Worried that my best friend might be going down the wrong path...
Q. Me and my friend have been best friends since we were 12 and now we are 15, she used to be those innocent people, goody goody.. kinda on the nerdy side. Didn't care how she looked, you know. Now she is spoiled gets what ever she wants, dresses like ...
A. 25 July 2012: You have kind of got me confused, you say you do not know what to say to her in case she takes it the wrong way and you lose a friendship, yet you then say you do not want to lose her as a friend.
Look she is not the same person as she was when... (read in full...)
Marriage problems. What should or can I do? I feel like starting over. What are some options?
Q. I really do not want to share this with friends or family. I have been in a relationship for 15 years and married for 4. I have 3 children, work full time and try my best to manage career, husband, children and home duties... Lately, I feel not...
A. 25 July 2012: I think the right thing to do is to talk to your husband about how you are feeling, yes it will be a hard conversation to have, but an important one, and it will make him realise how you are feeling. Communication is key in order for a relationship ... (read in full...)
Shall I just see how things go even though I don't want a casual relationship, or do I risk telling her how I feel and potentially scaring her off?
Q. So, I slept with a girl drunkenly the other day. She also happens to be a friend/colleague. I wasn't sure whether my feelings for her were anything but friends but now after what has happened I am definitely developing feelings for her. I am ...
A. 25 July 2012: I don't think you should have a big serious talk with her, but I do think you need to show her that you are interested in her. She probably has the same questions as you do however she is feeling and I guess you just need to show interest and take ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 24 July 2012: Yes I agree with you that if I found messages like that and it was my boyfriend that was writing them then you are right I would not be happy about them, certainly not as it is quite disrespectful to his girlfriend. But you have gave us some more ... (read in full...)
I think I messed up, how do I fix things?
Q. Basically there was this guy, i liked and i didnt know if he liked me back. I already asked people and got some answers about it which told me to man up and show him that i cared. I was more flirty, and so was he, we spent some great times, (...
A. 24 July 2012: I am trying not to be cruel here, but he cannot be busy 24 hours a day, so if he really wanted to message you back then he would, it doesn't take someone that long to respond to a text. I understand why you are feeling confused here over his ... (read in full...)
Is it time to move on and file so I get my rights to my son?
Q. My Girlfriend and I broke up after over 2 years. We have had our issues in the past and none have lasted this long. This has been the longest and after 3 weeks she wanted to take it slow. I pushed when I shouldn't have and it made us fall apart. ...
A. 24 July 2012: You say you do not want to push her away but without you realising that is exactly what you are doing here. You keep at her to give you another chance and you will change, but she has made her mind up that you are both over, and yes I am sure she is ... (read in full...)
Obsessing over fiance's ex-boyfriend
Q. I have been with my fiance for about a year now,but have known her since we were little. I have been obsessing about her last "live in" boyfriend that she had been with for 2 years. Here's the kicker that makes it difficult... He played football for ...
A. 24 July 2012: You need to get over it. Okay so he was well built and fit, but hey looks are not what is important to women. He may have been a terrible boyfriend to her, however am not sure its the fact that she may have loved him that bothers you its the fact ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm a priority in his life.
Q. Hi everyone i really need you aunty aunt your opinions please give me some advice im in a long distance right now we love each other despite of the absence, we have ups and down but still i always open up to him and talk about it to work it out ...
A. 24 July 2012: You need to talk to him about how you are feeling? Long distance can be very hard, and most relationships do not last this way as both parties are just not strong enough and they give up. You need to call him and tell him how you are feeling. Tell ... (read in full...)
Is it time to move on and file so I get my rights to my son?
Q. My Girlfriend and I broke up after over 2 years. We have had our issues in the past and none have lasted this long. This has been the longest and after 3 weeks she wanted to take it slow. I pushed when I shouldn't have and it made us fall apart. ...
A. 24 July 2012: I cannot tell you if things will work out between the both of you. I know that you are finding it hard to let go of the relationship and you are refusing to accept that the relationship is over, but if she tells you it is then you need to just take ... (read in full...)
I had sex the day before ovulating, does that mean I could be pregnant?
Q. Hey. I'm new to this site. I need help. I know my body very well and I've done tests to see when I ovulate and it just so happens that I had sex a day before ovulating and that's the day you are most likely to fall pregnant? So, we did the deed and...
A. 24 July 2012: I understand that you want a child and he doesn't. This does not make you a bad person, nor does it make him one either. But it is something that you both need to talk about, as it will cause problems in the future if it is not dealt with now. I ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my ex still likes me even a year after breaking up or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Hello, Big question, I went through the most painful breakup of my life last year, it took me almost 12 months to stop crying on a semi-daily/monthly basis for him. I must admit I still cry for him once in a while but I now have a boyfriend and ...
