Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 30 October 2012: If you want me to be completely honest with you then I would say you blew this way out of proportion. If it was me I would be quite annoyed with you as well. You allowed her to have the tickets therefore she just wanted to know if you where able to ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 14 October 2012: If I am honest with you it really is hard to tell where this girl is coming from. I suggest you take things slow this time though, go out on a few dates and have a laugh, enjoy each others company and see if it kicks off this time. Maybe she has ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 4 October 2012: You are letting this eat away at you and get to you. Yes I think it is a good idea that you get closure on this. It is rude of her to just ignore you when you ask her out, and the same goes for the concert. To me that shows totally lack off respect ... (read in full...)
Do you believe a mans view on a woman can change?
Q. If a man has been nothing but disrepsectful for most or all of his years, (since puberty to say) do you truly believe they could see women than more than boobs and ass? Do you believe a man could change and accept a woman properly if theyve had this ...
A. 29 September 2012: I believe someone can change as they get older yes. They may grow up looking at women as nothing but a piece of meet but they then might meet someone and realise there is more to them than that, also it might take a person longer to mature and ... (read in full...)
Busy schedule , no time for my relationship.. help!
Q. Hi guys! My boyfriend and I are super close but with school and work we've been seeing eachother less and we just aren't as close anymore. Were still getting used to a busy schedule, were taking a break. Everything seems to be going downhill. ...
A. 29 September 2012: I am unsure why you would think taking a break would matters here? At the end of the day if you are both committed to the relationship then taking a break would be the last solution. A relationship does take some hard work and effort on both sides ... (read in full...)
Is this all some elaborate plan to sleep with me or is he really battling his feelings?
Q. So I have been friends with this guy for about a year. We used to work together. And it's really only been just that...friends. Throughout our friendship I let him know I was interested in him and he told me on a couple different occasions that he ...
A. 13 September 2012: There is no way he is just wanting a one night stand with you, that much is clear, if that was what he wanted then he would not have stayed friends with you for so long. It sounds to me like he really does have feelings for you, but it is almost ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he doesn't want to involve me in his life?
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years now and at first there were alot of arguments. It has been a long distance relationship until now that we are on the same town . I feel we should spend alot of quality time together do we can rekindle ...
A. 12 September 2012: Just reading through this I see that it is posted twice. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he doesn't want to involve me in his life?
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years now and at first there were alot of arguments. It has been a long distance relationship until now that we are on the same town . I feel we should spend alot of quality time together do we can rekindle ...
A. 12 September 2012: Just reading through this I see that it is posted twice. ... (read in full...)
S this type of attraction possible? Or have I lost my mind entirely?
Q. Hello everyone, I am currently struggling with a bizarre situation, and I would like to know if I am the only one who has experienced this. First, a little background: I identify as bisexual and have been sexually attracted to both males a...
A. 12 September 2012: Yeah it does sound like you almost envy her and that this is where your near obsession is coming from. I think she has everything you want. I know it is hard to avoid her, but I think you need to just try and distract yourself from her as much as ... (read in full...)
Lesbian with a possible straight crush
Q. I know this may be silly but I've become attracted to a woman at work. I only see her for minimal periods of time. She's quiet, but I have been noticing she has gone from not saying anything to being excited when she sees me. She says hi, smiles all ...
A. 12 September 2012: Maybe you are seeing something more that is just simply not there due to the fact that you find her attractive. I guess the only way to find out more, is to get to know her more and meet her outside of work and build a friendship and see where it ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he doesn't involve me in his life? Or does he just need time alone with his family?
Q. I have been in a relationship for seven years now and at first there were alot of arguments. It has been a long distance relationship until now that we are on the same town . I feel we should spend alot of quality time together do we can rekindle ...
A. 12 September 2012: I think you need to talk to him about this. You want more from this relationship than you are getting, and you need to tell him that. Be honest with him and explain to him how you are feeling, tell him you want to be involved with him and his family ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he likes me or not
Q. Hi I'm really unsure whether this guy in my class likes me or not. We went on one date last year but ended up being friends instead. So just before summer we had an argument an I ended up saying lots of offensive things to him (they were a little ...
A. 12 September 2012: You need to decide what it is that you want with him, is it strictly friendship or do you like him more than that as well. If it is a case that you do then go with the flow and see how things are, if it is strictly friendship you want with him then ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make sure my son is not living in the mess?
Q. So it has been over a year since I last posted on here, I didn't go back to Pete, and Jack and I are still together. Last year Pete still had my kids, in July last year, he kicked our 13 year old daughter out and I moved her here to Jack and I, m...
A. 12 September 2012: You are right and it is not healthy for him. Get another court date. Call your lawyer, just because he is 12 does not mean he is old enough to no what is best for him, he is still a minor and if he is living in this mess then something needs to be ... (read in full...)
