She has a boyfriend, so what does she want from me? Am I the back up guy?
Q. hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. ...
A. 17 April 2012: I think you done the right thing, at the end of the day if she really wants to be with you then she would end things with her boyfriend so she could be with you. If she contacts you again and brings this up you need to be straight with her and tell ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, so what does she want from me? Am I the back up guy?
Q. hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. ...
A. 6 April 2012: Your welcome.... (read in full...)
Minty tingles while giving head?
Q. dear cupid, soo, i've heard that if you chew gum while giving head or suck on a breath mint or something like that right before you do it, the mintiness will cause a kind of tingling sensation for the guy. what i want to know is, does it actually...
A. 4 April 2012: Yes it is safe, and with some guys if the mint is strong enough then yes it might add tingling, but that does not mean it works with everyone though, so I suggest you see what he wants. Also try the mint as well and see if there is any difference.... (read in full...)
Is his behavior that of a narcisstic person?
Q. is he nacisstic? day to day we r fine if i do not ask him anything personal. We r just getting back together b/c a few yr's ago he cheated and tried to make me feel our past arguments or something I had done made him justified n it my fault. I ...
A. 4 April 2012: Sweetie it is simple he does not want you, but he does not want any one else to have you... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, so what does she want from me? Am I the back up guy?
Q. hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. ...
A. 4 April 2012: She has no right to be jealous at the end of the day she was the one in the relationship, now you are moving on and she does not like it. please try and move on from her and concentrate on your new relationship... (read in full...)
Is his behavior that of a narcisstic person?
Q. is he nacisstic? day to day we r fine if i do not ask him anything personal. We r just getting back together b/c a few yr's ago he cheated and tried to make me feel our past arguments or something I had done made him justified n it my fault. I ...
A. 4 April 2012: No it is not, what it is, is that he does not love you. He is cheating on you that much is clear and he is treating you like a door matt and you are letting him. Honey I know that it is harsh, but you are looking for an excuse for his behaviour, and ... (read in full...)
How can I become more comfortable in counseling?
Q. I've been going to my college's free counseling center for awhile now. I've always had major difficulty trusting and opening up to people, and that is one of the main reasons why I went there: to finally be able to do this. Sometimes my sessions...
A. 4 April 2012: This is her job and believe me she will know you cannot make eye contact because you feel vulnerable and awkward you do not need to tell her this, but the thing is, it is her job she is there to help you and to allow you to bring your barrier down, ... (read in full...)
Priorities! My shift I was meant to work? Cover another shift? Or my friend and the concert?
Q. A friend from work asked me to go to a show with him tomorrow night. I really want to go, because I'm new to this town and I don't really have any friends here yet (apart from the people I see every day at work) and I have trouble making frie...
A. 4 April 2012: I think you should go to the show, you only live once, ask your manager is there anyway that you can get the time off, explain to them that you are new to town and you don't know many people and it means a lot to you.... (read in full...)
Despite being bi why don't I connect emotionally with female partners? I feel conflicted about this
Q. I've always considered myself bi, but as time goes on I find that I'm attracted to both women and men sexually, but emotionally I can't connect to girls.. With guys it happens easily and I feel comfortable around them. I'm not sure what my sexual ...
A. 4 April 2012: Maybe it means that you are gay and that is the way that you are meant to be. Try not to worry yourself over this and just enjoy life. At the end of the day whoever you are meant to be with, whatever sex you need to be comfortable with them so just ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't seem to be interested in having sex with me anymore?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend now for 6 years and we are engaged to be married. We have lived together for 5 years and get on well with little problems. The only major problem for me is he doesn't seem to be interested in having sex with me anym...
A. 4 April 2012: It could be many things that is causing this. He might be stressed with work and just run down and tired. You both need to start adding a bit of spice back in to your relationship. Tell him again your worries and fears and see if there is anything ... (read in full...)
Is there a name for my weird fetish?
Q. Hi When I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different. I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like...
A. 4 April 2012: This is not a fetish at all. Believe me people think off all sorts when they masturbate, they just don't talk about it to others, so now you are feeling that the things you think about are not normal when they are. Please don't worry about it as ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? I have not seen him for three years!
Q. There's a guy I know that I've know since I was 11 years old and at 11 I liked him (a lot) and I heard rumours that he liked me, but being young and stupid we were too scared to do anything about it. When he was 12/13 he moved to Spain and I thou...
A. 3 April 2012: Yeah I do think that he likes you, but that doesn't mean anything is going to happen between the both of you. There is a lot of distance between the both of you so I don't think anything long term could work between the both of you unless one of you ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's possible that he is totally over his ex?
