I can hear my parents having sex, and really would rather not
Q. Don't know whether this is the right site but I need some advice. I can constantly hear my parents having sex. I completely understand that this is a natural thing and I am happy that they are still in love and can still experience that together but ...
A. 2 July 2012: Yes it can be embarrassing to say this to your parents, but if you don't mention something then they will never know. So talk to your mother and tell her how you feel.
Also be prepared you might not get the outcome you want as it is there house at... (read in full...)
Are my friends right? Do I have no conscience? I slept with a married guy.
Q. what should I be feeling about my situation? I had sex with a married man. I am barely 18 he is 42 and works in the same place i do. I have a boyfriend. he at first wanted to talk to me all the time after the sex he kept asking how the sex was afte...
A. 2 July 2012: I highly doubt there is anything wrong with you. At the end of the day you saw him and you felt you wanted to have sex with him end of story. You never at the time thought about how this would make your boyfriend feel, or his wife feel if they where ... (read in full...)
Besides Erectile Dysfunction could my low Testoserone levels be affecting my sex appeal to women in a negative way?
Q. Hi, I really need some help, especially from someone in the medical profession or anyone who might know about this. I'm a perfectly healthy, pleasant, bright, socially active forty two year old guy. But I've never had a girlfriend. In all m...
A. 2 July 2012: Okay well when it comes to dates and meeting women then no your testosterone levels would have nothing to do with meeting a woman. At the end of the day either someone is attracted to you or not based on looks and personality when you go on the ... (read in full...)
We can't communicate and now he said he wants to move out
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We moved in with each other about 8 months ago. We've been arguing about nonsense and we've been unable to communicate effectively when it comes to feelings. Our last argument about 2 weeks ago, has left ...
A. 2 July 2012: Sometimes couples can work great together until they move in with each other and the realise they are just not compatible to live with one another. I think you need to sit down with him and have a long talk and see if you can both move forward with ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband's family recognize me?
Q. My 45 year old step-daughter forgot my Birthday again.I have been with her father for almost 7 years,we are married for 1.5 year.I was trying to do my part to be a good grandmother for her children.We even took her children with us to our honeymoon ...
A. 2 July 2012: I wouldn't take this personal as am sure she did not mean it as a personal attack. Maybe she did just genuinely forget. Or maybe it is a case that she is religious and she does not agree with you being with her father, either way do not let it come ... (read in full...)
Husband of 28 years cheated with one of our friends before marriage. I just found out and somehow I'm the bad person in all of this!
Q. My husband of nearly 28 years betrayed me. He slept with one of our 'best friends' while we were living together (before marriage). I did not know this. Had I had known I would have left him. Over the course of 15 years she became emotionally ...
A. 2 July 2012: Write him a letter, and in that letter do not leave out any details at all. Write down everything that this woman has done and said to you, explain to him exactly how you feel and leave him alone to read it. ... (read in full...)
B/f will never finish inside of me. How can I get him to do so?
Q. Ive been with this guy for 6 months now and its going great. The sex we have is amazing, we just seem to have so much chemistry and I cant get enough of it! But he never ejaculates inside of me. We have sex and then he will finish off on my breasts ...
A. 2 July 2012: There really is nothing you can say or do. As you know all contraception is never 100% so maybe this is worrying him. Maybe it is something he has just gotten used to as well. Maybe when he first began to be sexually active this was his way off ... (read in full...)
I want to be sexy for my guy but don't have the money for new clothes
Q. Hey! Im gonna be spending some intimate time with my boyfriend. We've been together for a year and almost 2 months (yay!) Well im looking for some lingerie ideas but i cant really go out and buy anything so im trying to use some clothes that I a...
A. 2 July 2012: There are plenty of sexy things you can do that does not involve spending money on expensive underwear. You could dim the lights, add some candles and take a long soak together. Also you could get some cheap fishnets and add them to your look along ... (read in full...)
