She's single now. How do I start a conversation with her that could hopefully turn into a date?
Q. hi everyone I was at college for a year and i liked a girl in my class for a while but i was a little shy and barely spoke to her but we spoke a little about little things etc. I couldn't ask her out as she had a boyfriend. since then a...
A. 2 November 2012: It is only natural to worry but she will be the judge if she finds it strange or not, look at the end of the day if you want this girl in your life then you need to make the effort to make it happen, because if you stay away worrying all the time ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 30 October 2012: If you want me to be completely honest with you then I would say you blew this way out of proportion. If it was me I would be quite annoyed with you as well. You allowed her to have the tickets therefore she just wanted to know if you where able to ... (read in full...)
I know I get jealous but is it normal for a man to keep so many online pictures of women he has known or knows?
Q. So my fiance of 10 months now is wonderful. My only concern is that he has a thing for having girl friends on his xbox and facebook. I know I should trust him and I do its just I dont know if this is normal. He doesn't flirt with them really b...
A. 22 October 2012: I don't think anybody is wrong here. But the thing is even though you are both in a relationship it does not mean that he cannot have other friends who are girls. If you are in a secure and trusting relationship then these things should not matter. ... (read in full...)
Relationship falling apart but I can`t let him go
Q. Hello Agonies. My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 3 years and 8 months. I can admit to me not knowing who i wanted at the beginning of our relationship but i've learned from that and haven't made that mistake again. During our ...
A. 22 October 2012: You cannot let him go because you love him, but you need to find the strength to stand up for yourself and stop being used as a door matt. He has treated you so badly and you keep forgiving him, so he knows now he can treat you however you like and ... (read in full...)
Online dating: how can we forgive each other and move on?
Q. So here it goes: I ended up hurting this guy (by lying to him online about my identity, etc)....and in turn, I felt awful (just awful) and I wanted to make things right. However, what I did was virtual, it was just online. I finally confesse...
A. 22 October 2012: If I am honest with you this is a very dangerous road you are going down and you need to think carefully about it. It was clear he just wanted something casual with you and that he used you for sex. I am sorry for being so blunt but I think that you ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to her and not run away? I've already hurt her
Q. This if very hard. Admitting I have relationship issues. I just recently ended a relationship that has left me feeling empty and hurt. All because of a few things that may or may not be an issue. I've had security issues in the past and really ...
A. 22 October 2012: I agree with Aunt Em. Just be honest with her and tell her the truth as to why you ran out. If you want her back then it is time to start talking. Communication is a big part in any relationship as I am sure you know and if you keep running from it ... (read in full...)
She was the ONE. Her family did not like me. Losing her has destroyed me. So now, why can't I get another girl?
Q. Why can't I get another girl? In high school pretty girls liked me but let me stress that I was not very good at talking to them like I'm okay but not great. I relied on sports and my looks and once I knew a girl liked me I would go talk to her. ...
A. 22 October 2012: Okay well first off you ask why other girls don't like you any more, when in the past they did? You mention that you are still good looking, but the thing you need to realise is most girls don't base there attraction on looks only, they will only ... (read in full...)
Is my b/f getting too friendly with this girl?
Q. this is gonna sound mega stupid! but it seems abit weird.. my boyfriend and me are in the same science class and recently we had some other people join our science group including this girl, she is quite pretty but is'nt a very nice person...bu...
A. 22 October 2012: I can understand that you are worried, but he is allowed to have female friends as well. It is never good to be insecure or else this can ruin a relationship. As long as things are okay between the both of you and nothing has changed then I guess ... (read in full...)
Should I worry that b/f contacted girls while we broke up?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off for almost a year. I an not proud but I recently did a search through his phone. I found that he had searched a few girls. I confronted him about this and he admitted they were coworkers he is attracted to. ...
A. 22 October 2012: I am sorry that you are insecure, but honestly a relationship will not work long term if there is no trust there. A long term relationship needs complete commitment and trust from both partners.
From the sounds of your post, you never found an... (read in full...)
I adore him but there are problems in our LDR. Is this fixable? and how? Family and friends claim he is "Controlling."
Q. I have been with my current partner for almost four years in an LDR, I am very deeply in love with him and I have shared some good times with him. He makes me laugh, treats me like a princess and I have had a lot of notable 'first' experiences with ...
