Opinion on a girl who has made out with 13 guys before age 18?
Q. Guys, in complete an utter honesty. If you were seeing an 18 year old girl and she told you she's got with (kissed) about 13 guys, none of whom she was in a relationship with. What would your opinion on her be? And would you want her to tell you ...
A. 25 July 2011: No-one's business but that of the girl herself- if she's attactive enough that lots of guys want to kiss her, and responsive enough to find kissing back enjoyable, let her get on with it.... (read in full...)
Qeustions for the guys ...do you prefer bigger women ?
Q. Qeustion for the men. What do you think about bigger women ? Would you ever date one, or do you prefer smaller women, do you find bigger women attractive or do find slim women more attractive ? I ask this because well im trying to start dating and ...
A. 24 July 2011: At 13-15 your body is still changing, and probably for the better. As I progressed from junior high to high school, it was interesting to see the flowering of two slightly overweight/formless girls who'd been in my classes from grade 7 onward when ... (read in full...)
I really want my daughter to be with her ex...how can I get over my obsession with reuniting them?
Q. This is a weird problem that I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone I know about. My daughter dated this guy for a year and a half. I was positive they were going to get married, he was perfect for her. Because she was only a sophmore at ...
A. 24 July 2011: It's perfectly understandable that you picture your daughter marrying a nice young man, and grandchildren coming along to complete the scenario. It's a lovely way to enjoy your maturer years, feeling that you've raised your daughter with sufficient ... (read in full...)
I'm not fully aroused during intercourse, is there something wrong with me?
Q. HELP! I'm getting really close to a fantastic girl, we really like eachother but there's a problem.... I'm not confident... I've been sexually active for a while now but have Only had full sexual intercourse twice with 2 different girls......
A. 22 July 2011: I'll not comment on underage sex here, since it's pointless to bolt the barn door when the horse has already escaped, but instead will simply try to help with our problem. It simply might be a question of your not having completely finished puberty ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my friends who delve too much into my personal life?
Q. I have a friend of mine that I can talk to anything about, but I can't stand talking to him about my sexual past with women. Whether it be from a simple kiss, to sleeping with someone. He asks more questions and gets into detail and kind of has a ...
A. 19 July 2011: Classic example of a guy who isn't getting any and has to rely on vicarious thrills from friends.
When I was 17 my equally 'unlaid' friend and I would go into great detail with one another (just not mentioning any names for chivalry's sake) on... (read in full...)
Trapped in a sexless marriage for almost 20 years, wife won't have sex and won't say why she doesn't want to. Should I leave?
Q. I have been with my wife for almost 20 years now. We have had a sexless marriage for most of that time. We were arguing about it even just 1 year into the relationship. It's not that we never, ever have sex, but we go years in-between having i...
A. 19 July 2011: Don't bother to even try any longer- this business of 'I know why I'm not sleeping with you but I'm not gonna tell you' is beyond childish. You've given it your very best shot (20 years!!!)- let her go refrigerate some other poor b*st*rd's bed, ... (read in full...)
I'm inexperienced sexually compared to my wife. How can I know if I'm satisfying her?
Q. I recently got married, and I don't have a lot of sexual experience for my age (early 30s). Although my wife has quite a bit of experience sexually, we didn't have sex before marriage because she decided awhile back to abstain until marriage. Due ...
A. 18 July 2011: Have you ever considered that your wife carefully noted the best qualities of all her past relationships and feels lucky that she chose you because only you embodied all of them?
Now relax!... (read in full...)
Some questions on sex in the shower and why can't I orgasm?
Q. Hiya All, I have some questions on sex. 1) I've heard some women physically can't orgasm. Is there any way to know if you can't climax? I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for 8months now and he knows my body and what i like better than...
A. 18 July 2011: I'll allow others to comment in more detail, but I think your main problem's just a question of learning to relax, since you are quite young and everything seems so new. No matter what the romance novels and porn films suggest, sex is like learning ... (read in full...)
Husband of 17 years left last week, already wants our kids to meet his girlfriend!
Q. My husband of 17 years left me last week and the children (aged 12 and 14) were naturally upset. Well me too, but this question is about them, not me. He has moved in with another woman, who he apparently met in the pub about 2 months ago - she...
A. 18 July 2011: Apparently love/lust releases certain chemicals in the brain which cause insane behaviour, and you are the unwilling recipient of the proof. I'm sorry. I think a nice visit to your solicitor might provide the reality check/bucket of cold water in ... (read in full...)
Scared my boyfriend's parents won't me because of my parents divorce!
Q. My bf of 3 years had decided to tell his parents about me and he plans to introduce me to his family. He has already told them about me and my family situation. My parents are divorced for about 3 years now and that is a problem for his parents. ...
