I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 17 December 2011: To be honest, it sounds to me like this friend is really important to him, therefore it would be a bad idea to ask him to stop being friends with her. Could it be that you do not like this woman because you feel that she is a threat to your ... (read in full...)
Do I pick the good guy or the bad guy?
Q. help me!!!! I love two men and have no idea what to do.... one is a good guy ones a bad guy but I just dont know who to choose!...
A. 17 December 2011: Well you have not defined what makes one good and what makes one bad, but if you are looking to settle down and be serious with someone well then I feel you should go for the good guy who is there by your side and who is willing to give you a ... (read in full...)
I'm lost in the middle of two guys and I feel I love both. Should I leave one or both guys?
Q. i was currently in a bad relationship earlier on this year and unfortuntely it ended badly and my ex soon found someone else. I have since been in a relationship with a guy since august and we are together even today, but i have been seeing anot...
A. 17 December 2011: You know what it is like to be hurt by a guy that you love. Am guessing you where cheated on by someone you loved very much, so now you are going to inflict that pain on these two men. You know how it feels so you should not be doing it to others, ... (read in full...)
Pretty girl....
Q. HEY.... a problem.. this girl from India is THE most beautiful person you'll find in the world. Brown eyes, Silky straight brown hair, fair skin, perfect height, pinky cheeks and rosy red lips. HA the problem is 36 guys out of 41 in our class have ...
A. 16 December 2011: There really is nothing you can do. It is up to her who she wants to date. Just remember that looks aren't everything. Personality is important as well. Just try and talk to her and get to know her, be yourself.... (read in full...)
Husband and mother in law issues...
Q. I have been married to my husband since 2008. I moved in with him because him and his mom already had a house. She put the down payment and he pays the monthly morgage. His mom is 72 set in her ways and a perfectionist about the cleaniness of the ...
A. 16 December 2011: To be honest nobody is wrong or right in this situation. It is just a matter of different opinions. I can see both sides in this. You want a night alone with your husband while he does not want to make his mother feel left out. But I guess it is ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my brother I'm dating a guy 5 years older than me?
Q. Hi everyone1 im 17 and dating a guy who is 22, he is my first bf and im crazy about him but here is the problem. i live with my brother and he dosen't know about it. He asked so many times if i was dating and i said no, i think if he finds out that ...
A. 16 December 2011: If you are serious about this guy well then the truth will eventually come out in the end. I think it is best just to come clean and be honest with your brother at least then he knows that you trust him and you are not lying to him. I know it might ... (read in full...)
What should I say if she calls? title Lesbian LDR of 5 years.. Has she moved on?
Q. I flew interstate at the end of August. A and I had been doing bad for some time and it had been 8 months since we saw each other last. In fact during those 8 months we had a break up that lasted 2 months. A came here for Christmas and stayed for ...
A. 14 December 2011: After reading your post well this break up didn't really come out of the blue did it? You where both not right for a long time. To me it sounds like you didn't trust her and she couldn't stand the long distance and she was lonely and wanted someone ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my Girlfriend and I know she's confused. Should I just let this go and move on?
Q. i was with my girlfriend for two years, and she broke up with me for someone else in june. since then, though, we remained friends, but it eventually led to her telling me she still had feelings for me. it's been a roller coaster ride ever since. ...
A. 13 December 2011: Yes I think you need to let this go. I can see you tried your best and you just want her to be happy. But you know yourself she needs to find out herself what she wants. I think for now you need to give up on this and concentrate on yourself. Spend ... (read in full...)
Should I accept the Proposal? But I don't trust him!
Q. Hey, I need some advice on whether I should listen to my head or my heart regarding my bf's marriage proposal. We've been together 17 months, and he's asked me to marry him. My initial reaction was to be very very happy... but I'm starting to give ...
A. 13 December 2011: No you are not wrong, he has done so much in the past to hurt you, that off course you are going to have your doubts, you would be insane not to. Did you just forgive him each time for doing this? In doing that he feels he can walk all over you, I ... (read in full...)
I feel like a loser in Life! What do I do?
Q. I feel like a loser. I know this is not relationship based, but I do need some help or advice or just someone to read this. I am in my late twenties, I dont have a job, I dont have a a partner, I dont have any family or friends, and I dont have ...
A. 13 December 2011: You have life!!! You need to start taking control of it and making it positive. Stop looking at all the negatives in your life. Be thankful that you are alive. Stop looking at others and saying they have a life and you don't. There are people in the ... (read in full...)
I asked my boyfriend to have a STI test, he was shocked! Was my timing really that bad?
