Is my sex problems wiuth curent boyfriend due to an abusive ex?
Q. I don't understand what is going on with my body. My boyfriend insists that it is him, I keep telling him that it isn't him. When I was with my ex-husband he wanted me to have sex with him every night or he wouldn't let me go to sleep until he got ...
A. 25 April 2008: I doubt anything is wrong with your body.
Sounds like post traumatic stress from years of sexual abuse by your ex husband. You may benefit from therapy of some sort...really letting out all of your emotions from the marriage.
I am sure you... (read in full...)
I need to feel safe in a relationship so I need help on this!! PLEASE...
Q. how to even ask, okay here goes well im engaged underage and in love with my boyfriend on the side which is more than my long distant fiance. im 17 years old my fiance is 21 which knows im 17 then my boyfriend is 35 and thinks im 20 i...
A. 9 April 2008: Allright..since im a guy I will give you two opinions!
1. My friend Erika (name changed)has these types of relationships and is now 20, always giving out false ages to her boyfriends, but totally rad girl, just lots of drama. After last summer s... (read in full...)
Should I bust out the question and ask her out or take it slow and see if we vibe better?
Q. Theres a girl who I am totally attracted to. We just met a few days ago but we seem to have so many things in common: our hobbies, books, movies, lifestyles etc. Last night after we saw a concert I asked her if we could kiss...we did for awhile i...
A. 8 April 2008: Thanks for the help.
I asked her out and for whatever reason, I think it backfired. She said she would answer later that evening, and when she called me back that night, she avoided the subject and said she couldnt hang out that night because ... (read in full...)
When you love somebody, do you set them free or never leave them?
Q. Is it true, if you love somebody, you set them free? or is it if you love somebody you never leave?...
A. 5 April 2008: The actual truth is: If you love somebody, you give them space and freedom and respect more so than you impose your will upon them in the name of "love"... (read in full...)
We had a one time passionate kiss. If I see him again should I pursue him or forget it?
Q. About a week and a half ago I was at a conference, followed by a pretty posh dinner followed with a pretty good afterparty. All the way through the conference, I kept making eye contact with a guy, we'll call him James. Kept catching him looking ...
A. 13 December 2007: Sounds like a scene from a movie!
In the movies, at this point, the lady, You, would probably play a bit hard to get next time you see him, but still flirtatious in your smart, wicked way. That way, the passion will be just as intense next tim... (read in full...)
My ex seems to expect me to simply be her friend after all the hurt she's caused me... But her Father died today. Now I have the chance to be a friend, but I'm worried that I may hurt myself. What can I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I posted a question earlier today, but there has been a serious and tragic twist since this morning. My girlfriend broke up with me almost 6 months ago after she decided our long distance (240 miles) relationship was too much to bear...
A. 9 December 2007: Heres my only advice and you may not like it:
Know that if you comfort her as a friend, you are becoming extremely vulnerable again and if it doesnt work out in your favor again...think of all the heartbreak you will go through again.
BUT..I ... (read in full...)
My girls wants a threesome!
Q. My girlfriend wants us to have a threesome with another woman and I'm not sure if I want to. I think it would be fun, but I'm quite a jealous person when it comes to her, and I think I might even get jealous of her with another woman. She really ...
A. 6 December 2007: I dont think you should compromise your values to make her happy. If you think it would add too much drama, possibly hurt you seeing her with another girl, then that is a valid feeling. I use to listen to alot of loveline with Dr Drew and Adam ... (read in full...)
I messed around all night - could I be pregnant?
Q. i am a college student and one night a little over a month ago, when i got beack to my dorm room, my roommate had some of her friends over, there wsa this really hot guy and we messed around all night and we were drinking too...but im worried about ...
A. 6 December 2007: I think you need to figure out as soon as possible if you were raped. You seem to be hinting to us that you think you might have been raped. You should probably go to a planned parenthood type place and pick up a free pregnancy test, and talk to a ... (read in full...)
I've got two babies, and I'm married to an alcoholic, how can I escape this mess?
Q. I have been married for just about three years, and they have been the worst years of my life. My husband is an alcoholic, and very verbally and emotionally abusive. He gets drunk EVERY day. He drinks in the shower, any where he can. I find ...
A. 26 November 2007: Cool so you recognize a problem and want to change...that means your healthy and still alive and still capable of having a HAPPY life. Yes its true, if you change your current situation, your life will become happier and better each day. The change ... (read in full...)
How did she get over me so quickly??
Q. My ex and I broke up three weeks ago. She started university in Sept and became more and more distant. I got insecure which pushed her away. She said when we split that she didn't want to lose me completely and that she still loved me. We still ...
A. 25 November 2007: Yo man im going through the EXACT same thing with my g/f right now.
I went away to school and she stayed behind, but she still seems so happy and like she doesnt miss me at all. I on the other hand, am super bummed and suffer every day.
