I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 19 June 2012: It is good to write out your feelings and emotions sometimes it helps. You have done nothing wrong, yes there will be times that you feel strong and other times where you don't. It is natural to miss him, he was a part of your life so off course you ... (read in full...)
Should I ask if he is still interested in dating me?
Q. Hey. So theres this guy that has a huge crush on me. Hes one of my best guyfriends. He asked me out a week or two ago and i declined because i didnt like him like that. Now that ive talked to him more and had one-on-one time with him, hes starting ...
A. 16 May 2012: It would have taking him a lot of courage to ask you out, so apologise to him for turning him down, tell him you have changed your mind and you ask him out see what he says. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm sure I have many faults in this too, but it seems that I'm the only one who's making an effort to make this marriage work
Q. I'm having trouble with my marriage... My husband has been down in the dumps lately. He's not happy and neither am I. I don't exactly know where the problem lies, but there are a few issues with his job that seem the most likely. See, his job tak...
A. 16 May 2012: I think you should think about maybe moving closer to where he works. At least then you will both have the time to work on your marriage. This distance is really not good in a marriage. It won't work out if it continues like this. I can see you feel ... (read in full...)
Wondering if this is normal for a vagina?
Q. Hi, Well recently I am curious to know whats normal about vaginas. I've been checked for STD's and i'm all clear. But my vagina is redish colour and if I touch around the hole it can be quite tender. I find sex uncomfortable-but I put that down to ...
A. 16 May 2012: I'm sure it is nothing to worry about, but I think just to put your mind at ease you should go and visit your nurse and tell her how you feel. ... (read in full...)
Why did I have to cry in this dream?
Q. Hi. I have an unusual issue that I think is linked between a rather strange dream I had. Here's background on it: 6 months ago, I got dumped, in the most ruthless way possible. (By Instant Messenger + the dumper was LYING to me, and actually KN...
A. 16 May 2012: No just because you had to cry a second time does not mean that you are depressed. These things take some time to heal, don't just expect it to be all better once you cry for her once. Try not to worry about it, if you feel you need to cry, well ... (read in full...)
I still really love him and would love us to get back together, but I can't stand this not knowing.
Q. My ex who I was with 6 months ago is now back on the scene we met up and had a drink and he give me the distinct impression he wanted to get back together. We split up due to him being a work aholic. He said he's realised what a waste of space he's ...
A. 16 May 2012: Was he ever good at texting? Maybe he just doesn't like this method of contact, instead of texting, why not pick up the phone and call in and talk to him this way, least then you can get much more from him and figure out a little bit more of how he ... (read in full...)
I don't understand how anyone could hang out with him let alone sleep with him.
Q. I'm still in love with my ex, I broke up with her twice, and I still want to be with her. I want to marry her and do everything with her and for her, we still talk and hang out and decide we both have feelings for one another. We also decided to be ...
A. 16 May 2012: You have a choice here, let this eat you up and lose her, or else forget about it and spend your life with her. She made a mistake we all do it. It's not like she chose him for his personality, it was a one night stand. There is no easy way off ... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like a bad person for this!
Q. hi everyone ok i'm 19 and still a virgin. i talk to a girl who likes me but i don't feel the same as her and i know that we will have sex down the road if she wanted to. i get very horny and want to have sex so i then masterbate and then i feel ...
A. 16 May 2012: Your virginity is a big thing, my advice would be to wait until you meet someone you care about and want to be with, because it will make it feel so much better. Being horny is normal but don't use this girl for sex. She might already have feelings ... (read in full...)
How do I make my girlfriend more ready for sex?
Q. Okay, so I am in love with my girlfriend and plan to spend the rest of my life with her. I am third year in college and she is in college as well. However, this is a long distance relationship. She is still a virgin and I am not. We say I love you ...
A. 15 May 2012: I bet she does trust and love you. I guess she is simply just not ready. Maybe it is a confidence issue? You say she is not comfortable going down on you, but she does it anyway. She could be nervous that she is not doing it right, that you might ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have feelings for her? I've known her my whole life
Q. i need help i have a sister well fostered sister shes a couple of years older and im attacted to her like really attracted. we have kissed and touched but never slept together before but sence then i just cant open up to her i mean i know she only ...
A. 15 May 2012: Well technically you are not doing any thing wrong because she is not blood related. But am sure it would cause massive disruptions in your family if you where both to take it to the next level. Am sure your parents think of her as a daughter and ... (read in full...)
I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 15 May 2012: No matter how much someone feelings for you, relationships do go through bad patches. People can have plans to spend the rest of there life with someone but sometimes they get confused about how they actually feel. It sounds to me like he just needs ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or are we doing things that stop us connecting? Is there hope?
