I can't stop thinking about a teacher I used to have a crush on. How can I forget him and move on?
Q. So I'm 19, in my second year of university and in a succesful and happy long term relationship. However, I cannot seem to forget about the teacher I had a massive crush (I used to think it was love but now I'm a little older I'm not so sure) on from ...
A. 4 December 2012: It probably does feel to you like unfinished business, in your head you are probably thinking what if, or what could have been. I doubt emailing him will help, it will probably just confuse you even more. I think in time you will soon forget about ... (read in full...)
She's stopped telling me how she feels, do you think she is losing interest? Can anyone tell me what is going on?
Q. Hello everyone, I've got a problem I need advice on. long story short I just started dating my ex of 3 years ago. And before we started dating again we would hang out a lot and she would always tell me how badly she's hooked on me and how badly ...
A. 4 December 2012: It sounds to me like she might be scared of getting hurt. She has told you she is falling for you all over again therefore she let her barrier down and it sounds like she feels exposed and is scared in case something goes wrong. There was obviously ... (read in full...)
I need help getting back to normal life after a traumatic experience
Q. Ok a long time (few years) ago I made out and got intimate (no oral/vaginal sex) with what I thought was a women but it was a mtf transsexual with full surgery. That was a traumatic experience for me and I have been depressed about it ever since. I ...
A. 4 December 2012: There is nothing here that you should be ashamed about, you have done nothing wrong. This person made a full sex change and therefore I am guessing that that person felt like a woman both body and mind, and I think you need to learn to start ... (read in full...)
Should I date my soon to be ex husband's 2nd cousin?
Q. My husband and I have been together 7 years. We are currently going through a divorce and it will all be finalized in 25 days. Prior to ever meeting my husband, I was friends with his 2nd cousin for 4 years (therefore I've known him about 11 years). ...
A. 4 December 2012: You are both adults therefore it is up to you both if you want to get in to a relationship. You already know that him and your ex husband are family, you know what path you are going down so it is up to you to make a choice, either spare your ex ... (read in full...)
Should I go against my girl's wishes and spend time with my ex and our son on Christmas?
Q. I have 9 month old son with my ex girlfriend who left me before our son was born. I didn't want to be a father at first which is why she left me. I told her that I couldn't afford a child and we are too young ( Shes 21 I'm 24) I was a total dick ...
A. 4 December 2012: I don't think either off you is being unreasonable here. You need to look at it from your girlfriends point of view if she told you that she was going to stay over night with her ex boyfriend how would you feel? I understand that you have a child ... (read in full...)
B/f is making up every excuse possible to not meet my family
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and because of our financial situation we were never able to go from upstate New England to Florida to visit my mother and little brother. I've been promoted and I'm now full time and I have paid ...
A. 4 December 2012: I have to agree, he does not want to take time off work or miss classes. Which is good enough reasons. Yes he might be nervous about meeting your family and these are just excuses, but if he has work and classes then I think you need to respect ... (read in full...)
How to get over being angry with in laws ???
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. We get along just fine but I don't get along with his mom nor his brother because when we started dating his brother out of the blue without even meeting me told my boyfriend that I was no good ...
A. 4 December 2012: You need to let the past go and put it to rest. Try and not take there comments personally as you said yourself it was before they even met you and am sure now that they can see you both are the real deal. With a wedding coming up he needs to be ... (read in full...)
I'm thirteen weeks pregnant, and the father is my best friends new boyfriend. How do I tell them?
Q. I'm a little over 3 months pregnant (13 weeks) and I still haven't told the father of my child as he's my oldest friends new boyfriend. They met after we had a one night stand at a joint friends house party. We both were drunk and I had no intention ...
A. 3 December 2012: You need to tell him, the longer you leave it the harder it will become. As the father he has a right to know, and your friend has a right to know as well. Before you start telling other people you need to tell him. It is good to hear that you are ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her how I feel, or do I leave it be?
Q. Back in highschool i met a girl (3 years ago) . And overtime we got really close. And become like best friends. everyone was expecting us to start dating. And as a guy i did have feelings for her. But since i could get hotter chics i didnt want to ...
A. 3 December 2012: You know deep down that she loves you and it is making your feelings stronger as time goes on. I think you know you let her go and it hurt her and it is making you regret it even more. However I can see that your intentions where good and you had ... (read in full...)
Why is she ignoring me?
Q. I have a problem with a friend. So I am still in high school so i met this new amazing girl and in so little time we got to know each other alot in a week we are already calling each other and it turns out that she has a boyfriend and she calls me ...
A. 3 December 2012: As so-very-confused said this is exactly why she is behaving like this. You need to respect that she has a boyfriend and she is off limits, forget about this girl and move on with your life. ... (read in full...)
