Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 26 November 2011: Well if that was the case why say that you are FWB's? You referred to it as that in your post because you know that is all that it is. He is using you, and you are going along with it. If you have feelings well then it is time to break of contact ... (read in full...)
Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 25 November 2011: Well he has told you he does not want a relationship just sex so I think you are expecting to much here. You have feelings for him so therefore you are going to end up getting hurt. To him he is still single, and finding this stuff in his bedroom is ... (read in full...)
Can my ex take me to court and get custody of our son?
Q. I need some advice. When I was four months pregnant I left my son's biological father because he forced himself on me sexually and used to hit me. After we split I tried to be civil with him for our son's sake. Well sometime later we got into a big ...
A. 25 November 2011: Am afraid as the biological father he does have the right to contact with your son. If you are scared for his safety well then you can bring that up in court so that his visitation rights are in a contact centre so that he is not left alone with ... (read in full...)
Advice on surrogacy?
Q. My wife no longer has her womb, but still has fertile eggs. She has three children from a previous marriage. I have no children and so much want one child. We are not rich or anything, and have researched surrogacy. Are there any agencies or ...
A. 25 November 2011: The both of you should go to your local doctor and talk through your options with him, he will be able to advice you on where to go from here and he can put you in contact with local surrogacy agents. Good luck and all the best for the future. ... (read in full...)
Weird sex position... is it a fantasy or does it just feel good?
Q. My boyfriend has expressed some out there ideas in the bedroom like sharing me with another guy or a threesome with another girl because he was unsure about being in a monogamous relationship. He has changed his ideas now though and we have sorted ...
A. 25 November 2011: I guess it was just a position that he wanted to try, and yes it probably did feel good to him. Your legs being together can sometimes be good for the woman because it adds more friction during sex, so it is possible that he was thinking of you as ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you 'squirt' during sex?
Q. This is a bit of a strange question, and i'm not sure if anyone can actually answer, but it's worth a shot i guess. A few years ago, someone once told me that i 'squirt' during sex. I know what squirting is, but no-one else has ever told me thi...
A. 25 November 2011: Well if you know what it means then it is quite obvious how you can tell if you do this. It is due to the fluid in your body when you are turned on. After you orgasm I guess it must have squirted. This may have just been a once of though who knows. ... (read in full...)
Afternoon to evening outfit....what should I wear?
Q. Hi everyone. This isnt much of a problem, i just need advice. I'm going out on Sunday to some bars, but i am meeting up with my friend in the afternoon, and we may be out until the evening, and i'm not sure what to wear. I don't want to look too ...
A. 25 November 2011: Yes I think boots are OK. I think you should just go comfortably. Maybe wear some leggings with your boots and a nice dressy top. ... (read in full...)
I have lost my friend because I told her how I felt!
Q. My friend and I are both 16. We have been friends for a couple of years are were pretty close. I really started liking her and finally built up the courage to tell her. She told me that she was scared that it would ruin our "friendship" and...
A. 24 November 2011: Do you think you are able to have a friendship with her without getting jealous off other guys or wanting more from her? If you feel that you can handle that then tell her you want the friendship back and you miss hanging out with her. Tell her it ... (read in full...)
Is is cheating or is it my bi-polar disorder?
Q. Hi guys I'm Tiffany My fiance is Elvin and I love him very much. I have bi-polar disorder,anxiety,and depression. I do not take pills do to no insurance but doing teh best I can to figh the sickness:/....I have been having anxiety lately because I ...
A. 24 November 2011: You need to go to a therapist. Your past has left you messed up and unable to trust people. If you don't get help now you will lose your boyfriend, because there is only so much a person can take before the get up and leave. I believe that you are ... (read in full...)
How can I boost my sex appeal??
Q. hi i was wondering how to boost my sex appeal. I have been with my fiance for 8 years. And i feel she know longer fancys me. She has know interest in sex and doesnt masturbate. I work out with average build. Do most me the house work and all the ...
