Should I stick it out without bothering her for information or should I peacefully ask her what is going on in her life that makes her so unreliable and distant?
Q. im 31 in shape and ive got a lady friend who is 22 and in shape. shes been coming over to my place about once a week and spending the night. this has been going on for 3 months. I really like her. i want to give it a shot. she is confusing me ...
A. 9 June 2012: That really is all the wrong attitude to have, but do as you wish. ... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out without bothering her for information or should I peacefully ask her what is going on in her life that makes her so unreliable and distant?
Q. im 31 in shape and ive got a lady friend who is 22 and in shape. shes been coming over to my place about once a week and spending the night. this has been going on for 3 months. I really like her. i want to give it a shot. she is confusing me ...
A. 8 June 2012: I think the best thing for you to do now is to cut her out of your life, she does not want to commit to you and she is not looking for anything serious just a bit of fun, you will end up getting hurt if things don't end now am afraid.... (read in full...)
Dating my girlfriend but I have feelings for another woman
Q. I am in a new relationship where I have been seeing this girl for two months. I like her but I have feelings for another woman who I have known for a year and a half. She is a client of my company and I see her often through work and we have become ...
A. 6 June 2012: What you are doing right now is leading this other girl on. I know you do not want to do that, but in truth it is exactly what you are doing. So I think you should do the right thing, end things with your current girlfriend, just tell her that ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a man to use porn to remind him of his girlfriend and the things they did?
Q. Is it possible for a man to use porn to remind him of his girlfriend and the things they did? My boyfriend claims he went through his collection to look for girls that look like me to remind him of me when I'm not there when he is masturbating, he ...
A. 6 June 2012: I wouldn't doubt him, at the end of the day, he was horny you weren't there so he found himself another solutions. I wouldn't think to much in to this, most men just use porn as a starter they do listen to it but they use there imagination. So it is ... (read in full...)
Keep my safe, secure job, or move abroad with hubby?
Q. Hey! Been married a few months, been with my hubbie forever. He's just found out he's gonna have to move abroad for 5 years for work (his firm asked him that and he cannot refuse). He's got a great job and it's gonna be nearly impossible for him to ...
A. 6 June 2012: Well it is hard for any couple to be apart from each other. 5 years is a long time to be apart from each other. Would his new job be enough to support you both for a while until you could get on your feet and get work? I know it would be a huge life ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's depressed moody stages are getting to me
Q. Please help me and my boyfriend have been together eight years on and off. he goes through 'stages' with his depression and just gets into a moody phase i call it. it's difficult for me to see any light at the end of the tunnel at this...
A. 6 June 2012: Okay it is time you sit down with him and talk to him. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. His depression is a medical matter and reassure him you will be there for him when he needs it. Is he on medication for it? If things get really bad ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my bestie and I think I love him!
Q. Hi I am 27 and my best friend is 23. We have been good friends for about five years, but for about the last two years we have become real besties, we see each other every day and do everything together! However when we get drunk everything changes! ...
A. 6 June 2012: You are doing a really bad thing here, no wonder your friend doesn't want to admit to you how he really feels. You are in a relationship so off course he is not going to say anything to you. Your boyfriend might be an idiot but it still does not ... (read in full...)
Love .... for two?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 months, he has been married and divorced and is 5 years older than me (Im 21) everything was fine between us, actually almost too good to be true, UNTILL my ex came back in the picture whom i was on and ...
A. 6 June 2012: Nobody here can tell you who to chose. You need to do that yourself. You are the one who lived through these two relationships, you are going to need to pick one guy and live with it. We all need to take risks in life and yes you might chose wrong ... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out without bothering her for information or should I peacefully ask her what is going on in her life that makes her so unreliable and distant?
Q. im 31 in shape and ive got a lady friend who is 22 and in shape. shes been coming over to my place about once a week and spending the night. this has been going on for 3 months. I really like her. i want to give it a shot. she is confusing me ...
A. 6 June 2012: No you can not continue with things the way that they are, because I am scared you will get badly hurt. You need to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling. It comes across as she is just looking for a bit of fun with you and nothing more. But ... (read in full...)