A. 17 July 2011: Is this a cross-cultural relationship? Is he Asian (Indian subcontinent) or MidEastern? Because if he hasn't told his parents about you for three years, and will let them dictate his choice of a wife on such a stupid criterion such as wheter her ... (read in full...)
I can't stand the sight of my husband and I hate feeling this way!
Q. I can't stand the sight of my husband. I dread his return from work every day. Almost everything about him annoys me. His facial expressions, the way he stands, the topics he talks about... My husband is a really good man! He is very loyal and if he ...
A. 17 July 2011: Go to your doctor immediately and tell him or her all of this. Your age bracket may be affecting your feelings due to hormonal shifts and suchlike. You owe it to yourselves as a couple to work things out, and if the cause is physical that will make ... (read in full...)
She believes rules don't apply to her because she is beautiful!!
Q. i was interested in a girl I met in the metro who is a model. she's not famous or anything but makes a living doing modeling...of course she is drop dead gorgeous. but she seemed approachable. so i got to talking with her. we went on a few dates a...
A. 15 July 2011: Remember that while an artist's talent may increase with time, time always defeats looks, both in women and men, so her analogy is flawed. Anyway, she'll always be driven by money rather than love, so anyone with more money than you can have her. ... (read in full...)
Torn between my boyfriend and a new guy
Q. i have caused a huge mess and i know i deserve every last bit of what i've caused but please, i need some help. i was with someone who was good to me for a couple of years now. i know how much he loves me. he loves me more than anything in the ...
A. 15 July 2011: My answer's short and perhaps not so sweet: If you are genuinely torn between two guys, neither one is the right man for you otherwise choosing between the two would be easier. With that in mind, it might be best for all concerned, and most ethical, ... (read in full...)
A boyfriend who breaks plans and thinks I should be more flexible and "mature" about our separate lives.
Q. My boyfriend has broken plans with me two nights in a row after a show/performance he recently had. Everything was going quite well up til then. I kindly expressed to him some discomfort with him never introducing me as his girlfriend, even though ...
A. 15 July 2011: I cannot call this advice, but it might be helpful as an explanation. I know through over 30 years experience (with union card)in the profession how difficult being an actor is. Performing may look easy but it isn't. Medical experiments have ... (read in full...)
My online relationship has fallen to pieces, what now?
Q. I'm not sure where to start. I wrote on here a week or two ago asking if people thought they could fall online. I don't question my feelings, but I have had to end things with my 'online love' because his true colours have started to show. Well the...
A. 14 July 2011: It's always sad when a relationship takes an unexpected turn for the worse, and regrettably 'Learning Experiences' can hurt sometimes. But at least in this case the pain was only of the emotional variety; luckily you only experienced 'his very dark ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: This immature puritanical person does not deserve your company or further consideration. Let him find someone as strait-laced and censorious as he is, while you find a decent fellow who you can have fun with... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl to have sex with me in high school?
Q. first of all i mean no disrespect to any one who may read this so please do not take me as some horny teenager. to get down do it. this is my last year of high school and most of my friends by now have had sex all of them but me. and you want to ...
A. 13 July 2011: (1)Whatever your male friends say, a lot of them haven't had sex yet. Or been even kissed. When guys talk about their wild sexual experiences with hot cheerleaders, lonely housewives, various strippers, and That Blonde Babe In Chemistry Class the ... (read in full...)
How should I go about giving him my number? I don't want to seem desperate!
Q. How should I go about doing this? i really like him:)? Am new at my workplace and there's this gorgeous guy there really nice. Friendly and very helpful. He talks me and flirts with me but he doesn't do that with other girls there Is j...
A. 12 July 2011: It might be easier to chat to him just before lunch asking if he knows any good restaurants, or mention a good one nearby that you've heard of so that it's natural progression for the two of you to eat there together before returning to work for the ... (read in full...)
Reconnected, but rekindled?
Q. When I was in college I had a crush on a girl that I was real good friends with. I felt I wasn't good enough for her so I never pursued a relationship. As soon as we parted ways after college I lost contact with her. Now its 16 years later and I ...
A. 12 July 2011: It's never too late. You're both single and both admit the attraction. Go on, be impulsive and throw the dice.... (read in full...)
Why do my sexual feelings subside?
Q. I masturbate when I'm bored sometimes, I find it relaxing. When I get to an extreme point and I cum, I then have no feeling for sex or anything dealing with sex, you know how some people go for round 2. My sexual feeling goes away right after I've ...
A. 12 July 2011: Afte eating you don't feel hungry. Sex is just another natural appetite, and having quenched desire for a bit, you move on to to other things in your daily life until you feel horny again. As you grow older it's very likely that you may find various ... (read in full...)
Could this method make me seem like a virgin again?