My friends broke up and I like the guy. Do I go out with him? I don't want to hurt her
Q. Where to start.. A couple I am friends with broke up a couple of weeks ago. I have been friends with the guy for just over 3 years and have been pretty much best friends with the girl since she moved to town about 2.5 years ago. My problem is the g...
A. 2 July 2012: You are being a bad friend right now for what you are doing. You say you can't help it, but really you can. He is not being much better flirting with you when he knows you and his ex are friends. You need to stop this right now if you value your ... (read in full...)
Weird feeling when I see my boyfriend after dirty talk
Q. me and my boyfriend are open about talking bout sex but when we talks dirty to me and i talk dirty back i feel very weird when i see him the next day. we text back and forth sexy stuff. i think its hot but im so scared to face him the next day. lik...
A. 2 July 2012: This is quite normal, we let our guard down through text messages and we say more than we would face to face, we cannot read the other persons body language through messages as well so it always makes it worse seeing them the next time and feeling ... (read in full...)
B/f is afraid I'll hurt him again because I did so in the past
Q. My ex and I have been together on and off for 3 years. He is very stubborn and thinks i'm going to hurt him again, because I did over a year ago. We are great together and he says he doesn't have time for a relationship cause he is so busy, but I ...
A. 2 July 2012: He is being dumb? you hurt him in the past therefore he finds it hard to trust you again, do you blame him? It can be very hard to give someone a second chance once they have hurt us. That is not him being dumb. He has been hurt and he is unwilling ... (read in full...)
Should I relocate to end a LDR?
Q. what are the pro's and con's of moving in with your loved ones? can anyone share there experiences, and is this something that wil be good for long term effect or short? i want my relo to last i am in a sort of LDR (long distance) but unsure if we...
A. 2 July 2012: Well it all really depends on what you both want. Long distance can be very hard, but it can also be very hard making a big move and then things not working out. Have you both been together long? Have you both spent enough time together as a couple ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's turning off his phone when I need him the most!
Q. Hey everyone I've been feeling so depressed lately,I don't wanna talk to no one. But my boyfriend called me and I told him to text me, I didn't feel Like talking, he asked me what was wrong and I said I can't tell him, it's was a very private mat...
A. 2 July 2012: What do you expect him to do? You told him you didn't want to talk to him on the phone and that you didn't want to tell him what was wrong with you? So how is he meant to be there for you if you are pushing him away?
Also I don't understa... (read in full...)
I shy around guys and want to be more like my friends
Q. Most of my friends are close friends or are good friends with boys apart from me, i get shy around them and never know what to say without sounding stupid or awkward. Any advice on how to start conversations with guys or anything that you think will ...
A. 1 July 2012: Shyness is quite common at your age believe me. But it gets easier talking to guys the more you practice. I guess you look at them and you feel self concious and you are scared what they think of you. But you can over some that. Just be friendly. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible a girl might be willing to save me....
Q. Is is wrong...as a guy, to want to be "saved" by a girl? I guess I don't exactly know what I want from women but I do believe I want to be with them. Still, I've never been in a relationship with a girl...NEVER!! Girls just never seem to like ...
A. 1 July 2012: You do not and should not need to change for anybody and always remember that, if a girl is asking you to change then it is obvious that girl is not the right one for you. You should not give up hope, not all girls are the same, and yes everybody ... (read in full...)
Do I go or stay away? Even though she invited me? My Bf will be there.
Q. So my boyfriend's friend is having a cookout next Saturday me and That guy's wife and I don't mix too well together. If I go it will be the first time I've seen them in a year. I feel nervous to go like I'm not welcomed by her to be there, but at t...
A. 1 July 2012: I think you should just go and enjoy yourself, she invited you so it should not be awkward. I know not everyone mixes well together but am sure you can make the effort with her considering she has invited you to her home and that way you can enjoy ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my brother and father I don't want to go into business with them?
Q. My father and brother are planning on starting a family business and they want me to be involve. The problem is that I do not want to be part of their business. What is the best way to tell them I do not want to go into business with them? I lo...
