Is it possible for my boyfriend and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry?
Q. Is it possible for my bf and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry? We have been dating for three months and we love each other very much. We have a healthy realtionship in every aspect except the bed. Its either he cant get an erecetio...
A. 1 May 2012: If you are not doing it right for him then ask him to guide you and tell you what feels good for him and vice versa. As for his sex drive has he had troubles with it in the past? Talk to each other and try and figure out what works for both of you.... (read in full...)
How do I see this boy but not upset my friend?
Q. The thing is there's this boy, I met him at my friends house about a month ago. Around 5 or 6 weeks ago he got with my friend and they did things together, but after a while he decided he didn't want to see her anymore. As her friend I know she had ...
A. 29 April 2012: Well you need to decide where your priorities lie, you do know that if you start meeting up with this guy then it is going to hurt your friend. So you need to decide who is more important to you him or her, because I doubt you can have both.... (read in full...)
B/f just lost his job. How can I help him through this tough time without really getting on his nerves?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend of over 9 years just lost his job last week. He just told me on Thursday. I am in shock since that day and I can't believe it. He is 52 and it is not easy to find a new job in the current economy ...
A. 29 April 2012: Am afraid you can't. If he doesn't want to talk at the moment then leave him to it, the more you try to be there for him and contact him the more he will push you away. He just needs some time on his own at the moment to accept the bad news that he ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this friend who likes attention and likes to brag?
Q. I met this girl in my class last semester. We r both business major. We clicked, and we started hanging out a lot and studying together. She and her best friend (who is also her roommate) are no longer friends, so i decided to introduce her to my ...
A. 29 April 2012: I guess there is not much you can do here, she is friends with your friends now as well and you can't change that. Stop contact with her, but when you are out with your friends and she is there as well be polite to her and don't be rude with her. I ... (read in full...)
I really miss him. And I realise that he may be ill. How can I connect with him and be a friend?
Q. There was a guy who I was close friends with, who cut off all contact with me and many others for undisclosed reasons. Personally I think he was suffering from depression - I can't be positive because he hasn't interacted with many people since the ...
A. 29 April 2012: It really is hard to tell why he has cut contact, but he has his reasons I guess. I know it can be hard on you and you miss him. But if you keep contacting him you are only going to keep pushing him away. Drop him one last email tell him you miss ... (read in full...)
Am I not over my ex? I'm having problems with me relationship. Could it be that 7 year relationship with ex is the problem
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years. We are high school sweethearts and have been on and off a couple of times during high school. Four months ago, we started to have sex. I was incredibly scared of sex - even had a phobia of it for a ve...
A. 29 April 2012: I think it is just natural. You are only new to this so it is going to take you some time to become comfortable with new positions. You on top gives you the control and I guess you are scared of other ways as you will not have control over it if he ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to want to have more sex than my bf does?
Q. heyy so basically my question is, is it weird to want to have more sex than my bf does? We used to literally have sex like 4 or 5 times every single day when we first together. We ve been together for almost 9 month and the longer were together the ...
A. 29 April 2012: Usually once the honeymoon period is over in a relationship, things calm down and normally that means that sex becomes less. You obviously have a higher sex drive than him, there is nothing wrong with that, but maybe you could find other ways to ... (read in full...)
Unpacking the end of what seemed like a amazing relationship
Q. Hello everybody, it's me again. I recently broke up with a guy because my gut was telling me that he wasn't emotionally available in the way that I needed. I'm actually fine with the breakup, as I deserve more, but, what happens when I thought it ...
A. 29 April 2012: You are still learning to move on from this break up, so just give yourself time and don't worry about what future relationships hold. Not all relationships work out the way that we want them to, unfortunately that's part of life, and yes it is hard ... (read in full...)
How do I get back the person I met?
Q. im 17 in a relationship with a 20 year old she has a daughter thats 2...weve been together for a year and a half for months we were only friends with a lot of respect towards each other .i really love her with everything i got and not just her,her ...
