Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: Well good luck for Saturday and I hope you can both sit down and talk about your future and how this is going to work. You both need to just sit and talk it out, I hope it all goes well for you. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is afraid to commit because of past relationship, what can I do to help her?
Q. my girlfriend says she needs space cause she is afraid of getting hurt and thinks she is destine to be alone i dont know what to do? i will give u a little back ground I am 33 she is 45 with 4 kids. her 1st husband was an alcholic abusive jealous ...
A. 22 November 2011: She is finding it very difficult to leave her past and look in to her future. She cannot let go of her ex, and she is now taking it out on you because he found out about the both of you. She still lets him control her, obviously she still has ... (read in full...)
He pursued his ex but won't pursue me. Should I leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I had known each other for 4 months now. Before we were in a relationship, I was the one who texted him everyday and he will Text back. We also went out because I was giving him hints that i'll be in town on my days off( I used to ...
A. 22 November 2011: Talk to him about it and tell him how you feel instead of driving yourself crazy thinking about it. Yes he pursued her and then you came on the seen, you showed him you where interested and you chased him. At the end of the day it should not always ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on me so why can't I get her out of my mind?
Q. Me and my now ex gf have broke up several times due to her cheating and addiction to dating sites. Each time she ends up turning up in an emotional mess and i get suckered,before i know it i am saying to myself, 'i am with her again'. Then within a ...
A. 22 November 2011: It is obvious you are just not ready to move on yet. You are emotionally attached to your ex and you allowed her to treat you bad and you still kept taking her back. She is not going to commit to you, that much is obvious at this stage. Do you ... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or not interested?
Q. I met this girl who I really like. We went out and had a great time. She even planned out a second date for us to go watch a hockey game and then later our alma maters football game. I picked her up and she told me about her friends breakup and how ...
A. 22 November 2011: It is way to soon to be asking is she interested or not, because you are both still at an extremely early stage. You just need to take things slow and see where it goes. Wait for her to call back and organise another date. Just go with the flow and ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 22 November 2011: That's completely understandable that you would want someone to talk to, it is always better than bottling things up. But it really is a lesson to be learned that when you are in a relationship you should also have platonic friendships in your life. ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: If you are in a relationship with this guy then you should both be communicating much more than you both are now. If things stay like this then things are never going to work or progress. You both need to sit down and ask each other where the ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: The only way you are going to find out what is wrong with him is to go ahead and visit him and talk to him face to face. Wait for his sister to get back to you about the go ahead and go up and talk to him about your relationship. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm trying to feel comfortable about my boyfriend occasionally watching porn
Q. I'm hoping to settle this whole porn issue (though it isn't one at all) once and for all. I watch porn myself and I know my boyfriend does. But why do I get so touchy when the subject comes up? Or when I see hot women in a movie? I am attractive, I ...
A. 22 November 2011: It can be a hard thing to deal with no matter how much you want to accept it. Just try and stay positive about it. You no deep down it is you he wants to be with and this is just for a physical release when he cannot be with you. You know deep down ... (read in full...)
Should I just end things? B/f being mean and I wonder if he's cheating on me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and our past isn't the best, however we have agreed to put that behind us and move on. Lately it hasn't been great I have the feeling that he's cheating and he's been being really mean not wanting to ...
A. 22 November 2011: I think you need to talk to him about this. To me it sounds like you and him are on different wave lengths. He has pretty much told you he hates your behaviour. So you both need to sit down and talk about this. Ask him does he want to try and work ... (read in full...)
I really like her, trying to give her space, should I just stay in the background?
Q. I met this lady about a month ago now, asked her if she would like to meet up for drinks and we had a fantastic time, then we met again a week later and had another great time. Then we went round my place a few days later to cook and watch films....
A. 22 November 2011: No it would not be to much, it would show her that you care for her and it was not just a bout the physical side. By reading your post it is obvious she felt that it was moving to fast and she wanted to make sure to take it slow and to make sure it ... (read in full...)
Feeling beat down in this relationship
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, we have 2 young children together. I don't even know where to start, but I feel so broken and withdrawn since our last argument. We don't fight all the time, but when we do he says the most hurtful things. ...
A. 22 November 2011: This cannot go on the way it is. He calls you names in front of your young child and puts you down. Completely unacceptable, she may only be two but she can pick up on this sort of behaviour. You need to sit down with him and tell him how you are ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to obsess over a celebrity?
Q. Okay so i'm 15 ... and i'm just wondering if it's normal to obsess over a celebrity ... now i'm not crazy or anything. It's a member of a not so popular band and i was in covent garden for about the one and only time last week and i wrote as a jok...
