I'm trying hard not to push him away, but have I lost my chance?
Q. hello, ive been with my partner for nearly 3 years a lot has happened between us, good and bad, and i feel completely comfortable and happy when im with him. everything feels right with him. but because of his background with women and my inexpe...
A. 19 November 2012: You need to stop blaming yourself for everything that has happened. You never done anything wrong. Okay yes you may have got jealous and you may have been insecure but there where obviously reasons why you felt like this, are you sure your partner ... (read in full...)
I finally left! Why doesn't it feel better?
Q. i recently left the father of my two children i had enough of all the misstreatment. he verbaly humiliated me, ocacionally pushed me around. he is very weird somedays he treats me really good but other days he doesnt stop telling me he hates me ...
A. 13 November 2012: That's brilliant, glad to hear a good outcome and I am happy that you have your life back, hope you have a happy future.... (read in full...)
Should I resist my ex? Or give in?
Q. we were college sweet hearts. Every where i went, he was there. so, we dated, graduated college. He was my first. Then i got pregnant, on purpose. We got married and moved together. We had arguments and stupid fights. He walks out on me and an ...
A. 10 November 2012: Well I wish you both the best of luck, I hope it works out for you and you can trust him enough to be committed to you.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend swears at me and calls me names but I love him. Should I dump him?
Q. I am having a serious problem. My bf always swears at me, calling me all sorts of names, and I really hate that when he bought me something and do something wrong, when I confront him he wants his things back. I really love him but very confused...
A. 6 November 2012: What do you love about him exactly? Do you love when he demands his gifts back? Do you love when he shouts at you? Do you love when he will not listen to you? Do you love the way he makes you feel when he swears at you? Do you love how he does not ... (read in full...)
Waiting for her email.... or taking action?
Q. I had an amazing 3 month relationship with a girl. After 2 months she started pulling away, avoiding sex. After 2 weeks of that we had a confrontation about it and she said she still wanted to be together. She lives in another city so after 2 ...
A. 6 November 2012: I agree with highmaintenance101 to a certain degree here, however you do need to be careful that you do not over contact her either. We need to remember here that for some reason she has cooled off, I can see you do not want to give up hope and you ... (read in full...)
Should I resist my ex? Or give in?
Q. we were college sweet hearts. Every where i went, he was there. so, we dated, graduated college. He was my first. Then i got pregnant, on purpose. We got married and moved together. We had arguments and stupid fights. He walks out on me and an ...
A. 6 November 2012: I totally understand that you don't care about this woman, in fact you are probably bitter towards her because she is with the man you still feel you love. But he will only be using you for sex, not love and I suggest to you that this is not the ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend so guarded? Can it be because she's Scorpio?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together 3 years, us both being lesbians. She's a Scorpio and I'm a Cancer. My issue is she's a very guarded person. And when she's going through things she doesn't like to talk about it or even talk to me. Which al...
A. 3 November 2012: No it is not a Zodiac sign. This is who she is and there is obvious some reason why she is so guarded. I would imagine she has trust issues and she hates talking about her past, am guessing this is down to self esteem issues. I guess she finds it ... (read in full...)
Should I resist my ex? Or give in?
Q. we were college sweet hearts. Every where i went, he was there. so, we dated, graduated college. He was my first. Then i got pregnant, on purpose. We got married and moved together. We had arguments and stupid fights. He walks out on me and an ...
A. 3 November 2012: No I think in this case you should resist, he has proven in the past that he is a cheat and he cannot be trusted, he has a family at home just remember that, do you want to become a home wrecker? But yourself in his girlfriends shoes. I know he ... (read in full...)
What do I do if he's went off me?
Q. hmm? My boyfriend is very unaware of how I feel about him... he doesnt realise he is pretty much the only thing on my mind that I always want to be with him and if he does'nt text me or gives me a slightly bad impression that will litterally kill ...
A. 3 November 2012: First off you need to stop imagining that he is your world, this is not healthy. Use your free time to enjoy yourself with friends and other people in this world that you love. Guys like nothing better than there girlfriend being independent. When ... (read in full...)