Q. a guy im seeing broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years last christmas, so its only been 3 months but we're getting pretty serious. i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years last august and im totally over it now, but do you think it is possible for ...
A. 3 April 2012: Everybody is different when it comes to relationships and how they get over it. Talk to him about it and tell him your worries, if he gets moody about it or he snaps and you and tells you he does not want to talk about it then I would be worried ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, so what does she want from me? Am I the back up guy?
Q. hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. ...
A. 3 April 2012: It sounds to me like this started off as an innocent friendship and now it has became so much more. I guess the only person that can give you answers to these questions is her. I think she really enjoys talking to you through messages but I don't ... (read in full...)
I have a great boyfriend and a great future with him, so why cant I stop thinking about my ex?
Q. Id greatly appreciate it if you could read this and maybe help set my mind at ease or tell me whats wrong or going on in my mind. I met a guy online years ago, got to know him, met him in real, fell in love and things were amazing with him. We we...
A. 3 April 2012: I don't think you are scared off commitment, I think it is simply your ex has admitted to you a couple of months ago that he misses you and you spent so much off your time wanting him that it is making you questions yourself and your life you have ... (read in full...)
I am not sure what I should do!
Q. MOD NOTE: Two questions from same asker combined into one: I am currently in a relationship. I have been hurt alot in the past and I don't want to get hurt again. I have told my boyfriend this and he assures me that he will not hurt me. How do I tel...
A. 3 April 2012: I know how you feel, but you do know deep down that you will get hurt and believe me you will be a lot worse of them if you don't end this now. Just ask him to stop contacting you and delete all his contact details. Keep yourself distracted and busy ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly working late. Is he cheating?
Q. Hello, im slightly worried dont know if im paranoid but, but my gut feeling is telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me, and your gut instinct is always right, right? My boyfriend works at a m.o.t place not far from where i live. He normally...
A. 3 April 2012: Well if he has broken your trust before then that's a different story, but what was it that he didn't trust about your ex, had you done anything wrong on him to make him do that? It sounds like you both need to sit down and talk about this properly.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend suddenly working late. Is he cheating?
Q. Hello, im slightly worried dont know if im paranoid but, but my gut feeling is telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me, and your gut instinct is always right, right? My boyfriend works at a m.o.t place not far from where i live. He normally...
A. 2 April 2012: To be honest he might just be genuine and you could just be jumping to conclusions here? Do you not trust him? Obviously not if you feel just because he has been working a few days late you automatically think he is cheating on you. I guess the only ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. What should I do?
Q. I think my best friend's boyfriend is cheating on her. To give you some background: My best friend (A) has been with her boyfriend (R) for about 4 years. R and my boyfriend (P) are also best friends since they were kids. This weekend I was s...
A. 2 April 2012: Well it sounds like he is obviously looking to get with another girl even if he has not already done so yet and off course it is not nice for your friend. But you where the one that went snooping here so I think you need to tell your boyfriend what ... (read in full...)
I am not sure what I should do!
Q. MOD NOTE: Two questions from same asker combined into one: I am currently in a relationship. I have been hurt alot in the past and I don't want to get hurt again. I have told my boyfriend this and he assures me that he will not hurt me. How do I tel...
A. 1 April 2012: I think you should just give up. He is using you and your self esteem is really low as it is so this will not help you. Stop talking to him and try and find a man who will give you what you deserve. This guy will only hurt you again and thats not ... (read in full...)
Have any guys on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 30 March 2012: Why not try to join some social clubs? Take up a sport or a hobby is a good way of meeting new people. Personally I know quite a few guys who would go to a pub on there own. Its good that you are looking at different options, so in my opinion its ... (read in full...)
Have any guys on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 30 March 2012: Why not try to join some social clubs? Take up a sport or a hobby is a good way of meeting new people. Personally I know quite a few guys who would go to a pub on there own. Its good that you are looking at different options, so in my opinion its ... (read in full...)
Is there any way he'll want to be with me and try to work things out?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for like three months and then he fly over to see me and we had vacation together for a month. we had the best time ever. we had fights sometime . well it's happened like almost everyday speaks about some silly little ...
A. 29 March 2012: It sounds to me like he has made his mind up however hard that is for you. You both argued a lot and he saw that and felt like it would never work between the both of you, he doesn't want you to move to be with him because he feels the both of you ... (read in full...)
Is he truly intersted in finding out more or being a bit too chatty with me?
Q. Just over a month I was sitting in my local pub and got talking to this guy who happened to be interested in joining a local council group which I was already part of. We talked about that and other things for an hour (even with my friend butting in ...
