Is it a good idea to go through with this relationship?
Q. I am an american women dating a turkish guy. We have been talking off and on for the past two years. He comes to virginia beach, virginia every summer on a work visa. We were introdued through texting by my brother which is good friends with my ...
A. 30 July 2012: This is a hard one to comment on, especially when it is so popular that some people are just wanting a visa in to America. Although you say he is really good friends with your brother so why not talk to him about it and see what he thinks? Also if ... (read in full...)
What are things to consider when planning on getting divorced?
Q. when planning to get divorced, what are the things to consider. My husband and I are separated and I would like to know what to expect if our marriage does not survive, especially from those in the RSA. Thanks......
A. 30 July 2012: I do not reside in South Africa therefore I am unsure how your system works but here is a sight that might help answer your questions
www.edivorce.co.za/divorce-process.php... (read in full...)
Why does my husband think its right to put me down?
Q. why is it when my husband puts me down he thinks it's right?i use to be controlling and not allow him to work and follow him everywhere he went and went threw his phone to see what he was doing on his phone and i know that is not right so some of ...
A. 30 July 2012: Your right you can only be responsible for you, and you have learnt to realise that controlling your man is not the best way to deal with things, however even though you have stopped now, it does not mean you automatically trust him, as it is clear ... (read in full...)
How should a man treat a women, now a days?
Q. How should a man treat a women now a days, anyways? We se so many shows and have so many social pressures, both on men and women, but mostly on women. Also though i think it's difficult to get to know someone, becuase of that persons past, with ...
A. 30 July 2012: I don't think there is anything wrong with it, at the end of the day there is always going to be human error when someone is picking a partner, and this just cannot be helped. I think the best way to deal with things is to take things slow and get ... (read in full...)
Am I being portrayed as the underdog?
Q. I have known my friend for 5 years and our friendship has grown over years. I have trust issues opening up to people who get close to me, thou I am bubbly and the life and sole of the party and get on with everyone. Most of the time I am perceived ...
A. 30 July 2012: My guess here would be that they know you are quite a private person and you do not like to open up and talk about your personal life, therefore they might not want to interfere with this in case you do not agree with it. They might not be showing ... (read in full...)
Is it me? Or just because he doesn't last long?
Q. me and my fiance have been together for a year and a half. since we have been together we only have sex once every few weeks. im 23 and he is 29. its not through lack of trying. i try to initiate it most nights but he turns round and goes to sleep...
A. 30 July 2012: He may have said to you he had a healthy physical relationship in the past and maybe he did. It could be that he may just feel that he does not last long with you and that it is getting him down. It really is hard to tell what exactly is going ... (read in full...)
My business partner is flirting with my crush and it's causing major waves in our friendship.
Q. Ok here goes. My bussiness partner is well known as a "Playa", so we'll call him P. He and I are friends first, partners in bussiness second. P is known for his success in seducing attractive young girls, something that I will admit gets me jealous ...
A. 30 July 2012: I can understand that you are angry and upset at him. But I think you are going a step to far here and over reacting. I am aware that you liked her and you felt you had a chance with her until he came along, but also it could be a fact that he may ... (read in full...)
Why am I confused about my feelings between guys and girls?
Q. i am a 13 year old girl but since year 3 i have had crushes on many females i have had boyfreinds but i never seem to feel the same way about them as i do women why is that i am confised?...
A. 30 July 2012: You have hit your teenage years and it is very common to become confused about your sexuality and people who you may be attracted to, believe me puberty is kicking in and knocking all your hormones all over the place and it is really normal to be ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what this older co-worker's take is on me. I'm attracted to him
Q. I have a crush on a co-woker who is ten years older. I noticed that he treats me differently than my other female colleagues and it could be for bajillion different reasons. I was just wondering if someone had any ideas. Different how? Well, for s...
A. 30 July 2012: This is a tough one. He is not showing any obvious signs of liking you. He may act differently towards you because you say you look and seem very young for your age, so maybe he has noticed this as well and that is why he treats you with care, it ... (read in full...)
She's not sure what she is and I never experienced that, how can I help her?
Q. I have recently met this girl in the past few weeks where I have started to work, we've hit it off instantly exchanging numbers and emails etc. We have since been in contact constantly and a few comments she makes I did question whether or not she ...
A. 30 July 2012: There is not much that you can do for her. She is questioning her sexuality at the moment, but my guess is she is doing this because she has been hurt from men, lots of people get curious now and again but that does not mean she is bisexual so you ... (read in full...)
She wants me to be more dirty but now I"m not sure we should have started down this path!
Q. I am really unsure what to make with my girlfriend. We've been together 5 months, throughout May we did not kiss or do anything sexual as she'd commented she felt guilty, plus I had things on my mind so I deliberately didn't do anything. Fro...