Is it the way I act that is making my Bf lose interest? For instance he didn't bother to give me a Birthday present this year
Q. I am unsure on how to act around my bf or how he feels. He seems to lack interest in me. I do not know if I am doing something wrong, or if he just does not love me anymore??? He claims he loves me and we have been serious for 3 yeara, we ...
A. 2 November 2012: You are blaming yourself here when it is not your fault. He has got lazy and distracted in the relationship, no matter what you do or how much you try and dress up this behaviour will not change. You are making all the effort here and he just sits ... (read in full...)
She's single now. How do I start a conversation with her that could hopefully turn into a date?
Q. hi everyone I was at college for a year and i liked a girl in my class for a while but i was a little shy and barely spoke to her but we spoke a little about little things etc. I couldn't ask her out as she had a boyfriend. since then a...
A. 2 November 2012: It is only natural to worry but she will be the judge if she finds it strange or not, look at the end of the day if you want this girl in your life then you need to make the effort to make it happen, because if you stay away worrying all the time ... (read in full...)
Why do I still think about my old crush, especially when I'm upset
Q. My last flame/crush was a nice guy. He wasnt my usual bartender or rock-star with rip jean n tatts[it a style that most of them had]But we notice each other from cross the room at uni coffee shop, both us got caught checking the other out. . Ke...
A. 30 October 2012: I think this is a case of you want what you cannot have. Yes you felt an attraction between you both, but I think when you found out he was your professor you knew you could not have him which only makes you want him more.
You have said you won'... (read in full...)
Has my ex really changed?
Q. Has he really changed? I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago as I felt he was moving too fast with the relationship. He stayed persistently trying to get back together and said he has learnt so much about himself. Says he understa...
A. 30 October 2012: I think he has tried to make a huge effort here with you and tried to change. However it is obvious he wants to be with you and I know you are wanting to take things slow which is okay but I guess it just caught him by surprise that you where ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend often visits Facebook of a sexy bikini girl as an entertainment. Is it okay for a serious relationship with me?
Q. Hi everyone. The matter I'm going to talk about is: Faithfulness! (oh yeah old issue) *** Brief of the matter: I've just found out he often visits Facebook page of a sexy party clubbing young girl; and sometimes leaves comments, link of song, fl...
A. 30 October 2012: I don't think you can call this a very serious relationship as off yet because the both of you have not even met each other yet. I understand that you have both made a connection on the internet and you seem to have a lot in common, but really you ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 30 October 2012: If you want me to be completely honest with you then I would say you blew this way out of proportion. If it was me I would be quite annoyed with you as well. You allowed her to have the tickets therefore she just wanted to know if you where able to ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to think... Has he fallen out of love with me???
Q. I've dated my boyfriend for 4 years. All that time he was caring and sensitive. Recently for the past few months I just don't understand what is happening with him. He is forever busy on weekends. If I want something I must do it now. Today he asked ...
A. 28 October 2012: You need to talk to him and ask him what is going on. It does sound like the spark has left the relationship and he is not sure what he wants any more. You need to talk to him and get the truth out of him. Maybe the relationship has just falling in ... (read in full...)
Waiting for her email.... or taking action?
Q. I had an amazing 3 month relationship with a girl. After 2 months she started pulling away, avoiding sex. After 2 weeks of that we had a confrontation about it and she said she still wanted to be together. She lives in another city so after 2 ...
A. 28 October 2012: If I am honest with you I just cannot see things working out between the both of you, she kept you at a distance for a reason and I guess it is because you both don't get a chance to meet up much to get to know each other well. I think you need to ... (read in full...)
Help!!! I want to be MORE than just friends with her...
Q. I'm 34, only recently discovered I'm an introvert. I'm not much outgoing since I truly hate loud groups of people. I'm not a very quick speaker, or overly witty. But i'm a kind guy and I know who I am and I know I'll make a great boyfriend for ...
A. 28 October 2012: First off well done on actually plucking up the courage to take her out on a date. I am sure it took a lot of guts for you to do this and you should be proud off yourself. Yes it is quite sad that at this moment she doesn't seem to want a ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to support and deal with an emotionally damaged boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We met online and before I got into this relationship I knew he was damaged. All I know that one or more past girlfriends have cheated on him other than that I don't know a lot. He is very gua...