My friends broke up but still love each other! Do I help them or stay out of it?
Q. Guys, What do I do? I'm really good friends, like best of friends with a guy and a female who use to be a couple. They had been together for 9 years and they were just totally mad about each other. We use to do like the couples thing. Like nig...
A. 6 June 2012: Be there for each of them as a friend, and tell them how you feel about the situation, explain to your female friend that you think it is wrong to lead this other guy on if she is still in love with someone else. Other than that though there really ... (read in full...)
Loses his erection and don't know what to do
Q. Right I have a lovely sweet,kind boyfriend that I love dearly we have been together for 1 1/2 yrs and we live together due to a difficult situation we are both only 17 and live with my parents I have a worrying matter in my head that I'm doing s...
A. 6 June 2012: I guess there is not a lot that you can do about this if he refuses to go and see a doctor. I believe that he is attracted to you this is probably more than likely a physcological thing and he is putting pressure on himself which is only making him ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so awkward? I need to learn how to talk to boys. But how?
Q. There's a boy at school who I have some history with. I have liked him for about 6 years. Our mums are best friends. He was my best friend then found out I had feelings for him. This didn't stop us being best friends though. He didn't ignore i...
A. 6 June 2012: Well you used to be very open and honest with him about how you feel. So I think the best way to go around this again is to be honest with him, just tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you still like him and ask him how he feels? But please ... (read in full...)
B/f doesn't want sex but swears he's not gay
Q. i'm a plus size girl dating a nice looking black man. he's been in prison and has an extensive background, but nothing in the past 4 years. we met online and been dating a year and i would swear he's gay. he's 46, works construction and always on ...
A. 6 June 2012: I don't think you can ever know if he is really gay unless he admits that he is. It could just be possible that he has a very low libido when it comes to sex. If you are not happy in the relationship then I advise to end things. ... (read in full...)
I don't love him anymore ...
Q. Hi I'm a 21 year old woman married with a 32yr old man And we were fine until I found out he's private part is decreasing and confronted him with the situation Then now he started lacking from being romantic he doesn't make me feel his touch a...
A. 5 June 2012: Talk to him about things and tell him how you are feeling. Communication is important in a marriage so talk to each other and see if you can sort things out. Tell him you want him to be more romantic. As for sex lasting less than 30 minutes, believe ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is complicated, but I want to ask him
Q. So I've known my best friend since our freshman year at highschool, since his breakup with his ex-girlfriend, Since our transfer to a different school, and through all the awkward moments that have happened. I cant say that i dont love him. but i ...
A. 5 June 2012: If you don't want to confess your feelings to him completely, well then just start it off by asking him would he like to be your date for the graduation and see how he responds. Maybe then away from school and away from everything that is familiar ... (read in full...)
How to have no contact with a crazy ex when they can't control themselves?
Q. My boyfriend of 3+ years and i have a 2 year old son together. My bf is a manipulative drug addict, he recently "broke up" with me through a text message fight, the 3rd one in 3 weeks, he said to me he needs a level head and is happy (he doesnt s...
A. 5 June 2012: I would love to know what you where thinking staying with him for so long. He should not be around your son at all if he is a drug addict, am sure that is not the upbringing you want for your son. If he is as bad as you say he is then he should ... (read in full...)
I'm clueless when it comes to being hit on!
Q. I'm 30 and good looking but I'm clueless when it comes to being hit on. I have no idea when men are looking at me and how to react if i do, usually I just look immediately in a different direction. I would say im on the reserved side and i dont ...
A. 5 June 2012: Well if I noticed someone looking at me I wouldn't make a move on it. But if someone came over and started a conversation with me then yes I would be open and friendly back to them and get to know them. At the end off the day you are not going to ... (read in full...)
I want to make a good impression on my new job but I'm scared and nervous that I'll screw things up
Q. I have a problem with telling myself to relax. I just recently got a new part time job to have while im at college and I start really soon. Im so scared because imma be around a unfamiliar group with no friends or family. I'll basicly be on my own ...