A. 30 July 2012: I think you just need to both communicate about this. If she is not comfortable being sexual with you then tell her she does not need to, but yes you are right you have both went down that path now so it will be hard to go back on it, as you both do ... (read in full...)
I love him, but he treats me so bad.
Q. Hey everyone, so, I've got a big issue here. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now, and, I love him to pieces. But, recently, he's been treating me so horribly. Recently meaning 2 months ago he started this habit. He's just flat out an ...
A. 27 July 2012: First off get the idea of cheating out of your head, you say your boyfriend is disrespecting you, but you are thinking on doing the dirty on him which is completely wrong, you have done it in the past you should learn from your mistakes. It is not ... (read in full...)
I'm in a bad situation with my husband and really need some advice!
Q. Okay so I'm legally married, my husband in the past has hit me before and is extremely verabally abusive. We have an 2 year child together, I decided I wanted out of the marriage for my daughters sake because she can already tell how he treats me ...
A. 27 July 2012: As you have said yourself you do not neglect your daughter, you are her sole carer, you are her mother and she needs you. A court is not going to take her away from you because your husband is bitter and twisted and does not want another man near ... (read in full...)
How to flirt with women?
Q. I'm a 29 year old guy looking for advice on how, where and when to flirt with women. I stopped trying after my early 20s and I've become pretty clueless and insecure. I'm looking to get back in the game. Any suggestions? ...
A. 27 July 2012: I suggest that you just be yourself. Flirting with someone and using cheesy chat up lines in my opinion sometimes have the opposite effect on women. So instead of worrying about flirting concentrate more on getting to know a woman. If there is ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this girl out?
Q. There's this girl I wanna ask out in my college class. I don't know her. She's just a girl in my class. I am a very shy person, especially when it comes to girls. This is only the case before I know a person. Anyway, I made a bit of progress...
A. 27 July 2012: Just go for it, as you said you only have this one chance left, so you have nothing to lose. If she is with her friends then just ask her could you talk to her in private for a minute, then once you have her alone, just ask her would she like to ... (read in full...)
What kind of love does he have towards me?
Q. i am in a committed ldr since 3years and 1 month.my bf and i really love each other but now everything has spoiled up.whenever my bf gets angry he abuse me hard.he calls me prost*t*te,b**ch etc.it did became a big issue and we broke up ...
A. 27 July 2012: Again he is an adult, so if he wants to drink then that is his choice. Yes I agree that he should never have made a promise to you and then break it just to prove a point, it is very immature. But what made him promise you that he would not drink? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is perfect and makes me happy yet I'm constantly insecure that he would cheat on me
Q. Hi, Im 19 and about two years ago i met a guy and a year later we started dating. He's only my second relationship in my entire life. Everything is great, he's so sweet, he's soo good looking but here's the proublem, he's 1,243 miles away. This has ...
A. 27 July 2012: I agree with eyespy17, he is putting a lot of effort in to this relationship, something he would not be doing if he was not interested, but I guess you know deep down that he is completely committed. You still have this nagging feeling because you ... (read in full...)
How do I get over someone I never truly had?
Q. Back in March, I started to pursue my crush on my friends sister after she initiated contact with me. She asked me to take her fishing and she said yes. My friend then told me that she told him that we were going fishing and that I was going to be ...
A. 27 July 2012: Could it be possible that her brother (your friend) may have said to her that he was not comfortable with the idea off you and her dating. Have you spoke to your friend about this? If not I think you should. Tell him how you feel and see what he has ... (read in full...)
How do I start to get over this? I am still affected by my parents infidelity and how it made me feel as a child
Q. My question is regarding cheating parents. A few years ago, my father cheated on my mother. I am considerably younger than my siblings AND when this infidelity occurred, I was placed in the middle of the drama because of my age difference. Althou...
A. 27 July 2012: This is between your mother and father. It is there marriage. Yes I totally understand that you would be effected by this as well. I am glad you remained neutral because at the end of the day he is still your father no matter what. Even children do ... (read in full...)
Should I consider this other man? My husband is not intersted in me. Does this other man only want sex?
Q. Hi, iam 25 years old married and have a kid,my husband is not interested in doing any sex with me... Nor will he discuss any matters to me. I saw some SMS in his mobile , which is related to a girl. I think he has another affair, if i ask him, he ...
A. 27 July 2012: It is clear that your marriage is not working out. It is time to sit down with your husband and tell him you are not happy, give him a chance to either work on things or else tell him it is over as you need love and support from him and also ... (read in full...)
How to deal with a meddling sister of a boyfriend?
Q. How to deal with a meddling sister of a boyfriend? My question is due to the fact that my boyfriend's sister who has never had a baby and is younger than me yet assumes she knows everything there is to know about me and my pregnancy. I am abou...
