He took offence. He said that he wont be disturbing anymore. Can I regain his interest? how?
Q. There is this guy who I have been in the same class with during high school but we have never spoken. He used to see me as a rival back then and disliked me. Last year, he added me on Facebook and would occasionally comment on my status and posts. ...
A. 3 March 2012: You sent him 5 replies without a response, 5 messages can sometimes come off as clingy. I think you need to leave it now and see if he responds. It is hard to tell if he likes you or if he was just playing a game with you, time will tell. But for ... (read in full...)
She has a girlfriend but I think she likes me. I don't know what to do
Q. Hello agony aunts I asked this question a week or so ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-found-out-that-im-bi-from-talking.html and now I'm so confused about her. She has a girlfriend, but I get the feeling she likes me. We flirt a lot and she ...
A. 3 March 2012: Yeah now that she is single then take your time and see what happens, but please remember not to expect to much from her, she is just out of a relationship and you don't want to get hurt yourself so just take things slow.... (read in full...)
My friend has been acting weirdly since I told him that I care alot about him
Q. My mate was getting into some personal trouble, so I recently told him that I care about him a hell of a lot because he's the closest thing I have to a best mate. He doesn't show his emotions except on rare occasions to me when he says he “can't ...
A. 3 March 2012: I totally understand but you are not a therapist and you cannot help him until he wants help. It is obvious at the moment he is dealing with things the wrong way, but if you push him to talk then he will only push you away from him. Be there for him ... (read in full...)
His lacking in love behaviour is confusing me. What should I try to fix this?
Q. Thanks for this :] Basically I've been with my boyfriend a year a half now, were both 17. Things went downhill in January and we argued a lot and was going to split up but we didn't and everything was normal since. Now recently the past couple...
A. 3 March 2012: There is definitely something wrong with him if you have noticed these changes. He is not telling you what is wrong with him because he is not man enough to deal with it, so he does what most men do and pretend that there is nothing wrong. If I were ... (read in full...)
My friend has been acting weirdly since I told him that I care alot about him
Q. My mate was getting into some personal trouble, so I recently told him that I care about him a hell of a lot because he's the closest thing I have to a best mate. He doesn't show his emotions except on rare occasions to me when he says he “can't ...
A. 3 March 2012: My guess is that he is insecure and he does not know how to deal with someone actually caring about him. If it is all new to him and he doesn't know what to do well then he is going to get awkward and it will look like he is pushing you away. It ... (read in full...)
She has a girlfriend but I think she likes me. I don't know what to do
Q. Hello agony aunts I asked this question a week or so ago http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ive-found-out-that-im-bi-from-talking.html and now I'm so confused about her. She has a girlfriend, but I get the feeling she likes me. We flirt a lot and she ...
A. 3 March 2012: I can see that you are very confused at the moment. But what you are experiencing is a crush over the internet. Things might be very very different if you where to ever both meet face to face. When you are chatting to someone over the internet you ... (read in full...)
Do people stop texting each other so much after they are dating?
Q. should i be worried about this? :( basically I am in my first (potential) proper, long-term relationship. we have been official for just over a month now. I have had a string of bad experiences in the past, one after another therefore have q...
A. 3 March 2012: Everyone is different in relationships and everyone has different needs and expectations. If you are feeling like you are not getting enough from him well then you be the one to contact him first, if he does not contact you back then the next time ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to hope? Could he like me all over again?
Q. my ex and i broke up about 8 months ago. it was fairly mutual, but my heart was definitely broken. we started out as good friends, and then he asked me out (i was shocked), and i grew to love him dearly. after our break up, we did want to stay...
A. 3 March 2012: It does sound to me like he never truly got over you. It might not mean that he wants to get in a relationship with you but it sure does mean that he wants you in his life. It can be hard to tell from reading your side of events what exactly it is ... (read in full...)
Were these the actions of a platonic friend, or does she like me?
Q. I am 18 and have a crush on a girl a year younger than me at work. We are both part timers at a restaurant, and our boss owns the bar next door. There was a party in the bar one night and being a dishwasher in the restaurant, I was not needed, but ...
A. 22 February 2012: Totally understand, it does sound like she might like you hear, I honestly think you should make your move and ask her would she like to go for a drink some time.... (read in full...)
Were these the actions of a platonic friend, or does she like me?
Q. I am 18 and have a crush on a girl a year younger than me at work. We are both part timers at a restaurant, and our boss owns the bar next door. There was a party in the bar one night and being a dishwasher in the restaurant, I was not needed, but ...
A. 20 February 2012: It's a tough one to call, because she might just be the caring person and wanted to make sure you where okay. I guess you are never really going to know, so why not just ask her out some time, its the only way you will find out, good luck!... (read in full...)
