She hurt me a lot and after all the stress she brought me, I think I forgot to appreciate the good times. Should I try to be friends again?
Q. I'm having some inner conflicts with my mind. Ever since about 5th or 6th grade, I had a close friend. We got closer as we progressed through high school, and suddenly I realized I had a best friend. We would talk for hours on the phone, have fun...
A. 7 July 2012: No I do not think you made a mistake. You are not expected just to forget about all the memories you both shared together, and off course it is okay to miss her and miss chatting to her, that is just normal. But if she caused you stress then I would ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad sister for feeling like this?
Q. Me and my sister are currently working overseas and at the same city. Recently, due to redundancy, she was terminated by her company so she had no choice but to send her kids back to our home country. This is making me depressed actually because I ...
A. 7 July 2012: No you are not a bad sister at all. It is sad that your sister is in this financial situation, but she can not just expect you to pick up the pieces. I don't understand if she is renting two places then why does she not just stay at one of those ... (read in full...)
I like 2 girls and don't know what to do
Q. hello there i have a problem im 15 male and live in the uk anyways there is 2 girls haha and they both like me i know they do however one of them dont know i know im really good friends with one of them and the other one im good friends with to ...
A. 7 July 2012: I don't think you should get with either of these two girls until you are completely sure which one it is you like more. You do not want to end up hurting one of them or leading them on so for now I think you should just be friends to both of them ... (read in full...)
Husband thinks my high sex drive is pathetic
Q. I'm 25 yrs old, 5ft 5, 124 lbs.... I am an attractive female, long burgundy hair, and I love sex... It is my absolute favorite thing on this earth. My husband is 5ft 10, brown hair, and about 20 lbs overweight. And he isn't a verry big fan of having ...
A. 7 July 2012: No you are not sad nor are you pathetic, you just have a higher sex drive than your husband does. You really need to sit down with him and tell him exactly how he has made you feel and give him a chance to explain how he feels as well. If you are ... (read in full...)
I want a new relationship but I don't want to leave my fiance
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years but lately I just feel like I want a new realationship but I don't want to leave him. I love him and have a 1 year old daughter with him I just miss the passion and intensity of a new relationship and ...
A. 7 July 2012: I think what you need is to add some more passion in to your relationship, my guess is that things have settled down as they do once most people get past the first phase of the relationship, you are both settled down now with a child and I think the ... (read in full...)
Why would a Guy call a Girl he likes "DEEDEDEEEEEEEE"??????
Q. I have been raised up in a very strict parents, I did not care to have a boyfriend at all until I was 22 he was 28 I met this guy at work,at first he was so annoying he likes to tickled me until I fell flat on the floor laughing that tears start ...
A. 7 July 2012: No I don't think you are being used at all. My guess is that he was just shocked by how innocent that you are and therefore he laughed it off. I know that this can come across as quite mean, and I think if it makes you feel stupid you should tell ... (read in full...)
Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?
Q. im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he ...
A. 7 July 2012: Please do not let this man walk all over you. I totally understand why you would still love him. 20 years of marriage is a long time and off course you would want nothing more than to have him back, but realistically things would never be the same ... (read in full...)
After I tell a guy that my mom passed away, things go downhill. Why?
Q. My mum passed away a few years ago and although I feel I've come to terms with it and that my life has been able to move on for a couple of years now it seems to be giving me some issues. Whenever it inevitably come up with a guy and I have to ...
A. 7 July 2012: I am guessing if you are only newly dating a guy and you explain to them that your mother has passed away I guess that this puts some fear in to them that you are an emotional wreck and you need support and I guess some men just get scared and do ... (read in full...)
When will my mom wake up??
Q. What is wrong with my mum? Will she ever wake up?:(? My mum has been married to my dad for 21years now and my dad hasn't worked in 6 years. While my mum works 4jobs a day cleaning to pay for the rent, electric, gas, water bills, phon...
