I need advice about my friend and my boyfriend!
Q. (Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.) So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month toge...
A. 17 January 2012: I understand you want him as a friend, but you both dated so it can't be just simple to go back to friendship, this is just going to hurt him to much because he has not let go off you, he looks at you as more than a friend, so it is not fair on him, ... (read in full...)
I went first but my friends didn't follow
Q. Yesturday i went with my 2 best friends that are twins to get friendship tattoos, turned out it was at the mans house. My friends didn't want to go first so i did. Our plan is to get all the same tattoo in the same spot, a Cherry blossom. So he goes ...
A. 16 January 2012: I can understand why you are feeling a little hurt over this and off course you have the right to be annoyed at them. But I guess that is the worst about going first because they obviously didn't like the finished product so they decided against it, ... (read in full...)
My best friend refuses to dump her horrible boyfriend! How can I make her understand that she deserves better?
Q. My best friend has a horrible boyfriend who tells her things like he thinks of other girls when they're having sex etc. She has the lowest self esteem (and self worth) of anyone I know. I keep telling her to dump him because he treats her awfully ...
A. 16 January 2012: I completely understand how you feel, but sweetie nobody can help her or make her see sense, she needs to do this on her own, and she is simply refusing to look at it for what it is because she has low self esteem and feels this is all she deserves. ... (read in full...)
My bf wants a child with me! And I don't want that because he's so unstable..help!
Q. So, my boyfriend of 7 yrs is giving me an ultimatum of leaving me in March because he feels he doesn't have a "family" with me. Mind you he has a 13 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son who he thinks might be his but he's not really raising either ...
A. 16 January 2012: Do not let him bully you like this. I really do not see a happy ending to this relationship. It seems he is selfish and he only thinks about himself and not what you want, that is not what a relationship is about at all. It should be about sharing ... (read in full...)
Why do young people under 18, take drugs?
Q. hi a drug question here... not about me but about friends and people i know. Why would people use drugs? why? Even my 14 yo brother's friends are using drugs (there his age). He says hes seen his friends with it and take it (he came straight home ...
A. 16 January 2012: I think some teenagers just want to fit in with the crowd so they take drugs because they are still not matured and they think it is the cool thing to do. Most teenagers after a while get sense once they grow up and see that it is not cool at all, ... (read in full...)
Why does every boyfriend I have say they want to marry me?!
Q. I have noticed that every guy i have been with has told me they want to marry me! And no i don't have sex with them or anything! they just tell me. but i break up with them. (not because of them saying they want to marry me mostly because i don't ...
A. 16 January 2012: I guess they just saw you as someone who they would like to settle down with in the future. I wouldn't think to much in to it, you are still very young so am assuming so where they. You obviously have a very attractive personality. Take it as a ... (read in full...)
My ex said he misses me most nights. What did he mean?
Q. My ex said to me he misses talking to me most nights. What does he mean by this? Does he still have feelings for me? We talk pretty much everyday because we're friends now. The other night he said to me he's got a soft spot for me and how he needs ...
A. 16 January 2012: Okay him having a girlfriend changes things a bit. Look the best way to find out what he means is to just ask him straight out what it is he wants from you, it is the only way you are going to find out.... (read in full...)
Anti-depressants made me put on a lot of weight and it is really upsetting me!
Q. I was put on venlafaxine a few years ago for depression and anxiety. However, it caused me to put on a lot of weight. I was happy with my physical health and appearance for the first time in years but I quickly put on nearly 3 stone. I was on ...
A. 16 January 2012: How horrible of these people to say this to you, even if they had a few drinks there is still no excuse to be so brutal to anybody. I am however glad you have came of the tablets. That is a good start. It can be hard to keep motivated and to keep to ... (read in full...)
Guys: What differentiates a woman you met in a club from being 'a bit of fun' to the 'might be girlfriend' type?
Q. When you meet a girl in a bar or club what diffrenciates her from being the girl you want to make your girlfriend, or the girl who could be some fun? I know many guys (some being friends who do this) meet girls in clubs and assume she's down to sl...
A. 16 January 2012: I know am not a guy but I thought I would add my opinion to this. I honestly do not think there is a need to differentiate between the two. Some guys just want fun while others are looking for a relationship. Although most guys are going to try to ... (read in full...)
What's this girl's problem?!
Q. I know her on facebook, we share our phones and starts talking and becomes talking like lovers, but I didn't tell her that I love her, nor she does. And then we meet each other. She is a little bit bigger than me... on the next day when I ask h...
A. 16 January 2012: I am afraid to say she does not want to be with you. She has gave you a chance and met you and now she realises that there is no spark there between the both of you, so instead of just telling you this she is choosing to not say anything, which ... (read in full...)
I need advice about my friend and my boyfriend!
Q. (Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.) So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month toge...