But,... (read in full...)
I'm a married man but became utterly obsessed with a young co-worker. We've been friends for a while but I just can't stop thinking that I'm destined to be with her
Q. Hi, I am a married male with children, and I love my wife very much. I hired this girl (who has a boyfriend) who was almost 20 years younger than me for a 1 year term. She is extremely sociable, and has a good relationship with almost everyone she ...
A. 25 November 2007: Has the girl given you any signs she is interested in you? It seems your imagination might be making you feel she likes you, when in reality she just doesnt know how to deal with an older man developing an obsession for her in a work environment. O... (read in full...)
How can I make the day after we make love a romantic one?
Q. I want to plan a romantic day for my boyfriend to follow after the night we first make love. I could use your advice. After waking up next to him in the morning how can I suggest taking a shower together and making breakfast together in the nude? Sh...
A. 25 November 2007: Do you guys already live together? Making breakfast in the nude might be kinda weird for him...would be for me :) Showers are fun though....have sex in the shower!! As far as activities the next day? How bout something athletic to get the sexu... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that I'm going to lose my first real relationship because I'm so shy
Q. My relationship of about 4 months is probably about to end, but the thing is that i believe its all down to my massive shyness problem. Due to this problem, this has been my first real relationship, however recently she said that it "doesnt feel ...
A. 25 November 2007: No worries bro. Heres your options: Be more assertive and tell this girl how much you like her! Take control of your reality and just be scared and go tell her whats up. Or just let it fade away and lose the girl you still obviously like. ... (read in full...)
I've nowhere to go or have anyone to turn to. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I am 22 and I have a 16 month old baby. I am with my baby's father almost 3 years. I love him so much. But he is always leaving me home with the baby and going out and partying and drinking all the time. That is not the kind of ...
A. 16 November 2007: The guy must listen to you and work with you or else how will you be able to effectively raise your child? You must be strong and be reasonable with your expectations for what you need him to do as a parent. If he decides to not be a reasonable ... (read in full...)
How I can overcome jealousy/envy? How can I stop comparing my life to other people's?
Q. hi people! I know this is a common question on here, I just wanted to know how I can overcome jealousy?its a horrible feeling n its effecting my life..I also have a problem with comparing my life to others n finding how much more better their life ...
A. 16 November 2007: Hey First know that these feelings are normal and MANY other people experience this type of feeling on and off throughout their lives. I struggle with it personally very much. What helps me when I start comparing myself to others is to... (read in full...)
Give me some perspectives on 'what love really is'?
Q. I would like people to explain to me what they think love is, how they feel when they are in love, what they think love is...? How different is love from when you were together 6 months to 6 years to 60 years? I would just be interested in pe...
A. 6 November 2007: I think Love is more of its own entity....it comes and goes and there is nothing we can do about it. If we try to control love, it wont be love anymore. Love is completely giving regardless of return...and it has no expectations. Love celebrates ... (read in full...)
I had a same sex dream, I loved it but its against my morals, is this wrong?
Q. I am 100% straight female, but last night I had a disturbing dream...I was about to go girl-on-girl in my room in my bed! And I was actually turned on by it which was the weird thing. My beliefs teach me that homosexuality is wrong and I would never ...
A. 4 November 2007: Everyone has these dreams...its the brain playing out subconsious ideas and its healthy...maybe now you will have a great empathy and tolerance to homsexuals right? Not a bad thing!!... (read in full...)
Fear and Jealousy of losing my girlfriend during "open" stage of our relationship.
Q. Hey everyone! Im 23 male..I appreciate all you people who answer questions on this site...its soo great to be able to collaborate on this crazy game of love and life!! I am in an open relationship right now with a girl I absolutely adore...
A. 3 November 2007: It was her idea to have the open relationship
I feel like if we didnt have this, we would have nothing at all, and I think she is too great of a person to slip out of my life...i guess i am afraid of losing her...
I know there cant be fear in ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was unfaithful, what should I do?
Q. Hi I'm 19 and I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years. We took a gap year round the world together for 5 months having the best moments of our life. We hardly fight, and we have loved each other so much in the last 2 years, and I never would have...
A. 3 November 2007: I disagree with the above poster!
I think she expressed her fear of you finding someone better and it was genuine fear. She was insecure with the fact that she might lose you. Because of this insecurity, she had a moment of weakness and cheated ... (read in full...)
For the guys. Would you be bothered with body acne
Q. Hi, this question is primarily for guys. I have a pretty good body, slim, and I'm not self conscious about my body when I'm clothed. The thing is that I have a weird form of acne that takes literally years to heal and because of it I have little ...
A. 16 October 2007: Im a guy and i say find a guy that doesnt care about it....obviously if you exude confidence while clothed...hes going to fall for you. If you think things will start getting sexual in the near future, then its time to casually slip in the fact that ... (read in full...)
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