I have a major crush on a married professor, and I need to get him out of my head and heart. Please help me!!!
Q. I dont even know how to begin ...i feeling very low and really need some advice.... Well I have this professor and i really really like him. He is very nice to me and always smiles at me.He is very attractive and no matter how hard i try i jus...
A. 3 December 2012: It will pass in time believe me. You say yourself you can see how happy he is and you need to accept that. You need to realise that his job is to teach you and even if he was single nothing could ever happen as it would be his career on the line. ... (read in full...)
How do I help my friend see that her cheating boyfriend isn't worth her time?
Q. Hi everyone...i am a girl who loved some really hard for 5 month and then he cheated and no one knew about it but us, so we solved it between us and now our realtion is even better than anytime before and what happened made him change completly to ...
A. 3 December 2012: If your boyfriend saw her husband to be cheating with his own eyes then I suggest that yes you do tell your friend, as she deserves to know the truth. At the moment your friend is in a bad place, she loves this man and will do anything to keep him, ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about doing sexual things with a more experienced guy!
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a few months and we've recently told each other we like each other. We were playing the question game and he asked me if i'd like to try being friends with benefits, however: - i've never had a boyfriend - i'v...
A. 3 December 2012: I would strongly recommend to you that you do not go down this path. Experiencing a physical relationship for the first time should be something special and something you enjoy with someone who you are committed to. Having a friends with benefits ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend happier without me around?
Q. Me and my boyfriend recently lived together for six months, then due to him needing to sort his thoughts out and have space(wasnt sure if he was ready for a relationship etc) we decided i should move home with family. so for the last half of the...
A. 3 December 2012: I think he gets annoyed at you for saying this because you are insecure and you are making him see that you think he is happier without you around. My guess is that you are reading to much in to it. He was probably just not ready to move in ... (read in full...)
How can I type and ask him if he might be interested in being more than friends?
Q. Hi guys. I'm fairly confused at the moment. I've recently come home from a tour in Kenya. We went on a month long safari around loads of different game reserves and national parks. It was amazing. And it was made even more amazing by our guide wh...
A. 3 December 2012: I think you should start by telling him about your plans to maybe some day move to Africa. Tell him you want to but that you would want to be near someone who you knew so you where not completely alone. Ask him about his life, has he got a ... (read in full...)
I know I can't have my cake and eat it too but I'm confused and not sure what is the right thing to do
Q. Where should I start, ok ill start here, 2 years ago I ended a 3 year relaxationship with a girl that i never had a connection with other than sex lol and we had nothing in common, I was miserable and she didn't love me, but we had awesome sex and ...
A. 3 December 2012: I understand that sex is a big part of any relationship. I think you need to concentrate more on your wife here though than your friend. Talk to your wife about how you feel about your sex life. Tell her you want to spice things up more and see if ... (read in full...)
What's with the stupid games these women I work with are playing?
Q. Hey, basically at work this I am sure this man "D" fancies me. However today this happened. I saw A- who told me K had told her we were going shopping tomorrow. But she was going to have a beer with D. She invited me, i said no. I went to...
A. 3 December 2012: Well as you said yourself you have a feeling this guy fancies you and you feel that she likes him therefore she is probably just jealous and trying to cause trouble. Do not let it get to you just ignore her and don't allow her to stress you or cause ... (read in full...)
I have a date, how can I make the evening special?
Q. Me and this girl are going out for drinks. Might treat her out for a meal too. I think she likes me. If u were a girl what would make u melt without being to lovey. How can I make the evening special also she doesn't live near so I'm not sure ...
A. 3 December 2012: Well your intentions are right as you do not want to make assumptions therefore I think you should talk to her about this before you go and pick her up. Say you will be drinking and therefore cannot drive her home and ask her would she be able to ... (read in full...)
I am so tired of feeling like hes lying, on internet dating sites, or having an affair
Q. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year sex was grea for a long while, one night he came home from work and i looked in his phone and found out he was talking to a ex 5 states away he told me he talked to her once a ...
A. 3 December 2012: I think you should follow your gut instinct. It is clear that you do not trust your boyfriend, and if there is no trust in a relationship then really there is no point in staying in it because you are only going to make yourself miserable in the ... (read in full...)
The date went really well, but now he's acting rather off with me, is it because I'm a virgin?
Q. Hi guys, okay a little bit about me so you can get the gist of my situation afterwards. I'm 20 years old, female, living in London, I'm a virgin, I've never had a boyfriend, I have only one guy before, but things ended extremely badly bef...
A. 3 December 2012: I think it is possible you are probably over thinking the situation and also finding fault where there might not be any. Okay so I am guessing he was taking by surprise when you told him this, and yes he probably is questioning why you are still a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are very different when it comes to being social.