Recent rocky relationship and now we have an ex back in the picture!
Q. I have been in a relationship for over 6 yrs, but for the past 12 mths it has been rocky, I have asked him to leave but he won't, he thinks.that we will get back to how we. were but I know we won't. I went out at the wkd and saw an ex, he told me ...
A. 20 February 2012: I think you need to follow your heart, life is to short, so if you are unhappy in your relationship at the moment then end it and see if anything happens with this ex. But don't pin all your hopes on to him just take it slow and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
I screwed up, lost my family. I've changed and I want them back!
Q. my wife left me in november and to be fair at first i was glad of the peace and quiet, the background is iv two boys from a previous relationship and my wife has one, we also have a daughter who is now three, we had a whirlwind romance and probably ...
A. 7 February 2012: You need to tell her how you have been feeling. Just be honest with her and ask her is there any chance you can try and work things out again. Tell her you are sorry for what you done and that you know now that you love her and don't want to be ... (read in full...)
I want to see him but I don't want to see him too much so that it becomes a problem!
Q. Hey So, my previous relationship ended as we were spending too much time together. We would see each other almost every day, and when we werent together we would text or call eachother. I'm in a new relationship and dont want to do what i done i...
A. 4 February 2012: Don't compare your last relationship to this one, as everybody is different. Yes it is always good to spend time apart in a relationship, so instead of making plans everyday with your boyfriend try making plans with your friends as well so that they ... (read in full...)
What makes you ask a girl out? When is the best time to do it?
Q. Any thoughts/opinions on this would be appreciated: What sort of things motivate you to ask a girl out? Looks, personality etc? A lot of the time i just ask girls out because of their looks, i'll only have known them for a couple of days and wont ...
A. 4 February 2012: I think the best way is always to just be yourself. Any girl likes being called beautiful so if you get the urge to go up and talk to a girl well then do it, there is no harm in trying the worst that can happen is she can say no but you can bounce ... (read in full...)
Am I needy because I want to spend more time with my b/f?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now. From the beginning, he hasn't been a big communicator. To elaborate, when we aren't together he rarely texts or calls except for when he actually wants to get together. In the beginning that was ...
A. 4 February 2012: I guess if you are not feeling happy in the relationship and you want more from it then you need to be honest with him so that he knows where he stands. Honesty is always the best way to go around these things. Just tell him that you would like some ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my ex that I'm not a player?
Q. I have a problem... months and months ago i started talking to an Ex gf again and we started hanging out more, at the same time i was talking to this brand new girl that my cousin was roommates with, so eventually it got to a point where i wo...
A. 4 February 2012: If it is really bothering you that much then all you need to simply do is write her a letter or an email or even send her a message and just explain to her why you done what you did and what you where thinking at the time. Just be honest with her ... (read in full...)
I am struggling to cope with my demanding new job and my boyfriend keeps suspecting me of having an affair. Help!
Q. I started a job in an open plan office and we get performance assessments based on productivity. My previous job I had my own office and managed my own time. I didn't discuss it with my boyfriend beforehand, I only told him once I had been ...
A. 4 February 2012: He is being very immature and he is acting like a spoilt brat as far as I can see. This sounds like the beginning of controlling behaviour so be aware of that. How long have you been with this guy first? You just need to tell him that you are new ... (read in full...)
Crushing on a guy who likes me back, but...
Q. I liked this guy for such a long time but it was always on and off and it's really complicated. There's no doubt that I never loved him but I guess it was always something like a crush. He never really did admit that he likes me but he always sa...
A. 4 February 2012: I think you are right to concentrate on your exams at the moment. As you said they are important to you and they ensure that you have a good future career wise. I think you just need to be honest with him if he does come up to you and tell him you ... (read in full...)
Tells me his secrets, but complains to his friends, what should I do?
Q. I like this guy, he's a friend of a friend and we talk on Facebook; we get on quite well and he recently revealed to me that he used to be depressed and has scars from it, he asked me not to tell his friends so that might mean they don't know? T...
A. 31 January 2012: First off how do you know that you are not his type? Just because you might be different to a usual type of girl he goes for does not mean that he is not interested in you. First of friendship is always a good base for these things. He has told you ... (read in full...)
Did I make things worse and end up pushing her further away?
Q. after getting into an argument with my crush because I guess I hurt and lied to her. she kind of went nasty. she said mean horrible things to me that day and said to never talk to her again. i still had feelings and tried talking and apologizing to ...
A. 31 January 2012: Well it sounds to me like she was angry at you and therefore she was letting of steam. Although this is fair enough I do agree with you that it is wrong of her to be saying stuff about you over the internet it is not very fair. Obviously you done ... (read in full...)
I like her a lot, she has a girlfriend but do I have a chance?