A. 7 July 2012: There is nothing wrong with your mum, it is simple she made a commitment when she married your father all those years ago and she has beliefs that people should not get divorced therefore she does not want to. I understand why you are frustrated and ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my boyfriend's drunk father?
Q. I'm living with my boyfriend for the summer because i wanted to be closer to him. His dad is an alcoholic, he drinks a 30 pack a night and on the weekends its double that, and always gets drunk, and when hes drunk, he is not the best person to be ...
A. 6 July 2012: This is a hard situation for you to be in I totally understand that. It is hard to deal with someone when they are always drunk. But I am afraid if you chose to stay with your boyfriend then you are just going to have to put up with his dads ... (read in full...)
If I stay, I'll lose my boyfriend. If I go, I risk losing my relationship with my father. What should I do?
Q. Hey, My boyfriend recently got offered a job in another part of the country, I really want to go with him as he said that he can financially support me till I get a job, and we don't want to lose our relationship! Although we started off long...
A. 6 July 2012: You are an adult now and therefore this is your decision to make. Your parents are being quite selfish here, they need to let you go and live your own life now. I am sure they will worry about you and that is perfectly normal but they have to let ... (read in full...)
Fathers in the delivery room: who should have the final say?
Q. I had an interesting conversation with my boyfriend earlier about fathers in the delivery room. I'd like to find out what others make of the issue! My boyfriend said he'd rather not be in present, but if the mother wanted him there he'd compl...
A. 6 July 2012: I honestly believe that a man should have a choice if he wants to be present at the birth or not, however I do understand that it is the woman that is giving birth and has to go through the ordeal and if she really wants her partner there for ... (read in full...)
I work with her, she has a GF and she's not my type. So how can I get over my Crushing for this girl?.
Q. Ok so, I'm tired of analyzing this situation myself so I am reaching out for advice. I started a new position about 6 months ago and there is this girl at work who I knew was a lesbian but seemed disinterested in getting to know me, so I never b...
A. 6 July 2012: Really there is not much that you can do about this. You want to keep her friendship and that is your choice, but it will be difficult when you have a crush on her. You just need to keep remembering why she is not your type and not forgetting that ... (read in full...)
Am I just too hot to handle?
Q. Well there seems to be some patern with me and women that i have always been aware of, it seems that women do not like to talk to me about anything we are going out, why is this? I mean it's wierd because i talk to my guy friends about there ...
A. 6 July 2012: I guess maybe it could be that you are intimidating to some girls and they go shy and quiet around you. If I were you I would not always listen to what your friends say about when they date girls, as not many girls are good at flirting. If it is a ... (read in full...)
Am I normal for feeling this way?
Q. Am I normal or abnormal for feeling like this. I was dating this guy. While I was dating he had someone whom we were sharing him that woman was 5 yrs older than him and I was 2 years younger than him. As I was dating him that other got pregnant and ...
A. 6 July 2012: Honey I know you think you love him and you want to be with him, but deep down you know that he is a liar and a cheat, you know it will not work out because you simply can not trust this man, that is why you don't want to settle down and have a ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged and my parents still treat me like I'm single.
Q. I am a 22 year old Indian male, who recently got engaged to a 20 year old (turning 21) White female. We've been dating for three years, and I felt as though engagement was a good idea. I thought the process, stipulations, and consequences over for ...
A. 6 July 2012: Well really you have a choice here, either you stay under there roof and it causes you to break off your engagement just so that you can live off there support and finish school, or else you decide enough is enough and you get a full time job and ... (read in full...)
Am I normal for feeling this way?
Q. Am I normal or abnormal for feeling like this. I was dating this guy. While I was dating he had someone whom we were sharing him that woman was 5 yrs older than him and I was 2 years younger than him. As I was dating him that other got pregnant and ...
A. 6 July 2012: You are right not to want to have a child with this man and I am glad you feel like this, I hope you wake up to your senses soon and realise he is not the man for you. You can do so much better than sharing a man with some other woman, he is getting ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong timing or does my guy friend actually like me?
