I want to be her friend, but I can feel this chemistry between us. What can I do?
Q. Hi peeps! Ok so I am slightly confused at the moment... I have become good friends with someone I work with I will call her X, so anyway we have done a few things together outside of work, we talk all the time on the phone. I have noticed recently...
A. 6 January 2012: Well to be honest I speak to my friends 24 hours a day and call them gorgeous as well, but I do not mean it in a sexual way. Sometimes that's where wires get crossed. She probably doesn't even realise how she is making you feel and if she does then ... (read in full...)
I can't get over the crush I have on my teacher!
Q. I'm 17, and I know this is so stupid but I have the hugest crush on my teacher. I seriously get butterflies when I see him and we always greet each other. In class when I look at him, he'll look at me and give such a gorgeous half smile, and he'd ...
A. 6 January 2012: It is inappropriate for a teacher to be going around calling his or her students beautiful. I cant tell if he is flirting with you or not because I have not witnessed it. But if he has been then he is the one in the wrong here. You are still a ... (read in full...)
He's not lovey-dovey, but do you think he likes me?
Q. There's this guy I like and I think he likes me too...? He's not the lovey-dovey stuff but he tries to impress me, says silly things to keep the conversation going, he smiles at me a lot, he teases me...and he keeps on trying to get me to not like...
A. 6 January 2012: It can be hard to tell from such little information if he likes you or not, but yes it is clear he is trying to grab your attention, so why not just see how it goes. Try flirting with him lightly or ask him would he like to meet up some time to ... (read in full...)
I want to be her friend, but I can feel this chemistry between us. What can I do?
Q. Hi peeps! Ok so I am slightly confused at the moment... I have become good friends with someone I work with I will call her X, so anyway we have done a few things together outside of work, we talk all the time on the phone. I have noticed recently...
A. 6 January 2012: It is hard to tell how she is feeling, but it sounds to me like she is close to you as a friend but that is it. Just because she touches you and stares and you does not mean there is romantic feelings involved. There are plenty of woman who are very ... (read in full...)
Is passion in a platonic relationship possible?
Q. My virgin girlfriend (28) of 1.5 years and I (27) have a wonderful, loving relationship. The lack of intimacy troubles me but there's only so many times you can bring this topic up without seeming like your pressuring her. Would you all be so kind ...
A. 4 January 2012: I am assuming she does not believe in sex before marriage. Therefore if you are serious about this well then you need to be serious about her and see that you will be the first to get with her. I am sure she wants it just as bad as you, but her ... (read in full...)
Crushes that don't go away?
Q. I graduated from high school a few years ago. But the crush I've had on my ex-high school-teacher since junior year hasn't gone away. Is this something I should be concerned with? If so, how do I handle this? I'm slightly worried, I'm turning ...
A. 4 January 2012: If you are engaged well then you should not be thinking about another guy, if you are then yes there is something wrong!!! If you are not fulfilled try and think what it is that takes you back to your teacher. There was obviously something lacking ... (read in full...)
We are so much alike but I think she's going for my roommate!
Q. Hi everybody I am having a lot of stuff in my mine about this situation. I just get to know a girl 2 years older than i am thru one of mine roommate. she is the most beautiful girl i've ever seen and also really smart too. we have a lot in common l...
A. 4 January 2012: If they are displaying intimacy then maybe they have already started something. If you like her tell her how you feel and see how she responds, if she says no well at least then you know you tried and you can move on. ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? Was he using me? Need advice about my ex!
Q. hey everyone...i have been really upset for the last few days :'( I was with this guy for nine months but he also has another girlfriend, when we wee together we used to meet up twice a week for a catch up and a cuddle, a few days we had sex but ...
A. 4 January 2012: Your very welcome!... (read in full...)
Is there any way of going back once you've pushed someone away unintentionally?
Q. I need help badly. I've made a big mistake in pushing my boyfriend away and now he's moved out. I had just came out of an abusive relationship with an ex when I was 5 months pregnant and pretty much jumped back with my ex, realising that the guy I ...
