Boyfriend and facebook issues. Could it be true that it's her fault he dumped me?
Q. Okay this is weird since just a few hours ago I posted comment about how my boyfriend and how he isnt caring and well he just dumped me like 3 hours ago. I um well I feel really empty and depressed.. And upset because I called that mean girl tha...
A. 3 December 2011: Nobody forced him in to dumping you, it was his choice to make. Yes it is possible that she may have said something to him, but if he trusted you he would have asked you about it instead of just dumping you without any reason, and him doing it over ... (read in full...)
After four years I want something more serious
Q. Hi, Please can someone give me some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years, we enjoy each others company and love each other so much. The problem is that im starting to think about the future id like to live w...
A. 3 December 2011: You need to tell him how you feel. He needs to know the way you are feeling. Communication is key here, so sit down with him and tell him how you have been feeling. Ask him what he wants to do and just see how the conversation goes. ... (read in full...)
I miss the freedom and thrill of being single but I do love my boyfriend and don't want to lose him!
Q. I'm having a difficult time at the moment. I've been with my partner for 3 years now and I love him to pieces. However I miss the freedom and thrill of being single. I don't want to lose him as I love him so much but I'm not sure what to do. My boss ...
A. 3 December 2011: If you love your boyfriend then do not cheat on him, if you do well then it is obvious you don't love him, because you will end up hurting him, and we do not hurt the people that we love by cheating on them!!! If you want to have some fun with your ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, but what does his behaviour mean?
Q. So I like this guy and me and him are really good friends we have two period together. We both flirt with each other. In one of the periods its just us two and none of our other friends are really in it. And in that class hes "normal" we still flirt ...
A. 3 December 2011: Guys always act different around there friends at school. It is just the way it is. I guess he just feels like he needs to put on an act around his guy friends so that he fits in. Believe me it is perfectly normal. If you like him carry on with the ... (read in full...)
The issue doesn't warrant us breaking-up, but it really bothers me!
Q. Hi. I'm in a mostly-happy, well-adjusted four year relationship. I'm pretty good about not sweating the small stuff, but what about the medium stuff? How do I get past a relationship issue that really bothers me, but that I can't resolve and isn't ...
A. 3 December 2011: I think you need to try and meet him in the middle hear. He feels like he is the one that has made the sacrifice of moving away to be with you, and I guess if he is tired he just finds it easier to stay with his parents. My guess is that even though ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't showing concern for my problem!
Q. Hi there. Okay I'm having a serious problem now with my boyfriend "Jim". Everything was going fine until just three days ago. One of my best friends got all mad at me because I was TRYING to comfort her after the guy she really liked rejected...
A. 3 December 2011: This is a hard one, maybe he felt awkward about this situation and didn't want to say anything about it. Well at the end of the day girls fall out all of the time, and I guess he just didn't want to get involved because it was between you and your ... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my ex which I know are unhealthy
Q. Hi everyone I am in a dilemma right now because I just realized I still got some feelings for my ex which I know is not healthy. Me and her rarely see each other again even though we are in the same town. It is really weird that I still have ...
A. 2 December 2011: If you like her well then go and talk to her, ask her to join you for lunch and see what she says, but do you actually like this girl or is it just a case of you think she likes you so you will go ahead and see if anything can happen. Because you ... (read in full...)
He said he might like me if he happens to see me again.
Q. This guy added me on facebook I had seen him out a couple of times but never spoken to him I knew of one of his friends. To cut a long story short we swapped numbers and had been texting for months. He wanted to know when I would be out again so ...
A. 2 December 2011: You need to get to know him face to face. He says maybe because he doesn't actually know how the both of you will get on together, and neither do you, texting someone and having a conversation together is completely different. To me it doesn't ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat or is it all in my head?
Q. hey everyone I have bi polar disorder and depression and anxiety issues and paranoia...(yeah I know its a big nice gift right?) anyways...I am engaged to my fiance (obviously thats why hes my fiance lol) but lets see...a few months back I found a ...