A. 24 July 2012: I am not going to tell you to proceed and try and take someone else's boyfriend. Okay so you don't want to be with your boyfriend and you are moving back home, that is fair enough, but it sounds like your ex has moved on and has another girl now. ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what she's wanting from me.
Q. I’m so confused. I met this amazing girl at school in the fall semester of last year and we hit it off pretty easily. We started spending time alone together and eventually had sex. We spent most of the day after that cuddling on the couch ...
A. 24 July 2012: If I am honest with you I think you should stay clear from her, she sounds trouble to me. You hooked up with her before and afterwards she started ignoring you for no reason. It is great you both reconnected, but if she is seeing another guy back at ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure of is relationship status, but I really like him, and need some advice.
Q. I met a guy when i started uni last year and I instantly had a crush on him. I instinctively thought he was too cool for me so I didn't try and pursue it. A couple of months after we started uni he started getting to class early (like I did) and we ...
A. 24 July 2012: Well it sounds to me like yes maybe he was interested in you, but he has now giving up, sometimes people can mistake someone being shy for someone who is just not interested in them. I am aware that you are shy and I can understand that, but you ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issue and my friend.
Q. Hi guys. I'm 18 and I have a male friend. We get on well but he's much older. 12 years older in fact with a daughter. I stayed up his one night because he was down and ever since I did my nan has been different towards me. She has made comments ...
A. 24 July 2012: Off course she is trying to protect you. She is probably wondering why a 30 year old man would want a 18 year old girl as a friend? Off course this is going to make her worry for you in case he is taking advantage of you. I don't know this man so I ... (read in full...)
I had sex the day before ovulating, does that mean I could be pregnant?
Q. Hey. I'm new to this site. I need help. I know my body very well and I've done tests to see when I ovulate and it just so happens that I had sex a day before ovulating and that's the day you are most likely to fall pregnant? So, we did the deed and...
A. 24 July 2012: I agree with Abella go to your doctors and get a test done. Yes off course you could be pregnant, it makes me wonder though have you done this on purpose to try and become pregnant? If so then really you should not be doing this unless you speak ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to admit part of our problems could be her fault too and lays guilt trips on me!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a couple of years but lately I just have no idea what to do. My girlfriend has a disability which can cause her to be barely able to walk and can cause her to be in pain but not all the time. Anyways, we have been ...
A. 24 July 2012: Her saying she would kill herself and that you want her dead, is obviously a big cry for attention. It sounds like she is at a low point and her self esteem could even be quite low. However threatening you with these things off course is not nice, ... (read in full...)
We met on fb, not in person yet but could it be love?
Q. Hey everyone I ask a question about me never being in love, I said If I could change anything to get a guy to love me. And all the aunts that answered told me no, I'm perfect the way I am. I really appreciate your advice. So here's the thing ...
A. 24 July 2012: It is clear you are developing a crush on him, and you enjoy communicating with him, I wouldn't say it is love as you have both never even met or your not in a committed relationship. I am aware that this is all new to you, and all you are ... (read in full...)
How do I convince her I like her?
Q. Hi, i have been talking to this girl online for 2 weeks. We have become really close, and have many mutual friends. The conversations have been very deep and the messages are nearing nearly 5000 this week. So we have spoken a fair bit. Alot ...
A. 21 July 2012: It sounds to me like she is very insecure and unsure about herself. Sometimes it is hard to accept someone likes you because it is over a computer and she may feel that if she does meet up with you she will get hurt in case you change your mind. She ... (read in full...)
Was I played for a fool by my ex-girlfriend?
Q. First off, here’s a quick background of our past relationship. We randomly met almost four years ago, when I was in town visiting from out of state. She was a graduate student and I was visiting my hometown. We connected very randomly and initially ...
A. 20 July 2012: My guess would be that in the past when you started seeing that other woman it hurt her and then when you both decided to give things another shot she still did not trust you. I have no doubt she wanted to be with you but with the trust issues and ... (read in full...)
Friend's parents are divorcing. Which parent should she go with?
Q. My best friend needs some advice… Her parents are splitting up, and her Mum is moving to Newcastle (177 miles away from where she currently lives). So she can either stay with her Dad, or go with her Mum. She gets on better with her Mum than her...
A. 20 July 2012: I know she is looking for healthy advice as she is stuck and does not know what to do. My guess is that she would ideally want to stay where she is, but she would also miss her mother. Off course everyone she asks would want her to stay where she ... (read in full...)