A. 1 July 2012: Explain to them that you don't want to mix family with work. Explain to them that you appreciate that they asked you to join them in there business plan but explain that you are really happy with the job that you have and you wish them the best of ... (read in full...)
Am I too jealous to be a mum?
Q. Hi there aunts and uncles I am back again!! I really need your help to save my relationship from myself. My partner just bought me the most beautiful puppy to keep me company (although I work 45 hours pw) I was getting bery broody and needed someone ...
A. 1 July 2012: Look in to your childhood and see if you can recognise anything that would make you feel like this. It seems you have a problem with sharing, and yes I would imagine that it will be ten times worse with a baby of your own. I guess you just need to ... (read in full...)
Are these clues that he likes me?
Q. I do have a slight crush on this man but i am wondering if this mean he likes me or more. He is around 40ish and this prior to a meeting. When every one starts coming in and just generally saying hi, settling down. I was in the middle of the room, ...
A. 1 July 2012: It sounds like he is being professional towards you and nothing more, I am also aware that he is your tutor and therefore nothing can happen between the both of you even if you wanted it to, so the best thing for you to do is to get the idea out of ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so negative about his new boyfriend? And how do I deal with the insults and such?
Q. Ok, so I have been friends with this guy for about two years. And at first we have hated each other, because he would always make fun of me. After being paired up together for a project we have been best friends ever since. He is so awesome, he has ...
A. 1 July 2012: He is extremely hurtful, if he was a proper friend he would not make nasty remarks about your weight, this really is not nice and friends just not do this. I am assuming that he is gay therefore I think he is just teasing you when it comes to him ... (read in full...)
Where did I go wrong in the past? What should I do about it all now? And what if this girl starts dating this guy?
Q. Hello Please pardon this being an extremely long story, but i want all of the information to bc clearly understood so i can get a good answer. Thank you for your time I am an average teenager, but a little young for my grade. I am Asian, 5'11"...
A. 1 July 2012: I think you should tell her your worries. If he is knowing for being a player and hurting girls well then am sure she knows what he is like to begin with. Tell her as a friend you are worried that she will get hurt. Although be prepared that she ... (read in full...)
Hot and cold with my crush. What should I do?
Q. Hi. Im 18 and single. Theres a 31 year old guy who I've become friends with in the charity shop where I volunteer. He's single but has a 4 year old daughter and maybe 1 on the way. We get on great as friends but I'm starting to feel like I'm ...
A. 1 July 2012: You need to think about this logically, yes it is great you have such a great friendship but there is a big age gap here. He may have a child on the way and he already has a 4 year old, you are only 18 and still quite young, could you really see ... (read in full...)
My big problem is that I'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend.
Q. Hello , well my big problem is that i'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend i really do love him and everytime i think about him my heart beats so fast , anyway i think you got it . And i feel really bad cause when everyday i talk with my best ...
A. 1 July 2012: You are not a very good best friend at all if you are trying to let him know that you like him. She is your friend and she should come before any man. Are you jealous of what she has with him? You need to let this go or else you will end up losing ... (read in full...)
Interested in a guy but not sure how to go about it. What should I do?
Q. Interested in this guy but don't know what to do...? Alright kiddies, Met this guy on a new online dating site and have been keeping casual contact off and on with him for about a month (in a total, perhaps 3-4 mails on the site). On Sun/Monday...
A. 1 July 2012: Most people can by nervous when it comes to meeting someone off the internet, that's my guess here, that he got a few drinks on him and it gave him some courage to ask did you want to meet up. He probably did feel bad the next day and it is good ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend crossed a line?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a year is in Miami on a business trip and is coming home today. He has been in contact via text for the 3 days he's been gone, and since this is our first time really apart, I gave him some space and didn't overwhelm him...I ...
A. 1 July 2012: Just because he said that he was dancing with people does not mean that it was with another woman, I think you are looking way to much in to this and making it to be bigger than what it is. He was in a club therefore that was why he probably never ... (read in full...)