Q. hi everyone i need to no if any wome had used alum/salts to make your vigina tight like a virgin? you see i had sex about too year ago and i havent had sex since ,i know my hyem is gone cause i bled when i slepth with my ex but im due to marry in...
A. 11 July 2011: Your hymen or lack thereof is no-one's business but your own. Your sexual past is no-one's business but your own. If you are being forced though fear or emotional blackmail into a marriage which you do not want and fear that you will be hurt by your ... (read in full...)
I am married but this other woman will not leave me alone!! Help!
Q. Hi, I'm 35 and married. In March this year, I started flirting with my female colleague. After few weeks, we realised that we both had a lot of things in common and we're sexually attracted to each other. She told me that she wanted commitment, so I ...
A. 8 July 2011: You cannot do anything about the birds tht fly overhead, but you can stop them from staying on your roof for any length of time. This seems to be what you are doing. I think some of the others in this column are beeing too harsh on you. Everyone's ... (read in full...)
Beautiful woman extremely friendly to me at first meeting. Red flag?
Q. Right, so my mate and i were at a pub couple of nights go, and im sitting at a table, and i notice a drop dead gorgeous woman sitting with a friend. Friend goes up to go the ladies room, so gorgeous lady is sitting alone. I whisper to my mate to ...
A. 8 July 2011: Very good looking men have more opportunities to be unfaithful. By the time a woman's reached her mid-to-late 20s, and been cheated on by a few guys, she may well have the sense to overlook the superficial and allow her intuition to tell her if a ... (read in full...)
How to make new friends and navigate the racial issue in my new school?
Q. How do I meet new friends in my new school? Next year I am going to be in a new sixth form in the UK and it i completely different compared with my old school even though it is only 10 mins walk away. I will be a boarder in there which means I ...
A. 7 July 2011: Years ago a Canadian born fellow of Chinese extraction with whom I was friends in school told me that some of the Chinese born students were calling him 'Banana', which meant he was yellow on the outside and white on the inside. It seems that ... (read in full...)
I love her but she has a boyfriend, what do I do?
Q. VERY strange situation, I have asked numerous people for advice and they are all just as baffled as I am. So at my job, there is a girl who has been coming in for about 2 years now. We began talking a little over a year ago, exchanged numbers and ...
A. 3 July 2011: Your present behaviour is somewhat masochistic. When I was in my early 20s I worked at a yacht club, and I'm going to be honest here, giving you the same rather ugly advice an older, very sophisticated man gave me when he saw how badly I was ... (read in full...)
Any advice for talking/dancing with girls?
Q. I've recently turned 18 so I've been going out clubbing and to pubs more often. I'm single, and I see a lot of girls there that I am far too shy to talk to! I have REALLY low confidence and I think I'm too ugly for anyone to notice me. Plus, the ...
A. 1 July 2011: Secretly a lot of girls all feel that way about themselves too, with the added problem of being convinced they're too fat. I can guarantee you're not circus fresk material either. Just smile, ask, and take rejection well, because sometimes that will ... (read in full...)
Dignified but exciting sex positions?
Q. What kind of different sexual positions are dignified but also exciting? I am thirty-one and I have a girlfriend but it is a bit boring in bed. All we do is woman-on-top, missionary, and she gives me blowjobs. What are some exciting positio...
A. 28 June 2011: Sex undignified? You bet it is!! I am inclined to recommend any bizarre position your crazed minds can think of, but make sure you are both wearing nothing but impeccably knotted neckties and office-type shoes while indulging. Be realistic- ... (read in full...)
This co-worker wants a relationship with me and will not leave me alone!
Q. Please Help Me! I'm trying to break off a relationship with this man. I have known him for 2 years and he seemed like a nice guy. He is 56 and I'm 28. I have a new fiance and the 56 yr old is married. My fiance cheated on me and I wanted to ...
A. 27 June 2011: Show the texts to your supervisor at work and get HR involved. And call his bluff about speaking to his wife.... (read in full...)
Why am I always asked for sex? I'm not gorgeous!
Q. Ok I'm almost 19 and I don't need someone but something has been bugging me.First of all I'm not attractive especially compared to my friends. When I used to hang out with guys I was like one of them. Seriously, they seemed to think I was one of ...
A. 26 June 2011: Boyband members are carefully chosen to look young and androgynous and years are knocked off their 'stage ages' to appeal to the prepubescent/barely adolescent girls whom the record producers are targeting ss a fanbase. That way there's nothing too ... (read in full...)
My 20 year old boyfriend can only ejaculate once a day. Normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now, throughout these 2 years he has only been able to ejaculate once a day. Sometimes if we've had sex multiple days in a row he needs a break, and can't even get hard, in fact sometimes I will just ...