A. 4 January 2012: rYour last relationship was a rebound, so you need to tell your current partner that. But also that relationship must have had some effect on you, so you need to take some time out on your own to settle your head and try to get back to normal before ... (read in full...)
Are all sexual relationships a roller coaster ride?
Q. I have been warned by a lot of people that sexual relationships are not all their cracked up to be. That there are a lot of ups and downs. Is this true? Or is it possible to have a relationship where there are plenty of ups and few downs?...
A. 4 January 2012: Most relationships have there ups and downs, but it should not always be sexual. If it is well then it is a case of you getting used.... (read in full...)
Has he really got time for a girlfriend?
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend (Julian) for three years on and off. when he finished with me in summer 2010 I started seeing someone else (steve) he'd give me money and lifts and generally looked after me, we only had sex three times. I then went to ...
A. 4 January 2012: If he is busy with work all week then why not spend the evenings with him? I am sure he is not working 24 hours a day. Am afraid that you are just going to need to accept that football is his passion, it does not mean that he thinks of it more than ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? Was he using me? Need advice about my ex!
Q. hey everyone...i have been really upset for the last few days :'( I was with this guy for nine months but he also has another girlfriend, when we wee together we used to meet up twice a week for a catch up and a cuddle, a few days we had sex but ...
A. 4 January 2012: Yes it is going to be very hard. You just need to try and be strong and avoid him at all costs. Stand your ground and tell him you are not going to be second best any longer and that you do not want to have anything to do with him any more. Be civil ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriends jealousy going overboard? Or is it ok?
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend were at my house in my room just listening to music. and than His friend comes over and jumps on my bed next to me. i just rolled my eyes and said what do i own this great honor to? he gave me a smirk and said you can be ...
A. 3 January 2012: No it is not over board, what this other guy is doing is wrong, and to me it sounds like you are loving the attention. I don't know how he can even call this other guy a friend of his, friends do not behave like this. If he texts you then just ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out? We only worked together briefly a year ago...
Q. Ok to start off this is going to be confusing! I'm a 19 year old college student who has recently lost weight about 55 lbs and I look and feel great! Ok now to the story. (This takes part of the story takes place about a year ago) I work part time ...
A. 3 January 2012: You are thinking about things way to much here, the more you think of things the more nervous you are going to make yourself. Instead of going through his mother why not look for him on facebook and see if you can find him on there. Add him as a ... (read in full...)
My best friend or my boyfriend?!
Q. So i was at my boyfriend's house and i was texting my best friend. {ive known my best friend since me and him were in 2nd grade) But anyway while texting him my boyfriend just looks at me. he called my name so i would look up. i did and he toke me ...
A. 3 January 2012: Well that's good, am glad it worked out for you.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I am single when we are not together? When we are with each it's brilliant but where do these feelings come from?
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy for about 5months, we had the talk (I initiated) and now been together officially for a further 2 and a half months. It's been a slow progression getting to know eachother. Which I have liked. He took me away for ...
A. 3 January 2012: I think you need to talk to him about this and tell him what you have said here. There is obviously something lacking in the relationship for you to feel like this and you need to get to the bottom of it or it will just keep eating away at you, so ... (read in full...)
My best friend or my boyfriend?!
Q. So i was at my boyfriend's house and i was texting my best friend. {ive known my best friend since me and him were in 2nd grade) But anyway while texting him my boyfriend just looks at me. he called my name so i would look up. i did and he toke me ...
A. 3 January 2012: I think you know that this is secretly really hurting your boyfriend. You should not need to chose between the two of them off course, but you should not over step the marks of the friendship as well. Tell your boyfriend that it was wrong of you to ... (read in full...)
Should I move on? Was he using me? Need advice about my ex!
Q. hey everyone...i have been really upset for the last few days :'( I was with this guy for nine months but he also has another girlfriend, when we wee together we used to meet up twice a week for a catch up and a cuddle, a few days we had sex but ...
