Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
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I never wanted to be in this gay relationship
Q. Me and D have been texting and talking on the phone since three years now. Since 1 yr we are in touch on the phone. We have grown so close that I have become too addicted to him. I think about him too much, but these days he cuts off all connections ...
A. 15 January 2012: It does not sound to me like he will commit himself to you. You need to talk to him and ask him what it is he wants from you. It sounds to me like he is being selfish and just using you as a past time.... (read in full...)
Even though we are seeing other people, I still have feelings for my ex and think she may feel the same way.
Q. So me and my ex broke up about 6 months ago and we are both dating new people. I know for a fact that she still has dreams about me and she isn't happy with her current situation I don't think. I am now dating another girl too. I love her to death ...
A. 15 January 2012: First off you are obviously not happy with your girlfriend at the moment if you are having these feelings for your ex. It is obvious you are not over her, so I think you should tell your girlfriend that it is over, so she does not get any more hurt ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in my unhappy marriage? Or get a divorce and be with husband's friend whom I am cheating with
Q. Hi, I am married for 8 years now,24 years old I had my first child, I have 2 kids, my mum was neglecting me and she has this attitude problem i could'nt bare,so i runaway from home by marrying a man who is a wonderful trusted husband that I don't ...
A. 15 January 2012: Your husband loves you so much that he will put up with anything just to be with you. Yes it will hurt him, but in time he will get over this and go on to find a woman who can truly make him happy, you cannot do that because you do not love him, so ... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
A. 15 January 2012: Most woman cannot reach orgasm through sex believe it or not, most woman get orgasms from stimulation of the clitoris. So try not to put to much on to not orgasming means it cannot be good. Try having more foreplay. If he does not know what he is ... (read in full...)
How can I cope up with being single again...I don't know how to do this!
Q. I'm scared of being alone. 24, with a lof of my friends getting engaged/married...what is up with people?? I broke up with my boyfriend in October last year. Since then, i haven't dated anyone. I haven't even met anyone as such. An old fr...
A. 15 January 2012: I can understand where you are coming from, you want to be in a secure relationship and want someone to love you, I get that off course I do. But you need to learn to be happy on your own before that can happen. If you go in to relationship just ... (read in full...)
Tips on how not to come across as 'clingy'?
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my boyfriend have beeb together for 1 year and he is the love of my life. Hes my best friend and true love all in one. But latly we have been having problems. I geuss. He says im to clingy and annoying, even emmbares...
A. 14 January 2012: Being affectionate does not mean that you are being clingy. Clingy means when you text and call all the time, demand all of his attention and question everything that he does. Being affectionate is normal in a relationship. So I think you need to ... (read in full...)
How would you interpret him ignoring my request for information on his other woman?
Q. I am currently separated from H. Some few weeks ago,I indicated to him my intention to move on with my life. Reason being that I dont have it in me anymore to work on the marriage due to his series of emotional affairs since we got married 14 years ...
A. 14 January 2012: It is simple really. He is hiding something from you, maybe this other woman does not know that he is married so he does not want her to find out, I am also assuming if he has been like this the whole marriage there is probably a lot that you don't ... (read in full...)
I can't prove it's an ex texting my 14yo sex comments!
Q. I caught my ex sexualy cheating for the second time. This was 9 months ago. Since the split she had constantly tried to get me back. She blamed me both times saying i had neglected her needs, in which she couldnt explain why. Since she accepted i ...
A. 14 January 2012: Keep record off all these things that are happening, take note of them, keep all the messages, if it keeps happening then go to the police and tell them about the harassment, just because the messages are sent anonymous does not mean that the police ... (read in full...)
How do I let the small stuff go?
Q. I need to learn to pick my battles with my bf but I don't know how. When something upsets me, I try to evaluate it, and even when I think it's not a big deal, but am still offended, I feel like saying to myself that it's not worth fighting over just ...
A. 14 January 2012: I guess the saying goes, you cannot help how you feel. My guess is that you get frustrated really easily and you look for someone to blame, and then the finger is pointed at your boyfriend. So you feel angry with him, even though deep down you know ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid?
Q. Hi all. my husband of 10 years is acting up .2yrs ago I went on went to visit my family and he stayed with our 2 kids. when got back after two months,told me a bad rumur was spreading at his work that he was having an affair with his PA and said ...
A. 14 January 2012: It is hard to tell, but by reading what you have wrote I would say you have every right to be worried. He is being secretive and hiding things from you, which is never a good sign in a marriage. If he was innocent then he would be honest in my ... (read in full...)
How do you move on when you still have hope for reconciliation?
Q. We broke up 2 weeks ago. Tried to be friends but I love him to much to stay 'friendzoned'. I want him and miss him terribly, even though the breakup was inevitable. Unfortunately, the last bit of contact we had was pretty ugly, and the only time ...
