I'm getting married but can't forget about my fling!
Q. I had a fling with a collegue of mine 2 years back..This guy had a long distance girlfriend..I myself am in a relationship with another guy since 4 yrs. Since both of us were in long distance relships we hit it off instantly and started spending a ...
A. 1 July 2012: Yes it is hard to deal with when somebody uses you, it does not feel nice at all. I guess it back fired on you as you should never have gotten involved with him when you where with your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
I never get a break from him bitching at me
Q. I don't even know where to begin. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years in December. We have a 6 month old together and are living together. I'm constantly trying to make him happy. He's VERY OCD, so I try my best to keep the house clean, ...
A. 30 June 2012: You should never use a child as a reason to stay with someone. If you both are always arguing then that environment is not good for the baby, it would be best off if you where both separated if you are not happy.
He sounds very stressed with wor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont come over to my house, why?
Q. Dear readers, I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16 we have been going out about 3 months i have already met his parents and been his house plenty of times.My mother keeps asking me why not bring him back to our house for a while i just keep saying yeah...
A. 30 June 2012: Is he shy? If you have met his family then I am pretty sure he does like you and wants to be with you. But my guess is that he is scared of meeting your parents, possibly because he is older than you and he is scared about how they will feel about ... (read in full...)
Should I wait and hope he breaks up with his girlfriend?
Q. Hey, I have known this guy for a couple of years now and we always have got along and flirt lots etc but he now has a girlfriend and he still flirts with me all the time and his friends always hint that he likes me. the other day one of his friends ...
A. 30 June 2012: No you should not just wait about for him. At the end of the day he is with this girl, even if they are having problems they are still together. I know that it must be hard on you to watch but I think you just need to accept that he is with someone ... (read in full...)
Is he messing with me or not?
Q. well it seems i got a small problem . this guy i had been talking to has decided to contact me again . he decided that he an his son didn't want him to date anyone so i ask him what did he want to do an he said i guess say good bye , his wife died ...
A. 30 June 2012: I think the best thing to do is to move on from this. It is clear he is not serious about you, as if he was he would explain that to his son and tell him his love life is his business. It is probably nothing personal to you, my guess is that he is ... (read in full...)
Should I add him on Facebook, any advice?
Q. Okay, I'm just going to go straight ahead and explain the whole story. I have had strong feelings for this guy since I was 12 years old; I haven't looked at another guy since, and I'm now 17. He's 3 years older than me, and is single. I've known him ...
A. 30 June 2012: Yeah add him. Why not? You both know each other even if it is not very well, off course he will recognise your name if he knows your family, I think you are just over thinking things and worrying about nothing. Believe me people add friends on ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if the girl at school likes me?
Q. There is a girl i like that goes to my school, im a really tall ginger and she is a short Asian, but i dont know if she likes me, how can i tell?...
A. 30 June 2012: Talk to her and get to know her, ask her out on a date and see what she has to say, if she says yes then bonus, and if she says no then at least you know you tried and you know where you stand with her.... (read in full...)
Can't tell if he's interested or just a flirt.....
Q. I'm tutoring this guy in my summer math class, and he seems like he's interested in me, but he hasn't made a move and I'm really hoping someone can give me some advice on whether he's actually interested or is just a flirt. I've only been tutoring...
A. 30 June 2012: It sounds to me like he might be a bit of a cheeky chap. He is enjoying having a flirt with you that much is obvious. Him joking about making out shows he is attracted to you, but am not sure if he is actually looking to date you or if he is only ... (read in full...)
How can this work? He is two places above me at work. He says we can make it work
Q. My future boss and I met around work and he was always nice, friendly. We joked around bur never really had a serious conversation so I interviewed for his department recently and got it. One night, I was getting a ride from a male co-worker and ...
A. 30 June 2012: I don't see why it would not work? Okay so he is higher up in the company than you...so what? If you like him and he you then give it a go and see what happens. Yes it can be risky if the relationship did not work out, but if you are both mature ... (read in full...)