A. 3 January 2012: Yes you should be move on from this man. He is the one that is in the wrong here not you. You knew all along that you where just the other woman because he had another girlfriend. So in my eyes that just shows that he is not interested in settling ... (read in full...)
My wife's friend is marrying my wife's 1st boyfriend and we don't want to go to the wedding, should we?
Q. We need advice. My wife has this good girlfriend that she's known for a few years. We're married 4 years now and everything is great. This girlfriend hasn't been a big part of our life because of who she's dating (and now marrying). This girlfrien...
A. 3 January 2012: I think you both need to just bury this in the past. Yes am sure it would not be nice for you, but you need to see that she is your wife, you have her and that is it. She chose you to marry her. Everyone has a past, but you are her future. At the ... (read in full...)
Strong feelings for a married woman. Could she feel the same way about me?
Q. I have strong feelings for a married woman. I am single with two grown children and have been divorced for ten years. I have recently ended a long term relationship. This woman and I work together. She is my client. She has two young children. ...
A. 3 January 2012: Well if you truly believe that she feels the same and you are sure that you are not deluding yourself in to thinking she does well then I think the only thing that you can do is talk to her. Tell her how you feel but you need to make it clear to her ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and lost
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 6 months (I am 32, she is 25). When we 1st met, it was love at 1st sight. She had a tough life growing up and got in lots of trouble but with the help of a very supportive family, she was able to get back on ...
A. 3 January 2012: If I am honest maybe you should actually look in to getting some anger management. You sound a bit possessive and it looks like you have trust issues. Her phone is her business and it is her choice who she texts. Yes am sure it was upsetting for you ... (read in full...)
My wife has take the joy out of my for too long! What do I do?
Q. I have been with my wife for more than 20 years and I am coming to a realisation that I have been duped. Sexually things are awful - at the beginning she made many promises that were never fulfulled, and in fact kept me waiting to have sex while she ...
A. 3 January 2012: If you are really this unhappy in the relationship well then there really is no point in staying around. Yes off course your daughter is a big concern but if you do believe that your current wife is not able to bring her up then get yourself a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend telling me that there is not money for another baby, I don't want an abortion!
Q. i dont know what to do. my boyfriend 5 years made me move to the states with my two kids telling me storys like we gonna get married and so on. it didnt happen yet the marriage but yesterday i just found out that i am pregnant. today i was all exci...
A. 3 January 2012: I can understand both points of view here. You don't want to get rid of your baby and he does not think you can both afford it. I guess you both just need to sit down and think about this realistically. Come up with a plan to see if there is anyway ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of not being guys' number 1 choice!
Q. I'm always second best to my friends or sister, and I'm so tired of that! Well during high school the story of my life was that boys always liked my friends instead of me. Then by the end of high school I met the guy who was my first and only ...
A. 20 December 2011: No it does not mean you are ugly. It just means that they where not the guy for you. Maybe your friends are more out going and confident than you and that is why they are getting noticed. Confidence is the key to grab a guys attention, and if you ... (read in full...)
Someone help me figure this boy out, my brain hurts!
Q. Ongoing dumb boyfriend issue. Hi, my ex has been my ex for about a year now. And for that year he's been with another girl. But during that year he would call and tell me that he loved me, or that he missed me, he did it 3 times while he was with...
A. 20 December 2011: I think that he will probably try again somewhere down the line. He is a very confused man, he knows being in a relationship with you is just not what he really wants, but there is something about you that he just cannot let go off, so he just keeps ... (read in full...)
Can I believe my boyfriend when he says he is not gay?
Q. My bf looked at transvestites online in the past.I asked him openly if he was bi and he said no.I said that i don't care what he did before me, and that if he tried something i would understand him 100%.That we all have the right to have fantasies, ...
A. 20 December 2011: Have you anything else that would make you think that he might be interested in this sort of thing? If all you have to go by is him typing it in to a search engine and looking at photos then I think you are safe enough. Plenty of people look up ... (read in full...)
