This is my story of our relationship with NO love, only hate but no divorce/separation ? WHAT can I do?
Q. She doesn't love her husband anymore. She has two children in their early teens. Children at that age, sense that something is wrong. Their mother knows that and won't agree to separation and/or divorce as it may affect the children, emotionally,...
A. 23 March 2013: It sounds to me like the couple have just falling apart. Sometimes it happens that people just grow apart and the love they had for each other dies. That can happen in life and it is sad when it does. Staying together for the sake of children is the ... (read in full...)
Was our mutual friend hinting that my crush likes me back?
Q. So, there's this guy I like who is currently a year older than me and we both go to the same high school. In January, I started all the conversations online. We never have talked to each other that much in real life before. Starting in Fe...
A. 23 March 2013: Everything that you have wrote here sounds like good indications that there might be feelings there on his part as well. Really there is only one way to find out and that is to tell him you like him. If you are not ready to do that now then flirt ... (read in full...)
Why would my man choose to have fake Facebook pages? He gets angry with me. I'm troubled by why he does this
Q. My husband and I just got married last year but we had a long relationship before that. We are expecting our first child and everything seems to be great. The only thing I just can’t understand about him is that he keeps having fake Facebook acc...
A. 23 March 2013: A good basis for any relationship is communication. You both need to be able to talk about things. If you are not able to do that then the relationship will not work the best that it can be. Therefore you need to talk to him about it and ask him why ... (read in full...)
This is a one sided love. How can I say her, my, friend that I love her?
Q. Modnote: two similar questions from the same poster combined. This Monday is last day of my school, and then I’m going to my village with my family. So just help me out that how can I say her, my friend that I love her, we are friends and I al...
A. 23 March 2013: Just be honest with her. If she is a friend then that is a bonus. Just say to her that you will miss her now that school is over and ask if she wants to keep in contact over the holidays. Tell her you really like her and ask her would she like to be ... (read in full...)
Can my GF and I really get back together after this break?
Q. Hey everyone. My girldfriend of 9 months asked for space and time apart for a month. We had a great relationship for the first 6 months then some arguments and a fight happened. I apologized sincerely. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks. She conta...
A. 23 February 2013: Sure you can if it is what you both want. You just need to use this time to learn your mistakes and not repeat them, you need to be independent even when you are in a relationship. Give her space and time with her friends. You need to trust her and ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to make close friendships? I seem to be left out.
Q. I am 27, have never really had a close group of friends and it upsets me that that's the case. I've had friends over the years of course, but only ever one or two at a time and often they have been born out of convenience, ie we were the only 2 ...
A. 23 February 2013: Well there is obviously a reason that you drift apart so maybe you can look into that and see why or how that happens. Are you making enough effort with friends? When you meet someone do you make enough effort to get to know them and keep them as a ... (read in full...)
Confused cousin: she's giving me mixed signals.
Q. My cousin makes me feel alot confused as she is giving me mixed signals. These range from prolonged eye contact when talking ( 3mins), preening, side glances when I'm not aware and etc. She even friend requested me on facebook and well that's a ...
A. 23 February 2013: It is simple, if you see a problem with her then sort it out, talk to her and ask her what is up with her, there is a lack off communication here, and it could be that you are reading to much in to things. Clear it up with her and ask her is there a ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he wants me to get pregnant or not. But why is he so obsessed about me being pregnant, or not?
Q. Hi I have a boyfriend for six months we have been sexually active most of it. I have done a few pregnancy tests but all negative that's fine because we talked and not one of us is ready for a baby.. I am using the injection for 6 months now...fee...
A. 8 February 2013: You need to talk to him about this. Tell him how his behaviour is making you feel and ask him to stop. You say you gained weight so this might make him think that you are pregnant. Explain to him the weight gain and if it is bothering you then try ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my girlfriend, who is so jealous of the relationship I have with a sweet guy?