Could this proposal be too soon?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and have known each other as acquaintances for a year longer than that (so essentially 18 months). We're serious and have worked through some major life issues in a goid healthy way together ...
A. 20 July 2012: Your right you should not care about what others think, just listen to your own heart. My guess is though that you might have some doubts or else you would not be questioning this in the first place. At the end of the day this is up to the both of ... (read in full...)
My spouse won't so much as touch me anymore, I feel lost and lonely!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend(feels weird calling hon that after 17 years) since the age if 17, I'm 34 now. We have 2 children together and everything seemed fine until last August when his mom died (well maybe not fine but we had a physical ...
A. 18 July 2012: Things cannot go on like this any more, am surprised they have lasted this long. You need to talk to him, communicate and see what it is he wants. This does not sounds like a relationship to me, you are more like house mates who do not communicate. ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about him and move on?
Q. I posted here about a week ago. I have been in a relationship with an international student for awhile but his parents suddenly made a last minute decision for him to return to his home country. So he left a few days ago. It's hard on both of us ...
A. 18 July 2012: I can see how this must be very hard, but you both have done the right thing by not remaining in contact, yes I know it is difficult and you miss him, but it would just be so much worse if you where both still talking to each other. Goodbyes are ... (read in full...)
It's totally out of character for him. So how can I discover what went wrong? Before it was great.
Q. I was in a long distance relatioship with a guy who was really good to me and my family. He would travel to see me just about every weekend. We were content together, he enjoyed my grandchildren and my adult children got along with him very wel...
A. 18 July 2012: There really is only one way you can go about this and that is to talk to him, if he has suddenly changed in behaviour then there must be some reason and he just does not want to share that reason. But you are both adults therefore you both need to ... (read in full...)
Please help! LDR, does she love the same way that I do?
Q. I met a wonderful girl and im such in love with her, but everything happened very fast and im a little bit skceptical. I met her a year ago but we didnt go out until last month, we spent a whole month together but now she is back to her country....
A. 13 July 2012: Be careful that she is not just using you for money here, she doesn't seem to be showing much love to you, you are the one doing all the running and covering all the expenses. I am sure you don't mind doing that but at the same time I am scared that ... (read in full...)
My peers pick on me for not dating in my age group, but I'm only attracted to older men/
Q. So I'm seventeen(Will be eighteen in a few months) and I am not at all attracted to guys my age. I only have crushes on men thirty and older. I have accepted this by now whether it because I have "daddy issues" as someone once told me or not. The ...
A. 12 July 2012: I really think that you should speak to a therapist about this. I know you don't feel like you have a problem, but you are right not many guys over 30 are going to be interested in you, simply because you are still very young. There must be deeper ... (read in full...)
Please help! LDR, does she love the same way that I do?
Q. I met a wonderful girl and im such in love with her, but everything happened very fast and im a little bit skceptical. I met her a year ago but we didnt go out until last month, we spent a whole month together but now she is back to her country....
A. 12 July 2012: I think you are right, it takes two people to make a relationship work so she should be making more off an effort, you are doing all the calling and you say you will be the one travelling over to England to see her. A month is not a long time to be ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this person's depression?
Q. I know how depression is and I understand it is hard to deal with alone. Any how My good friend is depressed and always runs away from their problems as they are depressed they are too scared to face reality and decide to use drugs and alcohol as an ...
A. 12 July 2012: Only they can help themselves, and the way they are dealing with there problems is to run from them and from everyone closest to them as they do not want to face them. Realistically there is nothing you can do here as it is there choice when and if ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to him?
Q. Well, I'm a 17 year-old whom has been talking to a 20 year-old man. He's openly gay, trying to break stereotypes associated with gays, which really inspires me, and I really like him. I felt like we really connected with eachother, we both have ...
A. 12 July 2012: I understand that you feel it will hurt you, but believe me it will hurt you more in the long term to keep trying to get in contact with this man. I can understand that you feel the both of you would make a great couple, and maybe you are right, but ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with Rebecca?
Q. Right okay i have been dating my girlfriend rebecca now for 9 months and yeah i love her but we are always arguing about stupid things and a boy called lewis has been texting her who's in the army and they used to love each other but never told each ...
A. 9 July 2012: I don't see how she is hiding things from you, she has been up front and honest with you about this situation, have you asked her why she is going off to meet this guy? Maybe she thinks of him as a friend therefore she is saying a proper good bye to ... (read in full...)
My best friend and I have admitted to being attracted to one another
Q. One of my best friends and I admitted an attraction to each other one night, we are both girls and her dad is completely homophobic. She led me on to think she wanted a relationship and we kissed. she broke it off 2 days later at school. about ...