Q. I made out and ended up having sex with a guy friend while we were both drunk one night. Before we hooked up, we talked about our friends, families, life etc. We've been friends for over 4 years and he is part of my main social group. He says that ...
A. 6 July 2012: Your poor boyfriend not only did his girlfriend cheat on him, but it was with one of his friends, you cannot get any lower than that. You both need to stop being so selfish and be truthful, your boyfriend deserves so much better and if you both lose ... (read in full...)
He says he isn't cheating, and I want to believe him, but I don't. What do you think?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, we have always been happy until recently... i discovered a text on his phone from a girl saying "hey are you missing me, it was good with drinks the other night, u wanna meet wednesday, wat you doin...
A. 6 July 2012: If it was me in your position I would not believe him. If he really was innocent and clueless then he would have rang the number up in front of you put it on loud speaker and asked who it was. He is hiding something here. Why would his work mate do ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I want to adopt, but friends and family are against gays' raising children. Advise please?
Q. Hi Im a gay woman who is in a very healthy relationship of 3 years and recently I have became really broody and would like to adopt in the near future with my girlfriend, we have discussed children before and she also would like to have them one...
A. 6 July 2012: I think you should follow your heart and not listen to what friends and family have to say, this is there own personal opinions and problems not yours. At the end of the day you and your girlfriend deserve to be parents just like anybody else, and ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged and my parents still treat me like I'm single.
Q. I am a 22 year old Indian male, who recently got engaged to a 20 year old (turning 21) White female. We've been dating for three years, and I felt as though engagement was a good idea. I thought the process, stipulations, and consequences over for ...
A. 6 July 2012: I can honestly see why you are so frustrated and angry at the moment, but at the end of the day you are an adult now and if you chose to stay under your parents roof then you have to respect there rules. I know that this is difficult but you ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right decision in ending this relationship?
Q. My ex boyfriend came to the statse with a visa that expired a few months ago. He told me that he was planning on going back to mexico this summer to obtain a new one, but evaded it last minute byecause he didnt want to risk not being able to come ...
A. 6 July 2012: It is understandable that you miss him he was a part of your life for a long time, but you put yourself first and I think you done the right thing there, as you said you have a bright future ahead off yourself and you are still young. You have your ... (read in full...)
She just broke up with her b/f -- does it sound like she's interested?
Q. hi I met this girl at work a few weeks ago and as soon as we met we got on really well. I fell for her looks and personality and every now and then she would mention her ex, so I thought she may have been single. However, she later mentioned ...
A. 6 July 2012: If I am honest with you there really is nothing there to point out that she wants anything more than friendship, yes I might be wrong but I just do not want you getting your hopes up if there is nothing there. She told you she broke up with her ... (read in full...)
He married someone else so he wouldn't be deported. How do I get over him?
Q. i dated this guy for 16 months, he was the best thing that i ever happened to me. he got me out of the worst relationship ever. we got along so great together we were like two peas in a pod, he made me so happy he brung out the real me.. we broke up ...
A. 6 July 2012: This is a lot for you to take in and off course you are going to be heart broken, I also feel sorry for his wife as well, because it sounds to me like he is not in love with her mind you am sure she knows this if they have only been together a ... (read in full...)
Do employers look at college transcripts?
Q. I'm going to be a 4th year in university. I attend a reputable business school but I'm a C-average student. B-average within my GE classes. Do employers look at grades? Unfortunately I chose my major when I didn't know what I want so I'm not ...
A. 6 July 2012: It is quite normal to feel like this, you are doing a course that you are not interested in therefore off course you are going to feel lost and confused, and it does not help the way the economy is at the moment. My best advice to you is to go and ... (read in full...)
How do I not sabotage things in this relationship?
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months, but I've known him for about 4 years. I can say without a doubt that this is the happiest I've ever been. The problem isn't with him... It's me! He treats me like a princess, but I'm very ...