Q. My girl friend as been so jealous about my relationship cause it going well for me. Her boyfriend is a close friend to my boyfriend, and they both work in a construction company and see most time at break, without knowing abt my friend jealousy...
A. 8 February 2013: Well to begin with she is not a friend. If this is how she behaves and treats you then she is not a friend. You need to sort this out. I think you need to arrange for you and your boyfriend to meet up with this girl and her boyfriend and sort it all ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips to help me "shine" at the interview day and secure this dream job?
Q. Hi! I have been given the opportunity to attend an interview day for my dream job and it is in the same city as this guy I like. I really really want this job but I seem to be a very anxious person and mess up interviews. The last interview d...
A. 8 February 2013: Firstly you are not alone in this. Majority of people struggle with interviews, the get nervous, over think everything and nothing comes out right. So you are no different to most people.
I think you need to begin by reminding yourself that you ... (read in full...)
How does a teacher ask out a single parent?
Q. I am a teacher in a primary school, and one of the single mothers has caught my attention for a long time, I do not teach her son and won’t be teaching him. She has a great personality what I like about her is that she talks to anyone and everyone; ...
A. 8 February 2013: Well its a good start that you won't be teaching her son, because this could be quite unprofessional. I can understand that you are shy and you look at this as a big task, but it does not need to be. The next time she talks to you, just make small ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like we are right for each other? Is it going to get better between us when I go home again in 9 months?
Q. I have trouble understanding where my long-term relationship is going and need some advice. I'll start from the beginning, but sorry in advance for the long tale. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years in one month. I was 17, he was ...
A. 8 February 2013: Hi yes it does make sense, you both got together when you where quite young. However living together and being together for so long you both know each other quite well at this stage I assume. Your sex drive has falling, which does usually happen in ... (read in full...)
Do you think this text was meant for some-one else?
Q. Do you think txt was meant for someone else? Jsut want to know if you think im being paranoid or is this dodgy, A guy I have been seeing for a year now has been away to a friends birthday for the weekend. He has sent me a message everyday while he's ...
A. 16 December 2012: Call him and talk to him see what he has to say. Is he actually your boyfriend or someone you are just seeing? Has he offered any kind of commitment? If not then really he has done nothing wrong if he is talking to other women, you say you have been ... (read in full...)
What's the best thing to do in light of what she is saying?
Q. Hey everyone my relationship with my girlfriend ended after a year and a half and now she tells me that she wants me back but the issue is that she says that she's stalling and that her feelings of love have not changed for me (she had a crush on ...
A. 16 December 2012: The best thing to do is for both of you to sit down and talk through everything, listen to what she has to say, ask her any questions you feel you need to know answers to and then you be honest with her. Communicating with each other about what you ... (read in full...)
Thinking about our previous encounters, could the co-worker I have a crush on feel the same?
Q. Hi so my situation is that I have a crush on a female co-worker. I really like her but not sure she feels the same, because our previous encounters with each other I'm not sure she's just being friendly or something else is there. The past have ...
A. 16 December 2012: Yes personally I think you are reading far to much in to this. There are no signs here at all that would suggest anything else here. However if you feel that you would like to date her then ask her would she like to grab a coffee sometime. However ... (read in full...)
My best friend knows I'm gay, doesn't like gays but likes me. He's my crush!
Q. I am in love with my straight friend He is an older married man that I have worked with for 13 years and we have become best friends, I am in my late 30s and he is about 20 years older than me but from how great of a guy he is and the fact that he...
A. 16 December 2012: He is married and he has made comments in the past. I think he probably knew you were gay but didn't want to believe it. It really is up to you what you do here. You either pain yourself by having this crush all the time and being around him or else ... (read in full...)
Confused & Broken. It's ruining my life that I need him so much.
Q. So I've liked this guy for .... 3 years. We used to have a "thing" and it just ended. When it did I was heartbroken and ever since then we've just been like best friends but lately he's been ignoring me like shamelessly tweeting and seeing his ...
