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Love Shouldn’t Hurt: Signs of Abusive Behaviour

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I'm pregnant and do not want children. Do I abort it or put it up for adoption?

Q. My birthday was two days ago, and for my present I found out that I am pregnant. For many people this would be fabulous news! And I really do want children, however due to finances, we really cannot afford to have a baby just yet. We were using ...

A. 12 February 2009: Please see another posting today http://www.dearcupid.org/question/pros---cons-for-adoption--.html (Pros and Cons of adoption) Cat... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and do not want children. Do I abort it or put it up for adoption?

A. 12 February 2009: Adoption please. I was adopted. My birth parents were poor and could not raise another child, so they gave me up. I still feel so in awe over them for giving me up, because it must have been very hard for them. And I now feel I am most fortunate to ... (read in full...)

Friday the 13th message to ex?

Q. Hi All Ok tomorrow is Friday the 13th, I want to know...should I send my ex the following SMS: Happy Friday the 13th...Wishing you all the misfortunes in the world!! Love -(my name)...

A. 12 February 2009: Absolutely! Follow Uncle Phil's advice. Then, your ex will show up at your doorstep and greets you with "Guess what? Your wishes have come true for me!" LOL Cat ... (read in full...)

Do you divorce your spouse when you're still in love with him?

Q. My husband and I are going through a divorce after being together for 15 years. We have a beautiful little boy that means the world to us but our relationship has been an uphill battle from the start. I've been the bread winner for the family i...

A. 12 February 2009: I'd ask him a simple question, really: "if you can be good, why be deliberately bad to me?" Love equals respect, and it is a two street. Sounds like your man knows he can be good, but it would also appear that he knows he can get away being bad ... (read in full...)

Is there any way possible I can make this work again with my wife?

Q. I have been in a relationship with my wife now for 22 years. For 13 of the years we have been married. We are both 36 years old and we meet at school. My wife and I have 3 children. 9, 7 and 3. For the past 5 years I have treated my wife badly. I ...

A. 10 February 2009: Just a suggestion: would renewing your vows work?... possibly this time with all the right words (and you mean every single word!) in front of your closest family members and friends. Sometimes knowing that you have all these people that deeply care ... (read in full...)

Sex with her is rather messy..is there a way to approach this with her?

Q. I have recently started seeing this great girl, the relationship is going well and the sex is great. However, there is one thing that I feel a little awkward talking to her about. She is fortunate in that she can orgasm very easily, literall...

A. 8 February 2009: just a thought to throw in the bucket ... (pun not intended) will you be re-using the towel for the next day's sex? will you keep a few towels in the dirty laundry basket until you accumulate enough dirty towels for a load of wash? conser... (read in full...)

I feel like such an outsider. How can I get past this?

Q. Ive been feeling very down lately. Ive come to realise that in my life in every aspect of it I am an outsider. And Ive lived this way for years and now I dont like it. I will start with work. I work in an office of 6 other women of all different...

A. 6 February 2009: First things first: I think you need to learn to embrace yourself as yourself. I have lots of friends from various "circles" : films, photography, doctors, engineers, enterprenuers, housewives, etc etc. Sometimes I get invited to their homes or ... (read in full...)

My daugher does not like my wife (her stepmother)

Q. My daughter doesn't like my wife. How can this be? My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We're in our early 50's and we're very happy together. I was married to my first wife for 13 years and that ended 12 years ago. There are no step-chil...

A. 6 February 2009: I am not a mother, and though my childhood situation was different than your daughters, I'd like to share a wonderful childhood/teenage memory with you. I was "adopted" as a baby (from a poor relative who was financially disadvataged) though n... (read in full...)

DearCupid had over one million people visit the site in January!

Q. I have just peeped at our visitor figures for January 2009, the month just gone, and I'm excited to see that DearCupid passed 1,000,000 (yes, one MILLION!) unique visitors/month for the first time. According to Google Analytics we had 1,040,812 ...

A. 6 February 2009: Congratulations on surpassing your own expectations, Doctor Cupid :-) To a very "private" person like myself ... i.e.i who chooses not "pour my heart out" nor "confide in" even with close friends on personal issues, but instead, who looks to re... (read in full...)

Is he an abuser? Am I? (verbal abuse that is). Help!

Q. Help! Did I make a mistake in ending our relationship? If I did, how should I rectify the situation? I read the link on warning signs of dating a loser (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html), and thought that...

A. 21 January 2009: To PunkyPippi Thank you for your brief comment. Did some turning and churning :-( and now have decided that despite his being a wonderful person 95% of the time, I noticed that he did not desist hurling disrespectul words since he does not real... (read in full...)

Is he an abuser? Am I? (verbal abuse that is). Help!

A. 20 January 2009: Thanks! Good to have both male and female comments for my posting. To Django. I am a rather quiet person, but very witty and funny with the right people (in small dinner table kind of party I am often the one that throws an off the wall topi... (read in full...)