Q. please help.! my boyfriend and me are very different.hes so obsessed with going out with this other couple. i dont really wanna hang out with those two. but i'm kinda forced to. i'm the romantic type. he means a lot to me.but hes not. hes more ...
A. 3 December 2012: Well the thing is even though you are both a couple, it is still okay to want different things and to have different opinions on things. This doesn't mean that you should break up or that you shouldn't be together it just means you have to come up ... (read in full...)
Two guys to choose between ...
Q. please i really need some help on a decision i will have to make very soon! basically i have this friend iv known for a good few months we actually met for the 1st time a few years ago but we hadnt seen each other after that until a few months ago, ...
A. 3 December 2012: Okay well the thing is it is still really early days with both of these guys, so I guess if it was me I would just relax and take things as they come and see how it goes. The first guy sounds interested yes because he came to visit you, however ... (read in full...)
We used to be best friends but now all we do is fight and its getting violent
Q. Hello everyone I have been friends with a girl (we'll call her C) for over 2 years now, and we became very close friends and lived together at a few places and last year moved to an apartment together. Later, our boyfriends ended up moving in too...
A. 3 December 2012: These things happen once friends move in together and then move there partners in. It really was never going to work two couples living together, as couples need space and there own privacy. I would say move out and be done with it, but saying as ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose, my second cousin whom I love, or my family? They will never accept us if we get married....
Q. I love my second cousin and we want to get married but i am a hindu girl and my society does not allow this, Im really very much confused what shall i do as after marrying him my family will leave me. or I can say that if they come to know about ...
A. 3 December 2012: Nobody has the answer here for you I am afraid. It is something that you need to decide yourself. I can understand why you feel so torn but I think you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself what it is you really want with your life. This ... (read in full...)
Do I let my home wrecking daughter and her man stay with me so I can see my grandchildren?
Q. dear aunts and uncles, i seem to be in a pickle here. heres whats going on my daughter started work with me last aug. in nov. she hooked up with a man i have known for a few years who also worked there. now when i say known i mean we have worked t...
A. 3 December 2012: It is only natural that you are going to worry about your daughter, at the end of the day she is your baby and always will be. But I think you need to show some tough love here. By your own admission you spoilt her growing up, and she does not show ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of the bickering! Should we just go to therapy?
Q. I have been married for over 4 years. My wife and I have had a rocky relationship, we are both strong willed people. But we always seem to make it work and we love each other. However, because of our differences, it seems our communication is...
A. 3 December 2012: You both need to put that spark back in to the relationship. It can be hard when you have a child to actually remember to spend quality time together, and everyday stresses are probably taken out on each other. Make some time for each other. Get a ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid this man will think badly of me now that I've told him about my past
Q. Hello everyone I am feeling really down now. I really like this guy at the moment and the feeling is mutual even though we haven't made any commitments because I wanted to know him better before committing. He is a really special guy. Caring ...
A. 3 December 2012: It is your own guilt that is eating you up. You feel bad about what you done in the past and you are scared now to get serious with this man as it looks like you are trying to find faults before anything even begins. I know you are ashamed of your ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between 2 very different jobs and soon! What would you do?
Q. I have a very difficult decision to make and I need help. It's a choice between 2 very different jobs. I am currently working in sales, I don't like sales much at all, it's a retail job with part time hours. I applied for a new job in the police ...
A. 1 December 2012: Personally I think that you should take a risk here! By your own admission you don't love doing sales, therefore I think you should try something new, yes it is scary for anybody starting a new job and the anxiety will be there, but life is to short ... (read in full...)
We hardly ever see each other, how can we fix this?
Q. I am having some problems with my boyfriend at the moment. We have been together for over 3 years now, but sometimes I don't feel like I am in a relationship at all because I hardly ever see him. A lot of this is to do with work, as I work during ...
A. 29 November 2012: I can see why you have issues, it must be difficult for you to continue in a relationship where you feel like the last option , it should not be that way at all. You have tried speaking to him and communicating but he is not making any effort to ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy at the gym, what do I do?
Q. What do I do about this guy? I really like him:(? There's this cute guy who works at the gym where I've been going for 4months now. He's cute and I really like him. He's quiet, keeps to himself and he seem really passionate about his job....
A. 29 November 2012: Your not being silly but the only thing you can do really is try and get to know him. You don't know him on a personal level as off yet because you have both never really spoke to each other, so that needs to be solved first. Just try and have small ... (read in full...)
How do I start speaking to him?
Q. There's this guy at collage and he gets my train, we always end up sitting near each other, he gets on at my stop but I'm always with friends. I've realized he sits by where I leave my book. How do I start speaking to him? Do I tell him his work is ...
A. 21 November 2012: I think the best thing to do is to keep it simple, smile at him say hello ask him did he have a good day at college something like that, just keep it casual until you are more comfortable. ... (read in full...)
