Afraid I'm addicted to porn
Q. Ok well i REALLY need advice..here it goes.. Him im 13 and i am adicted to watching porn.. Its kinda wrong but i cant stop watching it.. I masterbate to it till i Ejaculate when ever my parent leave to the store i rush to the computer and go on a ...
A. 28 November 2011: You are just exploring your sexuality and wondering about sex and wanting to learn about it. Off course porn is going to turn you on and it is normal to masturbate to it. Just make sure it doesn't effect you and becomes an obsession. It is ok to do ... (read in full...)
My mum is very controlling and makes my boyfriend feel like she approve of our relationship, how do we overcome this?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year, the relationship occurred after a strong friendship and we are very much in love. We are both in our 20s, graduated, stable jobs, good career prospects and my boyfriend has recently moved out of his own ...
A. 28 November 2011: Yes you need to take control of your own life. You are not a child any more. Your mother needs to remember that you are an adult now and you do not need protecting so much. She needs to loosen the apron stings a little. What you want in life is your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my breasts, other girls are prettier than me, he treat his ex better than me....all these things are making me so insecure!
Q. Hello, I feel like this question is stupid :( but please help me out. So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1yr and 3 months or so. At the start of our relstionship, it wasnt the best, i felt so upset with him at times with the things...
A. 28 November 2011: This relationship is a complete mess. For a start when he got with you it was clear he was not over his ex. It is clear that you where the rebound girl and he was hurting over the way his ex treated him. He should never have got in to a relationship ... (read in full...)
Spotting before my period is due and definitely not pregnant....is this normal?
Q. I have been on the pill for 10 months, never missed a pill, take it at the same time to the minute, but every month before my period is due, i have brown spotting and then my period follows as normal. i have been to the doctors and they advised to ...
A. 28 November 2011: It is not a case that it is a stronger pill that you need. Spotting is normal when people are on the pill, it does different things to different woman. Have you had unprotected sex, maybe you should go and get checked out for STI's as well as this ... (read in full...)
My ex has been in touch but hasn't even hinted about another date
Q. So recently I got back with my ex after breaking up for 2 months(he brought that up). Everything looks ok. But every time it's me who texted him(partly because he wants me to express my feelings more and that's part of the reason why we broke up ...
A. 28 November 2011: Well you haven't texted him in two days, does that mean that you are not interested? This does work both ways you know.... (read in full...)
Do I stay a friend to him or do I let him go?
Q. I dont know if I should stay freinds with my ex stressing me out some he is a demanding type and that is why I asked him to move out we have not been broke up long someone mentioned compromise has to be in a realtionship and to me he aint about ...
A. 28 November 2011: Let him go. Don't use him just because you don't have anyone else, this will give him false hope. It is time you removed him from your life if you are not happy with him. Am sure if you asked around neighbours or a friend they would be happy to ... (read in full...)
I can't simply tell her I lied, can I?
Q. Hi everyone, really need some help here. My and my girlfriend just got into an argument about trusting each other (I told her I didn't trust her fully because I have trust issue, I told her I had been cheated on- which wasn't true) and I think we ...
A. 28 November 2011: Why did you feel the need to lie to her in the first place. You have trust issues that you need to sort out before you lose her for good. You need to come clean to her and promise her that you are going to work hard on getting the help that you ... (read in full...)
I left him because he was depressed and unfaithful. Now he wants me back...what to do?
Q. I recently brokeup with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. Actually this is our second breakup because last year I ended things when it felt like he really just didn't want to be with me anymore. But to my surprise he said he felt the exact opposite and ...
A. 28 November 2011: Honey cut all contact with him and keep strong about it. I can totally understand why you are doubting your decision. You want marriage and the perfect relationship, you feel that time is running out on you and you have self esteem issues so you are ... (read in full...)
We were never anything to each other. Will this ever pass?
Q. I can't forget him...and we were no one to one another. We were really nothing to one another. i was a really awkward, inexperienced senior in college and he was a party boy. Opposites attracted, he freaked out, defended his image by bringing mine...
A. 28 November 2011: You will get over him eventually. Just try and stop thinking about him. He was cruel to you and did not respect you in the slightest. Really he is not worth your thoughts at all. But you cannot help how you feel, but still he was ashamed to be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend lies to me about contact with his ex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year. He claims that his ex-lover is just a friend. Although he has only just admitted that they used to sleep together. Even though he had told me that they had never been intimate like that, i had ...
A. 28 November 2011: He broke your trust and once that is done it is very hard to get it back again. I don't even think this is about him cheating or not. He lied to you about another girl, so that itself is obviously going to put doubt in your mind that he has done a ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this guy is being a kind friend or likes me?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a while back. I don't he is capable of being faithful to anyone. When we were breaking up I talked to a couple of mutual friends (then a couple) to try to understand what was happening. Anyway since then this couple h...