A. 29 March 2012: Yes off course you would find it strange, so would I. But it seems its the only topic he knows about to start a conversation there fore he keeps bringing it up to talk to you. Its clear that its only an excuse to get talking to you to be honest.... (read in full...)
She is going through a really tough time and is hardly speaking to me, what should I do?
Q. We have been dating for a year and a half. She stopped talking to me. For 7 days nothing. I wrote a five Page letter saying how I feel about her and ect. I texted her to check these fake mailboxes where I put it. The next day I get this text say...
A. 27 March 2012: It looks like there is nothing much that you can do in a situation like this. She knows that you are there for her and you will be good to her but she is ignoring this and she obviously has her reasons. She has had a hard time and been controlled ... (read in full...)
Is he truly intersted in finding out more or being a bit too chatty with me?
Q. Just over a month I was sitting in my local pub and got talking to this guy who happened to be interested in joining a local council group which I was already part of. We talked about that and other things for an hour (even with my friend butting in ...
A. 27 March 2012: It sounds to me like he just found that this topic would get him chatting to you therefore he has used it to try and get t know you better. If you like him and think he is a nice guy then go for it and get to know him better, because from what I ... (read in full...)
Will it work out with this guy I am dating or my ex?
Q. So i have a few dilemmas.com Dilemma #1: I have been dating this guy, who lives 7 hours away, for about 4 months now. I feel so in love with him. He is my evrything and I want to be with him so bad. My problem is I also have a daughter with my ex so...
A. 21 March 2012: Dilemma one, to be honest with you I am unsure how this relationship is going to work out long term, have you both sat down and spoke about it? Obviously you don't want to move away and take your daughter away from her father, which is great, good ... (read in full...)
Is she jealous of her best friend being with my best friend because she has feelings for him, or is she jealous of their engagement?
Q. well im not sure how to explain this its kinda odd i suppose and may make me look like an a$$ but it bothers me and i need a lil help ive been datin my gf for about 2 years and her best friend is now engaged to my best friend which tore our f...
A. 21 March 2012: I don't think she is jealous that her friend is with your best friend, my guess is that she is just jealous of her friend as a person. It could be lots off things, maybe she thinks she is better looking than she is. Maybe she is jealous that she is ... (read in full...)
It bothers me that I know more about him than he does about me!
Q. My friend is a guy and he says he trusts me alot which is good but he doesn't know why he trusts me and he knows very few actual things about me. We go through phases where we are very good friends but like I said, he barely knows anything about me ...
A. 21 March 2012: I understand how you are feeling, you put in the effort to ask him questions and get to know him as a person but he doesn't seem bothered in getting to know you, off course it would bug you and make you feel that he is just not interested. This ... (read in full...)
I don't think he'd go the extra mile and try to sweep me off my feet
Q. Hi im 20 and my bf is 29...he is a good man very humble funny family oriented and jus a no worry person and god fearing. Weve been talkin for 6 m mths and we jus started talkin in aug...so the holidays were around the corner and his family is ...
A. 21 March 2012: To me it sounds like you are not happy in this relationship, and if I am honest and it was me then I would be the same. He seems to put everyone else in front of you and you are a last resort. To be honest if I was in this position I wouldn't put up ... (read in full...)
Gone from texting all day every day to him not replying to my messages, what is going on?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I text each other like all day everyday, and its been going on for months. Suddenly one day in mid conversation he stopped texting me and even though i kept texting him he wouldnt reply, and then at like 9pm he sent me this ...
A. 14 March 2012: sometimes in relationships after being together a while, things dye down and people don't feel the need to keep in contact so much as it was in the beginning, so I am guessing he is just probably slowing it down because you both should be spending ... (read in full...)
We were so in love, it's a year later and I still can't stop thinking about him.
Q. Why do I still love him after all these time? is there something wrong with me? I miss my ex boyfriend so much. I loved him so much, I never stopped loving him. We were so in love. We did everything together. He introduced me to his family and...
A. 14 March 2012: It sounds to me like he was your first true love and yes it is a very hard thing to get over. But I bet if you look back to how you felt a year ago and how you feel now there is a difference, really it just takes time and a positive attitude. No ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to this guy without making it seem like I'm flirting? I just want a friend!
Q. I'm thirteen. There is this guy who has a girl friend, he is also thirteen and I just want to be friends with him, as he is really nice guy, but I don't know how to get to know him better without it seeming like I'm flirting with him, because in ...
A. 14 March 2012: Just because you want to get to know a guy better and be a friend does not mean that you will automatically be looked at as if you are flirting with him. Just be friendly. I know being shy is really hard but just talk to him in general. Ask him how ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my best friend I love him?