Q. I have been dating this guy for over a month and we get along extremely well. One thing led to another the night before last and we had really great first time protected sex. The next day we were texting about the experience and I mentioned that we ...
A. 13 December 2011: This is all new to him, no girl has ever asked that from him and it really shocked him that you asked him for this. He obviously took offence thinking that you thought he was dirty or something. To be honest you have done the right thing and it ... (read in full...)
Please help! What Gifts should I take for my bestfriend, his wife and there newborn?
Q. Hi members of DC: I need you help please. Although it is not about love or relationship issues please respond. Here is the issue, me and my best friend or my business partner have become very close of late. Actually we do a lot of things together ...
A. 13 December 2011: Well use your head, what do babies need? You could buy a blanket or a teddy or a toy. Some clothes for the baby. A card for the parents that say congratulations on the birth of there baby boy. There are gift sets you can get for new born babies.
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I'd love to introduce myself to this girl and I need your advice!
Q. I've been single now for 6 months, prior to that I was in a 2 year relationship that drained me of confidence and strength (during which I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety). During these 6 months I've got a new job, a mortgage and eve...
A. 13 December 2011: You need to remember that this girl doesn't know that you exist at the moment. So you need to take it slowly and with care. Instead of just going in and announcing you are single take it slow, as this might scare her off.
If you are in the stor... (read in full...)
I feel hurt and betrayed! She thinks I've had affairs! Does she still love me?
Q. During the course of an argument during which I questioned her faithfulness for the first time EVER (she was spending a lot of time with a male coworker, even missing my birthday dinner to talk business with him on the phone) my wife mentione...
A. 13 December 2011: It could be possible that she is using this as an excuse for her own behaviour. If you are both wanting this marriage to work then I guess the only way forward is to go to a marriage counsellor to get some help and guidance. Because I don't think ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm being a pest.....do they really like me?
Q. Basically, i started highschool about a week and abit ago, and so far everything has been going brilliantly, i'm doing well with the work, my sets are getting sorted out and my anxiety ( i have a severe anxiety disorder) is getting easier to ...
A. 13 December 2011: You are paranoid, that is all it is. At the end of the day if they did not like you they would never have bothered to talk to you believe me. So you need to accept that they want to be friends with you and hang out with them and enjoy the company. ... (read in full...)
After a year of dating my b/f still hasn't told his family about me!
Q. I have been with my bf for over a year now, i can honestly say that he is the love of my life and I'm his.we get on really well and share the same sense of humour and values there is just one small problem that I can't seem to let go and it is now ...
A. 13 December 2011: I guess he just has his own private life away from his children and he doesn't want the both of them mixed together. Either way it just looks like he is not ready to tell his children about you just yet. Yes off course that will hurt you. I guess ... (read in full...)
Do women want powerful, wealthy men more than considerate, nice guys?
Q. I know nobody wants a wimp. But do all women prefer the self-absorbed jerk with power over the nice, middle class guy who is considerate of a woman's feelings? Is the law of the jungle and the law of human love really the same?...
A. 13 December 2011: No all woman are different. All different woman want all different things and look for all different types of men, it is impossible to just categorise all woman in the same way. Everyone is different with different attractions and different likes ... (read in full...)
We've been together 5 years but I can't commit!
Q. I really need some advice - I spent over 10 years married to a guy who put himself first, was never really proactive in thinking of doing stuff together and was selfish regarding his hobbies, career etc. He also put me down and showed no ...
A. 13 December 2011: Really it is simple, you need to let go of the past. Yes I do not doubt you had a bad marriage and it has left its scars. It sounds like your husband just did not know how to treat you. But five years later you are still with this new guy and still ... (read in full...)
We've been together 5 years but I can't commit!
Q. I really need some advice - I spent over 10 years married to a guy who put himself first, was never really proactive in thinking of doing stuff together and was selfish regarding his hobbies, career etc. He also put me down and showed no ...
A. 13 December 2011: Really it is simple, you need to let go of the past. Yes I do not doubt you had a bad marriage and it has left its scars. It sounds like your husband just did not know how to treat you. But five years later you are still with this new guy and still ... (read in full...)
He wants me back but I don't know if I should say yes?
Q. ok.. here it is. there is this guy in my class and he's like me since the begining of the year. he asked me out once but i said no cause i didn't know him that well at first. then as the year moved on we became friends and he started to mess with me ...
A. 13 December 2011: You should go with your gut instinct on this, if he keeps messing about with you without a good reason well then I guess he is not going to change any time soon. Talk to him about this, tell him you like him and ask him why he has behaved the way ... (read in full...)
I realised I always have a better time with my friends and without my boyfriend. Should I worry?