I ran away, now I'm pregnant and don't know how to tell my Mom!
Q. i need help please! my mom and i got in a huge fight about a year and a half ago about her and her boyfriend getting married i couldn't and i still can't stand him..time being she hated my boyfriend to, he probably wasn't and probably still isn't ...
A. 20 December 2011: This is going to come as a very big shock to her, especially since you have been out of her life for so long now, but I cannot help feeling what kind of mother is she to just let you go and not make much of an effort since then to get you back. It ... (read in full...)
Should I wait until he texts me first?
Q. Should I always texts my boyfriend first. I love him alot but I some how feel like i'm the one who misses him. He dosen't really text me first. Should I just wait till he textes me first. ...
A. 20 December 2011: If you feel that it is always you texting him first and you feel that he wouldn't bother if it was the other way around well then yes stop texting him. Don't text him from now and just see how long it takes him to text you to ask you how you are. No ... (read in full...)
I think she's cute and our friendship isn't the best, so how do I ask her out on a friend-type date?
Q. i met this girl last year at college we are only friends. i had a crush on her around this time last year. were not talk all the time go out all the time friends in fact i've only seen her outside college twice at two of her parties. we talk...
A. 20 December 2011: OK first of, don't involve her friend in this at all. This is child play and am sure she will not appreciate it. Yes I understand that you are eager to find out if this girl likes you or not, but going to her friend to ask is the wrong way about it. ... (read in full...)
We separated due to his telling another woman he was only sticking around till he could afford a divorce, now when we were trying to reconcile he's messaging women again!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 5 months. This is going to be a long story everyone I am apologizing now. I guess to start we both changed after we got married. We moved into a camper trailer right after we got married. It is located on his ...
A. 20 December 2011: I think that you should leave him. It does not sound like he is serious about you at all. His family don't like you now for whatever reason so now he is unwilling to tell them that you are both working on things, I don't think he ever will tell ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new guy....is he just a rebound? Should I wait for her, or move on?
Q. So its been about 6 months that me and my ex broke up from our 3 and half year relationship. We started talking and hanging out about 2 months ago.. I found out she started going out with this guy about a month or 2 after our break, what hurts is I ...
A. 20 December 2011: He is her first priority now. She does not want to be with you in a relationship. She is your friend now and nothing else. She is with this other guy now and she wants to make things work with him now, so you need to accept that now and move on. I ... (read in full...)
Confused about what happened with my ex and wondering what it means about us....
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I dated for nearly 18 months. After this time however, we found that we were fighting a lot (probably too much) and she had trouble opening up to me (telling me anything important actually). We ended up breaking up. She said ...
A. 20 December 2011: I think she new that your relationship was not working out the way that it should be, you were both arguing a lot and it probably became stressful, for the both of you am sure. So I guess when you both met up to talk she felt all those romantic ... (read in full...)
Was this coincidence? Or did my ex really put a curse on me? She said she did and then after I had a vehicle accident. Is she that powerful?
Q. I was just involved in a vehicle collision tonight. I'm okay but my car had to be towed away for repairs. The other driver was okay and only had a few scratches to the car. Last night my lesbian girlfriend wished evil on me after we broke up. She...
A. 18 December 2011: Off course this is going to scare you. I totally understand why you feel the way that you do. But you need to try and get past this and not worry about it. Try and forget about it and put it down to coincidence. If you try and look at it from a ... (read in full...)
Flirting? Just fun? Or he's just being mischievous? What's he up to?
Q. Hey okay, theres this kid who's been my friend since the begining of last year. Lately anytime he sees me in the hallway he always runs up behinds me and pokes my sides, like, right above my hips. And then I'll squeal and turn around and he'll smil...
A. 18 December 2011: It sounds to me like he is looking to get your attention. It could be that he has feelings for you so this is his way off trying to grab your attention in a playful way.... (read in full...)