A. 16 January 2012: Yes it is always best to be honest with your boyfriend so just tell him the truth before he finds out from someone else. Also when it comes to your ex you need to start standing up for yourself and make it clear that he cannot behave like this, to ... (read in full...)
My ex said he misses me most nights. What did he mean?
Q. My ex said to me he misses talking to me most nights. What does he mean by this? Does he still have feelings for me? We talk pretty much everyday because we're friends now. The other night he said to me he's got a soft spot for me and how he needs ...
A. 16 January 2012: To be honest it sounds to me like he still wants to be with you. So if you do not want to get back with him then make that clear to him so he knows where he stands.... (read in full...)
My partner tries to 'edge' a past event into our lives
Q. My partner had a 3some with his wife and her female friend years ago. I was uncomfortable with this for most of the time we have been together. My constant struggling with it resulted in regular arguments and discussions. But, not any more, I ...
A. 16 January 2012: It sounds to me like he is looking for a fight, maybe he likes the attention from you when you are mad about this, maybe it makes him feel that you care about him because this upsets you. Sounds to me like either way he is trying to get a reaction ... (read in full...)
The other day we where making love and he stopped to answer his phone! Is this normal?
Q. Hi,I would like you aunts opinion on this please. I am in a relationship with a man and have been for many years, we both are in our late 50's so really i was shocked and very surprised by this action of his. The other day we where making love and ...
A. 16 January 2012: I can see why you would be hurt and upset, but I think breaking up with him was a bit extreme if you have been together a long time and this was a first for him to do something like this. Did you let him explain why he answered his phone or who it ... (read in full...)
My ex said he misses me most nights. What did he mean?
Q. My ex said to me he misses talking to me most nights. What does he mean by this? Does he still have feelings for me? We talk pretty much everyday because we're friends now. The other night he said to me he's got a soft spot for me and how he needs ...
A. 16 January 2012: It sounds to me like you two should be together. Ask him what he meant, that's the only way you will know. If you want him back then ask him would it be an option. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me? please help!
Q. If you were a single Mom and there was a cute guy at your office who seemed to go out of his way to stop by your desk each day and say hello, sometimes picked up lunch for you when you were working on a project; alway made a point of sitting across ...
A. 15 January 2012: This is his personality and he is not going to change it now. At the end of the day he is being nice and does not see it as a crime. It is them that is letting this attention go to there head, as long as he sets them straight then I think you should ... (read in full...)
I was dumped by my boyfriend a few months ago, and I'm not attracted to any guys!
Q. Hi, I'm a teen girl and I was dumped by my boyfriend a few months ago, he moved on to one of my closest friends straight away and though that still hurts I know I dont love him any more. My main issue is that since then, I haven't found myself ...
A. 15 January 2012: I think you are scared to put yourself out there again because you got hurt in the past. This is normal to feel like this, but you developed some sort of reaction from this other guy so that shows you that it is not completely gone. It is just going ... (read in full...)
Could you please point me to a good dating site? no one wants me!
Q. I am 18 years old an looking for a good dating site. No matter what I do how good I dress, no one wants me, and i'm sick of it. I want a good dating site. I enjoy doing many things like star gazing, exercising, hiking, biking, just about anything. ...
A. 15 January 2012: You are wrong, most girls would not want to be with someone who sits around all day spending there money smoking weed and having no goals in life, so maybe that is where your first step going wrong is that you judge all girls before even getting to ... (read in full...)
What is a great indirect & funny way to ask a female friend if they have a boyfriend?
Q. What is a great indirect and funny way to ask a female friend if they have a boyfriend? Any advice? ...
A. 15 January 2012: There is no trick to asking this question at all. You just need to casually drop it in to a relationship, ask her what her plans are for the weekend and maybe just casually ask her has she any hot date plans with her boyfriend or something like that ... (read in full...)
Why is it that Men think they know Everything and have the need to be Right All the Time?
Q. Why is it that Men think they know Everything? and have the need to be Right All the Time? ...
A. 15 January 2012: Not all men are like this, but some men just have big egos and therefore they feel that they are never wrong and they just keep up a front, even when they know they are wrong they will argue there case because the have a big ego.... (read in full...)
How can I get over my first love? Please help!
Q. Last year I fell head over heels for this amazing guy. He was my first love, and still is my current love. The problem is that he has a girlfriend.I don't know how he feels about me and I don't know how his relationship with his girlfriend is going ...
A. 15 January 2012: I know it is hard to get over someone, especially when they have another girlfriend and you have not had a chance with him. But for now off course it is better to forget about him because he has a girlfriend. I think you just need to accept that he ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me the truth because he said I wouldn't believe him ... and I don't!
Q. Hey guys and girls I need major honest opinions on if my boyfriend is lying to me about cheating. Okay so in september when I was at his best friend house named (Steven) two girls came over and knocked on the door. Steven goes outside and about ...