A. 21 October 2012: I can understand why your family are concerned. They saw how upset you where and am sure they did not want to see you so upset and off course he got the blame, so yes it is hard for family to come back from that, but you need to remember here that ... (read in full...)
Confused about what he feels about our long distance relationship stance...
Q. hi aunts, im in a long distance relationship now were 1 year as couple and we been friends for 3 years now! hes in australia and im in philippines, I met him through my friend when he visited here in the phil! so since then we talk every day, skype ...
A. 21 October 2012: LDR are very hard, especially when he is not showing you any signs off commitment. Personally I think if it was me I would end it as it is obvious you are not getting anything out of this relationship. The only thing you want from him is assurance ... (read in full...)
We've been together four years, have a child, but I think he still loves his ex
Q. hi my boyfriend n I have been together for the pass 4 yrs and we have a 11 month old son together.but recently he started back talking to his ex and i think they started going out wen they were 14 and my boyfriend is 33 so yes they have known each ...
A. 21 October 2012: If it was me then honestly yes I would be worried. I know that there is no proof here that he actually loves her, but yes she was a part of his life for a long time and she is still in with his family, I guess it makes it worse for you that his ... (read in full...)
He's turned on by the idea I'm a virgin?
Q. So me and the guy i've been seeing for quite a while brought up the conversation of sex the other day. It was interesting because he's slept with 6 girls and he was surprised I hadn't slept with anyone. In fact, he said that he found it sexy and ...
A. 21 October 2012: I can understand you feel like it is nothing to brag about but my guess is that maybe this guy quite likes you and the idea that you have never slept with another guy makes him like you and respect you even more. It is almost like he knows that if ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure about his sexuality but I'd like to be more than friends in the time we have together
Q. hello, i am a boy, and i am in crush in another guy. i am a exchange student here in an foriegn country, and the guy i like is a local french. im not sure about his sexuality, but im sure he is not in to me, though, he treats me very good, in sp...
A. 21 October 2012: You ask why he is so good to you and my guess is that he thinks you are a nice guy and he enjoys your company and he sees you as a friend. I cannot tell you if he is gay or not, but I can tell you that there is no way you can make him have feelings ... (read in full...)
As the song goes - "I'm so hot for her and she's so cold..."
Q. Ok so ive been married for almost 9 years now. My wife and I were best friends before but we never had sex until after we tied the knot. I had only been with 2 other girls before her but she was practically a sputa. I don't hold this against her ...
A. 21 October 2012: There really is not a lot that I can say on this matter. It is clear that she has lost her sex drive and this could be down to multiple reasons really. Maybe she doesn't feel attractive any more after having three children, maybe she is stressed or ... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Did I do something wrong...?
Q. I'm just a young boy right now, but going through a rough time. (grandparents dying) I was dumped by my first girlfriend and was in a lot of agony that time. When I was finally over her, I fell in love with another girl who is in my class. She tu...
A. 21 October 2012: Well first off I am sorry to hear about your grand parents. It is a tough time for any young person when they are going to lose people that they love. So I wish you all the best at this.
Now on to your love life with these girls. I feel personal... (read in full...)
Saw my ex after almost 14 months of NC
Q. 2 days ago, I saw my very first ex boyfriend at the gym. IT had been about 14 months since we had seen each other. When he broke up wiht me he said he wanted to be friends and I flat out told him that I couldn't turn off my feelings for him...
A. 21 October 2012: I doubt that this is a relapse as such, as you say you are having a hard time with your family at the moment and seeing him can bring back some old feeling. After all he was your first boyfriend and deep down you will probably remember him for that ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm almost being stalked by older guys
Q. Hi I'm 19 years old and although you may read this and thinking I'm being stuck up and selfish it's not like that at all. Throughout most of my childhood I had low self esteem it got worse when I started my first year in high school I was bul...
A. 21 October 2012: If I am honest with you I think you are using the word stalked here when you should not be. If you where getting stalked that would mean that a man would be following you around, watching your house, harassing you over the phone and never leaving ... (read in full...)
He said the condom I gave him was too small ...
Q. The other day I lent a condom to my friend who was going to have intercourse for the first time and when he came back he said it was too small and had to buy a larger one. I know it shouldn't affect me but it seems to bother me. The condom fits ok ...