A. 9 July 2012: I think the best advice here would be to move on. Yes it will be hard, but she obviously is not going to commit to you any time soon. She is just not ready to face that yet. Her father is a homophobic so off course she is going to be worried, and I ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my housemate
Q. I'm living in a house with 4 boys for the summer, and last week my housemate's cousin moved in. It's early days so I'm not sure what he thinks of me but we get along well, and I've started to really fancy him. I've been single for three years for ...
A. 9 July 2012: Sometimes it is just not a smart idea to go after someone that you have to live with, for the reasons that you mentioned, as if it goes wrong you both need to deal with it living together which yes can get very awkward indeed. However you will only ... (read in full...)
Since we got back together the sex isn't as hot!
Q. my gf and I has a passionate beginning for the first year and a half we just couldn't get enough early on I thot I'd die from trying to keep up seemed I was her best lover ever tho, and I learned to build my appetite we had sex 3 or 4...
A. 9 July 2012: I think you need to find out why her sex drive has falling so low. Maybe she has trouble accepting the relationship again. You both need to sit down and talk this through and ask her why she feels the way that she does. Talking about it is the only ... (read in full...)
I am in dire need of advice coping with and dealing with mrsa!!!
Q. I really need some help advice or a good website. I am doing this from my phone and dont have a computer, i cant post on all websites. My bf has been diagnosed with mrsa in a lesion in his nose. It is a type of staph infection that is resistant to ...
A. 9 July 2012: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/mrsa_infection/article_em.htm
www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/mrsa.htm
www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/communicable/mrsa/faqs.htm
www.accesskent.com/He... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for my friend but don't want to cause problems
Q. please forgive the length please advise i dont understand how ive developed feelings for my good friend. at first we barely spoke as we worked together on a team but not one to one which we have done recently. we have got close in a friendshi...
A. 9 July 2012: You should not be ashamed to tell him about your current situation, at the end of the day you had a bad past, which left you in debt and now you have to pay the consequences of his actions. I am glad to hear that you have developed a good friendship ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 8 July 2012: I can totally understand where you are coming from really I can, but it sounds to me like he is not making an excuse at all. I am sure his mother being sick and him having to live there has caused him some stress in his life, that can play a factor ... (read in full...)
I was fine with her dating my ex until my friends piled on about it
Q. So I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years at the end of May. For the first year it was juts us and then for the last year we had an 'open' relationship- it suited us fine and in no way impacted our break up. Our relationship simply fizzled out so ...
A. 8 July 2012: I totally understand that all of there negative comments are going to rub off on you. They do not know you had an open relationship for the last year therefore they probably all feel terrible for you because they feel your friend has pretty much ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that its a great thing that my ex got married?
Q. Why is everyone acting like my ex's recent marriage is such a great thing to have happened? First off, my ex is a full-fledged alcoholic who's main goal in life other that working is to drink and party. He also, smokes pot. He left me 2 yrs. ago ...
A. 8 July 2012: Well they are in contact with your ex, they are his friends and family and I guess that they can see he is happy therefore off course they are going to be happy for him as he has found someone he wants to spend his life with, yes I do agree with you ... (read in full...)
Has anyone gone through IVF?
Q. Hello everybody, im starting my first round of icsi/ivf next week. We have waited so long for this day to come i cant believe its finally here. But im so scared and nervous, worried it wont happen. I know these are probably normal feelings. Has ...
A. 8 July 2012: Personally I have not gone through IVF myself. But I know plenty of people who have, and yes they were worried and stressed that it would not work for them. Nerves are completely normal in this situation especially when it is something that you want ... (read in full...)
We both saw other people and are now back together but I feel jealous of someone she dated
Q. I dated my girlfriend for about 2.5 years i was her first and am her only sexual partner everntually we broke up, it wasnt a "break" or time apart it was an indefinate BREAK UP. i found out she wanted to get married to me, have kids start a family, ...
A. 8 July 2012: Well it works both ways here, you went out and you made out with another girl. At the end of the day you where both broken up so for you to judge her when she was single is not fair, even if she had sex with this other guy it still should have no ... (read in full...)
She hurt me a lot and after all the stress she brought me, I think I forgot to appreciate the good times. Should I try to be friends again?
Q. I'm having some inner conflicts with my mind. Ever since about 5th or 6th grade, I had a close friend. We got closer as we progressed through high school, and suddenly I realized I had a best friend. We would talk for hours on the phone, have fun...
A. 7 July 2012: No I do not think you made a mistake. You are not expected just to forget about all the memories you both shared together, and off course it is okay to miss her and miss chatting to her, that is just normal. But if she caused you stress then I would ... (read in full...)
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