A. 28 November 2011: Well it is good that you are ready to move on, but do you really think that it is such a good idea to set your sights on someone who is friends with your ex. This might open a new can off worms and make things very awkward. If they used to be close ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that its over should I leave everything alone? Will she ever come back?
Q. Hi my name is vincent Ive been going with this girl for 3 years since our junior year in high school and we had some problems off and on 6 months after we started dating we broke up and she had sex with her ex she came back to me apologizing saying ...
A. 28 November 2011: you should delete all of her contact details and leave her alone. She has made it clear she is not serious about you and she likes someone else. She may contact you in the future but she is only going to keep hurting you if she does. You need to ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear that I'm there for her as a friend?
Q. last year at college i met this girl who i have become friends with we both left college to do something different and we hadn't spoken for a while then we caught up abit through texting and then a few brief times on facebook but the other day she ...
A. 28 November 2011: It sounds to me like already she trusts you enough to open up to you about her private life. This is a great start. Don't keep pestering her though, it sounds like she is going through a really rough patch and you can not make her feel good about ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon for the "L" word?
Q. I met a really great girl about 6 weeks ago. We get along great and we have been spending a lot of time together. She lives about 30 miles away from me and yet we still spend about 4 days per week together - Friday one of us goes to visit the othe...
A. 28 November 2011: I think you should hold back on telling her you love her for now. I mean you both aren't even officially together yet and she has just stopped seeing someone else not that long ago. It is great that you have found someone that you want to be with. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love my partner anymore
Q. Im so confused.... I am 23 so is my partner we got together when we were 15 had children at 19 and 21, I feel like we are at the end of our relationship I have no one I feel I can truely talk to, I think I've just grown and changed since the 15 y...
A. 28 November 2011: You should always go with your gut instinct and if it is telling you that you don't love him any more then there is something there that is making you feel like this. You need to open up to him and tell him how you are feeling and why you are ... (read in full...)
Once upon a time he really loved me and wanted to be with me forever
Q. Hey, I need some help. I'm really confused. We broke up on October 30th, and a week after that we started talking again, and tried to work it out, but then things just crashed and suddenly he was all bitter, and told me we weren't friends ...
A. 27 November 2011: That's life am afraid honey, people change as they get older and fall out of love. This really is not worth it, he is messing with your head for his own private enjoyment. It is sick and you should stop giving in to him. He knows you are weak when ... (read in full...)
The meaning behind hugs that men give
Q. Hi! I am curious of the mening of the type of hugs men give. I have been seeing a doctor for the past two years for a surgery and post ops afterwards. There has been a bit of flirting both ways. We are both married with kids. At the end of my ...
A. 27 November 2011: If you have had a stressful time then maybe he was just being friendly and offering some comfort to you. However he is overstepping the mark here as your doctor. He is married and so are you, so forget about this and don't even think about going ... (read in full...)
The ex? or my current b/f who's going over seas?
Q. I seem to have gotten myself into a bit of love trouble. I was dating someone long distance when I met, well, someone else. My boyfriend and I hadn't been getting along - he said he loved me, but he would be controlling and jealous and say ...
A. 27 November 2011: Honey if you really loved your ex deep down you would never have left him for another guy, plus as you said he was controlling and jealous, that is who he was when you where together and behaviour like that does not just change over night am afraid. ... (read in full...)
He stood me up 3 times why is he coming back to me now?
Q. Why is he coming back to me now? should I just ignore him? There's this guy that I use to like.. He'd stare at me all the time. We were getting to know each other and he said he wanted to take things slow. We use to talk everyday but he ...
A. 27 November 2011: How he behaved was completely out of order. You have every reason to completely ignore him now. It sounds like he had been interested so why he stood you up three times is the question that is left hanging. But he didn't even have the decency to ... (read in full...)
I've realized I'm gay -- how to tell my boyfriend?
Q. I have a boyfriend who ive been with for half a year now but i got with him unsure about my sexuality and now i know, i'm 100% gay. I need to tell him but i'm too afraid, plus we live together with 6 other people as i'm in uni. so it's going to be ...
A. 27 November 2011: You have been honest with yourself and have come to realise that you are gay. It is a hard thing to deal with but you need to now be honest with him. I know that it is going to be hard. But don't even think about your other mates, it is not there ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has trouble staying hard, how do I help?
Q. My bf, which I have been with 4 months now, has trouble staying hard when we have sex. Most times he will get hard for a few seconds but at that point I am not wet yet so I have to get lube and by the time I lubed him up it just goes away. We tried ...