A. 21 November 2011: At your age yes it is completely normal to have a crush on a celebrity, it is all part of growing up. But you just need to take a step back as well though and not get to attached. You will get over it in time. But don't mix it up with reality. ... (read in full...)
I feel like his psychologist, not his girlfriend
Q. Hello Aunts! Your help will be greatly appreciated :) I started dating a good friend of mine a few months ago - we met at college a year or so ago, and we really hit it off from the start. We have a lot in common, including - oddly enough - t...
A. 21 November 2011: I agree with Boonridge McPhalify on this one. Depression or no depression he is still being very selfish and doesn't care about how you feel or what you want. This relationship is draining you, it is easy to tell and it is bringing you down. I know ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me or is he just tryin' to sleep with me?
Q. So some of yu may have already read the question about the guy I called D. But other things have been crossing my mind. He acts as if he might like me. Yea, according to people who answered my other question about him, he finds me "sexually ...
A. 21 November 2011: Is your gut instinct telling you that he is only looking for sex? If that is what you fear well then all you need to do is say no to him if he tries it and if he pressures you or else ignores you well then it is clear that it is only sex he is ... (read in full...)
I don't need mother's permission, but I'd like to have her approval
Q. Hi everyone, I'm headed to my boyfriend's parents' house in a few weeks to do the whole "meet the family" thing. I'm staying there with him. Here's my problem. I know my family will have a peoblem with it. I'm 21, he's 26, and we've been dating f...
A. 21 November 2011: Am pretty sure that she will not hate you for it. She might not like it but at the end of the day you are an ADULT and you are free to live your own life. So sit down with her and tell her what your plans are. Tell her you would appreciate her ... (read in full...)
No interaction since I friended him?
Q. There is this guy that I like at work and I added him on facebook over a month ago. He accepted the friend request the same day. I also got some signals that he may feel the same way about me as well. However since he accepted my friend request ...
A. 21 November 2011: It sounds to me like you don't really no him that well as a friend yet. You are still just casually saying hello to him and being polite. You say you don't want to humiliate yourself by starting a conversation over facebook. But just because you say ... (read in full...)
Should I risk telling him I like him?
Q. This may sound really stupid, and i'm probably just making a fool out of myself by asking this, but never mind. There's this boy, that I like quite a lot, and i've talked to him loads outside of school, mainly on facebook but i have talked to him in ...
A. 21 November 2011: If he has done nothing at all to show you that he feels the same way, well then don't go straight in telling him you really like him, instead take it slower but with progress. Ask him would he like to meet you for a drink or for some lunch some day, ... (read in full...)
How can I make relationships last longer?
Q. Dear cupid I'm 21 years and I'm having a problem dating. I'm not good at sex and I can't seem to last in relationships,I don't know what to do please help??...
A. 21 November 2011: You obviously have confidence issues that make you say you are no good at sex, has anybody ever told you that you are no good. When it comes to sex, everybody likes different things, and as a couple it is all about exploring and LEARNING what each ... (read in full...)
Some advice needed on overcoming an infatuation with my best friend
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. I knew him since the beginning of the school year he helping me a lot since im new at school and that made me fall for him even more. He has a girlfriend. He is the person i been dreaming about ever since i...
A. 21 November 2011: You cannot just turn off your feelings, if you try to hide them you are only going to hurt yourself and become miserable. Either you tell him how you feel or else you distance yourself from him. If he is a friend then yes he will come to terms with ... (read in full...)
Why does he have issues with our 7 month relationship being the open?
Q. hi im in a relationship since last 7 months. the man im in a relationship with is known to have a very colourful past. though, he denies it all and says that he has had only 2 girlfriends in his past. i have nothing to do with his past. i dont eve...
A. 21 November 2011: Ask him what his problem is about telling people, he is keeping you a secret which is very worrying. To me it sounds like he is hiding something, if he truly loved you he would want the world to know. There is a reason that he is hiding it, and if ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to get over the breakup before I ask her out?
Q. There's this girl I've met about 4 months ago, I learned she broke up with her bf after a 4 year relationship, and about 3 months later she found a new bf, but about 2 weeks ago he ran back to his old gf breaking her heart. Truth be told, I liked...
A. 21 November 2011: She has just came out of two relationships one after the other, and she has a broken heart, so yes am sure she is enjoying your company at the moment because you are there to pick up the pieces and stop her feeling so lonely. I think personally it ... (read in full...)
What was this - friends with a little bit of benefits?
Q. I have a question about friends with benefits (FWB). My wife and I watched the movie 'Friends with Benefits' about 2 weeks ago. This past weekend we were at some of our friends home, and the topic of this movie came up. I just casually said, yep, ...