A. 24 November 2011: It is great things to do, but a relationship works both ways, she should also be doing something's as well to take the stress of you. Does she ever cook for you? Treat you to time to yourself? It works both ways. Just make sure she is not walking ... (read in full...)
Leaving my whole family behind for marriage. How to deal with this?
Q. My soon to be husband is English. I am Australian. We met in the UK whilst i was living there for 2 years. In a few months we will be getting married and i will be permanently moving to the UK for the rest of my life (in theory, life changes of ...
A. 24 November 2011: I know people that have moved away and started families. Yes it can be hard off course it is, but I guess it is a choice off what you really want in life, don't feel like you are abandoning your family, at the end of the day you need to live your ... (read in full...)
Lots of reasons to let it go but hoping for a reason not to turn away.
Q. I met this guy about two years ago and we would see eachother from time to time. I'm very independent and single. My career takes up most of my time. I do date often but every now and then I like to see him. Months can go by and I will text him and ...
A. 24 November 2011: Yes I can completely understand that it hurts, let him know that he has options though so that he knows how you feel and then try as hard as you can to move forward, keep yourself busy and it will get easier in time.... (read in full...)
Can you trust again after being with a cheater?
Q. my boyfriend cheated on me when i was pregnant i stayed with him i probably felt vunerable , 13 years on and 2 kids i cannot trust i go through his phone always imagine him with someone else he has shattered my confidence my self esteem my trust it ...
A. 24 November 2011: You put up with his behaviour for a long time, you stayed even though you where not happy, this shows that you have very low self esteem and you just settled for this relationship because you felt you would not be able to do any better. You need to ... (read in full...)
Lots of reasons to let it go but hoping for a reason not to turn away.
Q. I met this guy about two years ago and we would see eachother from time to time. I'm very independent and single. My career takes up most of my time. I do date often but every now and then I like to see him. Months can go by and I will text him and ...
A. 24 November 2011: He is with someone else, so you need to accept that you have lost your chance with him for now. If you are hoping that he might be part of your future well then simply just tell him that you are happy that he has found himself a partner and that you ... (read in full...)
I know I won't go back so why I am so upset that my ex has moved on?
Q. i av been on and off for four years with my ex boyfriend. he cheated on me and was foreva on dating sites. this time he has met someone off a dating site and simply moved on. he treated me terrible,but now he has someone i feel angry. i know i wont ...
A. 24 November 2011: It's simple really he hurt you by the way that he treated you and now you see that he is with someone else probably all loved up and happy it makes you angry and you just want to see him hurt as much as you have been in the past. It probably makes ... (read in full...)
Why do women who cheat, cheat on someone they love,who gives them security,who they don't want to be without?
Q. Why do women who cheat,cheat on someone they love,who gives them security,who they dont want to be without? I have seen friends lose their soulmate by cheating with someone they knew would never offer a relationship,or anything more than sex. My ...
A. 24 November 2011: I don't think anybody really knows the deep meaning of why a woman would do this, but there is obvious something lacking in a relationship when it makes someone go out and cheat on there partner. Where your friend is concerned well it sounds like ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in the saying "when one door closes, another one opens"?
Q. Do you believe in the saying "when one door closes, another one opens"? Has something ever happened to you that would substantiate your belief in this saying? I missed out on a job opportunity (my dream job) because I am not part of the "clique"...
A. 24 November 2011: you might be more skilled than her, but she might have the better personality and when it comes to finding work it is not all about the academic but how the person comes across in the interview as well. I guess you just need to accept that this time ... (read in full...)
Now that we're dating he won't kiss me?
Q. Hi, alright so I recently just got a boyfriend, it's been four days that we've been dating. I've liked this boy...we'll call him Daniel, for about 2 months. On Sunday, we had a science project to work on, so I went to his house.(This was before we ...
A. 24 November 2011: well it sounds like he does like you or else he never would have asked you out in the first place. My guess would be that he just does not like a public display of affection. However he did make the first move by kissing you first, so maybe he is ... (read in full...)
Why does she behave this way towards me? What is going through her mind?