A. 15 January 2012: To be honest either you trust him or you don't simple as. If you don't then there is no point being with him. There is no real evidence here to say that he has cheated on you, I think actually you might be looking to much in to things. Maybe he has ... (read in full...)
My son's wedding will be a disaster!
Q. My son is 37 and marrying a 28 year old woman. My son is getting married this summer and im not happy with the way his fiancees family and friends re-acted at the engagement party 2 weeks ago because im afraid they will ruin the day of the weddi...
A. 15 January 2012: I can understand why you are worried really I do, but at the end of the day this is his and his finance's big day. I know you are worried and concerned about him, but he is a growing man and am sure he saw for himself what they are like. He loves ... (read in full...)
Why don't men read maps?
Q. Why is it that when your in a car and your man is Driving and you both are in an unfamilliar town, he wont Admit that he is Lost. My Question is why wont men ask for Directions? ...
A. 15 January 2012: I know plenty of men that would ask for directions, again it is just that everybody is different and some people are just to stubborn to admit that they are lost so they just carry on until the come to a familiar place, I guess it is just a pride ... (read in full...)
Have I hurt myself by masturbating too roughly?
Q. I've been too rough in masturbating. I'd been trying not to touch down there for a month or so (I have my reasons...), and everything was going well. But in a moment of weakness I slipped up, and I guess I was far less gentle than usual because I ...
A. 15 January 2012: Give it a few days to see if it will settle down, try taking a bath every day to soothe it. Where your hands clean? It could be possible that you might have give yourself an infection or maybe it is thrush. If it does not seem to clear in a couple ... (read in full...)
Can we still be friends after he rejected me?
Q. Can we still remain friends after he rejected me romantically speaking? A friend and I were super friends and confidants.His girlfriend left him for other guy a year ago and therefore has not recovered from the loss. My big mistake was to became h...
A. 15 January 2012: I think you done the right thing by telling him how you feel, it is good to no where you both stand. I think you need to distance yourself from him for a while in order for a friendship to work, you say you fell in love with him, so after something ... (read in full...)
Husband has changed in the three months we've been married
Q. My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...
A. 15 January 2012: I'm sorry but I really have to ask why did you not see all these things before you decided to have a child with him. You knew his age before you married him, surely you knew there would be problems if you married him. It sounds to me like you are ... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
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My girlfriend has depression
Q. I've been in a relationship with a girl who has depression for about a month now. I try everything to make her feel happy all the time but sometimes she will just feel sad and depressed for no reason. I often vent about my bad days. All that s...
A. 15 January 2012: You should be honest with her, it is the only way, explain to her that you are always there for her if she needs you, and that sometimes you feel like you could do with some support from her, it is only fair. I understand that she suffers from ... (read in full...)
She's not like any girl I've ever dated, but I don't know what's going on with her
Q. I'm usually not one for relationships, I'm barely one for dating, I'm the kind of girl that seems to only get attention from girls with all sorts of baggage like being in the closet, straight and drunk, having girlfriends, husbands, etc, and ...
A. 15 January 2012: Wow you need to stop over analysing everything, if you keep down this it will never work. At the end of the day it has only been 4 days, things sounds like they are going really well so just put trust in to it. She said that to you because yeah it ... (read in full...)
I never wanted to be in this gay relationship
Q. Me and D have been texting and talking on the phone since three years now. Since 1 yr we are in touch on the phone. We have grown so close that I have become too addicted to him. I think about him too much, but these days he cuts off all connections ...
A. 15 January 2012: It does not sound to me like he will commit himself to you. You need to talk to him and ask him what it is he wants from you. It sounds to me like he is being selfish and just using you as a past time.... (read in full...)
I guess I'm depressed but I don't know what to do about it!
Q. My mood switches a lot. I’ll be happy and content then I’ll be breaking down in tears. I’ve been like this for the last 3 years or so. For a while I hardly ate, started smoking, drank a lot, and self harmed. I stopped all of that over a year ago...
A. 15 January 2012: I think you need to book yourself in to see a therapist who can get to the bottom line of why you are feeling the way that you are. You mention that you feel you are not doing anything worthwhile. So I think you should look at what you want out of ... (read in full...)
How can I get over him when we just had a baby together?
Q. i'm going to try and make this as short as possible. me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year we have a 5 month old daughter together. he broke up with me today cause he said now is the time he don't want a relationship, i asked him why he b...
A. 15 January 2012: Was this baby planned? My guess is that the baby was not planned for him and he felt trapped so instead of stepping up to his responsibility he chickened out and kept his distance, now he is afraid of settling down so he has broken things off with ... (read in full...)
What prepartions should I make for losing my virginity?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts. Just after the stage of dating, myself and my partner proposed taking things further. We became really intimate. He became very sexually aroused. I didn't though :-/ We were in a situation where we almost had sex although I bottl...