A. 26 June 2011: At 20 I had to do a lot of talking very sternly to My More Powerful Brain and thinking about highly revolting things like sewage vats and 90 year old having oral sex to get the damn thing to behave. So yes, I do think that at his age this is ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 26 June 2011: To wiseoldman: Perhaps you can elaborate with some rationale, otherwise what you say is no more than some unsupported generalization. I live in one if the wealthiest nations in the world yet I still have my views.
Ok, I'll elaborate. I specific... (read in full...)
I've made a mess. How do I tell my best friend I had sex with her boyfriend?
Q. I have been dating this guy for two years. (Lets call him, Kyle.) And everything was perfect. He would send me flowers just because... not many guys do that! He also is very big on his religion and respects me. Kyle is sweet and amazing. All my ...
A. 26 June 2011: Don't say a word. And never admit it even you have to give a performance worthy of winning an Oscar. You wouldn't have done the nasty if you were sober, and hadn't needed reassurance that you ARE attractive because your boyfriend of two years won't ... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: Please take note that the only cultures (as opposed to individual people) that value virginity are those that tend to be uneducated and impoverished. ... (read in full...)
Struggling with pornography addiction, can you suggest a solution?
Q. I've come here a few times.. usually to answer questions but I've asked a few as well. I've found this to be a very caring site and I trust the advice here. I've had a fairly long-term struggle with pornography throughout my life. Ever since an ol...
A. 24 June 2011: If you're logging onto a particular site to feed a specific preference, as long as it involves consenting adults and can be done without harming anyone permanently, I suggest you share your prefence with your girlfriend. To give a purposely ... (read in full...)
I want to build muscle but everyone will make fun of me!
Q. I'm embarrassed even to ask this. I want to work out and build some muscle (I'm kinda weedy). But if I buy some weights and stuff for home I know family and mates will think its funny cos I'm the lanky one and the last person they would expect to ...
A. 22 June 2011: They'll only hate you if you succeed. Good luck and keep at it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is loyal, but looks at porn?
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend looks at pornography through an accidental slip on his part. He is not aware that I know. We were friends when we lived in the same city, and become a couple after he moved away.Because of the distance, we hav...
A. 21 June 2011: Men don't understand why women window shop for shoes. Women don't understand why men look at porn. Both are meaningless pastimes.... (read in full...)
How can she say she likes me when she doesn't want to talk to me outside of the site?
Q. I started talking to this girl for fun on a lesbian chat/non dating site. She would flirt and talk with me and we'd set up times to 'meet' everyday. She told me she liked me. However, she said she wanted to take things slow. I believe from wha...
A. 19 June 2011: Because she's actually male? A friend of mine caught her own husband in one when she looked over his shoulder, the floor of their computer room being heavily carpeted so he didn't hear her enter. Unfortunately lots of people in lesbian chatrooms are ... (read in full...)
Why wont my wife talk about her sexual past?
Q. what could the reason be for my wife not want to talk about her sexual past before we got married ? she shuts the subject down cold, the thing that bothers me is the one thing she said- i don,t remember how many there was, there was not that many. ...
A. 17 June 2011: The reason she won't ask about it is because it's none of your damn' business. You're in your 50s- what is this, high school where you worry about someone's 'reputation'? If you want to be with her, what happened or didn't happen with other men ... (read in full...)
Anybody ever cured a sexual fetish/obsession?
Q. Has somebody ever cured an obsession? I'm talking about a sexual obsession here. Before I could understand what sex really meant, I was obsessed about this one body part. Now I'm not gonna say which part because I want the answers to be in...
A. 15 June 2011: Believe me when I say that (as an example) for every man wondering why he is such a pervert because he secretly likes to rub broccoli on a woman's elbow and is desperately hoping for a 'cure', there's a woman standing in the vegetable section of a ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend spanking me... but as a feminist it makes me feel degraded!
Q. I've recently discovered a real turn on for me but the feminist inside me weeps.. I've discovered I really love my boyfriend spanking me. Hard. Just thinking about it makes me want him to do it again. Hes only done it twice but I feel as though I ...
A. 15 June 2011: Never let ANYONE tell you what you should or shouldn't do in the bedroom, as long as both (or all!) people involved consent and are enjoying themelves. ... (read in full...)
Am I being a pest to my married friend?
Q. I am reasonably friendly with a female work colleague and we do tend to get on well and have good conversations, saying hello and smiling at each other at work, and occasionally having the odd short discussion. She always smiles when we do run i...
A. 15 June 2011: Looks like slowly creeping infatuation, if it's reached a point where you're so worried about it. If married or otherwise involved, put more emotional energy into your own relationship, if not, put ALL your energy into finding someone for yourself. ... (read in full...)
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