A. 2 December 2011: You know yourself that the condom wrapper was probably the same one he put in his pocket when you where clearing up the flat, no reason to flip out over that because at the end of the day it was from his ex and he was honest. However I can ... (read in full...)
I am his finacee. So why is he saying we are still "dating"? Shouldn't he see our relationship as more than "dating" now?
Q. Hi~ I have a question... when my "fiance" told me we are still dating is that consider the normal term to say?? since our relationship has committed to each other and going to get married I kind confused.... ...
A. 1 December 2011: Talk to him and ask him what he meant by this, everyone uses the term 'dating' in different ways. So instead of some confusion between the two of you ask him to explain to you what he meant by it as it has got you confused. Am sure he will explain ... (read in full...)
If I make the first move but then find he doesn't like me, will it freak him out?
Q. So there's this guy I REALLY like. He's only one month older than me, he's really sweet, smart, VERY funny, and he's country. I feel like we were made for each other. Were SO much alike. We always joke around and play holding hands in class and I ...
A. 1 December 2011: No I don't think it would freak him out, it sounds to me like you are both quite close at the minute so am sure it won't come as a huge surprise to him that you like him. I guess you can just do whatever you feel comfortable with, maybe flirt with ... (read in full...)
I want to let him know that I'll be thinking of him, should I write this short story?
Q. i posted earlier about this situation between this guy and I. So my next question... We've been kind of shaky since September, but I really do care a lot about this guy. At this point, I'm not afraid to put myself out there. I want this gu...
A. 1 December 2011: I think you should follow your own heart on this one. If it is something that you want to do then I say you should go for it. It sounds like a really nice idea, and it will give him something to remind him of you while you are away. Keeping it ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or did our date put him off?
Q. [Mod note: could you please add your age and his in a followup? That will help you get age-appropriate advice. Thank you.] I met this great guy through a friend. We met at my friends birthday party, swapped numbers and have been texting every day ...
A. 1 December 2011: Well I think you should just give this one some time. Your instinct might be right, however you may be over reacting a little bit to soon and becoming paranoid. It has only been a couple of days. Maybe he just does not want to come on to strong or ... (read in full...)
Can my ex be my confidante?
Q. My ex-boyfriend is amazing. I know it sounds weird since he's my ex, but that's it's own story. Anyway, I've been going through some incredibly tough times lately, and I really need someone close by to talk to. I can't handle everything alone. And ...
A. 1 December 2011: To be honest I don't think it is the best idea to lean on your ex boyfriend. Unless you both talk to each other and you are both sure that it is only friendship you want and you or him have no romantic feelings involved any more well then yes that ... (read in full...)
Is my friend crushing on me?
Q. hello there. Well I have this problem. This girl was my best friend throughout elementary school. At middle school we drifted apart and had separate sets of friends. My class changed and now I'm with her. She's really popular and has a huge amount o...
A. 1 December 2011: Maybe she misses your friendship and she just feels awkward around you and she wants that closeness back. Why not try and get the friendship back on track and see how it goes. ... (read in full...)
How can I best move a flirtatious friendship into a solid relationship without seeming needy?
Q. first i would like to say thanks for reading this. second, i have a bit of an issue. i have a fair amount of girls in my life right now which im happy with, but ive been single for a while now and want something that's meaningful. how can i best ...
A. 1 December 2011: Well first of you need to find a girl that you really like and that you would see yourself with in a serious relationship, once you find her well then all you need to do is be honest with her and tell her you like her and ask her would she like to ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble understanding how to make him realize I'm screaming out for love, help and affection?
Q. Dear Cupids, I need a bit of help and dont know where to run. To cut a long story short Ive been with my partner (lets call him Steven*) for 2 and a half years, we have a 9 month old little boy together. During the first month or so a...
A. 30 November 2011: Honey please don't stay with him just for the sake of the baby because that will never work. To me it sounds like he has lost his love for you and he is probably just staying with you for the security and because you both have a baby. But it is ... (read in full...)