A. 5 June 2012: Everyone gets nervous starting a new job. Believe me it is normal. It is a big change for you now moving on to the next step in your life and it is normal to feel anxious and stressed and this usually leads to negative thoughts. There are herbal ... (read in full...)
Is this a missed opportunity? And should I start chasing him? or let it go?
Q. I have had crush on the most introverted guy I’ve ever known for the whole duration of my degree course. And I have a feeling that he likes me based on the long stares and he always seems to be there, but as soon as I talk to him or try and invo...
A. 5 June 2012: Exactly, sometimes these things work and sometimes they don't, at least you will not be left wondering now what if? So you can accept he is not looking for anyone at the moment and move forward. All the best.... (read in full...)
I don't want my boyfriend to be insecure
Q. I don't usually ask advice to people I don't know, but this is the exception because I really need help on this. It's gonna be long and I'm writing this from my iPod so ya...okay so the thing is, I've been going out with this guy for two months, and ...
A. 5 June 2012: There is nothing YOU can do to make him talk, it has to come from him. If he is not willing to open up and talk to you then he is not ready to change. I know it is hard for you but there really is nothing you can do.... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend's friend is interested in me but she's 2 years younger and I don't really know if I should pursue this
Q. Hello, I turned 18 late July last year. The September after, I started dating a girl who was 16 at the time and 17 in March. I think that's a fairly significant age gap, but it wasn't really a problem mostly because her and her parents are fair...
A. 1 June 2012: Well your ex girlfriend is now back in Australia so it is good that you are moving on, however I am not sure its in the right direction, you are right it is illegal for you to do anything sexual with a 16 year old and you could go to prison for this ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in 5 years and sometimes I think about cheating
Q. I'm a 60 yr.old male, married for nearly 33 yrs.My wife went thru"the change" a bit early I think(she's about 5 yrs.younger).We haven't had sex for over 5 yrs.now. Both of us were involved in an unusual accident 2 yrs.ago where she ended up having ...
A. 1 June 2012: I don't think you should cheat on her, you have been together a long time and I know you love her. Off course you still feel like you have sexual needs that is completely normal. Talk to her about it though. Maybe you could both try and put that ... (read in full...)
Where is the best placet to look for the type of women I want to meet?
Q. I'm currently at uni but feel held back by my lack of experience. I want to meet fun, attractive and intelligent women that are outside of my course. I have no idea where to look for women to start a relationship with... Any ideas or help would be...
A. 1 June 2012: The only way to meet new people is to go out and socialize. I know it can be daunting at first to try and make new friends at uni and look for people outside of your course. But if you just talk to new people. Are there any clubs in your uni you can ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to acknowledge me more?
Q. It feels like my boyfriend is taking me for granted and like he doesnt really care about me or the relationship. It has always been me all over from the start who has always taking the first step and engaged us to meet. It is still that way and Im t...
A. 1 June 2012: I am really not sure what it is you love about him when he doesn't even bother making an effort with you. This relationship is all one sided and you will only become miserable if this keeps happening. You have complained in the past but it has not ... (read in full...)
B/f had 3 year relationship with me a baby, then I find out he was seeing another woman for 6 years!
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and 3 days before i gave birth to our now 2 month old son the 'other woman' knocked my door and i found out he was having a on and off again relationship with her for 6 years! Even though she found out ...
A. 1 June 2012: If it was me I would kick him out and never forgive him for this, he is sorry? No sweetie he is not sorry, he is only sorry that he got caught, he does not love you, if he did he would not have been with this other woman, in fact he was with her ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my b/f won't come back home!
Q. My boyfriend got a job out west. We were driving together as I decided to go with him. We got in a car accident and came back home. The next day I took him to the airport, and I stayed behind. He said he's coming home to stay with me in august but I ...
A. 1 June 2012: Off course he is going to be having a good time, he is in a new location and probably making new friends and has a new job. But I don't understand why you are so paranoid? Do you not trust him? If you don't then you are probably better not in this ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt and confused that I didn't have my father in my life
Q. Please help me, I'm tortured every time I see fathers bonding with their daughters, When they hug each other and show each other how important they are to them. I never had that, I grew up with an absent father who stayed until I was 9 but cheated ...