Does he want to talk? But not sure how...or just being friendly. I'm confused!
Q. A coworker and I have a connection but we do not work directly with each other because he works in a different department. We are in a partnership. When we met, our eyes locked, we smiled, exchanged glances and got along well. A month later, he ...
A. 12 September 2012: It really is a hard one to tell. Yes you are right he did make a huge effort to try and contact you, so yes there is a chance that he might have liked you when he saw you and he wanted a reason to contact you, I guess you will just need to wait and ... (read in full...)
How do we deal with our different schedules?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for almost two years. Over the past year, our visits have become significantly less frequent and shorter. His work schedule if completely opposite mine. I work 9-5 Monday through Friday, and he is 2-11 ...
A. 12 September 2012: There really is no magical answer on how to deal with this situation, it is just unfortunate that both your schedules clash and you probably won't get to spend as much time with each other as you usually can. Yes this can take a huge strain on any ... (read in full...)
Does anyone relate to this? Being told by a friend that her desires extend past our boundaries?
Q. hi. very nervous. my dear friend of 12 years just started confessing that her desires extend past our very comfortable, very intimate boundaries. we're both dykes of a similar stripe: as per gender-performance, priorities in life, vulnerabilities, ...
A. 12 September 2012: It is quite obvious from your post that you are both wanting to be with each other. I may be wrong, but however all the signs are there that you return her feelings as well. I guess the friendship between you both has progressed over the years and ... (read in full...)
What am I? Bi, straight, something else?
Q. I'm unsure about my sexuality. I'm an 18 year old guy, and have always been attracted to girls, I get turned on by girls, and date and have sex with girls. But here's the thing, having sex with another guy where I penetrate them, kiss them, or le...
A. 12 September 2012: It sounds to me like you are just comfortable with your sexuality. Being affectionate towards males does not bother you, either would the idea of penetrating them, but when it comes to you having to be any more intimate than that it you couldn't do ... (read in full...)
I don't know which one needs to be set straight: Ben or Jack
Q. Hey, so I'm going to get right into it. So I have a male best friend, lets just call him Ben. He's 21 and I'm 18. We've been as I would call it the best of friends rather than "best friends", for the past four years. To me the idea of calling ...
A. 11 September 2012: I think he is right you need to set Jack straight so that he knows where he stands with you. Just simply explain to him that you think he is a good friend but you are just not interested in him like that. It is the best thing to do believe me.
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He used to be affectionate but now he seems awkward around me
Q. What does it possibly mean when a guy that used to be affectionate towards you, gets a little distant and starts acting awkward? I ask because this boy kind of confuses me a bit. Like when I first met him and we talked like a little he would ...
A. 11 September 2012: My guess is that he likes you he is just unsure about how to show it or how to let you know that he likes you. All the classic signs are there, and when a teenage guy likes someone they tend to act more awkward and distant because they are unsure ... (read in full...)
S this type of attraction possible? Or have I lost my mind entirely?
Q. Hello everyone, I am currently struggling with a bizarre situation, and I would like to know if I am the only one who has experienced this. First, a little background: I identify as bisexual and have been sexually attracted to both males a...
A. 11 September 2012: Would it be possible that you want what this girl has? You don't know her personally, so you don't know if she has a nice personality or not or if she is even a nice person. So I am guessing this is all to do with how she looks and holds herself. ... (read in full...)
Have we fallen out of love with each other? Is this the end?
Q. My boyfriend persuaded me to leave my hostel and move in with him (for a few months, since I'm leaving the city after that) so that we can spend more time together and he can "take care of me". I insisted on paying him for letting me stay so I'm not ...
A. 11 September 2012: I really do not see how this relationship is going to work, the worst of it is you say don't tell me to speak to him about it because he brings up your past. I really don't think you need anyone's opinion in this it is clear that this relationship ... (read in full...)
Has anyone got herpes and how do you tel people and how do they react do you get rejected often?
Q. a few days ago a guy that i had been dating about a year ago contacted me and informed me during the time i was with him he had herpes. this was very upsetting for me because he said he knew he had it and didnt want to tell me.even when i asked him ...
A. 11 September 2012: Personally I have never had Herpes but I have dealt with people in the past that has contracted it. Just because your ex had it does not mean you will have it, unlike most other STD's this one is usually past on to someone when the person has an ... (read in full...)
Why can my boyfriend only go about 2" inside of me?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex the second time last week. We have done it before but he has never penetrated my vagina. Well last week we tried it for the first time. First time he went in about 2 inches but it hurt me really badly like there was ...
A. 11 September 2012: No there is nothing wrong with you at all. Losing your virginity is a big thing, and it is hurting simply because you are nervous, and yes you are clenching your muscles which prevent him from going any further. You need to be completely ready and ... (read in full...)
Am I just a cover up?