A. 28 October 2012: At least he was upfront and honest with you, that's a start. I assume it is going to take him a long time to trust you as he has been hurt so many times in the past. The only thing that you can do is be understanding and supportive but also remember ... (read in full...)
Does he actually not like me and is he showing me that by pretty much ignoring me?
Q. I dated a guy for several months, we broke up for 6 months and I saw him again and we reconnected. It was what seemed a fresh start where we talked about how we hoped to have a future together. But he is in the military and got stationed on the...
A. 28 October 2012: He probably thinks that the best way to handle this move is to distance himself from you now to avoid any hurt it might cause to have to say goodbye. But I agree with Xearo the best way to find out what is going on in his head is to arrange a day to ... (read in full...)
Why is it that black men or Indian men or Chinese men NEVER approach me to date me?
Q. I'm of Indian origin but don't look stereotypically Indian. Most people find me too light skinned to be Indian and always think I'm half Indian. I'm pretty tall and have done ballet for years, so I'd say I have a pretty good figure. I'm quite skin...
A. 28 October 2012: I cannot tell you there personal reasons for not approaching you, however I can say that it should not always be left to the man to approach the woman. Therefore if someone catches your eye, then make the effort and make the first move. You have ... (read in full...)
Contraceptive ideas???
Q. I've been with my bf for close to 3 years now and we've used condoms as a contraceptive. We got tested together and we're both sti free. Im really tired of using condoms, I'd like a different kind of contraceptive. I'm not a fan of the pill either ...
A. 28 October 2012: Yes I agree with Chigirl that the pill is a good method to consider, however like everything else it is never 100%. With the pill you need to make sure you take it everyday around the same time, as if you miss one then it messes the cycle up. Also ... (read in full...)
I'm getting confusing signals from her... is she interested, or not?
Q. Maybe you all can help me make sense of this. There’s this girl at school that I really like, but she’s being so confusing. I met her last year. We have some of the same friends, but have never really spent much time together one on one. We were ...
A. 28 October 2012: It sounds to me like she is holding back probably because she is a little shy and she is unsure about how to move forward with you. As you say she is inexperienced so she probably gets nervous when you ask to meet up and she keeps making excuses. ... (read in full...)
I love her and can't get over her but she only thinks of me as a friend
Q. Please help me.Hai,i am loving my girl for last one year.we used to be good friends.always chats in mobile.i felt good with her.i have been in hostel for last two years.when i go to home,i see her and talks.she is near my house.all her's family know ...
A. 28 October 2012: You are being melodramatic here. I can totally understand that you love her and want to be with her, but you NEED to accept that she does not feel the same way, harsh as that is. You HAVE to deal with that. You will move on you are still quite ... (read in full...)
I love her and can't get over her but she only thinks of me as a friend
Q. Please help me.Hai,i am loving my girl for last one year.we used to be good friends.always chats in mobile.i felt good with her.i have been in hostel for last two years.when i go to home,i see her and talks.she is near my house.all her's family know ...
A. 28 October 2012: You are being melodramatic here. I can totally understand that you love her and want to be with her, but you NEED to accept that she does not feel the same way, harsh as that is. You HAVE to deal with that. You will move on you are still quite ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can you be in love with someone you have never seen???
Q. Hi I really need some advice. I have been talkin to a guy over the phone for 4 months. I know him since over a year since we used to Facebook chat regularly. I'm 18 and he is 25. Our families know each other very well and are practically fami...
A. 28 October 2012: This is a horrible situation for you to be in, because either way you are going to get hurt. He values your friendship that much I can see. He enjoys talking to you. But you need to remember that he was dishonest with you to begin with, he had a ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can you be in love with someone you have never seen???
Q. Hi I really need some advice. I have been talkin to a guy over the phone for 4 months. I know him since over a year since we used to Facebook chat regularly. I'm 18 and he is 25. Our families know each other very well and are practically fami...
A. 28 October 2012: This is a horrible situation for you to be in, because either way you are going to get hurt. He values your friendship that much I can see. He enjoys talking to you. But you need to remember that he was dishonest with you to begin with, he had a ... (read in full...)
Man with little response...