I panic when husband and I have sex and we have to stop. I haven't been abused, why am I like this?
Q. I've been married for a few months now, and I love him to death. The only problem is, I'm terrified of having sex. Like, i enjoy it when we start, but after a few moments i just start to panic. I get shaky and start crying and we have to stop. Why ...
A. 21 November 2012: I think you need to go and talk to someone, I know that this sounds scary and it is a difficult task, but it sounds like you have developed a fear from somewhere, it could be something unknown to you but there are people qualified to find out where ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I want to build our lives together?
Q. Hi i have been dating my bf for over 3 years and half and we lived together for 2 years since i was studying away and everything was perfect. he is an amazing man and i love him more than anything as he does as well. since i moved away from him i ...
A. 21 November 2012: Simple you tell him that exactly! Communication is key in a relationship so just be honest with him and tell him what you want, it really is that simple!... (read in full...)
I have to tell my boyfriend everything to do!
Q. hi, i'm in love with a man that loves me too as his words and most of his actions do say. he calls me daily, remember my face in everywhere we went to, he takes me places he never went to with an ex so he only remembers me, he does exactly what i s...
A. 21 November 2012: What do you mean by to gentle? At the end of the day if he wants to be friends with his ex then there should not be a problem if you trust him, if you think he wants to cheat on you then the trust is just not there and therefore no point in the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stalks guys on facebook, meets them and then tells them she has a boyfriend and only wants to be friends!
Q. So I have been dating this girl for a while about 8 months now and we seem to be good for eachother. The relationship is difficult to explain because we live so far away and it gets difficult sometimes. Anyways i have been noticing something about ...
A. 21 November 2012: It sounds to me like she does this for the attention! You are in a long distant relationship which can be hard to deal with, I bet she doesn't feel like she gets enough attention from you as a boyfriend because you are at a distance therefore she ... (read in full...)
We argue alot and he changes what he says from one day to the next
Q. Hello, Everyone here, I think I am the loser of relationship. I with my bf just know each other 3 month, but we argue like a every 4 day , I feel bored about this relationship. The reason we argue, is more like about the communication talk. ...
A. 21 November 2012: The best thing for you to do is to leave him, he treated you well to begin with as that was his way off getting you to fall in love with him, now he is showing you who he really is. He is using you for money and sex and he is controlling and ... (read in full...)
Where do I find a guy with similar sexual interests to mine?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles, I've got a problem: I'm single for over 2 years now and struggling with finding someone new. I'm scared about a new relationship for various reasons, the biggest reason is I don't want to live through a sexually frust...
A. 21 November 2012: Well you say you met a few people from the internet yet you want a relationship not just a good sex life, which is completely fair. I think the best way to go about it is to leave your fantasies at the back of your mind until you properly get to ... (read in full...)
Aspergers syndrome - life experience [summary]
Q. Im 27 yrs old, have Asperger's syndrome. Life hasnt been easy for me, though but it has been good. High school was good, but I struggled with the social side, but enjoyed the topics, except for maths , only really liked English and geography an...
A. 21 November 2012: It can be difficult for a lot of people to make new friends, and off course harder for someone like yourself who has Asperger's. Maybe you could look in to some groups that might be in your area for people who's social skills are effected. Talk to ... (read in full...)
How do I let an older male co-worker know I am interested without stepping over the lines?
Q. #1 What are the signs that an older male co-worker may be interested? I think he is but not for certain. ( i work in a factory not an office so it's not like i can tell because he's constantly dropping into my office) #2 as a 23 year old female, ...
A. 21 November 2012: That is a tough question, because first off everyone shows different signs of liking someone. If you like him and you are interested then express this to him, but make sure first off that he is single before you pursue him. Just keep it casual ask ... (read in full...)
It doesn't feel like a crush, it feels two sided! But is it?
Q. Hey all, I have posted before about a guy at work. And i took on board people's views e.g that he is being friendly and that work relationships aren't really a good path to go down because all the problems. But there's been a update and would ...
A. 21 November 2012: If you feel it is two sided well then go with your gut. If you really like him then talk to him and see what is going on, yes work relationships sometimes are never a good idea, but you should follow your gut instinct, and if it is telling you that ... (read in full...)
I'm trying hard not to push him away, but have I lost my chance?
Q. hello, ive been with my partner for nearly 3 years a lot has happened between us, good and bad, and i feel completely comfortable and happy when im with him. everything feels right with him. but because of his background with women and my inexpe...
A. 19 November 2012: You need to stop blaming yourself for everything that has happened. You never done anything wrong. Okay yes you may have got jealous and you may have been insecure but there where obviously reasons why you felt like this, are you sure your partner ... (read in full...)
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