Should I just stay friends with him?
Q. Recently iv'e been getting closer to this guy. We're always flirting and laughing and his friends keep telling me that he likes me. I like him too and really want our friendship to develop, but he had this thing going on with my best friend about a ...
A. 1 July 2012: I can understand that it is a delicate subject for her but you need to be honest with her. Yes it takes some courage but she is your best friend and she deserves the truth so you need to be honest with her and tell her that you like him and ask her ... (read in full...)
What do men like to have done to them.
Q. The new man in my life asked me what things I would like to do to him. He told me to use my imagination. The only things I have ever done before was a blowjob and lick and suck on mens balls. My exhusband would not allow me to do alot. Just the ...
A. 1 July 2012: All men are different as am sure you know, this man sounds like he wants to experiment a bit while your husband just liked things kept simple. Different things turn on different men, therefore just try out a few things and see what he seems to ... (read in full...)
Is boyfriend too skinny for us to do the missionary position?
Q. This sounds a bit weird but my boyfriend is really skinny and when we have missionary position sex his pelvic bone/hip bones really dig into my thighs. It really hurts and i even have bruises! Does that usually happen or are we doing something ...
A. 1 July 2012: No am sure you are not doing anything wrong I guess it is just because his hip bones stick out. If it is more comfortable for you then you go on top or just try out different positions and see which one suits you both.
As for encouraging him to g... (read in full...)
7 year relationship finished and trust issues?!
Q. Well I have a crush on a friend with whom I have been in constant contact through mail and chat for the last year and a half. (We knew each other 5 years ago through high school.) We know each other real well and I know that there is chemistry ...
A. 1 July 2012: Seven years is a long time, and if he left her then am sure she is going to be heart broken, it is good she has you there as a friend, but please do not rush her in to anything, I am sure you don't want to be her rebound. Everyone is different when ... (read in full...)
She said she has had 5 boyfriends, how do I tell her she is my first?
Q. Ok here it goes. I've been writing and talking to this girl for a couple months now, and were starting to get along really well. We're both the same age, 28 and have a lot in common. It started off as just getting to know each other as friends, and ...
A. 1 July 2012: I think you should just say to her you have never been in what you would call a serious relationship. Tell her you where not wanting a girlfriend up until now. Arrange to meet up and see where things go. You do not need to tell her you are a virgin. ... (read in full...)
She said she has had 5 boyfriends, how do I tell her she is my first?
Q. Ok here it goes. I've been writing and talking to this girl for a couple months now, and were starting to get along really well. We're both the same age, 28 and have a lot in common. It started off as just getting to know each other as friends, and ...
A. 1 July 2012: I think you should just say to her you have never been in what you would call a serious relationship. Tell her you where not wanting a girlfriend up until now. Arrange to meet up and see where things go. You do not need to tell her you are a virgin. ... (read in full...)
Am I gay? Going through a midlife crisis?
Q. Hi, I am sort of involved with a lesbian. We first started flirting and texting; but we have kissed in several occasions now. We have expressed our feelings for each other and we are both strongly attractive to each other. She is very masculine, ...
A. 1 July 2012: You need to think deeply here about what you want. Obviously there is something lacking in your current relationship when you felt the need to cheat on your partner. Does he know about this affair you are having? If you don't think you will be ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so serious about wanting to say he loves me? or is he just saying it?
Q. This guy and I have been seeing each other for a couple of months now,and we have only just slept together for the first time, as i was pregnant ( not his) and he now wants to move in with me and my child,which he is very good with, we are both ...
A. 1 July 2012: I am not quite sure what the problem is here? Is it you doubt him when he says he loves you because it was only through sex. It sounds to me like he wants to be with you. Plenty of people express themselves when they are being intimate. If he wants ... (read in full...)
Can't bear the arguing anymore!
