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writes:When I was in college I had a crush on a girl that I was real good friends with. I felt I wasn't good enough for her so I never pursued a relationship. As soon as we parted ways after college I lost contact with her. Now its 16 years later and I found her and find out she had a crush on me to. I have told her that I regret not asking her out and if given a second chance I wouldn't make that mistake again. My question is... do "crushes" last this long to mean nothing? Do I have a chance to rekindle that crush within her? Do I just chalk it up to the past, move on and let go? Just so there is no question, we are both currently single but living 4 states away from each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): OP Here,
Thank you all for the encouraging words. As it has turned out I took everyone's advice "went out on a limb" and spilled my feelings out to her, and as it turns out they were returned with a resounding echo :o) We are both going to give this "a go" and see where it leads us. There are hurtles for both of us but neither of us are willing to deny the feelings we still have for eachother. She will coming to visit me in September, so wish us luck! :o)
Thank you all!
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reader, Fate100percent  +, writes (12 July 2011):
I'm in uk, so not sure how far 4 states away are! lol.
But seriously, what have you got to lose? Ask her out on a date, you are both single after all. If nothing romantic comes from it, you might just get a good friend anyway! So a win win situation?
(by the way, I know a couple who were engaged as youngster, both married someone else, both divorced and met up again, and got married! So yeah, crushes at a young age, can be the real deal in the end :-) x
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reader, luckycloud  +, writes (12 July 2011):
I think you never know if you never try :)
so why dont you just visit her, and hang out as old friends first :) to see how each of you has changed :)
then ... what will be will be :)
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (12 July 2011):
It's never too late. You're both single and both admit the attraction. Go on, be impulsive and throw the dice.
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