A. 16 December 2012: Have you actually told him how you feel? You say he is a good friend, so you need to open up to him and be honest with him, tell him how you feel about him and ask him straight out does he feel the same. If not then you need to distance yourself ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the bad attitude they keep telling me I have?
Q. Dear cupids, its so hard for me to keep a relationship. Before I started dating I hated men because of my father and dating hasn't changed a lot especially when they ask for help like money sometimes. I feel they want to use me because I am from a ...
A. 16 December 2012: Some people simply can not change who they are or there personality. As for hating men well these are issues from your father, and you cannot judge all men by what he has done in his life. Easier said than done yes but it is something you need to ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have a lover. Can anyone help me understand the man's point of view on this? Why would be want to see me being pleased by another man?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have been together for 4 years. We recently got married and are very happy together. Before i met my husband i enjoyed my sexual freedom, meaning i had lots of experiences. He was also sexually very active before he m...
A. 16 December 2012: Personally I think as long as you are both comfortable with it and enjoying yourself then nothing else should matter. It is clear that this is a fantasy of your husbands and he will have his reasons. I guess he probably won't even be thinking of the ... (read in full...)
Ladies: questions about sex on the first date.
Q. I would like to know two quick things about women ************************************ 1) how often do women have sex on the first date, If you have had sex on the first date... 2) what does it take for you to have sex on the first date?...
A. 16 December 2012: Answer to your first question really depends on the girl and what she wants from the date. All girls are different and have all different standards. As for the second question, I don't think there is anything you can do to make a girl want to have ... (read in full...)
What will happen when I am no longer in my twenties? Will he break-up with me when I get old?
Q. Hi everyone, First off i want to thank you for taking a look at my question. I am a 22 year old senior in college, and my boyfriend recently turned 36. We have been dating for nearly one year. Recently we have been talking about getting marri...
A. 15 December 2012: You have issues and so does he. You are looking at older guys so that you feel worthy and younger than them, so you look good to them. He chases younger women as that is what he prefers. But there is alarm bells going off here. He has a track record ... (read in full...)
What do I do after breaking my ex's heart?
Q. I broke my ex's heart by completely neglecting her, not being there for her for two weeks, because I suspected she was seeing someone else. On top of that, by the end of the two weeks I sent her a completely unreasonable message where I was venting ...
A. 15 December 2012: It has been three months now and she is still ignoring you, I think that says a lot. I know you don't want to move on, but I am not sure if you have a choice here if she is refusing to even so much as listen to you. I guess it is a lesson to learn ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused with my crush. Does he like me or not?
Q. I have this really big crush on this guy for about a year. We belong to a music organization in our college and he gives me free violin lessons twice a week for about 4 months now. Just last night, I finally had the courage to tell him how i feel. ...
A. 15 December 2012: You plucked up enough courage to tell him you liked him, which I am sure took a lot of courage, so good for you. Now I think you need to take the next step, ask him would he like to go out on a date with you or if he just wants to leave it as ... (read in full...)
How can I keep up from arguing?
Q. Hello, I meet my bf 6 months ago and we started off strong and fast, but then 3 months ago (3months into a relationship) the honey moon phase was over due to an incident with an ex of his that popped our buble of happiness in a big way. And so the ...
A. 14 December 2012: I think you know yourself there is no point in this relationship any more. It is clear he broke your trust and now you are insecure, which has lead to arguments. He might not want the relationship to end but I think he has stopped trying now and ... (read in full...)
How do I keep from being angry when she gives attention to our friend?
Q. The relationship I am currently in is going great, things are fine, but I am starting to feel really possesive over her and get really jealous sometimes because of all the attention she gives to one of our friends, I don't want to ruin this so I ...
A. 14 December 2012: Are you insecure within yourself? It is a well knowing fact that once someone gets possessive in a relationship they lose there partner. At the end of the day if the attention she is giving your friend is purely friendship only then that is ... (read in full...)