A. 21 October 2012: You know what who is to say that he was telling the truth? Sometimes a guy lets his ego get in the way even in a friendship and they try to make out that they are more than what they are. Maybe this is the case, and maybe not. But even still ... (read in full...)
Claim to be my friends. Make plans in front of me. Then exclude me. What can I do about this?
Q. i hate them all!!! you have no idea!! first off they're always make plans without me, and really cool interesting plans every week which really irritates me. they plan then out loud in front of my face and block me out the whole group, the w...
A. 21 October 2012: No you would not look like an idiot, I know you fear that is the case, but I bet that they would be to much of a coward to actually turn around and tell you they don't like you, is there a ring leader that they all seem to be following? There ... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 20 October 2012: You my friend are deluded. Off course it is cheating. how could it not be? He said you did not have to give him oral sex if you did not want to and then he found you with another man giving him a blow job. Honestly you do not think this is a big ... (read in full...)
Texting friend: I want to know if he likes me. He has trust issues from past relationships.
Q. Ok so I don't know how to word this but last night me and the guy i like were texting each other, we were talking about past relationships. His past , as i have never been in a relationship. He then asked on the end of the text if i like anybody...
A. 20 October 2012: Well if you are wanting to know if it is you then you need to both stop giving off mixed signals. If you like him then tell him, if you don't then you are always going to be second guessing it and wondering what could have been. Yes I can understand ... (read in full...)
Is she distracted? No longer cares? She cheated on me last year. And now she's forgotten my Birthday. Will things ever go back to how they were?
Q. Hi guys, hope you are well. I will go straight to the point, my wife forgot my birthday and I can't help but feel so sad. She remembered a few minutes to Mid-night and said happy birthday and apologised. I don't know what to do because over...
A. 20 October 2012: Do you both sit down and talk about how you are feeling? You need to have good communication and honesty for a marriage to work. Sometimes things can just settle down in to a routine and the spark goes. It is quite disappointing for you that she ... (read in full...)
She's single now. How do I start a conversation with her that could hopefully turn into a date?
Q. hi everyone I was at college for a year and i liked a girl in my class for a while but i was a little shy and barely spoke to her but we spoke a little about little things etc. I couldn't ask her out as she had a boyfriend. since then a...
A. 19 October 2012: Well you have her on facebook so that is a good start. Whenever you are both on line then just write to her and ask her how she is, get to know her over the internet again. Just ask questions about her and show her that you are interested. Then ... (read in full...)
I have literally no interest in girls whatsoever, is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi everyone, Somehow I am not interested in relationship with any girls. I have no idea why. It makes me feel really weird since almost of everyone at my age is talking about girls, whilst I am just not so interested. I have a lot of female fr...
A. 19 October 2012: There really is no such thing as normal when it comes to relationships. At the end of the day you are still young and have plenty of time ahead of you for relationships. I guess maybe you felt hurt when things did not work out with your best friend ... (read in full...)
Could my crush be hinting about things?
Q. me and my crush hugged, face to face, my arms around his neck and his hands on my bum, does it mean anything?. we r quite close, we joke about, hug allot, he squeezes my bum, we wait for each other after classes and talk all the time, he admitting ...
A. 19 October 2012: It is hard to tell really if he is just being flirty and or if he does actually want to go out with you. But if it is what you really want then do not be afraid to ask him, it is not always up to the guy to ask a girl out, if you like him and want ... (read in full...)
Claim to be my friends. Make plans in front of me. Then exclude me. What can I do about this?
Q. i hate them all!!! you have no idea!! first off they're always make plans without me, and really cool interesting plans every week which really irritates me. they plan then out loud in front of my face and block me out the whole group, the w...
A. 19 October 2012: I know it seems awful at the minute but things will get better in time. These are not friends they are trying to put you down and exclude you just to hurt you. Stand up for yourself and show everyone that you are not a push over. When they start ... (read in full...)
Guy hitting on heavily in public in quiet in private!
Q. Hi everyone, Could you please help me decipher this guy's behaviour? We're colleagues working in a very big organisation and do not have any common work projects. He's recently divorced (probably for about 6-7 months) - his wife left him for ano...
A. 18 October 2012: Thanks for the update and I it is a shame that it never worked out between you both, but hey as the saying goes it is his loss so at least you got closure on it. Best of luck in the future.... (read in full...)