Q. I have been spending time with a man who became a widower 18 months ago. I didn't want to be involved in a rebound situation and he admitted he felt vulnerable so we literally are just friends. The problem is, now I have been spending time with him ...
A. 28 October 2012: It sounds like he is holding back, maybe he feels bad about moving on with his life, grief can do strange things to people. I think in from here there is no point giving him hints, the best thing to do is be blunt and honest with him, at least then ... (read in full...)
I love her and can't get over her but she only thinks of me as a friend
Q. Please help me.Hai,i am loving my girl for last one year.we used to be good friends.always chats in mobile.i felt good with her.i have been in hostel for last two years.when i go to home,i see her and talks.she is near my house.all her's family know ...
A. 27 October 2012: I can understand why you are confident and why you want to be with her. It is clear you have falling in love with her and you want the both of you to be together happily. But the hard thing about this is that she just does not feel the same way ... (read in full...)
What happened to the concept that guys like a natural look? I'm invisible to guys when I go out with her!
Q. Can someone explain what is so amazing about my friend that everyone likes her and all the guys i meet first meet first, set her and then want her!! On nights out she gets so much male attention you would think she was megan fox. She's mixed rac...
A. 26 October 2012: Okay first off she should not be apologising to you here, she is doing nothing wrong, and it does not sound like she is flirting with these men or leading them on, it sounds like they are just looking to grab her attention. It is true what your ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rebound move on my part, considering I only just broke up with my Gf?
Q. Hey- This may be a bit silly, but I was just wondering and I wanted to know what everyone thought. My girlfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me out of nowhere about a month ago (there was distance, and a lot of outside circumstanc...
A. 26 October 2012: My advice would be to just let things fall in to place. Yes it can be hard to deal with a break up but it sounds like you are doing really well and that you are moving forward with your life. If it feels right to you to get with this girl then go ... (read in full...)
Was he fake or for real?
Q. I'd appreciate some thoughts on this situation. Recently on a business holiday, I met a man in fairly unusual circumstances. We clicked instantly. There was a very strong attraction both physical and spiritual. I think it kind of shocked us both ...
A. 26 October 2012: I think there was a lot of things built against you from the start, he is a busy business man, you both live in different countries and it was only meant to be a weekend to see how things went. I honestly think you expected to much from him, giving ... (read in full...)
Back in contact with the ex... what to do for the best?
Q. I've recently come in contact with an ex boyfriend. We were together 6 years ago for a few months but things didn't work out as we were only 19, I went straight into a new relationship that lasted 6 years, we had 2 children together. Now I'm back ...
A. 24 October 2012: At the moment this has simply been casual sex. Which can happen a lot between ex partners. If you feel you are starting to fall for him then you need to be very careful as you do not want to end up hurt. I think you need to be honest with him and ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he contact me?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 4months now, and we can go days not seeing each other with minimal boring texting to days spent together and really happy and intense. He will never tell me if he wants to see me, I always have to be the one to a...
A. 24 October 2012: As the saying goes 'He is just not that in to you'. I know that sounds harsh but it is the reality. He will meet up with you if you make arrangements but he does not bother to take the first step himself, it shows he is making no effort and he is ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my female ex-teacher, but I've never had a relationship with a woman before!
Q. Im 21years old now when i was 14 at primary i had a crush on my female teacher it was deep and strong,then i went to high school eventualy i forgot all about her and enjoyed my high school life and had a boyfriend we dated for over 7 years. but ...
A. 24 October 2012: This is something that has developed since you where younger, I think once you saw her again you remembered your crush and it came back stronger than ever. You are no longer her student any more so you would not be doing anything wrong in having a ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3 years has confused feeling between me and another...
Q. My girlfriend and I had been together for 3 years, it has been the best 3 years of my life, we have conquered every kind of task possible. we even had to do the long distance thing for about year because she went to school elsewhere. we had fought ...
A. 24 October 2012: You said it yourself you cannot be in her life as a friend. Believe me if you keep in contact with her now then that is exactly what you are doing, being a friend, I know you think if you keep up the contact now and fight for her then you might win ... (read in full...)
We cant have a relationship but I cant stop thinking about kissing him! What should I do?