Q. Hello, I've wrote a bit in here about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are still arguing about the same things, the lack of sex due to him not keeping an erection, about him being lazy, me feeling that he seems to look at our relationship...
A. 1 July 2012: You both just need to sit down and come to some sort off arrangement. If he is having serious problems keeping an erection, well instead of putting pressure on him you should be trying to help him, he may need to see his GP if things are that bad. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date a man with kids. Am I expecting too much?
Q. So I have a son who is 16 months old. And for some reason I don't think dating a man with a kid is an option. I find that men with kids tend to have a lot of baggage; child support, baby mom drama, and no money.. I simply don't want a guy who is ...
A. 1 July 2012: If I am honest then yes I do think you are expecting to much. A lot of men may think the same way as you though, they do not want to be with someone who has a child and that extra baggage therefore that may add to the fact that you have not been ... (read in full...)
He left his wife for me but misses his children
Q. I fell in love with a married man. We are right for each other. He left his wife and children and moved in with me, but told his wife it was a trial separationn and she has no clue what he has been doing. Now a few months in, he has become depre...
A. 1 July 2012: Are you sure that he loves you? He asked his wife for a trial seperation and forgot to mention you. My guess is he done this so that the door would be left open with his wife and family if he felt that things never worked out with you. Am guessing ... (read in full...)
He can't understand I am grieving and sex is the last thing on my mind!
Q. The past six months my Grandfather has been fighting a deadly diease. I was there with him. First 4 months he was at home, so I took the role of nursing him completely. Past 2 months he has been in hospice, and it has been the HARDEST journey for ...
A. 1 July 2012: Your grandfather has just passed away so off course sex is going to be the last thing on your mind. You need him to be there for you emotionally at this time. Tell him how terrible he has made you feel, tell him you are grieving. The last six months ... (read in full...)
I have been having an emotional affair
Q. Mine is related to an emotional affair. I am married andI work 4 hours from home. I have an apartment i maintain 4 days a week. There is a woam I work with, and I am her boss. I am deeply attracted to her. We have gone to lunch, have gone out for ...
A. 1 July 2012: Maybe she has came to her senses and realised that the path she was going down with you was wrong. You are both married and no matter what way the marriages are you should still be faithful to your partners. Maybe she has decided to work on her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves his computer more than me
Q. My boyfriend and I are avid gamers. We play online all the time and are constantly having conversations with everyone but each other. A habit I've been trying to break with a good walk everyday and outings to get away from our online friends. ...
A. 1 July 2012: You need to talk to him and tell him everything. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and also about this friend you are getting close to. Come to some sort of agreement where you both spend quality time together away from the computer. You need to ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married but can't forget about my fling!
Q. I had a fling with a collegue of mine 2 years back..This guy had a long distance girlfriend..I myself am in a relationship with another guy since 4 yrs. Since both of us were in long distance relships we hit it off instantly and started spending a ...
A. 1 July 2012: Yes it is hard to deal with when somebody uses you, it does not feel nice at all. I guess it back fired on you as you should never have gotten involved with him when you where with your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
I never get a break from him bitching at me
Q. I don't even know where to begin. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years in December. We have a 6 month old together and are living together. I'm constantly trying to make him happy. He's VERY OCD, so I try my best to keep the house clean, ...
A. 30 June 2012: You should never use a child as a reason to stay with someone. If you both are always arguing then that environment is not good for the baby, it would be best off if you where both separated if you are not happy.
He sounds very stressed with wor... (read in full...)
I'm getting married but can't forget about my fling!
Q. I had a fling with a collegue of mine 2 years back..This guy had a long distance girlfriend..I myself am in a relationship with another guy since 4 yrs. Since both of us were in long distance relships we hit it off instantly and started spending a ...
A. 30 June 2012: He used you for sex while his girlfriend was away, simple as that. I guess you have learned your lesson now as to why you should never cheat on someone, or get with someone who is in a relationship. I feel sorry for your boyfriend as you where ... (read in full...)
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