Q. A girl am not fond of and a girlfriend to my friend usually like looking at me whenever am beside her and even though certain times i do offend her she would swear not to talk to me me any longer but still when am beside her she looks at me. even ...
A. 24 November 2011: Whatever is going on in her head, at the start of your post you say you are not fond of her as a person so stay clear from her. I guess if you can be rude to her sometimes she swears she will never talk to you again, but then she keeps getting ... (read in full...)
Have I hurt the guy I liked? How would I know if he is still interested?
Q. I work in a large factory with many different departments. I am now in an office (within factory floors) but was previously just one of the normal labourers….which is where I met this guy. He isn’t from the UK like me and his English really i...
A. 24 November 2011: It is obvious he did like you, but with this other teasing him he has giving up because he probably feels like you guys are making a fool out of him. He probably thinks because he is older than you that he doesn't have a chance so he is trying to ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 24 November 2011: If she lands at your door again don't answer it, just ignore it, if she threatening you then call the police, just do not let her in or communicate with her. Because if you do she will not give up because she knows that she is winning. ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 23 November 2011: Well the posts on here are obviously not helping you no matter how much you try to pretend that they are. You have been advised to break contact with her and you are still talking to her, you are under her thumb again without realising it. Soon she ... (read in full...)
Drunken night led to sex with college mate and now I don't know how to handle seeing him!
Q. oh dear I have really made a HUGE mistake. I'm a mature student, and on a night out recently I slept with one of my peers. I rarely drink (holidays and special occasions) and this evening I was totally out of character and got so terribly te...
A. 23 November 2011: Yes you done the right thing by talking to him and clearing the air. It is done now and the only thing to do now is to move forward and continue to be on speaking terms when you both have to work together and leave it at that. There is no point ... (read in full...)
I'm confused if he likes me or not?
Q. There is this guy at my job he always said hey to me. And one day he asked out for coffee now is that a date?or what so i went and told a few of my coworkers and one of my coworkers asked him he asked me on a date (i never thought she would say ...
A. 23 November 2011: You should learn from this never to get others involved at work when someone asks you out for a coffee. It could have just been innocent on his part. Who knows, but yes it does sound like he wanted to get to know you more, but now he has been scared ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so depressed and sick at times? What can I do to overcome this?
Q. please help any advice or if you know why im feeling like this etc, but i have had drepression on and off and this year felt worse to the point of going to the doctor and i now see a counsellor which is good. im not working and living at home but i ...
A. 23 November 2011: This is the way you feel when you suffer from depression. It is good that you went to seek help, but if you are still feeling low well then you should talk to your counsellor about different options. Maybe go back to your doctor to discuss treatment ... (read in full...)
How can I stop these sexual feelings towards my teacher?
Q. I'm an 19 years old girl , I loved my teacher since i was 14 , everyone said it was a crush but it was not , i couldn't understand why i loved her , i was crazy about her , loved school just because of her , my teacher loved me also she exepted ...
A. 23 November 2011: You need to cut her completely out of your life. Yes it will hurt and yes it is going to take a lot of time to heal from this, but your obsession with this woman is not healthy and you are just going to keep torchering yourself more. You need to cut ... (read in full...)
Help me to understand my girlfriend and how to get her back
Q. Hi, I have been in my first ever lesbian relationship for 3 months, everything was perfect apart from the fact that one of my mates has liked me a lot. I told her nothing would happen with her, but I didn't realize how much she liked me, so I ...
A. 23 November 2011: She is hurting at the moment so I would give her some time and space. It sounds to me like she is a very insecure person though who didn't trust you to begin with. If she fully trusted you then she would not have finished this relationship over the ... (read in full...)
How can I help my sister?
Q. I'm a girl age twenty three and me and my family been thought a pretty rough time. Me and my sis was abused by a family member and when it all came out this person then ended their life. We had counseling, but now my little sis is going off the ...
A. 23 November 2011: I am very sorry to hear what happened to you and your sister, it must have just been horrendous what you both had to go through. Unfortunately after something like this happens a person can go off the rails as they do not respect themselves any more ... (read in full...)