A. 29 April 2012: You need to communicate more. Sit down at talk to each other and see where it is going wrong, does she even know that you feel like this? What makes you think that some of your feelings have changed? Maybe you have changed as a person as well. You ... (read in full...)
I don't have the urges to have sex but want to find someone who makes me happy
Q. Hello guys and girls, I kinda need help. I have been sexually inactive for over a year but yet, I don't feel the urges to have sex. I don't understand, now, i'm more then focused now on finding someone that makes me happy, and that I can return s...
A. 29 April 2012: Make out a plan where you can start paying your debt back. You need to get over this girl Bree. Moving away will not fix that. You need to face it head on. Yes it can be hard when you love someone and that is taking away from you, it is okay to ... (read in full...)
Is this violent jealous abusive boyfriend worth the trouble? What should I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year, he always accused me of cheating. I don't know why he would even have the idea, I have a full time job and I would spend my days off with him at his place, he has the key to my place and he woul...
A. 29 April 2012: You need to leave him, his temper is out of control and he is paranoid. You will never be happy with him, nor he with you because he does not trust you. You need to get out now while you can. It is understandable that you miss him, but he treated ... (read in full...)
My preacher boyfriend preaches, not talks to me and I don't like it!
Q. my boyfriend is a minister and a preacher, when i try to talk to him, he starts preach at me and a i do not like it. I know I am very confuced about getting married...
A. 29 April 2012: This is a part of who he is, it is what he lives for, if you don't like it have you tried asking him to stop? Have you told him how it makes you feel. If he is not willing to change then maybe you should rethink this relationship.... (read in full...)
Does a lack of sex justify cheating in a committed relationship?
Q. Could the lack of sex in my relationship have caused my boyfriend to cheat? We were together for 2 years and we both live at home with our parents. We both come from very strict households which made it hard for us to have that "quality time" to...
A. 29 April 2012: No it does not justify what he done, he didn't care about you, if he did then he would not have cheated on you or made you feel like it was your fault, you put all you could in to this relationship and he just took that for granted. You are better ... (read in full...)
My insecure wife constantly accuses me of looking at other women!
Q. My wife and I have a problem. We have been together 8 years, we are mid 30's early 40's (I am 6 years younger), unable to have children after having multiple miscarriages. My problem is this; that every time we go out, be it the mall, supermarket, ...
A. 29 April 2012: She has extremely low self confidence, she is scared you are looking at other women because she is not happy with herself. But things can not go on like this, you need to tell her that she is going to lose you if she keeps accusing you of these ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 28 year old man to lose interest in his wife after just 3 years?
Q. This will be the second time that I have posted a question on this site, the last time was incredibly helpful for me! So here we go. Me and my husband have both just been discharged from the military, I was medically separated, he was honorably di...
A. 29 April 2012: I don't think this has anything to do with you at all. He has lost his sex drive, this could be due to plenty of reasons, maybe he is stressed, maybe he is worrying about something. Whatever the reason is am sure it is not you. But you are feeling ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship with a momma's boy
Q. I am dating a momma's boy?Help me understand please!? Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I are doing longdistance relationship,i really love him a lot,and i think he loves me too.a little bit of background,we first dated 5 years ago( i was 17 at that...
A. 29 April 2012: No I don't think you are asking to much at all. I guess he just does not want to lie to his mother, however yes he is an adult so it is time he stood on his own two feet and make his own decisions in life, but you are right he is not trying hard ... (read in full...)
Her own family says she doesn't love him, put she puts off divorcing
Q. Ok to make a long long story short I am in a relationship with a girl for about a year and a half. At first there was alot of decit on both our parts including both of us being married. Well i am divorced now and she is seperated from her husband. ...
A. 29 April 2012: Her son is hurting because his parents have split up and he is taking his anger out on her, but at the end of the day you are right he needs to grow up. She is holding off this divorce yet she is blaming it on her son. I think she is torn because ... (read in full...)