Q. If you recently read my story on sending the wrong signals? About the guy JA who is 18, here is an update... After about a week and everyone getting involved with me and JA asking if we talked and then him not talking to me because of it. JA text...
A. 15 May 2012: Well have you saw these actions from him with other females? Or is it just other people telling you, because sometimes people like to cause trouble when it comes to these things and make him out to be a player, but if you have saw it with your own ... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but have a crush on someone else
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend the truth that even though I am still madly in love with him and wish to marry him in the future someday but I keep on having slight crushes on another even though we just chat and being goof-balls? I need serious help, ...
A. 15 May 2012: I don't blame you for being worried, that is not something you should tell your boyfriend over a message, if you wanted to confess this to him then you should have done the decent thing and done it to his face so you could talk to him about it. I ... (read in full...)
I'm 64. Is it normal that I still want sex?
Q. i am a woman of 64 and widowed. i last saw a man in my bed 3,5 yrs ago. i still want love and sex. is this normal. please dont give me moral answers. i know we all need love to the end of our lives. i want sex too. and with love cos i tie sex with ...
A. 13 May 2012: Your very welcome, thank you so much for the compliment. Don't give up hope :-)... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or are we doing things that stop us connecting? Is there hope?
Q. If you recently read my story on sending the wrong signals? About the guy JA who is 18, here is an update... After about a week and everyone getting involved with me and JA asking if we talked and then him not talking to me because of it. JA text...
A. 12 May 2012: From reading this post it sounds to me like he likes you more than a friend. I haven't read your other post, but the way he was talking to you I think it is clear that he likes you. He even brought up someone saying that you said you wouldn't date ... (read in full...)
He's cute. I'm invisible to him. So how do I get him to notice me? help!
Q. Okay do there is this guy. He's a junior in high school, as well as I, and he's very quiet and keeps to himself, but I absolutely adore him. I think he is very cute and I would love to get to know him better. Well my friend was telling me how t...
A. 12 May 2012: You just need to try and raise your confidence, if you don't make the first step then nothing will probably ever happen because he does not know how you feel. So you need to try and grab his attention.
Smile when ever he walks by and look at him. ... (read in full...)
I can't sleep and all I do is think of my ex
Q. Dear cupid, my ex girl of three years went on a break with me back in march then sent me an email telling me its over a month ago and i have been doing fine getting past her but now for some reason i can't sleep and all i can do is think about h...
A. 12 May 2012: I don't think you should contact her and tell her how you feel, it will only make you feel worse if she does not reply. Your right it was really horrible of her to break up with you over email, she should have done the decent thing and do it to your ... (read in full...)
I thought I was over my ex but now the feelings are coming back
Q. I split from my boyfriend 18 months ago and he was my first love so it's taken a while to get over him but recently i've started to feel something again whenever i see him. Why have i all of a sudden started to develop feelings for him again when ...
A. 12 May 2012: Try to avoid him, feelings are coming back because when you see him you think of the old times and how it was back then. The best thing that you can do is avoid contact with him completely. It is hard to get over your first love, but just try and ... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but have a crush on someone else
Q. Should I tell my boyfriend the truth that even though I am still madly in love with him and wish to marry him in the future someday but I keep on having slight crushes on another even though we just chat and being goof-balls? I need serious help, ...
A. 12 May 2012: If you feel that your boyfriend is the one for you and you want to be with him for life then the best thing that you can do is to cut this other guy out of your life. If you don't you may end up developing more feelings for him and doing something ... (read in full...)
I hate the hurtful feeling that my mom is always nicer to my younger sister!
Q. I'm two years older than my sister and my mom is always comparing us. She always says to look at my sister who has a slender face unlike my chubby one. She hints that my sister will be more successful. She says things like "Your sister is going to ...
A. 12 May 2012: These are really hurtful things that your mother is saying, no parent should ever compare two children. But have you ever sat down with her and told her how horrible and upset this makes you feel, she might not realise just how much this upsets you ... (read in full...)
How do I handle embarrassing visits to the doctor?
Q. My mom took me to the doctor to get a referral for X-rays for my injured knee that I damaged when running during practice for Track. So there was this Medical Assistant guy and he was the one who checked my weight and stuff like that. He also asked ...
A. 12 May 2012: Maybe you could try and tell him that his behaviour makes you feel really uncomfortable, talk to your mother about this, and tell her everything and how he makes you feel. Maybe something could be done where you could get your doctor changed. Get ... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex is jealous? His friend has started texting me. So my ex resumed texting me
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago. We were dating for four months, the whole time we were together he told me how much he loved me, and how i changed his life. But then he started getting distant and i knew something was up, so i asked him ...
A. 12 May 2012: If am honest with you I wouldn't trust a word this guy has to say. It sounds to me like he uses the love word just to get what he wants with girls. If he loved you that much he would never have doubted his feelings and went off with another girl. I ... (read in full...)