A. 15 January 2012: Your nerves are probably getting the better of you therefore you cannot relax and just let yourself enjoy it. Explain to him how you feel and tell him you want to take things slow. Try first doing lots of foreplay with him, if you are both clear ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to propose?
Q. Ok well im 41 divorced for 9 years and i don't have children. I'm in a relationship 15 months with an Irish girl living in America. We met about 16 months ago at a wedding and were friends first until we got into a relationship. To be honest w...
A. 15 January 2012: Coming from an Irish girl, I think you should ask her, you both seem to have a great connection and the relationship sounds like it is strong, you have nothing to lose, just ask her. If she says it is to soon well you can always go back to the way ... (read in full...)
Can the hymen be ruptured during a pelvic exam?
Q. is it possible for a pap smear to break your hymen? i got one yesterday, failed to tell them i was a virgin and as soon as she opened the speculum i was in so much pain i wanted to cry. i had a little bleeding after the test and now im fine but i ...
A. 15 January 2012: Yes it is very much possible and am pretty sure this is probably what has happened. It might be a bit uncomfortable but it will heal in no time, really you should have told them that you where a virgin so they could have warned you about the pain ... (read in full...)
Husband has changed in the three months we've been married
Q. My husband and i have a 6months old daughter. Baby and i share same bed, husband sleeps in a different one but in the same room. Bedtime-inserts his earplugs, turns over and sleeps. I tend to the baby. My roles-take care of baby (every aspect),...
A. 15 January 2012: I guess you have found out the hard way now that you have married a much older man. He is pension age now, he is well past his prime now and he should be a grandfather at his age now a father of a toddler. He is a pensioner now, so he just wants to ... (read in full...)
Should I put an end to things or see where they go?
Q. Is what Im doing wrong?? Im in love with my ex for starters, he lives somewhere else from me atm but in around 6 months I'll be back to seeing him regularly and if I'm being honest there is a chance we could get back together...we still flirt all ...
A. 15 January 2012: He wants to be with this other girl. He is lonely at the moment and he is waiting for her to want to date him, so he is filling his time by flirting with you and having some fun. Do not look in to this as a potential relationship, because it is not, ... (read in full...)
Did this guy lie to me and is it worth getting back together if the love is still there?
Q. One guy claimed to really like me. He'd always comfort me and told me about his bad experiences with girls who cheated on him. He told me he's not like those guys who use girls for sex and said he'll wait for me for as long as it takes. Afte...
A. 15 January 2012: Rumours get spread all the time, but if you where serious about this relationship then you would have trusted him until you had proof but you never. To me it sounds like he does really like you, I can't tell you if he lied or not, but I think you ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure why I feel this way, I still find him attractive
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite some time now. We have always been happy together but lately things seem to have fizzled out. I am confused and unhappy about this. At the beginning, we were clingy, huggy and always affectio...
A. 15 January 2012: There is obviously a mental block in your head and you need to get to the bottom of what it is. I can see that this relationship means a lot to you and this has you worried. But once a relationship settles down more so than often so does the ... (read in full...)
He says he was in a bad place at the time ...
Q. I found out that my boyfriend of 10 years had been involved in a texting relationship. I also found a large amount of computer file folders with womens pictures. Each woman had their own folder. The women were downloaded pictures from facebook, ...
A. 15 January 2012: I don't think that he is sick or disturbed, but he was getting some kind of sexual kick out of this and that is why he done it. Obviously there was something lacking in his life for him to do this. However no matter what way you look at this, it is ... (read in full...)
Even though we are seeing other people, I still have feelings for my ex and think she may feel the same way.
Q. So me and my ex broke up about 6 months ago and we are both dating new people. I know for a fact that she still has dreams about me and she isn't happy with her current situation I don't think. I am now dating another girl too. I love her to death ...
A. 15 January 2012: First off you are obviously not happy with your girlfriend at the moment if you are having these feelings for your ex. It is obvious you are not over her, so I think you should tell your girlfriend that it is over, so she does not get any more hurt ... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
A. 15 January 2012: Most woman cannot reach orgasm through sex believe it or not, most woman get orgasms from stimulation of the clitoris. So try not to put to much on to not orgasming means it cannot be good. Try having more foreplay. If he does not know what he is ... (read in full...)
I never wanted to be in this gay relationship
Q. Me and D have been texting and talking on the phone since three years now. Since 1 yr we are in touch on the phone. We have grown so close that I have become too addicted to him. I think about him too much, but these days he cuts off all connections ...
A. 14 January 2012: To be honest it sounds to me like he will contact you when he is looking for a bit off attention but he is not there for you when you need him. Does not sound to me like he is serious about you. Do you both actually ever meet up face to face and ... (read in full...)
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