We're due to marry in November but I'm stressed about these issues
Q. I am supposed to be getting married in november. Me and my fiance have been together for almost 2years. We have had our differeces about many things but I am afraid that she will give up on me one day. The reasons are that I don't approve of the way ...
A. 29 April 2012: Well at the end of the day she is her own person and she is entitled to dress the way that she wants to, I know it can be hard but you need to accept her for who she is. As for her boys, again she is parenting them they way that she is used to, I ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend act defensive when I ask him to delete ex's pic off of his phone?
Q. im in a longdistance relationship. we knew each other for 2 years and 8 months together. he just went here last month for holiday. hes in australia and im from singapore. when he was here in singapore i open his phone accidentally saw his ex ...
A. 29 April 2012: Do you both spend much time together? Are you sure she is an ex and you are not just a bit on the side? If you do not see him much then he could be doing all sorts. Are you sure he is to be trusted? Because it does not sound like it. Check next time ... (read in full...)
What kind of gift would leave him speechless
Q. So the guy I liked for a year is moving away in two months. I want to give him a gift but I don't know what. I want something cute that he will take with him and leave him speechless. Any suggestions? ...
A. 29 April 2012: Make it personal to the both of you, and something that will remind him off you, think of his favourite things, that is a start. Or even maybe a memory you both share and cherish.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex have one rule for me and another for him?
Q. Why does my ex have one rule for me and another for him? My.ex snd I parted in Jan this yr. He was verbally, emotional and occasionally physically abusive to me. I wasn't battered but.he certainly had no respect.for me. I ended it and he left. ...
A. 29 April 2012: He obviously came up with this agreement so that you wouldn't be with anyone, but he has now met someone and has broke this, he treated you badly, can you really trust him not to be the same around your children? You say he occasionally physically ... (read in full...)
Sending the wrong signals?
Q. Okay so ive seen this guy around my school and i use to not like him because i though he was cocky or whatever, lets call him JA. My friend needed a ride and JA was with him and some other friends of mine. Well JA was trying to get with me the whole ...
A. 29 April 2012: It is hard to tell, from your post it does sound like he just wanted a bit of fun, but you never gave that to him, so good for you. I think you just need to wait it out and see what happens, if he does genuinely like you then he will make an effort, ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he talk to me yet he smiles when his friend talk about me?
Q. There's a guy that I met at school who is known to be really reserved. By reserved, I mean...well he only talks when he wants to talk if you catch my drift. Like you could call his name a gazillion times and if he doesn't wanna talk to you he's not ...
A. 29 April 2012: Ask him. It's the only way to find out, stop listening to everybody else just ask him some day why he has stopped talking to you, ask him have you done something wrong on him and see what he has to say.... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship with a momma's boy
Q. I am dating a momma's boy?Help me understand please!? Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I are doing longdistance relationship,i really love him a lot,and i think he loves me too.a little bit of background,we first dated 5 years ago( i was 17 at that...
A. 29 April 2012: I think it is best if you both decide just to be friends at the moment, until such time where you can both actually spend quality time together, if you are feeling that you are the one putting all the effort in to this then go with your gut feeling. ... (read in full...)
I love him and his cousin!
Q. i am seventeen and i amdating a nineteen year old boy,he loves me and i love him but i fell for his cousin eric and i dont know what to do,i love both so much and i know i sound dumb cuz i'm so young but i know what love is and i just need a little ...
A. 29 April 2012: You need to pick one and that is all you can do. There is no right or wrong answer here. But you need to pick one guy and forget about the other and get them out of your life as much as you can. Do not cheat on your current guy. If you feel that you ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be perceived as the awkward kid, I want to fit in!
Q. I feel like I have done wrong by a lot of people, and in doing so, I feel I have let myself down. I know I am a teenager and I have a lot of time to get my head around it all but for a long time now, I have been trying to figure out why I had so...