My B/f is always telling me how hot he thinks I am, but he never seems to be in the mood for sex any more
Q. I'm 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 18 months now, we love eachother very much, and also find eachother very attractive. We used to have sex practically everyday, I'd dress up for him and everything, then we went to having sex 3-4 times a ...
A. 30 November 2011: Talk to him about it and see how he feels. It could be that he is stressed in other areas of his life at the moment or else he is just going through a stage where is libido is low. There could be plenty of reasons, but you will only find out if you ... (read in full...)
Would it seem odd if I added him on Facebook and asked him how he is doing?
Q. I have this guy that I am in college with I have had a crush on him since we started school. I have never had a full conversation with him just small talk. So I just found out he was in a motorcycle accident and lost 2 of his fingers a pretty ...
A. 30 November 2011: No I don't think it would be odd, just tell him that you heard what happened him and that you hope he is OK. It is not like you are a complete stranger to him, so am sure he will see it as the kind gesture it is and not think it is creepy at all. I ... (read in full...)
Should I Kiss him or wait for him to kiss me?
Q. My best friend is just under 3 years older than me. Her boyfriend's best friend has feelings for me and tries to get up close and personal all the time. I find this very sweet but extremely annoying at the same time. I do think he is hot though and ...
A. 30 November 2011: Thanks for the information. Well if you like him, and it is clear that he is showing you signs that he likes you, well then I say why not go for it, you have nothing to lose. ... (read in full...)
Should I Kiss him or wait for him to kiss me?
Q. My best friend is just under 3 years older than me. Her boyfriend's best friend has feelings for me and tries to get up close and personal all the time. I find this very sweet but extremely annoying at the same time. I do think he is hot though and ...
A. 30 November 2011: When you say your best friend is three years older than you, well then what age is this guy that is coming around to your house? Is he three years older than you as well, and if so what are both of your ages?
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My pattern of preferring much older men is starting to bother me. But are men in their 30s discounting me for dating older men?
Q. I'm a 31 year old woman. I live alone and have a career that I love. I'm fairly attractive. I would say I'm an 8 out of 10 on most days. I don't have a desire to get married. I have a healthy fear of getting pregnant or catching a disease. I ...
A. 30 November 2011: Well you are not doing any thing wrong here, you are an adult. At the end of the day age is just a number and you should stop worrying about people judging you, your love life is your business not anybody else's. If that is who you are attracted to ... (read in full...)
Need help with boys!
Q. i am 13 and in 7th grade. how do i get boys in my grade (in my school) to like me as a friend and then maybe date me later on in life? but i don't know how! cause honestly i tried flirting, being nice i tried the best i could but now i need some ...
A. 30 November 2011: Am sorry honey but you cannot make any one in this world like you. Maybe the boys in your class are just not mature enough to want a girlfriend. You are still very young, so just enjoy your youth and have fun with the friends that you already have. ... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby and nothing the doctors are doing is working...advice please!
Q. I really want to have a baby. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and I have had no luck. I did have an unsuccessful pregnancy in the past with a previous boyfriend. I was pregnant with twin girls for 5 months and had to deliever them ...
A. 30 November 2011: You and your boyfriend should go to the doctor together and talk to your doctor and ask him what the story is. Maybe there is nothing wrong, sometimes it just takes a long time to fall pregnant, and with what your body went through two years ago ... (read in full...)
I find the thought of my girlfriend with another guy arousing, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Is something wrong with me? I don't know why but I find the thought of my girlfriend with other guys very arousing. I don't know why but I do. When she was going out with other guys it hurt like crazy, like I was having an emotional heart attack b...
A. 30 November 2011: No there is nothing wrong with you at all. It is just a fantasy in your head and it should stay there. There is no harm to what you are thinking at all, but don't tell your girlfriend about this, because she might take it the wrong way and think you ... (read in full...)