A. 27 July 2012: This is probably just her personality and she probably does not mean as much harm as she is causing, however if it was me in your shoes I would feel exactly the same way. You need to be honest with her, tell her how she is making you feel, and ask ... (read in full...)
Should I try to move to her country to be with her?
Q. She's a foreigner who's doing internship here, and will move back to her country next week. She's thinking about coming back here to work fulltime after finish her master, next year. We've known each other for maybe 2 months. We hanged out a lot...
A. 27 July 2012: I agree with Deagan, I think she likes you yes maybe more as a friend than as a potential partner, she never responded when you told her you loved her, yet she agreed that she could deal with it, but she has made it clear she does not want you ... (read in full...)
Now I'm in this predicament. But does he still love this other girl? Or is he just a player?
Q. My boyfriend (21) has told me he has had 3 past girlfriends (N, G, M) and that he's had sex with only 2 of them and he doesnt even remember who he fucked G or M. Those supposedly are the only girls he has had sex with and also the first girl he lost ...
A. 27 July 2012: Okay well to begin with I am not sure why he never told you about this girl when he told you about the others, this does send alarm bells ringing. My guess is that because he was still in contact with her and sending her messages that he just did ... (read in full...)
What kind of love does he have towards me?
Q. i am in a committed ldr since 3years and 1 month.my bf and i really love each other but now everything has spoiled up.whenever my bf gets angry he abuse me hard.he calls me prost*t*te,b**ch etc.it did became a big issue and we broke up ...
A. 27 July 2012: Well for a start asking each other to do sit ups is quite immature in a relationship. I suggest you find some other way to apologise to each other or show that you are sorry. Now on to the issue in hand, him calling you these names is down right ... (read in full...)
He has cheated before and I'm scared my boyfriend is cheating again
Q. My bf and I have been together for 2 years we have a baby together and we plan to get married in June 2013. But he has been acting strange getting mad at me all the time for asking him questions like where are you going ? That sort of thing he has ...
A. 27 July 2012: He has cheated on you in the past, and even though you say you both worked through it, it will still play on your mind and make you wonder if he is doing it again. Are there any other signals that might suggest he is cheating, you say he gets angry ... (read in full...)
He's been hot and cold with me. X-box is more important than me. How to get BF more interested?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together just short of 2 years. We're a normal couple I guess but he's not exactly perfect and neither am I. I panic a lot, I'm insecure from being cheated on in all past relationships but improved so much with my ...
A. 27 July 2012: I guess your relationship has hit a rough part at the moment. It sounds to me like he might actually be a bit jealous that you are spending so much time looking after your puppy, to some people that might sound ridiculous but it actually happens ... (read in full...)
Should we get engaged when we are this young?
Q. Hey Cupids, me and my bf have currently been discussing getting engaged to a point where i even heard him talking to his mom about rings. Im in my sophmore year of college and he is a freshman in college as well. We have been living together...
A. 26 July 2012: I think you should follow your heart and not listen to anybody else. It is your life to live. My personal opinion is that you have both been together quite a while now, and you have lived together for a year as well, so it is not as if you are ... (read in full...)
How can I know if she likes me and what are the signs?
Q. Hey everyone here is my problem, two months ago I met this girl who is a friend of my cousin and I felt something when I first met her. We Started messaging and I got to know her well. I really like her now because of her personality and i think she ...
A. 26 July 2012: Nobody on here is going to be able to confirm if she likes you or not, it is only her that has the answer. So far the signs are good, you have both kept in contact, and she has suggested meeting up which means she is keen to hang out with you so it ... (read in full...)
Ladies: What Keeps A Guy Out Your Friend Zone?
Q. I've noticed that some guys sabotage their own luck with women, and may not know it. What they do to woo a woman, can sometimes end up friendzoning him instead. Outside physical attraction (which may be outside your control), what things can a guy...
A. 26 July 2012: I think sometimes it is just best to be open and honest with someone. If you like someone then flirt with them, show them you are interested. If you do not show someone you are interested in them from the start you will fall in to the friend zone.... (read in full...)
Should I be with my husband knowing he belongs somewhere else?
Q. pls help be4 i make a mistake im madly in love with this man my husband and i been trying to make this right from the shock of his cheating that was found out 2 weeks after we got married he was still sleeping with his ex. i have tryed to heal ...
A. 26 July 2012: This really is a hard one, but you need to decide it for yourself. Just because he has past memories of her does not mean that he belongs with her, but it is a bad sign that once you both have an argument he goes running to her. He needs to make his ... (read in full...)
I confided in my friend about my partner's cheating and now I feel like I crossed the line
Q. I'm in a situation, I found out my boyfriend had cheated on me but we agreed to work stuff out. As it was a year later I found out he confessed everything we confronted the situation spoke to a counceller. But before we did all this I found myself ...