Each thing I say or do he takes the wrong way, it makes me sad
Q. Hi, I know this guy and it was love at first sight between us. Kinda weird because we never met in real life, and I never believed in love at first sight before him. We were obsessed with each other, always on the phone or videochatting. Please d...
A. 30 June 2012: I am confused, first off you say that you have never met each other that this relationship is more based over a computer and phone and then at the end of the post you say you have both met each others families. So could you just clear up this ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married but can't forget about my fling!
Q. I had a fling with a collegue of mine 2 years back..This guy had a long distance girlfriend..I myself am in a relationship with another guy since 4 yrs. Since both of us were in long distance relships we hit it off instantly and started spending a ...
A. 30 June 2012: He used you for sex while his girlfriend was away, simple as that. I guess you have learned your lesson now as to why you should never cheat on someone, or get with someone who is in a relationship. I feel sorry for your boyfriend as you where ... (read in full...)
Is she going to break up with me?
Q. [Mod Note: You are not very clear with all these 'girls' which one is actually your girlfriend. Whose boobs were you looking at? Who did you walk home? Who was talking to a friend on Facebook? Please give each girl fake names to make this easier to ...
A. 30 June 2012: It sounds like your girlfriend does not want to be with you. I think it would be best if you both just went your seperate ways. It sounds like she just does not want a relationship. So what if you looked at someone's boobs I think she is just using ... (read in full...)
I've told him he needs to change ...
Q. I can't decide whether to break up with my boyfriend of 7 months. We've known each other for years and have been good friends, although living in different countries (we're still in a long distance relationship). Last year, on a visit to see him he ...
A. 30 June 2012: I guess as you know this is a choice you need to make by yourself. It will take a lot for him to change his lifestyle as this is what he is used to. If you feel you can spend the next year apart from him and still be able to trust him well then go ... (read in full...)
Irrational fear of my boyfriend masturbating
Q. Over 2 years ago I was sexually assaulted. A few months later I met my current boyfriend. After maybe 6 months of us being together, I found that he had looked at porn. I dont know what happened in my brain but I totally lost it and honestly it ...
A. 21 June 2012: You need professional help. You have not dealt with what happened you two years ago, so you need to go and talk to someone, so keep researching in to find someone who speaks your language. Because this will never get better if you don't deal with it ... (read in full...)
I think he's been cheating, but he denies it
Q. i broke you with my boyfriend whom ive been with for 6 nonths because i felt like he was cheating on me. we had an on again off again realtionship.. he just wasnt doing rite by me i felt therefore i ended things with him while he in training inthe ...
A. 21 June 2012: Very good, I wish you all the luck.... (read in full...)
What is he getting to?
Q. Ok, there is this guy I can't take off my mind! He is not the outgoing type, he's the type that talks when talked to. He seems very friendly n nice. I'm the type who likes to make friends even thought im shy, so i approached him and he kind of gave ...
A. 19 June 2012: If it is hurting you then you need to talk to him. You don't need to approach him if you feel it will embarrass you, but be friendly smile and say hello to him and see how he responds. You should never be ashamed of yourself and am glad that you are ... (read in full...)
What are the UK laws involving sex at this age?
Q. ok i recently turned 16 and i dont know the laws on sex. i just want to know one thing i like this girl who is 15 now i dont want to go out with her because im scared about certain laws that i think are in place.( pedofilia i definatly dont want to ...
A. 19 June 2012: The age of consent in the UK is 16. So unless you want to break the law you would need to wait until this girl was 16 before you engaged in any sort of sexual relationship with her. This does not mean you can't date her just now. It just means that ... (read in full...)
How can I unsay the hurtful words I said to my boyfriend during an argument?
Q. how can I undo, the hurt full words I said to my boyfriend, during a argument, It all started, when we went to cath a bus, to cash his check, and i woke him up from his little nap he was taking, and he got angrey about it. So while we were standing, ...
