the sharp corner of her dresser in the dark, on her chest. Fact: The next day she showed me where the brui...
A. 3 November 2011: Yes off course it is, she may have hurt herself by walking in to something in the dark and it may not have left a mark but it still could very well be sore. Am not sure why you are not just taking her word for this though and you don't believe her. ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to make these dreams about my ex stop?
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend for a year and a half and I'm having recurring dreams about my ex (who happens to be my first love) for the last few months. We were together for 3.5 years and it officially ended about two days before my current ...
A. 3 November 2011: Your dreams are your minds way of remembering your ex and the past that you shared. There is no way of stopping your mind from over running while you are asleep. Just try and not let them effect your new relationship or the progress you have made so ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you freak out like this?
Q. I know this is a huge generalized question, but how long does it really take a guy to decide what he's doing in a relationship? We've been exclusive for a year. There are things we understand about each other that neither of us thought anyone could. ...
A. 3 November 2011: You have both been together for a year now, which is long enough to start asking him where does he see the relationship going and if he is serious about it. Don't start asking him about marriage or children or it will freak him out but you deserve ... (read in full...)
I want to clear my conscience and tell the boyfriend of the girl I slept with what I did. Should I do this?
Q. Hello all I did something very bad, and I'm quite ashamed of it I had sex with a girl who has a boyfriend. Sure, that happens all the time, but this girl...well...I work with her boyfriend, and I also work with her mum. idiot? yep i kn...
A. 3 November 2011: It is not your place to tell this guy that you slept with his girlfriend, I understand that you want to get rid of your own guilt. But it may all back fire on you, as he may not believe you and think you are trying to cause trouble therefore he will ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex about the rebound relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of two and half years and I took a small break, not because we didn't love eachother but because of the long distance between us. AFter we broke up, I had a rebound relationship that lasted about 4 weeks. I broke it off rather quicly ...
A. 3 November 2011: I think you should. It is always best to be open and honest when you are giving a relationship a second go. At the end of the day you never done anything wrong you where both split up and for all you know he may have been with others as well. Just ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you freak out like this?
Q. I know this is a huge generalized question, but how long does it really take a guy to decide what he's doing in a relationship? We've been exclusive for a year. There are things we understand about each other that neither of us thought anyone could. ...
A. 3 November 2011: I guess he is scared to admit his commitment and love to you. Maybe he is scared of getting hurt, or maybe he is just scared that you are moving to fast together. Yes you need to talk to him about this. Just be straight to the point with him and ... (read in full...)
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