A. 29 April 2012: You just need to learn to be yourself with others. Am sure you have a great personality if you let it show. So instead of worrying about what you look like to others just be yourself. Why not ask your friends to go out for a night to catch up, just ... (read in full...)
She gets upset with me when I talk about what I mind in our relationship!
Q. I have a problem with what appears to me to be minimal care and concern about different matters in my relationship. I talk openly with my fiance about things that occur in our relationship but almost every time I do she gets upset with me, or she ...
A. 29 April 2012: I think you are in the right here, communication is important in a relationship and it is good to talk about things that annoy or upset us, if she gets annoyed at you talking about things, then it's obvious she just does not like talking about these ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my pregnancy? He does not want a baby!
Q. Ok to start off yes I know how stupid I was, but it happened and I can't change it now. This guy and I had been on about 2 dates at the time. we had sex and the thing I never expected to happen...happened. I got pregnant. The issue is, he talks ...
A. 28 April 2012: You need to tell him. At the end of the day he is the child's father, and weather he wants to be part of it or not he still deserves to know that you are pregnant. If you are worried that he will cause harm to your child once it is born then ... (read in full...)
How can I start a meaningful conversation to gain his support (and interest) about my pregnancy?
Q. Hey, so I need some help to communicate better with my bf about our pregnancy as I feel he doesn't care, which leaves me wondering if I should go it alone :( I'm 11 weeks pregnant now, we have our first scan next week. We've been together 2 years...
A. 28 April 2012: His behaviour is not out of character anyway. Off course woman will go through most of this, and all the fears you have are pretty normal. But you do need to sit down and explain everything to him that you have just wrote here. Make sure the tv is ... (read in full...)
My best friend's boyfriend is being ambiguous with me!
Q. I don't know what is happening with my friend's boyfriend, two years ago there was a snow storm and he happened to be stranded in my city, although he lives and works in another one, so I had to put him up for the night. It was weird because he ...
A. 28 April 2012: Maybe he is just an over friendly guy, he has not done anything as of yet to break the trust of his girlfriend, if he over steps the mark then you can shoot him down and tell your friend, but he hasn't. He hasn't tried anything as off yet. You done ... (read in full...)
His version of playing slow is to never text or call and I'm wondering why he wanted to come back to me?
Q. My ex split up with me in January after 1 1/2 years, and living together. We hit a rough patch for a couple of months but other then that we were very much in love, his reason he decided he didn't love me anymore. He came back from the states ...
A. 28 April 2012: You are afraid off getting hurt again which is completely understandable, I think you should talk to him, communication is key in any sort of relationship, ask him what he means by taking it slow and tell him you are scared of getting hurt again. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my first love again and I want to make it official with her!
Q. Wow, it's been over a year since I last visited this site but I definitely need you guys to help me out here. I'll probably be waffling so I apologise. If anybody remembers my last question 13 months ago roughly, I had a horrible post break up ex...
A. 28 April 2012: Go for it and ask her, he sounds like a big waste of space and I am glad he is out of her life, it is obvious you both want to be together, am not sure what she is scared of when she wants to keep it a secret, it could be that she is scared of him, ... (read in full...)
Said I'd go to the prom with him, but am having second thoughts
Q. ok this Guy Im really good friends with asked me to the prom, my original plan was to go with my friends but i didnt want to hurt his feelings so i said yes, u wasn't sure about it then but now its even worse because prom is june 1st!, we dont ...
A. 28 April 2012: You should have been honest with him from the start. But if it is something you really don't want then tell him now before it is to late. But in future remember to think before you make decisions so that you don't hurt people, because maybe he ... (read in full...)
Over three years and I still can't get her out of my mind?
Q. Hello, right this is an ongoing thing really, about 3-4 years ago a long relationship of 5 years ended pretty bad. We hadn't been talking for about 3 months because I locked my self away because I didn't feel I could give her what she deserved. ...