Q. Hello , im in a relationship and a few months ago i found some tranny porn as well as him looking at craigslist for trannys. Also found emails replying to adds. Since the beginning of the relationship i noticed he wasnt like most men, ive always ...
A. 1 September 2012: This really is a hard one. This is obvious a part of him that he has hid from people for whatever reason. As you said he does not make a move on you sexually, and he does not seem to care if you are both intimate or not, this suggests to me that you ... (read in full...)
I'm short so how do I hit on women who are taller than me without them thinking I'm joking?
Q. I'm a short dude but I LOVE tall women. I'm appealing in every way except for my height. How do I hit on women who are a foot taller than me without having them think I'm joking?...
A. 1 September 2012: I guess everyone is different when it comes to height and what they like and what they don't. If I was hit on by a shorter guy I don't think he would be joking, because to me the height wouldn't be such a big deal. I think you need to try and get to ... (read in full...)
Tips on socializing needed, please!
Q. Hi. So i need advice for someone that is quite shy and finds it hard to socialize. I'm 17 and my friend is having a get together before she goes to university were only going for a meal and then to a pub but i'll only know like 5 people and i fin...
A. 1 September 2012: I know that it can be difficult when you are shy and you just do not know what to say to people. But it really is simple and nothing to worry about, I think the more you worry the more difficult it is because you over think everything and get in a ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her to squash all this madness?
Q. Dear Cupid 3, I have been with my lesbian girlfriend for a year and 6 months ... Our relationship is like no other. Some of our friends think that that song "I Love The Way You Lie" describes exactly the kind of relationship we ...
A. 1 September 2012: I don't think this is ever going to get any better. Answer me truthfully do you trust your girlfriend? She cheated on you with a member of your family and you forgave her? That is quite big, and my guess is that she broke your trust and maybe it is ... (read in full...)
Advice needed on how to get on with her difficult exes.
Q. Two weeks ago I met a girl from a online dating website, Im 25 and she is 23, we spoke on there for a few days, swapped numbers and found out we lived 2mins from each other. We arranged for a date a few days later and before we knew it we had seen ...
A. 1 September 2012: Okay well the answers to your questions are
A) He needs to be told from your girlfriend to back off. Okay so he is the father to one of her children so he does have the right to see this child, and maybe they can come up with a schedule so that ... (read in full...)
So what can or should I do? When I'm not with him I wish I didn't have a Bf. But I love him
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. Im 21 he is my first boyfriend. We are really good together, we always have a good time and we barely have discussions. BUT lately when he is not around I really start thinking if He is The One. I ...
A. 30 August 2012: I think the distance that has been created around you both now is putting pressure on the relationship. Not being able to see each other until the weekends sometimes can be a good thing but at the minute it seems to be putting distance between you ... (read in full...)
I'm at a loss for what to do. I love him dearly, but I am not satisfied with our intimate relationship.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend almost 2 years. We are engaged to be married. We get along great and have so much fun together. However, I do not feel he desires me intimately. I have repeatedly told him how I feel, and asked the appropriate ...
A. 30 August 2012: There really is not a lot that you can do. I believe that he probably is attracted to you, it is just the both of you have very different personalities. He is not an affectionate person and doesn't make the effort to please you, I guess that is just ... (read in full...)
Plenty of emotional intimacy, but no physical
Q. My bf and I are in our early 50s and have been dating for several years. We have hugged but have never held hands or kissed, let alone made love. The first couple of years that we were dating, he had some health issues (including some ...
A. 30 August 2012: I don't think you going to counselling on your own would help matters much, because it is him that has the problem here not you. I honestly think you both need to go to counselling, I am not sure if he would be up for that, but if he cannot stand ... (read in full...)
What's with this Personal Trainer at the Gym? He stares at me but then breaks appointments.
Q. Why would he text me like that? Should I bother replying? There's this Personal Trainer at my gym that has been starring me at me all the time everywhere. On the bus, at the gym, while I'm in another room working out he'd be watching me through the ...
A. 30 August 2012: I think you are reading to much in to him looking at you. You have managed to convince yourself that there is something going on between the both of you. He could be just one of those people who stare but mean nothing by it. His text message is ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my abusive toxic Ex? Makes out he cares to my mother. Then abusive tirade at me,
Q. My ex bf of nine months dumped me in a text message after I had a nervous breakdown. After the breakup we kept having arguments and he blocked me from phones, emails and facebook. I then went on to have an early miscarriage. I didn't know I was pr...
A. 30 August 2012: It looks to me like he thinks you have lied about having the miscarriage so that you could get on his good terms again. He wanted to go to the check up with you to find out for himself, and I guess it was his child as well so maybe that would only ... (read in full...)
What should I say to him? Let alone do about him? Should I ask him out? Or let him do that?