A. 19 June 2012: No he does not need more time, you are playing right in to his hands, he does not love or care about you. He is emotionally abusing you and you are letting him. He won't apologise no matter how long you wait and the next day when he said to you he ... (read in full...)
I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 19 June 2012: It is good to write out your feelings and emotions sometimes it helps. You have done nothing wrong, yes there will be times that you feel strong and other times where you don't. It is natural to miss him, he was a part of your life so off course you ... (read in full...)
He is upset I am going out on dates but he already has a girlfriend!!!!
Q. Can anyone tell me why a male friend who already has a girlfriend is getting upset by the fact that I am going out on dates? When I saw him on the weekend he hardly said a word to me after finding out I was going out to dinner with someone. Ther...
A. 12 June 2012: Well really it is quite simple. Talk to him and ask him what his problem is? Ask him why he is in a bad mood about you dating and see what he has to say.... (read in full...)
Do I meet up with my old flame? My husband has cheated on me repeatedly but I've never cheated on him
Q. I have been married for 18 yrs now. My husband has cheated on me more than 10 times (3 times with a family member, but I only count her as 1).He has not cheated the past 6 years. As you can imagine I have very little self asteem left. A couple of ...
A. 12 June 2012: He still cheated on his wife with you which makes him just as bad as your husband. What your husband done in the past is wrong you do not need me to tell you that, but it is in the past, you chose to stay with him therefore you chose to stay in the ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like my small breasts
Q. Am 22.married last month.ive got small breasts. And my husband is'nt happy with. Which makes me sad and our sex incomplete. I really need make them little bigger to impress my husband.i need advice and solutions....
A. 12 June 2012: How ungrateful of him. Your breasts are only a part of you and he should not be so rude. At the end of the day every girls breast are different sizes and shapes he should just be happy with what he has. He sounds like a very arrogant man. Why should ... (read in full...)
What can I do during sex so b/f isn't doing all the work?
Q. Hello all! I have a question about sex. I'm kinda new to it and though everything is good(we both enjoy it) I don't know what I Can do during sex so he's not doing all the work when he's on top. Is it just inevitable that I can't do much but move my ...
A. 12 June 2012: Its simple, change position and you go on top. Take turn about, I think that is only fair. ... (read in full...)
Will this guy tell everyone that I don't shave down there?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old. The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago. He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there. Th...
A. 12 June 2012: Look there really is nothing to be worried about here. If you feel he is going to go and talk about you to his friends then maybe you should not have let him do that because you obviously do not trust him a lot.
Look at the end of the day ever... (read in full...)
Should I move on? All he ever does is lie to me?
Q. well its a hard situation that i am in at the moment i am young and have had a gorgoues little son, myself and my partner are 18 years old so both stil very young, we have been going through a really bad stage the last fewmonths we split for a break ...
A. 12 June 2012: My main concern is why you would have this man around your child if he has a problem with drink and drugs? It is good he is going to clear up his act, but if it was me I would have demanded he got help before he went anywhere near my child.
Anywa... (read in full...)
Why am I never good enough?
Q. He left me and I'm feeling so heavy. I really do love him but he doesn't feel the same way and it hurts. The last time a guy left me he left me for my best friend of whom he's engaged to and now this guy left me. It makes me feel like I'm not good ...
A. 12 June 2012: I know that it is hard once you love someone and they finish things, and it must have been really hard when your last partner went away with your best friend. That was horrible and I would not call her a friend after doing that to you. However life ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is flirting with other guys!
Q. im in a relation with a girl since the past 3 and half years...............since day one she has been very close to her friends. 98% of her friends are men....They used to tease us as i am shorter than her by 2 inches.....they all used to fondle ...
A. 12 June 2012: There is nothing wrong with someone having an innocent flirt as long as that is all it is. She is right you are insecure. There really is nothing that you have mentioned that says she is flirting outrageously. What is the worst thing she has done? ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend for him and now I'm wondering, was he using me? Does he have feelings for me?