Q. When my boyfriend and I first got together (three years ago) we always used to have a great time when we went out just us or in a group, it was part of the reason we got together. Now however we always end up going home early together, not be...
A. 13 December 2011: Your friend has made it clear that there is nothing between you both, but is that how you feel? Are you trying to tell us here that you think you may have feelings for your friend more than your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
Different religions, ages, countries, and cultures...should we even try?
Q. Hi guys, So i'm in a bit of a pickle, I'm 31 and have fallen in love with a wonderful man...only we can't be together. I'm a 31 year old female from London whom lives in the city and I'm from a middle class Jewish family. I am educated wit...
A. 12 December 2011: If you both want to be together then you are both adults and you are both old enough to make up your own mind. Either your family like it or not, but it is not there life and not there decision to make.
You both need to talk about things and see ... (read in full...)
Am I getting used again and if so how can I stop myself feeling this way about him?
Q. I split up with my partner of 18 years this year as we had a shambolic relationship, i was totally neglected and just felt used by him. Since I got a new lease of life, i lost 4 stone in weight and made a lot of new friends. Unfortunately i have ...
A. 12 December 2011: Yes you are getting used again. When you agree to be a friend with benefits well then you are agreeing to be used. You have lost a lot of weight now and you feel attractive and wanted by men. But you are going out and having sex with them for ... (read in full...)
I cant make myself leave him even though I know I should!
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my bf for 2 years. I never really introduced me to his friends as gf. For them i was just his friend, he is not cheating on me, so i never really raised any issues on it. He never really talked about our future. Yesterday he...
A. 12 December 2011: You know you have to leave him. Am sure he knows that you love him, but that is not going to make him stay. He knows you love him so he is going to use you until he finds someone who he is actually interested in. He does not love you, he does not ... (read in full...)
I think I'm battling depression!
Q. i think im battling deppression and have bad anxiety, i dont like going out cos i hate how i look (even though im told im goodlooking) and i just dont feel like my life is going anywhere. i didnt go to college (besides being shy and anxious i realy ...
A. 12 December 2011: You need to go and get professional help. It sounds like you may have depression along side low self esteem issues. If you have tried to the best that you can and you cannot get by this. Then go and visit your doctor or a therapist who will be able ... (read in full...)
I realised I always have a better time with my friends and without my boyfriend. Should I worry?
Q. When my boyfriend and I first got together (three years ago) we always used to have a great time when we went out just us or in a group, it was part of the reason we got together. Now however we always end up going home early together, not be...
A. 12 December 2011: There really is not a lot you can do here to change how you feel. It sounds like you become bored when your boyfriend is around. If your friends have noticed this then he probably has noticed as well that you stay out all night when he is not there. ... (read in full...)
How can I stay positive, if I feel that my life is ruined by bad fate or bad luck?
Q. How can you keep positive attitude, if all what happens in your life , makes you miserable? I tried my best in life, but I got really bad cards to play with. So things will not turn around any time soon, also some of the bad things caused perm...
A. 12 December 2011: If someone is always negative, then yes this is going to have an impact on there life. If you see the world through negative eyes well then negative things are always going to keep happening. Have you visited a doctor to check for depression? As ... (read in full...)
How much communication should I expect?
Q. My boyfriend and I used to text every day and talk on the phone at night daily. We do this because we can only see each other on weekends because he lives an hour away from me. In the last couple weeks, I noticed that he doesn't text as much and on ...
A. 12 December 2011: Every relationship is different and everyone expects different levels of communication. I can understand why this is worrying you. But am sure missing a day here and there with no contact does not mean that the relationship is dying. He could just ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what is the best way to ask you out?
Q. Ladies, A general question! If a guy wants to ask you out. When should this be done so the guy has more of a chance not to catch you at a bad time? How should this be done so it doesn't creep you/embarase you etc. What do you look for when a guy ...
A. 10 December 2011: When should it be done? When you are both alone. Nobody wants to be asked out in front of other people because it can make things awkward and they might not know what to say and get embarrassed. It is always best to do it when you both are alone, ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend's older brother. Should I wait, or make a move?
Q. Hi okay I'm having an issue. My best friends older brother is 2-3 years older than us, but I'm falling for him and have secretley liked him since i met him about 3 years ago. He always talks to me and talks about how hilarious I am and stuff. I...
A. 10 December 2011: I think you should talk to your best friend about this and tell her the truth about how you feel. If you get the okay from her then you should go for it and see what happens. Just remember to keep it slow and take your time with it. But I think you ... (read in full...)
Why is he looking at me after he ended the heat to a simmer?