A. 27 November 2011: Am sure it has nothing to do with you. These are his own issues to deal with. If he has done drugs well then maybe he should go to see a doctor about his problem. Just try and not put any pressure on him for a while. Let him iniciate sex and just ... (read in full...)
I prefer masturbation to girls!
Q. Is that normal? I've been on SSRIs for about a year and stopped a few weeks ago as i'd had enougn of feeling like a zombie and not being able to sleep at night and just being tired all the time and understanding nothing in my lectures. I'm 20 and i...
A. 27 November 2011: Everything you have explained is normal. Honey you are not going to damage yourself from masturbating to much, so just enjoy and and don't worry. Obviously you have no interest in being in a relationship at the moment, there is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)
Is this just mild, controlling behavior or something else?
Q. My bf of 2 years is really a sweet guy but he has this very mild, controlling behavior...For instance, if I ask him if we can get something to eat he will say "no, we just ate" or "no, have patience." At a restaurant, he controls what I eat and ...
A. 27 November 2011: Yes he is being controlling and you are allowing him to control you because you are asking him for these things. You need to take control of your own life. Stop asking him what you can and cannot do and just do what you want to do. If you want to ... (read in full...)
Why do I become nauseous after sex?
Q. I need some ideas as to what might be going on. Lately, it seems anytime I have sex with my husband or even masturbate I get very nauseous right after. I never used to feel like that before and I don't really understand why it's happening now. I ...
A. 27 November 2011: I think you should go to your doctor and just get checked out. It could be just a case of an upset stomach and motion seems to make it worse. But go to you doctor and see what he has to say.... (read in full...)
Does he want me to text him or is he losing interest?
Q. I knew this boy for about 3and a half weeks now we went on a date to the movies everything went great. We Hugged and cuddle he kept staring into my eyes I spoke to his cousin he even said I'm going to meet his cousins one day and we kissed. ...
A. 27 November 2011: You need to slow things down here and stop over analysing everything. If you start worrying about these things so soon then you are just going to end up a wreck. It has only been three weeks so just take it slow and see what happens. It sounds to me ... (read in full...)
I'm not good at showing my feelings. I thought we had a connection Did I give him the impression I didn’t want a relationship?
Q. I met this man out in a bar in the city (5 hours from where I live) one night 5 months ago and we exchanged numbers after really hitting it off. He had to leave at one stage to go to a works party for a few hours but we agreed to meet up again an...
A. 27 November 2011: I think you just need to forget about him now and move on. Maybe he just did not see any future with you both at all because of the distance. I guess it was wrong getting passionate with him so soon in to it, but we all learn from our mistakes. At ... (read in full...)
I see myself as a good guy-but is it possible that I'm a "ladies's man"?
Q. Do I sound like a "Ladies Man" to you? I'm very attracted to girls, I know how to treat a girl, are my best friends. I'm a sweetheart and get along with everyone. I never had a girlfriend before and I believe I can make a girl feel comforta...
A. 27 November 2011: Just be yourself and don't rush these things. Never try to be someone you are not. What is for you won't go by you, so if you are comfortable with who you are and you are confident well that is great. Just go with the flow and see what happens.... (read in full...)
My ex has been in touch but hasn't even hinted about another date
Q. So recently I got back with my ex after breaking up for 2 months(he brought that up). Everything looks ok. But every time it's me who texted him(partly because he wants me to express my feelings more and that's part of the reason why we broke up ...
A. 27 November 2011: Well you said part of the reason you broke up is because he wants you to express yourself. So in this case maybe he is waiting to see if you suggest that the both of you meet up. It should not always be left to him to make the arrangements so why ... (read in full...)
My guy wants me to peg him. In the meantime, how can I practice thrusting?
Q. I'm interested in someone but we're currently two states apart. I'm moving to his city in three weeks, however, and this has been the plan for months as I'll soon graduate college. We met AFTER I made the decision to move. At any rate, he's a 6'3...
A. 27 November 2011: It is going to take some practising to get it right. This is all new to you so off course you are going to have your worries. Tell him you are a little nervous about it and am sure he will settle your nerves for you. Ask him to direct you and just ... (read in full...)
Sexually Frustrated with no attention!!!
Q. I am seriously at a loss. . . I am 23 and my husband is 30. We used to make love ALOT. But as of this year it has gone down drastically to just once a week that barely lasts 15 minutes! I understand that he stresses about work, and he is an ...
A. 27 November 2011: Stress can take a lot out of someone and make there sex drive go way down, am sure it has nothing to do with you personally. Am sure he is still attracted to you but he just has no libido at the moment. The only way to move forward is to try and ... (read in full...)
I love my student and cant tell him, what should I do to let him know
Q. I am 29 years old , works as a lecturer in institute , i am gay and i love my students who is 27 years old, he is always in my mind , i wait the class just to see him , but he seems to be straight and not even interested in me , he doesn't attend my ...