Can you tell from our conversation if he might like me?
Q. Hey there, So me and this Guy started texting about a week ago and we talk everyday, i have only hung out wit him once and that was in January.. (long time i know) anyways.. im trying to figure out if he likes me, he isnt like the flirty type guy...
A. 12 May 2012: I think it could be possible that he wants to get to know you better. Plus him asking you are you with anyone is a good sign. If I were you I would just take things as they come and see what happens. Enjoy talking and getting to know him and just ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake breaking up with my ex
Q. in love with my ex. i broke up with him because he wanted to take a break with no rules and there was this guy that likes him and i knew something was gonna happen with them. so instead of going with the break i broke up with him, and now i think i ...
A. 12 May 2012: I think you need to tell him how you feel, and explain to him why you broke up with him. However if you knew he was going to use this break to get with another man then it is obvious his feelings aren't that strong for you when he is wanting to get ... (read in full...)
How can I encourage my boyfriend not to give up on oral sex?
Q. Hi, again! This time I have a more personal question- and I appreciated the answers I got last time, so I figured I'd open up a little bit more and ask for a little help with intimacy. My boyfriend and I both really love oral sex. In fact, i...
A. 12 May 2012: You need to talk to him about this when you are both not in an intimate moment. Just talk to him about your sex life and tell him that you really love it when he goes down on you that you get great pleasure out of it. His confidence has probably ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my mother I broke up with my b/f
Q. How can I tell my mom I broke up with my now ex boyfriend? I had broken up with him once in the beginning of April because I had found him to clingy for me, I told my mom and she called me a lesbian because he was a sweet good looking boy and that I ...
A. 12 May 2012: You just need to be honest with her and tell her you just did not have feelings for him and he is not the man for you. Tell her you did not want to be leading him on.
At the end of the day this is your relationship not hers and she needs to respe... (read in full...)
I want my b/f to pay more attention to me than to his laptop!
Q. Dear, Cupid. Me and my significant other have been together for almost two years now. And for the past 10 months, we have been having some problems. He just doesn't seem intrested in sex with me anymore. It all first started, when he got a laptop....
A. 12 May 2012: Instead of having countless arguments with him about it, just sit down with him calmly and tell him that although you know he loves you, you feel neglected and you want to know what the reason is he does not want to have sex with you any more. Make ... (read in full...)
I'm 64. Is it normal that I still want sex?
Q. i am a woman of 64 and widowed. i last saw a man in my bed 3,5 yrs ago. i still want love and sex. is this normal. please dont give me moral answers. i know we all need love to the end of our lives. i want sex too. and with love cos i tie sex with ...
A. 12 May 2012: Look please do not let this one man put you off. At the end of the day he was just ignorant towards you. You are right it is perfectly normal to want to have love and sex no matter what age you are. Age is just a number and if you still have your ... (read in full...)
Don't want to cheat. Don't want to upset my Bf, who I love. So how do I handle that I also love another?
Q. Ok this is my first question. I love my boyfriend, we've been together for four months but lately I have been in love with another. And the feelings I have towards him is the same towards my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to ...
A. 12 May 2012: I understand that he has problems and you do not want to hurt him, but it would hurt him a lot less breaking up with him than it would cheating on him and having him find out, it could lose his trust in all girls and mess him up for a long time, so ... (read in full...)
How does a girl ask a guy out? And should i, after what he said?
Q. Well........ I really like this guy in my year and i really want to ask him out but im scared in case he says no. i am good friends with him and i found out that he said i look like a man so i dont think he would say yes, but i still really want ...
A. 12 May 2012: Well first off don't always listen to what others have to say to you, just because you heard he said this about you does not mean he did say that, so do not judge him on that until you hear it from his own mouth.
I think you just need to play it ... (read in full...)
How do I get my Bf to respect my opinions? And stop him telling unfunny jokes?
Q. Hi, thanks for taking your time to read this! So, I've been with my current boyfriend for a little over seven months now, and overall; he makes me very happy. We click very well with each other and we have a lot of similar interests. Th...
A. 12 May 2012: There really is nothing much you can do here but to talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you do not need to lighten up that sometimes you just need to be reassured that he cares about you and that he is serious towards you and not ... (read in full...)
Guys and girls I need your thoughts please: what does define a girl who is 'good in bed'?
Q. I'm trying to think of a way to put this delicately but failing miserably so here goes - I was chatting with some of my guy friends the other day, and one of them started talking about how this girl was really bad in bed. I'm a virgin and my bf an...
A. 12 May 2012: Well if I am honest with you, every guy is different and different things turn them on and get them going, so I guess the only way to determine this is to ask your boyfriend what he likes. Confidence is a big thing I know that much, so be confident ... (read in full...)