I want to save my marriage.My husband has PTSI and TBI and is so angry and mean. He's kicked me out. How can I get him back?
Q. my husband moved out of where we were staying while we were seperated, because he kicked me out. Then he left some of my stuff there and had to go get it.. He wrote me in a text that its over and he filed for divorce.. Now he changed his emai...
A. 17 October 2012: I am so sorry that you have had all of this to deal with I am sure it has been a very hard time on you. I am afraid though really there is nothing much you can do if it is what he really wants. Have you managed to talk to him and ask him why he has ... (read in full...)
Should I force myself to move out while healing from an abusive relationship or wait?
Q. Should I force myself to move out on my own in midst of healing from a horrible, abusive relationship I had been in for years, or wait a bit longer? I need your advice! I am 24 years old and currently healing from an extremely abusive relation...
A. 17 October 2012: Okay so you have said yourself you are healing from this man and you are moving forward, although you are still letting him get to you though, aren't you, because if you were not then what he said to you would not bother you, and you should not let ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my obsession with a celebrity?
Q. Hy. Lol its kinda funny what s happening to me right now. Im so inlove with a male celebrity "Rob Evans". Gosh! Im so obsessed with the guy to such an extand that i cant date any guy because of my obssession..im like imagining what would happen if i ...
A. 14 October 2012: It is quite normal to have a teen celebrity crush. You are still only young so I wouldn't worry to much about it effecting you having a relationship, as it is obvious you are just not ready for one yet.
The only way you can calm this down is ... (read in full...)
My first boyfriend has broke my heart, what do I do.
Q. This is my first ever relationship and I have been hurt. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months. I fell in love with him. He was exactly what I wanted down to the T. He said he loved me and we would be together. He never cheated nor did ...
A. 14 October 2012: I know how horrible you must feel at the moment, it is always hard losing your first love, but believe me it will get better in time. It sounds like you both had a great relationship, he says he found a lump which has scared him, and off course it ... (read in full...)
Just started dating but very little sex
Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...
A. 14 October 2012: People who are in relationships for years find it hard if suddenly they have distance between them so I can completely understand what you mean, off course it is going to be hard if you both cannot meet up more and get to know each other better. The ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 14 October 2012: If I am honest with you it really is hard to tell where this girl is coming from. I suggest you take things slow this time though, go out on a few dates and have a laugh, enjoy each others company and see if it kicks off this time. Maybe she has ... (read in full...)
How do I encourage him to ask me out?
Q. Long story cut short, basically, I fancy my best friend. We've been friends for about a year now and I know there's been a point where he's liked me but I've shrugged it off(found it strange!). And a time where I've been secretly infatuated with ...
A. 8 October 2012: Why should he be the one to ask you out? You ask him out, it is obvious you both like each other, but his confidence was dented in the past when you rejected him, so it is now your turn to ask him out and tell him how you feel or else you will just ... (read in full...)
How do I tell family I can't afford to go for the holidays when I am taking a vacation later?
Q. My brother keeps inviting me every year to their house for the upcoming holidays. They live in another state. Plane tickets are around $500.00 round trip. Checked greyhound buses which is a lot cheaper but I would have to stay a lot longer than I ...
A. 8 October 2012: I agree with so very confused, it is your choice how you spend your money. I can understand you feel obliged as it is your brother, but why should you do all the running. I would just simply say thanks for the offer but you want to spend Christmas ... (read in full...)
We've been togetehr a year and still havnt slept at his house?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we still havent slept over at his house, He's stayed at mine atleast 30+ times, whenever ive even hinted at it i get stuff back. His parents werent comfy over it because im the first female to ...
A. 8 October 2012: Okay first off is he still living at home with his parents? If that is the case then maybe he just does not feel comfortable having you over at his house because he is living with his parents. I can understand why you would feel that it is not fair ... (read in full...)
Still madly in love with my girlfriend, but all my old feelings for my friend have come rushing back! What does this mean?
Q. I use to know this girl,, we we're just friends, kissed a few times but nothing more then that, anyway i got into a relationship with a different girl and everything was great, a year later, i find myself still madly in love with my girlfriend but i ...