She just isn't tight anymore. Should I say anything?
Q. My wife of a decade years used to be extremely tight. I could barely push in to her. We have not had any kids and yet now when we have sex she feels very loose. There is almost no friction. It's hard to even get off sometimes because (pardon ...
A. 30 November 2011: Could there be a chance that she is pregnant? I guess the only way to tighten these muscles is to do some kegel exercises. Am not sure that there is a nice way to talk to her about this though without hurting her feelings, so I guess it is up to you ... (read in full...)
In love with my friend, but I'm not a lesbian! How do I handle this?
Q. I would like your opinions on this one and if possible some advice you could give... I am in love with a close friend of mine. We are always together every time and we always talk about topics related to crushes and love. I've loved her for al...
A. 30 November 2011: Are you sure it is a sexual attraction you feel towards her and not just a loving and protective one? I mean think about it, do you see yourself actually wanting to be with this girl, in a relationship with her, and having a sexual relationship with ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out? And how do I keep my family out of it?
Q. So there is this girl I like at school(I am in the 8th grade) and I would like to ask her out but I have no idea how to do it or where to go. We are both not very popular so I'm not going after some one out of my league.I also worry how my family ...
A. 29 November 2011: Ah believe me all families are embarrassing and everyone worries about bringing home there first girlfriend or boyfriend. But try not to worry to much about that for the time being. First you need to get talking to this girl and see if you both have ... (read in full...)
Will I ever have a chance with my ex again?
Q. well my ex (tom) is my one of my 2 best friends (we broke up 2 and a half year ago when we were only 16). I was with another guy for more then one year but one and a half months ago we broke up...after that tom acted really flirty sometimes and we ...
A. 29 November 2011: If you are not going to mess with there relationship well then I guess you just need to forget about this and move forward and accept that he only sees you as a friend and nothing else. Sure he speaks to you everyday, that is because he thinks very ... (read in full...)
Why would this girl run away when she knew that it was little encounters like that are the only time we can talk? Shy, embarrassed or not interested?
Q. Hey, A question about shy girls. A friend told this girl that I like her. Me and this girl have never really spoken but have held eye contact and smiled on quite a few occasions. Since then she has been asking another mutual friend (female) ...
A. 29 November 2011: I think she might have been a little bit shy and was unsure about what to say or do so she just walked away. I don't think she knows how to start a conversation with you or how to get the ball rolling. So why don't you try and get her phone number ... (read in full...)
Can a guy get that upset because his woman didn't watch the sports with him?
Q. Grab a cuppa cause this is long-winded and far too perculair for me to work out on my own :). We've been together a year and I've always been here for him. He'd just come back from golf and I said to him lets go into town. He said he didn't want t...
A. 29 November 2011: He was probably having a bad day, and I guess he is just carrying it on now because he is being stubborn. Give it a day or two for everything to calm down, then sit him down and ask him is the relationship in trouble and have you done something ... (read in full...)
How long should someone shall wait to date again once being dumped and heartbroken?
Q. It's not me. Is a guy I like, his long time GF dumped him 7 months ago and he is deeply heartbroken. As a result, he's always been a womanizer and now that she dumped him he's again on the loose fooling around girls. B/C he is being like that he saw ...
A. 29 November 2011: I think you should cut your ties here and move forward, he has hurt you in the past he will do it again, since his girlfriend dumped him he has lost all respect for woman and he is treating them like dirt. Including you, OK so yes he may have ... (read in full...)
How do I convert this one way love into two ways?
Q. Recently , I joined dating-site and got a 49 years old American lady interested but she said she could only be good friend as I am too young for her being 30 years old. She added me on Yahoo Messenger and she looks 10 years younger than her age....
A. 29 November 2011: To be honest I don't believe in somebody asking a person to be in a relationship with them before even meeting them. Yes am sure you both get on well over the internet but when face to face with each other it could be completely different. You are ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with an EX who is with someone else... Do I go for it or no
Q. Okay so here is my problem. Ive been sleeping with my ex boyfriend (we will call him Chad) but chad is kind of still with his Baby mama. I am 19 years old and we havnt dated since I was around 15. When we was in jail we wrote n we decided we would ...