A. 14 January 2012: You cannot hold out hope like this, if you do you will not move forward but you will be stuck living in pain and in a rut. He has told you he is not ready to commit to you. So you need to accept this. He does not want a serious relationship with ... (read in full...)
Wait or move on?
Q. A male friend I have been seeing each other for 2 years. He has told me he loves someone in another state. They have been communicating for more than 5 years but she is committed to her family with obligations. The have been intimate three or ...
A. 14 January 2012: It is always good to share your problems with others, there is always someone on here to help you whenever you need it. Don't forget that.... (read in full...)
I never wanted to be in this gay relationship
Q. Me and D have been texting and talking on the phone since three years now. Since 1 yr we are in touch on the phone. We have grown so close that I have become too addicted to him. I think about him too much, but these days he cuts off all connections ...
A. 14 January 2012: To be honest it sounds to me like he will contact you when he is looking for a bit off attention but he is not there for you when you need him. Does not sound to me like he is serious about you. Do you both actually ever meet up face to face and ... (read in full...)
Should I wait until after graduation to tell her how I've been feeling
Q. I am almost 100% positive that i have fallen in love. But it is wrong on so many levels.First of all, it is one of my teachers, and second of all she is the same sex as me. That has disapproval written all over it. I am a senior in high school, 18 ...
A. 14 January 2012: Your feelings for this teacher is really unhealthy. Okay so I am sure you are right I am sure she does care deeply about you, just like she does with the rest of her students. It sounds like she is passionate about her job and she loves to help ... (read in full...)
The ex , the old guy, the inlaws and my best friend.
Q. I'm 27 an my life is a big disgrace an sham . I m in a relationship wit a split up male who is twice my age wit two adults kids near enough my age . I ve being with him for nearly 6years now things were ok till his ex got cancer , I stood by him an ...
A. 14 January 2012: Okay lets start with your ex shall we? He does not want you to be his girlfriend, that much is clear, off course you have it in your head that you could have a happy ending with this guy and build a future with him, but that is not going to happen, ... (read in full...)
Wait or move on?
Q. A male friend I have been seeing each other for 2 years. He has told me he loves someone in another state. They have been communicating for more than 5 years but she is committed to her family with obligations. The have been intimate three or ...
A. 14 January 2012: I hope it all works out for you in the end and that you have a happy future Daisy, all the best.... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but he keeps flirting with me.
Q. hey, so there's a guy I like! We work together in a supermarket, were really close friends, have been since I started over a year ago!! We speak all day, go on a lunch together, breaks together the lot! He walks me home a lot too! We recently had ...
A. 14 January 2012: It is simple talk to him, tell him that you are not going to continue flirting with him when you know he has a girlfriend. You need to be straight with him and explain to him that you are not going to come in between a relationship. He is looking ... (read in full...)
Struggling to decode guys.
Q. Hi! I was recently talking to a group of my friends (mixed group-guys and gals) and I dropped into conversation that I had a boyfriend-just for the record I don't- but I just wanted to see their reaction but it wasn't what I expected... All m...
A. 14 January 2012: Well you say they are your friends, so for you to come out with something like this off course is going to be really shocking to them and they are going to find it hard to believe because you have never mentioned it before to them, at the end of the ... (read in full...)
He cheated twice while travelling, why didn't he tell me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years in a very happy relationship.He recently went travelling for 9 months and cheated on me twice once whilst drunk and the other time sober with a girl he had met up with a few times.I only found out after ...
A. 14 January 2012: It was wrong of him to cheat on you off course it was, it was even worse that he lied about it to you, as to why people cheat well nobody has the answer to that, but it is horrible that this has happened to you and I am sorry. However if you are ... (read in full...)
I hate being on top, it's way too tiring.
Q. i feel so lazy in bed as i hate being on top, purely because practice will not make perfect and i find it so hard and tiring! im quite short and my legs are quite small, and i feel like i cannot move up and down enough to please him or even myself. ...
A. 14 January 2012: The more you do it the more fitter you will get and the more your muscles will begin to adapt to it and get stronger. You cannot expect the man to always put in the hard work, it should be equal.... (read in full...)
We had a great connection, now he is ignoring me because of family issues. What should I do?
Q. I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and started talking on facebook things were going good so we started meeting up in real life. He is incredibly attractive and we spent hours upon hours talking and eventually cuddling and kissing eachother. We'd go out ...
A. 14 January 2012: no he is not going to appreciate it. Can't you see that as soon as he got sex from you he soon started acting distant? It looks to me like he was only after one thing from you. He enjoyed the chase and he got what he wanted and now he is moving on. ... (read in full...)