A. 8 October 2012: I doubt that you love her, it is probably just a case that when you saw her you remembered how you used to feel and now you cannot get her out of your mind because you are yearning for the past. But you need to look at the present. Put the fun ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified he will post naked pictures of me on the internet! Is that illegal?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site. He keeps saying he was set up, he deleted the account and it actually says closed by user so there's 100% proof he did it. He got nasty and said I'd set it up or my friends or sister ...
A. 8 October 2012: I'm afraid it is not illegal no, sometimes that is why it is best never to let someone take naked photo's off you as this is what can happen, however my guess is that he is just threatening to do this, am sure he won't actually go through with this. ... (read in full...)
What causes him to act this way? He's my friend one minute then snapping at me the next.
Q. Hi agony aunts i'm soo confused! I got really good friends at University, the one friend is a guy we get along sometimes other times he's soo spiteful towards me and i've no idea why. Back in the first year he lost his mum and because i was young ...
A. 8 October 2012: It is a hard one to tell, it is never easy losing a parent and it sounds like is a defence mechanism he has built up around himself. He knows that you have suffered the same but he might actually resent the fact that deep down he may want to open up ... (read in full...)
My LDR of 4 years wants to break up when we are set to move in within a month! Help me!
Q. We've been in a long distance relationship for 4 and half years now , and in 1 month I could finally move in with her and we could start our lifes together , even yesterday we were planning what car we should get etc. (she is Norwegian I am ...
A. 8 October 2012: If I am honest with you I think you need to let go off her, you are living in an illusion that you can some how make her change her mind and fall in love with you, but that is just not how it works and to me it sounds like this woman has made up her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had sex with 100 girls. Am I just the next one in line?
Q. My boyfriend confessed to having nearly 100 past sexual partners. I'm still a virgin, which makes it a shocker for me. He told me that before he turned 21 (his bday is next month) he wanted to go above 100, but said he would stop at me. He wanted me ...
A. 8 October 2012: If I am honest with you, if it was me I think I would run a mile from this man. He is quite young so to have slept with so many women is quite unbelievable. Although maybe he is over exaggerating and if he is it makes me wonder why he would do ... (read in full...)
How do I get my prude girlfriend to do sexual things with me?!
Q. How do I get my prude girlfriend to do shit with me?! We have been dating for a few weeks and we have only made out. I try to feel her up and she just stops me. how can i seduce/persuade her to let me finger her or give me dome!? ...
A. 8 October 2012: Well first off you can start by actually having patience and waiting, a couple of weeks and you feel that you should be allowed free access to her? That is not the way it works, yes I realise you are a teenage guy and your hormones are probably ... (read in full...)
Just started dating but very little sex
Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...
A. 4 October 2012: Well you may want more, but the way you behaved shows that sex is number one for you and then any thing after that comes second. Yes am sure she pulled back because of this. Most women want a man who sex is not his top priority. They take the time ... (read in full...)
Just started dating but very little sex
Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...
A. 4 October 2012: This situation is not going to change. It is clear all you are wanting is sex, and she is not willing to have that kind of relationship with you as she wants more. You pressured her in to trying to come and have sex with you yet she just wants to ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 4 October 2012: You are letting this eat away at you and get to you. Yes I think it is a good idea that you get closure on this. It is rude of her to just ignore you when you ask her out, and the same goes for the concert. To me that shows totally lack off respect ... (read in full...)
Just started dating but very little sex
Q. I have started seeing this girl (28 I am 34) a 2 months ago. We liked each other right away and after a few times we made love. We where both traveling the first month so we only got together briefly 3 times and made love. She then came to my city ...
A. 3 October 2012: It is still very early days between the both of you, so maybe you should concentrate more on getting to know her better as well as being intimate with her. Maybe she thinks that all you are looking for is sex and that is why she is not willing to ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 23 August 2012: I think you are both to blame hear really, nobody is in the right or the wrong. You might not have felt like you where possessive but she sounds like she is a quite reserved girl who likes to take things slow, I think you wanted things to move to ... (read in full...)
Guy hitting on heavily in public in quiet in private!
Q. Hi everyone, Could you please help me decipher this guy's behaviour? We're colleagues working in a very big organisation and do not have any common work projects. He's recently divorced (probably for about 6-7 months) - his wife left him for ano...
A. 20 October 2011: Well it does sound like he is interested in you, my guess is that he is making it obvious to you so that you can take the next step. You say you haven't showing any interest towards him therefore he is probably being cautious. His wife has left him ... (read in full...)
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