A. 26 November 2011: You don't need me to tell you that a teacher over stepping the mark is completely out of order. You need to let him go, unless you want to lose your job and your career. He will be gone after the year is out and you can use the distance to move ... (read in full...)
Caught between two friends
Q. Dear agony aunts I have a huge problem.I was recently going through sum heavy things at home.my mom broke her leg in 2 places due 2 old age,so I have been taking care of her every need,then within a 2 weeks of that my sister had kidney faillure ...
A. 26 November 2011: The guy you have been seeing has a girlfriend, you are just his bit on the side, someone he can use and then toss away later. You should never have got with him while he was committed to someone else, am sure if you where the girlfriend you wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone you don't have (on paper) a lot in common with?
Q. Hi! I'm 23 and just need a bit of an unbiased ear. I'll try to keep this short but basically in August I asked my guy friend out. He had been single for 6 years and me for 3, we'd v=been flatmates for a year and although very different, grew ...
A. 26 November 2011: Off course it is possible to love someone that you don't have much in common with, and off course you are going to feel sad because it is still all so raw. It sounds like he just does not know what he wants and he is expecting to feel something that ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he likes me?
Q. There's a guy who is in my grade at my school, we hang out just the two of us a lot and do stuff most couples do and it makes me feel like we are a couple. He hasn't asked me out but I like him, he has said before that he liked someone else but ...
A. 26 November 2011: Am afraid honey that there is no way of knowing how he feels unless you ask him. Why not try to flirt with him a little and see how he responds. Ask him would he like to go to the cinema or something with you some night and take it from there. Good ... (read in full...)
LDR: Too soon to move?
Q. So I'm crazy about this guy, he definitely caught me off guard and now I'm head over heels for him. We've been dating 5 months known each other for 6; We met at work and we've been through some rough spots (job loss and rehab) and we came out better ...
A. 26 November 2011: If it is the way that you feel well then there is no point keeping your feelings to yourself. The next time you see him just explain to him the way that you are feeling and see if the both of you can come to some sort of arrangement. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Ok is he flirting with me or friendly?
Q. Hey, basically in August i ended my relationship with my ex who i had been with for 1 year 3 months ( he was cheating on me). But regarding this question, There's a guy at uni who is about 28-30 i'm 21...he's a quiet guy but i talk to him and ...
A. 26 November 2011: It sounds to me like he might be trying his luck with you. Yes maybe he does like you, but you need to be careful here, if his love life is already complicated then am sure you don't want to get involved in that. Just see how it goes and see what ... (read in full...)
Who is bothering my friend?
Q. Hi. Lately,there has been this person on facebook talking to my friend trying to make my friend admit she hates me. Friend emails me with a plan to get rid of her and tells me to go along with it. I tell her okay i will if this person sends me a ...
A. 26 November 2011: Can you think of anything that you have done on your friend that would upset her if she found out about it. Maybe that person has got to her and now she is annoyed at you for whatever reason. The only way this is going to be resolved is if you talk ... (read in full...)
My husband is always on xbox and I am ready to leave him
Q. Dear Cupid I have a problem. My marriage is on the rocks it first started a couple of years ago when out teenage daughter was off the rails which resulted in her drinking getting in trouble with the police everyday she has calmed down now and move...
A. 26 November 2011: Talk to him and tell him it is either make or break. Compromise with him. Tell him the relationship has gone stale and you both need to make an effort to go out even one night a week and be a couple again. Be straight with him and tell him you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend fantasizes about women and lesbian sex. Please help.
Q. My girlfriend is bisexual. And I'm a male. We have the best sex and she always convinces me we have the most wonderful sex, and it really is. But one time she mentioned she missed the lesbian sex and that she fantasised about women while masturba...
A. 26 November 2011: Talk to her about it and tell her how it made you feel. I guess she was just trying to be honest with you about how she feels and it must have been hard for her to do this. It does not mean that she doesn't enjoy the sex with you, because am sure in ... (read in full...)
Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 26 November 2011: Well if that was the case why say that you are FWB's? You referred to it as that in your post because you know that is all that it is. He is using you, and you are going along with it. If you have feelings well then it is time to break of contact ... (read in full...)
Who's in the wrong here and what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what do you think about this situation and who is in the wrong here? my fwb and I have been having sex for 8 months now, I really like him and I thought he did me. we both agreed not to have sex with anyone else, he is a bouncer so I kno...
A. 25 November 2011: Well he has told you he does not want a relationship just sex so I think you are expecting to much here. You have feelings for him so therefore you are going to end up getting hurt. To him he is still single, and finding this stuff in his bedroom is ... (read in full...)
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