Trouble with clingy boyfriend while ex boyfriend claims he still loves me
Q. Hey all... so im having a problem i have been dating this guy for six months and he thinks of me as his everything i just dont feel the same way anymore. i have told him numerous times that its not working out but he insist that we are not ever ...
A. 13 January 2012: You should move on. Okay so you have made it clear that you are not interested in your current boyfriend, so let the poor buy go before he gets hurt even more, you might find it creepy but he just feels like you are always going to be part of his ... (read in full...)
Should I marry him or stay with my family?
Q. Okay well ive been with my boyfriend now for about 3 years. Ive been through abusive relationships since the 7th grade i am now 19 years old ad i have found true love. Ive never felt this way about someone a i do him, the problem is my family didn't ...
A. 13 January 2012: I think the reason that your mother was so angry and annoyed at you was because you chose to hide this from her and be secretive. It is always a bad move, because she probably feels now like she does not know you at all, her own daughter and she ... (read in full...)
All we've done is argue since we've been together but he is my heart!
Q. okay so me and my boyfriend has been together for 5 months almost 6 months, and all we do is argue slmost everyday, i love him 2 death and i kno he loves me too. i feel like i am going 2 lose him sooner then later. but i dont want to lose him ...
A. 13 January 2012: There really is no trick to this, you both just need to sit down and talk to each other about all the problems you are having. There is obviously something wrong in the relationship if you are spending all your time arguing. If you both want to make ... (read in full...)
Wait or move on?
Q. A male friend I have been seeing each other for 2 years. He has told me he loves someone in another state. They have been communicating for more than 5 years but she is committed to her family with obligations. The have been intimate three or ...
A. 13 January 2012: Two years is a very long time to wait for a commitment from someone. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you want to be happy now while you can and if he is not going to be serious about you well then maybe you are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of hers!
Q. My girlfriend won't stop seeing this male friend of her no matter what I tell her. I meet my girlfriend two years and six months ago and we have been officially together for two years and three months. She had a couple of male friend and I was...
A. 13 January 2012: I can see why this has dented your confidence and why it would be the reason why you have lost your libido. But you cannot stop her from being friends with him, it is not fair to make her chose between the both of you, at the end of the day she has ... (read in full...)
How should we advise our 15 year old daughter who wants to date?
Q. We need some advice for our daughter. She is 15 and wants to start dating. We've told her that this summer she can start to have 'parent supported' dates. This means we drive her to whereever she and the guy want to go, like the mall, a movie, out ...
A. 9 January 2012: Your wife is right, I know you want to be involved but there is nothing more embarrassing to a teenage girl than her dad trying to give her a sex talk, it really is best to leave this up to your wife. You should actually be glad that your daughter ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this bad about yourself
Q. I've always been a shy girl and as the years have gone by i've realised that i also have social anxiety. The anxiety makes in near impossible for me to go out to bars or clubs because i can't handle being around so many people. I think that maybe i ...
A. 9 January 2012: You need to gain confidence in yourself. You are feeling so down and low because you are dragging yourself down. You are shy, well that's okay because plenty of people are shy. But you refuse to put yourself out there to try and change that. You ... (read in full...)
I love my cousin but our parents know of my feelings so nothing can be done
Q. i'm in love with my cousin and dont know what to do. i've had feelings for her but never thought she would like me.i'm 16 and she's 16.one day i asked her out and she said yes but then she dumped me because she felt confused about it and said she ...
A. 9 January 2012: You are only 16 you have plenty of time to fall in love. At the end of the day this is never going to work for the both of you unless you both completely abandon your families and run away together, now would you really ask her to make such a huge ... (read in full...)
Love triangle and husband wants me back!
Q. Been involved in a love triangle for years. I been married for six years and is going through and divorce. (supposedly)We been separated two years. I have a daughter by my husband, and a child during the separation.My husband states he dont want the ...
A. 9 January 2012: Look there is obviously a very good reason why you and your husband split up in the first place. Think back to the split and ask yourself what happened in the marriage and why it happened. Ask yourself can it really be all fixed. You have moved on ... (read in full...)
How many dates should you go on before having sex?
Q. After how many dates is it ok to have sex with someone?...
A. 9 January 2012: Everybody's standards are different, there is no set time on when to have sex with someone or when not to. Nobody can tell you when you are ready except yourself. So do what you feel is right for YOU.... (read in full...)
We dated, we broke up, he kept in contact, I said wait, now he has gone
Q. I was seeing a guy I really like for about 6 months. but we had to break up because my parents found out that I was seeing a boy which is not allowed in our religion. although he is the same religion as me. but since we broke up just recently like ...
A. 9 January 2012: Leave him a message, tell him how you feel and tell him if he is interested to contact you and if he is not then you accept that and you will move forward. Maybe he has giving up on you, I am not sure, but soon time will tell. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He flirts with other girls too, so what do I do from here?
