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Some advice on circumsision please

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Question - (12 January 2018) 10 Answers - (Newest, 14 January 2018)
A male age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm nearly 26 years old and uncircumcised. In my country, only a certain religious group practice this. But now I hear it can be done as a medical procedure and it is beneficial for hygeine and is actually recommended by WHO. Am I too old to do it now? Also what type of doctor would I need to see to get this procedure done?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2018):

I was circumsised at 19 years old, I am now 40. I was circumsised for medical reasons- there was scar tissue developing on my foreskin which meant it could not be pulled back once my penis was erect. This made sex very difficult and painful for me and doctors predicted the problem would get worse. So, at my first consultation, the doctors said 'we'll just circumsise-' it was an easy solution to a potentially big problem.

From that, I deduced that circumsision is a common male operation- a surgery that is quick and simple to perform with minimal risk, during surgery, for which you are put under general anaesthetic. However, I can also say that the problem I had was big enough to consider circumsision as the default solution. If it was a lesser health issue, doctors would have considered other solutions.

I would say that overall I prefer not having a foreskin. Sex is better in many ways: I last longer, for example. The sensation is different, but that comes with it's problems. The head of my penis is exposed so is continually stimulated and is now less sensitive- which is why I last longer. The downside is that sometimes I need much more stimulation from my poor wife! Other problems include the fact that the glans is permanantly exposed, I've had other medical issues, such as thrush, on more than one occasion.

The real thing to consider is the aftermath of the operation. Now, don't get me wrong, if you need to go under the knife because health problems require it, you should take a deep breath and do it. But not much can prepare you for what the little fella looks like the next day. Big stitches where the cut has been made, bruising, bleeding. The mesh to keep the wound closed looks... disturbing. And the first morning wood you encounter (yes, it still happens when it's stitched and bandaged up) is so painful and bleeding will happen.

Now, before anyone feels like they need to retort with a 'I went through worse' I'm not claiming any superiority in pain and gore down there. When it's a neccesary operation, you have to go through it. But, to choose to do it at an adult age is a bit, pointless. Whatever the health claims are to being circumsized, there are hygiene procedures you can do instead of a trip to the hospital.

So, as someone who HAD to have the operation at an adult age, I offer the following advice: if it ain't broke, don't try to fix it.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (13 January 2018):

Tisha-1 agony auntI looked on the WHO website which does seem to be promoting circumcision as a protection against HIV transmission, in countries in Africa. http://www.who.int/hiv/topics/malecircumcision/en/

Do you have a doctor now?

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (13 January 2018):

There is lots on the internet about this. Google "circumcision vs uncircumcised adult" and you'll get 258,000 links. Several years ago the issue was well publicized and debated, and most experts were against it. A very important issue here - not to be overlooked - is your age. I think this is a much more problematic procedure than if done as an infant. But Google this topic and make sure you are very highly informed before making a decision to do this. Personally, I would NOT have this done at your age...absolutely, positively NO WAY. That said, I did get clipped when I was an infant.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (12 January 2018):

There is no health or hygiene reason for circumcision. It is nothing but mutilating male genitals, usually to appease someone’s imaginary friend in the sky.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2018):

I was circumcised when I was around 5-6 yrs old as a religious requirement so I can't tell whether it is better circumcised or not. With today's anesthetics and antibiotics the operation can be done safely and w/o undue pain. The pain is only when you pee and some of the urine touch the wound when it is still tender. My advice though is make sure that the surgeon knows how to perform it so he doesn't cut to much or too little of the skin. As from the point of view of hygiene you know that in some parts of the world water is used to clean after the big toilet and in some parts tissues are used. Now which one is more hygienic? People who use water can not tolerate cleaning with tissues and vice versa.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (12 January 2018):

chigirl agony auntIt is not beneficial for hygiene. Youve lived with foreskin all these years now. So far, have you had any troubles because of it? No? Then dont do it. Removing foreskin will make you lose sensitivity and any operation includes a risk of infection or scarring. Just dont it when not necesarry.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (12 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntMedically speaking there is ABSOLUTELY no need for circumcision AT ALL. Some whose to do it for religious reasons and that is THEIR choice.

It is NOT more hygienic. The way to keep good groin hygiene is to KEEP it clean - foreskin or not.

There are WAY more reasons NOT to do then there is VALID reasons to do it.

https://thedailybanter.com/2013/06/the-cruelest-cut-of-all-why-male-circumcision-is-wrong/

Read that article and decide if you still want to do that to your penis.

If you still want to mutilate yourself, well it's your body - contact your doctor and make an appointment.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2018):

I may not have a penis but what I do know is your not too old. My partner had his circumcision done around the same age as you. His choice was for hygiene. Thing is he was in a whole lot of hellish pain afterwards. It was so swollen and leaked a few big blood clots. He was a pretty tough guy and he shed tears. Once it was on the mend he said unless it was for a medical reason, he wouldn't recommend it. If you were serious about it he just went to his normal GP and was referred on to a surgeon. Not that you asked in your post about this but If I may offer my personal opinion, when it comes to dating/relationships, which is better circumcised/ uncircumcised ? Who cares, its your penis. It would be like asking a female to cut of her labia- Um no thanks....

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A male reader, Allumeuse United Kingdom +, writes (12 January 2018):

It is really not necessary. You should only do it if you medically require it, for instance if it hurts when you become erect.

There is no medical reason to have it done and only might be more hygienic if you have no access to running water. The best method to keep a body part clean is to clean it not cut it off.

Your body has evolved perfectly to perform its function, there is no need for a surgical interventon.

The origins of circumcision were religious and puritanical, designed to show a physical difference between believers and non believers and to discourage masturbation amongst men. Don't fall for the hygiene myth- just clean beneath your foreskin!

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A male reader, Allumeuse United Kingdom +, writes (12 January 2018):

It is really not necessary. You should only do it if you medically require it, for instance if it hurts when you become erect.

There is no medical reason to have it done and only might be more hygienic if you have no access to running water. The best method to keep a body part clean is to clean it not cut it off.

Your body has evolved perfectly to perform its function, there is no need for a surgical interventon.

The origins of circumsion were religious and puritanical, designed to show a physical difference between believers and non believers and to discourage masturbation amongst men. Don't fall for the hygiene myth- just clean beneath your foreskin!

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