A. 21 November 2011: I guess you could call it a friend with benefits. But off course she was going to get annoyed and offended at you blurting this out, she told you that in confidence and that sort of thing should not be spoke about outside of the marriage. At the end ... (read in full...)
My partner's addiction is getting in the way of his providing for the family
Q. Hi! I need some good solid advicw! Me and my partner have been together nearly 7 years we have 2 young kids! Im not working at the minute as i wanna stay at home and look after my chuldren properly! My partner tried starting up his own cleaning ...
A. 21 November 2011: Yes it is an addiction and yes it is not so easy to give it up, but by the sounds of it he has not even made the effort to try for you and his children, so to me this says he can't be bothered. For someone to get help with an addiction well then ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with her?
Q. Hi guys. I am seeing a girl for like 4 months. She is younger than me but we are very well connected and enjoy our company very much. Lately she has been going through some troubles at her home and with friends and she moved to live alone recently ...
A. 21 November 2011: Let her take care of you then. Tell her she is free to do whatever makes her happy in regards to looking after you. She has deep root problems here about feeling needed and appreciated in a relationship. Take things slow and allow her to keep ... (read in full...)
How do I get over social enxiety?
Q. how do i get over social enxiety? i dont realy go out (besides work) i some times go out on friday to the pool club with some friends but thats not very often saturday and sunday a day of sports and thats it back to work, ihave absolutly no ...
A. 21 November 2011: Everyone at one time or another suffers low self confidence. But am afraid its only you yourself that can build up that confidence, there are days when you are confident and you feel great, try and think about what triggers this in you. What it is ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 21 November 2011: I am sure you have heard it before but time is the only thing that will heal you, so just take some time out and grieve for the end of the relationship. Then keep yourself busy and occupied. Go out with friends and just distract yourself as much as ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now feel disgusted!
Q. my boyfriend did not come to see like he usually does yet he knew l had wanted to be with him. so a good guy friend of mine from childhood showed up, we started drinking and all. basically we ended up having sex, me being the initiator. after it, l ...
A. 21 November 2011: You say 'why me when everything was so right'. You shouldn't be feeling sorry for yourself, it's your boyfriend that has been cheated on not you, you say you have never done this in 4 years like its a good thing, but it is normal. If you love ... (read in full...)
Is it me or the pregnancy that is causing such an abnormal behaviour??
Q. l am 24 years old and two months pregnant. problem is l sometimes hate my boyfriend for no apparent reason, l will ask him not to contact me or come and see me but ofcourse he does not listen, he will come and see me or call me. l then tend to ...
A. 21 November 2011: It is cruel to play with someone'e emotions like that. Very hurtful. It's obvious you do not love him when you are trying to hurt him like this. If that's the way you feel then you should let him go for his own sake. But do not use the child as a ... (read in full...)
Isn't 6 months enough time to get over a break up?
Q. Hi there... so... i broke up with my bf 6 months ago. we were together for 5 years and i know i did the right thing, 'cause he didn't treat me well... the thing is, i've been having a rough time forgetting him... he was my first bf and i know ...
A. 21 November 2011: It can take someone a month and someone else a month. Really there is no set time to heal. You just need to try and move on as best you can. You know he is not for you which is a good start and I bet if you look back to 6 months ago you will see ... (read in full...)
He has a new friend, a girl, who he texts with kisses! I feel rejected, used and unwanted!
Q. I need help! My partner and I have been together for nearly 5 years and we have a beautiful 2yr old son together. But lately things haven't been right. Recently he has made a new girl friend, I don't mind usually but this time I feel different about ...
A. 21 November 2011: Am afraid there is no way of making him show you the attention that he is showing her. You need to sit him down and tell him what you have saw, apologise for snooping but tell him what you found and explain to him how it makes you feel. Ask him ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals - some signs show he cares and others show he's not bothered?
Q. Dear cupid. I'm 19 and I'm "getting to know" this guy, he's 23. Now, we're not officially seeing each other, we're just seeing how it goes - we're both allowed to date other people (but I'm not the type to do so, as I like to stick to one guy...
A. 21 November 2011: Tell him that you like him and you want to spend more time with him, explain to him that you feel like he has changed his mind and doesn't want to meet up with you any more, ask him if he is still interested or should you just let it go. ... (read in full...)
Is it real or just a rebound?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I (of about 16 months) broke up recently. About a month and a half-two months ago. About 3 weeks after breaking up with him (yes i did the breaking up) I met this new guy, lets call him Brad. Brad has been super sweet. I told ...