How soon is right to date after my break-up? I'm torn about what to do
Q. Hey so I posted last week about a relationship problem that ended in a break up. We dated for almost 2 years. I was just wondering when you think is the appropriate time to start dating again would be. I don't want to jump into anything too soon...
A. 18 December 2011: If you do not see a future with your ex well then the only thing that you can do is move forward. Yes it could be a rebound, but it does not always work like that, sometimes people fall in love with someone after coming out of a relationship and go ... (read in full...)
I talked to him for 3 months. Then we met. How do I deal with him now that I know he has Anger and emotional issues?
Q. This is a bad story... I met a guy and we've been talking for 3 months and I realized he has emotional problems as well as anger problems. Aside from that, I care very much about him. We aren't dating because I needed some time to myself because ...
A. 18 December 2011: There is really nothing you can do about it now. It has only been a day so he is probably still angry, I think the best thing that you can do is to give him some space. I can't tell you if he will forgive you or not. But you have explained to him ... (read in full...)
We hit it off but he has a g/f, but I think he's missing out on things being with her!
Q. Ok, so I met this guy at work and we hit it off straight away, everytime I see him I know it's going to be a good day because we laugh and joke and just seem to really click. We have the same interests, both want the same things from life, you get ...
A. 17 December 2011: I understand it is not what you wanted to hear honey really I do, but I needed to be honest with you. You need to accept that he is not the guy for you that he is taking and just carry on with life, take some time to accept it and then go out with ... (read in full...)
Why am I checking up on my ex when he cheated and hurt me?
Q. Why do I keep doing this to myself. how can I stop? My ex boyfriend cheated on me, lied to me and broke up with and said he didn't want a relationship. He wanted us to be friends but I told him we can't cos he doesn't deserve me or my friends...
A. 17 December 2011: Well he may not have loved you, but you had feelings for him that where deep and you want to believe that he felt the same, therefore you keep checking up on him to see if there is any chance that he feels the same as you do.
You need to move for... (read in full...)
I can't allow myself to be happy!
Q. I've been working myslf up into a.complete mess this week, I love my fiance with all my heart and wen he asked me to marry him i was over the moon. But iv had.such a bad.time.with men that the nasty little voice in the back of my mind wont.let me ...
A. 17 December 2011: You need to talk to your man and tell him how you feel. It is probably just PMS playing nasty tricks with your mind, but if you tell him then he will be able to help and reassure you that he loves you and wants to be with you. I can understand you ... (read in full...)
We hit it off but he has a g/f, but I think he's missing out on things being with her!
Q. Ok, so I met this guy at work and we hit it off straight away, everytime I see him I know it's going to be a good day because we laugh and joke and just seem to really click. We have the same interests, both want the same things from life, you get ...
A. 17 December 2011: You get on really well with the man at work and you can both have a laugh, so yes I totally understand why after a while you are now starting to get feelings for him. But honey by the sounds of it he is happily settled and he has some laughs with ... (read in full...)
It makes me uncomfortable that my boyfriend texts other girls!
Q. hey everyone i'm not sure if i'm over reacting or what. but my boyfriend texts other girls. he texts 3 girls that he goes to school with. i know they are just friends but it kinda bugs me. yesterday he would tell me who he was texting. he let me r...
A. 17 December 2011: Ok so let me get this straight you text other guys who are friends but when he texts other girls it is different?
Off course it is not, you have male friends and he has female friends. He has been open and honest with you about it and he has also... (read in full...)
I don't like my husband's female friend!
Q. Hi, My husband has a female friend I really don't like. The fact that we were dating and then living together, got married and just had a baby and I am just meeting her after almost 4 years really annoys me and frankly quit ticks me off. The fir...
A. 17 December 2011: To be honest, it sounds to me like this friend is really important to him, therefore it would be a bad idea to ask him to stop being friends with her. Could it be that you do not like this woman because you feel that she is a threat to your ... (read in full...)
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