A. 1 June 2012: You need to remember that this is not your fault, it was your father who was selfish and in the wrong not you. There is nothing you could have done to make his behaviour change or allow him to stay. You need to remember it is his loss. I am sure it ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be single and happy?
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for some advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation. I'm single and have been for a while, which does particulalry bother me, except a lot of my friends have recenently got into relationships and im starting to ...
A. 1 June 2012: Off course it is possible to be single and happy, you don't need a man in your life to enjoy yourself or have a good time. Arrange girlie nights out with your friends and shopping trips. Take up new hobbies that you can do or join new clubs. ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is a bossy girl a massive turn off?
Q. Hey, i was talking to my friends the other day about guys we've hooked up with and now im a bit worried. When im with a guy i tend to sort of tell them what I want them to do...like if they're not turning me on, i'll say 'do this is me...'. But my ...
A. 1 June 2012: No I don't think your friends are right at all. You are just telling them what you like. But be gentle about it and don't make them feel like they don't know what they are doing, just explain to them what you like. ... (read in full...)
My friends are always having fall outs or are so close they ignore everyone else!
Q. Well, my friends are always having fall outs and I was just wondering if there is anyway to try and get them to stay friends without forcing them apart?? The other problem is that when they aren't falling out they act as if they are best friends and ...
A. 31 May 2012: You cannot stop them from being best friends, at the end of the day this is the way that there friendship is designed. They care about each other but they also fall out on occasions sometimes this is a sign of a true friendship. I guess all you can ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, b/f on other side of the world and I'm worried he's seeing his ex!
Q. Hey guys...i am desperate... I am with my boyfriend for a year now and we love eachother alot although we had problems in the start as he had a girlfriend when we met and had to break up with her. Well we fell so deeply in love that 2 months a...
A. 31 May 2012: I think you are jumping to conclusions here. Just because his ex is there does not mean that he is back together with her. If you are worried he does not want you to go and visit him next week then send him a message and tell him about your worries. ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex ditch someone he was talking to just to follow me?
Q. one day about a month ago, i went to the supermarket (where my ex works), he was standing outside sort of on the side of the supermarket where the 2nd doors were, near the ramp, talking to some woman, i decided to walk past him to the doors coz the ...
A. 31 May 2012: I am not sure why he would do this, did you not ask him why he has followed you? Maybe he was finished talking to the woman. I think the best thing to do is to ask him what it was all about?... (read in full...)
Was she just being nice? Did she like me?
Q. I am a 14 going on 15, and I am falling for a girl that has no clue. I moved to the school th second semester. At first I thought she was very pretty, but she's bipolar, and I was nervous. Eventually, one of my freinds figured it out and she made me ...
A. 31 May 2012: I think she did like you yes, I think she still does but she was getting pressure of her friends because they disliked you, I guess she did not want to become an outsider so she decided she would start being mean to you as well. I am sure her being ... (read in full...)
Husband acts bizarre when we fight. If he got help, could he change?
Q. Hello, I don’t usually ask for advice to bear with me if I provide too much or irrelevant detail. I am Christian woman married to a (moderately) Muslim man. We dated about 1.5 years before getting married. I was hesitant about marrying him beca...
A. 31 May 2012: You are right every couple fight, but no this is not normal. He is violent towards you and very controlling. Is he willing to get help? By the sounds of it I don't think he is, I think he feels he is right and it is his job to order you around. I ... (read in full...)
I feel like my flatmate's being selfish -- am I right?
Q. I don't really know what to say about this, I feel like i'm being very selfish but at the same time I also think my friend is being selfish. So I need advice on what to do and who really is in the wrong here... My flatmate has got a few friends do...
A. 31 May 2012: Well I think you should tell her how you feel. But at the end of the day even though you both live together and you are both friends it does not automatically mean that you both need to spend all your time together. Am sure she does not mean to ... (read in full...)