LDR but I want to have sex! What do I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend,i truly love him and he luvs me too,we are both virgins and we're planing to spend our life together...the problem is that we are in a long distant relation,recently i started feeling very horny,cant keep ma mind off sex,i really ...
A. 14 December 2012: Well first off taking away the aspect of sex lets have a look at your relationship. Have you both made plans on when in the future you both will be together? Have you spend decent amount of time together as a couple, and how often do you both see ... (read in full...)
Could his actions be saying he is into me?
Q. Is he into me? This man in general does come across as a grumpy so and so but he is lovely! He usually throws things at me, i sit two desks in front of him. Or he purposely trys to scare me, problem being i will smack his arm when he does so. ...
A. 14 December 2012: All the right signals are there anyway. I would be confident that he is flirting with you. He is trying to grab your attention and he likes to tease you and get a reaction, it is all light hearted fun between you both which really is a step in the ... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me, but he hasn't used my number.?
Q. There is a guy at work . There's a guy at work, I emailed him my number on pretence of work , we usually have a hot and cold relationship. He has his other colleagues numbers and talks to them. But hasn't called or texted me with my numbe...
A. 14 December 2012: Well I guess he feels uncomfortable contacting you outside of work, he may have plenty of reasons for this. Try not to take it personally. I guess he just wants to keep his work life and personal life separate. It could also be a case that he feels ... (read in full...)
First date and he wants to kiss me. Not sure how I feel about it?
Q. am 17 and on saturday am going to my first ever date this guy is older than me his 22 and we going to the cinema. he wants to kiss me and I have never kissed a guy before (any advice will be appreciated) I dont know what to do especially with ...
A. 14 December 2012: Everybody is scared when it comes to there first kiss, but believe me you will do what comes naturally to you. However do not feel like you have to kiss him just because he wants to. If you are not comfortable or if you do not find him attractive ... (read in full...)
Why does your partners use of pornography bother you?
Q. Why does your partner's use of porn bother you? My reason is because they are getting off on someone that isn't me, I have noticed alot of other women saying it is disgusting and degrading that doesn't bother me as much as the fact it is a woman ...
A. 14 December 2012: I guess everybody is different and thinks differently, there are plenty of couples out there who enjoy watching it together or it does not bother them in the slightest that there partner watches it because they know at the end of the day that it is ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend be the only thing I lose if I end this relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years, and because of this, most of my closest friends are also his closest friends. For the first few months of our relationship, my feelings for him were very intense, and I actually l...
A. 14 December 2012: It is clear to see that you do not want to be in this relationship, the kindest thing to do is to end things so your boyfriend can move forward and find someone who gives him there heart. Feelings change and people grow apart, there is no point ... (read in full...)
Should I just start talking to him?
Q. Hi guys, basically I am 16, 17 in 24 days (i'm not counting down or anything haha) and there's this guy that i met in about january last year who is from the school opposite mine. We had a bit of a thing going on, nothing happened between us, just ...
A. 13 December 2012: He will more than likely be curious as to why you have just messaged him out of the blue, but there is no harm in sending him a message to say hello and ask him how he has been. If he asks why you are sending him a message now then just be honest ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that it mentally kills me she has had sex with someone else?
Q. Long story short, many years ago my wife and I had some problems that caused us to be seperated for about six weeks. In that time she moved in with another man, then we got back together. Is it normal that it mentally kills me she has had sex ...
A. 9 December 2012: Yes I believe in your case it is perfectly normal to feel the way that you do. If she went out and had a one night stand while you where broken up it would be different to actually moving in with a guy when you where only split up for 6 weeks. You ... (read in full...)
How do I create a good impression when I meet family of my boyfriend next week?
Q. OKAY Development: my bf's brother invited me round next week after 5 months and I want to make a good impression and look good. Do you have any amazing tips other than 'being myself' he is still very embarrassed and I am terrified. My bf's b...