A. 29 November 2011: I think you need to tell him how you have been feeling, it seems to me like he thinks on your part you just want sex. But when feelings get involved it becomes messy and it is no more no strings attached sex. You need to sit down with him and tell ... (read in full...)
I am totally messed up when it comes to relationships/sex/dating.
Q. Hi! I really need some advice and input from all of you wise people out there! :) I am 19. I've been in two relationships. The first one was at 15 and lasted for 2 months. The second one was at 17 and lasted a month. I dumped both of them. I ...
A. 28 November 2011: Yes it sounds like you are looking for love from a father figure as suppose to a romantic incline. You won't let anyone in emotionally because you are absolutely petrified of allowing a guy to hurt you, I guess you saw your mother hurt and you have ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with an EX who is with someone else... Do I go for it or no
Q. Okay so here is my problem. Ive been sleeping with my ex boyfriend (we will call him Chad) but chad is kind of still with his Baby mama. I am 19 years old and we havnt dated since I was around 15. When we was in jail we wrote n we decided we would ...
A. 28 November 2011: you sounds very confused about what you want. Answer me this, how did it make you feel to find out your boyfriend had cheated on you with other girls? I bet it didn't feel to good did it? So why are you doing the same to another girl, this is really ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with an abortion at 21 weeks?
Q. im 21 weeks pregnent with no family around me they all live in australia and my partner has decided to leave me and now wants nothing to do with my child and me i dont think ii can do this whole thing on my own so have recently thought about ge...
A. 28 November 2011: You need to talk to the abortion clinic about details, as not many of them will allow a termination that far in to the pregnancy. So ring them up and ask them what the procedure will involve. I don't think it will be the pill they will give you, so ... (read in full...)
What to do about his ex over the holidays?
Q. We're just hitting our one yr mark and he's going to be on holiday visiting family. His ex of 15 yrs and FWB up until we started dating lives near his family. They have always visited and/or hooked up over the holidays. I'm scared to death his ...
A. 28 November 2011: I guess there is nothing that you can do about this. Either you trust him or you don't. Why not suggest that you spend the holidays with him at his family? I guess you just need to talk to him about how worried you are about this. That is all you ... (read in full...)
I had to move back to my parents house and now I cant stop crying whenever I see my boyfriend who I used to live with!
Q. Hello I have been with my boyfriend over 2 years and half and we lived together for 2 years but i had to move back to my parents house as my uni is finished and they never knew about him. I love my boyfriend more than anything in this world but the ...
A. 28 November 2011: You are an adult now not a child or a stroppy teenager. Stand on your own to feet, get a job and save enough money so that you can move back with him. Why the secrecy? Tell your parents about your boyfriend, at least then they can accept that you ... (read in full...)
Does she see me as more than a friend?
Q. Hi, I would really appreciate some feedback. I've been really good friends with this girl for a while now, I've always known who she was, but in the last couple of months, I've really gotten to know her. We have a couple classes together, so I s...
A. 28 November 2011: You have nothing to lose here, it sounds to me like yes she might be interested so just go for it and ask her out, if she says no well am sure after a while you can both be close friends again after a few awkward moments. It does not mean the end of ... (read in full...)
Afraid I'm addicted to porn
Q. Ok well i REALLY need advice..here it goes.. Him im 13 and i am adicted to watching porn.. Its kinda wrong but i cant stop watching it.. I masterbate to it till i Ejaculate when ever my parent leave to the store i rush to the computer and go on a ...
A. 28 November 2011: You are just exploring your sexuality and wondering about sex and wanting to learn about it. Off course porn is going to turn you on and it is normal to masturbate to it. Just make sure it doesn't effect you and becomes an obsession. It is ok to do ... (read in full...)
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