Q. So I met this girl about 3 or 4 months ago through a mutual friend of ours at a bar. We talked all that night and ended up kissing at the end of the night. Later the following week, I found out that she has a girlfriend. I was really confused and ...
A. 31 January 2012: You are the other woman simple as. If she really wanted to be with you then she would have done the right thing and ended her current relationship, do you honestly feel like you could trust this girl after all of this? I know if it was me then I ... (read in full...)
Falling for her again.
Q. I asked a friend for a relationship last year (about 6 months ago) and she said no. I respected her answer and kept distance for several months as I tried to heal and move on. We are still friends and I enjoy that. Now, I am falling for her...
A. 31 January 2012: I think the best thing you need to do here is to be honest with yourself and to her. Tell her how you feel and see what she has to say, all she can say is no again and at least you know where you stand. You also need to be honest with yourself and ... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 31 January 2012: Wow you are going through a really horrendous time right now, yes you need to make him pay child support and show him that he needs to take responsibility. Is there anybody that you can turn to for help, aunts or uncles? Cousins. Am sure you must ... (read in full...)
Eight months pregnant with twins, but should I break up or make up?
Q. I am eighteen years old and i am eight months pregnant with twins . Idk what to do but first I'll give you the background: My bf is 19 years old and his ex gf lets called her C cheated on him numerous time , she got people to kidnapped him etc and ...
A. 30 January 2012: He obviously is still heavily involved with his ex girlfriend. You cannot trust this man, yes she treated him badly but he still wants more, more fool him for over stepping the mark. Yes you are having twins and it is a scary time for you especially ... (read in full...)
Not being able to contact him is interfering with child visitation
Q. Im at my wits end with my baby sons father. Our son is almost 2 and me and his dad are no longer together. We have a really good routine on having our son, where he will have him for the whole weekend every other weekend and then for a couple of ...
A. 26 January 2012: I completely understand where you are coming from. It is obvious he needs to step up and become responsible. It is clear to me that he just does not want to be contacted from you. I guess he just wants to see his son when he can and when it suits ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I don't like being touched?
Q. Iam a 21 year old male and was wondering if it was normal that I don't like being touched. Every time people touch me I get really uncomfortable. Hand shakes and hugs are the exception and I don't mind any of those. I have had a couple of ...
A. 25 January 2012: There you go then, you know the reason why you have developed this anxiety. I can understand why your mother would want to teach you well, but she took it way over board and did not allow you to so much as touch your cousins arm or hug your sisters. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I don't like being touched?
Q. Iam a 21 year old male and was wondering if it was normal that I don't like being touched. Every time people touch me I get really uncomfortable. Hand shakes and hugs are the exception and I don't mind any of those. I have had a couple of ...
A. 24 January 2012: There is obviously something phycological in your mind that is causing this barrier for you. Where you ever physically harmed when you where younger? Not in a sexual way but it could be something as simple as being slapped that has made you build ... (read in full...)
G spot? Where will I find it? Need to know to use vibrator effectively, thx
Q. What is the best position to hit your 'G' spot with a vibrator? ...
A. 21 January 2012: If I am honest with you all woman are different and when they are masturbating they find that different things work for them as an individual, so all I can really say is to practice what you are doing or else type in to google G spot and follow the ... (read in full...)
I am inexperienced..so how do I deal with my more experienced bf?
Q. I with a guy and things are going really well but the problem is that I am extremely shy when it comes to any physical contact and he is starting to make small comments like he always makes the first move etc. I really like him but I feel ...
A. 21 January 2012: Do not feel silly, age is just a number at the end of the day, it is about experience not age, and you do not have any simple as that. But practice makes perfect. He probably feels you might not want him because he is always the one to make the ... (read in full...)
Runaway from a bad drama
Q. After leaving a guy alone for four months we started kinda of talking again I'm the one that does the communication first and then he response back to me but the problem is that he said he loved me, mind you when we get around others we are fighting ...
A. 19 January 2012: If both of you do not trust each other, then yes I think you are right this is drama and it is best to be left alone. At the end of the day you say you are always the one contacting him, from your post it does not sound to me like he is putting much ... (read in full...)
I'm not an Alpha Male but do I still have a chance with Women?
Q. I have the most bizzar issue in the world of dating and I am certian that I am the only heterosexual male who has encountered this. I've been very successful but I was alway thought of in a negative light by my family so I have never really seen ...
A. 19 January 2012: You need to stop doubting yourself and start trusting that voice deep inside you that is telling you that yes these girls are interested, and you know that they are and yes I am sure you are a very interesting person and someone would be lucky to ... (read in full...)
Doggy style caused a tear. Will it heal on its own?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend around 2 months and was a virgin before I met him. We have a pretty decent sex life and are very happy together. Today, however, we attempted to do doggy-style, which I, obviously, have never done before. It was very ...