A. 9 December 2012: Well first off what exactly is your boyfriend embarrassed off? Any worries you have you need to talk to him about it. Am sure it will all be okay, it is completely normal to feel nervous about meeting the family, but the nerves will soon settle once ... (read in full...)
He was so happy about the baby. But will he still be there for me now that he's moved on? I can't let go of him.
Q. hi I'm new in this thing. Five months pregnant, my bf of 5years just broke up with me. When this happened I found some msgs in his phone to another gal telling her he wants to sleep with her, I confronted him about it he admitted it. And I apologis...
A. 9 December 2012: This is such a terrible situation for you to be in I am so sorry. But he has made up his mind and you need to accept that. It makes it so much more harder for you because you are pregnant and probably vulnerable but you need to stay strong for your ... (read in full...)
I'm a straight guy with a fetish. Can this fetish be satisfied? And if not, then how can I move on from this fetish?
Q. I am a 26 year old mostly straight male. Ever since I was in my early teens, I have been extremely aroused at the idea of hanging with a buddy and us both being shirtless with our arms around each other. At times when I've been able to do this, wh...
A. 9 December 2012: You sound like a very mature and switched on young man. You are more than likely right, you never had a close male bond growing up so you are no doubt mixing it up in your head that this closeness with a guy satisfies you and you are mixing it up ... (read in full...)
Is he just bored and curious that he's looking up all these women on Facebook? Or should I be concerned? I'm losing trust in him.
Q. I have an issue I'm needing help with. I've recently found out that my husband has been looking up his ex wife, my ex best friend and several (even our next door neighbor's daughter who used to work at hooters) other chicks on Facebook to the exte...
A. 9 December 2012: You are right it is no way to live! Have you spoke to him about this? Told him how you feel? I cannot tell you if he is being unfaithful or not but it is obvious you do not have much trust in him so I really don't see this marriage surviving! ... (read in full...)
How can I determine if he is just a really nice guy, or is he also interested in me?
Q. I am 19 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I've never been kissed, asked out, or even had anybody hold my hand. I think this is because I use to give off an aura that I wasn't approachable, but that isn't the case anymore. I really ...
A. 9 December 2012: Communication is key here, if you do not want to tell him straight out that you like him then you need to try and show him in other ways. Maybe invite him over to watch a film just you and him to show him that you are interested in spending time ... (read in full...)
Her Fiance was caught cheating. How can I help her see him more clearly and help her heal from her blinded love?
Q. how can i convince my friend that her to-be-husband is not worth keeping? all her family have had many doubts before with no hard evidence, but now he has been caught with a women in their village. Relatives saw them and told her. Yet she wouldn...
A. 9 December 2012: My guess is that she knows deep down that it is the truth but she just does not want to believe it. I understand that you want to help her and you do not want to see her make a huge mistake but am afraid there is nothing you can say or do to make ... (read in full...)
LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 8 December 2012: I am sorry that you got yourself caught up in this for so long. That is the thing about the internet you just don't know someone until you actually spend genuine time with them. My guess is that she has confidence issues by the way she looks so she ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he's wanting to date, or just hang out as friends.
Q. There's this guy that I work with that I think likes me, we're supposed to be hanging out for the second time next week and I don't know if it's a date or just friends hanging out. He doesn't work in the same area as I do, so he'd be relatively easy ...
A. 8 December 2012: I think it is pretty clear that he likes you, so the question is do you like him? If you don't then don't go out with him because he will feel like you are leading him on, but if you think that you could date him and grow to like him then go for it ... (read in full...)
Should I just start talking to him?
Q. Hi guys, basically I am 16, 17 in 24 days (i'm not counting down or anything haha) and there's this guy that i met in about january last year who is from the school opposite mine. We had a bit of a thing going on, nothing happened between us, just ...
A. 5 December 2012: I guess you lack some confidence and self esteem, it is quite normal to get scared when someone tells you they like you and you are not sure what to do or say. My guess is you have never experienced something like this, so you are unsure how to act. ... (read in full...)
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