Q. Hello, I have a question to ask. So iv known this guy for 4 years and we dated for 2 years on and off (he works on cruise ships, so i see him every 6 months for a weekend at a time) Anyway, i found out he slept with a girl on holiday and i to...
A. 12 June 2012: Okay first off I think he does not want a serious commitment at the moment, it sounds like he wants to take things slow and see how it goes, which is the right way, you are just out of a serious relationship give yourself a break, take things slowly ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist?
Q. What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist? I was talking and joking with a friend and this guy(i kinda like him) from my class who was standing next to me laughed too and placed his hand on my waist(or lower back). Also, what doe...
A. 12 June 2012: Its his way off showing affection. It doesn't necessary mean anything. He might show his affections to friends through physical body contact, meaning he might just be a very touchy feely man. I know plenty of people like this. ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend doesn't want to break up then why is hurting my feelings like this?
Q. I always like sitting under the trees in my school. My bf nd i school in the same school but he's my senior. I asked him why he doesn't want to sit there with me, and he just said 'i dnt just like sitting there'. i was cool with it, recently i saw ...
A. 12 June 2012: Well ask him straight out why he refused to sit there with you and he was sitting there with another girl, maybe there is a perfectly good explanation. You need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel.... (read in full...)
I want to do these things but she's not keen... Is she holding me back and will this work?
Q. We live in a large town up North. My partner is a lecturer but is thinking about moving career over summer. We've been dating for 5 years and living together for almost 3. I'm in my early 30s and she's in her late 20s. I work from home and I'...
A. 12 June 2012: I think the problem is you both have different views on how your life should be. It seems she wants to settle up north and start life there, where as you want to concentrate on your career and dreams and spend some time in London focusing on this. ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to walk away but I can't?
Q. This guy and i have been doing our thing for over a year now. We've dated basically 3 times and even during 3 break-ups we still did couple like things! I totally love him and he says he totally loves me but thing is i've fallen for someone else and ...
A. 12 June 2012: Well you have to chose one of them, you cannot string them both along because it is just unfair to the both of them. So time to be strong and put there feelings before your own and decide which one you want to be with. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to touch me without being rude about it?
Q. I've started seeing this guy and so far he's really nice and things are great. But there is one problem...he is very shy when it comes to physical contact. When we're making out I like it when guys touch my body all over and he doesnt really do ...
A. 12 June 2012: Maybe he is just inexperienced and he does not know what to do, therefore he does nothing. You don't need to be rude about it all you need to do is to guide him, when you both are getting physical again just guide his hands and tell him where you ... (read in full...)
How can I unsay the hurtful words I said to my boyfriend during an argument?
Q. how can I undo, the hurt full words I said to my boyfriend, during a argument, It all started, when we went to cath a bus, to cash his check, and i woke him up from his little nap he was taking, and he got angrey about it. So while we were standing, ...
A. 12 June 2012: I can understand that you feel bad about what you said and you apologised to him for the hurtful things that you said, but did he apologise to you for calling you hurtful names? A relationship works in both ways and it looks like you are the one ... (read in full...)
I'm totally confused why he won't change his facebook status to 'in a relationship'? He did before with a different girl!
Q. Im dating a guy for a couple of months now, i really love him but i don't know about him. My problem is he doesn't want to change his relationship status on facebook, i don't want to confront him to seem im nagging. i don't know if he's dating ...
A. 12 June 2012: The only person that is able to answer this question for you is him I am afraid. If you are both only dating at the moment and you are not in a committed relationship well then I can see why he would not want to change it, I would be the same until ... (read in full...)
Should I ask for my wife's password to her phone?
Q. My wife just informed me that she put a password lock on her smart phone, so that the kids cannot access her phone. I did not ask for the password. This is something we have never done before. I don't regularly read her texts and things. To be ...