A. 19 January 2012: Yes it will heal on its own so it really is nothing to worry about. Just make sure you keep the area as clean as you can. Yes it will be uncomfortable going to the toilet for a couple of days. However it won't take that long to heal. In future just ... (read in full...)
My husband was sex texting his ex and I can't trust him now!
Q. about a year ago i found that my husband to be, was sex texting his ex. i almost left him, but we just had a baby and i really love him (typical). he has been proving to me all year how devoted he is to the family. we r a family of 5. 2 other ...
A. 19 January 2012: You sound like a great person, and yes if he married you I am sure that he loves you and wants to be with you. You say you have been checking up on him since and I guess that you have not found anything which probably does mean that he is being ... (read in full...)
Does he still find me attractive ??
Q. Hey :) Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over nine and a half months, when we first got together we had sex all the time and it was good but now he doesnt seem to want to :\ the last time we made love was just over six weeks again. W...
A. 18 January 2012: To be honest I am not sure why there has been a lack of sex in the relationship but it could be for many reasons, maybe he is stressed, tired, run down, depression, anxiety, it really could be a number of things. You say he still shows affection but ... (read in full...)
Does he actually like me or is he just a flirt?
Q. So there's this guy in my class. My year is really small, so I've sort of known him for the last two years. In the past, because we're both kind of flirtatious in general, I guess you could say we've always flirted with each other. Recently, ...
A. 18 January 2012: It sounds to me like yes he is interested, however I don't know him personally so I might be wrong and he might actually be like this with all girls. It is hard for me to tell. Is he seeing someone long distant at the moment? If he is in a ... (read in full...)
I am in a serious relationship with a man I love and can't get enough of, and I am starting to fall for my friend.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years now. I am happy and complete and we are planning a life of marriage and kids. Things are perfect between us. He still gives me butterflies everytime I see him. We have an incredible ...
A. 17 January 2012: I honestly think the safest thing for you to do is to stay away from this other guy, before this turns in to a real mess. You have only knowing him a few weeks yet you are really happy with your boyfriend. So I think for your own benefit you should ... (read in full...)
I need advice about my friend and my boyfriend!
Q. (Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.) So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month toge...
A. 17 January 2012: I understand you want him as a friend, but you both dated so it can't be just simple to go back to friendship, this is just going to hurt him to much because he has not let go off you, he looks at you as more than a friend, so it is not fair on him, ... (read in full...)
After being deployed several times, this man says he doesn't feel anything about everything. How can I help him?
Q. I dated this guy 8yrs ago... I know long time move on. Anyway we were young and we only dated for a very short while, but e both thought we were in love. We had a horrible break up and didn't communicate for 2years. Well out of the blue we come in ...
A. 16 January 2012: Well if he said that he does not care about anything any more then why would he flip out about you dating that mutual friend all those years ago. Sorry I don't buy it. He obviously cares when that bothered him, if he didn't well then he probably ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to make of my encounters with my brother's friend, who does have a girlfriend.
Q. Ok so for new years me and my siblings wnt out to a club,I'm 18 my brother is 20 and very protective.We met up with his old bestfreind from highschool.His freind was quite goodlooking and could'nt keep his eyes off me,my brother didn't take it that ...
A. 16 January 2012: If I am honest with you, I don't think you should chase him for the simple fact is you know he is involved with someone else, weather it be a girlfriend or not, he seems to still be involved with her, plus he is your brothers friend.
You don't wa... (read in full...)
I snooped and found he has changed his passwords
Q. My boyfriend has changed his passwords on Facebook and gmail without telling me. Am I right to feel insecure about this?... Why has he done this if he has nothing to hide? Or do people not share passwords with their other halves? We have been tog...
A. 16 January 2012: You should never be snooping in the first place. You don't have the right to access his accounts without his permission. He has every right to keep his passwords private I am afraid. You having trust issues are a whole different matter. If you do ... (read in full...)
I went first but my friends didn't follow
Q. Yesturday i went with my 2 best friends that are twins to get friendship tattoos, turned out it was at the mans house. My friends didn't want to go first so i did. Our plan is to get all the same tattoo in the same spot, a Cherry blossom. So he goes ...
A. 16 January 2012: I can understand why you are feeling a little hurt over this and off course you have the right to be annoyed at them. But I guess that is the worst about going first because they obviously didn't like the finished product so they decided against it, ... (read in full...)
I need advice about my friend and my boyfriend!
Q. (Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.) So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month toge...
A. 16 January 2012: Yes it is always best to be honest with your boyfriend so just tell him the truth before he finds out from someone else. Also when it comes to your ex you need to start standing up for yourself and make it clear that he cannot behave like this, to ... (read in full...)
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