Husband expects me to take his side and cut daughter out of lives. I can't do it!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years and have 2 children together. My daughter is 19 and my son is 14. For as long as I can remember, my husband has always been mean to my daughter. Recently, she has moved out of the house with her ...
A. 23 November 2011: Yes get rid of him. It is your property therefore you have the say about who lives there or not. If he refuses to leave then call the police and get them to remove him from YOUR house. Off course you should not be expected to just disown your ... (read in full...)
Are gay thoughts normal for teenagers?
Q. Are gay thoughts normal for teenagers? I'm very interested in girls. But I'm having gay thoughts that really scare me, I'm not attracted to other men in any way. These thoughts make me feel stressed and anxious. I don't want to be gay and I want to ...
A. 23 November 2011: You say that you do not want to be gay, but we are born the way we are and we cannot change that. However to me it sounds like what you are going through is just hormones and curiosity. You say you like girls, so don't worry about these thoughts or ... (read in full...)
He's got a reputation as a charmer and I don't want to be a number to him
Q. Hi all :) I've been seeing a guy for a while now and we both want to make our relationship official. However there are some concerns I have regarding his past and i am wondering I'm thinking too much about things. Basically he has been with a f...
A. 22 November 2011: OK so yes he does have a past, but just because he has had lots of one night stands does not make him a bad person. If he was single well then he was free to do what he likes. By the sounds of things he is really interested in making you his ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, insecure and depressed because all my friends have boyfriends and I don't
Q. Nowadays I feel as though I'm a jinx when it comes to finding love. Ever since my friends and I began college/uni, nearly all of my friends have managed to find boyfriends and move on with their lives, whereas I have not. I have had a male frien...
A. 22 November 2011: Off course it is hard when all your friends seemed loved up and you feel like you are left on the shelf. Yes that can be hard. But have you yourself actually tried to do anything about it, you talk about guys approaching your friends and never you. ... (read in full...)
Does he love me if he calls rarely and never tells me he loves me on the phone?
Q. When we're together he seems like he's crazy about me and always tells me he loves me... We've been together for two months and he really seems to care about me... I don't think he's only thinking about having sex with me, since he really seems ...
A. 22 November 2011: Most young guys wouldn't be caught dead saying I love you over the phone to there girlfriend when there mates are around. That's guys for you, he doesn't want them to start slagging him and giving him a hard time, especially since the both of you ... (read in full...)
I just got married but the 'sex' is few and far between! Any advice?
Q. I just got married BUT I met my husband early last year and we just got married last month. He is 15 years older than me and in the begining of our relationship, the very first time he asked me for sex, we did foreplay but when it came to the real...
A. 22 November 2011: You barely knew this man very well so that leads me to question why you would have got married to him when you knew that there was trouble with the relationship. Being sexually abused is horrific but if it was by his own mother well then I just ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: Well good luck for Saturday and I hope you can both sit down and talk about your future and how this is going to work. You both need to just sit and talk it out, I hope it all goes well for you. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me! How can I get him to change his mind?
Q. i want to be his girlfriend but he's not ready for a new relationship right now. i don't want no one else i want only him what can i do to make him change his mind and say yes i want you to be my girl before this year end ...
A. 22 November 2011: He is simply not ready for a relationship. He just does not feel for you the way that you feel for him. It is sad but that is life and life must go on. You need to accept his decision. You say you love him, well then listen to him when he tells you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 7 yrs isnt putting effort in anymore what should I do? is she scared of committment?
Q. My girlfriend of 7 yrs isnt putting effort in anymore what should i do? *warning this is gonna be long i apologize and appreciate any feedback*thankyou* Ok heres the situation.. Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 years and also have a beautifu...
A. 22 November 2011: I feel for you really I do, it is not fair that you should have to suffer while she makes up her mind on what she wants at life. If she is not willing to get help am afraid there is no way that you can force her. You are both only young, my guess is ... (read in full...)
Drunken night led to sex with college mate and now I don't know how to handle seeing him!
Q. oh dear I have really made a HUGE mistake. I'm a mature student, and on a night out recently I slept with one of my peers. I rarely drink (holidays and special occasions) and this evening I was totally out of character and got so terribly te...