A. 21 November 2011: You broke up with your ex and obviously you had your reasons. If you keep in contact with him as a friend then you are never going to get over him properly. You both still love each other, but it is your decision now weather you move on or if you ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now feel disgusted!
Q. my boyfriend did not come to see like he usually does yet he knew l had wanted to be with him. so a good guy friend of mine from childhood showed up, we started drinking and all. basically we ended up having sex, me being the initiator. after it, l ...
A. 21 November 2011: Own up, you made a mistake and now you need to pay for it. He may end the relationship he may not, but either way you need to tell him the truth. OK so he did not show up, you might have the right to be a bit upset because you miss him but it does ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got any quotes/sayings that they live by or feel inspired from?
Q. I know this is a relationship website, but I am getting a quote painted on my wall above the mirror, I want it to be something that when I wake up and look at everyday, I feel inspired by it! Something about either, life, success, our future, ...
A. 21 November 2011: Search on google for inspiring quotes and sayings. ... (read in full...)
Girls' night out - girlfriend comes home drunk at 4am
Q. My girlfriend went to a nightclub for a girls' night out last night, came back at 4am and spent the first hour of today throwing up. How worried should I be? The poster for the event she went to depicts a young lady sitting down in a chair, with...
A. 21 November 2011: It was just a bunch of girls having fun and drank way to much. Why do you feel like you need to be concerned. Everybody deserves a night out now and again to destress. Why not organise a man's night out so that you can equally go out and enjoy ... (read in full...)
He's called it quit 4 times! How do I cope with this?
Q. How should I deal with my partner who has called it quits for more than 4 times? How should I interpret the following said by my partner:"There are times when I don't feel like talking to anyone, including you"...
A. 21 November 2011: Explain to him that he is either committed to you or else he is not. Explain that if he does it one more time well then that is the end and there is no going back, and stick to your word. He knows that he is getting away with it because you keep ... (read in full...)
I really care for him but I don't want him to lose his job!
Q. hello, ok there is this guy who is a little bit older than i am, and he has told me that he has feelings for me, and i have fallen in love with him. the only thing is that this situation is kind of complicated. he works for the landlord of the ...
A. 21 November 2011: What you and him do in your own private life has nothing to do with your landlord and his boss, I think you are looking way to much in to this and creating a problem where there is not one. You and him are free to date whoever you like so go for it ... (read in full...)
We have broken up but should I try to talk to him when I come home?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I had been in a relationship for close to a year and a half. About 8 months ago I moved to the UK to get my masters degree and we'd agreed from the beginning that we would do the whole long distance relationship. The first few ...
A. 21 November 2011: This is a hard one, long distance can be really hard, and it is obviously to hard for him to cope with. I think you should talk things over with him when you go home and see what he has to say face to face. Talk things out and just be honest with ... (read in full...)
Is it me or the pregnancy that is causing such an abnormal behaviour??
Q. l am 24 years old and two months pregnant. problem is l sometimes hate my boyfriend for no apparent reason, l will ask him not to contact me or come and see me but ofcourse he does not listen, he will come and see me or call me. l then tend to ...
A. 21 November 2011: My guess is that because you are hiding the fact you are pregnant it is putting pressure on you and you are taking it out on him. Do you want to have the baby, if not then maybe you are blaming him for this. Also your hormones will be running high ... (read in full...)
A never ending cycle of us fighting and in the end he says its always my fault
Q. I don't know what to do. I've been seeing someone way older than me, and at first I thought he was amazing and everything..but maybe because he puts off himself that way. He thinks he knows best about everything and thinks very highly of himself. He ...
A. 21 November 2011: He is a control freak. Do you know the worst symptom of weed is paranoia, its the same with a lot of other drugs, and if he is not strong enough to come of them then he is never going to change. Is this really the way you see your future? Being ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend thinks I'm not manly enough
Q. I have an amazing wonderful girlfriend but it gets extremely annoying and upsetting because she can't see me as "manly". I don't like football and she thinks I'm not a man. I tend to show my emotions more and I'm a little sensitive and sh...
A. 21 November 2011: She needs to either accept you for who you are or else let you go and find someone who appreciates who you are. It is not unmanly to actually communicate with your girlfriend, no matter what she thinks. She needs to be told how this makes you feel ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am losing her and don't know what to do. Please help?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm in need of help, I feel my relationship is in serious trouble. Okay so basically I've been with this girl for a year and a bit now and well to be quite honest it's been the best year of my life. We met PURELY out of chance an...
A. 9 November 2011: Believe me you will cope, after you give yourself some time, I don't understand if she is intending to break up with you and has told you that she does not love you any more I don't understand why you don't be the man that you are stand up to her ... (read in full...)
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