A. 26 July 2012: You never done nothing wrong here, and am not sure why you think that you did. You confided in a friend about some trouble in your relationship nothing wrong with that, that's what friends are there for. I think you are feeling bad because you know ... (read in full...)
My manager and I have a crush on each other. What advice can you offer on dating, or not dating him?
Q. My manager and I have "secretly" liked one another for the past three months. We never did anything directly due to professionality but I'm sure both of us could tell. And considering he's extremely busy it probably wouldn't have worked out. ...
A. 25 July 2012: Well he has now changed to another store and he is no longer your manager, so I think if you like him then you should go for it, you have nothing to lose. If he was still your manager then yes I would question is it really worth acting on your ... (read in full...)
Girls who like girls. what are the main attributes that attract you to girls?
Q. Girlies question time...........! Based on personal experiences, have you always had an idea you were a lesbian? I mean I have always known, I didn't go through a teenage curious stage I just took mine with the flow. I just wondered whether you'...
A. 25 July 2012: I personally think everybody is different know matter what sexuality they are. I know plenty of people who have all had different experiences when coming to terms with there sexuality, and also on trying to deal with there feelings of being ... (read in full...)
Why does she do this to me? Even though she concurrently flirts with other guys?
Q. Well recently i started talking to this girl online, the online messaging was okay. We just chatted about normal things and she didnt seem to flirt too much, so i was not expecting much for our first meeting. So when we finally meet it was grea...
A. 25 July 2012: You have probably scared the poor girl away. She never done anything wrong. She met up with you for a date, you both had a good time, which is great. Then you see her flirting on line with other men, but you only met her the once, she is obviously ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to overcome a SO kissing someone else?
Q. my SO and I are in a long distance relationship for about 20 months. we've seen each other every 3 months or as often as out jobs/school and pocket books allow. out next planned visit is less than a month away. each summer, my SO goes out of state ...
A. 25 July 2012: It is always hard to regain trust in a relationship after your partner cheats on you. You are busy at the moment which is a good thing because sitting around thinking about it is not going to help you anyway. Its good to keep busy. I can see why you ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend has a crush on me, but I'm not sure I want a relationship.
Q. I hav been best friends with a girl for two years now and things started getting more intament recently but im not sure if i want a real relation ship with her at this point because honestly im still young and want to explore my options befor a ...
A. 25 July 2012: Just be open and honest with her. Things should never have got intimate between you both if you are not ready for a relationship, as this just would have led to false hope. Tell her you really value her friendship and you do not want anything to ... (read in full...)
I slept with a friend but I have a feeling she fancies my housemate!
Q. I slept with a friend the night before last and am not sure what to do. We have been hanging out for the last 6 months and there has always been something there but I've really liked her personality and feel very close to her but because she is is ...
A. 25 July 2012: I can understand you don't want things to be awkward now that you have both hooked up, but if you ignore that fact then she is going to think that you just want to forget about it and she will never know how you felt. You are both quite close as ... (read in full...)
After asking me to leave and uprooting my life, now b/f wants me to come back!
Q. hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years. Recently he asked me to leave because he needed time to think about what he wanted. He has asked me to leave and come back various times in the past aswell. But this time i ...
A. 25 July 2012: Yes I think you have done the right thing, he keeps doing this to you, obviously there is something about the relationship that is making him uneasy when he always need time to sort himself out. Maybe he is afraid of commitment, I guess that's for ... (read in full...)
Hits and misses but we never wind up together
Q. dear cupid, soo, there's this guy. for security purposes, let's pretend that his name is trey. we met back in january and became super awesome friends right from the start--texting each other pretty much nonstop, hanging out all the time...you g...
A. 25 July 2012: If you are both currently single at the moment and you are both wanting to be with each other, then I say yes you should go for it. It sounds like you both like each other a lot and there is chemistry between you both. You say contact has dropped at ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?
Q. Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...
A. 25 July 2012: She is your student, therefore you are in a teacher role here, so for you to have a relationship with this girl would be wrong on a lot of levels.
But on to your issue, she has a boyfriend she has been clear about that, I understand that you have... (read in full...)
Worried that my best friend might be going down the wrong path...
Q. Me and my friend have been best friends since we were 12 and now we are 15, she used to be those innocent people, goody goody.. kinda on the nerdy side. Didn't care how she looked, you know. Now she is spoiled gets what ever she wants, dresses like ...
A. 25 July 2012: You have kind of got me confused, you say you do not know what to say to her in case she takes it the wrong way and you lose a friendship, yet you then say you do not want to lose her as a friend.
Look she is not the same person as she was when... (read in full...)
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