A. 28 April 2012: You are holding on to a memory of someone who she is not now. She has grew up and changed and I guess you just need to accept that. I think you need to drop all contact from her before you can move on properly, you are not moving on because you keep ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my ex again, but she's not giving me any assurances
Q. Hey everyone, My problem is getting back with an ex. We broke up about 2 months ago, after a nearly all that time waiting for her I started to move on but then she suddenly wanted me back. I happily said yes as we never broke up for any decent r...
A. 28 April 2012: The only way to sort this out is to talk to her, I know you feel you are being needy but you are not, she is not offering you commitment and you are falling for her again, off course you are not wanting to get hurt again. So you need to talk to her ... (read in full...)
Is this hard demeanor just a front because he still has feelings for me?
Q. I have recently started hanging out with my ex-boyfriend. We had not seen each other in over 10 years. We dated and lived together for 4 years and I left him because we both were hot heads, young, immature and did not know how to compromise ...
A. 28 April 2012: It sounds like the past is still haunting him, you hurt him and maybe several other girls hurt him so he has this guard up now against woman and he won't allow himself to fall deeply again for now as he is scared of getting hurt again. I can see ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my b/f loves me as much as I love him
Q. Hi. My bf and I love each other. But I'm starting to doubt his love for me. The other day we were watching a movie and the guy saved his life by cutting off his hand and he still got married and had kids. I asked him if someday I lose a part of m...
A. 28 April 2012: I guess you just put him on the spot and he did not know how to answer it, he is probably not looking to much in to the future at the moment so he struggled to answer. He is right in a sense nobody knows what the future holds, and I understand that ... (read in full...)
This jerk is dating behind my back!
Q. This guy that I am seeing is on a dating site. A friend found it and showed me. I Hate him so much for leading me on. He dosent know I know that he on a dating site.I thought it was old but he just logged in hours before so I know he uses it. My ...
A. 28 April 2012: It sounds to me like you don't want to lose him that is why you are afraid of telling him, but believe me you can do so much better, you will never be able to trust him after this. You just need to say to him look I found out you where on this ... (read in full...)
He's too old for me do I stay or go?
Q. I've divorced my husband after 20 together. I wasnt happy in my marriage for a long time. I've met this man while I was divorcing my husband. He is 16 years my senior. He is helpful during my divorce. Two years on I find him too old for me but ...
A. 28 April 2012: Age should not matter if you like him and you are attracted to him. What is stopping you? If you are happy then you should go for it, don't worry what other people think, as long as you like him that is the main thing.... (read in full...)
How do I show my boss that I'm not going to go after him?
Q. Hello, I have done a stupid thing. I have worked at my place as a secretary for 2 months. My boss is a really nice and patient guy but very sucessful (a rare combo). Anyways in my previous employment my boss bullied me and took away my conf...
A. 27 April 2012: If you never done nothing wrong then stop worrying about it, at the end of the day everyone likes it when someone shows them attention, so stop worrying about it, if he ever does over step the mark then you can be the one to say sorry but you are ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be this confused in the relationship?
Q. I'll try to make this as short as I can. I used to serial date like the best of them, I would go out with a guy for about a week, we'd sleep together and then I'd never speak to them again. I just started seeing this guy who's in the army and lo and ...
A. 27 April 2012: What is it you are scared of? If I am honest, he is being way to forward with you if you have only been seeing him a week, it is way to soon to be talking about moving in together and sharing bills and stuff. Things need to be taking slow, just ... (read in full...)
Her own family says she doesn't love him, put she puts off divorcing
Q. Ok to make a long long story short I am in a relationship with a girl for about a year and a half. At first there was alot of decit on both our parts including both of us being married. Well i am divorced now and she is seperated from her husband. ...
A. 11 November 2011: Are you really sure that she does not love him? My guess is that she still has some sort of feelings for him and she is not sure what to do, she sounds confused. Maybe her family don't want her to be with him and are convinced she does not love him, ... (read in full...)
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