A. 5 July 2012: I think you are worrying over nothing here. You have both had bad experiences in the past, but most people have a history similar to this before they enter in to a new relationship. You trust your new boyfriend and you know he treats you well. Am ... (read in full...)
Is it stupid that I feel love so early?
Q. Dear cupid I feel so weird because i feel like i'm in love with my current boyfriend. We've only been dating for three months so sometimes i feel stupid for having such strong feelings already but i cant help it. I've never been this way with...
A. 5 July 2012: No it is not stupid at all. A lot can happen between two people in three months, and as you said yourself this is your first serious relationship so off course you are going to feel a strong connection with him and have deep feelings for him, it is ... (read in full...)
He's married and drinks alcohol. I'm married. His wife is jealous. It's an Emotional relationship. Does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. I'm having an emotional relationship with my co-worker who is married. His wife also suspects this and is jealous. There is nothing serious a thing to make a fuss about because i dont take things seriously,but he is very serious.He likes to hang ar...
A. 5 July 2012: The question here shouldn't be does he loves you, it should be about what you want in life. You are married to a man who you made a promise to be faithful to, and here you are having an emotional affair with another man, this is hardly fair on your ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him for a last goodbye?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for about half a year. He's an international student and we come from different cultures which caused many disagreements and misunderstanding although we were in love. Last week we had another argument and I went home ...
A. 5 July 2012: I know that it is difficult going through something like this and I know how you feel you just want to see him one last time and have a proper goodbye and leave on good terms, but believe me sweetheart this will only make it so much harder than it ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating someone else but how do I find out if he still likes me?
Q. In a few weeks I'm going on a family vacation where my long distance ex-boyfriend happens to live. We broke up a year ago when we were still in love but incapable of keeping a long distance relationship. Now we're working and more capable, and I ...
A. 5 July 2012: I don't think it matters to you what people have to say on this anyway about what is right and wrong you are still going to go for it and see if you can get your own way. In that case I don't think you should beat around the bush or play childish ... (read in full...)
I want to get to know him! Should I email? Send a text?
Q. So I really am tired of being completely single, and I really want to meet someone that is relationship potential. It's so hard to meet guys in this area. So yesterday I met this really cute guy in the phone store and unless he is completely stupid, ...
A. 5 July 2012: I don't think there is any harm in giving him a phone call. Sure what have you got to lose? Call him and tell him the problem with your phone and ask him would he be able to help, if he can help then maybe invite him out for a coffee or something so ... (read in full...)
Why does he always date my friends but not me? We're just alike!
Q. Ok so there is this guy at my school and we met two years ago. He ALWAYS teases me and messes around with me. He flirts with me alot and makes lots of awkward faces at me to make me laugh. We are super close and he's my best friend. He told me he ...
A. 5 July 2012: The best advice I can give you is to always put your friends before any men. It is a lesson to be learnt in life. If you had just broken up with a guy would you like your best friend to go running after him. Before you start flirting with him any ... (read in full...)
He made tentative plans, said he'd call but hasn't. Should I wait or make other plans?
Q. I met a guy from online..we spoke and texted for a week prior and got along great. We met in person and seemed to have a good time as well. We were in alot of contact or some form of contact each day since we started talking either through text or a ...
A. 5 July 2012: Really this is your choice to make, I must admit it sounds rather rude to me that he did not contact you today after saying that he would, please don't pin your hopes on this man because it sounds to me like he might be losing interest. Maybe I am ... (read in full...)
I feel we have the world against us. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hi DearCupid, I apologise if this is all over the place but here goes ... The general score is that my partner and I will be moving in together come September. The trouble is, all people that are close to him are capable of doing is putting obsta...
A. 5 July 2012: He is an adult and therefore he is old enough to make his own decisions. I can honestly see why you are worried here but I think the best thing for you to do is to take a step back and bite your tongue because believe me things will get easier in ... (read in full...)