Getting over a girlfriend's sexual past
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 months now, im 19 and she is 21, I live in a small town and she has had sex with a lot of people I know in the past, I accept this as I do live in a small town, anyway I only found out ...
A. 31 May 2012: You know what I don't think you deserve your girlfriend if you are going to call her an easy slut and someone else's sloppy seconds. That's real immature off you. It sounds to me like you are annoyed because she felt she couldn't say no to him yet ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling nervous around my teacher which I fancy?
Q. I fancy my citizenship teacher. He is very fit, and is mainly a PE teacher at my school. He is around 23- 24yrs old and very tanned. Every girl in the school fancies him, except a few of my friends. We are the only girls he teachers in school ...
A. 31 May 2012: You have a crush on him, it is quite normal for your age to experience this sort of crush, but it's not love, so just remember that. It will get better in time. As long as you accept that nothing can ever happen between you both as he is your ... (read in full...)
I like my third cousin but am not sure how that news would affect her!
Q. I like my 3rd cousin but im afraid on what she would think if I told her because we have known each other for a long time since we were kids and it might get wierd between us and the rest of the family what should I do ? ...
A. 31 May 2012: If you are worrying about how it will effect the family then I think maybe you are best to try and forget your feelings and accept her as your cousin and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Why does he say my name all the time?
Q. Hello :) I really like this boy and I started talking to him. We don't talk a lot, but sometimes we do. The first time we talked he said my name a lot. I asked him to sign my yearbook. He was like "sure (my name)" "will you sign mine (my name)" ...
A. 31 May 2012: Maybe he just likes saying your name, I wouldn't read to much in to it to be honest. If you like him tell him, if not then just see what happens in the future.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm a sucky kisser...any advice?
Q. I hooked up with my neighbor the other day, I have been interested in her for a while now. We were making out when she started to bite/suck my lower lip, it was really kinky. I decided to do it back to her but I guess I was too rough because we had ...
A. 31 May 2012: It doesn't mean that you are a bad kisser, some people like kissing rough others don't. It is normal for someone's lip to swell and go red if they are kissing roughly. Just take a note from it and learn. Just do it really gentle next time. You do ... (read in full...)
What would I need to do to get her back?
Q. So I'm 16... There's this girl that I have known since first grade. This is a long story, but I really need to know what my chances are with her, and what I need to do to get her back. Story: When we were in first grade, she liked me... alot, and I ...
A. 31 May 2012: I really don't think that there is anything you can do to get this girl back. I think all she has ever felt for you is friendship. If that is the case well then you cannot make her change her mind. I know it is hard when feelings are not returned, ... (read in full...)
Is this a missed opportunity? And should I start chasing him? or let it go?
Q. I have had crush on the most introverted guy I’ve ever known for the whole duration of my degree course. And I have a feeling that he likes me based on the long stares and he always seems to be there, but as soon as I talk to him or try and invo...
A. 31 May 2012: It could be that he just does not know how to talk to girls as he is really shy so he just runs off. I don't see any harm in getting his contact details and telling him you like him. You would need to be very straight to the point with him though so ... (read in full...)
I don't think I've had an Orgasm yet. But what can I do about my more urgent problem? During and after sex? Help!
Q. I am a 21 yo girl and do not think i have ever had the big O. When my boyfriend goes down on me i often always have the sensation of peeing when i do not have to or have nothing to pee out. However, I have a had an accident or two when the "pee...
A. 31 May 2012: Before you engage in any sexual activity always make sure that you go to the toilet before hand to empty your bladder. Also when this sensation comes on just make sure you use your kegel muscles to hold it in so you do not have any accidents.
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I don't want my boyfriend to be insecure
Q. I don't usually ask advice to people I don't know, but this is the exception because I really need help on this. It's gonna be long and I'm writing this from my iPod so ya...okay so the thing is, I've been going out with this guy for two months, and ...
A. 30 May 2012: There is no way that you can help an insecure person. You could reassure him until you are blue in the face but his insecurities lies with him not you. He feels you are to good for him, he has no confidence in himself, therefore he feels you are to ... (read in full...)
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