Q. When i say i have bad luck when it comes to guys, "bad luck" doesn't even begin to cover it. I recently asked out this guy who i thought liked me to only to realize he thought of me as just a friend. but when i backed off he started flirting even ...
A. 8 January 2012: He is not interested in you as a potential partner, he does not make the effort to try and get to know you are date you, all he wants is sex from you. Simple as. It is clear to see that. He flirts with girls to get what he wants end of. If you want ... (read in full...)
We dated, we broke up, he kept in contact, I said wait, now he has gone
Q. I was seeing a guy I really like for about 6 months. but we had to break up because my parents found out that I was seeing a boy which is not allowed in our religion. although he is the same religion as me. but since we broke up just recently like ...
A. 8 January 2012: He stopped calling and texting you because you told him you where unsure about what you wanted so he is giving you space to make up your mind, you should give him credit for this not doubt him. You need to make the next move by calling him and ... (read in full...)
Making the best of a situation .... or the worst
Q. So i was seeing this girl for a couple months and i wanted a relationship and she wanted to a have a fling i didnt want that so i moved on. I didnt see her for a couple weeks came back and she asked if we could talk i said i didnt think it was ...
A. 8 January 2012: You are handling it fair yes, but she will probably keep messaging you until she gets an answer, so if she does simply just write back to her and tell her that you don't want her as a friend as you think of her as more than that, wish her luck and ... (read in full...)
What behaviour suggests that a guy feels rejected by a girl??
Q. I know this might be an obvious question. However, I'm still quite unsure myself. I think I 'rejected' a guy but I'm not too sure..if that makes sense? He always used to flirt with me but then always act a bit funny with me. As in he'd awkward but ...
A. 8 January 2012: He flirted with you to grab your attention because yes he liked you and it was his way of trying to show you that, however that is not what you wanted, which would have been clear by your body language and answers so he felt awkward afterwards, but ... (read in full...)
I love him but seen him with his girlfriend. Does he have feelings for me?
Q. Hi. iv been friends with a guy 4 quite sometime now. I tinks he likes me but i really do love him. He told me loves me and asked if i'd. I lied to him dat i jst wanted him as my friend (i thought he didn't mean it) nd he's ok with dat. Eventually, ...
A. 8 January 2012: You brought all of this on yourself. You told him you just wanted to be friends so he accepted this and moved on, what else was he meant to do stay around and hope for the best. nope that is not how it works he accepted your answer and he has now ... (read in full...)
I'm soo confused, and I genuinely like this guy. So what am I to make of him for turning into a totally disrespectful drunk?
Q. Gonna try make this short but please someone help me here or give me some insight. I like this guy and we talk and text alot and always flirt...I stayed over at his flat on friday night (no sex) and we talked for hours and watched movies and we ha...
A. 8 January 2012: This post is quite different to the first one that you wrote, you add a lot more details in this one that you failed to mention in the other post. Again same thing it all boils down to alcohol, the last post I said it was all down to him but now it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me! he's invited me for his birthday, should I go or not?
Q. My boyfriend finished with me today. I am so upset and to finish off he says to me, i'm still welcome to go to his 21st at the end of this month. Is this a good idea? all his family will be there as well. Any suggestion how I get over him or wheth...
A. 8 January 2012: I agree, I really do think it is a bad idea going to his 21st. I am sure he done this as a kind gesture but it will only hurt you seeing him and not being with him. It will be awkward for you, and what if he is flirting with other girls it will only ... (read in full...)
Should I even pursue something more with him or is it just a sex thing?
Q. I met a man last year while he was on vacation in the states (from South Africa) we had insane chemistry and hooked up a couple of times during his week long stay). We stayed in touch after he left (facebook, emails etc) Usually friendly interact...
A. 8 January 2012: My guess is that it is just a sex thing. You can try and pursue more if you want to, you won't know until you ask. ... (read in full...)
How do I make sense of this episode?
Q. Can someone please explain to me what just happened to me?? Theres this guy I like...he is 26 and im 21 (22 next week) and we get along amazingly. We flirt all the time through text and through an msn type chat and I sometimes see him at work ...
A. 8 January 2012: In my opinion this all is just down to having to much to drink. He was that drunk he did not know what he was doing or what he was saying, and my guess is that he is not contacting you now because he is really embarrassed. Good for you that you did ... (read in full...)
Our relationship ended but why couldn't we have stayed friends?
Q. Ok here am going straight to the point. i have been in a relationship for about 8years although the last 5 part of has been a long distanced. we haven't seen each other in almost 6years. after much ups and downs i decided to ent the relationship as ...
A. 8 January 2012: Some people can not deal with just being friends, it never works that way. Maybe the break up really upset her and she just couldn't face seeing you. Friendships with ex's can be really difficult when there are still feelings involved. However I do ... (read in full...)
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