Q. Hi there, i am really good friends with a guy that i realise i am starting to feel things for. I feel jealous at the thought of him dating other people, i can't take my eyes off him and i can't help but be extremely attracted to him. I've tr...
A. 24 October 2012: Well if you are completely sure that you will never be able to have a relationship with him then I would strongly advice against trying to kiss him. The simple reason being if you kiss him then it will only make your feelings stronger and in the end ... (read in full...)
Has my Boyfriend cheated on me with his ex?
Q. Dear all, I am so hurt and miss my boyfriend after breaking up with him. I will try to keep this short, i meet him last Feb. we hit it off. Initially we started off fine, met him saturday nights with my friend and his, it was difficult to get o...
A. 22 October 2012: It is a difficult one really. Can you honestly go as far as to say he acted like a boyfriend? It sounds to me like for him it was just casual dating although I might be wrong. He never seemed to make the effort anyway in a way that a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
It's annoying me that I've never had a Bf. What should I do to remedy the situation?
Q. I have just turned 24 and its annoying me that i have never had a boyfriend i get told nice things about my looks and people are shocked i dont have a boyfriend, i just dont get it. I am shy but i thought if a guy liked you he would make a point...
A. 22 October 2012: Well as you say yourself you are shy so this might actually stop guys from getting to know you as they are unsure about how to approach you. Maybe you need to take some time and gain self confidence and assurance. Guys usually are attracted to girls ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I need to understand if his sexual fetishes are OK or not? One example: He likes me to dress as a school girl when we have sex.
Q. To give you a bit of background I'm not very sexually experienced. I've slept with two people in long-term relationships before my current partner and he is my third sexual partner (he is 23). In both my previous relationships, I had passionate, ...
A. 22 October 2012: Personally I don't think that it is wrong, many people have fantasies or fetishes that they like to experience with there partner and I think this one is quite a popular one. However you need to remember that you are an equal partner in this ... (read in full...)
I know I get jealous but is it normal for a man to keep so many online pictures of women he has known or knows?
Q. So my fiance of 10 months now is wonderful. My only concern is that he has a thing for having girl friends on his xbox and facebook. I know I should trust him and I do its just I dont know if this is normal. He doesn't flirt with them really b...
A. 22 October 2012: I don't think anybody is wrong here. But the thing is even though you are both in a relationship it does not mean that he cannot have other friends who are girls. If you are in a secure and trusting relationship then these things should not matter. ... (read in full...)
She's single now. How do I start a conversation with her that could hopefully turn into a date?
Q. hi everyone I was at college for a year and i liked a girl in my class for a while but i was a little shy and barely spoke to her but we spoke a little about little things etc. I couldn't ask her out as she had a boyfriend. since then a...
A. 19 October 2012: Well you have her on facebook so that is a good start. Whenever you are both on line then just write to her and ask her how she is, get to know her over the internet again. Just ask questions about her and show her that you are interested. Then ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 14 October 2012: If I am honest with you it really is hard to tell where this girl is coming from. I suggest you take things slow this time though, go out on a few dates and have a laugh, enjoy each others company and see if it kicks off this time. Maybe she has ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 4 October 2012: You are letting this eat away at you and get to you. Yes I think it is a good idea that you get closure on this. It is rude of her to just ignore you when you ask her out, and the same goes for the concert. To me that shows totally lack off respect ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up, or did she just use me?
Q. So, there is (or rather, was) this girl with whom I am platonically infatuated with whom I had a previous rapport with (i had actually asked her out once before with disastrous results) whom I asked out on a date about a year or so ago...after a ...
A. 23 August 2012: I think you are both to blame hear really, nobody is in the right or the wrong. You might not have felt like you where possessive but she sounds like she is a quite reserved girl who likes to take things slow, I think you wanted things to move to ... (read in full...)
I finally left! Why doesn't it feel better?
Q. i recently left the father of my two children i had enough of all the misstreatment. he verbaly humiliated me, ocacionally pushed me around. he is very weird somedays he treats me really good but other days he doesnt stop telling me he hates me ...
A. 18 October 2010: Go and visit your doctor and he will get you some medical help with some group or councellor. He has torn your self confidence apart and ripped you shred by shred you need to get away from this man and cut all contact with him, change your number ... (read in full...)
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