A. 12 June 2012: Well if I am honest with you, you have been together a long time so it makes me wonder what is the reason that you want to be snooping in the first place? Have you trust issues with her? If so then they need to be addressed, the issue here is not ... (read in full...)
What to do with my relationship, parents and bf not getting along, am I being blind?
Q. (Hi, I'm new here) Ok, recently I got really caught up in a huge mess for sure. It's a pretty long story but I have to start from there so that I can give my fellow answerers the info they need. Sorry, I know it's alot to read... ---- My bf a...
A. 12 June 2012: Okay you need to look at this relationship logically. Do you actually see it going anywhere? Do you think it will last long term? Have you both made a plan where you can actually spend decent amount of time together? Long distance relationships only ... (read in full...)
Is my partner the one for me or not?
Q. Is my partner the one for me or not? I was 18 when my I first met my boyfriend. He was my first real boyfriend and we have been together for 10 years (I'm now 28). We have lived together for 8 of those years. He is the one who fell head ov...
A. 12 June 2012: Look it is obvious you are only staying in this relationship because you do not want to hurt him. That is not a reason to stay though. Yes it will hurt him but he will get over it and move on with his life after time. But what worries me is you may ... (read in full...)
Every little thing with my family turns into a huge argument and I can't move out!
Q. Hey guys I really need some help. So - over the years I've never easily got on with my family. We always end up arguing about everything and what starts as a very small thing soon gets blown into a huge issue. EG: being told off for Attitude...
A. 10 June 2012: I guess if you don't see moving out as an option there is not a lot you can do about it but put up with the situation. Most families have issues, it is quite normal. If you feel an argument coming on then just simply walk away and go up to your room ... (read in full...)
She wants to have sex with me, does that mean she wants to date me?
Q. basicly i have had a crush on this girl for a while now, im sure she fancied me at one point, we were talking on facebook and texting at every opportunity, we both live in the same area and met up on a few occasions, then our 'relationship' ...
A. 10 June 2012: I think this girl likes you so she said she would sleep with you to get closer to you. I think what you should do, if you are serious about this girl is to ask her out on a date, it will show you are a proper gentleman and not just looking for a one ... (read in full...)
Why would an ex want to spend the holidays with you?
Q. Hello I know the 4th of July is a little ways off but my ex and I broke up last August we lived together 8 months dated nine it had its moments he is a demanding type well he the other week after being in the hospital came by after getting out few ...
A. 10 June 2012: Look at the end of the day if you do not want to spend it with him and you do not want your daughter to either then just tell him straight out to leave you both alone. Simple as that. Be straight with him.... (read in full...)
What kind of a problem is this?
Q. I'm 14 years old and when I pee, a small amount of goo(the ones when you blow your nose and lighist clear mucus comes out) after or during peeing.i don't have a boyfriend or did sex.it doesn't itch or burn when I pee but it does sometimes smells ...
A. 10 June 2012: No it is not serious, it sounds like you may have had a little bit of thrush, it happens to everyone growing up, it is a white discharge, it is a small infection that you should not be worried about if there was something to worry about your doctor ... (read in full...)
I'm so sad, how can I understand his decision to break up with me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We've had some issues, but nothing out of the ordinary. It was a serious relationship, and we loved each other very deeply. We had talked often about getting married, where we would like to live ...
A. 15 May 2012: No matter how much someone feelings for you, relationships do go through bad patches. People can have plans to spend the rest of there life with someone but sometimes they get confused about how they actually feel. It sounds to me like he just needs ... (read in full...)
I think he's been cheating, but he denies it
Q. i broke you with my boyfriend whom ive been with for 6 nonths because i felt like he was cheating on me. we had an on again off again realtionship.. he just wasnt doing rite by me i felt therefore i ended things with him while he in training inthe ...
A. 9 November 2010: hi how did things work out for the both of you? Was there anymore updates you would like advice on?... (read in full...)
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