Q. ok i,ve known this boy (X) since last august we met in school and we've been slight friends ever since. well in april i went to this concert with my mom and my 2 friends well when we were there my mom said my name and i was ma'am and she was like...
A. 25 August 2012: You need to show him you are interested though, try and flirt back with him, that shows him that you are interested and sets you aside from the rest of the girls. ... (read in full...)
Is she giving me a second chance after being too jealous? Or letting me down gently?
Q. I didn't think it was a real possibility when people tell you to just meet people doing things you like when all I am is a computer gaming nerd but I met a girl in a video game about a year ago (maybe that's sad, who knows?). We hit it off and she ...
A. 23 August 2012: It is hard to say if she is willing to give you a second chance or not, she obviously has had bad experiences in the past with guys who where jealous of her so she does not want that and I do not blame her, however I do believe that she values your ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 23 August 2012: I think you are both to blame hear really, nobody is in the right or the wrong. You might not have felt like you where possessive but she sounds like she is a quite reserved girl who likes to take things slow, I think you wanted things to move to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to video games and I don't know what to do about it!
Q. Hey guys, I have lived with my boyfriend for over a year and the last few months he has became so addicted to video games. He is on them from sunrise to sunset! the only time he is not on them is when he is sleeping or eating. I do not mind that he ...
A. 23 August 2012: The way you are feeling is completely normal. If he is on it all day expect for eating and sleeping then he obviously is addicted to it and it has taking over his life. It cannot be healthy for him either as he is getting no exercise and excluding ... (read in full...)
What should I say to him? Let alone do about him? Should I ask him out? Or let him do that?
Q. ok i,ve known this boy (X) since last august we met in school and we've been slight friends ever since. well in april i went to this concert with my mom and my 2 friends well when we were there my mom said my name and i was ma'am and she was like...
A. 23 August 2012: Courage has to come from yourself. Okay so everyone talks to people daily, it is part of life right. He is no different to anybody else you talk to through the day, the only thing that is making it harder for you at the moment is because you have a ... (read in full...)
How do you know if/when somebody's falling for you?
Q. Hello everyone. Sorry if this sounds stupid,but I am new at this.My two previous relationships were with abusive,violent guys,so this is completely out of my frame of reference. How do you know if/when somebody's falling for you,or ar...
A. 23 August 2012: Yes it is very possible that he is. I am glad to see that you are out of those abusive relationships and that you have found someone who is nice to you and treats you well. I understand that it is all new to you, and you probably do have some ... (read in full...)
We were going to go out but things fell through and now I'm not sure how to act around her
Q. So last week I finally asked out a girl I liked... sort of. I just messaged her on Facebook and asked her if she'd be interested in coming along for a work-group hanging out thing near the end of the week (I know her through my summer job). I wasn't ...
A. 23 August 2012: My advice to you would be to pluck up the courage to talk to her to her face. Yes facebook is great for hiding behind when you can't face the person, but it is not as personal and means so much less. So I say find the confidence within yourself to ... (read in full...)
Does he likes me? Did he ever?
Q. I like thos co-worker who is 18...but is somehow a bit mature professionally...but as to relationships..i don't get him... He showed interest and i backed off...afraid because i was never in a relationship and he is so young and tells about me to ...
A. 19 August 2012: I think he if he is more influenced by other people instead of being himself then no he is not mature, there is nothing about this post that makes me see why you think he is mature because to me he sounds like a typical immature teenager, I honestly ... (read in full...)
He doesn't mean that much to me -- should I tell him about the other guy?
Q. The names i am using in the story are not the actual names. I'm only using them to make it easier to understand. Alright so there's this guy named John that I used to date last summer and we broke up because he was moving away. Then I met another ...
A. 18 August 2012: Yes the best thing to do is to let John go, it is not fair to lead him on, and you should never have said yes when you knew you where in love with Keith. So it is now time to be honest with him, just tell him the truth that your heart belongs to ... (read in full...)
Why am I still helping my husband, even though he chose his mistress?
Q. we are together for 7 years, early this year i found out that he cheat on me with his co-worker 23 yrs old woman ( he is 31) and i thought i was over but it still continues. the mistress spend their get away because we are poor, and his salary is ...
A. 16 August 2012: No I don't think you could both move past this and get your marriage back on track again, he has no love or respect for you, because if he respected you he never would have cheated on you and if he loved you he would have picked you over his ... (read in full...)
My brother-in-law is hitting on me!
Q. my brother-in-law is hitting on me! ok,So i've been with my Husband a total of 6 years, well I've always been kind of shy around his whole family. But I still have conversations with them here and then. But I've noticed since I first came into my ...
A. 16 August 2012: You need to be honest with him. Next time he flirts or touches you inappropriate then just tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable and ask him to stop. You need to tackle the problem head on or else it will only get worse. So next time he ... (read in full...)
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