Q. hi! so i had asked earlier if i should tell my best friend that i love him or not. and so i've finally decided to do so,but i am a bit confused as to how to tell him this.can you please help me and tell me that how should i put up the qs so that he ...
A. 14 March 2012: You just need to be honest with him. Just tell him how you feel about him and that no matter how he feels you will always be friends with him.... (read in full...)
My beat friend's behavior is scaring me..
Q. A bit of background: my best friend (A) has had 2 boyfriends before. With the first one, she just casually dated him for like a month and then they split up. Then she had her second boyfriend, who she was in love with. He was an asshole, cheated on ...
A. 12 March 2012: You are right to be concerned that makes you a really good friend. It sounds to me like your friend has really low self esteem probably because all she has ever knowing is that guys cheat on her, so she is fragile at the moment and still quite ... (read in full...)
Is he more relaxed with me now?
Q. I apologise for what may seem like a silly question in advance. I made contact with a guy whom I had dated many years ago (20 years) on facebook. I had always known him as Jim and I have always kept in contact with his sister over the years. His n...
A. 12 March 2012: Maybe he is just used to signing his name of as James and that is why he got in to the habit of doing it. I really wouldn't read to much in to it or else it will drive you crazy. Why not mention the change you noticed and see what he has to say. ... (read in full...)
Flirting friend -- joking or is there something more?
Q. My 18 year old female friend at work tends to flirt a lot with me in bars and clubs, but I am not sure whether this is jokey or serious. She is NOT the type to go sleeping around or however you want to put it. She has not dated anyone for ages and ...
A. 12 March 2012: If you really like her then go for it. Yes it does sound like you both like each other but both of you are waiting for the other to make a move, it will never happen if one of you don't stand up and make that move. So find some courage and ask her ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's cousin told her mother lies about me, and now my girlfriend has to choose between me or her! How can I show her mother I'm not what she thinks I am?
Q. My gf and i have dated for the past 2yrs and all has been well until recently her cousin accused her for sleeping with her husband on which its a lie. now her cousin approached my gf's mother and told her lies about everything even about me, telling ...
A. 12 March 2012: Well if she doesn't have the courage to do it then you will need to stand up and defend yourself, have you ever actually met her parents face to face? Talk to them and tell them that it is all lies and that you can prove yourself. It will show them ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable traveling outside of my town but if I don't I may lose my benefits!
Q. This isn't a relationship problem, but i hope someone can help. I am currently receiving Jobseeker's Allowance, which are benefits we have here in the UK. I tried to get on Disability Benefits once. You ahve to have an assessment, but i failed it ...
A. 12 March 2012: What exactly is it you fear about travelling outside of your home town? Has this stemmed from an issue from your past or is it just a fear of the unknown? If you refuse to go on the work programme they can stop your payments completely. Therefore ... (read in full...)
Dating but I still have feelings for my ex. I'm torn!
Q. My boyfriend left the country. He was away for over a year. Now he is back I am in a new relationship but it has been turbulent from the beginning because my new guy still had feelings for his ex gf. They broke up because he had to leave the country ...
A. 12 March 2012: This new relationship is never going to work for you both because you are both still pining for your ex's. I honestly think the healthy thing to do here is for you both to go your separate ways before one of you gets hurt.... (read in full...)
Girls Texting My BF Is Pissing Me Off....... HELP!!!!
Q. How do I tell my bf that I do not want a specific girl (maybe 2 now) to text him the way that they do. No I do not know what is said during the conversations because I do not look at his phone. I do know that the main one in particular has deeper ...
A. 12 March 2012: Just sit down with him and tell him that some times it gets to you that she texts him so much because you know that she wants to be more than his friend. At least you know that its not really your place to tell him he cannot be friends with her, but ... (read in full...)
Gender confused? looking for a girl and can't understand why no one likes me?
Q. well i am 21 and i live in new york... i been here all my life and i grew up with " the normal ideas and things a child grows up with" i played with cars and was a typical boy... and now i am so confused because i love painting my nails and doin...
A. 3 March 2012: No off course you are not a bad person you have just not found the right woman for you yet. If you are confused about your gender then I would suggest you go and speak to a therapist. They can also help you over come your past issues with being ... (read in full...)
He took offence. He said that he wont be disturbing anymore. Can I regain his interest? how?
Q. There is this guy who I have been in the same class with during high school but we have never spoken. He used to see me as a rival back then and disliked me. Last year, he added me on Facebook and would occasionally comment on my status and posts. ...
A. 3 March 2012: You sent him 5 replies without a response, 5 messages can sometimes come off as clingy. I think you need to leave it now and see if he responds. It is hard to tell if he likes you or if he was just playing a game with you, time will tell. But for ... (read in full...)
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