Don't want to cheat. Don't want to upset my Bf, who I love. So how do I handle that I also love another?
Q. Ok this is my first question. I love my boyfriend, we've been together for four months but lately I have been in love with another. And the feelings I have towards him is the same towards my boyfriend. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to ...
A. 12 May 2012: You need to follow your own heart, please do not cheat on him. You need to make up your mind and decide who it is you want to be with. Don't be worrying about him emotionally, it has only been four months so he will get over it. But you need to make ... (read in full...)
It seems my ex was cheating on me and is now with another girl. To top it off I think I'm falling for his brother! What should I do?
Q. Hi, i have just split from my boyfriend of five years, we have a lil boy who's three this year, we split just after my sons second bday an he got with some one else but text me everyday, he insisted that he had no feelings for me. he started having ...
A. 10 May 2012: Your ex sounds like he is extremely confused and does not know what he wants, which off course has left you heart broken twice which is not very nice. It is sad that he found someone so quick, he really is not to be trusted. I think you are better ... (read in full...)
Young and broke, but wanting to get married!
Q. My fiance and I are very happily in love. We are in our early 20s. We have been together for a couple years and have been living together for 6 months. We decided that we want to take our commitment to the next level and get married next summer. ...
A. 10 May 2012: Nobody is wrong here really, I think they just are trying to look out for you, if they see you both have no money then they are going to wonder how you can afford your big day, but I see your point as well, it is important to you and your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I have bad teeth and I'm not wealthy... is there a way to improve my smile?
Q. I'm in my early twenties and I've spent my entire life with bad teeth. I have a small mouth and had 8 adult teeth (along with my wisdom teeth) pulled to give me some room, but my bottom teeth are still crowded to the point of one tooth jutting in ...
A. 10 May 2012: I think the best option for you would be to go and discuss this with your dentist. Make an appointment, tell him your financial situation and ask what can be done. Then you can come up with a plan on how you can get it done and how long it will ... (read in full...)
Scared of settling for the wrong guy....
Q. Hey all, I've always had flings/relationships with people who I don't think are good enough for me. I feel like I'm the one who settles all the time. Except for this one guy, with whom my chemistry was just incredible...we were SO attracte...
A. 10 May 2012: I think you need to get this other guy out of your head. Yes you fell in love with him and it never worked out, but I think you are still holding out hope for him to return to be with you that you are not giving any other guy a chance. Just give ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for being jealous of her?
Q. I'm not really sure where to start and no matter what i write i'm still going to sound like a bad person but trust me i'm not. Very long story short, me and this guy from school got back in touch via Facebook. We met up and after meeting up a few ...
A. 10 May 2012: You made a mistake, everybody does, am sorry that you lost your virginity to a loser, but please stop feeling that it was your fault. He knew what buttons to press, he made you feel special to get his own way and then all he wanted was sex. Just ... (read in full...)
'Til Dubai do we part...
Q. I gave birth to my Son a month ago, after a very difficult pregnancy. It was an emergency c-section and our son has been all over the Province in hospitals ever since. Just after he was born, my husband declared that he had been offered a ...
A. 10 May 2012: Am afraid it is becoming more and more common that men have to go away now as well as women to get better jobs in life. That is the way the financial economy is at the moment. But I do see your concerns and you have just gave birth off course you ... (read in full...)
Do her 'likes' on his statuses mean something more?
Q. there is a girl who has been frequently "liking" my boyfriend's status updates for several months now. i mean, i know for a fact they are not close friends, and she has been a bit excessive with her clicking. does this seem like behavior from so...
A. 10 May 2012: No it does not mean she was sleeping with him or is sleeping with him for that matter. I think you are reading to much in to it, it could be possible she just likes clicking like on lots of people statuses as she reads them, or maybe she is just ... (read in full...)
I want to be more independent and sociable. Any advice appreciated.
Q. I've been feeling really down just lately, my boyfriend and I are both 19, we went to school together and started going out just before our second year of sixth form. Which he shortly left to go to college instead. I have now left school and work ...
A. 10 May 2012: I understand how you feel, once school finishes up people do go off on there separate ways and meet new friends from different walks from life. You say you have tried with your old friends but they are not making the effort, therefore don't run ... (read in full...)
She gets really flirty, and then it stops. Analysis?
Q. Simply.. While talking to this interest of mine, and spending time, that she gets really flirty, and then all of a sudden, it stops. Is there more to analyze, like her personality can't keep it up with a routine, she's losing interest?...
A. 10 May 2012: There really is not much to go on here from what you wrote. But I wouldn't read to much in to it, don't play games, if you like her then ask her out on a date, see what she says. ... (read in full...)
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