I fell out with a friend because he lost his values, now I'm not sure what to do about our friendship.
Q. I'm really not sure what to do for the best. I feel out with a really good friend of mine who I've always loved. I know I did the right thing but I just don't know what to do. He was always such a repsectable person with strict values, and in the ...
A. 5 July 2012: Okay do you like this guy as more than a friend? At the end of the day I can see why you are worried and why you feel like he is changing but you really should not be judging him, his sex life is his business and you really have no place to ... (read in full...)
I could see it in her eyes she was still in love with me. And I'm still in love with her.
Q. Okay everybody, Please bare with me as I try to explain. I was with my partner for a long time. We met when we were both 21. I knew I'd met my soul mate. She was the same. We just got each other in a way that I never thought and knew was possibl...
A. 5 July 2012: You need to move on here. You have told her you still love her, you have done all the mushy stuff but it just did not work. She has moved on and is with someone else now and you need to respect that. I know that it is difficult to accept and yes I ... (read in full...)
Cheating? Trust broken? But can we make this work, despite the past?
Q. My girlfriend (X) and I have been together for almost 4 years now. I like to think of myself as an open minded guy. I'm not morally opposed to having an open relationship, and at times have tried to(and sometimes succeeded) at bringing other people ...
A. 4 July 2012: When someone cheats then sometimes the relationship just cannot go back to the way it was. It is really difficult to regain trust in someone again no matter how hard you try. I can see you love her though and you want it to work but you are right it ... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex and see what happens when we go to college? Or endure the pain of the break-up so I can be single at College?
Q. How do I deal with this break up? (High school to college) I had been dating one of my best friends for about 9 months until summer rolled around and decisions about college had to be made. Keep in mind while you're reading that this was my firs...
A. 4 July 2012: You are angry at him and upset that he does not hang out with you and seems to be hanging out with everyone else. It sounds to me like you are jealous that he has friends and you don't. What did you expect him to do? Just go back to being friends ... (read in full...)
Do I chose Love or a Career?
Q. Hello Agony Friends... As the title suggests, i'm hitting a period in my life where i need to define my priorities. My boyfriend and I are together since 3 years now: we complete each other on a mental and physical level and see marriage,...
A. 4 July 2012: I think you need to be selfish in this situation and put yourself first. I have no doubt that you both have a very strong relationship for now, but if it all went wrong in the future you would be bitter and regret not going to do your degree. It is ... (read in full...)
Fallen out of love but I stay for the sake of my best friend
Q. Well I was seeing this girl, we have been together for 2 months or so, my roommate knew this and we kept making plans to hang out well she suggested that we all hang out and she brought a friend for him, so they hit it off and we got kicked out the ...
A. 4 July 2012: Oh okay I see I got you mixed up there. Still I am sure your best friend would understand if you explained to him the situation that you where in, he is your friend and he would want what is best for you. Also it does not mean that he has to stop ... (read in full...)
In love with a co-worker
Q. Hi everyone. I think I'm in love with a co worker. 3 months ago I was head over hills but made sure that he doesn't notice. I've tried to think of it as a maybe I'm in love with his looks as he very handsome. I was on leave for a month at least I ...
A. 4 July 2012: I don't think you are in love with him, it is more likely lust. He is handsome and charming and has women fall at his feet. But once you properly get to know him he might not actually be good boyfriend material or worth ruining a perfectly good ... (read in full...)
Fallen out of love but I stay for the sake of my best friend
Q. Well I was seeing this girl, we have been together for 2 months or so, my roommate knew this and we kept making plans to hang out well she suggested that we all hang out and she brought a friend for him, so they hit it off and we got kicked out the ...
A. 4 July 2012: You know what you are two nice for your own good. What your girlfriend and friend done to you was just terrible and you should not be so forgiven. I can see that you worry about your friend and you want to do what is right for him, but you need to ... (read in full...)
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