Q. HELLO; So after two years of heart ache and having to work with this guy I decided to end it within myself in even knowing him .He's always so bac and forth, talks to me, then is mean, I just can't take it anymore. He knows I care for him cuz that's ...
A. 9 December 2011: He keeps messing you about, playing mind games to get your attention. It is quite cruel on his part. When he told you he didn't want to be friends any more he probably didn't expect you to let go without a fight and now his ego is dented so he is ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned by the lack of sex/intimacy in our relationship
Q. I am 34 and my girlfriend is 31. We have been seeing each other for about 10 months and i've been living at her place for 4. We are both very serious about the relationship and talk about a future together, house/kids the only trouble is i find that ...
A. 9 December 2011: You need to be completely honest with her and tell her exactly how this is making you feel. If you are planning a future together then you need to be honest with her. There could be a number of reasons why she pushes you away. Maybe she feels if she ... (read in full...)
My wife is stricken with grief and she pushes me away! I just want to help her through her grief and loss...Please help?.
Q. hello people of the web. my wife lost her brother and dad last year and ever scenes she has been finding any reason to fight with me and she is being very hatefull towards me i was just wondreing if there is any thing i can do to help her i want my ...
A. 9 December 2011: She is probably trying to deal with this in her own way and that consists of pushing you away. She is obviously not coping with this very well. Maybe suggest that she goes to see a grievance counsellor to help her deal with this. She has showing she ... (read in full...)
Guys: When you want oral sex, what do you want exactly?
Q. A question for the guys.... When you want oral sex, what exactly does that mean? Until you ejaculate? Instead of intercourse? To get you hard and then intercourse? Does it help to get hard again if you are in the middle of intercourse and you ...
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Should I hide my maxiderm cream?
Q. Hi I want to ask something very different suppose i am in relationship and i am getting engaged and i end up showing maxiderm cream (like viagra) to her while we getting intimate,or she finds out that i have it my closet what would be he...
A. 7 December 2011: If you need to use this well then you need to use it. Nobody should judge you over it, however if this is the woman that you want to spend your life with well then don't allow her to find it, instead just come clean to her and tell her you use it, ... (read in full...)
Tips for easing a very bad back!!
Q. Hello again everyone. My bf has a very bad back, he broke it in a car crash back in 2006, he crushed one the vertebrae at the base of his spine. Now he's sort of learned to live with it, but there are times when it is very painful for him, ...
A. 7 December 2011: If his suffering is so bad that he is losing sleep over it, I think he should go to his doctor to look up different options on what could help him. I understand you want to help, but unfortunately this is a irreversible injury and the only way to ... (read in full...)
How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?
Q. If you were, let's say, making 60k a year, would you date someone who is making 15k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and ...
A. 7 December 2011: To be honest, I believe that everyone should learn how to live there life independently and not rely on anybody else for money. At the end of the day, someone who has a big house, a big career and a big bank account does not mean that they are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's and my plans for life do not mesh!
Q. All right, here's the deal. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over three years. And good god we love each other like nothing else. We just moved in together and, minor issues aside and one or two larger ones that we have talked about ...
A. 7 December 2011: This is one of those tricky situations in life that you just do not have any control over. It is clear to see that the both of you want two very different things, and if someone sacrifices there plans to keep the other happy well then they will end ... (read in full...)
My guys is still affectionate, but no sex! Is it because of 2 kids and our busy life?
Q. Hello, A little background information, My boyfriend and I have been together for just about 4 years and have 2 young children. Our sex life has never been crazy, I got pregnant pretty quick when we first started dating (3 months)so I think tha...
A. 7 December 2011: Having two young children can be a lot to deal with, am sure you know that yourself. But maybe it is just effecting him differently and he has lost his sex drive over it. Off course there may be a deep routed problem as well. The children where not ... (read in full...)
She won't tell him why she wants a break!
Q. My best friend's fiancée just told him she wants a break for no reason or she isn't giving one. this is completely killing my friend and I cant console him. they where together for 5 years and now this. does anyone have suggestions how ...
A. 7 December 2011: This has come to him as a huge shock because he never saw this coming, so it is no surprise that he is taking it bad. He is probably very upset and angry at the moment, but most off all confused because he never saw a problem when obviously she ... (read in full...)
After 5 Years Why Hasn't He Proposed
Q. This is real simple. I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years. I moved out of state to be with him and its been me and him since 2006. I have never given him a reason to not trust me. I've never lied to him. I've never cheated on him. I go to ...
A. 7 December 2011: Have you both ever even spoke about marriage? Maybe he is not ready to be married, maybe he does not believe in it. Who knows? I think you need to sit and talk to him and ask him where he sees the relationship going.
But I wonder why is it you w... (read in full...)
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