A. 22 November 2011: You said it yourself it is impossible to avoid him so you just need to try and clear the air so that it is not awkward. Ask him can you speak to him alone when you both get the chance and just explain to him straight out that you regret what you ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my depressed ex to get help?
Q. dear cupid, what is the best way to convince a depressed person to get help? my ex-boyfriend is currently struggling with depression; that's what caused him to end our relationship, and he's kind of getting distant from his family, too. i r...
A. 22 November 2011: The only thing that you can do is talk to him and tell him how much you care about him. Express your worries to him, and offer to be there for him if he decides to go and get help. That is pretty much all you can do the rest is up to him. ... (read in full...)
He told me he had a g/f but was he just letting me down easily?
Q. I apologise if this is long and confusing as it is very confusing for me. I started college in august and have made some good friends but i got a crush on one of the guys on my course and i just kinda thought it would go away. Anyway it hasnt and i ...
A. 22 November 2011: Maybe he was looking for you to fight for him. It sounds like he is enjoying the attention either way. Maybe he said this in a moment of madness who knows. If he continues to flirt with you then just say to him his girlfriend wouldn't be to happy at ... (read in full...)
If online dating fails to work, what other options are there?
Q. I've tried every sensible dating site in the last 16 months. Paid and free. I have had two dates in that whole time. I've had profiles reviewed and everyone has come back saying my photos are good, my profile is interesting and they don't ...
A. 22 November 2011: You just need to keep trying and not give up. Nobody has the answer to this question. It will be a lot more difficult for you, because most woman at your age either want children before it is to late or else they already have children so yes it is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is afraid to commit because of past relationship, what can I do to help her?
Q. my girlfriend says she needs space cause she is afraid of getting hurt and thinks she is destine to be alone i dont know what to do? i will give u a little back ground I am 33 she is 45 with 4 kids. her 1st husband was an alcholic abusive jealous ...
A. 22 November 2011: She is finding it very difficult to leave her past and look in to her future. She cannot let go of her ex, and she is now taking it out on you because he found out about the both of you. She still lets him control her, obviously she still has ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: If you are in a relationship with this guy then you should both be communicating much more than you both are now. If things stay like this then things are never going to work or progress. You both need to sit down and ask each other where the ... (read in full...)
Should I go and see my boyfriend cause his sister said they missed me and wanted to see me?
Q. From my other post you might get the point that my bf hasn't been contacting me as much as he used to since I called him on his cousins phone. Well it's been a month since I heard from him he said "baby call me back my uncle just died" I tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: The only way you are going to find out what is wrong with him is to go ahead and visit him and talk to him face to face. Wait for his sister to get back to you about the go ahead and go up and talk to him about your relationship. Good luck.... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 20 November 2011: Am sorry but I really think that you are making the wrong choice here, she is not good for you, no matter what you say to try and convince yourself she is not, who knows she might be lying about all this to get you back. Do not be a fool any more, ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Seriously all she is doing is making empty threats to you, because she believes she can scare you in to getting back with her. You need to seriously ignore this woman she is dangerous. You need to phone up your telephone service and block her number ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 16 November 2011: Find the strength within you. Yes it is hard to ignore someone that you love, but remember that you are doing it for the RIGHT reasons. She sounds manipulative and unstable. She is using empty threats now because she does not know any other way to ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 15 November 2011: I understand that it will be hard, but look at the way she is treating you, you are unwell and she still does not care. Tell her mother to inform her that if she does not return your car you will report it stolen. Don't mess around this needs to be ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with a woman who uses and threatens me?
Q. i am in love with this girl who is using me. i know it but still I let her get away with it. she cheats on me and lies so much but i am done with all this. she has many problems and i was the only one there for her time after time but i am done. on...
A. 14 November 2011: She is controlling you and you know it. You just need to remain strong. Tell her you are sick of letting her use you and you are finished, tell her your mind is made up and not to contact you again, don't listen to anything she has to say just end ... (read in full...)
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